Dealing With Rude People At The Grocery Store

[Vicki baker]

I have just returned from one of the most crowded, filled with rude people , places here in TV. All I wanted to do was to get my groceries and get out of there. Men and women stopping their carts anywhere to ck their lists, answer their cell phones, talk to a friend without regards to the flow of people trying to move up and down the aisles. The word "excuse me" was barely used, people just barged thru as if they were the only ones in the store. Please be aware of your surroundings, smile and do say, Excuse me to those around you. AND it's not even winter yet!!!! :boxing2:

[JCMSr]

Sounds like a typical trip to the grocery store on any weekend. If I could, I would only go grocery shopping between the hours of 1:00 am and 5:00 am where hopefully I would be the only idiot there!

[gerryann]

I have just returned from one of the most crowded, filled with rude people , places here in TV. All I wanted to do was to get my groceries and get out of there. Men and women stopping their carts anywhere to ck their lists, answer their cell phones, talk to a friend without regards to the flow of people trying to move up and down the aisles. The word "excuse me" was barely used, people just barged thru as if they were the only ones in the store. Please be aware of your surroundings, smile and do say, Excuse me to those around you. AND it's not even winter yet!!!! :boxing2:

I know....it's disturbing! Just keep a smile, says excuse me....and maybe others will learn by example.....probably not, but maybe......lots of old, cranky folks. Yes, I'm old; but I sure make a point of not being a cranky one.

[Aandjmassage]

We just came from Publix in Colony Plaza not that bad. Just slow checkout line.

[JoMar]

So....some parts of the Friendliest Hometown are less friendly than others......:)

[cattywampus]

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Do NOT tell anyone ....

The Publix NORTH of Hospital on US 441 / 27 is pleasant,
staff is helpful and cheerful ,never crowed and always well stocked.

I live in Villages 6 1/2 miles from this Publix. Worth the drive.

It is between the Koyame Restaurant and Ollie's Frozen Custard.

I live 2 1/2 miles from Colony Publix.
Got tired of the pushy, me, me, me customers at the Publix in Colony.

[DougB]

I have just returned from one of the most crowded, filled with rude people , places here in TV. All I wanted to do was to get my groceries and get out of there. Men and women stopping their carts anywhere to ck their lists, answer their cell phones, talk to a friend without regards to the flow of people trying to move up and down the aisles. The word "excuse me" was barely used, people just barged thru as if they were the only ones in the store. Please be aware of your surroundings, smile and do say, Excuse me to those around you. AND it's not even winter yet!!!! :boxing2:

Are we suppose to guess where this was? What do we win?

[Reezie]

It was probably Walmart. I go very early or very late. NEVER on the weekend.

[Halibut]

Sorry for the aggravation, Vicki.

The Publix NORTH of Hospital on US 441 / 27 is pleasant,
staff is helpful and cheerful ,never crowed and always well stocked.

I'm always half afraid the Publix at Spanish Plaines/Bella Cruz will close because it's never that crowded. Parking lot panhandlers aside, it's not unpleasant to shop there. I avoid going to the one at Spanish Springs/Bichara. Just navigating the parking lot is headache.

But then, I do sometimes slow down or stop walking while shopping to look at my list. I typically don't have a cart and try to stay off to the side of the aisles, but grocery shopping isn't a sprint for me. So basically -- I dislike slow people except when I'm one of them, then they're pretty great.

[TNLAKEPANDA]

Shop after 9pm when most of TV is getting ready for bed.

[Madelaine Amee]

Shop after 9pm when most of TV is getting ready for bed.

..... or first thing in the morning when the shelves are freshly stocked and only early birds are up and about.

[billethkid]

I have found the best time to go to any store types in TV if avoiding a crowd is of primary concern....between the hours of 7 PM and 9 PM....most have had their geritol, and dinner and are snoozing in front of the television.

I, as usual, do not accept what is being presented is a general condition. Yes there are peole who shop as presented in their own little world. But most of the other 90% of us do it right. These type of posts are usually done after one's hot button has been tripped for what ever reason, which DOES NOT repesent a general condition.

So lets hear it for the 90% of us who enjoy our fellow man/woman!

[dbussone]

I have found the best time to go to any store types in TV if avoiding a crowd is of primary concern....between the hours of 7 PM and 9 PM....most have had their geritol, and dinner and are snoozing in front of the television.

I, as usual, do not accept what is being presented is a general condition. Yes there are peole who shop as presented in their own little world. But most of the other 90% of us do it right. These type of posts are usually done after one's hot button has been tripped for what ever reason, which DOES NOT repesent a general condition.

