Rude, Miserable People

[vlm790]

Why are so many people rude and miserable? Seriously, you're retired and living in a beautiful place. Why aren't you happy? Better yet, why are you so darn rude and miserable? When you're walking by my house commenting on my shrubs, lanai furniture or house color ..... I CAN HEAR YOU. I pay my mortgage, you don't. If you don't like the look of my yard or house, don't look at it. But keep your comments to yourself. I may surprise you one day and be rude right back to you!!!

[Happinow]

I think you may be taking these comments too personally. I'm sure you've walked by homes at some point and commented on colors, landscaping, etc. Everyone's tastes are different and it's different strokes for different folks. I walk a lot and often non shalantly say something I either like or dislike. I may say those shrubs are too big for that space, or the driveway looks great or I like or dislike the color of the house. It's human nature to comment of things like that. I wouldn't take it to heart....your home is decorated to your taste and all that matters is that you like it. People don't mean any harm. Sometimes it's just conversation. I've overheard people talking about my home on the golf course and some don't like the size of our putting green. It's ok with me as I built it for me and not for them. Everyone has an opinion... It's ok.

[kstew43]

Why are so many people rude and miserable? Seriously, you're retired and living in a beautiful place. Why aren't you happy? Better yet, why are you so darn rude and miserable? When you're walking by my house commenting on my shrubs, lanai furniture or house color ..... I CAN HEAR YOU. I pay my mortgage, you don't. If you don't like the look of my yard or house, don't look at it. But keep your comments to yourself. I may surprise you one day and be rude right back to you!!!

just turn the hose on them....

[Walter123]

Why are so many people rude and miserable? Seriously, you're retired and living in a beautiful place. Why aren't you happy? Better yet, why are you so darn rude and miserable? When you're walking by my house commenting on my shrubs, lanai furniture or house color ..... I CAN HEAR YOU. I pay my mortgage, you don't. If you don't like the look of my yard or house, don't look at it. But keep your comments to yourself. I may surprise you one day and be rude right back to you!!!

Where do you live? Can you post a picture so we know what you're talking about?

[Blessed2BNTV]

Yes there are rude unhappy folks here. Several weeks ago while waiting for American Sniper to start, a woman in the row behind us must have almost tripped getting into her seat so she grabbed the back of the chair of the lady sitting next to me. When the lady turned around the rude woman said, "you'll live!"

I would have thought the comment would be, "oh I'm sorry" or "please excuse me".

I just want to know.....what happens to folks that they feel they have the right to be rude?

The good news is that there are so many fine, kind folks here in TV!

[Jaggy]

I seriously think some people just have aches and pains and that makes them angry.. I know when I am achy etc, I catch myself thinking some nasty ( maybe saying it would make me feel be better ?? ( insert laugh ).. but tell me you have never sat and people watched and made comments on their clothes, hair, etc?? Half the fun of sitting at an airport !!

[Bizdoc]

Look it this way... their lives are realy really sad if the only thing they can talk about is what other people do that they don't like.

It reminds me of a quotation attributed to one of P.L. Travers' (Mary Poppins) grandchildren that she "died loving no one and with no one loving her."

Alternately, sit out there and loudly comment on their clothes, make up hair cuts, and the way they walk... and then laugh *loudly*

[Barefoot]

I think you may be taking these comments too personally. ..... It's human nature to comment of things like that. I wouldn't take it to heart....your home is decorated to your taste and all that matters is that you like it.

VLM790, I'm sorry that you've been hurt by the comments of people as they walk past your home.
However Happinow is right, don't take it to heart. You love your home and that is the only thing that matters.

[rubicon]

Why are so many people rude and miserable? Seriously, you're retired and living in a beautiful place. Why aren't you happy? Better yet, why are you so darn rude and miserable? When you're walking by my house commenting on my shrubs, lanai furniture or house color ..... I CAN HEAR YOU. I pay my mortgage, you don't. If you don't like the look of my yard or house, don't look at it. But keep your comments to yourself. I may surprise you one day and be rude right back to you!!!

vlm790: When people are critical of you or yours instead of getting offended as painful as it may be, you may first want to analyze what is being said and by whom. I have found this to be so useful for me in separating rude and miserable people from those sharing information that would help me grow and advance and better create

Personal Best Regards:

[Cisco Kid]

I'm dying to know about your shrubs, lanai furniture and house color.
Please post photos.

I have red roses, a porch, rockers , brick & tan.

[tomwed]

That never happens to me now that I can hardly hear.
Count your blessings.

[Walter123]

Where's Dr. Phil when you need him!

[Rango]

Q TIP ( Quit Taking It Personally)

[Walter123]

Q TIP ( Quit Taking It Personally)

I like it and it's something Dr. Phil might say.

[CFrance]

I'm dying to know about your shrubs, lanai furniture and house color.
Please post photos.

I have red roses, a porch, rockers , brick & tan.
I have sparse geraniums, overgrown firecracker bushes, and a container full of dirt that used to house a plant.

[tomwed]

I have sparse geraniums, overgrown firecracker bushes, and a container full of dirt that used to house a plant.
Forgive me for saying, but overgrown firecracker bushes sound awfully dangerous, especially in a drought.

[CFrance]

Forgive me for saying, but overgrown firecracker bushes sound awfully dangerous, especially in a drought.
Good thing we don't smoke.:boom:

[Sanibel7]

I just use this as a mantra when I hear someone ranting who was usually nice or the someone who complains about everything is yapping.. " oh well medications change"

[graciegirl]

What goes around, comes around.

[Wandatime]

It is true; what goes around comes around; also known as the law of attraction, Karma, etc.

Rude, miserable people will attract more rude, miserable people to them. Stay far away as they will poison your spirit.

[tomwed]

What goes around, comes around.
That's what my Uncle Eddie used to always say. Then again, he worked in an amusement park.

[kcrazorbackfan]

"Gloom, despair, and agony on me
Deep, dark depression, excessive misery
If it weren't for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all
Gloom, despair, and agony on me". Buck Owens and Roy Clark - Hee Haw

I actually think I hear some people whistling this tune sometimes through their scowl. :grumpy:

[onslowe]

Those idiots are not representative of The Villages. They are sad, angry and most importantly highly insecure beings. They go through their days always trying to fill the big empty in their minds, and trying to attack others so that they can feel or hope to feel better than you and thus somehow more secure about themselves. Silly, isn't it. Sad, isn't it?

I was sitting in my car outside of Bealls on 441 at ten a.m. and two women with lots of makeup and jewelry walked by me and one said loudly and after looking at my car, "Oh, that reminds me, I have to get my car washed. It looks disgraceful." I couldn't help it - I laughed almost in her face.

These sad souls can and do hurt others feelings. But the time they spend in your head is up to you. They're little people. They don't pay rent to me. They cannot rent space in my mind. If they pass your house regularly, a little sign at the curbside "No Rude Comments Please" will send a fine message.

Best of luck, and remember, as has been said, your house is yours and is the best one in the Villages.

[senior citizen]

Those idiots are not representative of The Villages. They are sad, angry and most importantly highly insecure beings. They go through their days always trying to fill the big empty in their minds, and trying to attack others so that they can feel or hope to feel better than you and thus somehow more secure about themselves. Silly, isn't it. Sad, isn't it?

I was sitting in my car outside of Bealls on 441 at ten a.m. and two women with lots of makeup and jewelry walked by me and one said loudly and after looking at my car, "Oh, that reminds me, I have to get my car washed. It looks disgraceful." I couldn't help it - I laughed almost in her face.

These sad souls can and do hurt others feelings. But the time they spend in your head is up to you. They're little people. They don't pay rent to me. They cannot rent space in my mind. If they pass your house regularly, a little sign at the curbside "No Rude Comments Please" will send a fine message.

Best of luck, and remember, as has been said, your house is yours and is the best one in the Villages.


So true. I would also chalk it up to insecure people who perhaps are "in pain" whether emotionally or physically & have a need to vent. Obviously, the original poster chose to live in a beautiful community with certain standards for attractiveness such as all modern developments abide by.

Up here, we have charming homes alongside more quaint homes alongside really dilapidated older homes........it varies from neighborhood to neighborhood........there's also the "city mouse" standards vs. the "country mouse" standards we have long ago learned to live with............it really works when people are just accepting of others' preferences.

Here is an interesting poem......

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.


Mewlana Jalaluddin Rumi :

[Walt.]

So far we've found out that the commenters are unhappy, rude, miserable, insecure, mean, idiots whose lives are "really sad." Not to worry though... that Karma stuff is going to get 'em. Gonna get 'em good!!
So far nobody has come up with "Maybe the people walking by are renters."
If somebody had posted that there was a messy house with a messy lanai and driveway everyone would be worked up about some low-life messing up the neighborhood.
If a bunch of passersby have commented it's time to step back and take a look.

[xcaligirl]

It's not just their words, I'm tired of people ramming me with their shopping carts and then saying something rude to me when I turn around and look at them (in shock that someone would actually hit someone!). Also, being rude with the way they drive ~ cutting people off, running stop signs, drifting over in the lane and when I've honked at them so they won't hit me, the guy rolled down his window and screamed at me. My goodness, if they are in pain (I'm also in pain!), if they are THAT miserable, they might consider staying in their homes and have a pity party.

[outlaw]

Why are so many people rude and miserable? Seriously, you're retired and living in a beautiful place. Why aren't you happy? Better yet, why are you so darn rude and miserable? When you're walking by my house commenting on my shrubs, lanai furniture or house color ..... I CAN HEAR YOU. I pay my mortgage, you don't. If you don't like the look of my yard or house, don't look at it. But keep your comments to yourself. I may surprise you one day and be rude right back to you!!!

Shame on you for eavesdropping on people's private conversations...teehee

[Bruiser1]

I just use this as a mantra when I hear someone ranting who was usually nice or the someone who complains about everything is yapping.. " oh well medications change"

You also must remember that some people who live by themselves do not realize they are talking out loud or do not realize they can talk in their "quiet voice".

Example of this : while waiting for church to begin; waiting for entertainment to begin at Savannah Center.

[cquick]

I have sparse geraniums, overgrown firecracker bushes, and a container full of dirt that used to house a plant.

you are so lucky to have overgrown firecracker bushes! mine keep dying on me! If you want to split them, I'll be happy to help! :)

[cquick]

I have sparse geraniums, overgrown firecracker bushes, and a container full of dirt that used to house a plant.

If you have overgrown firecracker bushes, I'll help you split them! mine keep dying on me, how I envy overgrown firecracker bushes! I can trade you overgrown candy corn bushes! :)

[cquick]

sorry for the double post

[Cedwards38]

I think many residents of The Villages are afflicted with the "I'm smarter than everyone else and I feel compelled to constantly prove it" disease. I sometimes even feel the symptoms myself, but I work hard to fight them off.

[kcrazorbackfan]

You also must remember that some people who live by themselves do not realize they are talking out loud or do not realize they can talk in their "quiet voice".

Example of this : while waiting for church to begin; waiting for entertainment to begin at Savannah Center.

And, as the OP stated, some are just rude, miserable people THAT. DON'T. CARE. WHAT. THEY. SAY. They would really be rude and miserable if they were having to put up with the cold and snow that my wife and I along with the rest of the the less fortunate people in the mid to north part of the US are having to do.

[gerryann]

My observation regarding the rudeness here in TV involves the wait staff and store clerks. Never in my life have I seen such behavior by adults toward those that are serving them. They absolutely feel that they are better than those taking care of them or they would never be so rude. I find myself being overly friendly because I feel so sorry for them having to put up with this. How miserable people must be in their daily life to feel the need to complain so much about everything.

[graciegirl]

I think many residents of The Villages are afflicted with the "I'm smarter than everyone else and I feel compelled to constantly prove it" disease. I sometimes even feel the symptoms myself, but I work hard to fight them off.


Me too. And I lose the battle way too often, but your gentle reminder will keep me aware for awhile.

[dbussone]

My observation regarding the rudeness here in TV involves the wait staff and store clerks. Never in my life have I seen such behavior by adults toward those that are serving them. They absolutely feel that they are better than those taking care of them or they would never be so rude. I find myself being overly friendly because I feel so sorry for them having to put up with this. How miserable people must be in their daily life to feel the need to complain so much about everything.

I agree for the most part. Fortunately the rude ones are in the minority. I lived in Fort Lauderdale for a few years and the rude rate is much MUCH higher there.

[sunnyatlast]

My observation regarding the rudeness here in TV involves the wait staff and store clerks. Never in my life have I seen such behavior by adults toward those that are serving them. They absolutely feel that they are better than those taking care of them or they would never be so rude. I find myself being overly friendly because I feel so sorry for them having to put up with this. How miserable people must be in their daily life to feel the need to complain so much about everything.

I agree! And the overbearing, "superior" ones who treat wait staff and store clerks like dirt under foot usually have a distinct, foghorn-loud accent that is not southern!!

[senior citizen]

It's not just their words, I'm tired of people ramming me with their shopping carts and then saying something rude to me when I turn around and look at them (in shock that someone would actually hit someone!). Also, being rude with the way they drive ~ cutting people off, running stop signs, drifting over in the lane and when I've honked at them so they won't hit me, the guy rolled down his window and screamed at me. My goodness, if they are in pain (I'm also in pain!), if they are THAT miserable, they might consider staying in their homes and have a pity party.


Might just be on their way to senility? Been there, experienced that.....as per rude elders.

However, it was not in TV.........but in 1994 upon our move to Venice Florida where we bought our beachfront condo.

Our kids having graduated university, moved out of state, married, etc., we sold the family homestead.......at age 49.

Since we had been looking for a "Main Street" type community, this town seemed quite attractive, beautifully laid out, etc. with a real downtown & all the things we were used to in a community with the "plus" of being on the Gulf of Mexico with newly refurbished beach, nice jetties.......close to Sarasota with all of its culture......Ringling museum, etc. Plus, winter home of the Ringling Brothers circus.

As I was pre planning our car reservations at the Sarasota Airport, via the phone, the woman asked me why I had chosen Venice over Sarasota....?

She went on to say that Venice was filled with OLD FOLKS who bumped their shopping carts into you at the supermarket, drove the wrong way on the roads & highways, etc., etc. & were just plain RUDE......actually all of the things you mention above.

I told her we had done our research, visited half a dozen times, thought it was very pretty; laid out nicely as a real town with an Esplanade along the Gulf beach......where the condos were.......plus leading up to it was the main "avenue" with a park up & down the center.......very attractive, nice & long for walking.....a gazebo, etc.......just a pretty town.

It had an antique district up a side street........nice shops.

Well, our home sold faster than we expected......we ended up there sooner than we thought.........during "high season" in December or what you guys call snowbird season.

The rude folks were the elderly.........we were only 49.

After buying a beachfront condo, totally remodeling it from top to bottom........everything new.........we missed our home town & sold it to a lady from Hawaii. Luckily, it sold fast.

Up here, people are too FROZEN to be rude. Plus we know each other going generations back. Also, we know if someone is in the early stages of Alzheimers or dementia....both of which often present or exhibit with belligerence.

Expecting our 5th snowstorm this weekend which they say will last for days & days.......some are saying 3 , some are saying 4 days.

Luckily, our young neighbor kitty corner across from our home, has been excellent re plowing us out with his truck plow.......my hubby hasn't had to use the snowblower once yet this winter. We are fortunate. Looking forward to our spring & summer vacations....so "thinking spring".

Again, I think rude people are not even aware of their own rudeness but may be in some type of physical or emotional pain of their own........& just take it out on whomever is in their path......sad to say.

But, now at age 70......perhaps we are the "very old folks" that the Sarasota clerk was warning us about when we were 49 years young. How time flies; it seems like yesterday. Luckily, all of our neighbors & friends are aging along with us........so will forgive us any lapses of our own in compassion or good manners. The younger neighbors respect us as the "elders" in the neighborhood, as we once respected our own elders....ditto.......who are long gone but fondly remembered.

At times, rude people don't even realize they are being rude.
If one is consciously being rude...then they have a problem that no one can fathom or fix.


EXAMPLE: "it took very little alcohol to make him belligerent, and he became even more thuggish and incoherent when he threw in a few sleeping pills as well. —Christopher Hitchens, New York Times Book Review, 8 Oct. 2000"

"inclined to or exhibiting assertiveness, hostility, or combativeness '
— belligerent noun

[Bay Kid]

All I am saying is give peace a chance.

[Barefoot]

It's not just their words, I'm tired of people ramming me with their shopping carts ......

I've also noticed that happens in The Villages - people behind me in a check out line banging into my ankles.
I always say OUCH because I'm so surprised when it happens.
I don't think it happens on purpose, just inattention, and perhaps older people are just a little more inattentive.
Sometimes I'll get an "I'm sorry". Other times people just back up a little bit so they won't do it again.
It's rude, but in the whole scheme of things, just a small annoyance.

[birdawg]

Look at the bright side you could live in Orlando or Sanford and you would be happy if they talked about your flowers, and you did not have some homie sticking a gun in your face asking for your wallet and jewelry.

[DonH57]

How about the ones who have to be the loudest ones in a country club dining room so loud other diners can't carry on a conversation or enjoy their meal. I'm talking really loud.Most of these people have been imbibing a little too much and or were already half deaf to begin with. Been there, seen that.

[Buffalo Jim]

How about the ones who have to be the loudest ones in a country club dining room so loud other diners can't carry on a conversation or enjoy their meal. I'm talking really loud.Most of these people have been imbibing a little too much and or were already half deaf to begin with. Been there, seen that.


And to further add to your point , I have been considering purchasing a decibel measurement device just to see exactly how loud such people are and what the noise they generate compares to such as a motorcycle , jet engine et al !:ho:

[keywest]

:posting:I agree! And the overbearing, "superior" ones who treat wait staff and store clerks like dirt under foot usually have a distinct, foghorn-loud accent that is not southern!!

:posting:That made me chuckle..... And so true!!

[mgcsooner]

Maybe you're just being over sensitive on the matter. I think it's human nature to look at landscaping jobs people have done and think and share if you like it or not. This is especially true here where the homes in each area are so similar, with similar sized minimal lots, and minimal landscaping to begin, we don't like "ours" to look like everyone else, but at the same time my of us often go looking for ideas as to what we like and don't like before we begin our own efforts.

[kcrazorbackfan]

How about the ones who have to be the loudest ones in a country club dining room so loud other diners can't carry on a conversation or enjoy their meal. I'm talking really loud.Most of these people have been imbibing a little too much and or were already half deaf to begin with. Been there, seen that.

Ha! That reminds me that back the week after Thanksgiving I was in a restaurant and a phone rang about 15' away from me, loudest cell phone ring I've ever heard. That wasn't nothing compared to the speaker on the phone; everyone in that section heard the entire 10 minute conversation. I videotaped about a minute of it on my iPhone and sent it to my wife; she got a good laugh out of it.

[CraigC]

And to further add to your point , I have been considering purchasing a decibel measurement device just to see exactly how loud such people are and what the noise they generate compares to such as a motorcycle , jet engine et al !:ho:

I've had similar thoughts. Maybe a good device for the restaurants would be a decibel meter that flashes red when it detects sounds above a preset level at at the table. Maybe a flashing red light would make some of these loons aware how loud they are. Not sure it would matter though, because it's obvious they could care less how irritating they are to the others and could care less if others think they are losers with no manners.

Most of the really loud patrons are not people with hearing problems, just people who have no consideration for others.

[DonH57]

I've had similar thoughts. Maybe a good device for the restaurants would be a decibel meter that flashes red when it detects sounds above a preset level at at the table. Maybe a flashing red light would make some of these loons aware how loud they are. Not sure it would matter though, because it's obvious they could care less how irritating they are to the others and could care less if others think they are losers with no manners.

Most of the really loud patrons are not people with hearing problems, just people who have no consideration for others.

You are right about that. Some don't have a clue.

[tomwed]

If you look for rude and miserable people on the golf course, Aldi's, Winn Dixie, walking around; you will find them.
I'm still looking, maybe tomorrow.

[xcaligirl]

A small annoyance, very true until someone is bleeding and/or bruised. I think it's not only rude but dangerous with some people running stop signs, changing lanes without looking, etc. I have only been here for 3 months but I finally figured it out ~ shop EARLY in the morning to avoid problems! And honestly it's not only the elderly, a 'young person' about hit me today on 441. I looked over and the person was obviously texting because her head was looking down at her lap. All in all, I love it here!

[JoMar]

And to further add to your point , I have been considering purchasing a decibel measurement device just to see exactly how loud such people are and what the noise they generate compares to such as a motorcycle , jet engine et al !:ho:

There's an app for that :evil6:

[dbussone]

Here's a prayer for all of us as we age:

Lord, Thou knowest better than I know myself that I am growing older and will someday be old. Keep me from the fatal habit of thinking I must say something on every subject and on every occasion. Release me from craving to straighten out everybody's affairs. Make me thoughtful but not moody. Helpful, but not bossy with my vast store of wisdom--it seems a pity not to use it all, but Thou knowest, Lord, that I want a few friends at the end...

Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details; give me wings to get to the point swiftly. Seal my lips on my aches and pains. They are increasing, and love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter as the years go by. I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of others' pains, but help me to endure them with patience. I dare not ask for improved memory, but for a growing humility and a lessening cocksureness when my memory seems to clash with the memories of others. Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be mistaken.


Keep me reasonably sweet; I do not want to be a sour old person--some of them are so hard to live with and each one a crowning work of the devil. Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places, and talents in unexpected people. And, give me, O Lord, the grace to tell them so. Amen.

[Blessed2BNTV]

Here's a prayer for all of us as we age:

Lord, Thou knowest better than I know myself that I am growing older and will someday be old. Keep me from the fatal habit of thinking I must say something on every subject and on every occasion. Release me from craving to straighten out everybody's affairs. Make me thoughtful but not moody. Helpful, but not bossy with my vast store of wisdom--it seems a pity not to use it all, but Thou knowest, Lord, that I want a few friends at the end...

Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details; give me wings to get to the point swiftly. Seal my lips on my aches and pains. They are increasing, and love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter as the years go by. I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of others' pains, but help me to endure them with patience. I dare not ask for improved memory, but for a growing humility and a lessening cocksureness when my memory seems to clash with the memories of others. Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be mistaken.


Keep me reasonably sweet; I do not want to be a sour old person--some of them are so hard to live with and each one a crowning work of the devil. Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places, and talents in unexpected people. And, give me, O Lord, the grace to tell them so. Amen.

Thank you for the wisdom of these words. We are moving my mother here to TV and this will help her. Will also help me as I age.

[kcrazorbackfan]

A small annoyance, very true until someone is bleeding and/or bruised. I think it's not only rude but dangerous with some people running stop signs, changing lanes without looking, etc. I have only been here for 3 months but I finally figured it out ~ shop EARLY in the morning to avoid problems! And honestly it's not only the elderly, a 'young person' about hit me today on 441. I looked over and the person was obviously texting because her head was looking down at her lap. All in all, I love it here!

That happens everywhere. What I've started doing after nearly being hit several times, I'll pull up beside them, roll my window down and after getting their attention, hold my phone up and tell them to quit :censored: texting and driving; sometimes they quit, sometimes I'll get the middle finger salute.

Almost the first thing that most Police Departments do now in all accidents is try and determine if anyone was texting or talking on the phone.

[Dr Winston O Boogie jr]

I was over by Publix on Bichara yesterday during all the madness. A woman began to cross from the parking area to the sidewalk. A guy in a golf cart had stopped at the stop sign and proceeded to go. When he got about 20 yards from the woman he stopped. The woman look at him and began yelling, "You're supposed to stop at that stop sign". The guy just smiled and waved for her to continue crossing. She yells back, "Are you trying to kill me" The guy just smiles and waves again.

As she crosses in front of my cart she scowled at me and says, "Some people are just nasty, aren't they?" She was talking about the guy who did nothing wrong. He had stopped at the stop sign and then stopped well before the spot that she was crossing to let her cross.

I just shook my head. But I had to agree. some people are just nasty.

[gerryann]

Aren't people funny? I guess all one can do is shake their head and hope that they don't become that bitter.

[graciegirl]

Here's a prayer for all of us as we age:

Lord, Thou knowest better than I know myself that I am growing older and will someday be old. Keep me from the fatal habit of thinking I must say something on every subject and on every occasion. Release me from craving to straighten out everybody's affairs. Make me thoughtful but not moody. Helpful, but not bossy with my vast store of wisdom--it seems a pity not to use it all, but Thou knowest, Lord, that I want a few friends at the end...

Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details; give me wings to get to the point swiftly. Seal my lips on my aches and pains. They are increasing, and love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter as the years go by. I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of others' pains, but help me to endure them with patience. I dare not ask for improved memory, but for a growing humility and a lessening cocksureness when my memory seems to clash with the memories of others. Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be mistaken.


Keep me reasonably sweet; I do not want to be a sour old person--some of them are so hard to live with and each one a crowning work of the devil. Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places, and talents in unexpected people. And, give me, O Lord, the grace to tell them so. Amen.

I am printing this and I am going to frame it and try to remember to read it before I log on to this forum. Particularly the highlighted part. Lord, please forgive me.

Thank you Dave.

[dbussone]

I am printing this and I am going to frame it and try to remember to read it before I log on to this forum. Particularly the highlighted part. Lord, please forgive me.

Thank you Dave.

You are most welcome. I wish I could always be true to it,but I will try harder.

[Cisco Kid]

rude and miserable?

In my three visits to TV, the last one three weeks ,I never met anyone that would fit into this group. But then I ooze sweetness, like sap from a Maple tree. To be near me just makes people glow with a goodness they never new thay had. :icon_wink:

[graciegirl]

rude and miserable?

In my three visits to TV, the last one three weeks ,I never met anyone that would fit into this group. But then I ooze sweetness, like sap from a Maple tree. To be near me just makes people glow with a goodness they never new thay had. :icon_wink:

Yeah, well, I am bitter you didn't bring Lulu and Chloe to MY house to visit.

Yesterday, Ollie came to see us.

[Cisco Kid]

Yeah, well, I am bitter you didn't bring Lulu and Chloe to MY house to visit.

Yesterday, Ollie came to see us.

Be careful what you wish for. :icon_wink:

[Wandatime]

My observation regarding the rudeness here in TV involves the wait staff and store clerks. Never in my life have I seen such behavior by adults toward those that are serving them. They absolutely feel that they are better than those taking care of them or they would never be so rude. I find myself being overly friendly because I feel so sorry for them having to put up with this. How miserable people must be in their daily life to feel the need to complain so much about everything.

I've seen this happen both here and when I worked in corporateworld. Business people giving service workers attitude. They are too dumb to figure out that their attitude is getting them less, not more.

I can not tell you how many times in corporateworld I got upgraded on planes and hotel rooms because I was friendly to the service workers.

Kindness always gets more than rudeness. That person behind the counter wants to help a kind, friendly person. They want to avoid a rude, mean person.

[maryanna630]

I am with ya, Gracie. Sometimes I just need to LET IT GO!!!

[Barefoot]

Here's a prayer for all of us as we age:

Lord, Thou knowest better than I know myself that I am growing older and will someday be old. Keep me from the fatal habit of thinking I must say something on every subject and on every occasion. Release me from craving to straighten out everybody's affairs. Make me thoughtful but not moody. Helpful, but not bossy with my vast store of wisdom--it seems a pity not to use it all, but Thou knowest, Lord, that I want a few friends at the end...

Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details; give me wings to get to the point swiftly. Seal my lips on my aches and pains. They are increasing, and love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter as the years go by. I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of others' pains, but help me to endure them with patience. I dare not ask for improved memory, but for a growing humility and a lessening cocksureness when my memory seems to clash with the memories of others. Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be mistaken.


Keep me reasonably sweet; I do not want to be a sour old person--some of them are so hard to live with and each one a crowning work of the devil. Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places, and talents in unexpected people. And, give me, O Lord, the grace to tell them so. Amen.

Beautiful. We all need to read this every morning.


rude and miserable?

In my three visits to TV, the last one three weeks ,I never met anyone that would fit into this group. But then I ooze sweetness, like sap from a Maple tree. To be near me just makes people glow with a goodness they never knew they had.

It's true that sweetness oozes when you're around, and people glow with goodness.
But I always thought the sweetness came from Lulu. :doggie:
And your lovely wife is pretty special also.

[Miles42]

There is a likely hood these folks have been that way all their life.

[2BNTV]

Rude, miserable people are vexations to one's soul. They don't have a clue they are that way and think other people think, as they do.

To the guy in the square when beautiful music was playing and was talking so loud, half of the square could hear him. Pluuuuuueeeeeaaaaaaassssseeeeeee, what you had to say didn't come out in tablet form and it ruined what should have been an enjoyable experience for those in the immediate area and beyond.

I have a hearing loss but some people talking, eeeerrrr, shouting at the person next to them. One could hear them form across a room.

Sometimes, it's a good thing to remind oneself of:

"forgive them father, for they do not know, what they do".

[happy4477]

I understand your frustration. My daughter just got her first job at Walmart in The Villages as a cashier. She's an excellent employee. She works hard and is always polite and respectful even when she is being called everything from STUPID to a PIECE OF GARBAGE by customers. Some of these older people think they can do and say anything they want. They sound childish and they should be ashamed of their behavior.