Please No Perfume at Concerts

[YouNeverKnow]

Just a reminder that many of us are allergic to perfumes and colognes!
Last nigh at the Four Divos concert at the Sharon I was seated behind a women that was heavily doused. Shortly after the concert began my eyes stared stinging and watering and I became congested and pretty miserable (My typical reaction to scents) Please don’t tell me I should have moved my seat as the tickets I purchased were specific seats I purchased in the orchestra center and close. (FYI She was in row G center orchestra if she is reading this) The only seats left anyhow we’re on the extreme sides of the theater.
Please people just another reminder to be considerate and aware of how your perfume and cologne may be affecting other people around you.

[EdFNJ]

Yes, and the same for the men who bathe in English leather (and other stuff) instead of showering every morning then goes to Starbucks in LSL. If you're here you know who you are !!! Everything you touch stinks! Maybe the Corona virus will make people more aware of how easy they can spread stuff. :D

[karostay]

No Cell phones either
Because your addicted to them and think your more important than anyone around you
Looking at the screen every 10 minutes is highly irritating and impolite during a performance

[YouNeverKnow]

No Cell phones either
Because your addicted to them and think your more important than anyone around you
Looking at the screen every 10 minutes is highly irritating and impolite during a performance
Excellent point! Besides the “perfume lady” sitting in front of me the lady next to me was recording a lot of the numbers on her cell phone! Very distracting,
Luck of the draw with who ends up sitting around you at these performances! :ohdear:

[blueeagle65]

I agree! If you bathe you won't need to inundate yourself with scents.

[Chatbrat]

We no longer go to the Sharon, because of the inconsiderate people who must record every aspect of their lives on a phone or a pad- its outright insane , that people are hypnotized by these gadgets

[NotGolfer]

I agree with the scents (and the phones too)! Many people have breathing issues (COPD, asthma and more) that can be triggered by scents. I have a friend who gets sick and can't breath with scents. As for phones...I just smh when I see how clueless people are when it comes to technology. Was in a group recently, phone rings and the person answered loudly with "I can't talk now!" Why not just turn the thing off? But we can remind and speak up til we're blue in the face and people being people will still do what they do (NOT an excuse!!)

[YouNeverKnow]

I agree with the scents (and the phones too)! Many people have breathing issues (COPD, asthma and more) that can be triggered by scents. I have a friend who gets sick and can't breath with scents. As for phones...I just smh when I see how clueless people are when it comes to technology. Was in a group recently, phone rings and the person answered loudly with "I can't talk now!" Why not just turn the thing off? But we can remind and speak up til we're blue in the face and people being people will still do what they do (NOT an excuse!!)
I hope the ladies that are wearing perfume and the men that are drenched in cologne are reading this post and will reconsider and think about the health and comfort of people around them before dumping it on. :pray:

[retiredguy123]

In my opinion, unless movie theaters and live theaters, develop entirely new strict, enforceable rules about using cell phones, perfumes, and other distractions during performances, this problem will never be solved. Talking about it on a forum will do nothing to improve the situation. If these theaters ever want my business, they will change the way they deal with cell phones. Until then, I am staying home. One solution for movie theaters is to provide sound jacks where you can plug in noise cancelling headphones to block out the cell phone noises.

[Yung Dum]

Please ease it up on the perfume. I go to Singles' Club Events and the smell is just sickening. I know the user doesn't realize how bad it is, but the poor people anywhere near them do.

[Topspinmo]

No Cell phones either
Because your addicted to them and think your more important than anyone around you
Looking at the screen every 10 minutes is highly irritating and impolite during a performance

10 mins? More like every other minute.

[Cranford61]

No Cell phones either
Because your addicted to them and think your more important than anyone around you
Looking at the screen every 10 minutes is highly irritating and impolite during a performance
I may be adjusting my hearing aids to the loudness of the performance. This is done on my iPhone.

[dlebuis]

I’m also allergic to strong perfume smells. Eyes water and headache. This has happened in church and at the theater to the point I have to leave because I literally get sick to my stomach. I know it’s their right to wear perfume but please be considerate of others.

[ts12755]

You Need to stay out of public places if you are allergic. I'm allergic to dogs. But every store I go to there are dogs walking around. Service dogs supposedly. Everyone has one. So now I need my groceries delivered or I have to have them brought out to my car in the parking lot.

[DReifinger]

I find the same thing with perfumes especially at the gym and when I'm out walking. Who wears perfume and their full face make up to the gym, really?

[PugMom]

In my opinion, unless movie theaters and live theaters, develop entirely new strict, enforceable rules about using cell phones, perfumes, and other distractions during performances, this problem will never be solved. Talking about it on a forum will do nothing to improve the situation. If these theaters ever want my business, they will change the way they deal with cell phones. Until then, I am staying home. One solution for movie theaters is to provide sound jacks where you can plug in noise cancelling headphones to block out the cell phone noises.how can you make a law against perfume? who would enforce it, & what do you suppose the penalty should be? i'm not being sarcastic, am sincerely curious. thx

[TooColdNJ]

“One of the oldest uses of perfume comes from the burning of incense and aromatic herbs for religious services, often the aromatic gums, frankincense and myrrh gathered from trees. It did not take long, though, for people to discover perfume’s romantic potential and it was used both for seduction and as preparation for love-making”

Not only am I allergic to some scents, they make me nauseous as well. Try sitting anywhere near someone in a restaurant. I can almost taste it as well, blaming it on my extremely acute sense of smell.

[Windguy]

I know it’s their right to wear perfume but please be considerate of others.

I’m sorry, but there is no “right” to pollute.

[TooColdNJ]

“One of the oldest uses of perfume comes from the burning of incense and aromatic herbs for religious services, often the aromatic gums, frankincense and myrrh gathered from trees. It did not take long, though, for people to discover perfume’s romantic potential and it was used both for seduction and as preparation for love-making”

Not only am I allergic to some scents, but they make me nauseous as well. Try sitting anywhere near someone in a restaurant; I can almost taste it as well, and blame it on my extremely acute sense of smell. Ruins my meal. There are other scents that are soft and pleasant and don’t affect me at all. If it’s must, Natural oils settle into the skin and are missing that ingredient. They don’t penetrate a 50 foot radius. There’s an ingredient in many scents that’s pungent and irritating. Many of the people wearing it are oblivious. Expensive scents, the ones with designer’s names aren’t any different, either. Who are these people trying to impress, or seduce? If they can’t smell it on themselves they don’t know how badly it affects and offends others. They’re probably the ones that complain about the smell of cigarettes and cigars. Try sitting in close quarters with a bunch of women who each love their scents. Scents-sory overload! Hopefully there will be just one offender reading this post. I’ve thrown away all of my perfume because I realize how awful it can be for others in my position.

[retiredguy123]

how can you make a law against perfume? who would enforce it, & what do you suppose the penalty should be? i'm not being sarcastic, am sincerely curious. thx
I am more turned off by cell phones, but, if theaters don't want to lose customers, they need to develop enforceable rules, not laws, to reduce as many distractions as possible. I like movies, but I never go to a movie theater because of the cell phone issue.

[Koapaka]

Kinda ironic that there is a HUGE ad for "China Rain" Perfume and other of your "Classic Berkeley Favorites" listed on this page that is complaining about perfume pollution...

I am a retired nurse, and noticed that LOTS of "older folks" would bathe in their colognes and perfumes. As we age, our olfactory receptors weaken (coupled with the fact that if you wear the same scent all the time, you almost become "immune" to how heavy it might be.

Given that, maybe all that decide they just can not give up their scents could ask someone they trust, "Hey, is my cologne too heavy?" and get some feedback about maybe being a little heavy-handed without realizing it. I do think something CAN be done to help not be offensive to others. The cell phone thingee….yeah, good luck with that. People don't even SPEAK to each other sitting out at restaurants anymore....everyone sitting there with their phone in their faces. We do have kids scattered all over the world (military), and if one of them calls, I answer to ensure everything is ok, and then tell them I will call back. However, I have my phone set on "do not disturb" mode 99% of the time, where only those listed in my contacts ring thru....unknown and calls go to V/M.

[airstreamingypsy]

Men, Stop wearing "cologne" it's gross. Trust me, it does not make you smell better or make you attractive to women. It's gross.

[navair4me]

Regarding the people wearing perfume/men's cologne,etc....It's crazy!! I have allergy induced asthma so when I get a whiff of someone's "fragrance" or lingering smoke from a smoker it sends me into a coughing fit. Then the highly scented person (or smoker ..which is just as bad) looks at me like I'm "Typhoid Mary" when I start coughing from the "cloud" that encircles them. Seriously, people. you can't catch what I've got. I don"'t cough because it smells bad...I cough because it smells and I'm allergic to it.

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

My grandmother taught me one method of applying perfume. Dab the CAP of the bottle against one wrist. Close the bottle and put it away.

Then use the "practically fumes" amount on that wrist, to rub against the other wrist. Then use both wrists and rub against the outer edge of each jawline. Then use whatever's left on your wrists to smooth down your skirt.

Someone else suggested using a spray, spritzing once up into the air 2 steps away from where you're standing, and then walk under whatever starts to fall from it.

I rarely wear perfume and I make some of it myself. What I do use, I use as sparingly as possible because one of them is stupidly expensive (Shalimar, undiluted perfume - not eau de toilette or perfume spray) and the other was discontinued years ago and I've diluted it with rubbing alcohol, and want it to last a little longer before it's gone (Abishag).

[ladybugsmom]

Absolutely! Drives me crazy, and sometimes nauseated, when someone is heavily perfumed!!

[sipops]

People on Chemo. are also sensitive to perfume and colonge scents.

[karostay]

I may be adjusting my hearing aids to the loudness of the performance. This is done on my iPhone.

Totally agree my wife does same thing.She does it discreetly by
covering the screen with her hand so she doesn't annoy others sitting around her

[DARFAP]

Same thing applies at church

[E Cascade]

I think it's really nice that people feel comfortable sharing their opinions and reasons for not wanting/not needing to be around perfumes, etc........ maybe the next step would be: when around someone who has the stuff on, to caringly say that you are allergic to perfumes and ask that they consider what they are doing when they go into close quarters in public from now on as they might be making someone sick the next day........ I think we need to feel comfortable addressing a situation right when it happens and not feel bad about it. It's ok to say what you need.

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

I think it's really nice that people feel comfortable sharing their opinions and reasons for not wanting/not needing to be around perfumes, etc........ maybe the next step would be: when around someone who has the stuff on, to caringly say that you are allergic to perfumes and ask that they consider what they are doing when they go into close quarters in public from now on as they might be making someone sick the next day........ I think we need to feel comfortable addressing a situation right when it happens and not feel bad about it. It's ok to say what you need.

Some of them DO consider what they're doing, and do it anyway. Some of them don't consider it, and have no intention to consider it. Some of them are absolutely oblivious to it and don't even know it's a problem. Some people have a reduced sense of smell and wouldn't know that they put on too much.

One might think that if you approach someone who immediately starts wheezing and backs up, it's probably something about you causing it. But if you aren't attentive of your own surroundings in the first place, what makes me think you'd care enough to become attentive after I told you it was bothering me?

Too many people have a sense of entitlement - it's a free country and perfume is legal, therefore they don't owe you fresh air and they are free to dive into a vat of Chanel if that's what floats their boat. The cigar smoke bothers you downwind on the sidewalk cafe table while you're trying to eat? Tough noogies - it's a free country, try sitting upwind next time, or eat inside where all "you nonsmokers" go.

No one should HAVE to ask someone drenched in cologne to stop being drenched in cologne.

[EdFNJ]

My grandmother taught me one method of applying perfume. Dab the CAP of the bottle against one wrist. Close the bottle and put it away.

Then use the "practically fumes" amount on that wrist, to rub against the other wrist. Then use both wrists and rub against the outer edge of each jawline. Then use whatever's left on your wrists to smooth down your skirt.

Someone else suggested using a spray, spritzing once up into the air 2 steps away from where you're standing, and then walk under whatever starts to fall from it.

I rarely wear perfume and I make some of it myself. What I do use, I use as sparingly as possible because one of them is stupidly expensive (Shalimar, undiluted perfume - not eau de toilette or perfume spray) and the other was discontinued years ago and I've diluted it with rubbing alcohol, and want it to last a little longer before it's gone (Abishag).


Shalimar! Now THAT brings back some exciting college memories. Too bad youth is wasted on the young. (Where have I heard that!). :D

[thelegges]

Sadly elderly population has lost some of their senses. Other problem, hygiene comes into play, and they think a perfume will cover the problem.

[Two Bills]

I Love The Smell Of Napalm In The Morning - Apocalypse Now - YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?reload=9&v=1L2qXzMS9Tg)

[coffeebean]

........ I think we need to feel comfortable addressing a situation right when it happens and not feel bad about it. It's ok to say what you need.

Hubby and I were sitting in a very empty movie theater during the previews. Along came two women who sat in the row in front of us but off to the side so not directly in front of us. That was a good move.

What wasn't so nice was the very strong scent of perfume that came wafting our way. I stayed seated for 30 seconds and said to hubby that we must move. He knew that was coming. As I got up I looked directly at the two women and said, "Which one of you is wearing perfume so heavy it is making me ill?" Then I moved to another section of the theater. I probably left them both with there mouths hanging open.

I may not have handled that very nicely, but I was just so annoyed!!! People have to be totally oblivious to how offensive strong perfume is.

[CFrance]

Hubby and I were sitting in a very empty movie theater during the previews. Along came two women who sat in the row in front of us but off to the side so not directly in front of us. That was a good move.

What wasn't so nice was the very strong scent of perfume that came wafting our way. I stayed seated for 30 seconds and said to hubby that we must move. He knew that was coming. As I got up I looked directly at the two women and said, "Which one of you is wearing perfume so heavy it is making me ill?" Then I moved to another section of the theater. I probably left them both with there mouths hanging open.

I may not have handled that very nicely, but I was just so annoyed!!! People have to be totally oblivious to how offensive strong perfume is.
Did your husband see that one coming too?:boxing2:

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

Hubby and I were sitting in a very empty movie theater during the previews. Along came two women who sat in the row in front of us but off to the side so not directly in front of us. That was a good move.

What wasn't so nice was the very strong scent of perfume that came wafting our way. I stayed seated for 30 seconds and said to hubby that we must move. He knew that was coming. As I got up I looked directly at the two women and said, "Which one of you is wearing perfume so heavy it is making me ill?" Then I moved to another section of the theater. I probably left them both with there mouths hanging open.

I may not have handled that very nicely, but I was just so annoyed!!! People have to be totally oblivious to how offensive strong perfume is.

Reminds me of the time I went to the movies with a friend and the two guys behind us were talking, discussing the movie, while we were all trying to actually watch it. So I turned around and asked them if they knew a good way to sop up the blood clots from an especially heavy menstrual period, and "y'know how it's kinda fishy smelling? Well I heard the vinegar douche is good for that, but I also heard too much douching causes yeast infections and I've had five of those already this year, all that frothing is just SO inconvenient"...and I went on and on until they moved their seats.

[justjim]

Just thinking about cell phones in the movie theaters in The Villages. Since early January, we have seen three movies. Actually, two more for this timeframe than usual for us. The theater was near capacity for two of the movies and we neither saw or heard any problem with a cell phone. Just my take but perhaps some are overreacting to cell phones being a huge distraction or a problem in the movie theaters in The Villages.

[Velvet]

I tend to sneeze (really loud) and often at the smell of strong perfume or aftershave... and usually in the direction of the wearer. And it is often not even intentional.

[Chatbrat]

Beyond perfume, the grossest thing men can do is go to the gym or sit @ bar with a sleeveless t-shirt--revolting

[TooColdNJ]

My grandmother taught me one method of applying perfume. Dab the CAP of the bottle against one wrist. Close the bottle and put it away.

Then use the "practically fumes" amount on that wrist, to rub against the other wrist. Then use both wrists and rub against the outer edge of each jawline. Then use whatever's left on your wrists to smooth down your skirt.


I rarely wear perfume and I make some of it myself. What I do use, I use as sparingly as possible because one of them is stupidly expensive (Shalimar, undiluted perfume - not eau de toilette or perfume spray) and the other was discontinued years ago and I've diluted it with rubbing alcohol, and want it to last a little longer before it's gone (Abishag).

I’ve read that dabbing and rubbing affects the scent and makes it worse.most scents with alcohol are the ones that are the strongest, no matter how light the scent is. That’s why natural oils are kinder and gentler.

[TooColdNJ]

I think it's really nice that people feel comfortable sharing their opinions and reasons for not wanting/not needing to be around perfumes, etc........ maybe the next step would be: when around someone who has the stuff on, to caringly say that you are allergic to perfumes and ask that they consider what they are doing when they go into close quarters in public from now on as they might be making someone sick the next day........ I think we need to feel comfortable addressing a situation right when it happens and not feel bad about it. It's ok to say what you need.

Have you ever tried to very caringly ask someone to do that? In a room full of card players, many women wearing all types of scents, an email request to please not wear it due to people having allergies made it dwindle to just a couple of women still wearing it. I approached the offenders in private, nicely explaining how it affects me and others due to allergies. I even told them that it was a lovely scent, but my head pounds and my throat closes up from perfumes in general...in close proximity. Lots of people just think you’ve got some nerve as if you’re telling them what to do, and doing so makes things worse. These people apparently lack good scents...oops... SENSE. :shocked:
As for cigars and cigarettes, not that you should HAVE TO, but if there are no options you can move just a little up or down wind. There’s no way to avoid the perfume issue other than to leave the activity.