Contemplating a move to The Villages

[NYNative55]

I have family members who live in TV, & as I near retirement it’s an affordable option for me as well.

As a single gay man, I wonder whether it’s a good fit for me. I know there’s an active, officially sanctioned gay Resident Lifestyle group, but I’d still be in the minority in TV. I’ve visited a number of times, but it’s not easy to gauge what it would be like for me to live there.

I’m fit & active & know there are any number of activities that might appeal to someone who’s friendly, but an introvert, who just wants to live a peaceful, quiet life. I’ve been very fortunate throughout my life, & not experienced overt or discriminatory homophobia or a fear of living my life openly. Now is not the time for that to change.

I was reluctant to post this & generally avoid posting to forums or any form of social media, since threads can quickly turn negative. However, this is such an important decision, I feel compelled to try. I look forward to, & appreciate your honest, thoughtful comments. Thank you.

[davem4616]

I truly believe that you would enjoy life in TV. We're a straight couple, have been here 3+ years now and haven't come across many 'judgmental' people, most folks seem to be secure in who they are, are looking to enjoy life and are sociable toward one another.

The new lofts in Brownwood may give you a rental option vs. immediately buying...nothing like a 6 month test drive to really check it out....just a thought.

[LuvtheVillages]

I truly believe that you would enjoy life in TV. We're a straight couple, have been here 3+ years now and haven't come across many 'judgmental' people, most folks seem to be secure in who they are, are looking to enjoy life and are sociable toward one another.

The new lofts in Brownwood may give you a rental option vs. immediately buying...nothing like a 6 month test drive to really check it out....just a thought.

Just a thought


Renting before buying is an excellent suggestion. It will give you a longer opportunity to gauge for yourself how you will fit in. I think you will find it to be a good fit.

However, the Lofts at Brownwood require a 1 year lease. Look into renting a home.

[charlieo1126@gmail.com]

I know some gay people here , some are out and very open about it and some that don’t hide from it but don’t advertise. You might even have a lot les problems then I do as a str8 man , you see I’m a democrat and I left of center one lol . So come on down you’ll enjoy the villages and there is a home price level for everyone and a social life to find for you

[Stu from NYC]

New here and know nothing about gay life here but would rent for a period of time before deciding it is the place for you.

We rented for a month and happy living here for past 7 months but sorry we did not rent for longer period of time to better guide us in size of house we bought.

Should have bought larger house. As a result will be converting lanai to Florida room for more space.

[mamamia54]

I think you should do fine. We are all here to just enjoy a good life that we worked for. Last time I checked God didn’t appoint me judge of others, lol!

[John41]

We have gay friends who enjoyed living here but found most of the gay social clubs were for lesbians not gay men so much. Most people here don’t care if you are gay and will include you in their social activities. However there are a few intolerant people so you want to check out the area by renting first.

[Gonavy]

haters are going to hate...come on down....there are enough gays here...you won't even notice the mean muggers.

[Boomer]

I have family members who live in TV, & as I near retirement it’s an affordable option for me as well.

As a single gay man, I wonder whether it’s a good fit for me. I know there’s an active, officially sanctioned gay Resident Lifestyle group, but I’d still be in the minority in TV. I’ve visited a number of times, but it’s not easy to gauge what it would be like for me to live there.

I’m fit & active & know there are any number of activities that might appeal to someone who’s friendly, but an introvert, who just wants to live a peaceful, quiet life. I’ve been very fortunate throughout my life, & not experienced overt or discriminatory homophobia or a fear of living my life openly. Now is not the time for that to change.

I was reluctant to post this & generally avoid posting to forums or any form of social media, since threads can quickly turn negative. However, this is such an important decision, I feel compelled to try. I look forward to, & appreciate your honest, thoughtful comments. Thank you.


Hi NYNative55,

I have a suggestion for you that might help you find more specific information. We all need community, and The Villages is so big that sometimes it can take a while for anyone new to the place to find a sense of belonging. But that can be the case with any move.

You have asked a question that is close to my heart so I want to try to help you.

I think you might be able to find out some of the things you want to know by contacting the United Church of Christ at The Villages. The church is located on CR 101, just outside TV, in Oxford, FL.

On their website, there is a section titled, "Our Faith Is 2000 Years old. Our Thinking Is Not."

No matter what your religious background might be, or whether or not you have one, or even want one, I feel certain that you can find some guidance for life in TV for the gay community if you contact this church and perhaps have a talk with the pastor. Reading through their website will help you to decide if you want to do that.

The United Church of Christ has roots that go back a long way -- to the Congregational Church, which was widely established in the Plymouth Colony. Through a merger in the late 1950s, the Congregational Church became the United Church of Christ.

As has occurred in many Protestant, mainline denominations during the end of the last century and into this one, controversary has caused some congregations to split over gay rights. I guess you could say the United Church of Christ went through a stage where they became the Untied Church of Christ.

Now, the United Church of Christ uses a designation (ONA) meaning "Open and Affirming" for congregations, campus ministries, and other bodies of the UCC which make a public covenant of welcome into their full life and ministry to persons of all sexual orientation, gender identities, and gender expressions.

Not all UCC congregations have that designation, but the one in TV does. There is a section "Are You New to UCC?" on their website that can tell you more about the denomination, and the website overall will give you a lot of information about the local congregation.

(I grew up in the United Church of Christ. But now we are Episcopalians. We went through a long Lutheran phase (ELCA) but when this issue reared its ugly head in our congregation up north, we left. I guess we Protestants are not known as Protestants for nothing. The range of Protestant denominations encompasses just that -- a range. Ever since 500 years ago, when Martin Luther nailed that stuff to the church door, Protestants have been finding their individual ways.)

Please understand that I am not trying to "sign you up" for some church. What I am trying to do is to help you to figure out where to learn more about what you need to know before making the big decision about where to retire.

Love is love. :) And here's your link:

United Church of Christ at The villages - Home (https://uccatv.weebly.com/)

Boomer

[Halibut]

Have your family members been able to offer any advice? They know you and what The Villages has to offer.

I'm sure the various singles clubs would welcome you for friendship and group activities, should you so desire.

You'd need to leave The Villages for any dedicated gay nightlife, but Orlando isn't too far. If your general preference is for quieter activities and internal contentment, then this could be as good a place as any.

As for any possible prejudice, I highly doubt people would say something rude to your face any more than they would where you live now.

But certainly try before you buy! That goes for everybody.

[guppyvii]

Welcome!! Someone posted this link in a Villages facebook group today. The group has over 2000 member both LGBTQ and family/friends. The events are limited due to covid.
Rainbow Family - Home (http://www.rainbowfamilyvillagesfl.com/)

[Rwirish]

Great place to live other then being too big and crowded.

[Colby]

I sincerely believe you would be able to find the peaceful life you envision here. My husband and I know and have socialized with 4 couples and 1 single woman in our Village alone and being gay has just been a non factor in all aspects of what the Villages offers. I hope you’ll come and see for yourself.

[drgoofy]

My wife (also a woman) and I moved here about 2 years ago. We don't hide, but aren't "in your face" either. Our social interactions pre Covid included mainly card groups and pickleball. We are happy here and have faced no overt discrimination. Most everyone is very nice and friendly. Your relatives hopefully can help introduce you to others who are non judgemental. I have always felt that's the best I can hope for. We have a few gay friends but not too many. We have straight friends who have embraced us and for that we are very thankful. After Covid we look forward to making more connections. I don't wish to get political, but if you join the Democrat group, you will easily encounter plenty of welcoming people. If you enjoy The Villages lifestyle in general, you should be happy here. Renting is a good idea; however, we bought a house during our one week Lifestyle visit. Best wishes.

[Robyn1963]

I can’t speak for specific groups because I am accepting of everyone so I do not notice if you are gay or straight etc.

I can tell you from my experience I am a single woman and most residents in the villages are couples, and many widowed individuals.

I believe you would be accepted in any community here in The Villages. There are so many activities and if you like to be active in sporting events this is the place to be you will not be disappointed.

I and a Realtor. Let me know if I can help

[Kahiland]

I would also look to rent. Being gay here is less dangerous than being a Democrat, like me! I would recommend anybody rent or do a "stay and play" trial, regarless if sexual orientation. Good luck!!!!!!

[Bridget Staunton]

I have family members who live in TV, & as I near retirement it’s an affordable option for me as well.

As a single gay man, I wonder whether it’s a good fit for me. I know there’s an active, officially sanctioned gay Resident Lifestyle group, but I’d still be in the minority in TV. I’ve visited a number of times, but it’s not easy to gauge what it would be like for me to live there.

I’m fit & active & know there are any number of activities that might appeal to someone who’s friendly, but an introvert, who just wants to live a peaceful, quiet life. I’ve been very fortunate throughout my life, & not experienced overt or discriminatory homophobia or a fear of living my life openly. Now is not the time for that to change.

I was reluctant to post this & generally avoid posting to forums or any form of social media, since threads can quickly turn negative. However, this is such an important decision, I feel compelled to try. I look forward to, & appreciate your honest, thoughtful comments. Thank you.

I and my husband welcome you and would enjoy you as our neighbor. We find our gay friends are very intelligent, courteous, and just nice people. We absolutely welcome you, we are all Gods children

[Gunny2403]

Lofts require a one year lease.

[LoisR]

Welcome. Enjoy.

[Ladays1978@gmail.com]

Why not rent a home for a year and find out if you do in fact feel comfortable living g this life style.

[spktrue14]

Hi. I posted that link and thanks for sharing. There are many gay people here - more lesbians than gay men, but a good amount of gay men. Very safe her and I came from Philly. Come on down - you will love it here. I would definitely go to bonifay in Thursday evenings just to meet some people.

[MandoMan]

I have family members who live in TV, & as I near retirement it’s an affordable option for me as well.

As a single gay man, I wonder whether it’s a good fit for me. I know there’s an active, officially sanctioned gay Resident Lifestyle group, but I’d still be in the minority in TV. I’ve visited a number of times, but it’s not easy to gauge what it would be like for me to live there.

I’m fit & active & know there are any number of activities that might appeal to someone who’s friendly, but an introvert, who just wants to live a peaceful, quiet life. I’ve been very fortunate throughout my life, & not experienced overt or discriminatory homophobia or a fear of living my life openly. Now is not the time for that to change.

I was reluctant to post this & generally avoid posting to forums or any form of social media, since threads can quickly turn negative. However, this is such an important decision, I feel compelled to try. I look forward to, & appreciate your honest, thoughtful comments. Thank you.

I talked with a gay villager once before I bought a house here who told me that his village has a very large percentage of gays and lesbians. He says it is extra nice because he has so many friends living within a block. Unfortunately, I didn’t ask him which village it was, or I’d tell you. I was talking with another gay villager from south of Lake Sumter who has never heard of this. So, I would recommend that you contact the leaders of the gay groups here and see if you can find out which village it is, then try to find a place there.

I think you’d find friends anywhere, but how much nicer to find fifty friends who match your affinity group within a couple hundred yards of your home.

As for me, I love to play Swing music and Brazilian Choro music (thus my handle) and Bossa Nova on my mandolin and guitar. So far as I know, there is no village for that, nor even anyone but me who plays that music. O Solo Mio!

[ts12755]

The villages is very welcoming to LGBT. They Are on the square dancing in the restaurants in the lounges and we all get along just fine. Of course I'm sure we have a few bad apples here. Just like you have bad apples being judges, police officers, doctors, and politicians. But from what I see you would be welcome here and fit in just fine.

[meridian5850]

I truly believe that you would enjoy life in TV. We're a straight couple, have been here 3+ years now and haven't come across many 'judgmental' people, most folks seem to be secure in who they are, are looking to enjoy life and are sociable toward one another.

The new lofts in Brownwood may give you a rental option vs. immediately buying...nothing like a 6 month test drive to really check it out....just a thought.


The Lofts require a 1 year lease.

[Joe Sacco]

Come on down and be my neighbor! Pursue you passions and enjoy the lifestyle!

