How to deal with upset family when I move to TV

[Sunny08]

Can someone give me some advice on this problem? I know they'll understand someday when they see how happy I will be once at TV, but now they are:sad::ohdear::grumpy::mad:

[bestmickey]

Without more information, like which family members are upset and what their probem is with your moving, I can only suggest one thing.

Tell them they'll now have a vacation destination!

[bargee]

The only suggestion I have is get in your car,turn south on RT75 and get ready to enjoy the rest of your life in this wonderful place.We had a similar situation but I suggest that they were not so concerned with losing us as they were about losing their baby sitters.Your only 7 hours from Atlanta so if they miss you that much they can drive down for the weekend.You should worry about taking care of yourselves and let the "family"learn to exist on their own.Good Luck,Safe trip and God Bless.

[villages07]

Sunny,

Here's some links to older threads...funny, while reading thru these I recognize a few people who were wannabees then and are here now and happy as can be.

https://www.talkofthevillages.com/forums/showthread.php?t=9587&highlight=leaving+grandkids

https://www.talkofthevillages.com/forums/showthread.php?t=11479&highlight=leaving+grandkids

Come and they will follow!!! It is your time.

[thegreenerside]

We had the same problem when we began talking to the kids above retiring to Florida. We felt bad about leaving them behind, but someone told us that it is our life and we had to do what was right for us.

One day we called them and told them we were leaving on vacation. No problems at that point. Seven years later we are still on vacation and the family is doing fine without us.

[Blondie]

It tears at the hear strings sometimes to leave loved ones behind. What worked for me was to ask them to drive down with me to see where I would potentially be living. I think it took the mystery out of it, and when my daughter saw what a wonderfully upbeat and active place TV is, her comment was, "I understand why you want to be here."

[Sunny08]

:pepper2::2excited: Family ought to get use to me going to TV.. I'm down every 2or3 months!! That's a good idea to get a family member to visit TV with me.. so they can see how great it is at TV!

[Cassie325]

:pepper2::2excited: Family ought to get use to me going to TV.. I'm down every 2or3 months!! That's a good idea to get a family member to visit TV with me.. so they can see how great it is at TV!

I would just tell them you are heading down for a trip....as usual....and then call them while you are here....and let them know you are staying forever!

[Sunny08]

:agree: Can't make everyone happy all the time:mademyday::a040:

[volleyb999]

Tell them about the activities that are offered in TV and send them to the website (they can look at the recreation activities on there). I have also heard that coming to TV adds 10 years to your life!

My family was the same. Once they found out what TV was actually like, they can't wait to visit!

[The Great Fumar]

I STOPPED CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THOUGHT WHEN I TURNED 21, WELL ALMOST EVERYBODY .......

QUALIFIED FUMAR:eclipsee_gold_cup:

[SteveZ]

I STOPPED CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THOUGHT WHEN I TURNED 21, WELL ALMOST EVERYBODY .......

QUALIFIED FUMAR:eclipsee_gold_cup:

Can't argue with that!

All kidding aside, if the reason others are upset that you are leaving is because you won't be there at immediate beck-and-call to service their needs, then it's high time they get "independent."

TV is a chance to get some stress relief and peace, as well as raise cain if you so choose with people with similar memories and interests. There is no place in the USA (and most of Canada) more than 12 hours away (TV shuttle to Orlando Airport and approx flying time), so you can't fully escape, and the others can come here if they really want to go through the effort to see you.

Welcome to the neighborhood!

[SNOK]

We still have a year or two before we make the permanent move. In the meantime, as we visit every 6 months, we invite one of our 3 children and their family to join us for the week. They, of course, love it and see why we do. The only problem is they end up saying they now want to retire also. It gives them a goal, I suppose. They recognize that it will be a great destination for them to visit. So much to do locally and in the surrounding area. And that doesn't even count one of the best benefits - avoiding the cold winters north and west of Florida.

[nONIE]

I am going thru this right now. As soon as the "for Sale" sign went into the ground we started getting h*** from the kids and grandkids. The guilt trip is overwhelming altho I am being more stubborn about resisting it then the hubby!

It is not an easy decision and I hope in time they will understand that they have a whole lifetime ahead of them, we dont! and whatever time we have left we need to enjoy to the fullest. We dont get a 2nd chance at this![/HTML]

[Barefoot]

Can someone give me some advice on this problem? I know they'll understand someday when they see how happy I will be once at TV, but now they are:sad::ohdear::grumpy::mad:


You asked for advice? My advice is .. stop feeling guilty. You have a perfect right to spend your golden years wherever you choose. Just make the move, giterdone!

Once your family see where you're living, they will be so happy for you. I think your problem won't be a grumpy and sad family, it will be where to put all your visitors!

Good luck with your move, I know it is tough to leave loved ones behind, but you'll be seeing lots of them.

[njgranny]

After years of wanting to move to Florida, as soon as I said "let's go" (after seeing the Villages), my husband has backed away saying that he'll miss the
kids (grandchildren).

One of the kids encourages us to go (a little too much, ha, ha), one isn't
happy but accepts it, and the third isn't very happy at all. He got mad because his sister and her family moved away a few years back.

Anyway, I would like to sell the house for whatever we can get and go. I'll be happy with whatever home we can afford in The Villages. It's not like we have forever left. I'll keep "working" on DH. It's not like he spends tons of time with the grandkids, and they are so busy with their own things.

I will keep dreaming.

[faithfulfrank]

I am going thru this right now. As soon as the "for Sale" sign went into the ground we started getting h*** from the kids and grandkids. The guilt trip is overwhelming altho I am being more stubborn about resisting it then the hubby!

It is not an easy decision and I hope in time they will understand that they have a whole lifetime ahead of them, we dont! and whatever time we have left we need to enjoy to the fullest. We dont get a 2nd chance at this![/HTML]

My heart goes out to you. I know it was a shock to our kids when we bought a home in Florida, because we were just going for a visit...then returned to NY, put in a purchase offer and bought our future. Me, who researches everything for months did this nutsy spontaneous thing!!

We just told our kids that the winters were getting hard to take, and that we know that this is best for us. I've never held them back.....I've told them to make their OWN traditions and live YOUR life, go where the jobs are, do what is best for YOU. Wherever they end up, we can visit them.

We never counted on our parents for babysitting, etc......we raised our kids ourselves. We help out when we can, and have done more for our kids then was ever done for us. As we get older, I do not want to be a burden on them.

We live in the age of free long distance phone calls, webcams, cheap airfare, e-mail, etc,etc. They know that Mickey Mouse lives close by and we are almost neighbors......when they visit I can take them there too.

We are thankful that they understand and are not being selfish. They are really happy for us. No one ever said on their deathbed that they wished they spent more time at the office. It is two years away for us, and I'm sure it may be harder when the time grows near.....but the die is cast, this will happen and we can't wait!!

Bottom line is that when you really love someone, you want the best for them. The Bible says that love does not demand it's own way. Florida IS the best for us......it's what we want and have worked for......if any child is not happy with it, then one would have to question their motives and their love....IMHO.

Love them lots, make great memories between now and when you go, and pray that they grow to understand. The first thing you did when they were born was to cut the umbilical cord.....everything we did after that was to teach them to be successful and INDEPENDENT..........this is just another step in that loving process.......

Frank D.

[nONIE]

Frank,

Thankyou,:bowdown: I feel better already. Your common sense is so comforting and logical. It still will be difficult but I will try to remember your words of wisdom,and refer back to your post as I would a self-help book!

[faithfulfrank]

Thank you nONIE. You are very kind.

Frank D.

[Russ_Boston]

I STOPPED CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THOUGHT WHEN I TURNED 21, WELL ALMOST EVERYBODY .......

QUALIFIED FUMAR:eclipsee_gold_cup:

Great quote Fumar!

I think it took me until 40 but I feel the same.

[Russ_Boston]

I'll be happy with whatever home we can afford in The Villages. It's not like we have forever left.

Amen!

[Russ_Boston]

No one ever said on their deathbed that they wished they spent more time at the office.

The first thing you did when they were born was to cut the umbilical cord.....everything we did after that was to teach them to be successful and INDEPENDENT..........this is just another step in that loving process.......Frank D.

Lots of great thoughts in this thread!

[nONIE]

After years of wanting to move to Florida, as soon as I said "let's go" (after seeing the Villages), my husband has backed away saying that he'll miss the
kids (grandchildren).

One of the kids encourages us to go (a little too much, ha, ha), one isn't
happy but accepts it, and the third isn't very happy at all. He got mad because his sister and her family moved away a few years back.

Anyway, I would like to sell the house for whatever we can get and go. I'll be happy with whatever home we can afford in The Villages. It's not like we have forever left. I'll keep "working" on DH. It's not like he spends tons of time with the grandkids, and they are so busy with their own things.

I will keep dreaming.

Nijranny,Dont stop dreaming( and keep bugging the hubby!)LOL

I never thought this would become a reality either. I agree with you 100%, on just selling the house for whatever we can get and also on it not mattering at all what we live in in TV. It has been said often that it is not so much the House you live in but the wonderful people and activities in TV that make it so wonderful. I have found that nothing could be more true, your thinking is right on! We have a doublewide in the Historic section and I just love it. I eat and sleep there and sometimes even entertain there. Friends do not seem to mind one bit, its the wonderful interaction with great people that is so meaningful.

[njgranny]

When we stayed in Florida last Jan. & Feb., we had a small cottage (2 br, 1 bath). We found it had plenty of room for the two of us and our two dogs.
I actually don't want much to have to clean.

I'm drawn to the homes on the historic side, too. I've seen many really attractive ones and the area appeals to me. I'll keep bugging.

[ouma1938]

NJGranny, I absolutely feel like you do about selling your house. I want to sell ours for whatever we can get for it and I don't care what we live in in TV as long as its in TV. Two of my kids are as anxious for us to begin our new life as we are but the third has some reservations. He has our only grandchild, as is worried that she won't know us well. Its silly really because we are three hours away now and we see them a fair amount but not that often. She is six and does know us and love us. Once once they visit TV they will understand I am sure. And they will even visit more. It will be much more fun for Molly. And so near Disneyworld. What more could a little girl want.

[Bogie Shooter]

Why not copy this thread and share it with the family?

[JeanneBeannie]

My heart goes out to you. I know it was a shock to our kids when we bought a home in Florida, because we were just going for a visit...then returned to NY, put in a purchase offer and bought our future. Me, who researches everything for months did this nutsy spontaneous thing!!

We just told our kids that the winters were getting hard to take, and that we know that this is best for us. I've never held them back.....I've told them to make their OWN traditions and live YOUR life, go where the jobs are, do what is best for YOU. Wherever they end up, we can visit them.

We never counted on our parents for babysitting, etc......we raised our kids ourselves. We help out when we can, and have done more for our kids then was ever done for us. As we get older, I do not want to be a burden on them.

We live in the age of free long distance phone calls, webcams, cheap airfare, e-mail, etc,etc. They know that Mickey Mouse lives close by and we are almost neighbors......when they visit I can take them there too.

We are thankful that they understand and are not being selfish. They are really happy for us. No one ever said on their deathbed that they wished they spent more time at the office. It is two years away for us, and I'm sure it may be harder when the time grows near.....but the die is cast, this will happen and we can't wait!!

Bottom line is that when you really love someone, you want the best for them. The Bible says that love does not demand it's own way. Florida IS the best for us......it's what we want and have worked for......if any child is not happy with it, then one would have to question their motives and their love....IMHO.

Love them lots, make great memories between now and when you go, and pray that they grow to understand. The first thing you did when they were born was to cut the umbilical cord.....everything we did after that was to teach them to be successful and INDEPENDENT..........this is just another step in that loving process.......

Frank D.

I am soooooooo glad I found this post :bowdown:. I guess its my turn to get the major guilt trip :oops:. I know this is what I want to do, but now that I have alittle over a month to make this work....everyone is telling me I am crazy!:shrug: I am trying to hold strong and know that they would do it in a NY minute if they could :1rotfl:. But I must admit, they are wearing on me big time....so please dont hestitate to give me the push I need, and tell them to visit anytime hehe :pepper2:.

[oatmealgirls]

... I guess its my turn to get the major guilt trip ...
... I know this is what I want to do, ...
... I am trying to hold strong ...
... they are wearing on me big time....
... dont hestitate to give me the push I need...
Oh JeanneBeannie,

...and my heart goes out to you! I can not speak from the same experience as you, but I think that you have already answered yourself.

I've admired your drive and umph when I've followed your posts on TOTV. You are going with your intuition, and sometimes that's a scary thing to do, but you're doing it -bravo!

This is a major event in your (or anyone's) life and it's an appropriate time to have doubts and feel emotional, for both you and them (actually it's a good thing, don't you think? All that love pouring out :-).

Give yourself time to feel the guilt, and feel worn down, and whatever else you need to feel, but also remember to look at, and yes, admire about yourself, the strength and gumption it's taking to pave your own path.

Dianne

[linko38]

I had to chime in. We have recently moved to Summerfield Fl. Left all our family behind in Indiana. Since February we have had 5 sets of visitors. Grandson has came twice. We are so happy in Florida. Once our family saw that they totally understood. Life's too short to live with regrets. Our 22 year old daughter just came for a visit, now she's staying too! LOL

[katezbox]

Hi Jeanne,

I have loved your posts - you are funny and kind and (I think) brave,

We don't know the path in life we will be on and our children are part of our life (hopefully a really big part), but they are not our life in its entirety. Not if we are healthy.

Go back to a post by Faithful Frank - our being where we need to be is part of their journey. We need to reset their expectations that we have unknowingly created that led them to believe we would always be just around the corner.

See you in person in a few weeks...

[graciegirl]

Kate.

Your posts are always so insightful and kind........and funny.
I just love ya.

[JeanneBeannie]

Thank you Dianne, Linko and Kate for your wonderful words of wisdom. It meant so much to me to hear your kind words. I will make sure I read them everyday or ten times a day if I have to...to get thru this. I do know all of them mean well...but I must keep reminding myself "its my turn". :pepper2:

[katezbox]

Kate.

Your posts are always so insightful and kind........and funny.
I just love ya.

Gracie,

Love ya back...

K

PS - the reason people you meet on line are surprised at your age when they meet you isn't because you look older than your avatar - it is because your posts are full of energy and sparkle.....:coolsmiley::icon_wink:

[njbchbum]

JeanneBeannie -
The bottom line is always that ya gotta do what ya gotta do for you...when mama's happy - everybody's happy...and when she's not - well, you know!

I am today looking at the strongest possibility that my 87 yr old mother is selling the last house that my sisters and I could call home and she is moving to live with my sister in N.C. [9 hr drive away - I don't fly]. I know and agree with her reasons for the move; and I understand her reason for selling the house.

Nonetheless, this will be the beginning of the widening of the gap between my sisters and I - it will become a gulf. We were raised to be independent [just in case we never married!] and we are [married and independent!]. We are all also over 50 - so we are set in our ways as well. Until the middle sister moved to N.C. this month to begin the retirement phase of her and her husband's life, we were within an hour drive of each other and could visit whenever the spirit moved one, could chat on the phone without it being an expensive call, we were there to support each other on the tough days, we had our holidays together, yada, yada, yada.

My other sister is still in N.J. but is facing an uncertain future because of her husband's very serious medical condition. We might find her transplanting to S.C near her daughter if/when she finds herself alone.

The house that is being sold is an oceanfront bungalow that my folks purchased just before my father passed - it was his best insurance policy for his family he said - and it was. Its rental history paid for college tuitions and wedding receptions! What times we spent there thru 40+ yrs!

That building represented a place that we could all go back to - sort of a place to have an annual reunion...a place where we could all be together again. But it does not appear that such is to be. The last link that could bring us together will be broken. Family will always be family - no matter what. But holidays will now be with friends, support will only be by phone and we'll only see each other in photos. This is gonna take a lot of getting used to!

Life goes on - but I never expected that it would go on without that little beach house and the family that lived there. The pastor says that this is sorta like a period to grieve and that the unhappiness I feel will pass - yeah, yeah, yeah - that's true. But in the mean time, the feelings can bring me to tears.

So, JeanneBeannie, give your friends some time to get used to "losing" you and enjoy the realizization of how much you mean to them. It may not make leaving them now any easier, but you will know that you did all that you could do - and no one should ever ask for more than that.

...am now ready for a pity party and feel the need to drown my sorrow in mint chocolate chip on toasted pound cake...

[Boomer]

JeanneBeannie -
The bottom line is always that ya gotta do what ya gotta do for you...when mama's happy - everybody's happy...and when she's not - well, you know!

I am today looking at the strongest possibility that my 87 yr old mother is selling the last house that my sisters and I could call home and she is moving to live with my sister in N.C. [9 hr drive away - I don't fly]. I know and agree with her reasons for the move; and I understand her reason for selling the house.

Nonetheless, this will be the beginning of the widening of the gap between my sisters and I - it will become a gulf. We were raised to be independent [just in case we never married!] and we are [married and independent!]. We are all also over 50 - so we are set in our ways as well. Until the middle sister moved to N.C. this month to begin the retirement phase of her and her husband's life, we were within an hour drive of each other and could visit whenever the spirit moved one, could chat on the phone without it being an expensive call, we were there to support each other on the tough days, we had our holidays together, yada, yada, yada.

My other sister is still in N.J. but is facing an uncertain future because of her husband's very serious medical condition. We might find her transplanting to S.C near her daughter if/when she finds herself alone.

The house that is being sold is an oceanfront bungalow that my folks purchased just before my father passed - it was his best insurance policy for his family he said - and it was. Its rental history paid for college tuitions and wedding receptions! What times we spent there thru 40+ yrs!

That building represented a place that we could all go back to - sort of a place to have an annual reunion...a place where we could all be together again. But it does not appear that such is to be. The last link that could bring us together will be broken. Family will always be family - no matter what. But holidays will now be with friends, support will only be by phone and we'll only see each other in photos. This is gonna take a lot of getting used to!

Life goes on - but I never expected that it would go on without that little beach house and the family that lived there. The pastor says that this is sorta like a period to grieve and that the unhappiness I feel will pass - yeah, yeah, yeah - that's true. But in the mean time, the feelings can bring me to tears.

So, JeanneBeannie, give your friends some time to get used to "losing" you and enjoy the realizization of how much you mean to them. It may not make leaving them now any easier, but you will know that you did all that you could do - and no one should ever ask for more than that.

...am now ready for a pity party and feel the need to drown my sorrow in mint chocolate chip on toasted pound cake...

njbchbum, (I just realized what your screen name means. I cannot believe I did not break the code before.)

Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that these are wonderful words that you put here for JeanneBeannie, and I know that your words will help others, too. Good practical woman words. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts so beautifully. This world of the internet sure is something sometimes. Thanks for reaching through cyberspace to help somebody. (And have an extra scoop of that mint chocolate chip for me.)

Boomer

[JeanneBeannie]

Can I join you njbchbum....mint chocolate chip is one of my favorites?? :icon_hungry:.
I feel bad whining about my woes, when truly you are going thru something much more difficult. I remember when my parents house sold and it was very sad. Thank you for all your thoughtfulness, and I hope that in some way this transition of selling the house on the beach will leave you with many happy memories with your family. My son wont fly either, so I am sure the distance with your Mother moving is going to be hard also.
And so very true...."when Mama's happy...everyone is happy"!
Thank you and good luck to you. I guess this is what they mean by the circle of life? :shrug:

[JeanneBeannie]

Boomer.....I agree :agree:.

