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samhass
08-19-2008, 01:14 AM
This is a bad subject, but due to our ages, some of us are bound to become ill. I wish there was a way we could all help TOTV friends that are suffering from debilitating illnesses. What if you were alone here in TV and had no relatives. If you don't know your immediate neighbors, who could/would you call. Old people are proud. They might not want everyone to know of their problems. Maybe they could contact admin or a point person. That person could shout out to all TOTV and say " We need help in "Bonnybrook" today. A member needs
__________________. Can anyone help? No names would be given out except to the volunteer. There are other ways this could be done. Any interest?
I'm talking about people with serious illnesses that are unable to do for themselves. Ideas??

islandgal
08-19-2008, 01:23 AM
I have no illnesses yet, but because I live on a short street with mostly snowbirds and live alone, I would have no one to call.

Thank you for the reassurance. I would love to be a volunteer for running errands, grocery shopping, driving to doctor, etc.

zcaveman
08-19-2008, 01:25 AM
That is a very good question. My next door neighbor who lives alone was taken to the hospital one evening. I noticed his paper in the driveway the next day but did not really get concerned - although I should have. He called me from the hospital to do him a favor and get him some clothes. I have his key for when he goes on trips.

From then on, I made myself his care taker - visiting him at the hospital, driving him home, checking on him every day, driving him to the doctors, doing grocery and medicine shopping for him until he got better. I am not sure if anyone else in the neighborhood would have done it but I consider him a friend and knew that he needed help.

Now I check to see if his paper is gone by 9 AM or I call.

If you know anyone that lives alone and you know their habits, you can check and make sure that they are doing the things that they usually do and if they are not doing them, knock on their door and make sure they are okay.

samhass
08-19-2008, 01:27 AM
I'm thinking something as simple as a home cooked meal and a few moments of someone's time may make a huge difference to someone.
Z...somehow I figured you'd be that kind of person.

Rokinronda
08-19-2008, 01:41 AM
When my neighbor broke her back, another neighbor came by to tell me. I was more than happy to send a couple of meals over and she knows she can call me anytime for anything. She is now well. I did the same for the man across the street when he mentioned his wife was in the hospital. We all have each others phone #s and I have encouraged them to call me anytime. When we moved in all the neighbors came over and welcomed us to the neighborhood. We were invited to Thanksgiving dinner,etc... I would definitely help anyone in need, Sam. A buddy system would be a good idea, if the person needing help is unknown. You can surely count me in!!! Lets have a "TOTV volunteers for the sick and lonely" club forum!

ConeyIsBabe
08-19-2008, 01:44 AM
What a swell idea! :bigthumbsup:

Please let me know if there is any way I can be of assistance, even though I'm 3,000 miles away.

nONIE
08-19-2008, 01:46 AM
What a wonderful Idea! You are all so special, Ill be happy to help even tho Im a snowbird.

Please count me in! ;D

Barefoot
08-19-2008, 01:49 AM
Sam, great idea. You are so thoughtful. :bigthumbsup:

My next door neighbour in his 80s was ill last fall. I was able to help out in a very small way by picking up groceries, running a few errands, walking his dog, etc. But we don't always know about people in need. This is a great way of allowing people to ask for a little help when they need it.

I would definitely like to volunteer my services October through April every year.

Peggy D
08-19-2008, 01:58 AM
Sam how very thoughtful of you, and a very good idea.

The world needs more angels like you.

dianerk
08-19-2008, 02:04 AM
If something happens to me, I'm calling samhass and Mr. samhass for sure!!!!! They have both helped me in the past.

samhass
08-19-2008, 02:08 AM
Peggy, I'm probably more like a little devil but your words are very kind. Thank you.
Someone needs to be a contact person. As I said, the person needing care need not be identified except to the person that answers the call. As this is a public forum, some safeguards would have to be put in place. The idea may not be easy to implement, but I think it has merit. Those of you that are not posting should start. Let us know you. It will be easier to go to the aid of a more frequent poster with whom we have a bond. For those people that do not mind saying " I have (cancer or heart disease or____ ) and am unable to get my meds from ------------, can anyone help?, please shout out here. Maybe we should start a new thread. What can we name it?