[bpascani]

We were unsure as well, even after doing the Lifestyle thing, so we rented for 6.5 months, with month to month extension with 60 days notice. '

[Out&Proud]

Thanks for writing into Talk of The Villages. My wife and I started the Rainbow Family & Friends Club, a sanctioned lifestyle Village's club, over 15 years ago. It has been primarily Lesbians over the years due to the attraction of all the sports activities here. However, in recent years we have been pleased to welcome more and more Gay men. We have lived her for over 18 years and have never had a problem being "out". We do suggest that you rent first until you are comfortable knowing that TV is for you. Visit our website for all the local LGBTQ+ activities listed on our calendar. Once Covid-19 has subsided we invite you to join us as our activites resume. Rainbow Family - Home (http://www.rainbowfamilyvillagesfl.com) :welcome:

[newgirl]

I would love for you to be my neighbor!! Or friend!

[Ralpha]

My partner and I live in The Villages; we are very happy Living here. We live our lives openly and have experienced very little Discrimination. Our neighborhood has been very welcoming.

[BRAD HOFFMAN]

I have family members who live in TV, & as I near retirement it’s an affordable option for me as well.

As a single gay man, I wonder whether it’s a good fit for me. I know there’s an active, officially sanctioned gay Resident Lifestyle group, but I’d still be in the minority in TV. I’ve visited a number of times, but it’s not easy to gauge what it would be like for me to live there.

I’m fit & active & know there are any number of activities that might appeal to someone who’s friendly, but an introvert, who just wants to live a peaceful, quiet life. I’ve been very fortunate throughout my life, & not experienced overt or discriminatory homophobia or a fear of living my life openly. Now is not the time for that to change.

I was reluctant to post this & generally avoid posting to forums or any form of social media, since threads can quickly turn negative. However, this is such an important decision, I feel compelled to try. I look forward to, & appreciate your honest, thoughtful comments. Thank you.
Gay people have been around since the beginning of man - when I was young we used to make fun and joke but not real hurtfully as we knew some folks are just wired different. Today and especially with older retired people my opinion is for most it is no issue and accepted but most are uncomfortable about in the open and out - you know affection between two men in a sexual nature.

[CrabCake]

You say "I know there’s an active, officially sanctioned gay Resident Lifestyle group", have you visited and talked with anyone in that group? I'd think that would be a good place to start. Although looking at the responses you've received on this forum, everyone seems very friendly. I should say, I don't live here (yet), but I'm a librarian and we love helping people find the information they need. Good luck!

[chrissy2231]

There is a club group and they have a blast. I can introduce you to someone nice.

[jimjamuser]

We have gay friends who enjoyed living here but found most of the gay social clubs were for lesbians not gay men so much. Most people here don’t care if you are gay and will include you in their social activities. However there are a few intolerant people so you want to check out the area by renting first.
This is the intolerance capital of America. Come here as a last resort.

[Byte1]

This is the intolerance capital of America. Come here as a last resort.

I guess there are some folks that will feel some "intolerance" if no one agrees with them on their views. There are some folks that will not be happy regardless of where they reside.

[lmrk32]

I have visited the Villages and have been considering retiring there so I have been following the posts closely now just to get a feel for mind set of this community.

I must ask....why is everyone so nasty? Why do people feel so entitled to attack others who dare to have a different opinion? It is fine to disagree, as we all have a right to state our opinion, but why must it be in such a vicious way?

It is such a turn-off.
I am a born and bred NYer so I am fluent in sarcasm but this degree of nastiness is offensive even to me.

I am interested in the new apartments because I am a woman alone and do not want the trouble of keeping up a house.
I am not white trash. I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school.
I have a healthy income and retirement fund.
So, I might actually be an asset to your community.....I will not bring you down just because I live in an apartment.
But if I am going to be made to feel like crap simply because I chose to live in an apartment....I really don't need that! I will be retired. I want to enjoy!!!! Not listen to bitterness and prejudice.

So, if any of you now want to make a snarky remark because "I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school" or because "I am a woman alone" or because of anything else you would like to pick out of this post and ridicule, just save it.....I am not interested in such ignorance.

You are in a playland. Go out and enjoy instead of sitting home and ruminating over trivial things and then spewing venom

[billethkid]

I have visited the Villages and have been considering retiring there so I have been following the posts closely now just to get a feel for mind set of this community.

I must ask....why is everyone so nasty? Why do people feel so entitled to attack others who dare to have a different opinion? It is fine to disagree, as we all have a right to state our opinion, but why must it be in such a vicious way?

It is such a turn-off.
I am a born and bred NYer so I am fluent in sarcasm but this degree of nastiness is offensive even to me.

I am interested in the new apartments because I am a woman alone and do not want the trouble of keeping up a house.
I am not white trash. I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school.
I have a healthy income and retirement fund.
So, I might actually be an asset to your community.....I will not bring you down just because I live in an apartment.
But if I am going to be made to feel like crap simply because I chose to live in an apartment....I really don't need that! I will be retired. I want to enjoy!!!! Not listen to bitterness and prejudice.

So, if any of you now want to make a snarky remark because "I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school" or because "I am a woman alone" or because of anything else you would like to pick out of this post and ridicule, just save it.....I am not interested in such ignorance.

You are in a playland. Go out and enjoy instead of sitting home and ruminating over trivial things and then spewing venom

The so called "posts" here most certainly do not represent the mindset of the community.
The responses here are a minimal percent presence of the TOTV membership. As a percent of the total Villages the response percentage gets lost in the rounding.

[Stu from NYC]

I have visited the Villages and have been considering retiring there so I have been following the posts closely now just to get a feel for mind set of this community.

I must ask....why is everyone so nasty? Why do people feel so entitled to attack others who dare to have a different opinion? It is fine to disagree, as we all have a right to state our opinion, but why must it be in such a vicious way?

It is such a turn-off.
I am a born and bred NYer so I am fluent in sarcasm but this degree of nastiness is offensive even to me.

I am interested in the new apartments because I am a woman alone and do not want the trouble of keeping up a house.
I am not white trash. I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school.
I have a healthy income and retirement fund.
So, I might actually be an asset to your community.....I will not bring you down just because I live in an apartment.
But if I am going to be made to feel like crap simply because I chose to live in an apartment....I really don't need that! I will be retired. I want to enjoy!!!! Not listen to bitterness and prejudice.

So, if any of you now want to make a snarky remark because "I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school" or because "I am a woman alone" or because of anything else you would like to pick out of this post and ridicule, just save it.....I am not interested in such ignorance.

You are in a playland. Go out and enjoy instead of sitting home and ruminating over trivial things and then spewing venom

We are new here and find people generally to be very nice and friendly. Walk to the local mailboxes most morning and almost everyone will say hello. Do get a few who keep their eyes face forward afraid of talking to others but a small minority.

People do get steamed up about certain subjects but easier to do so while hiding behind a keyboard.

Most of us are spending much more time at home due to the virus and have more time to exchange points of view on here.

Welcome to the Villages.

[Hospes444]

I believe you will love it here!! So many friendly and
non judgemental folks. Friends come easy, and of course there are so many activities...even with COVID
You might find some nice furnished long term rentals on Villagershomes4rent.com
Makes it easy to find a home in the location you want
That's how we found our home.
Hope your decision will be an easy one, once you arrive here:coolsmiley:

[PugMom]

just come on down! there are so many different kinds of people here, i can't see where there would be a problem. we've been here going on 3 years & only 1 time did i meet a person who was off-putting. we were also @ the square & everyone was drinking, so that could be it, lol, but you will find a good time, easy living, and I'm 1 of the friendly people you see @ the mailbox or rec center. we'd love to meet you, --most of us don't judge anything btw, we're more focused on being positive & getting along. It doesn't cost a dime to be nice to people. :coolsmiley:

[La lamy]

I have visited the Villages and have been considering retiring there so I have been following the posts closely now just to get a feel for mind set of this community.

I must ask....why is everyone so nasty? Why do people feel so entitled to attack others who dare to have a different opinion? It is fine to disagree, as we all have a right to state our opinion, but why must it be in such a vicious way?

It is such a turn-off.
I am a born and bred NYer so I am fluent in sarcasm but this degree of nastiness is offensive even to me.

I am interested in the new apartments because I am a woman alone and do not want the trouble of keeping up a house.
I am not white trash. I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school.
I have a healthy income and retirement fund.
So, I might actually be an asset to your community.....I will not bring you down just because I live in an apartment.
But if I am going to be made to feel like crap simply because I chose to live in an apartment....I really don't need that! I will be retired. I want to enjoy!!!! Not listen to bitterness and prejudice.

So, if any of you now want to make a snarky remark because "I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school" or because "I am a woman alone" or because of anything else you would like to pick out of this post and ridicule, just save it.....I am not interested in such ignorance.

You are in a playland. Go out and enjoy instead of sitting home and ruminating over trivial things and then spewing venom

Well said!! Many here seem to fit the "grumpy old person" stigma. May we all have enough serotonin to stay happy and civil. :pray:

[La lamy]

Thrilled to see 3 pages of welcoming people. I too would welcome you with zero judgement.

[Holpat39]

All are welcome here in The Villages. No discrimination that I have ever witnessed. Come and enjoy the villages life style.

[Jayhawk]

I guess there are some folks that will feel some "intolerance" if no one agrees with them on their views. There are some folks that will not be happy regardless of where they reside.

Some are only happy when they are miserable and trying to make others miserable.

[KRM0614]

Look at the Atlanta area which is where I’m going they have a thriving gay community so much to do. Part of the reason I’m going is this place is too expensive and not friendly at all. Taxes up 25% house bond 30% amenity monthly 200-240 and for what ? It’s not as easy as you think to do things here and everything you do costs money. To find out how the place works and they do a terrible job of that is a real estate newspaper called the Sun. The heat is unbearable and it costs a lot to maintain your house, cable WiFi,food, gas it’s very expensive here as are utilities.

In GA the day you get move in your homestead starts and they have seasons.

[Sherry8bal]

I have family members who live in TV, & as I near retirement it’s an affordable option for me as well.

As a single gay man, I wonder whether it’s a good fit for me. I know there’s an active, officially sanctioned gay Resident Lifestyle group, but I’d still be in the minority in TV. I’ve visited a number of times, but it’s not easy to gauge what it would be like for me to live there.

I’m fit & active & know there are any number of activities that might appeal to someone who’s friendly, but an introvert, who just wants to live a peaceful, quiet life. I’ve been very fortunate throughout my life, & not experienced overt or discriminatory homophobia or a fear of living my life openly. Now is not the time for that to change.

I was reluctant to post this & generally avoid posting to forums or any form of social media, since threads can quickly turn negative. However, this is such an important decision, I feel compelled to try. I look forward to, & appreciate your honest, thoughtful comments. Thank you.

YOU'LL BE SORRY!! It's not everything you see advertised about it.

[ithos]

I have visited the Villages and have been considering retiring there so I have been following the posts closely now just to get a feel for mind set of this community.

I must ask....why is everyone so nasty? Why do people feel so entitled to attack others who dare to have a different opinion? It is fine to disagree, as we all have a right to state our opinion, but why must it be in such a vicious way?

It is such a turn-off.
I am a born and bred NYer so I am fluent in sarcasm but this degree of nastiness is offensive even to me.

I am interested in the new apartments because I am a woman alone and do not want the trouble of keeping up a house.
I am not white trash. I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school.
I have a healthy income and retirement fund.
So, I might actually be an asset to your community.....I will not bring you down just because I live in an apartment.
But if I am going to be made to feel like crap simply because I chose to live in an apartment....I really don't need that! I will be retired. I want to enjoy!!!! Not listen to bitterness and prejudice.

So, if any of you now want to make a snarky remark because "I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school" or because "I am a woman alone" or because of anything else you would like to pick out of this post and ridicule, just save it.....I am not interested in such ignorance.

You are in a playland. Go out and enjoy instead of sitting home and ruminating over trivial things and then spewing venom

I don't think you are going to get a very accurate perspective based on the tiny percent of people who post on this forum.

The new apartments in Brownwood would be a great place to live and very reasonable considering of all the shops, restaurants and entertainment with in walking distance. The Villages is a very friendly place where most everyone minds their own business. If you hit the town squares once things fully reopen then you will get a much better idea what most people are like.

[yankygrl]

I have family members who live in TV, & as I near retirement it’s an affordable option for me as well.

As a single gay man, I wonder whether it’s a good fit for me. I know there’s an active, officially sanctioned gay Resident Lifestyle group, but I’d still be in the minority in TV. I’ve visited a number of times, but it’s not easy to gauge what it would be like for me to live there.

