Calling All Single Peeps .........

[ConeyIsBabe]

Admin has restored the Singles Forum so I was thinking........ so we don't get booted off again for lack of participation ...... in an effort to stimulate some more forum participation - how 'bout if each of us starts a new topic relating to single life in TV -- or single life in general -- support -- club activities -- etc. ;D

[tkret]

CIBabe
Good suggestion. Here's hoping that some of the Singles/Unattached/whatevers take you up on the offer. Although I am not, yet, a Villager (will be soon, though), it is obvious to me from visiting TV that there are enough of you (us) to have some interesting banter on this forum. The Villages Singles Club has a nice website (not updated too often) and their activities appear to be fun-filled. Their "Sunshine Outreach" branch is something that I would certainly participate in when I relocate to TV. Check out http://www.thevillagessinglesclub.org and then view the "Committees" link.

BTW - what Bronx HS?

[ConeyIsBabe]

tkret........ thanks for your support & suggestion.

I'm also a "wannabee" but not having any luck with my Oregon home/property on the market. However, when the time comes for me to be able to live in TV..... I would feel so much more comfortable having already made contact with and knowing exactly what my options are for making new friends. It's always daunting when moving to a new place and knowing nobody, especially as a single person without the support of a spouse.

I've already learned from this forum about the "Single Sports Social Womens Club" which sounds like a great outlet for activities and new friends, not just singles.

So, peeps......... start a new topic in this Singles Forum to keep it going ;D

P.S. Graduated from Wm. H. Taft HS in '56

[jmemc46]

I to am a wannabee,soon I hope I am retiring, this Saturday the 28 is my last day of work. I too like the singles forum and hope it stays. I know there was some function I will attened when I get there. I have alot of couples friends here at home, but would like to do things with singles also. Live in Ma. went to high school in Dedham,Ma It would be funny if I met up with someone I knew from school,does that happen in TV that you know of. jmemc

[tkret]

ConeyIsBabe,
No doubt about it, you are correct when you state that "it's always daunting when moving to anew place and knowing nobody, especially as a single person". However, from what I have witnessed as a visitor, The Villages is a wonderfully friendly place where you should have NO problem making new friends rather quickly. Afterall, you've already begun doing just that.
Make sure you take Pickleball lessons because it's a fun sport. If you can line dance, that's a great way to introduce yourself and if you can't line dance there are lessons waiting for you. As a born and bred New Yorker, you can always sign up for the stickball games ... and just think, no cops to worry about. Now, now, don't say you can't hit a spalding with a broom handle.... of course you can and if not it's still a nice way to introduce yourself.

Yes, TV IS a special place where getting acquainted is easier than finding Nathan's in Coney. Keep in mind that residents of The Villages are the friendliest folk in the friendliest place.

But, I wonder if you're going to miss the dungeness crab of the Pacific Northwest. Yum-o as Rachel Ray says.

[ConeyIsBabe]

jmemc......... CONGRATULATIONS on your retirement! :bigthumbsup:

I retired when I turned 60 - it was my birthday present to myself!! ;D

[ConeyIsBabe]

tkret...... unfortunately, 18 years of sitting at a desk job (in Miami) and not being active in sports has left me with knees & a back that are not strong enough for Pickleball or Stickball. However, what I like about TV life is that there are so many other options for anyone who is not athletic...... the swimming pools, taking classes at the learning center, taking trips with friends, eating out ......... Are there any sailing clubs in TV? ;D

And, I now live in a valley, in southern Oregon where fresh dungeness crab are not available (like in San Francisco) :'(. Another reason I want to relocate back to Florida is for the ocean only a 2-hour drive from TV.

[barb1191]

I to am a wannabee,soon I hope I am retiring, this Saturday the 28 is my last day of work. I too like the singles forum and hope it stays. I know there was some function I will attened when I get there. I have alot of couples friends here at home, but would like to do things with singles also. Live in Ma. went to high school in Dedham,Ma It would be funny if I met up with someone I knew from school,does that happen in TV that you know of. jmemc


I graduated from Lexington HS in MA. Moved to TV and found there was one classmate and one of my teachers that lived in TV. The teacher has since passed away and the classmate's wife passed away and he moved to another state to be with family.

My cousin lived in Dedham, MA after he married a native of the town. His wife Ginny (maiden name Cameron) attended school there. They had a kennel business for many years (home bred pups).

It's very likely that you may meet up with people you know, especially if you join the Southern MA club they have in TV. I understand that it's quite a large group. Since I'm from north of Boston and you're from south of Boston, you're more likely to meet people you know than I would.

best, barb

[tkret]

tkret...... unfortunately, 18 years of sitting at a desk job (in Miami) and not being active in sports has left me with knees & a back that are not strong enough for Pickleball or Stickball. However, what I like about TV life is that there are so many other options for anyone who is not athletic...... the swimming pools, taking classes at the learning center, taking trips with friends, eating out


Hello, again, ConeyIsBabe,
I'm sure that you have already checked out the following link; but, if not, check this out and see ALL the different activities available for residents:

http://thevillagesdailysun.com/content/current/sections/recnews.pdf

If this link doesn't work, go onto the Daily Sun website and on the left hand side click on "Recreation New" and there are about 20 or more pages of rec news and activities.

In addition, just about anyone can enjoy bocce. It's very easy and a great way to converse with others while your teammates or opponents are rolling away. I know of a few people who made long-lasting relationships with others because of signing up for the bocce games.

I surely hope your place sells soon and that you can follow your dreams to TV. Good luck.

[nannie]

HI All !

Just joined today, hoping to be in TV by Oct. I sent two emails to the MA residents as I'm from Danvers, MA. Let's start a Northern MA group!

My house has an offer,inspection was yesterday and hoping no revisions $$$ to offer or I may gamble in this game and refuse any price reduction if it is a cosmetic issue. Time will tell ...

Look forward to getting down there and having some fun and be debt free from the first time since HS! Being a single parent most of my adult life sure puts a burden on the pocketbook! I love my Boston Prof. sports teams, all things Patriots, Red Sox, and Celtics, BC for colleges also. I'm just a lifer when it comes to watching them.

Hope to meet with you when I arrive! Barb, aka nannie

[tkret]

Way to go Nannie!! Congratulations on selling your home. I think we may end up with a goodly number of singles before too long. And, of course, there are plenty of Singles clubs in The Villages.

Hey, not so sure if they sell "Skybars" in TV.... so, bring some down there.

I expect to be a resident within 9 months.

Congrats, again, and good luck with the move.

[ConeyIsBabe]

Barb /aka Nannie ........ Congrats on your offer! I hope you get your price.

I'm still not having much luck or interest in my FSBO, so I'll continue being a wannabee and live vicariously through all y'all's TV experiences ::)

It seems like most of the responders to this Singles Forum are from other wannabees. Before the old Singles Forum was dumped, I asked the question "where are all the TV singles"? cuz they weren't contributing to this forum. One response was that they're out having fun ! Still, it would be great to hear from them about some of the actual activities/outings/etc. If anything, it will inspire us single wannabees to get to TV sooner !

[DickY]

As a single and living full time in The Villages for 2 and a half months here are some of the things I have done in that time. I live in the village of Duval and have joined 3 social clubs that are Duval specific. I have gone to the regular monthly socials and met neighbors and have made friends with other Villagers, so far mostly couples, I have joined the Sumter Singles Club and have played in the single scrambles and luncheon after meeting other singles. I have attended the meetings of the club and am meeting other singles. here is their web site http://www.sumtersingles.org/index.html I will be attending other activities of the club. I have gone to see the shuttle launch with other singles. I get together with other TOTVers for dinner, lunch, and town square and KB entertainment. I think in the time I have been here I have gone out and socialized nore than I did the last five years when I was working, and this is because I have made the effort and put myself out there to participate in life.

[redwitch]

Let's see -- last week: Played bridge with different partners three times; went over a friend's house for dinner; ran around checking homes, putting together beds, picking up golf carts, weeding, walking a dog and feeding a cat for clients; went to LSL with DickY to meet TOTVers for Johnny and the Rockets; went to SS with a buddy just to goof around; lounged at home all day Saturday; went to dinner and played games with friends on Saturday night; went riding around on my scooter just for the fun of it.

Basically, I do things with singles and with couples. If I'm invited to something that doesn't particularly interest me, I don't go. I my friends mention they are doing something that I would enjoy, I will ask them if I can become a fifth wheel. Sometimes the answer is yes, sometimes it is no. Either answer is fine and either way I find ways to enjoy myself.

I have told DickY he has to drag me to a singles club meeting. The only way I'm going to go to one but also something I think would be good for me. (In case anyone is starting to get the wrong idea, DickY and I are friends. Nothing more but if some single lady is interested I'd recommend her going for it. He's a nice guy.)

I've been here since last September. I haven't dated unless a very sweet breakfast with a very nice gentleman counted as a date. Heck, I haven't even danced with a male since living here but I have danced quite a bit. I have had some great times and some things that will be part of my memory forever (like the shuttle launch, driving down Buena Vista and having to stop because the sand cranes had taken over the road and weren't moving for love nor money, dinner with a dear friend and her husband, the TOTV get together where Kathie tried to kill me, etc.). None of these events were due to me being single. They all, however, were due to me be willing to go out alone, ask others to join me or just be willing to go.

I have met some very unhappy singles here. Every one of them had one thing in common -- they would only do something if they were specifically invited to join. It has meant many days and evenings home alone for them. If I'm home alone, it is my choice. I know darn well I can go to the squares and just sit and listen to music. If I want to dance, I can get up and join a group of women on the dance floor (so far, no one has told me to go away when I do this). I can walk around one of the many ponds and enjoy the nature I see there. I can sit on my lanai and enjoy my neighbors walking their dogs.

I have said this before and I'll say it again. Since moving to TV, I have yet to go a day without smiling at something.

Being single is only an impediment if you make it one.

[tkret]

DickY,

What a great website your provided! Sounds (and looks) like a wonderful group for the Singles Crowd. Must a member be a resident of Sumter County?

So, only two and a half months as a Villager. Sure sounds like you've been there a lot longer. Good for you and continue to have a great time.

[DickY]

As far as I know you just have to be a single villager to be a member. There is another Villages single club that meets on the North side of 466. Their calendar is not up to date so not sure about it. http://thevillagessinglesclub.org/

[tkret]

As far as I know you just have to be a single villager to be a member. There is another Villages single club that meets on the North side of 466. Their calendar is not up to date so not sure about it. http://thevillagessinglesclub.org/


Thanks for the info DickY. When I relocate I will contact the Club whether I'm in Sumter County or not. Really enjoyed reading about your participation in TV.... well done!

[jmemc46]

Hi ConeyIsBabe,
Thank you, I also retired on my birthday. Is't it frustrating waiting for your house to sell.I am so ready to move to TV. My mother was born in Brooklyn. I have only lived in Ma. so this move is big for me. I have been a single Mom for a long time. and now I want to do something different. Iwant to enjoy the rest of my life,and I think TV is that place.
The people there seem to be all so friendly and enjoy life.
Hope to see you when we get there.
jmemc

[PJ]

I believe the Villages Singles club has dropped their old website, and has this one now:
http://www.freewebs.com/thevillagessinglesclub/calendarofevents.htm

(I'm not sure why they changed it.)

Next mtg is Monday July 7 6:30 at La Hacienda, and is a pot luck dinner.
I think you can either bring a dish to share or pay something (maybe $5.00? not sure about that)

New members can register and are welcome! Any questions - the officers names & phone numbers are listed on the site.

[tkret]

I believe the Villages Singles club has dropped their old website, and has this one now:
http://www.freewebs.com/thevillagessinglesclub/calendarofevents.htm

(I'm not sure why they changed it.)

Next mtg is Monday July 7 6:30 at La Hacienda, and is a pot luck dinner.
I think you can either bring a dish to share or pay something (maybe $5.00? not sure about that)

New members can register and are welcome! Any questions - the officers names & phone numbers are listed on the site.


Hello PJ,
thank you for giving us the new website. I had been wondering what happened to it when I could no longer access it on the web. The new site looks great and thanks, also, for the information relating to the meetings. Before too long I'll be joining if they'll have me! ;D

[tkret]

DickY

I checked out the bylaws for Sumter Singles on their website

( http://www.sumtersingles.org/index.html )

and you are correct that the club is open to all singles residing in The Villages.

Thanks, again, for posting the website.

[moose60061]

tkret........ thanks for your support & suggestion.

I'm also a "wannabee" but not having any luck with my Oregon home/property on the market. However, when the time comes for me to be able to live in TV..... I would feel so much more comfortable having already made contact with and knowing exactly what my options are for making new friends. It's always daunting when moving to a new place and knowing nobody, especially as a single person without the support of a spouse.

I've already learned from this forum about the "Single Sports Social Womens Club" which sounds like a great outlet for activities and new friends, not just singles.

So, peeps......... start a new topic in this Singles Forum to keep it going ;D

P.S. Graduated from Wm. H. Taft HS in '56

ConeyIsBabe,
I was wondering if you have given any thought to maybe turning your home over to a realtor to try that avenue for a sale ??
Tom

[ConeyIsBabe]

Moose....... I HAVE consulted a realtor from Help-U-Sell who suggested my "asking price" start at 450k, so I made a feeble attempt at a FSBO with a 30-day ad in the local paper and 2 internet sites, with no results.

The huge problem I'm facing is a glut of homes on the market in my area and the median sales price is around 250k. Most people are looking for CHEAP and are not willing to spend more for quality, charm & character -which my property offers. I've decided to hang out for another winter in the frozen tundra and when I'm really desperate I'll sign up with a realtor and ask a more realistic price, however I won't sell for less than I paid, regardless of the market. :dontknow: BAD TIMING ::)

[moose60061]

Moose....... I HAVE consulted a realtor from Help-U-Sell who suggested my "asking price" start at 450k, so I made a feeble attempt at a FSBO with a 30-day ad in the local paper and 2 internet sites, with no results.

The huge problem I'm facing is a glut of homes on the market in my area and the median sales price is around 250k. Most people are looking for CHEAP and are not willing to spend more for quality, charm & character -which my property offers. I've decided to hang out for another winter in the frozen tundra and when I'm really desperate I'll sign up with a realtor and ask a more realistic price, however I won't sell for less than I paid, regardless of the market. :dontknow: BAD TIMING ::)


Here is a solution! Go to the lender and get a 100% loan, then make one payment (to avoid fraud charges) and then just walk away. LOL, ok just kidding but its a scene being repeated time and again these days as some people discover they owe more on their house than they can get for it, thus they "can't afford to sell". Most prevalent of course in California, Miami Metro, and Las Vegas.

[ConeyIsBabe]

BUMP !

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v202/rosarobin/wackySmiley.gif

It's kinda quiet in the Singles Forum lately. Whatcha'all singles up to ? It's very hot & dry in my area.

Yesterday I Rode the Rogue on a jetboat and that was very FUN! If you wanna know what a jetboat is .... go to hellgate.com and check it out. The next time you visit s/Oregon you must ride the jetboats :bigthumbsup:

[tkret]

Hi CIBabe and all others,

I've been off the TOTV because I am currently in the Adirondack Mts at Long Lake. cell phone service is non-existant and the internet is only available when I can locate a WiFi.

Hope all is doing just great. Looks like I have a buyer for my home. Inspection went very well with NO additional corrections or improvements to be made. All parties are in agreement that a closing will take place next month.

So, ConeyIsBabe, instead of you holding a seat open for me at Town Square and the Singles' Clubs meetings, it looks like I'll have the pleasure of doing that for you.

Will soon be changing my sign-on from "Tkret" to "Gene" . Will "speak" soon if I can get another internet connection this week. The place is absolutely beautiful and I've got a great cabin right on the water's edge...in fact, that's the name of the joint, "The Water's Edge".
Take care of yourselves and really looking forward to meeting you all in person some day!

[ConeyIsBabe]

tkret/Gene......... CONGRATULATIONS on the sale of your home, I'm so happy for you and I hope the closing goes well!

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Please keep us informed of your progress up to becomming a TV resident and of life in TV thereafter.
I shall live vicariously through your reports ;)

[PJ]

:welcome: :welcome: :welcome:
tkret/Gene,
Congrats for getting a buyer for your house! That's quite an accomplishment in this market.

CIB, I hope you get a buyer soon also!

[bestmickey]

tkret, CONGRATS on selling your home! The Adirondacks...I'm going to miss them when I move. Will you? Do you live in New York? I'm in Albany.

[tkret]

Greetings bestmickey, PJ, and, of course, CIBabe, and everyone

I had to cut my trip short because my dog (chow/shepherd mix) suffered an injury and I wanted to return to the southern part of NYS and have the vet take a look-see. It appears that he has torn ligaments but will recover. The poor guy is 15 years old and he slipped on some wet outdoor stairs falling back down the stairs. I sought out a vet at Long Lake but there was none and the closest was 22 miles away and not in the office for a couple of days. So, I thought it best to make the 5 hour trip back home. After some pain relievers and some arthritis medicine he is doing much better today. An examination showed no fractures or serious injury. He's always been such a mellow-fellow that I've referred to him as "the Will Rogers of the canine world" - he's never met another dog he didn't like!

bestmickey, I have returned temporarily to NYS after having lived in Colorado for 18 years and Arizona for 4. The Adirondacks are, indeed, fantastic and it's too bad that many people across the US believe that ALL of New York State is New York City. Couldn't be further from the truth as you know. Upstate NY is absolutely beautiful.

I very much appreciate your words of congratulations on the sale of my home. And, PJ, you are more than correct about getting it sold in this market especially when you consider that the house is in the Phoenix area. Didn't get anywhere near the price I wanted but still more than originally purchased for and enough to get to The Villages. The house is in an active adult community and was listed for close to two years...ouch! Due to some minor circumstances I won't be buying in TV for about 6 months but will be heading for a visit sometime in mid-September. Stay well.

[bestmickey]

Glad to hear your beloved dog is going to be OK. :bigthumbsup: Sorry you had to depart the Adirondacks before planned. See you in The Villages next summer! ;D

[tkret]

Glad to hear your beloved dog is going to be OK. :bigthumbsup: Sorry you had to depart the Adirondacks before planned. See you in The Villages next summer! ;D


Thank you bestmickey. Very much looking forward to meeting you IN PERSON next summer.

Gene

[tkret]

Just wondering what has become of ConeyIsBabe. Come on CIBabe report in and post some of those nice photos. Hope you're well.
Gene

[ConeyIsBabe]

Hi tkret/Gene ;) It's the dog-days-of-summer in s/Oregon and I'm still dragging hoses all over the property keeping the plants alive. This heat is not like Florida's humidity... it's very dry and I have to water twice a day.

My pet-Bambi comes to visit every evening, grazing on the grass near the greenhouse, around 8 pm and lately she has been hanging around near the house - she's not afraid of people unless you get very close to her.

I've been lurking mostly at TOTV..... nothing exciting or interesting to say. Country life -- beautiful but boring by TV standards ::) I'll post some Bambi pics in a while.

I hope y'all other singles are having a fun summer, so far ;D

[tkret]

Hi tkret/Gene ;) It's the dog-days-of-summer in s/Oregon and I'm still dragging hoses all over the property keeping the plants alive. This heat is not like Florida's humidity... it's very dry and I have to water twice a day.

My pet-Bambi comes to visit every evening, grazing on the grass near the greenhouse, around 8 pm and lately she has been hanging around near the house - she's not afraid of people unless you get very close to her.

I've been lurking mostly at TOTV..... nothing exciting or interesting to say. Country life -- beautiful but boring by TV standards ::) I'll post some Bambi pics in a while.

I hope y'all other singles are having a fun summer, so far ;D

CIBabe,
Nice to know that you're still checking us out. I, once again, enjoyed the photo of your Bambi that you added on the other posting... looks great.

[ConeyIsBabe]

BUMP


Me..... DickY...... & Moose are the only singles here that have posted their pic :o

C'mon peeps.........

[bestmickey]

BUMP


Me..... DickY...... & Moose are the only singles here that have posted their pic :o

C'mon peeps.........



Well, there are a few reasons I don't post a picture. First, I don't have a recent photo of myself. Second, I never like how I look in photos. Third, for security purposes I won't post a photo. I'm very security conscious. I think it comes from being stalked decades ago, before anyone ever heard of "stalking". For example, having posted that I'm single (and thus likely living alone), I wouldn't want my photo on here. Wouldn't want to be targeted and possibly followed (for a later break-in, burglary?) if there should be a "creep" who sees me in one of the squares (once I'm in TV).

[tkret]

I need to figure out how to post a photo since I'm not too computer-literate. I guess I'll have to get my hands on some kind of camera, too. Will a Kodak Brownie work? :clap2:

[nannie]

I got stuck in step #2 of posting my pic. I have downloaded to photobucket but I'm totally lost how to upload to where? any suggestions anyone?

Hey, I'm flying down to TV next week I hope to sign a P &S on a villa. any meetings or happenings Mon - thur?

[ConeyIsBabe]

Bestmickey...... I respect your decision not to post a pic 8)

tkret....... & nannie......... Take your pics with any digital camera and either download them to your hard drive or have any photo center put them on a disk for you.

This is how I change my photo and I think it's how I originally posted the first profile pic:

Click on User CP at the top of the page.

Click on Forum Profile Information.

Put a dot in front of I will upload my own picture.

Click on browse (find your pic) Click on the photo you choose.

Click on Change profile

I'm looking forward to seeing y'all's pics ;D

[tkret]

Well, CIBabe, I'll be seeing my daughter later this week and she's pretty good with stuff like this. We'll try it.

[ilvgolf]

For those of you singles who are golfers, there is a local chapter of the American Singles Golf Association in The Villages. They meet the second Tuesday of every month at Chula Vista. If you want more info, just send me an e-mail @ ilvgolf2004@yahoo.com. We have a great time.

[Peazoup]

Love reading all this good stuff on the singles site. Keep it up. I've been single for 33 years now. Brought up two daughters and even had a couple of really nice relationships over that time. I quite enjoy my freedom, but would love to have a soul mate to do fun stuff with like travel. I think that's called a "LAT" relationship - living apart together. How do all you single folk out there feel about relationships? Are you widowed, divorced, never married? If you could have your wish, what kind of relationship would you like to be in - or not? :-* 040

[ConeyIsBabe]

Peazoup..... my story is similar to yours..... single since 1966 and raised my kids alone and enjoyed relationships along the way. After all those years of being independent it has become my lifestyle of choice and with a s/o living apart, but very close-by has always worked for me ;) ;)

[bestmickey]

Peazoup, I've never married. I've had some nice relationships over the years. I have no desire to marry. I'm not saying it will never happen (I try to never say never), but it's not something I particularly seek, certainly don't need, and don't plan on it happening. I would like a monogamous "special" relationship with a man, someone to enjoy life's pleasures with. But, if that doesn't happen I'm fine alone, or "playing the field", or just hanging out with friends.

[islandgal]

I really enjoy this much-needed thread.

I’ve been divorced for 27 years with no desire to remarry. Was in the party scene for about 8 years and had a few nice relationships.
I have had a long distance relationship for 20 years (my choice) which involved lots of fun, companionship and travel..
When I moved here 2 years ago, I decided to cool that relationship and spread my wings, although they haven’t flown anywhere since my move here!!!!! I agree with Peazoup. I think I would really like to have a "LAT", a soul mate.

[redwitch]

Single for 22 years now. Had found my soulmate after my marriage. Truly had no real interest for a serious relationship since breaking up with my soulmate. I like dating, even semi-relationships (a few steps above friends with benefits) but really don't want any more. At present, I'm not looking, not trying to find and it would have to fall into my lap pretty dang hard for me to notice.

[islandgal]

Red - I love the way you express yourself :clap2: :)

[Peazoup]

Isn't this interesting? I think years ago, when my girls were young, I would love to have remarried (my ex died not long after our divorce). I always dreamed of having the "Brady Bunch" kind of family. But, I guess it just wasn't in the cards. I would never say never, but now, especially after reading all the prenup threads, it must be a little complicated to tie the knot and wonder what the point would be at our stage in life. So, it seems we are all sort of in the same mind set - at least we ladies. How about the men? Who do you think are more prone to remarry - men or women and why? Let's hear it from you fellas. Don't by shy! We won't send you casseroles! :-*

[benj]

Peazoup,
From my point of view. I'm really conflicted. I was married young and for over 30 years. Many times I thought being single or alone would be just great, but being single now for over three years I'm not so sure. Several people in tv have told me you don't marry you just live together. After reading all the prenup stuff on totv I guess maybe their right.It must be more complicated than I thought. But for me ,I hope I can find someone to share what ever time is left for me. Married or live together who knows. I had a best friend for 37 years and even though we bickered some we each knew the other would be there for them, and wherever we went we where never alone. My point of view is from a never divorced person.
From a selfish point of view. Cancer took 18 months to take my wife. I quit working and stayed home with her. I went to every Dr's appt, every chemo,every operation,a stem cell transplant, and was holding her when she passed. I'm proud of that, and think that was important, and i hope that when my time comes there might be someone there for me.
Besides that I think men need someone there to remind us what jerks we are sometimes.
And peazoup NO CASSEROLES ?

[Peazoup]

benj,
You have paved your way to heaven! How very sad to lose your other half after 30 years. I wonder if you ever get over such devastation. I always feel great compassion for folk who have lost their loved ones especially in their later years when you're supposed to "ride off into the sunset" together. It must be hard to think of another relationship after such a loss. There must be a whole bunch of others on TOTV who are in the same boat. Hopefully, you'll find another special person to keep loneliness at bay.
And now you've done it........ until then.............. expect casseroles galore

[Blondie]

This is hard for me..but necessary. I was married young and over thirty years...I adored him. He had a brain tumor which we treated ( 3 craneotomies, max radiation, and much chemo) for 16 years. Jim always told the MD's to do whatever they wanted to him from Sept. to June, but Blondie and I travel in the summer so it was off limits. It worked until the last summer when the MD said you need to have more chemo---Jim said---see you in Sept. Sept came and he thought worse case scenario he would have another operation...but the tumor had crossed the mid-line of the brain, and surgery was not possible. He had more chemo, but come December, it was evident that further treatment was futile. I took off the next six months from work to be with him, and he died on May 31st (that was seven years ago). One thing I have learned is that no matter how badly your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief. Jim surely was my soulmate, and I can't imagine that anyone could ove me as much as he did....so I haven't dated. I don't want to sound morose, b/c I am one of the luckiest people I know. I have a beautiful daughter, wonderful son-in-law, and two of the best grandkids in the world. I love dancing, going out with friends, making new friends, and adventures....and I love TOTV, as it has opened up a whole new world to me. :)

md blondie

[Peazoup]

mdblondie - hugs, hugs and more hugs. So sad. I'm sitting here at work with mascara running down my cheeks. I'm sure your wonderful family has helped you tremendously as you sound like you have great support to keep going. Bless you.

[benj]

Blondie,
I'm not sure this is what Coney or Peazoup was thinking when they started this thread but ditto your thoughts about totv. I think sometimes that life's only been tough on me then I read posts like yours and (I know this sounds weird) it makes me feel better. This is the first web "forum" I've ever been on and I can't believe how many deeply personal things I've posted to perfect strangers. But thats the thing about totv and tv in general I feel a connection there even though I'm 2500 miles away.
So it's 7 years for you ? Do you ever start to feel better? Benj

[Blondie]

Benj,
That's really hard to answer. I once read that "expecting life to treat you well because you are a good person, is like expecting an angry bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian." So I guess I try to focus on all the wonderful things I have rather than dwell on the fact that this shouldn't have happened to us. As you say, there are so many others in the world who didn't ever have what I had, and still have. You know no one can take our great memories from us, and I bet you have many wonderful ones as well. So, I guess I can say that, yes, it does get better. I am so looking foward to meeting all of the TOTV folks, and start another new chapter of my life. I'm scared but I know it's time to move on. When Jim died I had to reinvent myself so to speak...not easy for me. One thing I did was that I used to ride on the back of Jim's motorcycle, and when he died I got my own license and now I have my own. I am having it shipped down to TV in Sept.and hope to ride with the Motorcycle "Gang" down there. Doesn't that sound like fun? I have also signed myself onto the Cruise with TOTV----a very bold move for me. I hope I don't spend all my time in my cabin. :(

Anyway, I am very appreciative to you and all the TOTV folks for including me and making me feel welcome. Hope I can meet you soon, Benj----we can share stories about our soulmates.

Blondie

[ConeyIsBabe]

040 BUMP 040

Summer's almost over in south Oregon and I'm looking forward to my favorite season.... the fall. Soon, there will be a crisp cool breeze in the air, beautiful colors everywhere...... the growers' market will have loads of goodies and harvest festivals are always fun, especially Oktoberfests with beer & bratwurst.

Trying to keep this Singles Forum alive - - so - -

Whatcha doin' TV Singles & Wannabees ???

[Blondie]

Hi CIB and all,

I just returned today from TV :'( and tomorrow I will drive to LI NY to spend some time with my sister and her hubby. He has been diagnosed with cancer of the mouth, and will be operated on the first week of Sept. (prayers would be very appreciated).
I'll be back in MD this weekend and head to a soccer tournament (Grandson is playing in VA ) with my daughter, son-in-law, and grandkiddos---great fun--- :#1:
Then...back to MD...pack up the car....and head back to TV for two months. 040
I have such mixed emotions b/c my heart is breaking for my sister and her family, and I am praying that all goes well; however, I know they have a long road ahead of them.

BTW...I had such a wonderful time these past five days in TV meeting many new folks and talking to "old" TOTV friends. Stay dry my friends and I will see you soon.

MDB

[swrinfla]

md blondie:

My wife died of a throat cancer (among other things) 8 years 3 months and 12 days ago! Who said I'm counting?

After slightly more than 5 years of caring and coping, her passing was, honestly, a great joy for us both! Here I am now in TV, enjoying every minute and somewhat astonishing my up north friends who had thought I'd end up as a basket case! [No comments, please, from those of you who think I really am a basket case!]

I have a very good friend whose wife was killed 9 years ago in a t-bone car crash on her way home from her teaching job one afternoon, not a mile from their house. She was one of the most vibrant people I ever knew. Her husband retreated into a shell for a number of years, but now gets out and about and enjoys his solitary life, as do I!

TOTVers are here for you, as I think you already know!

SWR

[Blondie]

SWR, Thank you I appreciate the kind words. I just got back from NY tonight, and my sister, her husband and kids are doing as well as can be expected. They are a close family and care very much about each other.

I will be back in TV in 8 days, and am looking foward to seeing my TOTV friends again.

MDB

[ConeyIsBabe]

Hi blondie ....... wav wav wav swrinfla, benj, Peazoup, wiw, bestmicky, redwitch, ilvgolf, nannie, tkret,

and all lurking singles wav wav wav

[tkret]

Hi blondie ....... wav wav wav swrinfla, benj, Peazoup, wiw, bestmicky, redwitch, ilvgolf, nannie, tkret,

and all lurking singles wav wav wav


Hello to you, too, Nice Lady. Hope all is well with you. And Jack, how is he getting along?
Have you confirmed any plans to visit TV soon? I'm sure the good folks of TOTV are anxious to meet you in person. Post some new photos soon; they're always so nice.

[ConeyIsBabe]

tkret......... thanx for helping to keep the singles forum alive..... it's too quiet in here. We need to think of something to stimulate some participation :dontknow:

IDEAS.... anyone ::)

P.S. UMmmmmmm..... it's very quiet in my neck-of-the-woods literally, and I'm looking forward to the Fall. Next month, a large pear orchard owned by the city of Grants Pass has an Open House Free Pear Picking Day.... and everyone loads up their bags & trucks with pears ! Exciting Stuff, huh ?

[Peazoup]

Hi CIB & Others,
Yes, let's try and keep this open. I'm sitting at work in Connecticut with my countdown calendar to retirement push-pinned to my wall - 32 days. My house is still not sold, but I have tons of interest. Problem is the interest is coming from people who also have a house or condo to sell first. September promises to be better than August for real estate. Do you still have your home on the market? If not, try again this fall. I see a light at the end of the tunnel. Things are beginning to improve a tiny bit.
The weather is really nice here - high 70s to low 80s during the day dropping down to 60s at night. The petunias are starting to get leggy and the grass is not growing quite so fast. My hydrangea blooms have turned from magnificent bright blue to mauve on the topside and pale green on the underside. Signs of fall approaching.
Hope everyone in TV weathered the downpours. I feel badly for folk who planned vacation during the storm.
Can't wait to meet everyone whose names have become so familiar to me because of TOTV. My appreciation goes out to the many hours our hosts put in to make this happen. Thank you from a soon to be Bonnybrook girl.
And singles....................keep it going......... 024 024 024 024 024

[ConeyIsBabe]

Hi Peazoup...... :2cool:
I've got two questions for ya.......

Why did you choose Bonnybrook Village?

And about hydrangeas.... I need some advice on when/how to prune them. This year mine are not well. Either they got frostbitten in the spring, or someone (not me) pruned them wrong, cuz they never grew to be as large and lush as the previous years (like in my pic). So, do you know when is best to prune and should I cut back drastically or just prune to the buds?

[Peazoup]

Hi CIB,
I chose Bonnybrook because I wanted to be close to 466 shopping and Sumter Landing. Also I had been surfing the different For Sale sites for a specific CYV model and found it in Bonnybrook. And, I wanted a resale as I didn't want to think about landscaping. Plus mine was an estate sale so it came completely furnished. There are some things I will change in time to suit my taste, but for the most part, the furnishings are very nice.
I don't know if this is true or not, but I have heard from a couple of different sources, that people living south of 466 tend to be the younger retirees and people living north of 466 tend to be older. Maybe we can get some comments on whether or not it's actually the case. This, however, didn't make any difference to my decision as I'm sort of in between. I have to say though that I really like the more mature trees and landscaping north. I didn't want the new construction because those homes are all electric and I love cooking with gas.
Now - hydrangea - DON'T PRUNE!!! Just cut off the old blooms. Hydrangeas bloom on old wood.

[Blondie]

Hi singles and others,

I am still here, and getting ready to drive down to TV for the next 2 months.
Peazoup...what's your timeline...will you be here before the end of October? Hope so, then we will be able to meet in person. :bigthumbsup:
CIB, I know your house is off the market for now, but why not just take a little trip to TV, and meet some of us in person. :dontknow: We would enjoy that.

MDB

[Peazoup]

Hi MD,
Boo - no, I won't be there end of October. I'm hoping sometime in November. This $(*@+?@ real estate market is not making it easy. At some point, I'll have to give up trying to sell and get a tenant in till the market really picks up. I think it's beginning to pick up - this according to my real estate agent. I'm so looking forward to meeting everyone. What's your timing?

[ConeyIsBabe]

Peazoup..... thanks for the information. I agree with your reasons for choosing Bonnybrook, I might like that area also - along with the historic district.

mdBlondie...... :dontknow: No plans to visit TV as of now, but anything is possible 8) I would certainly like to meet everyone who I have communicated with at TOTV so I'm motivated to continue hanging out with y'all.

[tkret]

Hi All,

Nice to see this forum staying alive. I will be in TV from the 12th thru the 16th meeting with two Realtors. I really don't anticipate anything but you never know. My original intent is to wait until Spring/Summer of '09 but it's important and helpful to see what's what now.

Redwitch and DickY were kind enough to advise me to notify them prior to my arrival and, hopefully, I can meet up with them somewhere. Md, perhaps you can, too. Our day is coming everyone and as the other Singles forum says, "Keep the faith".

[Blondie]

Peazoup, I will be there from this Saturday until the end of October....hope I don't miss you, but if I do, I will catch you in the Spring. :bigthumbsup:

CIB, we will keep pestering you, and hope you give in and and come for a visit. wav

Tkret, let me know also when you will be in town ....we can all get together. :welcome:

MD Blondie

[tkret]

Peazoup, I will be there from this Saturday until the end of October....hope I don't miss you, but if I do, I will catch you in the Spring. :bigthumbsup:

CIB, we will keep pestering you, and hope you give in and and come for a visit. wav

Tkret, let me know also when you will be in town ....we can all get together. :welcome:

MD Blondie


Great idea mdblondie. It will be fun and educational to exchange opinions. It will also be so nice to meet in person. I'll send a "pm" prior to my arrival. Of course, either of the town squares during the entertainment is probably the best place and time to say "Howdy Neighbor". stay well.

[DickY]

TKret, let us know when you will be there and we can set up a time to meet, usually by thee clock at LSL during entertainment. MD Blondie, don't forget the monthly luncheon at Crispers on the 19th of September.

[tkret]

TKret, let us know when you will be there and we can set up a time to meet, usually by thee clock at LSL during entertainment. MD Blondie, don't forget the monthly luncheon at Crispers on the 19th of September.



Thanks, again, DickY. I'll "pm" you prior to my arrival and then again when I'm in TV. Should be great, indeed.

[Blondie]

Hi DickY, I am looking foward to our next Crispers luncheon...perhaps I wil ride my motorcycle there. 040 , but I hope I see you all before the next luncheon.

MDB

[chachacha]

hi peeps,

i feel so out of touch as i have been moving from north dakota and finally arrived here in hemingway village last wed. night, with rain from fay to greet me...my friend from nd has been helping me hang pictures, etc and we are both exhausted....if anyone is meeting by the clocks at LSL any time soon, please clue me in as i would love to meet whomever i can. i am taking advantage of the free wireless service at my neighborhood recreation center to finally get back on line and say hello to everyone...i love this place! since i am not on the computer daily, feel free to call me at 406-480-1945. my little place is still a mess of boxes and sans a dining room to sit at but would love to meet at the square for the time being.

would like to recommend S&S painters who did a very nice job painting my interior at a very reasonable price....they advertise on this site.

hope to see some of you very soon....

[DickY]

chachacha,

Look at topic https://www.talkofthevillages.com/smf/index.php/topic,9458.msg86479/topicseen.html#new

There is a get-togeather being formed for the clock at LSL on Saturday 8/30 at 6:00.

[Peazoup]

040 040 :beer2:
Hi chachacha, mdblondie, tkret, dickY, CIB, swrinfl, benj, wiw1819, redwitch, bestmickey and all other "single peeps".
The weather has been beautiful here in Connecticut lately with bright blue skies, warm days and cooler nights. I live by Long Island Sound and these beaches have been bursting with people this last weekend. Everyone trying to squeeze the last drop of warm sunshine out before fall settles in. :bigthumbsup: :bigthumbsup:
How many of us are planning to be in TV this winter? How many of us are still trying to sell "up north"? I'm told that the real estate companies are expecting a little burst of energy in the next couple of months. Let's hope. :2cool: :2cool: :clap2: :clap2:
What's your story? 024 024 024

[ConeyIsBabe]

Hi Peazoup wav

Thanks for helping to keep our Singles Forum alive.

I'm looking forward to the fall and might do a mini road trip to California with my friend and Jack the Rat Terrier. I've given up on selling until the r/e market really improves :'( I still might visit TV in the winter, depending on another family member's plans. Everything is so iffy :dontknow: cold_cold

Anyway, I sure hope this coming winter isn't as cold/snowey as the last ::)

[PGB]

Reading all the conversations here and I think I posted most of my info on the wrong place. It happens. Enjoying all the info and hope to find a few new friends here.
If you ride a HOG, I'm looking to ride with you. My trike is in VA, moved from there in June,
joined the HOG Club at Gator HD so to say the least I miss riding.
Not looking for Mr. Anything. Not looking for Mr. One Night Stand either. Looking for friends who enjoy being together and having fun.
All those looking to move here, Come On Down. I really like it here and am glad I chose TV as my new hometown.
PGB

[ConeyIsBabe]

Hi PGB wav :welcome:

If/When I move to TV I'll also be wanting to make the most of the lifestyle and just make FRIENDS to enjoy mutual activities ! As I recall, a couple of the singles have mentioned motorcycles. Go to the top of this page and click on "search" and type in motorcycles and see if you can find those posts.

Since you've been there a couple of months already, have you joined any of the singles' groups ? What are they like ?

[Blondie]

Hi folks,
I am finally here, and will stay for the next 2 months. :bigthumbsup: I took my daughter and granddaughter to the airport this afternoon :'( boy do I miss them.

Peazoup, my plans are to go home at the end of October, put my house on the market, and hope it sells quickly. Then...come down to TV and buy a home. That is if the hurt in my heart b/c of missing my family subsides, at least a little.

PGB, I would love to ride with you. I think I read though that your bike won't be here until November. My bike is being shipped here, and hopefully will arrive this week. I have a Road King. I also love to dance, and have met some very nice folks at LSL.

If anyone is going to LSL or Spanish Springs or Katie Belles, let me know...we can dance.

md blondie

[PGB]

mdblondie,
Thanks, I will try and get up with you sometime. I have a Sporster trike, conversion kit, and I really like my bike with the exception that it runs hot. All the stuff that's on it is probably the reason. Still, I'm looking forward to getting it down here. I was hoping to find some nice guy in the mean time to bum a ride with.
Have you joined the HOG Club at Gator Harley? The next meeting is the 13th. LOH at 12 and membership meeting at 1. If you would like to know I will be happy to give you a ride.
Nice finding another Harleyhen!

[PGB]

I have not joined any singles groups. I might if I find out more about them. I am planning on going to the get-together at Chrisper's and see what that's all about. The more people I meet, the more places I will have to go and the more people I will have to talk with!

[Blondie]

PGB, I have not joined any HOG clubs; however, I plan to ride with the Village Nomads. They ride to breakfast on Wednesday's and Saturdays, and to lunch on Thursday's. The first time I came for a Lifestyle visit, I went to the Mulberry Parking Lot where they meet before rides, and met some of them. They asked me if I wanted to ride with one of them at that time.. I couldn't that day, so I bet you could ride with one of them. Them seem very nice. My bike arrived tonight so I am going to ride it to the meeting place at 11:00 tomorrow, and hopefully ride to lunch with them. Why don't you meet us there tomorrow? I know someone would be willing to give you a ride.
Their website is:
www.thevillagenomads.com
check it out....it's a whole new group of folks to meet.

Hope to see you there tomorrow md blondie

[PGB]

Congrats on getting your bike here!!!!
Sorry I wasn't able to meet y'all today as I have a painter here and lightfixters to be installed. Mayby next time. I think Sat. they have a ride also. I will try then.
Please contact me at: harleyhen1@yahoo.com and maybe we can meet.
Thanks again
PGB

[marsuewerb]

Love reading all this good stuff on the singles site. Keep it up. I've been single for 33 years now. Brought up two daughters and even had a couple of really nice relationships over that time. I quite enjoy my freedom, but would love to have a soul mate to do fun stuff with like travel. I think that's called a "LAT" relationship - living apart together. How do all you single folk out there feel about relationships? Are you widowed, divorced, never married? If you could have your wish, what kind of relationship would you like to be in - or not? :-* 040

I'm a widow looking for a gal friend who enjoys movies, plays, exercising at a Rec Center, listening to music at the Squares, lunching at Katie Belles or whereever, taking day trips, and good conversation. Also would like to meet a male friend who would like to take dance lessons and enjoy some dinner & dancing dates. Coffee at Paneros is always a good place to sit and talk to determine if two people will "click" and have the same relationship expectations.

[BETHPAGE BLACK]

Yes we must keep this going. I am still a wanabee living in NY but also own a home in Duval...
Just heard congress is trying to pass new bill regarding a new and larger tax credit for first time home buyers...that will certainly help in all us wanabes unloading our homes..Cant wait really do wanabe....
Hey Coney Island Babe ...where did you go to HS in the Bronx..?? I graduated Evander Childs...
I have no doubt and no fear that when I permanently move to TV there will be so many new and friendly singles to "hang" with...
I can hang and boggie with the best of them ..just so you know. Looking forward to meeting a whole new bunch of singles...Laura:2excited:

[chachacha]

hi to the lady who was looking to meet friends and dates, and also to the wannabe.....i would suggest the best place to start is to join both the large singles clubs here. one is the villages singles and the other is sumter singles. you can get info on their websites.. another suggesstion is that you just go about joining activities which you enjoy and you will surely meet singles who share your interests...there is a singles dance oct 9 which i talked about on another post. if you are at the squares or at katie belle's and see large groups of ladies with just a sprinkling of guys sitting together, you can introduce yourself and i am sure they will be welcoming...just get out there and have fun....

[KathieI]

Yes we must keep this going. I am still a wanabee living in NY but also own a home in Duval...
Just heard congress is trying to pass new bill regarding a new and larger tax credit for first time home buyers...that will certainly help in all us wanabes unloading our homes..Cant wait really do wanabe....
Hey Coney Island Babe ...where did you go to HS in the Bronx..?? I graduated Evander Childs...
I have no doubt and no fear that when I permanently move to TV there will be so many new and friendly singles to "hang" with...
I can hang and boggie with the best of them ..just so you know. Looking forward to meeting a whole new bunch of singles...Laura:2excited:

We'll have a meet and greet for Laura when she gets here in Oct. We have a larger group than ever and its growing by the day. Both marrieds and singles and we boogie every night, so Laura, you'd better start loosening up those leg muscles, we're gonna see how good another Evanderite is going to be. Think you can keep up with me??? LOL. Can't wait to see you!

And Marsue, your welcome to join us also. Don't matter if you don't dance, we'll do enough of it for you!! Just join in on the fun.

[BETHPAGE BLACK]

We'll have a meet and greet for Laura when she gets here in Oct. We have a larger group than ever and its growing by the day. Both marrieds and singles and we boogie every night, so Laura, you'd better start loosening up those leg muscles, we're gonna see how good another Evanderite is going to be. Think you can keep up with me??? LOL. Can't wait to see you!

And Marsue, your welcome to join us also. Don't matter if you don't dance, we'll do enough of it for you!! Just join in on the fun.

opps...When I said I can boogie and keep up with the best of them...iI forgot about "KAHIE""I may be in trouble now..but Kathie..I will give it a go and will head for the gym tomorrow..I think there's a Zumba class I can get to at 6PM...Ya know ..loosen up the bones a little>> Evander HIgh here our cry..we wish you joy forever more.....Who knew what joy we would find in the Villages...
Looking forward to seeing everyone,,,Laura

[marsuewerb]

I'm not very good at navigating around this site so I probably missed some info. Where does this "group" of singles meet and when? I'd really appreciate hearing from you. Marsue

[chachacha]

hi again,

a good place to find kathie friday is the crisper's luncheon at 3 pm for all talk of the village participants...i will pm you with some of our dancing itinerary for the next few days...when you meet kathie she will fill you in more thoroughly...welcome to our group....crisper's is located on 466 if you turn at cvs pharmacy it is the last shop in the shopping center to your right...everyone has lunch or coffe on the patio....kathie posted a reminder on another thread...