renielarson
08-19-2008, 02:10 AM
How about Helping Hands for the thread? I'm a snowflake but would be glad to help out when I'm there.

samhass
08-19-2008, 02:11 AM
LOL..jbsmom...we don't help you...you are a treasure to us!
Bright, that sounds perfect!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe we can get several and take a vote. Yours will be tough to beat as it says it all in two words.

jojo
08-19-2008, 02:26 AM
Count me in. This is what makes TV a great place to live. My mother lives with me and until my husband gets down here when I travel for business she will be alone. Fortunately she is in good health but I do worry about leaving her alone.

ejp52
08-19-2008, 02:44 AM
I'll be more than willing to help sam. :bigthumbsup:
Great idea.
For the grace of God anyone of us could be alone or need a friend.

samhass
08-19-2008, 02:52 AM
I'm loving Brights idea of "Helping Hands" for the name of the thread.

KathieI
08-19-2008, 02:57 AM
I'm in..... and I too love "Helping Hands"

Sam, great idea, glad I thought of it!!! kidding!

Rokinronda
08-19-2008, 02:59 AM
Helping Hands.....perfect!

chelsea24
08-19-2008, 03:45 AM
This is a wonderful idea! Count me in. When I was alone (before vetman) taking care of my Dad after his massive stroke, I had no one around to help me. Being an only child, it was very hard. I used to pray at night that someone would come to help. But, no one did. These are the times you find out who your true friends are.

I would gladly be part of "Helping Hands". I know some people are too proud to ask. We'd have to figure out a way around that. So, how do we get this started? ???

redwitch
08-19-2008, 10:57 AM
Definitely count me in. I think adding those who are caretakers so they can get an occasional break would be a good thing to add to our Helping Hands. Like Chels, I remember when my mother was ill and living with me and how hard it was to get a break -- even going grocery shopping became a major production.

Donna
08-19-2008, 11:18 AM
Count me in too, although I am not there very often...I would love to help!

graciegirl
08-19-2008, 11:27 AM
Me too. Me too. I love you guys. Also worried about one person I know to be sick and wouldn't ask for help, or probably didn't think he was alone and scared. I know you all are worried about him too.

tkret
08-19-2008, 01:14 PM
The Villages Singles Club has a Sunshine Committee which is described as:

Our goal is to reach out and give our fellow members a show of kindness or a helping hand in time of need. Simple, thoughtful things such as a card that fits the occasion, or a home or hospital visit, driving them to and from the doctor or store, picking up medicine or groceries -- just letting them know that someone cares and is thinking about them.

I hope they don't mind that I am posting THEIR information here.

I hope to find my home when I visit in September (or certainly by next Spring) and would really wish to be part of a similar TOTV committee. Consider me interested, please, and if the committee is already formed by the time I am a resident I will join, for sure.

kit9240
08-19-2008, 01:26 PM
This is a wonderful idea and very much needed. "Helping Hands" is perfect. I think there are many elderly people living in TV that may not have a computer and would not know of this service. Would it be possible to have a flyer printed up and somehow distributed throughout TV? Not exactly sure how this could be accomplished. It could list names (or just phone numbers) of volunteers who can help in specific areas such as driving, errands, shopping, etc.

I wish I were living in TV now, I would love to help organize this program! Good luck to each of you and I know there will be many people willing to help out!

mmclover
08-19-2008, 01:36 PM
Put me on the list. What a wonderful idea. I will be glad to help out in any way I can.

Just Susan
08-19-2008, 01:43 PM
Put me on the list. I make a mean Chicken Soup...cures almost everything.

beady
08-19-2008, 02:08 PM
Spectacular idea Sam...count me in. Being alone sometimes myself, I love the idea I could reach out for help from my fellow TOTV buddies.

I love the "handle" Helping Hands.....super name Bright...

barb1191
08-19-2008, 02:34 PM
Ohhh Sam, Sam, Sam.....you are the best :#1:

What a great idea! Bright.....Helping Hands says it all.

TOTV peeps are the best; just the thought of such a wonderful gesture brought tears. Wish I could help, but not right now due to health problems. Am so overwhelmed at the goodness expressed here by the members.

hugs, barb

samhass
08-19-2008, 02:37 PM
tkret, what a wonderful mission statement. I wonder if they would let us use it?





