Singles ??

[ConeyIsBabe]

For a couple of months I've noticed that the SINGLES FORUM has been eliminated and I guessed it was for lack of posting there. Still, it was a resource for topics relating to singles' activities and lifestyle.

I know singles are a small minority in TV but don't understand the absence of TOTV participation :dontknow:

[mfp509]

I wouldn't consider singles a small minority - it's more than you would think. There are many singles clubs and I belong to a single women's club that is for single, divorced, widows etc. Our first meeting had about 45 women and is now around 200. We do all sorts of activities - just had a potluck dinner the other night and will not meet for the next 2 months. We will resume in September but there are still activities going on. We are the Single Sports Social Women's Club (we never did think of a better name) but it is not sports oriented.

[PJ]

CIB I'm disappointed too that the Singles Forum was eliminated. I wonder why.

I thought TOTV was attempting to take up the slack, or help improve things for us here in TV. We singles are aware that The Villages caters to and prefers couples. I recognized that when my Lifestyle visit for just me was the same price as for a couple. Now it looks like TV is not having the Singles Dances each month. Yes they were not always well-attended, but we made suggestions for improvements (better music, more central location, etc) and we're still waiting for them to implement those improvements. Instead they canceled the dances. Do they want all the singles to leave, or just keep out of sight?

If we can't have a singles forum, I guess we could have a singles thread. However it would keep subjects/topics better organized if we could get our forum back IMHO.

[ConeyIsBabe]

mfp & pj.......... THANKS for your input; I'm sorry to hear about the singles' dances cancelled. Since I'm only a " TV wannabee" I really have no right to complain but I am a potential buyer, when/IF my Oregon property ever sells.

Still, I would be an active participant in the singles' activities (when I move to TV in the future) and I'm interested in reading about their activities now.

[samhass]

Coney, You could and have started a singles thread. Keep giving it a bump so it will be close to the top.

[dianerk]

Yes, please someone start a thread. I'm new to this site.

[ConeyIsBabe]

Samhass.......... THANKS for the encouragement. Now, let's see if we can have a

SINGLES ROLL-CALL, please :bigthumbsup:

[PJ]

Well this can be it (the singles' thread) but as I mentioned, we could more easily keep subjects/topics better organized and categorized if we could get our forum back. Please? When one subject continues forever, as some in the fem forum do, there's more rambling and topic switching, fine if that's what everyone wants. Just makes it harder to follow and keep up I think, and not waste time plowing thru subjects that may not interest you. IMHO

I LOVE living here. I'd love it more IF:

1. We had our own Singles' forum.
2. Singles were considered important and treated the same as couples whenever possible.
3. TV would provide a couple of tables designated for single dancers w/out partners at all Villages dances, and would advertise this in the Rec. schedule, so all would know we are welcome at all the dances (IF we are welcome).
4. I could find a tall experienced ballroom dancer guy, any volunteers please pm me. (LOL fat chance!)

[samhass]

PJ, I think a singles forum should be in place. But for the grace of God, we could all be single at any time. A support network in place would be a wonderful thing.

[PJ]

Samhass, that's a great idea I hadn't thought of. A support network would be so good to have in place, ready when needed.

It's sad to think about, but as you said, couples don't know when they could become single. I think I'm still reverberating from the effects of becoming single. Sometimes the feelings feel raw again, long after I imagine they're gone and I'm just so fine, something triggers it.

[samhass]

PJ, I doubt there is an easy way to "become" single when you have loved someone. I think it will be critical for us all to have loving friends around to help us overcome the grief and loneliness of that time.

[Muncle]

Shingles is caused by the same virus that causes chickenpox. Once a person has had chickenpox, the virus can live, but remain inactive, in your body. If it becomes active again, usually later in life, it can cause Shingles. If you've had chickenpox, . . . oooh, this is about Singles, not Shingles. Sorry about that.

[PJ]

Thanx Muncle, I can always count on you for a good chuckle!
Nitey-nite!
PJ

[dianerk]

Single (not by choice) support is one of a very few areas lacking in our wonderful community. Aside from the churches and hospice, there is little else available (to my knowledge). Any ideas?

[samhass]

Muncle, You are a trip. Be well, friend.






Shingles is caused by the same virus that causes chickenpox. Once a person has had chickenpox, the virus can live, but remain inactive, in your body. If it becomes active again, usually later in life, it can cause Shingles. If you've had chickenpox, . . . oooh, this is about Singles, not Shingles. Sorry about that.

[samhass]

JB'sMom..that really is some bad hair. 1rnfl Welcome to TOTV. :welcome: You will find some pretty cool people on this site. As my real world friend, you'll be shocked to find that I'm considered a bit of a rabblerouser on this site. Who'd have guessed, huh?? ;D Welcome again, dear friend.

[angel222]

I am so disappointed....I have been looking forward to visiting TV this summer as a possible new home but I am a widow. I was so hoping this was a place where being single was not considered a disease! After reading your info I feel really let down. Are singles really looked upon as not wanted??? Being single is not always a choice..... My children live in three different states and I was hoping to relocate in Florida to begin a new life.

Please reply if I should look elsewhere for a new beginning....

Thanks for any info

[DickY]

There are several singles clubs in The Villages that meet regularly and have activities for the whole month. A look at the club listings and in the recreational supplement of Thursday's Daily Sun has the listings. Under the recreation tab on The Villages web site they have that supplement in pdf format. With the number of members on TOTV increasing a singles forum might be ready to take off now.

[nONIE]

Sam,

Truer words were never spoken regarding any one of us becomming single at any time.

I do believe there are support groups for widowed, and divorced ,I hope someone can tell you how to contact them.

Also I know a very special lady that holds a support class for singles. Im not sure if it is in session for the summer. Give her a call: Vera Coulson 352-259-3707

[redwitch]

angel, I'm a single, have joined no singles clubs and am relatively busy with friends, neighbors, TOTVers. It really is more a matter of finding your interests and going from there.

There is no question that couples out number singles but they don't usually exclude the singles. I've gone to dinner with 1-4 couples, been the only single person in the group and was very much included. I play bridge and there is no problem being a single there, just find a partner and away we go. There's lots of line dancing in the squares, so dancing is not a problem. Even if you don't line dance, you can go to the dance floor alone, with a member of the opposite sex or member of the same sex. No one cares. There are many activities where couples go their separate ways -- the male might go play golf, the woman mah-jong. The one place that being single does seem to be a true negative is in peoples' homes. Couples seem to congregate together for dinner and a night of cards, etc. So, it pays to find singles with your interests.

Don't worry, being single doesn't exclude you.

[swrinfla]

angel:

This single, widowed male's perspective is, as Red said, that you make what you want of your status.

I hesitate to join any "singles" group for some slight fear that they're only match-making ploys! On the other hand, some of the groups have what sound to be interesting programs, where your singularity is not ever a problem!

Every now and then, when I go to some "social club's" function, I feel a little uncomfortable about joining a particular table because there's already a couple or two there - and maybe I'll be a fifth wheel. Usually, I shouldn't have worried.

Same holds true when I travel. Many, many travelers on land tours are couples. But, there's almost always at least one other single - though the couples are happy to have a single join them!

Bottom line: DO NOT BE AFRAID. Come join us here in TV. If nothing else you and Red and I can hang out!!!!!! :joke:

SWR

[dianerk]

Hi, Angel,
Don't be discouraged from moving to TV -- you will just have to work harder when making friends and establishing your support network. BUT, there are many wonderful people here who do not care if you are "one" or "one of two."

[barb1191]

In 2002 I moved to TV from MA, had been single for 30+ years and retired from a successful career for thirty yrs in program management which I had retired from about ten years before the move South.

It took some time to get used to the social single life and altho I dated quite a bit, there was no "Mr Wonderful" that swept me off my feet. (Incurable romantic, I am.)

Upon moving to TV, not knowing anybody, I found the neighbors to be extremely friendly and socially embracing newbies as one of the gang in the hood. I attended their monthly meetings, played bocci, took line-dancing lessons, dated a few times but nothing "took."

When out of the blue, I happen to meet this guy Bill online. I had a profile placed in one of the internet singles website. He saw my profile and IMd me. We clicked while IMing and we met for dinner at Spanish Springs the next day. I immediately found my "Mr Wonderful." We really hit it off and from then on we were a twosome and married two years later.

Why wait two years to marry? We lived together for about a year and I would have never bothered to marry except for the fact that Bill, being a retired military man, had a fabulous health coverage which included spouses. My coverage was in MA and an HMO which FL frowns upon. Yes, we married for me to have his super duper health package.

We've been married for two years now and, after a period of adjustment, we both are two happy campers. He sure was worth waiting thirty years for! I had no intentions of ever marrying again after experiencing a very tumultous attempt at it.

I share this story with you singles to encourage you that you could possibly move here single, however, you never know when that Mr Wonderful will step into your life. And, if he doesn't show up, it's up to YOU to ensure happiness in all of the opportunities presented to you here in TV. There's so many activities that are not all couple oriented; go for it! If you don't enjoy TV, then it's YOUR fault.

barb

[jmemc46]

Hello To All Singles in TV,
I too am planning to move to TV when my house sells up north.I have never been concerned about being single I can relate to almost anyone
single or married. I am sorry to hear about the singles forum being disco. I enjoyed reading it. It seems to me that there will be alot more singles when we all sell,but if we stick together I feel we can start something up again. Have faith,
jmemc

[tony]

Shouldn't this kind of discussion be taking place in the Singles board?
;D ;D ;D

[redwitch]

Hey, Tony ............ :-*

[islandgal]

:clap2: Thank you, Tony!!! 040

[ConeyIsBabe]

THANKS tony; perhaps it would be appropriate to move this thread over to its new home???? :bigthumbsup:

[kit9240]

I'm also a single TV wannabe. I hope to be in TV in about 1-1/2 yrs. I noticed that very few singles post on the singles site. I'm not sure why, but I know there are many single villagers. I hope now that the singles forum has been reinstated, we will hear from more singles. I know you are out there!! I would love to hear more about your experiences as a single in TV.

I have visited TV twice and have found EVERYONE very friendly! I wish I had been there for TOTV luncheon. It would be nice to know some people before moving there! TOTV is a great place to meet people! Thank you all! I've learned so much! Can't wait to be there!

[ConeyIsBabe]

kit9240........ YES, I agree with you about making friends before even moving to TV. This Forum could be a great resource for doing just that ;D

To me (somewhat on the shy side) it is so daunting to walk into a singles meeting attended by many, many people who mostly know each other and are involved in their own conversations, etc. Sometimes there is a "welcome table" and some people are open to accepting a newbie BUT it still is a daunting event.

It would be very interesting to hear from people who already belong to some of the TV Singles Clubs.... and tell us about their recent activities, trips, experiences, etc.

[tkret]

In 2002 I moved to TV from MA, had been single for 30+ years and retired from a successful career for thirty yrs in program management which I had retired from about ten years before the move South.

It took some time to get used to the social single life and altho I dated quite a bit, there was no "Mr Wonderful" that swept me off my feet. (Incurable romantic, I am.)

Upon moving to TV, not knowing anybody, I found the neighbors to be extremely friendly and socially embracing newbies as one of the gang in the hood. I attended their monthly meetings, played bocci, took line-dancing lessons, dated a few times but nothing "took."

When out of the blue, I happen to meet this guy Bill online. I had a profile placed in one of the internet singles website. He saw my profile and IMd me. We clicked while IMing and we met for dinner at Spanish Springs the next day. I immediately found my "Mr Wonderful." We really hit it off and from then on we were a twosome and married two years later.

Why wait two years to marry? We lived together for about a year and I would have never bothered to marry except for the fact that Bill, being a retired military man, had a fabulous health coverage which included spouses. My coverage was in MA and an HMO which FL frowns upon. Yes, we married for me to have his super duper health package.

We've been married for two years now and, after a period of adjustment, we both are two happy campers. He sure was worth waiting thirty years for! I had no intentions of ever marrying again after experiencing a very tumultous attempt at it.

I share this story with you singles to encourage you that you could possibly move here single, however, you never know when that Mr Wonderful will step into your life. And, if he doesn't show up, it's up to YOU to ensure happiness in all of the opportunities presented to you here in TV. There's so many activities that are not all couple oriented; go for it! If you don't enjoy TV, then it's YOUR fault.

barb



Barb (and Bill),
I just read your posting from mid-June and wanted to thank you sharing your happy experience. Also noted that you took line-dancing lessons (which I will do once I arrive) and was curious if Mr. Wonderful is a line-dancer, too. Your posting gives encouragement to the Singles out there who are heading your way to be Villagers. From the videos to the printed word advertisements, sometimes a Single future resident may think they'll be the ONLY one unattached in TV. Of course, TV is just like any other community; only better!

Noticed your New England "past"... sure hope Bill is a Red Sox fan and not a Yankees' fan... otherwise, oh my gosh I DON'T EVEN want to think about it. Hey, much continued happiness to you both. :bigthumbsup:

[wilt2448]

Haven't made it to the Villages yet for a visit but hope to do that soon. I plan to be on the golf courses during the daytime and dancing at night.

Wilt

[ConeyIsBabe]

BUMP - Summer's over. Wuzzup Singles ???

[PGB]

I moved here in June. I am from VA, love to dance and have a good time with friends. If 62 going on 35 sounds too old for anyone, oh well. Found a few single friends, joined a work out program, HOG Club and have the best neighbors ever. I am getting a divoice after 43 years of marriage, my choice and love being here. Not looking for Mr. Wonderful but am looking for a friend that has HD Motorcycle and is looking for someone to ride with him. So if that guy is available, would like to meet you.
This is the first time I have replied to a forum like this so I guess I'll see what happens from here.
Thanks for the fun conversations and information passed on here.
PGB

[tkret]

bump

Hi Coney .... wazzup and how is Handsome Jack doing these days. Are you keeping him on a tight lease? 1rnfl They' shut down Astroland Amusment Park in Coney Island so you will never, again, be able to go into the Tunnel of Love.

[ConeyIsBabe]

Hi PGB wav :welcome:
I'm envious that you are already living in TV and enjoying the fun lifestyle ! I hope you keep posting to keep us "wannabees" motivated ! It doesn't look like I'll be visiting TV this year; perhaps next spring :dontknow:

Hi tkret wav .....
That's too bad about Astroland; but I don't have many memories about it. My years of hanging out in Coney Island go back to when I was around 14 years old so that must have been in the early 50s. (Opps...... giving away my age). Was Astroland Park even there back then ? If so, maybe I couldn't afford the admission price at age 14 :dontknow:

[diskman]

SENIOR DATING









Dorothy and Edna, two "senior" widows, are talking.





Dorothy: "That nice George Johnson asked me out for a date. I know
you went out with him last week, and I wanted to talk with you about
him before I give him my answer."





Edna: "Well, I'll tell you. He shows up at my apartment punctually at
7 P.M., dressed like such a gentleman in a fine suit, and he brings me
such beautiful flowers! Then he takes me downstairs, and what's there
but a luxury car... a limousine, uniformed chauffeur and all. Then he
takes me out for dinner... a marvelous dinner... lobster, champagne,
dessert, and after-dinner drinks. Then we go see a show. Let me tell
you,





Dorothy, I enjoyed it so much I could have just died from pleasure! So
then we are coming back to my apartment and he turns into an ANIMAL.
Completely crazy, he tears off my expensive new dress and has his way
with me two times!"





Dorothy: "Goodness gracious!... so you are te
lling me I shouldn't go
out with him?"





Edna: "No, no, no... I'm just saying, wear an old dress."

[ConeyIsBabe]

I don't know whether to :1rotfl: or :rolleyes:

Thanks a bunch :clap2: