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[PennBF]

We have been in The Villages for more than 10 years and notice that one thing has not changed. There are a group of residents who cannot slow down and enjoy life. In the Markets they are the ones who race to get to the cashier, that shove by you, they are the ones that consider driving is a competition and will rush to beat you at a light, cut you off and would never allow you to get by them. When you go into a restaurant they are ones who's legs are bouncing like a paddle ball, or because of uncontrolled anxieties and will yell at the waiter/waitress if it takes more than 10 minutes for your food. There should be clubs to deal with these unfortunate hyper people and help them to learn to just "Chill" and when they find themselves rushing, experiencing high anxieties to say to themselves to stop, walk slow, show patience with their neighbors and enjoy the life they worked to so hard to have. The next time you are in a restaurant or show, etc. look around and see how many are bouncing their legs and can't just relax and have a softer life. Is that you??:popcorn:

[manaboutown]

Probably most of them are the products of the environments in which they have spent most of their lives. In my experience people in some areas do not seem to be able or want to chill out and relax.

[leftyf]

They are in a hurry to die

[ColdNoMore]

To slow "them" down, I just accidentally stick out my leg...and trip'em.


:1rotfl:

[DonH57]

We have been in The Villages for more than 10 years and notice that one thing has not changed. There are a group of residents who cannot slow down and enjoy life. In the Markets they are the ones who race to get to the cashier, that shove by you, they are the ones that consider driving is a competition and will rush to beat you at a light, cut you off and would never allow you to get by them. When you go into a restaurant they are ones who's legs are bouncing like a paddle ball, or because of uncontrolled anxieties and will yell at the waiter/waitress if it takes more than 10 minutes for your food. There should be clubs to deal with these unfortunate hyper people and help them to learn to just "Chill" and when they find themselves rushing, experiencing high anxieties to say to themselves to stop, walk slow, show patience with their neighbors and enjoy the life they worked to so hard to have. The next time you are in a restaurant or show, etc. look around and see how many are bouncing their legs and can't just relax and have a softer life. Is that you??:popcorn:

I see many of which you describe in and around the villages every day. I only think to myself how long will it be before they keel over. Totally sad they can't or won't slow down as if they're still working and have a schedule to keep.:ohdear:

[CFrance]

They are the Type A's. Nothing to do about them but avoid.

[Velvet]

ADHD maybe? Ritalin helps those.

I remember my first trip to Manhattan decades ago. It was Sunday and people rushed across the street to walk to the park then rushed back. The taxis rushed through the lights. When I got back it took me 2 weeks before I could relax again.

The next summer my family was at the beach and my 10 year old brother got so badly sun burned we needed to go to a hospital. We drove to Atlanta, which was the nearest big city. I dashed into Bloomingdale’s and there at the café on the Mezzanine I quickly asked a lady (wearing an amazingly hat) where the nearest hospital was. She pointed to the seat beside her and in slow beautiful Southern drawl, she said “Join me for tea and we can talk about it.”

[Mikeod]

I agree some of it is from previous environments. I was in Southern California prior to TV and remember the driving competitions on the freeway. It was a game to gain each car length in front of the next guy. At merges, you invited a merging car to enter your land BEHIND you not in front. If you did allow a car to merge in front of you, you’d better be prepared to see two or three others tailgating in before you could move again.If you were the merging car, you had to stick your front end into the lane and invite a car to hit you or let you in.

Once I got here, it took a few months to get accustomed to normal driving habits again. I’m sure some don’t ever adjust. Just let them go. I’m not in that much of a hurry and won’t let them rent space in my head.

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

...because it's not possible that any of these people have jobs and are on their lunch break. Or have doctor's appointments and want to eat before they get there. Or have heard some horrible news and are waiting for a family member to show up and tell them about it. Or have been made late to something already, by people who don't appreciate that not everyone has the rest of their lives to sit and chill.

How about all those people with nothing better to do all day than to occupy space and waste the waiter's time with idle chitchat, have some consideration for people who might actually have something they need to DO that day, and want to enjoy a meal out on their way to that thing they want to do.

[epoch]

She pointed to the seat beside her and in slow beautiful Southern drawl, she said “Join me for tea and we can talk about it.”


Nice! :)


How was the tea?

[CFrance]

...because it's not possible that any of these people have jobs and are on their lunch break. Or have doctor's appointments and want to eat before they get there. Or have heard some horrible news and are waiting for a family member to show up and tell them about it. Or have been made late to something already, by people who don't appreciate that not everyone has the rest of their lives to sit and chill.

How about all those people with nothing better to do all day than to occupy space and waste the waiter's time with idle chitchat, have some consideration for people who might actually have something they need to DO that day, and want to enjoy a meal out on their way to that thing they want to do.
Holy cow.

[roob1]

Seems like you already have them "diagnosed", i.e. cannot...enjoy life, uncontrolled anxieties, hyper. :icon_wink:

I think we need to consider what is operating underneath. You are only observing behaviors that may reflect reactions to the person's current life situations, which most of us are not privy to.

I wonder what behaviors you exhibit when you are making your observations.....


We have been in The Villages for more than 10 years and notice that one thing has not changed. There are a group of residents who cannot slow down and enjoy life. In the Markets they are the ones who race to get to the cashier, that shove by you, they are the ones that consider driving is a competition and will rush to beat you at a light, cut you off and would never allow you to get by them. When you go into a restaurant they are ones who's legs are bouncing like a paddle ball, or because of uncontrolled anxieties and will yell at the waiter/waitress if it takes more than 10 minutes for your food. There should be clubs to deal with these unfortunate hyper people and help them to learn to just "Chill" and when they find themselves rushing, experiencing high anxieties to say to themselves to stop, walk slow, show patience with their neighbors and enjoy the life they worked to so hard to have. The next time you are in a restaurant or show, etc. look around and see how many are bouncing their legs and can't just relax and have a softer life. Is that you??:popcorn:

[Velvet]

I think sometimes we put pressure on ourselves, want to do too much in too little time. One of the things that I say that seems to be appreciated, whether by the lady answering the phone at Citizens, or the Seco rep, or the Apple tech advisor is: “Take your time.”

I must say though, the service near the lighthouse at Sumpter was very slow as compared to what we were used to. Husband and I were sitting outside and had a lovely conversation and enjoyed the view. It was an unexpectedly nice time.

[manaboutown]

I think sometimes we put pressure on ourselves, want to do too much in too little time. One of the things that I say that seems to be appreciated, whether by the lady answering the phone at Citizens, or the Seco rep, or the Apple tech advisor is: “Take your time.”

I must say though, the service near the lighthouse at Sumpter was very slow as compared to what we were used to. Husband and I were sitting outside and had a lovely conversation and enjoyed the view. It was an unexpectedly nice time. Some might think that seems so ordinary, but I married into mental illness and each day can be such a challenge, and over the years I have learned to grab each enjoyable moment for both of us.

Since when has there been pee in Lake Sumter?

[Velvet]

Oh no! Elementary mistake.... ‘sumpter’ refers to pack animal the Lake was definitely not that.

[thelegges]

Since this is under Medical and Health Discussion, I am guessing the observation is from a medical background, with the knowledge that each person observed is retired and living here.

Or could the OPs observation be those who are here for that multi day world win lifestyle, that in a few fleeting days think they need to make the decision of a lifetime.
Or those who have just a few days to get their new house in order to return to their current home.
Or the growing population that have moved here working remotely from home.
Possibly the many who are visiting and trying to capture every moment as quickly as possible.
As for it being a medical issue I would need to leave that up to their health care provider

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

Since this is under Medical and Health Discussion, I am guessing the observation is from a medical background, with the knowledge that each person observed is retired and living here.

Or could the OPs observation be those who are here for that multi day world win lifestyle, that in a few fleeting days think they need to make the decision of a lifetime.
Or those who have just a few days to get their new house in order to return to their current home.
Or the growing population that have moved here working remotely from home.
Possibly the many who are visiting and trying to capture every moment as quickly as possible.
As for it being a medical issue I would need to leave that up to their health care provider

I haven't really experienced any unusually slow service anywhere I've been in the Villages. Only at Red Sauce, but it was pretty crowded so we expected delays. We sat in for dinner on a Saturday evening. We waited MUCH longer than we felt we should have. From the time we were seated, til the time the server came to greet us was almost 10 minutes. Then another 10 minutes to bring our water glasses. And around 1/2 hour to get dinner. Took us around 1/2 hour to eat (four of us), and another 20 minutes to get the check once they saw we were finished.

The food was great though, so we endured the wait. I only wished we had known what it'd be like in advance so we could've asked for bread or salads or something right away. We came there hungry and my mom ended up with a migraine from having to wait so long to eat.

That was the worst experience I've had in waiting. Everything else has been completely reasonable and more or less expected.

But I do definitely see people who enjoy taking up a LOT of time at their tables, more than seems reasonable. During the actual dinner hour, guests should just be mindful of the fact that there are people waiting to occupy their table. They shouldn't ever feel rushed, however they also shouldn't be assuming that they can just sit there another hour after they're finished, during the dinner hour, while there are people waiting in line to be seated.

[DAVES]

We have been in The Villages for more than 10 years and notice that one thing has not changed. There are a group of residents who cannot slow down and enjoy life. In the Markets they are the ones who race to get to the cashier, that shove by you, they are the ones that consider driving is a competition and will rush to beat you at a light, cut you off and would never allow you to get by them. When you go into a restaurant they are ones who's legs are bouncing like a paddle ball, or because of uncontrolled anxieties and will yell at the waiter/waitress if it takes more than 10 minutes for your food. There should be clubs to deal with these unfortunate hyper people and help them to learn to just "Chill" and when they find themselves rushing, experiencing high anxieties to say to themselves to stop, walk slow, show patience with their neighbors and enjoy the life they worked to so hard to have.
The next time you are in a restaurant or show, etc. look around and see how many are bouncing their legs and can't just relax and have a softer life. Is that you??:popcorn:

First of all you cannot control other people all you can control is yourself.

As to other people seeming to be hostile in a rush etc. Have you wondered why you seem to notice so many of them that you have chosen to post this?

Like most of us, we regularly go to the grocery store. Are you the one who goes down the center of the narrow isle gossiping with a friend at your side? Or on your cell phone? I regularly laugh with the cashier when they ask, with a line of people, did you find everything.

"Bouncing their legs," likely indicates they need to go to the bathroom and choose not to disturb others by leaving their seats. As to type A-perhaps. Too often I find the people that arrive to the theater late and bother everyone to get to the remaining end seat after they sit down find another seat and decide to change yet again.

Reminder, no one is perfect. Rather than others, the question to ask is how can I be better.

[Fishers2tall]

We have been in The Villages for more than 10 years and notice that one thing has not changed. There are a group of residents who cannot slow down and enjoy life. In the Markets they are the ones who race to get to the cashier, that shove by you, they are the ones that consider driving is a competition and will rush to beat you at a light, cut you off and would never allow you to get by them. When you go into a restaurant they are ones who's legs are bouncing like a paddle ball, or because of uncontrolled anxieties and will yell at the waiter/waitress if it takes more than 10 minutes for your food. There should be clubs to deal with these unfortunate hyper people and help them to learn to just "Chill" and when they find themselves rushing, experiencing high anxieties to say to themselves to stop, walk slow, show patience with their neighbors and enjoy the life they worked to so hard to have. The next time you are in a restaurant or show, etc. look around and see how many are bouncing their legs and can't just relax and have a softer life. Is that you??:popcorn:
Are there rude inconsiderate people out there who in the course of everyday life you will come into contact with? Sure there are and that will never go away. The hectic I want it now nature of our culture gets worse seemingly every year. However is it possible some of these same people are in a hurry because they are having trouble dealing with extremely painful life circumstances such as a life threatening illness either personally or to their spouse or children? Absolutely! Or maybe they just lost their job or they are getting a divorce they didn’t want. The list is endless. I would like to offer a solution to the aggravation these hyper people cause you when you come in contact with them in traffic, the grocery store, and in restaurants. A famous person once said “Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you.” Even though they have offended you by the way they drive or relate to people in public give them back kindness, courtesy, patience, and compassion. If you do that I think you will find that while those people might not change how they act their actions won’t bother you near as much and even more importantly you may meet someone who is in desperate need of some kindness due to what they are going through. Who knows someday you might have a life crisis that causes you to be a little frantic and you will need some extra kindness and compassion from those around you.

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

It looks like most posters here are feeling the same way as I do when I read posts like the OP. That it is important to take a moment to consider what's happening on the other side of the issue, before aggressively reacting to your uninformed conclusions.

[Nonni252]

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[Velvet]

In the past, polite society segregated these kinds of behavior. Today, we are more understanding. In the north at some private clubs one needs to have several club members’ references to join. They usually vouch for the new person’s behavior.
The medically ill cannot help themselves, they don’t chose to be ill just as those with physical illness - and they deserve compassion.
And some people have a lot of responsibilities. I remember teaching during the day, studying at night for a graduate degree, at the same time looking after my newborn and keeping house for a husband who worked very long hours. Yes, I was always in a hurry those days.

[Topspinmo]

We have been in The Villages for more than 10 years and notice that one thing has not changed. There are a group of residents who cannot slow down and enjoy life. In the Markets they are the ones who race to get to the cashier, that shove by you, they are the ones that consider driving is a competition and will rush to beat you at a light, cut you off and would never allow you to get by them. When you go into a restaurant they are ones who's legs are bouncing like a paddle ball, or because of uncontrolled anxieties and will yell at the waiter/waitress if it takes more than 10 minutes for your food. There should be clubs to deal with these unfortunate hyper people and help them to learn to just "Chill" and when they find themselves rushing, experiencing high anxieties to say to themselves to stop, walk slow, show patience with their neighbors and enjoy the life they worked to so hard to have. The next time you are in a restaurant or show, etc. look around and see how many are bouncing their legs and can't just relax and have a softer life. Is that you??:popcorn:

Mental disorders, run into that a lot down here.

[OlifOlif]

Ambrose O'Lippe used to be like that!

[Rzepecki]

...because it's not possible that any of these people have jobs and are on their lunch break. Or have doctor's appointments and want to eat before they get there. Or have heard some horrible news and are waiting for a family member to show up and tell them about it. Or have been made late to something already, by people who don't appreciate that not everyone has the rest of their lives to sit and chill.

How about all those people with nothing better to do all day than to occupy space and waste the waiter's time with idle chitchat, have some consideration for people who might actually have something they need to DO that day, and want to enjoy a meal out on their way to that thing they want to do.

I was like you when I was working and am so glad retirement has given me the time to slow down and enjoy life and not get upset over every little thing. I had spent all my time under pressure, rushing and being upset. What a waste of time. So much better now.

[PennBF]

It is interesting how many have responded to the observation with reasons to "enable" this behavior.That adds to the question as to why some feel the need to find reasons it is excuseable to cut your neighbor off, push and shove in lines, eat fast, insult the waiting staff if they take a few extra minutes to bring you your order, and many so ons. Kindness and consideration pays off.:popcorn:

[yurkie]

The over-crowding, due to uncontrolled population growth, only serves to aggravate the situation.

[FaithinGod]

I experience this all the time when takiing a leisurely ride in my golf cart enjoying the beautiful scenery doing 20 mph when another gold cart is riding my tail and then passes me moving beyond the speed limit. We are retired what is the hurry? What would help is to reinforce the golf cart speed limit.

[Bill1701]

There are also those on the opposite end of the spectrum. They have nothing better to do than drive 5-10 mph under the limit and slow everyone else up. They wait and wait before making a turn when there is no traffic. They are the ones claiming they are just 'being safe.'

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

I was like you when I was working and am so glad retirement has given me the time to slow down and enjoy life and not get upset over every little thing. I had spent all my time under pressure, rushing and being upset. What a waste of time. So much better now.

I don't get upset by every little thing. I was expressing the other side of the argument that "I'M retired, therefore YOU should stop being in such a rush."

I am rarely in a rush because I start out early for everything to make sure I'm never late. Traffic happens though, and emergencies crop up. Life happens. Even if you start out early, sometimes - you end up late anyway.

Do you get upset when you have a doctor's appointment at 2pm, and since you're retired and not in a rush or under pressure, you waltz in around 2:40 and the doctor says you missed your appointment, he's booked for the rest of the day, and you'll be charged the $40 for a no-call-no-show and it'll be another 2 weeks before he can see you again?

Or - do you make sure to show up on time, and maybe even get annoyed if you give yourself plenty of time to get there promptly but someone ahead of you on the road is sight-seeing at 12MPH?

Most of the time, things are great, even for people who work. But sometimes, something outside our control causes us to be in a hurry. Perhaps you have forgotten about that. It doesn't mean we live stressful lives. It just means that during this short window of time every day, we need to be prompt.

It's called being considerate to others. If that's not a priority to you, awesome. Maybe I'll give up being considerate to others when I get old. I hope I don't though.

[Topspinmo]

There are also those on the opposite end of the spectrum. They have nothing better to do than drive 5-10 mph under the limit and slow everyone else up. They wait and wait before making a turn when there is no traffic. They are the ones claiming they are just 'being safe.'

Some of us will get old, not against the law driving under the speed limit only driving over it. Only on interstate freeways where there’s minimum speed limit. Nothing more obnoxious than some JO driving 30 mph over the speed limit weaving in and out of traffic like he’s nascar king.

IMO there should be hidden automatically ticketing cameras 📸. The day will come when insurance companies will be monitoring you driving habits and adjusting you rates, it already started with first the discount for are driving what they consider safely, then what do you think next?

[Palstep05]

Well said !!

[Travelingal702]

Well, we all know the world revolves around them, don't we???

[BoatRatKat]

As I read this post I noticed that both my legs were bouncing. I've done that my entire life but I never knew that I was actually irritating anyone. I walk fast too, I walk with a purpose and I sometimes wonder to myself how those that stroll through life ever arrive anywhere. I also notice the older gentlemen at that gym who sit on all the weight machines and then do absolutely nothing but converse with each other. It annoys me sometimes when I'm waiting to use the machines myself but then I think that perhaps they live alone and this is their only socialization of the day and I just go hop on the treadmill instead. I enjoy doing things and accomplishing what I set out to do. Type A...maybe but who cares? I don't think any of my behavior amounts to being rude though.

[valleygirl1974]

Hi there Villagers! I'd like to give a little perspective from the other side of The Villages - those of us who still work and our time is not endless. We are not just a retirement community, we are a wonderful community of people who are 55 or older.

I travel out of the state most weeks for work and the only time I have to run errands is often on the weekends. So, I asked one of my great neighbors one Saturday when I ran into her in Bed, Bath & Beyond why she was shopping on a Saturday when she could go any day. Her response was that she didn't realize it was even Saturday. Ah, the life of a retired person, who I hope to be some day!!

The other thing I fail to understand, or have not experienced in other many places that I've lived (not an over 55 community) is why people travel as couples in the grocery store. Really, it takes 2 people to buy groceries? Colony Publix is a zoo during the day. I've learned over the 3 years we've lived here that the best time to go shop anywhere, with less traffic, is 7:00 pm. All the retired Villagers are either eating dinner, drinking, or home. I look forward to slowing down and relaxing when retired. Until then, I will continue to look hurried, because I am. Oh, and thank you for NOT honking, which seems to be a common thing here.

[fitnessrs@aol.com]

Couldn't agree more with Jazeula. As much as people may not like those that have somewhere to go or something to do, others don't appreciate those that are moving so slow that you can't get anywhere in a reasonable time.

[Velvet]

My observation in TV, you can’t walk to places you need to go, and there is no regular public transportation as there is in most cities. So if you are older, or ill, or on medication, or etc etc. no amount of some one rushing you is going to help. It’s like trying to get a toddler to run. They can’t, they are not going to. It is easier for the able bodied to make the adjustments.

I was prepared for this in TV, hubby was not. He is used to getting to places fast and on time. He went on Morse once when we got there, and on a few side streets and then never again. He always took the main arteries around TV until... one day he wanted to go to a Walmart. I suggested the north one I was used to. He dashed here and there quickly and we ended up at the one in Leesburg, parked next to the police cars in the Walmart parking lot. Well, we finished shopping but after that hubby was quite content with taking Village roads for the rest of our travels.

[jebartle]

My favorite, they pass 5 cars and we all arrive at the light together.

[THUNDERCHIEF]

I agree 100&

[THUNDERCHIEF]

Slow down why the rush ?

[Bay Kid]

Zoom, zoom, zoom!

[DeanFL]

For myself, this topic is "Que Sera Sera".

I desire and try not to allow others to affect me. Of course we all encounter speedy drivers, inconsiderate folks, people in a rush et al. I have been retired for quite a few years now and feel fortunate to have loads of time on my hands and living in such a great place. If a driver speeds past (not 'impacting' me in any way...) perhaps they're very late or an emergency or such. Could provide numerous other situations, and I try not to have other's actions get to me. The old adage "Life is too short".

I used to be a Type A, with the jitterly legs and impatience. Perhaps some people simply can't shake it. Perhaps others have a valid reason for hyperness. So be it.

Que Sera Sera.

I'd prefer to be :clap2:

than :cus:

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

For myself, this topic is "Que Sera Sera".

I desire and try not to allow others to affect me. Of course we all encounter speedy drivers, inconsiderate folks, people in a rush et al. I have been retired for quite a few years now and feel fortunate to have loads of time on my hands and living in such a great place. If a driver speeds past (not 'impacting' me in any way...) perhaps they're very late or an emergency or such. Could provide numerous other situations, and I try not to have other's actions get to me. The old adage "Life is too short".

I used to be a Type A, with the jitterly legs and impatience. Perhaps some people simply can't shake it. Perhaps others have a valid reason for hyperness. So be it.

Que Sera Sera.

I'd prefer to be :clap2:

than :cus:

Exactly. As long as the other person isn't causing problems on your end of the observation, it really shouldn't get your knickers in a twist. It makes retired people seem a little more stressed out than they claim to be, when they get agitated by noticing that someone else is in a rush.

For those who are making the big deal about people who they observe to be hurrying, or trying to be "on time" for something, and say "I'm retired, therefore we should all chill out"..

Let me know next time you have an appointment you are planning on taking the golf cart to. I'll get in my golf cart and show up on the golf cart path right before you do, and enjoy a leisurely 4mph tour of the terrain. You'll definitely be late to your appointment but hey - you're retired, your MRI can wait. Or your dentures. Or your lawyer. Or the veterinarian's office to pick up your dog from surgery right before they close. Or the post office so you can mail that bill that has to be post-marked by today or they'll cut off a utility in your Minnesota winter home. All those people who are expecting you to show up on time, can just wait because hey *I* am retired so YOU should just chill out.

Right?

[PennBF]

One of the most difficult person to have working for you is a work alcoholic as the work is their whole life and they have no "outside
activities" or few. They usually don't know how to slow down and have other interests and enjoy life. I kind of look at the people I see rushing as like work alcoholic's as they don' know how to sit back and enjoy themselves. Of course there are exceptions to every rule but we see a lot of "rusher's here" and that usually disregards concern for the person they are cutting off, pushing, not helping, etc. The next time you are rushing in the Market, just tell yourself to "slow down" and enjoy the wondering and seeing all there is available. If you are rushing in the car just ask yourself why? Is it a journey or a haste to get to the end and why? As most say "life is a journey and not a sprint".:ho:

[Madelaine Amee]

I read this post with interest because I could see myself. I walk fast, I move fast, I talk fast and I expect others to do the same. That said I do have some comments on the points made:
Someone said about people shopping as couples – yes I have often seen this, but I have also seen that one of them is either infirm or actually has some form of dementia and cannot be left at home alone. Yes, it is painful when one of the them steps off to get something off the shelf and leaves the other standing in the middle of the aisle with the cart. Annoying yes, but when I stop and actually think about it I realize it could be me and how lucky I am not to have to deal with that situation, and how much real time does it cost you out of your day?

Coming up on someone doing the speed limit, or just under, yes very annoying, but hopefully you will come to a place in the road where you can safely pass.

One of my pet peeves, having someone come rushing out of a turning in front of you and then slow right down and made worse by the fact that there is nothing behind you. My husband and I have discussed this and realized that the person jumping out of the turning in front of you is a terrible driver and has no idea what they are doing.

To the person who lives here and is still working …. You have chosen to live in a retirement community, leave earlier to get wherever you are going in the event you are going to get held up. When I lived in Massachusetts I used to have to leave half an hour earlier just to get on the highway!!!

I believe it all comes down to a lack of commonsense, a commodity much lacking these days.

No, I am not a perpetual optimist, but after having a major stroke scare a year or so ago, I learned Yoga breathing, so that when I am on the verge on standing on my horn in frustration I practice Yoga deep breathing which really does work, and I can feel my blood pressure going down.

So now, within the next five minutes, I am going to go out in the car and hope I can practice what I preach.

[ditka41]

[QUOTE=PennBF;1660923] There should be clubs to deal with these unfortunate hyper people and help them to learn to just "Chill"

The clubs do exist. Perhaps if you carried one everywhere you go, you could deal more effectively with the offenders. A slight whack upside the head might do wonders. Or, maybe they are Snowbirds from the NE and just don't adapt quickly. ( I tried, but just couldn't resist.):icon_wink:

[Velvet]

Hubby and I have totally different approaches to driving. He notices everyone on the road, he is always scanning, never still. He judges, grumbles and swears at almost every driver, occasionally also “teaches” them a lesson. Very stressful, in my opinion. When I drive I put on my music (have a wonderful sound system) sing along sometimes, try not irritate other drivers with my driving and drive as safely as I can. Generally don’t care what other drivers do as long as they don’t hit me. In all the decades of driving I have had no moving violations. But I must say hubby is the safer driver - and I am the happier one.
Same attitude towards shopping. I feel sorry for those who don’t have the time or the interest to enjoy the moment because that is all we have for sure.

[ColdNoMore]

The clubs do exist. Perhaps if you carried one everywhere you go, you could deal more effectively with the offenders. A slight whack upside the head might do wonders. Or, maybe they are Snowbirds from the NE and just don't adapt quickly. ( I tried, but just couldn't resist.):icon_wink:

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[Pickbent]

We have been in The Villages for more than 10 years and notice that one thing has not changed. There are a group of residents who cannot slow down and enjoy life. In the Markets they are the ones who race to get to the cashier, that shove by you, they are the ones that consider driving is a competition and will rush to beat you at a light, cut you off and would never allow you to get by them. When you go into a restaurant they are ones who's legs are bouncing like a paddle ball, or because of uncontrolled anxieties and will yell at the waiter/waitress if it takes more than 10 minutes for your food. There should be clubs to deal with these unfortunate hyper people and help them to learn to just "Chill" and when they find themselves rushing, experiencing high anxieties to say to themselves to stop, walk slow, show patience with their neighbors and enjoy the life they worked to so hard to have. The next time you are in a restaurant or show, etc. look around and see how many are bouncing their legs and can't just relax and have a softer life. Is that you??:popcorn:
It's a regional culture thing as a generality (allowing a for a few exceptions): There ar several thousands of New Yorkers (the metro area kind), New Jhoosey people, and a few Bostonians who have not yet acclimated. We moved up to here from near the Palm Beach county crowd-too many transplants there with these "in your face", aggressive habits, general lack of civility, if not downright rudeness. We are hoping to get away from all that by enjoying the greater mix of people from the middle west, the real South, the western states (less some of California) who generally know or at least try to gear down to enjoy an easier, genteel pace of retired life.

[rftarbell]

There seems to be a Village contest as to who has the fastest golf cart. My electric moves along nicely, topping out at 17 MPH. But time and again those behind me must get by me at 22 and even 27 MPH. They arrive perhaps 2 minutes before me. Do they REALLY need to use those extra two minutes in a do-or-die situation?? Is there some sort of a prize awaiting them?

[Nucky]

It's a regional culture thing as a generality (allowing a for a few exceptions): There ar several thousands of New Yorkers (the metro area kind), New Jhoosey people, and a few Bostonians who have not yet acclimated. We moved up to here from near the Palm Beach county crowd-too many transplants there with these "in your face", aggressive habits, general lack of civility, if not downright rudeness. We are hoping to get away from all that by enjoying the greater mix of people from the middle west, the real South, the western states (less some of California) who generally know or at least try to gear down to enjoy an easier, genteel pace of retired life.

Yup, when a person is new here they, including me, Usually Paint With A Wide Brush. I'm a Jorsey person who has made great strides at losing the Edge you speak of. It's a survival :boxing2: technique in the Tri-State area you know being that way. I don't even feel like attacking you for your unkind words. If that's the way you feel, I feel sorry for you. By the way, I don't think you mentioned where you are from? Can you reveal it? Do you live in The Villages already? Definitely, not looking for your address.

Truly it is a rarity to meet someone in The Villages who is UNKIND. That is of course unless they are hiding behind a Keyboard. Face to Face everyone seems to be fine.

Check back in six months your outlook will probably change. :)

P.S. Very Nice First Post! Maybe Your Observations Are A Little Skewed? Peace Out!

[Velvet]

Nucky, I too come from a very populated city. Our residents here act like the ones I met in Manhattan and now I believe it has not so much to do with being in the NE as it does with over crowding. Too much density, too much activity, too much of everything.

When you overcrowd animals they turn on each other. It also happens with insects. I believe that it is post traumatic stress and inhuman living conditions in those tall apartment buildings with limited green space, no trees on the streets, no birds, no living things. They are unfit for humans even if they come with gold tipped soaking bathtubs etc. Living walking distance to the opera, and theaters is not going to make up for all the people all the time that you are tripping over, that you must compete against just to survive. I believe such living conditions cause permanent PTSD and these people cannot relax even in retirement.

At least I can say this is true for my north city. And the cranes are still out, they are constructing more and more high rises. More buildings, more density, more congestion and our politicians are mostly looking forwards to all the property tax they are going to collect. They are smacking their lips. It is so sad I believe it is slow suicide for the people of the city.

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

I'm from the suburbs of New England, and I've been to Manhattan many times, and lived in Boston for several years. I have family in Hartford and in the burbs of New Hampshire. I've been to every one of the 48 contiguous states, and lived in southeastern Florida, and right outside Montreal, Quebec, Canada.

The rudest people I've ever personally encountered were southerners who complained about northerners being rude. They were even ruder than the Quebequois who refused to speak English even though I knew they could, and even though they knew I didn't know French. I ended up learning French. Joke's on them, I understood what they were saying. And it still wasn't as rude as southerners complaining about rude Northerners.

That whole "bless your heart" thing gets really tiring, folks.

[Nucky]

Nucky, I too come from a very populated city. Our residents here act like the ones I met in Manhattan and now I believe it has not so much to do with being in the NE as it does with over crowding. Too much density, too much activity, too much of everything.

When you overcrowd animals they turn on each other. It also happens with insects. I believe that it is post traumatic stress and inhuman living conditions in those tall apartment buildings with limited green space, no trees on the streets, no birds, no living things. They are unfit for humans even if they come with gold tipped soaking bathtubs etc. Living walking distance to the opera, and theaters is not going to make up for all the people all the time that you are tripping over, that you must compete against just to survive. I believe such living conditions cause permanent PTSD and these people cannot relax even in retirement.

At least I can say this is true for my north city. And the cranes are still out, they are constructing more and more high rises. More buildings, more density, more congestion and our politicians are mostly looking forwards to all the property tax they are going to collect. They are smacking their lips. It is so sad I believe it is slow suicide for the people of the city.

Yupper. Seeing one of the worst things in the History of many of our lives on TV is one thing. Having the smoke from it and the bicycles from the people who didn't make it home from that day rusting away in bicycle racks months later may give someone an edge that takes time to subside if in fact it ever does. I thought people who went to therapy were weak dopey people. I don't think that way anymore.

We all have an Edge and that Humongous Day didn't help to chill us out! The Villages did. A Geographical Change that actually was a Cure. Very Grateful. :pray:

[PennBF]

I worked for many years in the heart of Manhattan and understand that culture and was part of it. I understand the one's
that come from this "hype" society and it did take me a couple of years to adjust to a slow down, no reason to rush behavior. Hopefully messages like these and other's will alert others to their rushing and lack of consideration and the "no reason to act that way" and enjoy their senior years. Heck that is why we got up early each day, caught that commuter train, rushed to the office and repeated it at the end of the day. "STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES. YOU WORKED HARD TO EARN THAT LIFE":popcorn:

[Bay Kid]

Zoom, zoom, zoom

[claytocl]

Well said.

[tophcfa]

We have been in The Villages for more than 10 years and notice that one thing has not changed. There are a group of residents who cannot slow down and enjoy life. In the Markets they are the ones who race to get to the cashier, that shove by you, they are the ones that consider driving is a competition and will rush to beat you at a light, cut you off and would never allow you to get by them. When you go into a restaurant they are ones who's legs are bouncing like a paddle ball, or because of uncontrolled anxieties and will yell at the waiter/waitress if it takes more than 10 minutes for your food. There should be clubs to deal with these unfortunate hyper people and help them to learn to just "Chill" and when they find themselves rushing, experiencing high anxieties to say to themselves to stop, walk slow, show patience with their neighbors and enjoy the life they worked to so hard to have. The next time you are in a restaurant or show, etc. look around and see how many are bouncing their legs and can't just relax and have a softer life. Is that you??:popcorn:

The root cause of the problem, if it really is a problem, is the Villages. There are just so many fun things to do in the Villages that the days are just way too short to do half the stuff on the "to do" list.