I need some Serious replies please!

[Madelaine Amee]

What started out as a "sort" of joke with my next door neighbor is beginning to unnerve me. We are poles apart on politics, he is very open about his views, I am very quiet and private about mine. He started sending me irritating little snippets across the internet which I ignored, then they got to be more than snippets, now I am getting pages and pages of stuff from some very weird sites. I know I can put him in blocked mail, but does this show up to the sender that I have him blocked? I do not under any circumstance want to aggravate him enough to maybe get a firebomb through my window .... and I am serious here. Please give me some sensible suggestions on how to keep a neighbor and stop this nonsense.

[rubicon]

Perhaps the best approach is to e-mail him and tell him that you simply are not interested in exchanging political views. This nation of ours is in a hyper partisan binge creating tension between family members. For example one of my kids carries the total opposite of my political belief and hence I may it clear such discussions of this nature are simply to be avoided.

[Madelaine Amee]

Perhaps the best approach is to e-mail him and tell him that you simply are not interested in exchanging political views. This nation of ours is in a hyper partisan binge creating tension between family members. For example one of my kids carries the total opposite of my political belief and hence I may it clear such discussions of this nature are simply to be avoided.

Rubicon, thank you for your reply. We too have people in our family with different views and that is OK, as long as we do not discuss it we do fine. I have let this neighbor know that I have no interest in continuing this interaction and I have also brought to his attention that I do not invade his privacy on the internet and, therefore, he should think before he invades mine! Fell on "deaf" ears, which is probably an inappropriate use of the term at this time, but my request has not been honored. I have just had another one calling me an Elitist!

[SouthOfTheBorder]

What started out as a "sort" of joke with my next door neighbor is beginning to unnerve me. We are poles apart on politics, he is very open about his views, I am very quiet and private about mine. He started sending me irritating little snippets across the internet which I ignored, then they got to be more than snippets, now I am getting pages and pages of stuff from some very weird sites. I know I can put him in blocked mail, but does this show up to the sender that I have him blocked? I do not under any circumstance want to aggravate him enough to maybe get a firebomb through my window .... and I am serious here. Please give me some sensible suggestions on how to keep a neighbor and stop this nonsense.


NO.

Assuming you are talking about your email program and not social media sites, your neighbor will not know you have �blocked� his emails.

Don

[Two Bills]

Maam. If he is married, could you not talk discreetly to his wife, and explain how unnerving it is, and you want it stopped.
If you have a husband/partner, could he not have a quiet word with him.
On the the other hand if you are alone, and genuinly fearful of his reaction to blocking unwanted emails, I think your best recourse is to get the local law enforcement to have a word with him.
He sounds a little unhinged to put it mildly if you think a firebomb could be a reaction. What is he, the local Klan Chief?

[jnieman]

I too have quite a few friends who posted non-stop political on their Facebook pages. I unfollowed countless people for this reason. With email it is tricky. You have already told him you don't want him to try to force his political opinion on you, yet he continues.

Depending on which email service you use there may be a way to stop emails with certain key words from coming to your inbox, like Trump or Hillary. Not sure if they will go back as undelivered however. Of course would that be a bad thing? Then if he says oh by the way my emails are coming back undelivered to your email address, you could say oh it must have been something political, I have a block on all of that. He would then get the message loud and clear.

[rubicon]

Rubicon, thank you for your reply. We too have people in our family with different views and that is OK, as long as we do not discuss it we do fine. I have let this neighbor know that I have no interest in continuing this interaction and I have also brought to his attention that I do not invade his privacy on the internet and, therefore, he should think before he invades mine! Fell on "deaf" ears, which is probably an inappropriate use of the term at this time, but my request has not been honored. I have just had another one calling me an Elitist!

madelaine : I view this neighbor's actions as harassment and while I understand your concern of not hurting anyone's feelings its simply true that sometimes it pays to be as subtle as a train wreck with some people in order to get their attention. I would say look Charley knock it off or else . You can define "or else" as it means different things to different people. for me its an offer he can't refuse:D

[retiredguy123]

If you are referring to the private messages on this web site, I would suggest that you ask the administrator to change your user name to something that does not reveal your identity. If you are referring to an email server, you could easily set up a new email address. In either case, I don't think blocking a sender would notify the sender, but I am not certain. But, you could easily test this by temporarily blocking someone you trust.

[Two Bills]

PS. Did not see South of the Borders reply before posting mine. There you go. Block him.

[dirtbanker]

You can sign him up for the political sites he likes (if he is republican, google republican donation sites and insert his email info in the contact page) he will be so busy reading solicitations for donations, he wont have time to discuss your "elitistness".

The other simple solution is sell and move away from him!

[villagetinker]

MA, first, I would keep all of the e-mails, I would then contact the local law enforcement, provide the e-mails and the background with regard to this matter. It may be possible to get a cease and desist order, or something similar. The local police will be able to best advise you on other items that you may want to consider or need to do. You may also consider changing your email address, ask the people that you want to stay in touch with to NOT share your new email address. Some email programs will allow you set an 'out of office' message, but this goes to everyone that sends you mail, so this does not help.
I would also avoid all contact to the extent possible.
Hope this helps, and sorry for your situation.

[TheDude]

First, time heals. Its a political season but will die down. People usually peter out when the thrill is gone.

If it is only emails, just create a 'rule' that whenever an email from this person emails you, then it goes to a folder you choose, like the junk folder.

I don't use Outlook now (I have an iMac), but when I worked I did, and there were a few people who I just didn't want to get an email from, so I created a rule to just delete their messages. They will still be in your deleted folder. They will never know you are deleting the emails, and if you don't empty your deleted items then if you want you could always read them.

How To Auto Delete Mail In Outlook Selectively (http://www.thewindowsclub.com/auto-delete-mail-outlook)

I would wait it out and be friendly. My aunt sends me religion stuff at times, I just look at it to see if I am interested in any way and if not, I toss it. She doesn't know, and I am happy she takes the time to send me stuff and would never want to hurt her feelings.

Now, if he is sending you emails to websites that could break the law, you have to go to the next step because that would have to stop because you could get into trouble by going to the links (and if that is happening, then you are stuck with a neighbor who may not like you). I doubt that is happening. So, I'd just wait it out, and if you like him, make him some cookies and be nice. This to will pass. There is only so much he can send before it gets boring.

[juneroses]

I think most email programs have filters available. For example, in gmail, click on ADVANCED FEATURES and then MANAGE MESSAGE FILTERS. Select NEW, select SUBJECT, select FROM. Input offending email address. Click radio button for MATCH ANY OF THE FOLLOWING.

Then under PERFORM THESE ACTIONS click on the elevator button to the right of MOVE MESSAGE TO and select DELETE MESSAGE. Finally click OK.

According to info in gmail, the sender is not notified that his/her messages are filtered.

An internet search using your email provider name and "block messages" might give you more specific info on your situation.

[dewilson58]

I agree with South of................block him and be done with it.

Good Luck.

[diva1]

I know this is a pain, but at this point I would change my email address. If he asks about it simply decline to provide...nicely. It's a shame some people can be so tone deaf and inconsiderate. Personally, I have asked friends to just not send any kind of political stuff to me and for the most part that is honored. The very few that come are simply deleted without a second thought.

[Jima64]

Block him, tell him and find whichever authorities deal with this and report it.

[npwalters]

MA, first, I would keep all of the e-mails, I would then contact the local law enforcement, provide the e-mails and the background with regard to this matter. It may be possible to get a cease and desist order, or something similar. The local police will be able to best advise you on other items that you may want to consider or need to do. You may also consider changing your email address, ask the people that you want to stay in touch with to NOT share your new email address. Some email programs will allow you set an 'out of office' message, but this goes to everyone that sends you mail, so this does not help.
I would also avoid all contact to the extent possible.
Hope this helps, and sorry for your situation.

Seriously??? Talk about pole vaulting over a mouse turd. If it's Facebook there are several options to block an individuals' posts. If it's Email just block the sender.

[Madelaine Amee]

NO.

Assuming you are talking about your email program and not social media sites, your neighbor will not know you have �blocked� his emails.

Don

Thank you Don. I do not do social media .... put nothing in writing that can come back to bite you in the xxxxx!

[Madelaine Amee]

to everyone who took the time to reply to my urgent request for information.

However, matters might have changed somewhat since I first wrote for help. The other half, who actually is my one and only original husband and the love of my life came back from where ever he was and "messed" around with the computer and lo and behold he found the new email to which he replied without my knowledge, so if all hell breaks lose over on the north side of 466 you will know it was MA and her ever loving husband!

I make light of this, but it is rotten to live knowing someone feels this deeply and you are in his target line.

[Taltarzac725]

Do you not have a junk mail option in your e-mai? Just mark these as "junk mail" and you can just forget about them. I use AOL e-mail which allows me to just designate e-mails as junk mail.

I would not escalate this problem with calls to the police and such but you might want to start keeping a journal of interactions with him in case the situation goes further south. You can use such a journal if you do have to talk to the police. Write down everything like you have a habit to do so.

Just read your new post. Let the hubbies sort it out!!!

[Villageswimmer]

Most folks are gracious about political differences. OTOH, others feel compelled to strike out out of fear and hate or maybe to "educate" you. They like to pick nice people like you--easy targets.
If he's otherwise harmless, don't read them, hit the delete key, and don't acknowledge them. He'll soon tire of this nonsense.
If you truly feel intimidated that he wishes to harm you, that's another story. Sorry this is happening to you.

[bbbbbb]

What started out as a "sort" of joke with my next door neighbor is beginning to unnerve me. We are poles apart on politics, he is very open about his views, I am very quiet and private about mine. He started sending me irritating little snippets across the internet which I ignored, then they got to be more than snippets, now I am getting pages and pages of stuff from some very weird sites. I know I can put him in blocked mail, but does this show up to the sender that I have him blocked? I do not under any circumstance want to aggravate him enough to maybe get a firebomb through my window .... and I am serious here. Please give me some sensible suggestions on how to keep a neighbor and stop this nonsense.

There are some choices to make. You can:

1.Click on the box at incoming mail and send to Junk Mail.
2. After it is in Junk you can click on the box and then send to BLOCK
3. For Rude folks, we found it is best to get some distance like this:
4. Click on Return and simply say "your emails to this address are no longer opened and reviewed.
5. If he continues to be harsh, you may want to ask the Sheriffs office to intervene for you, they will have it on record and if he goes nuts, they will move swiftly.
Above all. Do not take chances with people who verbally attack you, you know what can be next!!!! Do not worry about losing a friend, he is NOT a friend or this would not be going on.
Be Wise and be Careful, protect yourself. You are not going to be the first person in this area who has neighbor problems.

Mark Twain said if you meet 10 folks and one of them becomes a friend, you are very lucky.
He is not one of the good ones, forget it.
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[ColdNoMore]

PS. Did not see South of the Borders reply before posting mine. There you go. Block him.

Yep, blocking him is the right way to go.

Changing e-mails is not only a pain (letting everyone know your new one), but he then wins by making you go to such extremes.

Although a stalker/extremist like this is already on the edge, it's good to hear that your husband has faced him head on.

Bullies like that only respond to someone standing directly up to them.

Hope this works for you. :thumbup:

[jclrxman]

Just block him. He will think you are not responding

[Allegiance]

Ignore it as best you can.

[fw102807]

Just delete. You don't even have to open them. He will also not know if they are blocked. They simply go into your deleted folder.

[rjm1cc]

If you send the emails to the spam or junk file on your computer I do not think he will know and this is probably a good solution.

To test your mail system add your husband or a friend to your spam folder and send and email and see what happens.

Good luck.

[Barefoot]

Seriously??? Talk about pole vaulting over a mouse turd. If it's Email just block the sender.
Funny expression.
My email provider allows me to designate an email as spam. From then on anything from that sender goes to the spam folder.
My provider also has a way (under settings) of blocking messages from specific email addresses. With no notification to the sender.
No reason to give your neighbor any explanations. Best of luck with your neighbor!

[Fred R]

Do what I did. When my neighbor started sending me this political stuff that was only half true anyway I started correcting his pieces and returning them to him with the historical correction. Very soon he stopped sending me this junk because he didn't want to hear any opinion that didn't agree with his. ( Don't confuse me with the facts scenario)

[HimandMe]

I would just click block and forget about him. If he mentions anything, I would reply that politics often makes enemies of otherwise good neighbors and I block anything that looks political.

You really don't owe him and explanation though, just forget about it and think of something you love.

[ColdNoMore]

Do what I did. When my neighbor started sending me this political stuff that was only half true anyway I started correcting his pieces and returning them to him with the historical correction. Very soon he stopped sending me this junk because he didn't want to hear any opinion that didn't agree with his. ( Don't confuse me with the facts scenario)

Yep, I've done the same thing!

For some unknown reason, I am now no longer on the distribution list for this kind of wacky stuff...from a few of the more extreme members of my golf groups (and even a couple of relatives).

Go figure. :D

As for the OP, while blocking the sender is probably the only thing that will ultimately work, I still think your husband has the right idea and that is to tell the person in no uncertain terms...that the garbage he sends is unacceptable to y'all.

Once again...good luck. :thumbup:

[spd2918]

I would handle it this way:

I would make a cake or pie or something and deliver it to him with a note. The note would congratulate him (if his candidate won) or console him (if his candidate lost). Explain that you thought the joke (as you called) was funny but now it is over and you'd like the emails to stop.

This approach gives him a face saving way to remain a good neighbor.

[graciegirl]

It depends. If he has voted both ways in his life and ended up voting the way I did this time, change your mind and agree with him.

If he somehow got brainwashed in college and cried and ranted and spit and yelled and had fits and bad spells after this election, and ran off with a puppy, there is very little hope.

Move. chilout

[jnieman]

I would not confront him in any way on this. I would quietly block him or send his messages to spam or just delete them. You do not want to poke a hornet's nest. Sounds like a nut job.

[Barefoot]

I would not confront him in any way on this. I would quietly block him or send his messages to spam or just delete them. You do not want to poke a hornet's nest. Sounds like a nut job.
Exactly my thoughts.

[Madelaine Amee]

I blocked him, so far so good. My other half really, really, really wants to poke this hornet's nest and I am trying to calm him down. Oh, such is life in the fast lane.

My thanks to all you good people for your great replies. TOTV is still alive and kicking.:smiley:

[Polar Bear]

I would not confront him in any way on this. I would quietly block him or send his messages to spam or just delete them. You do not want to poke a hornet's nest. Sounds like a nut job.
I also agree with this.

Keep your husband at bay. :)

[Madelaine Amee]

Keep your husband at bay. :)

Keeping my husband at bay is like trying to get the elephant out of the room!:smiley:

[CFrance]

Keeping my husband at bay is like trying to get the elephant out of the room!:smiley:
Just curious, Madelaine... do you and your husband share the same email address? I and mine can't even share a computer! (We have to get two rec magazines...) I would get my own email address and don't let hubby have the login information!:wave:

[ColdNoMore]

I blocked him, so far so good. My other half really, really, really wants to poke this hornet's nest and I am trying to calm him down. Oh, such is life in the fast lane.

My thanks to all you good people for your great replies. TOTV is still alive and kicking.:smiley:

While I can certainly empathize with your desire to just let it go and be done with the jerk, I still agree more with your husband.

If no one tells this bully straight up that his behavior is unacceptable and that he better change or there will be consequences (legal of course), the azzhole will simply go to his next victim...without ever being called on his stalking.

The old saying that "all it takes for jerks/evil to succeed, is for no one to take a stand"...comes to mind here for me.

Regardless of my personal opinion however, you are the one that has to feel comfortable...and hopefully you can now put this ugly chapter behind you. :thumbup:

[Polar Bear]

...I still agree more with your husband.

If no one tells this bully straight up that his behavior is unacceptable and that he better change or there will be consequences (legal of course), the azzhole will simply go to his next victim...:
Couldn'the disagree more (as usual). Just ignore (block) and move on.

[TheDude]

I also agree with this.

Keep your husband at bay. :)

I thought you wrote 'Keep your husband at eBay'