The "Buffalo are Gone" topic has been locked.

[Talk Host]

As moderator, it saddens me to see the a conversation deteriorate like this one did. Believe me, I fully understand how it happens, because I am given to having strong opinions myself. I think you will all agree that it serves no further purpose to continue the disagreement. I had a hard time deciding if I should delete the whole thread or lock it, so I decided to lock it. I will ask that it not be continued in another thread though.

A......er.......ah, I kinda hate to use this term, but it is the only one that comes to mind.......ahem........"Can't we all just get along." (I think I am going to be sick)

[graciegirl]

I am so ashamed. I want to apologize for using the term "big brother". I was trying to be funny and clever.

;)

[redwitch]

but, but, but ... getting along ain't no fun! Don't know about you, but I always fought with my brother and I absolutely, positively adored him. If my cousins and my brother weren't in a fist fight once a week something was seriously wrong with one of them. We're a family in so many ways. Families fight. I'm willing to bet that if one of those fighting needed help, the others would jump in and help as much as they could.

BTW -- Good job on locking it.

[graciegirl]

RedWitch. You are so dear.

You are right. At least about me. I feel that we are family and I feel so good about TV.
Because we are up here right now, it is the only way to "be" down there and sometimes we all get a little too intense on TOTV. I think it is because we all have lived long enough and have earned a right to our sometimes very strong opinions. I often have my mind changed when reading other peoples posts. We have a lot of information, experience and knowledge to share.

[samhass]

Hey, we get older and tend to get rather opinionated about subjects. I agree with Red, though. Let something happen to any one of us and the others would be there to help.
It's the Village's way.

[chelsea24]

Thank goodness you locked it Jan. :bigthumbsup:

[beady]

I agree with all the previous posters.......we need to have a debate and challenge each others opinions but when it turns to name calling and rudeness..... not acceptable, the humor leached out and it became down right personal.
Fact is we are a family of sorts and I have every confidence we will be there for each other should the need arise.

[RCT]

There was one person,. who decided that topic should get nasty, talk host. Go preach to him.

[Barefoot]

The testerone is leaking all over my keyboard.

[Peggy D]

A......er.......ah, I kinda hate to use this term, but it is the only one that comes to mind.......ahem........"Can't we all just get along." (I think I am going to be sick)
[/quote]

Jan,

I had to laugh. That was cute

[nONIE]

I am so ashamed. I want to apologize for using the term "big brother". I was trying to be funny and clever.

;)


Graciegirl,

Dont be ashamed. You are a sweet loving soul, and you are funny and clever. You said nothing wrong, believe me I have reproached myself many times for things I posted but that is nothing to worry about in comparrison to some. I bet they arent ashamed! LOL

[chuckinca]

Jan:

It should be locked, delete the participants names and put up as a sticky to show unacceptable behavior.

[Sidney Lanier]

Why should this subject with such differing opinions be any different from any other? It's really up to us as individuals to practice common courtesy and PRINCIPLES BEFORE PERSONALITIES! Some will, and there are always some who refuse to. No one can change anyone else; just accept that that's the way it is, look for it from where it comes, and move on. We're all different....

[Donna]

Why should this subject with such differing opinions be any different from any other? It's really up to us as individuals to practice common courtesy and PRINCIPLES BEFORE PERSONALITIES! Some will, and there are always some who refuse to. No one can change anyone else; just accept that that's the way it is, look for it from where it comes, and move on. We're all different....


I would like to add my 2 cents..This is a forum where we all got along famously, some times we all got along too well, if there is such a thing..

This has been a small bump in the road and our friendship will get us over it!

Our hopes and dreams of moving to TV, all started with the friendships we made here, lasting friendships that will endure any little problems that arise..

There is no perfect world, but our TOTV world was pretty close to it..We cannot undo what is done, buy we can certainly try to forget to hurt feelings and move on..

Jesus forgave and so can we..

http://i188.photobucket.com/albums/z92/dazzlej2/greetings/friend-glitters/friend_30.gif (http://www.dazzlejunction.com/)

[SteveZ]

Not sure what caused the lockdown - must have missed the "straw that broke..." post.

Most of the folk willing to take the time to express their feelings tend to do so with passion, sometimes a little diplomacy, sometimes darned little diplomacy, and sometimes that wonderful trait - hindsight - sets in.

We all do get along - sometimes with a little "tough love" - but nothing really occurs which should bring folks to fisticuffs.

In my line of work, we go at each other hammer-and-tong, and it does get heated and rough sometimes, then afterwards only to toast each other and the profession. That's why "happy hour" exists and $1.75 Margaritas are available.

There are folk on this board with a fair amount of mileage, and can handle the situation whenever a pothole appears on the highway.

Or as the buffalo would have put it - just let the chips fall.....

[Sidney Lanier]

Very well put, Donna; and very well and cleverly closed, SteveZ. So let's just move on....

[KathieI]

I would like to add my 2 cents..This is a forum where we all got along famously, some times we all got along too well, if there is such a thing..

This has been a small bump in the road and our friendship will get us over it!

Our hopes and dreams of moving to TV, all started with the friendships we made here, lasting friendships that will endure any little problems that arise..

There is no perfect world, but our TOTV world was pretty close to it..We cannot undo what is done, buy we can certainly try to forget to hurt feelings and move on..

Jesus forgave and so can we..

http://i188.photobucket.com/albums/z92/dazzlej2/greetings/friend-glitters/friend_30.gif (http://www.dazzlejunction.com/)


Thank you Donna, beautifully put. I agree so much and thank you for posting such a beautiful sentiment. You know how upset I was about this whole situation of name calling and maybe I'm just living in a dream world, but I really want neighbors to love neighbors. TV has been my perfect world and I know we will get past this.

Steve and Sidney, thanks for closing this so nicely, yes, we will move on. Love, Kathie

[mcelheny]

As someone who has been called names and put down many times by one poster....I think this was just another example of his behavior. >:( I can think of 7 people he has attacked with written abuse. >:(
I realize he has his supporters and I try to like him. ;D I have just let his attacks go but because of the written abuse I am always nervous about attacks from him. I am just glad that an Adminstrator finally stepped in... :bigthumbsup:

[graciegirl]

Very well put, Donna; and very well and cleverly closed, SteveZ. So let's just move on....
:agree: :agree: :agree:



Sidney is right.

Let's not pick a scab.

Let it go.

Drop it.

Try not to think about it.

Last words are never LAST words guys, unless you zip your lips, or typing fingers.

OMIGOSH. I think I have said this before, (about a million times) to my kids.

[mcelheny]

graciegirl,
I was attacked and called names over 20 times :o 12 threads :o over a 6 month period.!!!! >:( It started with my first post :o
I tried to make peace. I like all people.
I pmed him. I tried to make jokes with him.
Only one poster ever did this to me!!You often backed him up. He always had his followers with you being one. Unless you recieved this abuse for 6 months I don't think you know how it feels. I had never been called names in my life!!! :o
I thought my last post would be the end. You didn't let it go....and thus this post.!!!!

[Lil Dancer]

I too was a target of this person that Mchelney is talking about. Its what I call cyber-bullying and its not fun to be on the receiving end. Kudos to the Administrator for stepping in!...Now let's move on to happy stuff. I'm up north planting my garden today. No buffalo, but lot's of deer, rabbits, and wild turkeys to look at. And they love eating out of our vegetable garden LOL.

[Barefoot]

LilDancer and Mcelheny: I think you have a perfect right to express your opinions and feelings, whether I agree with them or not. It's called freedom of speech, and is one of the great things about this website.

[chelsea24]

Graciegirl, my friend and future neighbor. I'm sorry, I'm confused. Weren't you the one that had the weird thread that everyone got down on. And I sent you a private message to tell you to hang in there because I knew you felt so bad? Well multiply that by 6 mos. of constant criticism and maybe you can see how it affected McCelheny, Lil Dancer, and at times me. I don't mean just opposing views, I mean undiluted nastiness. We all have a right to our opinions. I agree enough is enough. ;D

[chelsea24]

I love you graciegirl! Thanks for the post. ;D

[mcelheny]

graciegirl,
I hope we meet sometime. As I said -I like all people and I have a blessed life.

[mcelheny]

A big "Thank you" to all the people who pmed me on this. Life is wonderful for me now. :) :) :) I know I have some wonderful friends in the Villages. :bigthumbsup:

[SteveZ]

A big "Thank you" to all the people who pmed me on this. Life is wonderful for me now. :) :) :) I know I have some wonderful friends in the Villages. :bigthumbsup:


Hey, we may not always agree on the little things, but we can still toast each other for having the cumulative "good sense and wisdom" to be TVers! Cheers!