So lets hear it for the 90% of us who enjoy our fellow man/woman!


Well said Billie.

[OBXNana]

The same thing happens in in Central PA and is not isolated to The Villages. I'm in the grocery store by 7:00 am and have the store to myself. It's wonderful!

[njbchbum]

So....some parts of the Friendliest Hometown are less friendly than others......:)

Not at all! Some of those who shop in The Villages are NOT Villages residents and they just might bring their lack of friendliness with them when they shop here!

[asianthree]

Shop very late, or when they open

[PennBF]

This is really wonderful. It means everything is so good that complaining about the people in a grocery store is the major problem. There are people out there with serious health problems or family problems (addictions, etc) or very stressful problems and therefore it is wonderful if the worst problem a person has is a line in a grocery store, or people in the isles who have stopped to read a list. We should count our blessing when that is as bad as it gets. Maybe taking a deep breath and relaxing and just enjoying life is the way to go. I only hope I ams so lucky that this is my worst nighmare. I think I can handle it and stop and smell the roses. :coolsmiley:

[CFrance]

Sorry for the aggravation, Vicki.



I'm always half afraid the Publix at Spanish Plaines/Bella Cruz will close because it's never that crowded. Parking lot panhandlers aside, it's not unpleasant to shop there. I avoid going to the one at Spanish Springs/Bichara. Just navigating the parking lot is headache.

But then, I do sometimes slow down or stop walking while shopping to look at my list. I typically don't have a cart and try to stay off to the side of the aisles, but grocery shopping isn't a sprint for me. So basically -- I dislike slow people except when I'm one of them, then they're pretty great.
Halibut, is your Publix the same one that Cattywampus likes?

[sunnyatlast]

So....some parts of the Friendliest Hometown are less friendly than others......:)

Some persons, not parts of TV.

I see the same thing when we grocery shop up north. People of any age are fit to be tied over the creeping price increases and smaller amounts of food for the increased price.

[MSGirl]

Shop after 9pm when most of TV is getting ready for bed.

Tried that! The grocery stores close at 9 pm!

[Medtrans]

Look at it from this perspective, my husband and I wish we were down there so if the grocery store is busy so be it. We have our home down there but are just waiting for the retirement date. I would gladly stand in line or put up with the crowds to just be down there. Some things are the same no matter where you live such as the OP describes.

[Sable99]

It happens here in Michigan too. It doesn't matter what time of the day it is. So, its not just TV.

[dewilson58]

I have just returned from one of the most crowded, filled with rude people , places here in TV. All I wanted to do was to get my groceries and get out of there. Men and women stopping their carts anywhere to ck their lists, answer their cell phones, talk to a friend without regards to the flow of people trying to move up and down the aisles. The word "excuse me" was barely used, people just barged thru as if they were the only ones in the store. Please be aware of your surroundings, smile and do say, Excuse me to those around you. AND it's not even winter yet!!!! :boxing2:

Not even winter yet. Thank you for not saying anything bad about snowbirds......well almost.

[JoMar]

When you get south of 466A there will be two Publix and a Winn Dixie. Not sure how much that will help with attitude but could help congestion (maybe). That is until the birds show up.

[mtdjed]

C'mon folks. I feel like I am hearing cantankerous old people complain about every day life. Put a smile on your face and the experience will improve. Life here is a joy. If you can't handle a grocery store here at this time, things will only get worse.

There will always be rude people, but do not let that destroy the blessing that you have to enjoy the rest. I have seldom found a person who does not respond well to a smile.

[Miles42]

Stay away on the weekends. I have learned that rather quickly. It is like the vultures are out and there is little food left. LOL

[Barefoot]

I, as usual, do not accept what is being presented is a general condition. Yes there are peole who shop as presented in their own little world. But most of the other 90% of us do it right. These type of posts are usually done after one's hot button has been tripped for what ever reason, which DOES NOT repesent a general condition. So lets hear it for the 90% of us who enjoy our fellow man/woman!

:agree: I think it's a joy to shop in The Villages. People who bag groceries at Publix offer to take your groceries to the car. We get to walk out to moderate temperatures all winter long instead of snow and ice. Prices are much lower than back home. It's all good.

