It’s not nice to be not nice.

[Retiring]

Here’s hoping the offender is actually on TOTV.

Location: Yesterday at the Winn Dixie LSL.

I’m in line for checkout. Old man, had to be 100, pushes me aside and starts talking to the lady that was in front of me. They were reminiscing about the good old days of TV. Remember me old man, when you pushed me aside I said, excuse me and you said you’re excused. You know who you are, you’re the one that had only 4 items in your cart, 2 twelve packs of beer and 2 bottles of wine. You stayed in front of me, and all those behind me, and checked out with your friend.

Old man you’re rude. I don’t care if you’ve been breathing 100 years, you’re still rude.

I hope the offender reads this forum.

[RickeyD]

Here’s hoping the offender is actually on TOTV.



Location: Yesterday at the Winn Dixie LSL.



I’m in line for checkout. Old man, had to be 100, pushes me aside and starts talking to the lady that was in front of me. They were reminiscing about the good old days of TV. Remember me old man, when you pushed me aside I said, excuse me and you said you’re excused. You know who you are, you’re the one that had only 4 items in your cart, 2 twelve packs of beer and 2 bottles of wine. You stayed in front of me, and all those behind me, and checked out with your friend.



Old man you’re rude. I don’t care if you’ve been breathing 100 years, you’re still rude.



I hope the offender reads this forum.



Let it go.

[Bogie Shooter]

I agree.....let it go.
If it made him happy to talk to his friend, so be it.

[Uberschaf]

Om Namah Shivaya

[ColdNoMore]

Here’s hoping the offender is actually on TOTV.

Location: Yesterday at the Winn Dixie LSL.

I’m in line for checkout. Old man, had to be 100, pushes me aside and starts talking to the lady that was in front of me. They were reminiscing about the good old days of TV. Remember me old man, when you pushed me aside I said, excuse me and you said you’re excused. You know who you are, you’re the one that had only 4 items in your cart, 2 twelve packs of beer and 2 bottles of wine. You stayed in front of me, and all those behind me, and checked out with your friend.

Old man you’re rude. I don’t care if you’ve been breathing 100 years, you’re still rude.

I hope the offender reads this forum.

It wouldn't surprise me to learn...that the jerk does read this forum.

You were actually pretty cool about it, I would have told him something like.... "I would be happy to check out ahead of your friend...so you can catch up." :ho:

[affald]

100 years old? Forgive and forget.

[jchase]

Disagree

[jimmemac]

Sorry rude is rude. There are plenty of older people​ who think because they are older they can do or say whatever they want

[Taltarzac725]

Seems like a minor irritation here in the Villages.

[Mrs. Robinson]

Sorry rude is rude. There are plenty of older people​ who think because they are older they can do or say whatever they want

I agree with you. Most older people are not forgetful. They know exactly what they are doing in a case such as this. Otherwise, he would not have been carrying on such a friendly conversation with his acquaintance.

I recall years ago a similar thing happened to me. The only difference was the old lady simply slyly slipped in front of me (sorry for the alliteration!). I politely (yes -- politely) said to her: Just because you're old doesn't give you the right to be rude." I let her pay but never forgot and I'm sure she didn't either.

[Chatbrat]

At his age every minute counts

[rubicon]

Here’s hoping the offender is actually on TOTV.

Location: Yesterday at the Winn Dixie LSL.

I’m in line for checkout. Old man, had to be 100, pushes me aside and starts talking to the lady that was in front of me. They were reminiscing about the good old days of TV. Remember me old man, when you pushed me aside I said, excuse me and you said you’re excused. You know who you are, you’re the one that had only 4 items in your cart, 2 twelve packs of beer and 2 bottles of wine. You stayed in front of me, and all those behind me, and checked out with your friend.

Old man you’re rude. I don’t care if you’ve been breathing 100 years, you’re still rude.

I hope the offender reads this forum.

Retiring:

the saddest part of which you speak is that this rudeness in cutting in line is more common than people realize. Conversely there are an equal number of people in the area who have offered to allow you to step ahead recognizing that you are holding only one item in your hands.

Yes indeed its occurred more than once to me and in one situation the offending party caught me in a bad mood and I dressed down the guy in a loud voice. Apparently it took because every time he sees me at Publix's he walks the other way

[ColdNoMore]

I agree with you. Most older people are not forgetful. They know exactly what they are doing in a case such as this. Otherwise, he would not have been carrying on such a friendly conversation with his acquaintance.

I recall years ago a similar thing happened to me. The only difference was the old lady simply slyly slipped in front of me (sorry for the alliteration!). I politely (yes -- politely) said to her: Just because you're old doesn't give you the right to be rude." I let her pay but never forgot and I'm sure she didn't either.

:agree:


:thumbup:


To be perfectly honest though, anyone even 50 years or older have probably been rude like that all of their lives and the chances of changing their attitude/behavior...is slim to none. :ohdear:

[jdsl1998]

He was rude, his friend was rude...

[Taltarzac725]

I remember than a woman told me when she had maybe 20 items that she had not seen the Winn-Dixie 10 items or fewer sign. Same Winn-Dixie too. I like going there after seeing movies at the Old Mill Playhouse. Donate blood too once in a while when the One Blood Big Red Bus is there and they are handing out the Villages' area movie tickets.

[BobnBev]

So, he had all that booze, I wonder if he was driving a car or golf cart? Another accident waiting to happen.:ohdear::boom:

[graciegirl]

Retiring:

the saddest part of which you speak is that this rudeness in cutting in line is more common than people realize. Conversely there are an equal number of people in the area who have offered to allow you to step ahead recognizing that you are holding only one item in your hands.

Yes indeed its occurred more than once to me and in one situation the offending party caught me in a bad mood and I dressed down the guy in a loud voice. Apparently it took because every time he sees me at Publix's he walks the other way


You are right.

[graciegirl]

:agree:


:thumbup:


To be perfectly honest though, anyone even 50 years or older have probably been rude like that all of their lives and the chances of changing their attitude/behavior...is slim to none. :ohdear:

You are right.

[eremite06]

I remember than a woman told me when she had maybe 20 items that she had not seen the Winn-Dixie 10 items or fewer sign. Same Winn-Dixie too. I like going there after seeing movies at the Old Mill Playhouse. Donate blood too once in a while when the One Blood Big Red Bus is there and they are handing out the Villages' area movie tickets.

Just curious, how many T-shirts, blankets and umbrellas do you have now from OneBlood?

[Madelaine Amee]

Similar line cutting situation happened to the woman in front of me at Fresh Market, she was a bit late in answering the number call and the woman behind her, and in front of me, jumped in very loudly and forcefully. The woman who had been jumped started in a very loud voice to comment to me ........... this happened to be a day when I was feeling very laid back (which does not happen too often) and we started talking. We ended up having a great conversation, we talked children, grandchildren, daughter in laws, etc. etc., and she walked away happy and so did I. Sometimes there is a silver lining.

After all, if you listen to commonsense, you will know that we are never, ever, going to teach manners to someone who has been in this world for 50/60/70+ years ........ manners are taught in the home and if you didn't get it there you are not going to get it anywhere else!

[Taltarzac725]

Just curious, how many T-shirts, blankets and umbrellas do you have now from OneBlood?

I retire these t-shirts after two years or so. Maybe six blankets, two umbrellas, eight coolers, four long sleeve shirts, etc.

Do not tell the IRS.

And now they are giving $60 gift cards - probably for Amazon.com-- if you donate six times over three month periods for platelets. That's 24 donations a year for platelets which is the limit per year for these.

I have received maybe 50 t-shirts over the years from various blood donation groups. I started in Belmont, CA in 1985 or so trying to impress a blonde woman named Sandy who started dating a lawyer instead. She worked with me at Information Access Company. She indexed PR News Wire I believe for various library products. I indexed newspapers but also did sports and business magazines. Then started abstracting local business journals for Area Business Databank. I have been donating blood on or off for 30 years or more.

I did talk to a nice other woman employee at IAC a bit whom I would run into at the American Law Library Association convention in San Francisco CA in the Summer of 1992. She was in the marketing IAC department and looked just like a woman I went to law school with who is now probably the top immigration lawyer on the West Coast. One of the law librarians I had also graduated from Law School with in 1989 actually confused the two woman going up to the IAC marketer asking her what she was doing here? It was rather amusing except that both women looked quite a lot like a portrait I had done in 1975 which the Mitchell family had wanted as it looked just like their 2-24-1976 slain daughter Michelle. Mrs. Barbara Mitchell had seen the drawing in an Art Show I had at Earl Wooster High School the Spring of 1976. I gave this drawing to the Mitchell family at their home while thanking them for giving me the Michelle Mitchell Memorial Scholarship that Spring of 1976.

I did donate blood while in the Twin Cities but not too often. Only really started doing it seriously after we moved to the Villages in 2005 from Palm Harbor, FL.

[Topspinmo]

100 years old? Forgive and forget.

I doubt he was 100, probably about 65 with his alcohol and habits problems

[Taltarzac725]

I doubt he was 100, probably about 65 with his alcohol and habits problems

I have met some rather active almost 100 year olds at Doggie Doo Run Run.

[graciegirl]

I look at it like this.

There is a bank somewhere, and every time we stand silently and patiently while someone does something mildly annoying, we get credit, and when we do something mildly annoying someone will borrow from that bank and extend the loan to us.

I am in unchartered territory. I haven't ever been this old before. I didn't know the hair on my legs would disappear and reappear as a beard and moustache. I didn't know I would make moaning sounds when I would arise from a chair. or that all those smiles would pay me back as wrinkles.

So I try really hard to cut the older some slack. But Cold no more is right. He may well have been selfish all of his life.

Enjoy this day. Who knows how many we have.

[Taltarzac725]

I look at it like this.

There is a bank somewhere, and every time we stand silently and patiently while someone does something mildly annoying, we get credit, and when we do something mildly annoying someone will borrow from that bank and extend the loan to us.

I am in unchartered territory. I haven't ever been this old before. I didn't know the hair on my legs would disappear and reappear as a beard and moustache. I didn't know I would make moaning sounds when I would arise from a chair. or that all those smiles would pay me back as wrinkles.

So I try really hard to cut the older some slack. But Cold no more is right. He may well have been selfish all of his life.

Enjoy this day. Who knows how many we have.

Yes. And then we will have to explain to God why we did this; but not this, etc. Kind of worried about that. I suppose many of us are.

[affald]

We should be extra forgiving of the very old and especially the disabled! Maybe this person was both old and had a mental disorder. Be kind to all and reap the rewards in the future.

[Boomer]

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[2BNTV]

This is not a TV thing. When I was in CT, I was standing in line for awhile at a bakery when finally, I was next. A older guy walked right past and ordered an item. I said, "there is a line here".

He replied, I am a senior citizen". I said, so am I.

He mumbled sorry.

It's nice to have compassion for elderly people but some people just feel they reached the age where they can do whatever they want.

Never forget, "it's all about them". :smiley:

[EPutnam1863]

Being eldery does not give one a license to thumb his nose at society. Anyway it irritates me even more when oneiof any age checks out more than 10 items in a "limit to 10 items" line.

[Trish Crocker]

Got this from a young lady working at a doctors office. She was in line at Publix and a lady got behind her. The lady only had one or two items in her cart so she asked the young woman it she could go ahead. The young woman said that she was happy to allow her to get in front of her until the lady said "after all, I AM a Villager". The young woman told her that she can wait her turn! I don't know what makes people think that because they are old or fortunate enough to live her they are somehow better than everyone else.

[graciegirl]

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[Nucky]

:highfive: Hooray for the young woman who changed her mind after The Villager comment was made, please. I can see how the OP would be offended that wasn't very nice but I think it is good that you evened the score rite here instead of letting the situation escalate in the store, good decision! :highfive:

[Taltarzac725]

Got this from a young lady working at a doctors office. She was in line at Publix and a lady got behind her. The lady only had one or two items in her cart so she asked the young woman it she could go ahead. The young woman said that she was happy to allow her to get in front of her until the lady said "after all, I AM a Villager". The young woman told her that she can wait her turn! I don't know what makes people think that because they are old or fortunate enough to live her they are somehow better than everyone else.