It is wonderful to have met such wonderful people thru cyberspace! :024:

[annford]

How many times have your kids said they were going to run away from home? Well, we heard that a few times, so when they asked us why we were moving to Florida, we just said, "Dad & I just decided we would run away from home" They got over it and visit quite often and they have a ball. Now I just have to figure out how to get them to rent their own golf cart.

[memason]

I can appreciate your situation. We are still wannabes, but my job has taken me to Germany for a few years. Now that we're 4,000 miles from family [Kids and Grandkids], I believe they'll be happy with us anywhere within the borders of the US ..... :-))

[dizz42]

How many times have your kids said they were going to run away from home? Well, we heard that a few times, so when they asked us why we were moving to Florida, we just said, "Dad & I just decided we would run away from home".

This is a good one! When we visited and rented a home in TV in June, we came "this close" to putting in a bid on a house. We got cold feet but since we got home we have talked and talked about making the move. One of the factors in backing out was "what will our families say?" Well, when we told them about TV and they saw our pictures, every single one of them said, "Go for it"! In fact, my oldest sister said she wished she had moved years ago but now feels too old and set in her ways. While I still think she could do it, I see her point.

My husband and I are newly retired and feel now is the time to do this. Our official LSP will be in January and in the meantime, we are getting our house ready to sell. My thinking has always been "What's the worse that could happen?" Well, lets see...we move to TV and hate it? Then I guess we would just move back north. While it would be a pain to pack up and move again, no one's going to MAKE us stay if we don't want to.

[JeanneBeannie]

Thank you Annford...you are so right...excellent point!! His dream is Montana, so I am sure if he had the opportunity he would be gone in a flash! :crap2:

Wow Memason...Germany?? Whewww now that is far!! It must be so hard to be away from your family. I bet they cant wait for you to return.

Dizz thank you....I remember reading your posts as you were leaving TV and going back home and dreaming of moving to TV. Another excellent point, I told my son I can always come back if it doesnt work. He is a worry wart (like me lol) and he worries I dont know anyone, I will be alone, the heat etc. etc. hehe. Actually everyone that I know has said that they are sure he will follow me to TV...that would be fantastic! If not TV at least someplace closer. :bowdown: My sister suggested TV to me, so she is absolutely thrilled for me, along with my close friends. But there are always a few in the bunch who like to put their two cents in :blahblahblah:.
The nay sayers think of Florida as hot, hurricanes, humid etc. Hey the three HHH"s :1rotfl:. Very easy peasy (as Bare would say) if its hot and humid...I stay inside with the AC on, if there is a hurricane, I will hide under my bed hehe. :duck:.
Everyone has been so thoughtful and helpful, I appreciate it so much!!

[jojo]

JeanneBeannie, Come on down. Look how many friends you have here already.

[JeanneBeannie]

JeanneBeannie, Come on down. Look how many friends you have here already.

Thank you JoJo, that is so sweet of you to say. I am really looking forward to meeting you very soon. My new dilemma is packing, moving by 9/30. I thought I could rent a cheap apt. here while I make this all work, but there isnt one available. So now wondering...if I should just pack up and move on down and rent there till I find something. Wow...sorry...can you tell I am confused lol?? :shrug: I am sure there are plenty of folks like me going thru the same thing, soon this will be over and I will be sitting at the pool relaxing with all of you!!! :pepper2:

[dillywho]

Just remind those naysayers when they tell you about the heat, humidity, hurricanes, etc. that you don't have to shovel heat, humidity, hurricanes while freezing your arse in the process.

[Indy-Guy]

My cousin thought I was crazy when I told her I had purchased a place in The Villages FL.

When I would see her on visits back to Indiana she would ask me if I miss Indiana and I would just laugh and shake my head no and say not at all. I lived in the Indianapolis area all of my life and never thought I would leave till I saw The Villages.

She and her husband visited this year and after a two hour tour of The Villages we sat down to lunch at Cane Garden. She said well when I asked you if you missed Indiana I see how foolish a question that was.