[wendyquat]

I have just returned from one of the most crowded, filled with rude people , places here in TV. All I wanted to do was to get my groceries and get out of there. Men and women stopping their carts anywhere to ck their lists, answer their cell phones, talk to a friend without regards to the flow of people trying to move up and down the aisles. The word "excuse me" was barely used, people just barged thru as if they were the only ones in the store. Please be aware of your surroundings, smile and do say, Excuse me to those around you. AND it's not even winter yet!!!! :boxing2:

Sounds like we were at Colony Publix at the same time and I totally agree with you! I'm not accustomed to this behavior and wonder where it originates. Certainly not in any city in the South where I've lived! And I can almost tell you for sure that over 90% of the shoppers were indeed villagers! My poor hubby, who rarely frequents any grocery store, was almost mowed over a couple of times. At least if I ever want to knock him off, I know where to take him! :cus:

[Patty55]

I don't think they are rude, more like self-absorbed. IMO, it's a result of the sales office filling their heads with how special they are.

Just take a deep breath, mentally repeat "They are what they are, they do what they do", grab a half dozen jars of capers and call it a day.

[Ninanina]

It happens here in Michigan too. It doesn't matter what time of the day it is. So, its not just TV.

It happens here in Texas too! No, it is not just TV.

[mixsonci]

So....some parts of the Friendliest Hometown are less friendly than others......:)

I think this happens everywhere when grocery stores are busy.

[Deseylou]

We were at TJ MAX today.
A lady was blocking the exit of the check-out lane because she had stopped to text

[Nosmo12]

The worst thing about grocery stores are the inconsiderate people who leave their carts anywhere in the lot. They have those stations for a reason. Nothing worse than watching a perfectly capable human just walk away with cart shoved between two vehicles. Pet Peeve of Mine

[missypie]

The worst thing about grocery stores are the inconsiderate people who leave their carts anywhere in the lot. They have those stations for a reason. Nothing worse than watching a perfectly capable human just walk away with cart shoved between two vehicles. Pet Peeve of Mine

One time I was loading the groceries into the back of my car and I pulled a muscle in my back. I left the cart between 2 cars and was thankful that I could get into my car to drive home. Five minutes before I was in perfect condition, then ......so you could have been very annoyed with me I guess.

[travelguy]

Shop after 9pm when most of TV is getting ready for bed.

publix closes at 9 pm. and most of the delis that are located in stores that stay open are closed by then.
and let's not forget to include in the rude group those that love the sample meals at publix and insist on double portions as if publix is there to provide a free meal.
:icon_hungry:

[bluedog103]

:agree: I think it's a joy to shop in The Villages. People who bag groceries at Publix offer to take your groceries to the car. We get to walk out to moderate temperatures all winter long instead of snow and ice. Prices are much lower than back home. It's all good.
I agree with everything you say, except the prices. Food prices are generally lower in NY than in TV.

[graciegirl]

I don't think they are rude, more like self-absorbed. IMO, it's a result of the sales office filling their heads with how special they are.

Just take a deep breath, mentally repeat "They are what they are, they do what they do", grab a half dozen jars of capers and call it a day.


I am tired of not meeting you in person. You are so funny and so quick and so ........................ Patty55, You are responsible for at least 30 personal coffee spits. There is probably not a dry computer in The Villages.

I am NEVER gonna get on your bad side if I can keep from it.....lol...

[Patty55]

The worst thing about grocery stores are the inconsiderate people who leave their carts anywhere in the lot. They have those stations for a reason. Nothing worse than watching a perfectly capable human just walk away with cart shoved between two vehicles. Pet Peeve of Mine

That would be me. I leave them for the people who do such things.

[NYGUY]

I was told that the new Publix on Rt44 will be opening October 2nd. That should provide some relief for the Colony Publix:a040:

[JCMSr]

The worst thing about grocery stores are the inconsiderate people who leave their carts anywhere in the lot. They have those stations for a reason. Nothing worse than watching a perfectly capable human just walk away with cart shoved between two vehicles. Pet Peeve of Mine

And you can rest assured that these same people would be the first to complain to the store manager in the event that a runaway cart happened to damage their car/cart or, heaven forbid, the cart happened to be abandoned in the last parking space closest to the entrance forcing them to walk an extra step or two.

[buzzy]

publix closes at 9 pm. and most of the delis that are located in stores that stay open are closed by then.
and let's not forget to include in the rude group those that love the sample meals at publix and insist on double portions as if publix is there to provide a free meal.
:icon_hungry:

Yeah, they should go over to Sam's Club for that.

[mixsonci]

The worst thing about grocery stores are the inconsiderate people who leave their carts anywhere in the lot. They have those stations for a reason. Nothing worse than watching a perfectly capable human just walk away with cart shoved between two vehicles. Pet Peeve of Mine
Agee with you totally, it really gets me mad when people do this.

[cquick]

I think we need to give grocery shoppers a break. We are all guilty of parking our cart and then standing in front of the shelves to look for something. And when you are thinking of your list it is easy to get distracted.

A long time ago waaaay back when my kids were small there was a magazine article about how grocery shopping can be one of the most stressful things a person does. And this was when I got to go grocery shopping on Saturday night because I could go by myself without children or husband! Big Saturday night date night! :icon_wink:

[ROCKETMAN]

I have worked at the publix since it opened in colony and have been able to seperate the just plain rude people from people just having a bad time, illness, financial problems, whatever. The worst are people who come up to me talking on a cell phone and i have to figure out if they are talking to me or the person on the cell phone. Then there are the people who almost push me out the way when i am stocking something they wish to buy. I can usually anticipate people standing behind me waiting and i just get out the way. New store opens thursday oct 2nd. That should help to slow down the colony store until fruitland park chips in.

[njbchbum]

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Would love to know how you can do that. "almost" and "90%" ?

[Penguin]

Sounds like a typical trip to the grocery store on any weekend. If I could, I would only go grocery shopping between the hours of 1:00 am and 5:00 am where hopefully I would be the only idiot there!

I will go with you.

[Taltarzac725]

I have worked at the publix since it opened in colony and have been able to seperate the just plain rude people from people just having a bad time, illness, financial problems, whatever. The worst are people who come up to me talking on a cell phone and i have to figure out if they are talking to me or the person on the cell phone. Then there are the people who almost push me out the way when i am stocking something they wish to buy. I can usually anticipate people standing behind me waiting and i just get out the way. New store opens thursday oct 2nd. That should help to slow down the colony store until fruitland park chips in.

I have found the employees at the Publixes I frequent here in the Villages usually very friendly. I only get to the Colony one once a month or so. Good to hear from a Publix Villages employee.

[Warren Kiefer]

i have just returned from one of the most crowded, filled with rude people , places here in tv. All i wanted to do was to get my groceries and get out of there. Men and women stopping their carts anywhere to ck their lists, answer their cell phones, talk to a friend without regards to the flow of people trying to move up and down the aisles. The word "excuse me" was barely used, people just barged thru as if they were the only ones in the store. Please be aware of your surroundings, smile and do say, excuse me to those around you. And it's not even winter yet!!!! :boxing2:

why do you post a complaint like this and keep the offending store a secret? We actually have no idea to what your complaint refers.

[tomwed]

Have you ever tried Aldis or Trader Joe's elsewhere? I mention Trader Joe's because both stores are owned by the same German company. For now, there is not a local Trader Joe's.

I like the prices, the imported and domestic food, the very fast check-out service, returning carts for a quarter, fresh vegetables and fruit, and bagging my own. In the last year, I can't recall any rude incidents.

I used to think it was a “Dollar Store” for food so I never tried it. I heard a TED talk entitled How to Make Choosing Easier (https://www.ted.com/talks/sheena_iyengar_choosing_what_to_choose) that changed my mind.

[Barefoot]

The worst thing about grocery stores are the inconsiderate people who leave their carts anywhere in the lot. They have those stations for a reason. Nothing worse than watching a perfectly capable human just walk away with cart shoved between two vehicles.
If I see an abandoned grocery cart in a parking lot, I just walk it into the store because I'm going there anyway.

[rjm1cc]

Sounds like checking you list and talking to friends would be normal. It does back up a little when you are comparing prices. Again you should expect this.

[Villages PL]

Why wouldn't Villagers sometimes be rude? They come from everywhere in the U.S. and foreign countries. What would make the rude ones suddenly not be rude when they move here?

Personally, I don't recall anyone being purposely rude. I shop at Aldi's.

Here's something to think about: Early stage of dementia: One out of eight people over the age of 65 has Alzheimer's. By age 85, fifty percent have Alzheimer's.

[patfla06]

The Colony Publix is just crazy when busy.
I cannot wait until the new Publix on 44 opens.

What I think the poster of this thread is saying is
why are SOME people so rude? I think it begins with a
sense of entitlement. They seem to be in their own
little world and don't seem concerned with anyone
around them.

Like one poster said, we have a percentage of
Those people like anywhere else. Thank goodness
they seem to be the minority.

[redwitch]

If I'm in a hurry and only have a little to buy, I'll use a hand basket. Makes it so much easier to get through the aisles. If rushed but need to buy a lot, I grab a hand basket and put it in my cart. When I see an aisle is crowded, I carefully park my cart out of the way and walk the aisle with the basket or just carry the stuff.

If I'm not in a hurry, I honestly don't mind waiting for someone to notice that they're blocking my path. I have always found folks to be apologetic when this happens and I always respond with a smile and a "no problem." It just makes a miserable experience (I truly loathe shopping) a little more bearable.

[Patty55]

I think part of the problem is that we all define "rude" differently. A lot of what you all seem to define as "rude" I would define as "none of my business and not my problem."

[graciegirl]

I think part of the problem is that we all define "rude" differently. A lot of what you all seem to define as "rude" I would define as "none of my business and not my problem."


AND it could mean they think they are still "back home" and it isn't this crowded and we think it is the non busy season until we remember..we can't just stand there and look for the Bush's Vegetarian beans, just grab the ones with bacon and GO.

[slipcovers]

Why wouldn't Villagers sometimes be rude? They come from everywhere in the U.S. and foreign countries. What would make the rude ones suddenly not be rude when they move here?

Personally, I don't recall anyone being purposely rude. I shop at Aldi's.

Here's something to think about: Early stage of dementia: One out of eight people over the age of 65 has Alzheimer's. By age 85, fifty percent have Alzheimer's.

Not in India...only 1% of the population over 65 has dementia or alzheimers. Their diet has a lot of turmeric, good for brain function. Don't mean to go off topic.

[Taltarzac725]

Not in India...only 1% of the population over 65 has dementia or alzheimers. Their diet has a lot of turmeric, good for brain function. Don't mean to go off topic.

Turmeric (http://www.whfoods.com/genpage.php?tname=foodspice&dbid=78)

Well, we definitely need more Indian food in the Villages.

[Wandatime]

I love grocery shopping in The Villages (Winn Dixie Pinellas)! They have things I only dream about back in Podunk - like capers.

[kstew43]

Not at all! Some of those who shop in The Villages are NOT Villages residents and they just might bring their lack of friendliness with them when they shop here!

good try......:a040: but not likely.....

[kstew43]

what ever happened to patience.....

[DruannB]

I think it's either nap time or yoga time for some of you. Nameste, y'all.

[Average Guy]

Maybe an air horn is the solution for shoppers who are irritated with others who block their way in the aisles.

That should get their attention.

[Vicki.baker@aol.com]

The Colony Publix is just crazy when busy.
I cannot wait until the new Publix on 44 opens.

What I think the poster of this thread is saying is
why are SOME people so rude? I think it begins with a
sense of entitlement. They seem to be in their own
little world and don't seem concerned with anyone
around them.

Like one poster said, we have a percentage of
Those people like anywhere else. Thank goodness
they seem to be the minority.

Thank you for getting what I was trying to say!! It doesn't matter WHERE I shopped, or WHAT TIME OF DAY I shopped, I too shop and check my list.....however, I try to be mindful of those around me and move to one side, I say Excuse me, and have smiled till my jaws hurt.......however, some people are just clueless and need to be reminded that we are all there trying to accomplish the same thing with the least amount of stress. Alittle kindness and being aware of others would just go a long way.

[Patty55]

I love grocery shopping in The Villages (Winn Dixie Pinellas)! They have things I only dream about back in Podunk - like capers.

Don't count on there being capers, not if I've been there.:evil6:

[NoMoSno]

A lot of the problem is retailers that insist on clogging the isles with displays, that take up passing lanes. :cus:

[njbchbum]

good try......:a040: but not likely.....

Why not?

[JCMSr]

I have no problem with anyone taking the time to comparison shop prices especially since that is how my wife trained me. What gets me irritated is the people who park their cart on one side of the isle while they are checking out the products on the opposite side of the isle thereby blocking the entire isle where nobody can get through. Sometimes a polite "excuse me" will cause them to move but you are just as likely to get "the death stare" for disturbing their concentration. I always try to be considerate and keep the cart as far to the side as possible and do my shopping either in front or behind the cart thus leaving the other side clear for anyone wishing to pick and zip. Visits with your neighbors should be limited to perhaps the deli counter while you are waiting in line to place your order. Catching up with old friends is fine but keep at least one side of the aisle open please! A little consideration can go a long way to preventing a nuclear meltdown on Isle 3.

[SALYBOW]

Shop after 9pm when most of TV is getting ready for bed.

Publix closes at 9:00

[wendyquat]

Would love to know how you can do that. "almost" and "90%" ?

The smell!:a040: Not really but you can mostly tell, grey or dyed hair, no kids, Botox, lost in the store, , Yada, Yada, Yada!:spoken: