Help with a singing (not very well) neighbor

[maltieri]

We're new to Marsh Bend and have a neighbor who likes to sing. He heads out to his lanai at random hours (daylight luckily) and just starts belting out tunes. We wouldn't mind so much but unfortunately he's not on key very often and there's not even any background music (aka karaoke). Not trying to be mean but we'd like to enjoy our lanai without the 'serenade'. Appreciate others thoughts on how to manage this one !

[anothersteve]

You just might try talking to him? Maybe first introduce yourself to him as to being new in the "neighborhood". Don't let crap build up, that's the worst thing you can do.
Steve

[asianthree]

With as close as homes are in TV, quiet is not on the venue.

[davem4616]

you can always enclose your lanai

not a bad idea with all the heavy rain that we get here....makes the room usable regardless of the weather

doubtful that there is any tactful way to get him to understand that he really is an awful singer...most likely he needs hearing aids and has no idea that he's being too loud

maybe you could consider inviting them over for cocktails....after a few let him know that you can hear him singing...he may not even realize that he's that loud

good luck...not an easy one for sure

[anothersteve]

I must sing pretty good because I never hear anyone complain. :clap2:
Steve

[maltieri]

Update - had a quick chat with my good neighbor. Didn't realize that the sound carried so far. TV is certainly not the quiet zone but awesome to know we're all considerate of each other!

[anothersteve]

Update - had a quick chat with my good neighbor. Didn't realize that the sound carried so far. TV is certainly not the quiet zone but awesome to know we're all considerate of each other!

Good to hear.
Steve

[Velvet]

Can you get him to sing where the aerobic drummers are drumming?

[tophcfa]

Ask him what he did with the money. If he asks what money, tell him the money his mother gave him for singing lessons.

[riley2011]

Turn on the radio. Maybe he’ll get the hint.

[bowlingal]

record him and play it back for him to hear how he sounds

[DecaturFargo]

Talk to him.

[davem4616]

Update - had a quick chat with my good neighbor. Didn't realize that the sound carried so far. TV is certainly not the quiet zone but awesome to know we're all considerate of each other!



Good on you! Glad to hear that it worked out fine ....many of us haven't lived this close to our neighbors previously

[xcaligirl]

record him and play it back for him to hear how he sounds
That was my thought! Invite him over for drinks and then play it for him. lol. It was very nice to hear that he's understanding. We're all way too close for people who don't understand and want to be jerks. Life is just too short... enjoy!

[graciegirl]

Update - had a quick chat with my good neighbor. Didn't realize that the sound carried so far. TV is certainly not the quiet zone but awesome to know we're all considerate of each other!

He had no clue people even noticed his singing and he was unaware it wasn't pleasant to hear if they did. He has stopped. He is embarrassed and humiliated. He will be outwardly polite to you, but he won't ever feel comfortable and confident around you. His wife said to him..."There is nothing wrong with your singing, don't let it bother you". Sometimes just overlooking minor things is the best thing to do. Unless you don't mind someone telling you that your butt crack shows when you are weeding.

[soniak4@gmail.com]

Update - had a quick chat with my good neighbor. Didn't realize that the sound carried so far. TV is certainly not the quiet zone but awesome to know we're all considerate of each other!

I applaud you!!! Handling this situation like an adult and addressing the issue with respect and honesty is the only way to go. Well done. :clap2::clap2::clap2:

[George Page]

Imagine.....singing while weeding!

[George Page]

I could use some singing lessons too.

[DonH57]

Ask him what he did with the money. If he asks what money, tell him the money his mother gave him for singing lessons.

LOL. You beat me to that one.:1rotfl:

[Bay Kid]

Sing along with him, hopefully better.

[LG999]

I wish you hadn’t made him feel bad.

[Ritabob]

Good for you. We should all try communicating with one another instead of yelling and assuming the worst.

[dewilson58]

Much better than my neighbor......................I can hear him fart.

[Jewelz]

I'm glad you talked to him. He must be a happy guy singing his heart out!!!

[cj740@comcast.net]

With as close as homes are in TV, quiet is not on the venue.

It is curious to me that the homes in TV are, indeed, in most case built much too close together. I wonder if it ever occurred to the designers/architects/builders that privacy is of utmost importance.....to everyone. And, as we age, our hearing can/does get compromised and so, speaking louder to each other or turning up the TV/music on the lanai might be necessary. I would say not much, if any, thought was put into that aspect of the design. Thoughts? Thanks.

[graciegirl]

It is curious to me that the homes in TV are, indeed, in most case built much too close together. I wonder if it ever occurred to the designers/architects/builders that privacy is of utmost importance.....to everyone. And, as we age, our hearing can/does get compromised and so, speaking louder to each other or turning up the TV/music on the lanai might be necessary. I would say not much, if any, thought was put into that aspect of the design. Thoughts? Thanks.

Consideration was given to folks who were tired of tending and managing the tending of large yards.

[tophcfa]

Much better than my neighbor......................I can hear him fart.

That could be dangerous with all the lightning in the air :boom:

[cj740@comcast.net]

Hmmm...interesting. What about consideration for privacy?

[dplars]

Had that problem with yapping dogs and screaming kids so loaded my sound system in the pool area with a recording of a cotton tail rabbit's death scream available from sporting goods store), then left hose to play golf. Problem solved, message sent.

[pqrstar]

It puts a smile on my face when I see or hear people who are happy and enjoying themselves.

What would the world be like if all the bad dancers, bad golfers, bad tennis players etc. never got out there because someone told them they were upsetting to them?

I once had a neighbor who took his motorcycle out for a ride every night at 10:00. It made me happy to always hear him coming by because I knew he was enjoying life.

[Dianalea]

Lol!

[billethkid]

An opening line in a conversation could be to ask if he takes requests!
:duck:

[MOMOH]

That's the funniest thing I've heard in a while. The "visual" it creates is hilarious! Glad the problem was solved and after all...it's not the worst problem to have.

[BlackhawksFan]

We're new to Marsh Bend and have a neighbor who likes to sing. He heads out to his lanai at random hours (daylight luckily) and just starts belting out tunes. We wouldn't mind so much but unfortunately he's not on key very often and there's not even any background music (aka karaoke). Not trying to be mean but we'd like to enjoy our lanai without the 'serenade'. Appreciate others thoughts on how to manage this one !

Is it the "Morning is here" guy from Friends?

[GOLFER54]

Take out your radio, and blast it every time this inconsiderable jerk sings. He’ll eventually get the hint, if not you start singing even louder OFF KEY.

[Velvet]

Imagine.....singing while weeding!

Only while the drummers are drumming...

[NancyLee]

He had no clue people even noticed his singing and he was unaware it wasn't pleasant to hear if they did. He has stopped. He is embarrassed and humiliated. He will be outwardly polite to you, but he won't ever feel comfortable and confident around you. His wife said to him..."There is nothing wrong with your singing, don't let it bother you". Sometimes just overlooking minor things is the best thing to do. Unless you don't mind someone telling you that your butt crack shows when you are weeding.
Wow, that is a lot to read into, "I had a quick chat with my good neighbor."

[nikonuser1]

It is good to know that you talked to him and he will be more considerate in the future. You dun good.

[OhioBuckeye]

We're new to Marsh Bend and have a neighbor who likes to sing. He heads out to his lanai at random hours (daylight luckily) and just starts belting out tunes. We wouldn't mind so much but unfortunately he's not on key very often and there's not even any background music (aka karaoke). Not trying to be mean but we'd like to enjoy our lanai without the 'serenade'. Appreciate others thoughts on how to manage this one !

Man, this is the toughest thing I’ve ever read on TOTV to solve. Maybe he wants to be discovered, LOL. Maybe you & your wife could scream out a tune yourselves & maybe he’ll think the same thing. This one has got me stumped!

[mollypeanut]

We're new to Marsh Bend and have a neighbor who likes to sing. He heads out to his lanai at random hours (daylight luckily) and just starts belting out tunes. We wouldn't mind so much but unfortunately he's not on key very often and there's not even any background music (aka karaoke). Not trying to be mean but we'd like to enjoy our lanai without the 'serenade'. Appreciate others thoughts on how to manage this one !

I don’t live in Marsh Bend, so I know it’s not the same gentlemen.. But I have a similar situation in my neighborhood.. Maybe once a week or every other week a gentleman opens his garage and starts singing.. It’s always during the day, not a great singer either, but he is happy..!
The songs are the oldies, I’m guessing from his youth. He is doing what makes him happy.. That is maybe why he retired to The Villages.. So while his singing is terrible, I sometimes take a glass of wine and go and sit on my lanai and listen anyway..
But that is just me.. we all have our triggers.. be it Wind Chimes, a barking dog, there will always be something...😊

[Velvet]

Noise pollution is noise pollution it makes people uncomfortable.... I have sound cancelling head phones, ear buds etc.

[karostay]

Sound of music beats the smell of Cuban Cigar

[Tennisbum]

Is he more annoying loud then 8 courts of pickleballers?

[NavyVet]

It is a common problem for amateur/wannabe 'musicians' to think they are better than they actually are. We deal with it all the time. LOL
That said, there is no illusion of privacy on lanais around here. All kinds of noise pollution abound. In fact, I can't even speak in a normal conversational tone outside without being constantly shushed by my spouse. He is so afraid somebody (anybody!) will hear whatever we are talking about. I have to whisper! Even with the pool waterfalls on to drown out noise, there is no laughing or having fun at our lanai. The neighbors might hear! We shush our dog if she barks, but he is not bothered by other barking dogs. Guess it helps to be hard of hearing. *shrugs*

[Velvet]

Lol, Navyvet, your post reminds me of my neighbor up north. She has two children one of them is hyperactive and loud. When they are in the garden and she notices that hubby and I are outside too and the little guy starts speaking in his usual loud voice, the mother who is a speech therapist, lowers her own voice to a whisper. The little guy whispers back “What?” And starts talking in a much quieter voice. She is teaching him to socialize appropriately at a young age. Many parents just give their child Ritalin the drug, to control the child’s behavior. But my neighbor was also a teacher, like myself.

[Norbifier]

Much better than my neighbor......................I can hear him fart.

What happens if the wind is blowing toward your house?:ohdear:

[Marathon Man]

Hmmm...interesting. What about consideration for privacy?

The buyer is 100% in control of selecting a house based on the level of privacy desired. The builder provides a variety of homes to choose from.

[nututv]

If the homes we're any closer they'd be 2 stories. Part of the hazards of owning lots whose free space could easily be measured in square inches.

[karostay]

What happens if the wind is blowing toward your house?:ohdear:

Much better than my neighbor......................I can hear him fart.

I though they banned Gone with the Wind

:1rotfl::1rotfl:

[wmcgowan]

We're new to Marsh Bend and have a neighbor who likes to sing. He heads out to his lanai at random hours (daylight luckily) and just starts belting out tunes. We wouldn't mind so much but unfortunately he's not on key very often and there's not even any background music (aka karaoke). Not trying to be mean but we'd like to enjoy our lanai without the 'serenade'. Appreciate others thoughts on how to manage this one !
1) join a church choir
2) record him then post on facebook to make him famous
3) point your speakers his way when he sings and play your music
4) ask him to stop - but nicely
5) have him sing on jamulus with headphones on the internet

[ALadysMom]

He had no clue people even noticed his singing and he was unaware it wasn't pleasant to hear if they did. He has stopped. He is embarrassed and humiliated. He will be outwardly polite to you, but he won't ever feel comfortable and confident around you. His wife said to him..."There is nothing wrong with your singing, don't let it bother you". Sometimes just overlooking minor things is the best thing to do. Unless you don't mind someone telling you that your butt crack shows when you are weeding.

Years ago, I enjoyed many work lunches at an awesome Mexican restaurant where the owner would belt out “God Bless America“ alongside his jukebox every day at noon. His lack of technical ability was part of the charm. Nice memories.

I’m sad to know that the singer feels badly. Aren’t there a few Village clubs for folks who enjoy singing? Some guys really enjoy barbershop quartets so maybe he would enjoy something like that if someone suggested it to him.

[paulat585]

record him and play it back for him to hear how he sounds
My experience with people who have a tin ear is that they cannot tell when a recording is off-key either.:)

[davem4616]

My experience with people who have a tin ear is that they cannot tell when a recording is off-key either.:)

"a tin ear"....I hadn't heard that expression in years

thanks for bringing a smile to my face

[Troopie]

I would take that singing any day over what we have been dealing with in LaBelle South. The neighbors behind us have made a habit of taking their loud arguments outside and in their lanai for all the nearby neighbors to hear. It must be catching on because we were even treated to a screaming match (complete with profanities) the neighbors beside them had outside a while ago. I wish people would be mindful of how close our houses are. This has definitely put a damper on enjoying my new home and recent retirement life-style.

[Velvet]

Some people with tin ears can tell if someone is off key. When my uncle was a young man he hired a gypsy band to serenade his fiancée. He asked my dad and a friend to join him in singing. So the band is playing and they are all singing. My dad stops singing because my uncle is really off key. Then the friend also stops singing. My uncle keeps singing by himself. A few verses later my uncle stops and asks, “Who is singing so terrible?”

A serenade is usually rewarded with a rose thrown from the balcony. It wasn’t a rose that was thrown at them that night.

[rustyp]

I'm having a tough time deciding which party is the bad neighbor. I appreciate annoying but I also appreciate my home is my castle. I tend to side with sing if you want to - you paid for it but you also need to observe quiet hours. There are many areas in TV that you have no control of noise level outside of quiet hours. I live on a championship golf course. The maintenance crews start at 5:00 AM - that's 3 hours before quiet hours start. It goes until 3:00 PM. Oh well I knew what I was buying into and by the way well worth it not to have kissing lanai's and a glorious view without looking into a neighbors yard.

[bpascani]

Everything was going well, and really nice....until here. Please ignore

[Spsmith444]

[QUOTE=maltieri;1786447]We're new to Marsh Bend and have a neighbor who likes to sing. He heads out to his lanai at random hours (daylight luckily) and just starts belting out tunes. We wouldn't mind so much but unfortunately he's not on key very often and there's not even any background music (aka karaoke). Not trying to be mean but we'd like to enjoy our lanai without the 'serenade'. Appreciate others thoughts on how to manage this one ![/QUOTE

I think I would Mention you enjoy reading in your Lanai and would appreciate it if he could turn the CD down a little. This should make him smile and get the message

[Paporter]

Update - had a quick chat with my good neighbor. Didn't realize that the sound carried so far. TV is certainly not the quiet zone but awesome to know we're all considerate of each other!

Excellent! Setting healthy boundaries, should be part of introduction to TV’s, since we live so close to each other and are home most of the day.

Keep in mind, “Some” neighbors social skills are as a mature as middle schoolers. It’s as if they never left junior high, with their cliques, cold shoulder exclusions, gossiping and being downright nosy and showing false concerns, only to have something to gossip about. Get to know your neighbors to establish healthy boundaries. We all have different personalities, socializing styles and culture backgrounds. Let’s embrace our differences and celebrate are similarities.

[Paporter]

I would take that singing any day over what we have been dealing with in LaBelle South. The neighbors behind us have made a habit of taking their loud arguments outside and in their lanai for all the nearby neighbors to hear. It must be catching on because we were even treated to a screaming match (complete with profanities) the neighbors beside them had outside a while ago. I wish people would be mindful of how close our houses are. This has definitely put a damper on enjoying my new home and recent retirement life-style.
I recommend, all affected, talk with of the shouting neighbors, to let them know, you can hear their disagreements and conversations. In some cultures, this is how couples communicate. They’re probably not even aware they’re being loud or even screaming.. healthy boundaries must be established, to because we live so close to each other.

[J1ceasar]

Honesty is the best policy .

[smacquart]

First, this is hilarious; second, I feel your pain!!!
Hope you can resolve this.

[LG999]

Maybe you could try to enjoy the fact the someone is happy. Ever think of joining in? “Managing” someone else’s joy seems pretty dark.

[graciegirl]

One thing about living here for any amount of time, a lot of us begin to lose our hearing.

Also, do you remember when it was considered o.k. to whistle while you work?

Oh sorry. That is another subject.

It was so lovely yesterday with a good breeze and I was working in the yard that I felt like singing "Zippity doo dah, Zippity A...My oh my what a beautiful day........

But then I remembered it is offensive on all kinds of levels.

AND the very first thing my little grandson said when he could speak clearly and I was singing him a lullaby was.............."No sing, Gran".

We humans. We just are always bumbling around...being happy.

[Linda Taranto]

Wonderful! That is always my way of handling things. As long as you speak without anger people are usually receptive!
I'm happy that you were able to resolve this.

[Scorpyo]

I must sing pretty good because I never hear anyone complain. :clap2:
Steve
Either that or your big NRA sign in your window. :1rotfl:

[Scorpyo]

Take out your radio, and blast it every time this inconsiderable jerk sings. He’ll eventually get the hint, if not you start singing even louder OFF KEY.
Now, now don't be so insulting. He's not an inconsiderate jerk - he's probably only an ignorant jerk. Probably doesn't even realize he really sucks at singing and also doesn't realize others can hear his really sucky singing. He's probably only an ignorant moron. See, you don't have to be insulting.

[Bethwill]

record him and play it back for him to hear how he sounds

Great Idea. I used to record my son throwing temper tantrums when he was in Junior High, and he would finally shut up when he realized we (sibling and I) were listening to him and laughing. It worked well!

[Scorpyo]

Okay let me put aside my jokes for a moment (hard to do) and discuss this realistically. First of all, you get what you pay for. Why do people move to the Villages? Let’s look at some pros and cons: Pros: Weather, no state income tax, Golf, Pickleball, Tennis, Softball, Water Volleyball, dancing, entertainment, restaurants, over 2,000 clubs and many other reasons. Cons: Noisy neighbor. Houses here are built close together. Why? Because you make more money selling 10 houses at $300k than 1 house for $1 million. Two screened in lanais facing each other would be like two driveways facing each other. Not much in the way of soundproofing or privacy. So we paid to get thousands of pros and very little cons. If privacy and lack of noise was your only consideration then you would have built a log cabin in the Georgia Mountains. Okay, the noise really bothers you. No, I’m not going to say move. Do what I do. I have over 10,000 songs on my computer. I have a nice Bose Bluetooth speaker. When I’m on my lanai I play music that I like. If I needed to drown out sound while I’m reading I can always put on my Bose noise cancelling headphones. Unless you stay in your lanai for extremely long periods and the neighbor is singing during that entire time, you should be able to endure it. Other suggestions like first getting to know your neighbor instead of flying off the handle are very reassuring. When I’m watching TV and wife starts vacuuming I turn up the volume significantly. I would warn against this as it can have unintended consequences. You know what I mean. Sorry couldn’t avoid the humor entirely.

[Marathon Man]

Take out your radio, and blast it every time this inconsiderable jerk sings. He’ll eventually get the hint, if not you start singing even louder OFF KEY.

WOW!!! I'll take a singing neighbor over someone who thinks like this.

[graciegirl]

WOW!!! I'll take a singing neighbor over someone who thinks like this.

Me too. Here is how I would sing if I could sing............and what I would sing if I could sing........Most of us miss being close to a lot of dear people we know and miss right now.

Karen Carpenter - The Carpenters - Close to You - YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=woKKnEn8h9w)

[Sherry8bal]

Update - had a quick chat with my good neighbor. Didn't realize that the sound carried so far. TV is certainly not the quiet zone but awesome to know we're all considerate of each other!


Glad you had a nice talk to him. Most people here are cool about things like this but you could have always just started singing along with him and then you would only hear yourself!!!