As I told her when you try to describe this place to someone it is like describing Disney World to someone who has only been to a County fair.

[cher54461]

Lots of great thoughts in this thread!

I agree. With hubby and myself it is not daughter but his brothers and sisters. They are mad at me for wanting to move.
We get it is too hot, too expensive which is not the case. I am so tired of hearing them. So I just try to not listen.
If my daughter can understand then they should just keep silent.
Any ideas on how to answer them? Thanks

[Halle]

Hi Jeannie,

I think after you close on your house you should pack up the pups and head on down.

Looking forward to seeing you in December and having a Doggy Playdate. LOL

[dizz42]

We get it is too hot, too expensive which is not the case. I am so tired of hearing them. So I just try to not listen.
If my daughter can understand then they should just keep silent.
Any ideas on how to answer them? Thanks

As Indy-Guy's story shows "seeing is believing" and when they raise objections, maybe the best approach is to instantly invite them to visit. For our family, even the pictures were enough to convince them why we want to live in TV.

Jeanne-Beannie: My "what's the worse that could happen" scenerio kinda makes us feel better too. Because moving is such a big decision, I think we forget it's not the end of the world if we make a mistake if that turns out to be the case. I like your thoughts about "just do it" and rent for a while. That is what my husband and I decided to do. We are going to sell our house first with a 60-90 day contingency for us to move to TV and rent. Then we will take our time either building or purchasing pre-owned.:2excited:

Good luck on your decision and hopefully when we both are eventually in TV, we'll meet, along with other TOTV friends, and exchange moving stories! :beer3:

[kittylecroix]

Jeannie,
We are moving in a couple of weeks and have rented a patio villa for 4 months. We are using a POD and that will be stored during that time while we find/build a place. If we find something right away, we will take some time to get it ready. I think you might want to do something like that also. Renting at this time of year is fairly easy. Hope to meet you when we are both there and the rest of the nice people on this forum!!

[cher54461]

As Indy-Guy's story shows "seeing is believing" and when they raise objections, maybe the best approach is to instantly invite them to visit. For our family, even the pictures were enough to convince them why we want to live in TV.

Jeanne-Beannie: My "what's the worse that could happen" scenerio kinda makes us feel better too. Because moving is such a big decision, I think we forget it's not the end of the world if we make a mistake if that turns out to be the case. I like your thoughts about "just do it" and rent for a while. That is what my husband and I decided to do. We are going to sell our house first with a 60-90 day contingency for us to move to TV and rent. Then we will take our time either building or purchasing pre-owned.:2excited:

Good luck on your decision and hopefully when we both are eventually in TV, we'll meet, along with other TOTV friends, and exchange moving stories! :beer3:

We have told all of family that they are welcome to come see us. I think daughter and nieces and newphews will come. But his brothers and sisters I don't know. All I know is I want my house to sell so I can come down and start enjoying my retirement.

[skip0358]

Daughter and Grand Daugter don't want us to leave, other people have told us it's hot in the summer. My comment was it's cold in New York in the winter. Your right I don't shovel heat and if it's to hot outside I'll go to a movie or a Happy Hour. That works. My POD arrives tomorrow, we'll start packing it up. Supposed to be picked up on the 28th of August. I have a hearing with the town on our house on Long Island hoping all goes well. Because after the POD leaves I'd like to be going also. I have a villa lined up for a week or so if I need it. I know it a hussel & bussel but can't wait to get back down to TV and start our second childhood. Good luck to all who are in the same boat. I've already got family booking time at the house. Think I'll need a booking agent. They tell me we're nuts for moving but they can"t wait to come see this place. Won't they be surprised..

[JeanneBeannie]

I want to thank you for your posts!! I want to respond to each and everyone of you, because each post has helped me so much!! But I didnt want to hog up all the pages hehe.
You are all amazing, and have helped me so much with this transition. If it werent for you wonderful people on TOTV I would probably be going thru another winter up here :cold:.
Thank you for the "guilt advice" , I do feel so much better now. I cant wait for the day when I can post..."I am on my may" :crap2:
Jeanne
:pepper2::beer3::pepper2:

[njbchbum]

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Thank you for the "guilt advice" , I do feel so much better now. I cant wait for the day when I can post..."I am on my may" :crap2:
Jeanne
:pepper2::beer3::pepper2:

We look forward to that day, too, Jeannie - and we'll be here to make the trip with ya if ya need us! ;)

[JeanneBeannie]

We look forward to that day, too, Jeannie - and we'll be here to make the trip with ya if ya need us! ;)

Thank you so much, that is such a nice thing to say!! You are very sweet!
I'm sorry I am just responding, been packing and not up to date with the posts these days :faint:.
I almost caved in to the guilt earlier this week, for a few days I just threw my hands up and said "ok you win, I wont move". The guilt was killing me :cryin2:. But thanks to very good friends and alot of thinking...Jeanne has bounced back and plan to be in TV at the beginning of October and rent a beautiful CYV in Duval. :a040: I still have the closing to get thru, so I better not jinx it lol. :bowdown:.
Thank you again!! :mademyday:

[ssmith]

Another thought....I think it is better to try the adventure...it might not turn out as you thought but you attempted it...instead of always wondering what if. the rest of your life... AGain you can always return if it is not for you...but what if it is the best thing you have ever done....

Also I believe it is natural to start to doubt such a big transition ...and then the friends add theirs...but you are the one who has to figure out what you want....and live your life.

Susie

[graciegirl]

This thread is enough to reaffirm all of the things that make me feel so good when I am in The Villages. I adore my Gretchen and her Graylyn and Colin...It is very hard to think of being so far from them all year, but this is not a dress rehearsal.

[nONIE]

How will we ever know what could have been if we live in fear of trying???

If We find that The Villages are not for us, theres no reason on earth why we cant come back, theres nothing stopping us from returning.

Be brave Jeanne, you have lots of support from fantastic people!

[dizz42]

Just let me join in with all these great folks here on TOTV to add my encouragement for you to do what is in your heart. Please let everyone know when you take the plunge and how things work out for you. All the best! :thumbup:

[Bettiboop]

Jeanne,

Ditto what others have already said.

I so hope to follow in your footsteps some day - well not your EXACT footsteps, but you know what I mean! I've been watching your story unfold and find myself getting excited for you and your new journey, but I can definitely empathize with the angst you are feeling with your decision making.

Think about it; you're not making a rash decision. You've done your research and given the pros and cons a lot of thought, so whatever decision you make will be a well informed one. That is all that we can ask of ourselves, in my opinion. I believe that if you spend time gathering all the facts and looking at things objectively - from every angle - then it is time to move forward with your decision comfortable that you are making the best possible decision you can make with the facts as you know them.

Yes, the doubt will always try to creep back into your thought process but if you're not careful your decision making process can become an agonizing unending one. Don't let the fear of making the wrong decision paralyze you. There comes a time when we have to just make the decision and move forward, taking comfort in the fact that almost every decision can be reversed - so if it turns out to be the wrong one for you, you don't beat yourself up over it, you just change direction.

I used to find it so hard to make major decisions - I've gotten better at it over the years. Not every decision is going to be a perfect one, but that is okay.

I say go foward with your decision with no regrets or second-guessing!! Just think of the missed opportunities if you don't give it a shot!

You go girl! Follow your dream! :2excited: for you!

[JeanneBeannie]

You are all so amazing, thank you so much for your loving support. I have taken all your wonderful advice and have been packing away, selling all my things...and I mean ALL lol lol...anyone who likes to shop, please dont hestitate to join me with all your great decorating ideas!
I will stay strong thanks to all of you! Altho...I havnt told my son I rented a home in TV yet, but will today. If I disappear off the radar screen that means he flipped lol lol (dont worry just kidding). :1rotfl:
Thanks so much again....I cant wait to meet you all!!! :mademyday: