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Choclab74
04-11-2018, 01:30 PM
I searched the threads and didn't get anything so here goes.
Would a 58-year-old widow fit in at the Villages ?
Advice for visiting ? Rent a home for a few days or do the Villages Preview package ?
Thanks.
VillageIdiots
04-11-2018, 01:35 PM
Short answer is - probably. Long answer - it's really up to you. The lifestyle visit is a good way to get a taste of what it's like. After that, if you think you'd like it but not quite sure, the next several months are a great time to get good rental rates on a nice furnished place where you can spend some time determining if it's for you while figuring out the areas you'd most like to live, etc.
villagetinker
04-11-2018, 01:43 PM
Also, there is a singles club/group, they advertise their gathers quite often on this site.
tomwed
04-11-2018, 02:03 PM
I searched the threads and didn't get anything so here goes.
Would a 58-year-old widow fit in at the Villages ?
Advice for visiting ? Rent a home for a few days or do the Villages Preview package ?
Thanks.
click here (http://www.thevillagesactivities.com/clubs) and search for singles
If there is a group leader give them a call. Ask them. It's amazing how friendly people are down here. By the time you get here you may have a half dozen friends.
redwitch
04-11-2018, 02:09 PM
If you’re an extrovert, being single and under 60 is not much of an issue. TV is more couples-oriented but there are many activities where having a mate is absolutely irrelevant. A bigger factor is if you are still working. Most organized activities are during the day. Nighttime is more for going out with friends, dinners, etc. You’ll find some neighborhoods welcoming, some not.
Don’t limit yourself to just people in your age group or similar marital status. Be friendly to all. Invite neighbors to a driveway get together a time or two. Go to club meetings where the subject matter interests you. Hang out at the pool. Relax, have fun. It may take a little time but finding your niche is actually very doable here.
You really should plan on a longer visit than just a week or two. That won’t give you enough time to see if you think you’ll fit in. Rent for at least a month at a time. High season is friendlier than the regular season (we’re kinda stuck in our ways and back to regular activities with friends and neighbors).
My condolences on your loss. May your next journey give you some joy and peace.
Choclab74
04-11-2018, 05:01 PM
thank you ! I am definitely an extrovert and have many interests.
What is "high season" vs "regular season"
tomwed
04-11-2018, 05:11 PM
Snowbirds and renters are down Jan-Feb-Mar. Rents are high. I suppose this would be called the shoulder season.
IMHO the best weather is Apr-May Sep-Oct
Topspinmo
04-11-2018, 05:20 PM
If you do the life style visit do it for the maximum days allowed, couple days is not enough time IMO. I agree, rent in late spring or summer for at least month to get good feel when rates will be lower.
JoMar
04-11-2018, 05:21 PM
thank you ! I am definitely an extrovert and have many interests.
What is "high season" vs "regular season"
If you are an extrovert you should do well here. We have several widows, divorced and separated ladies in our neighborhood and they are very active with all the activities this fun place has to offer.
Topspinmo
04-11-2018, 05:22 PM
Snowbirds and renters are down Jan-Feb-Mar. Rents are high. I suppose this would be called the shoulder season.
IMHO the best weather is Apr-May Sep-Oct
IMO the start flying in November and majority stay into April?
fw102807
04-11-2018, 05:23 PM
If you are an extrovert you should do well here. We have several widows, divorced and separated ladies in our neighborhood and they are very active with all the activities this fun place has to offer.
We also have several single ladies in our neighborhood and they are enjoying themselves here.
Choclab74
04-11-2018, 05:30 PM
Hi, I'm Margie from Massachusetts. Age 58, widowed 2.5 years now, need to make a change and find a new life.
Am planning to visit the Villages in May to check it out. Never thought I would move south but the weather, finances, and the idea of an active community are pulling me there.
My question: will I find others my age ? I am very outgoing, have lots of interests, love the sun and music, social gatherings etc. I also enjoy my quiet, alone time. Would the villages be a place where I would fit in?
I know the visit is key.Just wondering if any widows could chime in with their experience on making the move to the Villages.
Thanks !
mysunshine1948
04-11-2018, 05:55 PM
I would not recommend it. The singles groups are goofy! I am moving out after 2 years.
cmj1210
04-11-2018, 06:20 PM
There is also a south of 60 group which you might like & if you are working a working club for people still working. Plenty to do.
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Barefoot
04-11-2018, 06:33 PM
Hi, I'm Margie from Massachusetts. Age 58, widowed 2.5 years now, need to make a change and find a new life.
Am planning to visit the Villages in May to check it out. Never thought I would move south but the weather, finances, and the idea of an active community are pulling me there.
My question: will I find others my age ? I am very outgoing, have lots of interests, love the sun and music, social gatherings etc. I also enjoy my quiet, alone time. Would the villages be a place where I would fit in?
I know the visit is key.Just wondering if any widows could chime in with their experience on making the move to the Villages. Thanks !
I'm not a widow, but I have several friends who are. And they fit in perfectly. So yes, come on down.
You'll wonder why you ever questioned moving to The Villages.
thetruth
04-11-2018, 08:41 PM
Hi, I'm Margie from Massachusetts. Age 58, widowed 2.5 years now, need to make a change and find a new life.
Am planning to visit the Villages in May to check it out. Never thought I would move south but the weather, finances, and the idea of an active community are pulling me there.
My question: will I find others my age ? I am very outgoing, have lots of interests, love the sun and music, social gatherings etc. I also enjoy my quiet, alone time. Would the villages be a place where I would fit in?
I know the visit is key.Just wondering if any widows could chime in with their experience on making the move to the Villages.
Thanks !
We do not know your financial condition. We do not know your ability to do stuff like change an AC filter, shut off a leaking toilet etc etc etc.
I think the best suggestion is if you are not working to rent a place for at least two weeks a month would be better.
TO SEE IF YOU LIKE IT.
One post said they are leaving after two years. My wife is far happier here than I am. I would prefer far more space.
You reported you are from Massachusetts. If, you come in the summer you will find the heat is oppressive. Just as you did in the north, you get used to the snow, cold etc.
Your body will adjust to the heat. Heck when it hits 40 around here you will see people with gloves and earmuffs.
Truth after four years, palm trees seem normal. A guy selling stuff dressed in a Santa Suit with Bermuda shorts seems ALMOST NORMAL.
Roll With It
04-11-2018, 08:45 PM
Of course you will fit in! There is something for everyone here. Don't let anyone discourage you. Come and feel welcome!
CWGUY
04-11-2018, 11:39 PM
I would not recommend it. The singles groups are goofy! I am moving out after 2 years.
:popcorn::popcorn:
ColdNoMore
04-12-2018, 12:18 AM
I searched the threads and didn't get anything so here goes.
Would a 58-year-old widow fit in at the Villages ?
Advice for visiting ? Rent a home for a few days or do the Villages Preview package ?
Thanks.
Rumor has it that those in your situation have a better time here, if they learn to make...killer casseroles. :D
Two Bills
04-12-2018, 03:45 AM
The only problem I see is.........................wives!
zmarkp
04-12-2018, 06:24 AM
"Jump off the cliff and build your wings on the way down." --Ray Bradbury
Choclab74
04-12-2018, 06:43 AM
what do you mean by "goofy" and is that the only reason you are moving out ?
Braddock
04-12-2018, 09:32 AM
I Like TV when I was married and now that I’m divorced I still like it. Have great neighbors and lots of activities.
Went to some of the singles groups and like everything it’s what you make of it.
Personally it wasn’t for me but a lot of singles enjoy them.
I have a few single women in my neighborhood and I’m the token single guy.
All is good.
Madelaine Amee
04-12-2018, 09:36 AM
My neighbor is a widow under very sad circumstances, they purchased the home and he passed within days of the purchase and she came here on her own! She is an absolute joy. She did not come for another man and has no interest in a male companion. She has the biggest circle of single lady friends, widows, never marrieds, divorced - you name it. They are really nice people and they have a great life together. They travel all over the world, they are constantly doing something fun. However, she is financially secure - and that makes a huge difference. She also has a very supportive family living in the North.
I believe you would have more chance of meeting singles in TV than you would in your neighborhood now. This is a very safe area. The movie houses are safe for singles. The restaurants are welcoming to singles. There is so much you could do with volunteering to fill your days and if you were so inclined, there are loads of "filler" jobs, i.e. Publix are always hiring cashiers and ******* and they work around your hours. Most of the stores in my area are crying out for part time help, you will not get rich, but it would pass some time until you got adjusted to a new life.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
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vintageogauge
04-12-2018, 12:48 PM
The only think we don't have is a beach. If you can't find happiness and keep busy here, there will be very few other places to try that compare to TV. You might want to try the new village of Fenney or Desoto as everyone is new and meeting new friends daily which makes it a little easier to find friends. There are over 100 singles already in Fenney and I believe that 56 or so have joined the Fenney singles group. Not kicking the other villages as they are all great, just a little different when everyone is new and eager to make friends.
CSilvestrucci
04-15-2018, 11:40 AM
I came here 8 years ago as a 48 year old widow. I knew no one but I met neighbors and friends right away. I found this a wonderful, welcoming, and safe place for a woman alone for the first time. I am not an extrovert at all but found people to be friendly and nice. I encourage you to try it!
Henryk
04-15-2018, 01:39 PM
I searched the threads and didn't get anything so here goes.
Would a 58-year-old widow fit in at the Villages ?
Advice for visiting ? Rent a home for a few days or do the Villages Preview package ?
Thanks.
I would suggest a month rental. There are a number of singles in our neighborhood villas, and the people are wonderful.
Scituate is a “high rent” town. You’ll be SHOCKED how far your real estate dollars will go here.
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