The Villages Singles Club has a Sunshine Committee which is described as:

Our goal is to reach out and give our fellow members a show of kindness or a helping hand in time of need. Simple, thoughtful things such as a card that fits the occasion, or a home or hospital visit, driving them to and from the doctor or store, picking up medicine or groceries -- just letting them know that someone cares and is thinking about them.

I hope they don't mind that I am posting THEIR information here.

I hope to find my home when I visit in September (or certainly by next Spring) and would really wish to be part of a similar TOTV committee. Consider me interested, please, and if the committee is already formed by the time I am a resident I will join, for sure.

tkret
08-19-2008, 03:04 PM
tkret, what a wonderful mission statement. I wonder if they would let us use it?






Hello Sam
I am not a member of the group (The Villages Singles Club - http://www.freewebs.com/thevillagessinglesclub/index.htm) but wish to join just as soon as I become a resident. I know it will be a committee that I will be part of if I'm needed. Once TOTV forms a similar committee I suppose "we" could contact them. It's things like this that make The Villages a wonderful place to live and party.

benj
08-19-2008, 04:16 PM
The sentiments expressed in this thread are exactly why I'm moving to tv, you people have either pulled the wool completely over my eyes, or tv really is Americas friendliest hometown.

Having said that, I thought there was a club or volunteer group os association called Helping Hands. Maybe I'm wrong but may I suggest VILLAGE ANGELS or ANGEL HANDS because if I were in need and had no one to help and someone volunteered their time and trouble to help out ,I would consider them an angel. Benj

ConeyIsBabe
08-19-2008, 04:22 PM
The sentiments expressed in this thread are exactly why I'm moving to tv, you people have either pulled the wool completely over my eyes, or tv really is Americas friendliest hometown.
Benj


I agree with benj !

These overtures of compassion and kindness from TOTVers make the occasional silly bickering seem insignificant. I would feel honored to be a part of your project, whatever you call it !

barb1191
08-19-2008, 06:09 PM
Then, possibly......"TOTV Helping Hands" ?

chelsea24
08-19-2008, 06:14 PM
Great idea Barb! :bigthumbsup: I personally like the word "angels" but some might be put off by it, so TOTV Helping Hands gets right to the point! Love it! :#1:

Sgt Mac
08-19-2008, 06:37 PM
If I can help put me on the list

If you saw all the very great people that line up to help each other in The Villages on Feb 07 you will know what great people are in The Villages after I saw that I know it was the spot that We was looking for

Yes We will Help Da Sgt

swrinfla
08-19-2008, 06:55 PM
I doubt that there'd be any objection from them, but the Military Officers Association of America's (MOAA) chapter in Tampa has an Operation Helping Hands which supports the families of servicemen with brain and spine injuries from Afghanistan and Iraq.

I do think Helping Hands is a good name for our TOTV effort.

Here's an idea to float among your immediate neighbors, no matter where you are: Our cul-de-sac has a published directory of all residents, which includes an out-of-town relative or friend or other person to contact in case of dire emergency. I think that's particularly important for those who may not have family nearby!

SWR

galady
08-19-2008, 07:10 PM
Please add my name to the list. We become "official" on Sept 12 and will be more than happy to help any of our new neighbors.

redwitch
08-19-2008, 08:41 PM
Getting a list of names, villages and phone numbers and maybe even exactly how people can/are willing to help and days/dates they are available is a great idea. That way, it might be easier to coordinate who lives close to someone and who can best be contacted to help someone who needs it. If no one else wants to do it, I would be happy to make the list, keep it updated and forward it to whomever volunteers to be the "coordinator".

However a list is done, I would suggest NO personal data be posted here. The information should be sent via PMs. While we're a basically honest bunch, there are always a few lurkers who are not so honest at every public forum.

If Helping Hands can't be used, how about making it very specific -- "TOTV Helpers"?

duffysmom
08-19-2008, 08:46 PM
Love the idea. Please add me to the list.

Just Susan
08-19-2008, 09:25 PM
Okay so I am a bit of a nerd...so I did a little research and came up with this website which seems to support and even enhance the ideas espoused on this thread. I am so happy to be friends with such wonderful people.

Anyway if you explore this site, http://www.lotsahelpinghands.com/ltc/home/ you may find, as I did that, Lotsa Helping Hands is Sam's idea on steriods...sorry too much Olympic influence...

To entice you I will quote a few comments that I read....

How It Works
What problems does Lotsa Helping Hands address?
Most of us have experienced the crisis of a friend or loved one suddenly unable to function as they had for their family or themselves. Perhaps it's a debilitating illness, or post-surgery rehabilitation necessitating weeks or months of bed rest.

In many instances of long-term family caregiving or caring for an aging loved one, those affected must also cope with finding support for meal preparation, grocery shopping, transportation for themselves and their dependent family members.

But it is often difficult for patients and family caregivers to ask for help. And if help is offered, managing that help can be a significant part-time job: coordinating family, friends, neighbors, colleagues, and church or synagogue members who do not all know each other can be complex and time-consuming, with endless phone tag and forgotten commitments.

In addition, keeping these various ‘circles of community’ up-to-date on medical progress or family activity, or securely sharing vital medical, legal, or financial information with designated family members is often another source of anxiety and stress for the patient and family caregiver. Let your Lotsa Helping Hands community help build emotional and spiritual support as you face the many issues surrounding everyday caregiving.

What does Lotsa Helping Hands provide?
In literally minutes, a Coordinator can create, free-of-charge, a private and secure Lotsa Helping Hands web community, define volunteer activities using the supplied templates, and begin inviting members to the community. Through an intuitive interface that requires no training, volunteers can then easily view and sign up for any number of available tasks, review their current commitments, and be confident they won’t forget any assignments as the system automatically sends out email reminders of upcoming obligations.

Who should sign up and create the web site? What's a "Coordinator"?

The Coordinator is what we call the person who first takes the initiative to create the free-of-charge Lotsa Helping Hands community. This lead Coordinator then adds the initial members (and may even designate other members as additional Coordinators), helps define the volunteer activities, and has a few other privileges for customizing the community web site.

The website name could be TOTV Helping Hands...at least that is what I would vote for.

Just my input.

samhass
08-19-2008, 09:30 PM
Do we need a list? I figured Tony would do a shout out saying " We need a meal delivered to the such and such area. To volunteer, contact Tony.
or
Heart patient needs ride from -------area to doc's office on Buena Vista. to volunteer, contact Tony

Making a list might get complicated since people snowbird etc. I think it may be easier if the person in need justs contacts TOTV and TOTV puts out a shout out to all of us. This does put a burden on TOTV. They may want to take volunteers to coordinate the hook-ups. Just an idea.

samhass
08-19-2008, 09:35 PM
Susan and I must have posted at the same time. Great post Susan except Sam declines the coordinator part. I will cook, drive etc. Now you, my dear, are an organizer. I am an idea person. Paperwork is my Nemesis.

redwitch
08-19-2008, 09:35 PM
Sam, that's why I was thinking a list. It could easly overwhelm the administrators (not that they have anything else to do). It's really not that hard to make one -- I've done a few for other websites (one with over a 1K members). It could have dates people are down here among other info. Might make it easier than shouting out to Tony. That way, someone could do a post asking for a little help and a few people could be contacted who live near that person or have the needed particular skill/vehicle and they could contact the one who asked.

Alternatively, someone could just post a shout out and others could just respond via pm but I'm afraid people will think others already responded and thus not respond even though they want to.

Just Susan
08-19-2008, 09:42 PM
Red and others seriously check out the website I just posted,

here it is again.....
http://www.lotsahelpinghands.com/ltc/home/

It is everything you are talking about already done.

Our website name could be TOTV Helping Hands...at least that is what I would vote for.

It pretty much manages itself once set up, and set up sounds easy.

benj
08-19-2008, 09:55 PM
I think the simpler the better. Just like it started if you need a hand just hollar and anyone on totv who can help can pm them.
how about GOOD NEIGHBORS or GOOD HANDS. What ever its called people will need to know where to post to get results. Benj

redwitch
08-19-2008, 10:52 PM
Susan, I checked out the site but I think it goes beyond the scope of what Sam had in mind and there are several groups in TV that offer many of these services already.

renielarson
08-19-2008, 11:01 PM
This will be more effective if kept simple. Just a simple holler and a simple "Helping Hand". Nothing more.

There's already a new Helping Hands thread Tony started. However, it has some glitches because it has no "reply" button. Once fixed, I think anyone who is willing to lend a "Helping Hand" should send a post so we can see who is willing and available. I would hope that posters would also list what services he/she/they are willing to help with. The posts will be our list of TOTVers who want to lend a "Helping Hand".

Then, when anyone needs a "Helping Hand", he/she/they can privately PM anyone on that list.

Sound good?

Barefoot
08-19-2008, 11:10 PM
I think the simpler the better. Just like it started if you need a hand just hollar and anyone on totv who can help can pm them.
how about GOOD NEIGHBORS or GOOD HANDS. What ever its called people will need to know where to post to get results. Benj

I agree with Benj. I like the idea of keeping it simple. If we had a forum called "TOTV Helping Hands", people could post asking for assistance. I'm sure they'd get lots of PMs from others who would be available to help at that specific time. This would avoid lists that have to be updated and trying to keep track of when snowbirds are in town. It would avoid involving a "middle man" like Tony who already has a lot on his plate keeping Jan happy.

I'm not in TV in the summers, but when I'm in TV I'd be happy to respond to a request on TOTV Helping Hands to anyone asking for help. I'm sure the rest of you feel the same way.

Why not start off trying it the easy way? And if that doesn't work, we can come up with a more complex system?

renielarson
08-19-2008, 11:22 PM
It could be a 2 way street Barefoot...

TOTVers posting if they want to volunteer to help others and what services they are willing to help with...

and...

TOTVers posting if they need a "Helping Hand" and what they need help with.

Couldn't get simpler...

(Yes, I recognize that I ended sentences with prepositions...sorry...lol)

Just Susan
08-19-2008, 11:43 PM
Ending a sentence with a preposition merely identifies you as a Midwesterner, dahling. Nothing wrong with that!

chelsea24
08-20-2008, 12:01 AM
I agree with the K.I.S.S. rule (Keep It Simple Stupid!) Tony has already put up a forum.
Now all we need is a sticky note List of the people that are willing to be contacted and what they are willing or able to do. I think Tony can do this separate sticky note?

i.e.

chelsea24 -- willing to run errands, drive, daily check-ins, set up appointments, etc.
samhass -- will to do the floors, wash the windows, pick-up people at the airport, have se. ..

Well you get the idea! 1rnfl 1rnfl 1rnfl

Then the person can pm them directly.

renielarson
08-20-2008, 12:17 AM
lovehorse 1rnfl Chels...you are a :edit: li'l http://i530.photobucket.com/albums/dd346/CavCafe/Misc-Devil.gif

Maybe that's why I lubya so much!

samhass
08-20-2008, 12:18 AM
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. I don't get the idea.
chels, you need fresh air. We didn't play mahjong today and after a whole day indoors, the girl is delusional. Floors, windows, airport runs???? These are NOT a few of my favorite things. Furthermore, what was that last little item.."have se"??? Was that "have serious conversation" or "have sewing kit available" or "have settings for the table in place"??
Instead of going out for dinner tonight, I should have called you to go to Gators and play Buzztime. windows and floors, indeed!! 1rnfl 1rnfl 1rnfl 1rnfl 1rnfl






I agree with the K.I.S.S. rule (Keep It Simple Stupid!) Tony has already put up a forum.
Now all we need is a sticky note List of the people that are willing to be contacted and what they are willing or able to do. I think Tony can do this separate sticky note?

i.e.

chelsea24 -- willing to run errands, drive, daily check-ins, set up appointments, etc.
samhass -- will to do the floors, wash the windows, pick-up people at the airport, have se. ..

Well you get the idea! 1rnfl 1rnfl 1rnfl

Then the person can pm them directly.

renielarson
08-20-2008, 12:36 AM
Sam will have:

...sesame chicken ready to be served

...seashells by the seashore decorating the tables

...sextet of saxophone players scheduled to perform

...second rounds of drinks ready to be served

...seesaws and swings set up in the backyard

...serenading by Mexicans with mariachi dancing

Better stop now....lol

samhass
08-20-2008, 12:42 AM
OK. This is serious. I can see cabin fever is setting in. You can't keep a Villager in all day. We aren't used to it. These women are "afflicted".

We need to take this to Chatters Happy or Sad. This is (was) a serious thread.
If it continues in this vein, I will have to volunteer to pick you gals up and get you out of the house. Bright...don't make me come to Michigan. ;)

SL0829
08-25-2008, 01:28 PM
Hi everyone, I do not live in The Villages, but 98% of our business is done in The Villages. My husband and I started a cleaning services - Hometown Cleaning Services about 3 years ago. My husband died 8 weeks ago from sudden cardiac arrest. A couple of weeks past, and I started thinking of all the people out there that have no help or support. I told my family and my friends that I would love to help people that need help or support. Sometimes during a time of crisis, a person might NEED to talk and have someone listen. I know that is what I wanted - someone to listen to me and be with me in the time of need. I am fortunate to have many friends and family that are there for me, but that is when I thought about the people that do not have family or close friends to assist them in need. So if you don't mind an outsiders assistance, count me in. My email is YourCleaningTeam@aol.com

Peazoup
08-25-2008, 01:46 PM
Fabulous idea. When my parents were alive, they had something similar organized in their retirement community. When the daily newspaper wasn't picked up from the driveway by a certain time in the morning, neighbors would check on that person.
I have only a few more weeks before retirement, then I'll be in Bonnybrook. Please add my name to "helping hands". I love to cook and would be happy to do "meals on wheels" for shut ins. Or anything else that is needed.

nONIE
08-25-2008, 01:49 PM
your cleaning team,

First, please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of your husband. And now after only 8 weeks after his passing your are ready to offer your services to others in need. Your kindness and compassion for others is overwhelming to me.Bless you , you are a dear sweet soul. Thankyou so so much for being the very special person you are. ((((hugs)))

samhass
08-25-2008, 03:12 PM
Your cleaning team, I also offer condolences on the death of your husband.
On the other hand, I see you have just joined the forum and in essence have just gotten
some free publicity for your business. I wish you had posted under your personal "handle".
We have spoken about the possible dangers of Helping Hands. No one on this forum even knows if you are a woman. I offer my abject apologies if you are legitimate. It just raises a flag when this particular thread is used to tout someones business. Someone could offer an initial "free" service just to get in the door and sell paid services or worse. I do not mean to offend, but this is a very possible scenario. We live in different times. If you wish to help, join this forum under a private name. Become part of us by visiting Crispers or posting. As it is, although your intentions seem to be pure, we can't afford to take your post at face value.

tkret
08-25-2008, 03:39 PM
samhass,

Your posting is right on the money. It is sad that this is the kind of world we live in today, but you and all of us need to be vigilant. Nice work!

Peachie
08-25-2008, 03:42 PM
Bingo, Sam! I agree. Your cleaning team, please post under a different moniker and go to Crisper's. It sounds like the support the TOTV group has to offer would be good for you also.

samhass
08-25-2008, 03:46 PM
Thank you, tkret and Peachie. I had second thoughts about posting those words but felt they needed to be said. If the poster is sincere, I offer my apologies. As it is, we have no way of knowing whether this person is "a saint or a sinner".

nONIE
08-25-2008, 04:00 PM
I guess I am way too trusting, thanks for opening my eyes to the negative possibilities. :o

samhass
08-25-2008, 04:02 PM
Nonie, I hope you never change.

tkret
08-25-2008, 04:16 PM
Thank you, tkret and Peachie. I had second thoughts about posting those words but felt they needed to be said. If the poster is sincere, I offer my apologies. As it is, we have no way of knowing whether this person is "a saint or a sinner".


samhass,
Again, well done and you have NO reason for an apology. If the poster is sincere as you say, then he/she can accept this common sense advisory without hurt feelings of any kind. This is such a wonderful forum with all kinds of great information regarding a wonderful place. It should also be a forum that allows TV to remain a wonderful place and sometimes that includes postings such as yours.

Blondie
08-25-2008, 04:22 PM
Sam and all TOTVers,
I could never adequately express my feelings for all of you who show such compassion to others. I am so grateful to have found this group, you all make my heart happy. :bigthumbsup:
This is what life is all about. I will be in TV this weekend and stay through October, and want very much to help in any way that I can. Pease add me to the list. Oops, I forgot to say...I don't cook, but I am willing to purchase anything (that looks like it was homemade) ;D and give it to those in need. I am a great cleaner, and a good listener. I can also drive anyone anyplace they need to go.
You are truly special people. :agree:

MD Blondie

SL0829
08-25-2008, 05:36 PM
To all with concern, in know way did I place a post to get business. At this point in my life, that is the last on my mind. I advertise in other ways that are legitimate and paid for accordingly. I do understand the concern of some postings, but I am not one that should concern you. My husband always told me I was too trusting, but that is my nature. I won't appologize for that trait, I get that from my mother and have passed it
down to my children. Sometimes it is a great trait, and other times I wish I could be a little different. My geture to help was not about cleaning, it was about helping someone in need. Since I was faced with this recent tragedy, I look at life a little differently. I feel if I could help someone get through tough times in their life, by being there for converstation, errands, grocery shopping, doctor appointments, etc. If you are still unsure about who I am, what my intentions might be, please feel free to visit my site from The Star Banner in memory of my husband:

http://cliffledbetter.legacy.com/lmw/HomePage.aspx


P.S. If someone tells me how to change my handle, I would be happy to do so. I did not just join this site today. My husband and I have been on this site for awhile, but but only posted once for my mom. I originally signed-up to learn about The Villages for my mother awhile back, but she decided to keep the home she has until the market comes back.

barb1191
08-25-2008, 07:41 PM
Thank you, tkret and Peachie. I had second thoughts about posting those words but felt they needed to be said. If the poster is sincere, I offer my apologies. As it is, we have no way of knowing whether this person is "a saint or a sinner".


The poster IS sincere and a wonderful woman named Susan. She and her late hubby were my choice of excellent cleaning service. Susan IS a wonderful, caring, compassionate, hardworking woman. I admire her for her seeking to help others.

Susan need not trick one by slipping thru the side door for a free ride. Her ID here on TOTV is not the name of her company.

Sam, I understand your concern, however, this person is above and beyond ethical and caring. Her intentions here were not to pitch her business. She's in a state of mourning and is seeking out to help the needy.

Was so shocked to hear on her post of her hubby's passing. My heart is full of sadness for her loss.

barb

samhass
08-25-2008, 08:01 PM
Dear Yourcleaningteam-
You just got a fabulous reference. Barb is one of us and I trust what she tells me. I won't doubt your intentions at all after her post. I hope you understand my initial reticence. As it turns out, you are known to some of us and now have security clearance. ;) Best wishes to you and thanks for your offer of help.

Barefoot
08-25-2008, 08:10 PM
your cleaning team,

First, please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of your husband. And now after only 8 weeks after his passing your are ready to offer your services to others in need. Your kindness and compassion for others is overwhelming to me.Bless you , you are a dear sweet soul. Thankyou so so much for being the very special person you are. ((((hugs)))


To: Your Cleaning Team

I agree with Nonie. When I read your post I was filled with admiration for the fact that you are wanting to reach out and help others at a time which must be so filled with sadness for you. You are a very kind person. My sympathy on the loss of your husband.

Bless your heart for wanting to help.

renielarson
08-25-2008, 10:37 PM
Susan aka yourcleaningteam...

Welcome to the TOTV family. We appreciate your offer to help others and more importantly, we are here to help you, too. If you need anything just holler and we'll come running. You will discover, if you already haven't, we are family here and you are now a part of us.

The memorial to your husband was beautiful and I am so sorry he passed on at such a young age. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

Hugs to you and your family.

ouma1938
08-25-2008, 11:24 PM
Its a wonderful idea Sam, and a great name Bright. I am not a Villager yet but will be one day so please count me in. This is just another reason that I can't wait to get to TV. And why it is such a fantastic place with the best people in the world.