Care of Parent

[Bryant]

Do The Villages covenants allow an adult child with a minor to move in with a parent who has a long term illness, such as dementia, who needs someone to prepare meals, administer meds, etc.? This would obviously be a long term indefinite need. If anyone has had experience or any information on the topic, I would certainly appreciate it. Thank you in advance.

[graciegirl]

I don't think that there are any exceptions to the rule that children under 18 are not allowed to live in The Villages. I know that the case you point out is very heartbreaking. If the parent is unable to care for themself, is that parent aware where she lives? In that case it would be a little easier to move to another place.

None of these scenarios are easy to discuss and there are no easy answers. I feel very sympathetic to any one who has a family member with dementia or any long term illness.

[Prizmz]

I don't know about the live-in situation, but should the need arise to use a dementia facility, I recommend Clare Bridge on S. Lake Street in Leesburg.

My mother-in-law has lived there for two years. The staff is wonderful with the clients. As hard as it is to need to use such a residence, clare Bridge is very good.

Clare Bridge's parent corporation in Brookdale,the same group involved with Freedom Pointe.

I will include you in my prayers.

[Bryant]

Thank you for the info. Right now it is in the beginning stages (constant repetition, doesn't remember how to cook, forgets to take meds, needs to be driven to doctor appts., etc.). This is going to be a long haul. Son is willing to come and care for her, but he has a minor child.

[redwitch]

Sadly, the rule is no one under 19, no exceptions for any reason. I guess the reasoning would be that everyone would try to get an exception and many have moved here to be away from the children noises.

However, the reality is that you can always try it until a neighbor complains and then plan to move. That's the way several grandparents do it who are now forced to raise their grandchildren. (Yes, I know it is breaking the rules but if they don't mind and if their neighbors don't mind, who does it hurt?)

[Bogie Shooter]

What if everyone broke all the rules?