Friendliest Town Around?

[TerriScott]

The friendliest Town around? Well that is a matter of opinion. We have lived here for a year. We love our home and all the things that go on around The Villages. We have a problem with what people think about our age and pets. I have been told so many times at the pool, "you're not old enough to live here. How did they let you in?" We are 55, and take that as a compliment, but we are old enough to live in this lovely place regardless of other's opinions. Because we look younger, we have to continuously heard unrequested comments and after a while one gets tired of trying to explain.

Some residents go out of their way to make us feel unwelcome. It's not just a few people at the pool everyday but it is the people who live around us too. Our neighbors. Oh what a lovely pleasure that can be!!

When you have a neighbor who doesn't like your dogs they can be unattractive in their opinions and try everyway possible to make your life miserable. You can be reported if the dog gets off leash or just barks too loudly. When company arrives of course the dog barks to let you know someone is at the door. If the dog touches a blade of their grass when you are walking, neighbor's are commenting under their breath--comments that we will just leave unsaid.

Why can't we mind our own business and live in peace with each other? Good grief, we are supposed to be adults not petty children wanting to get our own way because we don't like or are afraid of animals or are totally rude and say things about your age. I actually hear these complaints all the time in the clubs and activities I attend. For the most part people are very social and pleasant to one another here but it only takes one to be the sour grape. People on here say, "don't like it here, well then leave." Well that goes both ways. Now, just how is this the friendliest town around?

[villagetinker]

Terri,

I am sorry that you are having these 'problems". While my wife and I are 65, we both look younger, but I have never encountered what you describe, and according the the Florida requirements for a retirement community, ONLY 80% of the residents must be 65 or older. My hats off to you for being able to retire at 55 and enjoy the lifestyle. I would offer you a house near us (we are cat people), but the last house to my knowledge sold 2 months ago.
I hope that you can come to an understanding with the neighbors, and see if you can come up with a cute come back for "your not old enough" crowd.
This is a great place to live.

[Sandtrap328]

How have you tried to make yourself more welcome? Invite neighbors over for a Christmas party and show them you have Villages spirit!

Organize a neighborhood driveway party or neighborhood golf or dinner group.

Keep your dog on the leash and off their yards.

:shrug:

[Buffalo Jim]

Sorry to learn that you are encountering such a " cold " / antagonistic environment .
Where did you relocate from ?

[tippyclubb]

I am sorry you are experiencing this unfriendly behavior. I understand all too well about the neighbors and often said I live on the most unfriendly street in The Villages. It's very odd and I was extremely disappointed after moving here. There's people on this street that won't wave, say hello, or look at me. I am in my late fifties and perhaps it is my age. Who knows, and I can't figure it out and I'm done trying.

I can tell you we have met some wonderful friendly people when we're out and about. There are plenty of nice people around and I wish you luck with meeting some soon. Don't let the rude nasty people get you down as they dislike seeing others happy. Don't waste your energy with them, instead focus upon the friendly ones you run across.

[BarryRX]

The friendliest Town around? Well that is a matter of opinion. We have lived here for a year. We love our home and all the things that go on around The Villages. We have a problem with what people think about our age and pets. I have been told so many times at the pool, "you're not old enough to live here. How did they let you in?" We are 55, and take that as a compliment, but we are old enough to live in this lovely place regardless of other's opinions. Because we look younger, we have to continuously heard unrequested comments and after a while one gets tired of trying to explain.

Some residents go out of their way to make us feel unwelcome. It's not just a few people at the pool everyday but it is the people who live around us too. Our neighbors. Oh what a lovely pleasure that can be!!

When you have a neighbor who doesn't like your dogs they can be unattractive in their opinions and try everyway possible to make your life miserable. You can be reported if the dog gets off leash or just barks too loudly. When company arrives of course the dog barks to let you know someone is at the door. If the dog touches a blade of their grass when you are walking, neighbor's are commenting under their breath--comments that we will just leave unsaid.

Why can't we mind our own business and live in peace with each other? Good grief, we are supposed to be adults not petty children wanting to get our own way because we don't like or are afraid of animals or are totally rude and say things about your age. I actually hear these complaints all the time in the clubs and activities I attend. For the most part people are very social and pleasant to one another here but it only takes one to be the sour grape. People on here say, "don't like it here, well then leave." Well that goes both ways. Now, just how is this the friendliest town around?

You write "why can't we mind our own business and live in peace with each other. A good start to that would be to be a lot more responsible. Don't let your dog get off the leash and perhaps frighten your neighbors, don't let your dog bark excessively and disturb your neighbors, and keep your dog off other peoples property if they have indicated to you that they don't want your dog on their property. It seems to me that the entire tone of your post was that you were annoyed because people were getting annoyed at you.

[TerriScott]

Dog lover I take?

[TerriScott]

We have met great people here. As I said before it is very disappointing to move here and find others so unfriendly. We are from northern Florida and have never had any problems with our neighbors wherever we have been. Here, we have one neighbor that we can't do anything right regarding our pets and other neighbors telling us that we have great animals. Just wanted to vent. Didn't really expect any nice responses but thank you for the time.

[Miles42]

To bad you can not know your neighbors before you move in but isn't that the case in most places? Don't let a few idiots ruin your time here.

[justjim]

Terri,

I am sorry that you are having these 'problems". While my wife and I are 65, we both look younger, but I have never encountered what you describe, and according the the Florida requirements for a retirement community, ONLY 80% of the residents must be 65 or older. My hats off to you for being able to retire at 55 and enjoy the lifestyle. I would offer you a house near us (we are cat people), but the last house to my knowledge sold 2 months ago.
I hope that you can come to an understanding with the neighbors, and see if you can come up with a cute come back for "your not old enough" crowd.
This is a great place to live.

"Only 80% over age 55"----I'm sure you meant. Our last dog passed a few years ago and haven't replaced her in recent years because of traveling. There are some people not only in TV and other places we lived that just plain don't like dogs. It's unfortunate they turn out to be your close neighbors.

We finally won one neighbor over in one place we lived but it took a lot of patience and several dinners. The fact fences aren't allowed makes the situation more challenging. Well, only in a courtyard villa you have an enclosed backyard.

[Allegiance]

No one ever says they look older than their age.

[The20Percent]

Are you living in the northern section of TV or the newer section towards Brownwood? I live in the southern/newer section and find that most folks here are not only new here themselves, but are also generally younger and not so set in their ways. My wife and I are in our 40s and are living here. Other than the occasional contractor showing up my door assuming that my Father called him...lol, I have not had any problems with my neighbors acting this way or anyone else in the neighborhood for that matter. Everyone is extremely friendly to us and even to our bigger than normal dogs when we walk them. If someone did make one of these snide remarks to myself, I think I would probably just laugh and brush it off as stupidity on their part, because I have just as much right to live here (by Florida law) as they do. I don't let people get under my skin and stay clear of people with negative attitudes. I feel for you though in having an immediate neighbor acting this way towards you. Maybe you should kill them with kindness? Perhaps invite them over for drinks or out to lunch...show them who the bigger person is. This may also neutralize any future threats from them. If they still remain nasty after this, just ignore them and act as if they are dead to you...as Mr Wonderful from Shark Tank so kindly puts it!

[Jayhawk]

Wow. We feel like we won the neighbor lottery !!!! Everyone, and I really mean everyone on our street is friendly and never fail to wave, smile, stop to talk and pet our dog, invite us to go out to eat or play cards. This place has been everything we hoped for and MORE. We would do anything for our neighbors and they would do the same.

My advice to you is turn the page and make a fresh start. Like other suggestions, go out of your way to invite a neighbor for coffee or to play a game. We have made new friends at the bocce courts, playing golf, and attending neighborhood parties. I have found that our dog is a GREAT way to meet people. Most want to play with him first ;) Can hardly walk down the street if he is with us because people come out to pet him. We don't mind. Just another excuse to talk to the neighbors.

Hope it turns around for you.

All the best.

[Pointer]

No one ever says they look older than their age.

I had an aunt who told people she was ten years older then she was just have fun with people who dared to ask and to hear them say how young she looked:laugh:

[Pointer]

I want to get one of those invisible dog leashes so I can walk a dog without having to actually get one. LOL I think that could be a real conversation starter. Anyone know where I can get one? Humm what would you name an invisible dog?:doggie:

[Allegiance]

Spotless

[2BNTV]

It's tough to soar like an eagle when your surrounded by turkeys!

Senilty prayer:

Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,

The good fortune to run into the people I do like,

And the eyesight to tell the difference.

[Wiserbud47]

We have met great people here. As I said before it is very disappointing to move here and find others so unfriendly. We are from northern Florida and have never had any problems with our neighbors wherever we have been. Here, we have one neighbor that we can't do anything right regarding our pets and other neighbors telling us that we have great animals. Just wanted to vent. Didn't really expect any nice responses but thank you for the time.

You didn't really expect any nice responses? Almost all of the responses you received were "nice" or they had some constitutive suggestions to improve your situation.

No one should make a comment about age unless a person is under 30 and is using an adult pool. There is some sensitivity to Villagers' 20 something or 30 something adult children who live here and have passes, using the pools and other facilities. They have a right to do it but not everyone likes it. That is why your problem that people were commenting on you being young looking for 55 seems strange. We have many people using the facilities that are under 55. The next time some makes the comment, you should politely say thank you.

As for dogs, you must understand that everyone is not as comfortable with animals as you. You have to try to respect your neighbors needs in the process of enjoying your animals.

I hope you look at this as a "nice" response.

[redwitch]

Terri, I'm sorry you're experiencing this. Vent away. It is harder to make friends in the established neighborhoods, especially if you're younger. I understand the snide comments. Got them when I first moved here, too. Fortunately, there were so many that welcomed me it made for the unkind words.

I went out of my way to become the neighborhood helper. My next-door neighbor was in his 90s. I would be sure to put his paper right by the garage door so he didn't have to walk down the driveway. It took him about two months to figure out I was the culprit but we became fast friends ever since. At Christmas, I was there to help with putting lights on trees and outside decor. It reached the point that my neighbors were thrilled having a "youngster" living there. Worked for them. Certainly worked for me.

There is nothing you can do about someone who is truly afraid of dogs. Living here must be very hard for them. The best you can is make a concerted effort to keep your dog away from your neighbor and let her know that you truly empathize.

So, do your best to ignore the curmudgeons and focus on the truly good people that live here. There are many and the kindness is abundant.

[Mr.Big]

I am a big snowbird renter. I love coming to The Villages in the winter. I also have dogs. I am one of The Villages biggest promoters around the country as I travel. I find most people in The Villages very friendly. I figure most people on TV are fairly well off, don't work, and are healthy and active. With those attributes, you should be happy. But, there are a few cranky ones out there. Must be in the genes!

[Beth P]

My husband and I are also 55 and will be full time starting in February. We intentionally bought in the new area because of our age and because we wanted to be with others who are also new to the area. So sorry to hear that you are feeling unwelcome. Everyone we have met so far has been kind, friendly and welcoming. When we find someone who isn't we live by the motto, "Kill 'em with kindness." Maybe you need to start a 55ers club!

[tomwed]

You are young and you look even younger. You got a dog that behaves like a dog. Your neighbors either ignore you or complain about the dog.

Did I miss anything?

The houses are packed pretty tight down here. I'm not unfriendly but I think my neighbors and I like pretending that we each own an acre and not lined up like a bunch of pup tents on a camping trip. If I sit on my lanai and sneeze I don't want 5 neighbors saying, "God Bless You". Maybe that's how your neighbors think too? Maybe you could pretend they do?

[Bruiser1]

My neighbor said "I wake up at 5:00am and I NEVER wake up Grumpy!"

"I Let him sleep!"

[graciegirl]

The friendliest Town around? Well that is a matter of opinion. We have lived here for a year. We love our home and all the things that go on around The Villages. We have a problem with what people think about our age and pets. I have been told so many times at the pool, "you're not old enough to live here. How did they let you in?" We are 55, and take that as a compliment, but we are old enough to live in this lovely place regardless of other's opinions. Because we look younger, we have to continuously heard unrequested comments and after a while one gets tired of trying to explain.

Some residents go out of their way to make us feel unwelcome. It's not just a few people at the pool everyday but it is the people who live around us too. Our neighbors. Oh what a lovely pleasure that can be!!

When you have a neighbor who doesn't like your dogs they can be unattractive in their opinions and try everyway possible to make your life miserable. You can be reported if the dog gets off leash or just barks too loudly. When company arrives of course the dog barks to let you know someone is at the door. If the dog touches a blade of their grass when you are walking, neighbor's are commenting under their breath--comments that we will just leave unsaid.

Why can't we mind our own business and live in peace with each other? Good grief, we are supposed to be adults not petty children wanting to get our own way because we don't like or are afraid of animals or are totally rude and say things about your age. I actually hear these complaints all the time in the clubs and activities I attend. For the most part people are very social and pleasant to one another here but it only takes one to be the sour grape. People on here say, "don't like it here, well then leave." Well that goes both ways. Now, just how is this the friendliest town around?

Dear Terri.

I have read and reread your post. I HATE age bias. I LOATHE age bias. In every single person I have met in The Villages and in the world their lives trapped inside of each of them a funny, happy, warm sixteen year old. We are ALL the same age in our hearts. Age bias happens usually when someone dismisses another thinking they wouldn't be fun.

I hope you aren't thinking that they are a lot older than you, rather than them thinking that you are a lot younger than them.

I love dogs. Anyone who regularly reads this forum will tell you so, but I do not like people to not follow the rules or to be inconsiderate. You need to keep your dog leashed and quiet. People did NOT plan to spend their life savings to live next to someone who doesn't care about THEM.

This is the first time that most of us have lived in a retirement community. Most people occupied their lives with work before moving here. Now we have a lot of leisure time and the emphasis shifts to enjoying life, not tolerating life.

If you are VERY unhappy, it may be the mix in your neighborhood. The good news is that moving to another neighborhood is a LOT easier to do here than where you came from. Houses sell quickly and movers are cheaper by far here in Florida.

We are on our second home in The Villages. Many will tell you it isn't uncommon to move three times.

I hope you find happiness. We don't have unlimited time on this earth.

Grace-E.

[perrjojo]

We have many under 55 in our neighborhood and they are all welcomed. Usually when someone says you are not old enough to live here it is meant as a compliment and said in a fun way. Of course I can not speak for your experience. We have many dogs in our neighborhood and they do ruffle a few feathers from time to time but I can still say this is a very friendly hometown. We have a dog and love him dearly but realize not everyone feels the same and unfortunately many dog owners cause these hard feelings.

[manaboutown]

I know a couple that moved to another retirement community, one having a median age of about 80 versus the median age of about 70 for The Villages. One spouse must be at least 55 to live there. No exceptions. When they moved in he had just turned 55 and she was 53. She had long blond hair and an hour glass figure. They both like to swim. She was hassled at the pools for YEARS with the "You're too young. You don't belong here!" from older women. Apparently "trophy wives" are not welcome.

At present she is 62 and thickening a bit. She no longer gets hassled (as much) by other women living there. They are sociable, have served on several boards and now know many people there.

You two might be happier in a newer (younger) area of The Villages.

[George Bieniaszek]

My wife and I were blessed to retire years ago when we were 56 and 57 years old. We never felt an age bias and never experienced anything other than being welcomed by our neighbors or anywhere we went in The Villages. We golfed with 50-somethings, 60-somethings and an absolutely adorable couple that were deep into their 80's. That couple was the most memorable because from teeing off at the first hole, we were joking and laughing till our sides ached, mostly at our golf game. We talked about our life's experiences, family, anything and everything. We also had a little pug that loved The Villages and thought that golf carts were the greatest invention that us crazy humans ever invented.

We have nothing but very pleasant experiences when we are here in The Villages. We still have a home in CT that is currently on the market and spend 7-8 months here every year. When in CT we are so excited when the time draws near when we make our journey back down. We will be coming back to The Villages this week.

Sad that the poster has had negative experiences.

[asianthree]

I have for years set at the pool and had people ask me who I'm down here visiting. I just take that as a compliment or they're just blind. Even though I'm over 60 apparently it doesn't look like I belong here. Do I worry about what my neighbors think nope. I was even stopped one early morning run at 3 AM by community watch and asked where my parents lived and did I need a ride home. It's just too funny. I would say if every person that you meet here are unhappy then you might consider somewhere else. But I can not imagine that there are that many people, maybe a few and that's what's really sticking out for you. Just remember you don't have to live with them you just have to walk past them on occasion. Maybe they are the unhappy people and want to find as many unhappy people also. Remember the average move for a person is 2.5 times in TV. It will get better as your neighborhood evolves. just take a big deep breath and enjoy your life.

[villagetinker]

JustJim,

OOPs you are correct, 80% over 55, thanks for correcting.

VT

[Indydealmaker]

We have met great people here. As I said before it is very disappointing to move here and find others so unfriendly. We are from northern Florida and have never had any problems with our neighbors wherever we have been. Here, we have one neighbor that we can't do anything right regarding our pets and other neighbors telling us that we have great animals. Just wanted to vent. Didn't really expect any nice responses but thank you for the time.

I'll bet if you talk to your "other" neighbors you will find that each has had some sort of "challenge" with the problem neighbor also. There is always one on every block.

It could simply be that you replaced a dear friend when you moved in and there is some "irrational" resentment.

If you can't make friends with them, just have a big party and invite everybody else. Maybe they will get the idea that the problem is entirely their own (probably not).
Good Luck, you damn whipper-snappers!

[tomwed]

Didn't really expect any nice responses but thank you for the time.
Why didn't you expect any nice responses?

[jbdlfan]

The friendliest Town around? Well that is a matter of opinion. We have lived here for a year. We love our home and all the things that go on around The Villages. We have a problem with what people think about our age and pets. I have been told so many times at the pool, "you're not old enough to live here. How did they let you in?" We are 55, and take that as a compliment, but we are old enough to live in this lovely place regardless of other's opinions. Because we look younger, we have to continuously heard unrequested comments and after a while one gets tired of trying to explain.

Some residents go out of their way to make us feel unwelcome. It's not just a few people at the pool everyday but it is the people who live around us too. Our neighbors. Oh what a lovely pleasure that can be!!

When you have a neighbor who doesn't like your dogs they can be unattractive in their opinions and try everyway possible to make your life miserable. You can be reported if the dog gets off leash or just barks too loudly. When company arrives of course the dog barks to let you know someone is at the door. If the dog touches a blade of their grass when you are walking, neighbor's are commenting under their breath--comments that we will just leave unsaid.

Why can't we mind our own business and live in peace with each other? Good grief, we are supposed to be adults not petty children wanting to get our own way because we don't like or are afraid of animals or are totally rude and say things about your age. I actually hear these complaints all the time in the clubs and activities I attend. For the most part people are very social and pleasant to one another here but it only takes one to be the sour grape. People on here say, "don't like it here, well then leave." Well that goes both ways. Now, just how is this the friendliest town around?

We had a few of the same experiences as you in the first neighborhood we lived. We moved and have fit in quite nicely in our new area. Unfortunately they are not much of a social group, but we do all get along. We are both of a lesser age, me 50 my spouse 46. Sat down at Lopez bar one day and a guy asked if we were down visiting our parents. We both chuckled and said no, that we own a place just down the road. He looked incredulous said you aren't old enough to own here. I asked why not, I'm 70 and she's 65? Turned my back and enjoyed our drinks.
Just ignore that garbage, you will find your niche.

[graciegirl]

We had a few of the same experiences as you in the first neighborhood we lived. We moved and have fit in quite nicely in our new area. Unfortunately they are not much of a social group, but we do all get along. We are both of a lesser age, me 50 my spouse 46. Sat down at Lopez bar one day and a guy asked if we were down visiting our parents. We both chuckled and said no, that we own a place just down the road. He looked incredulous said you aren't old enough to own here. I asked why not, I'm 70 and she's 65? Turned my back and enjoyed our drinks.
Just ignore that garbage, you will find your niche.


Yeah. I get that a lot too.

[jbdlfan]

Yeah. I get that a lot too.

Oh, I bet.:wave:

[PennBF]

A couple of observations: Remember the 10% club. No matter what you do or who you are 10% will be against almost anything, be insulting, vote no on everything and a whole lot more, Remember: Not everyone is going to like you and you are not going to like everyone. It is best to just move on and enjoy your life. Don't plan on being liked by everyone. Heck at our age who really cares what someone thinks about us. Remember: Own what you do that is wrong and
stop. If your dogs are loud or annoying to your neighbors don't think all like being annoyed and stop what you are doing. Own it. Enjoy life but own your faults. :wave:

[tomwed]

I got voted out of the 10% club.

[rubicon]

Never trust anyone under 70

[Dr Winston O Boogie jr]

Wow, I have had the exact opposite experience. I'm 63. I moved here when I was 60 and I believe that I look younger. My wife is much, much younger than I am, and certainly much younger than almost everyone else here.

We have been welcomed with open arms every where we have gone in The Villages. No one has ever made a big deal about the difference in our ages or race for that matter (she is Asian and I am white). Everyone we have met has accepted her and us, as a couple with grace and courtesy.

This was actually a concern of mine before we moved here, but my fears have been put aside.

I'm sure that there have been some comments made when we're not around, but that goes with the territory.

As far as you being to young, residents here should know that is is required that only about 20% of the residents be over 55.

This is without a doubt that friendliest town that I've ever lived in.

[shcisamax]

It appears to OP has received sufficient advice and left the stadium.

[kcrazorbackfan]

Wow. We feel like we won the neighbor lottery !!!! Everyone, and I really mean everyone on our street is friendly and never fail to wave, smile, stop to talk and pet our dog, invite us to go out to eat or play cards. This place has been everything we hoped for and MORE. We would do anything for our neighbors and they would do the same.


We feel the same way. We just moved into our new home last week and everyone has made us feel so at home. It was a really hard decision to retire here with our son and his family only living 15 miles from us in KC; we're so fortunate to have found a home with the neighbors and neighborhood we did.

To the OP, enjoy yourself. Make friends with those you can and let the others lie in the bed they made for themselves.

BTW, at the neighborhood block party last night, my wife did find out she is the youngest in the neighborhood! ;-)

[Dr Winston O Boogie jr]

We feel the same way. We just moved into our new home last week and everyone has made us feel so at home. It was a really hard decision to retire here with our son and his family only living 15 miles from us in KC; we're so fortunate to have found a home with the neighbors and neighborhood we did.

To the OP, enjoy yourself. Make friends with those you can and let the others lie in the bed they made for themselves.

BTW, at the neighborhood block party last night, my wife did find out she is the youngest in the neighborhood! ;-)

Then we have something in common. My wife is also the youngest in our neighborhood.

[Topspinmo]

I find the villages not pet friendly in general. Not enough dog parks, or areas for dogs. I love dogs, but when my 14 year old little dog goes I will not be getting anymore pets. I am grateful so far that I live in Fabulous neighborhood, with wonderful neighbors which the majority have pets. But, the overall tone of the villages in general not pet friendly IMO.

By comments on here in other areas some villagers think it's against village law for people to have there pets in common areas the they think they own or have say on. Cats IMO get free pass cause the don't bark and get to ruin wild in most cases.

As for the age thing, I think all us that had work grind would of loved to quit in their 40's, 50's, but for the majority not possible. So some don't like it, but there lots of things I don't like, but that's my problem I have to live with and NOT infringe "my problems" (mental disorder) on my Neighbors. I lived all over and haven't ran into nosey 1%er neighbors, guess use poor folks don't worry or want to control what goes on around us. IMO We are just happy to be in home and not be burden on society.

Remember This IS MY OPINION or "my problem" so don't think your experience or opinion will change mine or I will change yours.

[graciegirl]

We feel the same way. We just moved into our new home last week and everyone has made us feel so at home. It was a really hard decision to retire here with our son and his family only living 15 miles from us in KC; we're so fortunate to have found a home with the neighbors and neighborhood we did.

To the OP, enjoy yourself. Make friends with those you can and let the others lie in the bed they made for themselves.

BTW, at the neighborhood block party last night, my wife did find out she is the youngest in the neighborhood! ;-)


Oh I am so used to that. My Sweetie is always the best looking and the nicest and the most interesting. I never bring it up to others, I know I am envied.

[kgentile1010]

The friendliest Town around? Well that is a matter of opinion. We have lived here for a year. We love our home and all the things that go on around The Villages. We have a problem with what people think about our age and pets. I have been told so many times at the pool, "you're not old enough to live here. How did they let you in?" We are 55, and take that as a compliment, but we are old enough to live in this lovely place regardless of other's opinions. Because we look younger, we have to continuously heard unrequested comments and after a while one gets tired of trying to explain.

Some residents go out of their way to make us feel unwelcome. It's not just a few people at the pool everyday but it is the people who live around us too. Our neighbors. Oh what a lovely pleasure that can be!!

When you have a neighbor who doesn't like your dogs they can be unattractive in their opinions and try everyway possible to make your life miserable. You can be reported if the dog gets off leash or just barks too loudly. When company arrives of course the dog barks to let you know someone is at the door. If the dog touches a blade of their grass when you are walking, neighbor's are commenting under their breath--comments that we will just leave unsaid.

Why can't we mind our own business and live in peace with each other? Good grief, we are supposed to be adults not petty children wanting to get our own way because we don't like or are afraid of animals or are totally rude and say things about your age. I actually hear these complaints all the time in the clubs and activities I attend. For the most part people are very social and pleasant to one another here but it only takes one to be the sour grape. People on here say, "don't like it here, well then leave." Well that goes both ways. Now, just how is this the friendliest town around?

I'm 54 and my husband is 60. We get a lot of the 'you're too young', I just smile and say I'm the luckiest girl in the world to be able to live in The Villages early. Sometimes if my husband isn't with me, I say, Oh well, my husband is really old. HeHe!!! Anyway, I've lived in The Villages for 2 years. If your dog is friendly with other dogs, go to Doggie Doo Run Run. All the people there LOVE dogs, since it's a dog park. Also, join the responsible dog owner club. All the people there also LOVE dogs. I still work, and go to DDRR at 7:30am every morning. I'm walking around in the big section with other dog lovers. Come join us. I'm the one with the BIG SMILE :) Because I LOVE The Villages and dogs of course.

[Bonny]

We moved here 14 1/2 years ago. I was 48 and hubby was 49. We never met anyone that seemed to have a problem with that.
When we moved here, most everyone was older than us.
Sometimes people would joke and say something like you're the youngest people we have met here.
Now as job opportunities are more available, younger people are moving here.
None of my friends have any problems with that.

[Bavarian]

We moved here 11 Months ago to a Village just being built on advice of Sales Rep, said we would fit in. We are not far down as Brownwood, LSL, Gracie Knows where we live. Hi Gracie. I do find the unfriendliness in where we were from in our Development everybody waves to each other when passing in car, walking, etc. trying to do this here.

As for the 10% rule, it is forced on the Villages and all 55+ Community by the Federal Governmenr Equal Housing Opportunity Regs.

[Bonny]

We moved here 11 Months ago to a Village just being built on advice of Sales Rep, said we would fit in. We are not far down as Brownwood, LSL, Gracie Knows where we live. Hi Gracie. I do find the unfriendliness in where we were from in our Development everybody waves to each other when passing in car, walking, etc. trying to do this here.

As for the 10% rule, it is forced on the Villages and all 55+ Community by the Federal Governmenr Equal Housing Opportunity Regs.
If you are talking about residents under 55, it's 20 %.

[Jhooman]

Welcome to The Villages. There is a neighbor of mine that is just negative. We have made attempts to be polite but have been ignored. He also hates all forms of dogs, including my sweet little Yorkie. When I walk past his home with my little girl, we walk on the other side of the street. My neighborhood is filled with lovely folks.

Once again, welcome and simply ignore the negative folks.:wave:

[Bruiser1]

Welcome to The Villages. There is a neighbor of mine that is just negative. We have made attempts to be polite but have been ignored. He also hates all forms of dogs, including my sweet little Yorkie. When I walk past his home with my little girl, we walk on the other side of the street. My neighborhood is filled with lovely folks.

Once again, welcome and simply ignore the negative folks.:wave:

I agree!

I worked for years in customer service for a major utility. Some of the things that I learned while working with the public:

Treat each person as you would wish to be treated.
Have empathy.
You have two ears and one mouth (use accordingly).

"It's nice to be important but more important to be nice!":024:

[Bonanza]

We had a few of the same experiences as you in the first neighborhood we lived. We moved and have fit in quite nicely in our new area. Unfortunately they are not much of a social group, but we do all get along. We are both of a lesser age, me 50 my spouse 46. Sat down at Lopez bar one day and a guy asked if we were down visiting our parents. We both chuckled and said no, that we own a place just down the road. He looked incredulous said you aren't old enough to own here. I asked why not, I'm 70 and she's 65? Turned my back and enjoyed our drinks.
Just ignore that garbage, you will find your niche.

Yeah. I get that a lot too.

Oh, Gracie -- I love you! You are so funny.

In addition, you always are the rainbow after the storm.
Bless you!

[shawano1]

We are one of the lucky ones with wonderful neighbors.

However, being a younger couple in our 50s, we also receive the same interrogation and suspicious looks not only at the pools, but at our small recreation center library. Every time I go there, I get asked to show my TV I.D. card. As I sit at the computer terminal, I listen for other people that come in, and none of them get carded. I feel like I'm reliving my 20s again (the bad part) when I wanted to buy a six pack.

Not one who likes to carry a wallet everywhere, I now make sure that I take my TV I.D. card to this library and to the pools. Most times, I make a light comment to the interrogator, and continue to enjoy the day. The rest of the time, with the real snobby interrogators, I just ignore them, and tell myself that they are just crabby old people and move on.

[jbdlfan]

We are one of the lucky ones with wonderful neighbors.

However, being a younger couple in our 50s, we also receive the same interrogation and suspicious looks not only at the pools, but at our small recreation center library. Every time I go there, I get asked to show my TV I.D. card. As I sit at the computer terminal, I listen for other people that come in, and none of them get carded. I feel like I'm reliving my 20s again (the bad part) when I wanted to buy a six pack.

Not one who likes to carry a wallet everywhere, I now make sure that I take my TV I.D. card to this library and to the pools. Most times, I make a light comment to the interrogator, and continue to enjoy the day. The rest of the time, with the real snobby interrogators, I just ignore them, and tell myself that they are just crabby old people and move on.

Spot on. But be prepared, the next few responses will be flaming you for this attitude and I'm sure you will be told that you should ALWAYS carry your Villages ID. My guess is that someone will even provide you the link to the RULES that state this. While this may be true, enforcement is and always will be selective. I've seen it in our favor and against. :shrug:

[Laurie2]

Hey! Kids! Lighten Up! Smile! Enjoy being questioned about your age. I used to. (sigh)

Some of you sound like it sure does make you grouchy. Don't be. It eventually stops. (double-sigh)

But you might want to be concerned about all that snapping and snarking and snarling those "You're too young" comments trigger in some of you. What if that's an early sign that you are quickly turning into one of those grumpy "old" people you complain about? I sometimes think of Irony as Karma's distant cousin.

I can never figure out if these threads are about complaining or bragging. All I know for sure is I wish it still happened to me. I would just smile and maybe have a nice conversation. Try that. It might save you from sliding down that slippery slope to turning into a real curmudgeon by the time you are 60. It happens.

PS: That was not "flaming" -- just another perspective for the open-minded to consider.

[jbdlfan]

Hey! Kids! Lighten Up! Smile! Enjoy being questioned about your age. I used to. (sigh)

Some of you sound like it sure does make you grouchy. Don't be. It eventually stops. (double-sigh)

But you might want to be concerned about all that snapping and snarking and snarling those "You're too young" comments trigger in some of you. What if that's an early sign that you are quickly turning into one of those grumpy "old" people you complain about? I sometimes think of Irony as Karma's distant cousin.

I can never figure out if these threads are about complaining or bragging. All I know for sure is I wish it still happened to me. I would just smile and maybe have a nice conversation. Try that. It might save you from sliding down that slippery slope to turning into a real curmudgeon by the time you are 60. It happens.

PS: That was not "flaming" -- just another perspective for the open-minded to consider.
Ok, so what you are saying is that we should not be offended and accept bad behavior from our fellow neighbors and in essence we really have nothing to complain about of any substance. But I can find THOUSANDS of posts about dog poop, dogs in restaurants, tattoos, rude people at the squares and carts that go to fast that are by far more relevant and reasonable. I get it!:bowdown:

[szyqpeach]

I do not live in The Villages but work there. Sounds like they're jealous to me.

[Barefoot]

Hey! Kids! Lighten Up! Smile! Enjoy being questioned about your age. I used to. (sigh) Some of you sound like it sure does make you grouchy. Don't be. It eventually stops. (double-sigh)

But you might want to be concerned about all that snapping and snarking and snarling those "You're too young" comments trigger in some of you. What if that's an early sign that you are quickly turning into one of those grumpy "old" people you complain about? I sometimes think of Irony as Karma's distant cousin.

I can never figure out if these threads are about complaining or bragging. All I know for sure is I wish it still happened to me. I would just smile and maybe have a nice conversation. Try that. It might save you from sliding down that slippery slope to turning into a real curmudgeon by the time you are 60. It happens.

:thumbup:

[Vladimir]

Not sure I completely understand the agitation felt by OP' post but..."friendliest town around" is just a marketing strategy - people with imperfections live here as well. We also need to understand that we essentially live in townhouses without common walls and if we have dogs then we need to act responsibly and respect each others boundaries.

As for age...if you look young and you look good why would someone not enjoy the view as you enhance the beauty of the rest of the place.

[rubicon]

The Villages Florida's Friendliest Home Town is a marketing tool.

[Barefoot]

The Villages Florida's Friendliest Home Town is a marketing tool.

As with most of the other Developer's strategies, it's a great marketing tool. It works!
We have Florida's Friendliest Home Town, a dog-friendly community, health happy, a golf cart community.
The problems that most people complain about now are the marketing tools that originally attracted us to The Villages. ;)

[Bogie Shooter]

Hey! Kids! Lighten Up! Smile! Enjoy being questioned about your age. I used to. (sigh)

Some of you sound like it sure does make you grouchy. Don't be. It eventually stops. (double-sigh)

But you might want to be concerned about all that snapping and snarking and snarling those "You're too young" comments trigger in some of you. What if that's an early sign that you are quickly turning into one of those grumpy "old" people you complain about? I sometimes think of Irony as Karma's distant cousin.

I can never figure out if these threads are about complaining or bragging. All I know for sure is I wish it still happened to me. I would just smile and maybe have a nice conversation. Try that. It might save you from sliding down that slippery slope to turning into a real curmudgeon by the time you are 60. It happens.

PS: That was not "flaming" -- just another perspective for the open-minded to consider.

Ok, so what you are saying is that we should not be offended and accept bad behavior from our fellow neighbors and in essence we really have nothing to complain about of any substance. But I can find THOUSANDS of posts about dog poop, dogs in restaurants, tattoos, rude people at the squares and carts that go to fast that are by far more relevant and reasonable. I get it!:bowdown:

If you want an apology from those that have offended you with "bad behavior" (your opinion), I will apologize for them. Feel better?
Expect to be asked to show your ID again.

[rubicon]

As with most of the other Developer's strategies, it's a great marketing tool. It works!
We have Florida's Friendliest Home Town, a dog-friendly community, health happy, a golf cart community.
The problems that most people complain about now are the marketing tools that originally attracted us to The Villages. ;)

Hi Barefoot: yea its like "Minnesota Nice"

[manaboutown]

Perhaps the OP and a couple of the younger posters feel they are being "profiled", particularly when they are asked for ID's proving their residence when and where older folks are not. It seems to me the older folks should be asked to show ID's, too, as they could be nonresidents.

Being constantly confronted and IDed for being young gets old - fast. That is why they posted, as well as for the doggie issues.

[janmcn]

As with most of the other Developer's strategies, it's a great marketing tool. It works!
We have Florida's Friendliest Home Town, a dog-friendly community, health happy, a golf cart community.
The problems that most people complain about now are the marketing tools that originally attracted us to The Villages. ;)

IMO, some people could be unhappy because they believed all these marketing tools and now feel duped. A lot of residents probably moved here thinking they were moving to a retirement community and are taking it out on anybody who doesn't look the part.

These are marketing tools, not binding contracts. Again IMO, the next marketing tool that will probably go the way of the do-do bird is free golf for life, and there is not a darn thing anyone can do about it.

[graciegirl]

[http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=youtube+a+person+complaining+about+lookin g+young&FORM=VIRE5#view=detail&mid=4B729E19B3C9053B13D84B729E19B3C9053B13D8

[slipcovers]

I am 71 and I get asked for my villages ID at rec center and pools, so young poster are assuming it is their age. The receptionist at the rec center probably know the ones that don't get asked, most likely they are regulars.

[Wandatime]

[youtube a person complaining about looking young - Bing Videos (http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=youtube+a+person+complaining+about+lookin g+young&FORM=VIRE5#view=detail&mid=4B729E19B3C9053B13D84B729E19B3C9053B13D8)

That was cute. That girl's got moxie. But she's probably too young to know what that is. ;)

[Bogie Shooter]

Maybe this thread should be combined with several other threads where poster's are complaining that ID's are not being checked?:evil6:

[tomwed]

bumfff

[Bonny]

1] it's true-this is the friendliest town in the USA
2] who cares how old you look
3] this is a stupid thread
:agree: I just want someone to tell me how young I look and ask for ID !!!

[Tadgirl 2]

Sheer jealousy because you are younger looking,what a great asset,lots of lovely people here keep with them.

[Wandatime]

1] it's true-this is the friendliest town in the USA
2] who cares how old you look
3] this is a stupid thread

1. Well, I can't name one friendlier, unless we go with Mayberry.
2. Every woman I know.
3. Perhaps.

:beer3:

[tomwed]

1. Well, I can't name one friendlier, unless we go with Mayberry.
2. Every woman I know.
3. Perhaps.

:beer3:

1] Mayberry is boring
2] Youth envy crosses gender
3] Other threads are more fun or informative

[Wandatime]

1] Mayberry is boring
2] Youth envy crosses gender
3] Other threads are more fun or informative

Someone is feeling feisty tonight! :pepper2:

[DonH57]

1. Mount Pilot was the happening place, not Mayberry.
2. I never have.
3. The only stupid thread is one not answered.

[graciegirl]

Someone is feeling feisty tonight! :pepper2:


I agree.

I have already decided Tomwed is a very nice and fair person with a great sense of humor. He is diplomatic when he disagrees and just an all around nice fella. PLUS a little feisty. Perfect Villager.

[duffysmom]

Hey! Kids! Lighten Up! Smile! Enjoy being questioned about your age. I used to. (sigh)

Some of you sound like it sure does make you grouchy. Don't be. It eventually stops. (double-sigh)

But you might want to be concerned about all that snapping and snarking and snarling those "You're too young" comments trigger in some of you. What if that's an early sign that you are quickly turning into one of those grumpy "old" people you complain about? I sometimes think of Irony as Karma's distant cousin.

I can never figure out if these threads are about complaining or bragging. All I know for sure is I wish it still happened to me. I would just smile and maybe have a nice conversation. Try that. It might save you from sliding down that slippery slope to turning into a real curmudgeon by the time you are 60. It happens.

PS: That was not "flaming" -- just another perspective for the open-minded to consider.

:agree:

[rubicon]

Sheer jealousy because you are younger looking,what a great asset,lots of lovely people here keep with them.

Perhaps, but people tell me I look much younger than my age and all that means to me is that I am going to be a younger looking corpse. it doesn't change the reality. I shun these nonsensical narratives like "60 is the new 40"
"Friendliest Home Town". Lauren Ritchey's Part II article continues to pull back the curtain. But despite what she says I still like it here I just don't like hyperbole or hypocrisy .