I have had older women let me go ahead of them in line when I only have 2 items and they have 9 or so. This happens quite often too and in different stores. I visit many different Villages' area Winn-Dixies and Publixes from the far north end to the far south one. It is probably because I am such a handsome young man. ;)

[Blessed2BNTV]

Got this from a young lady working at a doctors office. She was in line at Publix and a lady got behind her. The lady only had one or two items in her cart so she asked the young woman it she could go ahead. The young woman said that she was happy to allow her to get in front of her until the lady said "after all, I AM a Villager". The young woman told her that she can wait her turn! I don't know what makes people think that because they are old or fortunate enough to live her they are somehow better than everyone else.

Oh Trish, wonder if it was the same woman who walked in front of folks at the self checkout line at Walmart? She said because she was a Villager that was her right. I heard this from a nice young couple and assured these folks we are all NOT like that! I do understand why (sometimes) we Villagers are thought of as rude.

A few bad apples.....oh and we will all be judged!

We are so blessed to live in this wonderful place....hence my name :)

[ColdNoMore]

Rude and pushy people come from all states.

[jeriteri]

I think a lot of it is where they come from!

[eremite06]

I try not to tell people I live in the Villages. I say Lady Lake.

[Taltarzac725]

I try not to tell people I live in the Villages. I say Lady Lake.

I usually proudly say the Villages. As I am about a mile south of the Villages High School. No where near Lady Lake.

I do use the Lady Lake Library quite a bit. Nice people there.

[Barefoot]

There is a bank somewhere, and every time we stand silently and patiently while someone does something mildly annoying, we get credit, and when we do something mildly annoying someone will borrow from that bank and extend the loan to us.

Be kind to all and reap the rewards in the future.
:agree:

[Madelaine Amee]

Being eldery does not give one a license to thumb his nose at society. Anyway it irritates me even more when oneiof any age checks out more than 10 items in a "limit to 10 items" line.

Unfortunately, this appears to be a "woman" thing and from my observation the person involved is usually older and appears to be very well dressed. Should we say "entitled".

HOWEVER, my otherhalf has a great reply for this, he says if he was the cashier he would let her unload everything onto the belt and then say "now, Madam, which 10 items of these would you like me to check out?"

He probably read this somewhere in a magazine, but it always comes to mind when I see someone doing it.

[mickey100]

Unfortunately, this appears to be a "woman" thing and from my observation the person involved is usually older and appears to be very well dressed. Should we say "entitled".

HOWEVER, my otherhalf has a great reply for this, he says if he was the cashier he would let her unload everything onto the belt and then say "now, Madam, which 10 items of these would you like me to check out?"

He probably read this somewhere in a magazine, but it always comes to mind when I see someone doing it.

Good one...:pepper2:

[2BNTV]

Being eldery does not give one a license to thumb his nose at society. Anyway it irritates me even more when oneiof any age checks out more than 10 items in a "limit to 10 items" line.

:agree:

They can't count to ten but if they give the cashier a $100, I'll bet they can their $47 in change. :smiley:

[Nucky]

Didn't someone of seniority once get to the front of a line by proclaiming they were a priority member? Now that a hoot! It's all free entertainment. Don't get angry try to see the humor in these situations.

[Taltarzac725]

Didn't someone of seniority once get to the front of a line by proclaiming they were a priority member? Now that a hoot! It's all free entertainment. Don't get angry try to see the humor in these situations.

Well I do wonder if six separate yogurts of the same brand and flavor are six items or one?

Lots of people have groups of one product which often add up to way more than 10.

[perrjojo]

It wasn't nice but perhaps at his advanced age it could be a dementia problem. Who knowS?

[graciegirl]

100 years old? Forgive and forget.

I am sure that you agree that people who have mental illness aren't doing it on purpose either.

I bet you agree that anonymous people who are cruel to others with mental difficulties on purpose are bullies.

You should read political.

Retiring was only impatient. We all are sometimes. It is hard to deal with someone who has Alzheimers who used to be so cogent. All of us fail at this. But to taunt someone on purpose who is struggling is wrong.

[affald]

I am sure that you agree that people who have mental illness aren't doing it on purpose either.

I bet you agree that anonymous people who are cruel to others with mental difficulties on purpose are bullies.

You should read political.
You would have to be much more specific for me to answer your question.

Btw, I believe tos says that we should remain anonymous. I would never want to violate.

Also, personal conversations are frowned upon.

BUT if anyone wanted to meet, including Gracie, please PM me, would love to meet a respected icon of totv.

[graciegirl]

You would have to be much more specific for me to answer your question.

Btw, I believe tos says that we should remain anonymous. I would never want to violate.

Also, personal conversations are frowned upon.

BUT if anyone wanted to meet, including Gracie, please PM me, would love to meet a respected icon of totv.

Thank you.

[Retiring]

I had posted the incident here because I was truly hoping the offender would read it and realize he should not mistake my kindness for weakness. Just because I didn’t make a federal case out of it doesn’t mean I didn’t realize what was happening.

The reason I didn’t say anything more than “excuse me” was because I didn’t know if I was dealing with someone drunk. It’s 10pm and the only items in his cart were 2 12packs of beer and 2 bottles of wine.

I must say I’m a bit surprised at some of the postings. Alzheimers? His conversation with the lady seemed very lucid. Mental illness? Only God knows, but once again he seemed to have all his mental faculties. Others have said since I get to cut the line when I have only one item… What does that have to do with anything? He didn’t have one item and each of the people behind me would have to give the ok to cut before it gets to me. I often, if not always, allow the person behind me with one or two items to jump ahead. Does that give me the right to cut the line whenever I feel like it? When we do the right thing we do it because it’s the right thing not because we get to punch more holes in our “it’s ok to be rude” punch card.

He cut in line, not just me but several behind me too, because he is rude and that’s the way he was raised. I’m 55 and I pray everyday that I will not become one of those that feel entitled to anything. The only thing you get when you’re 100 is a discount at the movie theater and you’re further up the line to see St. Peter. Just treat others as you want them to treat you and we’ll all live happier.

BTW, if he asked to cut, of course I would have said yes. I would have assumed he might have some physical issues making prolonged standing difficult. If you need to cut, just ask, I can’t imagine anyone saying no.

[graciegirl]

I had posted the incident here because I was truly hoping the offender would read it and realize he should not mistake my kindness for weakness. Just because I didn’t make a federal case out of it doesn’t mean I didn’t realize what was happening.

The reason I didn’t say anything more than “excuse me” was because I didn’t know if I was dealing with someone drunk. It’s 10pm and the only items in his cart were 2 12packs of beer and 2 bottles of wine.

I must say I’m a bit surprised at some of the postings. Alzheimers? His conversation with the lady seemed very lucid. Mental illness? Only God knows, but once again he seemed to have all his mental faculties. Others have said since I get to cut the line when I have only one item… What does that have to do with anything? He didn’t have one item and each of the people behind me would have to give the ok to cut before it gets to me. I often, if not always, allow the person behind me with one or two items to jump ahead. Does that give me the right to cut the line whenever I feel like it? When we do the right thing we do it because it’s the right thing not because we get to punch more holes in our “it’s ok to be rude” punch card.

He cut in line, not just me but several behind me too, because he is rude and that’s the way he was raised. I’m 55 and I pray everyday that I will not become one of those that feel entitled to anything. The only thing you get when you’re 100 is a discount at the movie theater and you’re further up the line to see St. Peter. Just treat others as you want them to treat you and we’ll all live happier.

BTW, if he asked to cut, of course I would have said yes. I would have assumed he might have some physical issues making prolonged standing difficult. If you need to cut, just ask, I can’t imagine anyone saying no.


I don't fault you at all Retiring. You are a gentleman and I respect you. I understand and completely agree that he/she was not nice at all. You were patient outwardly and impatient inwardly like all good people I know.

My post was meant for another and was not clear on purpose.

I am sorry. I didn't mean to appear to be critical of you, Retiring. Your well thought out posts are enjoyed by me and I am sure by many.

[jdsl1998]

I was in the wrong line. There signs are much smaller than Publix, so I didn't see it. I said I was sorry. I've never done it again.

[2BNTV]

Sometimes a cashier will beckon someone to the ten items or less that has much more than ten items because they are not doing anything.

Sure enough, several people get in line with one or two items and have to wait. Patience is wonderful if only, one has it.

Go figure.