He said; She said

[memason]

Did you ever notice, that when the husband talks about their friends, they are called Tom & Sue or Jerry & Kathy? ..and when the wife talks about the same couples, it's Sue & Tom and Kathy & Jerry ???

If our friends, who share an email address, send an email, I can tell who typed the email by how the names are sequenced....

Is it just me ???

[cquick]

interesting thought.....in our family, it seems to be mixed, one couple we call Steve and Sue and another we call Cathy and Mike. And we both seem to call them the same thing.

[marianne237]

Have you noticed when guys are talking they refer to their spouse as "the wife" instead of by actual name?

[Loudoll]

I read somewhere that family will say the name of the blood relative first in a couple and I've noticed that I do that.

[tedquick]

Have you noticed when guys are talking they refer to their spouse as "the wife" instead of by actual name?

If the party I'm speaking to does not know my wife or know her well, I refer to her as "my bride".

[perrjojo]

Miss Manners says the proper way to sign correspondence is to sign the other persons name first and then yours. Can't address why we say names the way we do. I guess we just say the name that is most significant to us first.

[rubicon]

I am an equal opportunity name caller. When speaking about a couple I say "the smiths", "the Jones" When it comes to my wife I have different names for her depending on...for instance if she is in an investigative state of mind I call her Charlie Chan. If she is attempting to be authoritative I call her boss, Ok boss.

[2BNTV]

Have you noticed when guys are talking they refer to their spouse as "the wife" instead of by actual name?

I hated when my boss referred to "the wife" as he was talking about in inanimate object. I find the term offensive.

It's funny that she became a real person, (Kathy), because he had to consult "the wife", when he wanted to buy some liquor.

I found it very off putting to be called "chief" and "boss", as some people can be bothered to remember someone's name.

BTW - I am single. :smiley:

[Bizdoc]

I have a simple rule - I always list my wife first on everything. Makes her happy and reminds me how important she is in my life.

It does create interesting situations since we have different last names - we were in our 50s when we married and both had professional carriers. Made much more sense to keep our own names.

[Barefoot]

I read somewhere that family will say the name of the blood relative first in a couple and I've noticed that I do that.

I never noticed before, but I do the same thing.
I automatically put the name of the person first that I like or know the best.
Interesting.

[Uptown Girl]

If one of the couple is a blood relative, I usually refer to them first. (when speaking of them to someone)

But sometimes a couple's names, when spoken, flow more smoothly in a certain order- like, Harold & Maude, for example. Or Liz and Dick. Samson and Delilah. "Delilah and Samson" just doesn't trip over the tongue as smoothly.

As far as personal correspondence goes, (sorry, Miss Manners!) I was always taught that the person actually doing the writing put their name before the partner. That way, my words are my own and recognized as such.

On formal correspondence ( concerning both hubby and I) I sign as Mr. and Mrs. - my husband's name first.

When I am being silly, I sign from 'him and me'. Or use something like: Mr. and Mrs. Snorklebutt, Mr. and Mrs. Potato Head….. Goldy and Balthazar…..whatever. :laugh: ( to be clear, those are are not our real names. HA!)

[Loudoll]

If one of the couple is a blood relative, I usually refer to them first.

But sometimes a couple's names, when spoken, flow more smoothly in a certain order- like, Harold & Maude, for example. Or Liz and Dick. Samson and Delilah. "Delilah and Samson" just doesn't trip over the tongue as smoothly.

As far as personal correspondence goes, (sorry, Miss Manners!) I was always taught that the person actually doing the writing put their name before the partner. That way, my words are my own and recognized as such.

On formal correspondence ( concerning both hubby and I) I sign as Mr. and Mrs. - my husband's name first.

When I am being silly, I sign from 'him and me'. Or use something like: Mr. and Mrs. Snorklebutt, Mr. and Mrs. Potato Head….. Goldy and Balthazar…..whatever. :laugh: ( to be clear, those are are not our real names. HA!)

We had friends years ago named Sam and Janet who sent us cards from Sam and Janet Evening

[tedquick]

We had friends years ago named Sam and Janet who sent us cards from Sam and Janet Evening

That is actually very cute~

[Uptown Girl]

We had friends years ago named Sam and Janet who sent us cards from Sam and Janet Evening

Oh- I LIKE THAT! :pepper2:

[Bonanza]

If the party I'm speaking to does not know my wife or know her well, I refer to her as "my bride".

Your "bride?" Kind of silly at our age, particularly when you are speaking to those who don't know her well. Mentioning her name is much more polite and if you think that others don't know you are referring to your wife, you could say, my wife, Mary (or whatever her name is).

If my husband referred to me as his bride, I'd be embarrassed.

[Bonanza]

Did you ever notice, that when the husband talks about their friends, they are called Tom & Sue or Jerry & Kathy? ..and when the wife talks about the same couples, it's Sue & Tom and Kathy & Jerry ???

If our friends, who share an email address, send an email, I can tell who typed the email by how the names are sequenced....

Is it just me ???

Miss Manners says the proper way to sign correspondence is to sign the other persons name first and then yours. Can't address why we say names the way we do. I guess we just say the name that is most significant to us first.

If one of the couple is a blood relative, I usually refer to them first.

But sometimes a couple's names, when spoken, flow more smoothly in a certain order- like, Harold & Maude, for example. Or Liz and Dick. Samson and Delilah. "Delilah and Samson" just doesn't trip over the tongue as smoothly.

As far as personal correspondence goes, (sorry, Miss Manners!) I was always taught that the person actually doing the writing put their name before the partner. That way, my words are my own and recognized as such.

On formal correspondence ( concerning both hubby and I) I sign as Mr. and Mrs. - my husband's name first.

When I am being silly, I sign from 'him and me'. Or use something like: Mr. and Mrs. Snorklebutt, Mr. and Mrs. Potato Head….. Goldy and Balthazar…..whatever. :laugh: ( to be clear, those are are not our real names. HA!)

Proper etiquette sez that if you are writing/signing your name and your spouse's, the spouse's name is always written first.

On anything printed, the woman's name always comes before the man's name.
An example would be a wedding invitation, the announcement of a birth, etc.

The biggest error I see throughout TV are all the name and address signs
on lampposts where the husband's name is printed before the wife's name. Tsk, tsk, it's wrong. Ladies first!

[Uptown Girl]

[QUOTE=Bonanza;961643]
Proper etiquette sez that if you are writing/signing your name and your spouse's, the spouse's name is always written first.

Does that apply if my husband writes a letter from the two of us, in his handwriting…. he is to sign it using my name first??

That may be proper, but it sends a weird vibe. ( in my opinion)

[Uptown Girl]

Your "bride?" Kind of silly at our age, particularly when you are speaking to those who don't know her well. Mentioning her name is much more polite and if you think that others don't know you are referring to your wife, you could say, my wife, Mary (or whatever her name is).

If my husband referred to me as his bride, I'd be embarrassed.

Gosh, I would never consider that silly or embarrassing- at any age. It is used as an expression of affection. I find it most endearing.

[casita37]

I tend to mix it up...whatever is easier to say. Bob and Judy just comes out easier than Judy and Bob. The exception is my daughter and her husband. It would be more euphonious to say his name first, but I always put hers first.

My stepdaughter used to get insulted if her father or I said, or wrote, her husband's name first. She is divorced now, but I think (hope) she has matured beyond that now.

[bkcunningham1]

I read somewhere that family will say the name of the blood relative first in a couple and I've noticed that I do that.

After reading your post I realized I do that also. Interesting.