I’m fit & active & know there are any number of activities that might appeal to someone who’s friendly, but an introvert, who just wants to live a peaceful, quiet life. I’ve been very fortunate throughout my life, & not experienced overt or discriminatory homophobia or a fear of living my life openly. Now is not the time for that to change.

I was reluctant to post this & generally avoid posting to forums or any form of social media, since threads can quickly turn negative. However, this is such an important decision, I feel compelled to try. I look forward to, & appreciate your honest, thoughtful comments. Thank you.
While I don’t push the lifestyles program because they try to sell you things ur may not be interested in, it is a good way to see what it’s all about. Other option is to rent for a few weeks or month prior to making up ur mind. As others have said, it’s a bit different right now due to COVID but for the most part things are opening up so you can enjoy the lifestyle. I’ve lived here10 years and enjoy everything that I wish too.

[Marshaw]

One thing is for sure. No need to be concerned regarding the temperament of the responses. I find them all heart felt. You have been here several times you said. You have family that lives here yet you seem to ha reservations. they are 130,000 people who presently live here. The sell 300 houses a month. So it will to grow and with that comes more diversity. Not being gay I have no info for you to ease your concerns. I never hear anything about his only lesbians. The villages have a very large presence her Republican I'm sure is by large the predominant political party. Those two demographic group that are 56 and over I wouldn't think that would represent the best potential groups for you to live in harmony. No judgement I suggest renting for a year. If TV comes up as a bad place for you, you will have time maybe to find your happy place.

[jimjamuser]

I guess there are some folks that will feel some "intolerance" if no one agrees with them on their views. There are some folks that will not be happy regardless of where they reside.
I guess.

[NYNative55]

Thank you all for your thoughts & suggestions. I find it encouraging & very helpful. If circumstances permit, I’d like to make a lengthier visit in the fall & get a better feel for the community. My family has been supportive & have encouraged me to consider TV. Truthfully, after my visit last December, I began looking at properties remotely with their help. It quickly became apparent though, that relying on them to go to open houses, make appointments to view listings & reporting back to me, was putting an unnecessary burden on them (& stress on me). Added to that was my concern about it being the right place for me. All in all, it wasn’t the most ideal situation, so I put a purchase on hold. Given what’s happened this year it was probably the right decision.

My original plan was to work a few more years, and I didn’t feel the need to rush into anything. I’m working remotely & very fortunate to still be employed, however these last 6 months have made me reevaluate my original timeline. There’s so much to consider & plan for, that it’s good to know there’s a supportive community & it’s one less thing to worry about. Thank you again.

[jimjamuser]

I have visited the Villages and have been considering retiring there so I have been following the posts closely now just to get a feel for mind set of this community.

I must ask....why is everyone so nasty? Why do people feel so entitled to attack others who dare to have a different opinion? It is fine to disagree, as we all have a right to state our opinion, but why must it be in such a vicious way?

It is such a turn-off.
I am a born and bred NYer so I am fluent in sarcasm but this degree of nastiness is offensive even to me.

I am interested in the new apartments because I am a woman alone and do not want the trouble of keeping up a house.
I am not white trash. I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school.
I have a healthy income and retirement fund.
So, I might actually be an asset to your community.....I will not bring you down just because I live in an apartment.
But if I am going to be made to feel like crap simply because I chose to live in an apartment....I really don't need that! I will be retired. I want to enjoy!!!! Not listen to bitterness and prejudice.

So, if any of you now want to make a snarky remark because "I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school" or because "I am a woman alone" or because of anything else you would like to pick out of this post and ridicule, just save it.....I am not interested in such ignorance.

You are in a playland. Go out and enjoy instead of sitting home and ruminating over trivial things and then spewing venom
Not snarky remarks just because someone lives, or wants to, live in an apartment. Best advice is to rent for 6 months and then buy. This was a playground BCV (before CoronaVirus). Now ACV it has changed just like the larger world and the US in particular has changed. It is now a shadow of its former self. Sounds like you would be an asset to the community.

[FromNY]

You may have more issues being from New York then being gay. Renting is always a good idea. Gives you time to spend your money wisely. Tampa and Orlando and Ocala have a verity of Gay groups. If you are looking for nightlife activities. If you are looking to live life and enjoy The Villages definitely has much to offer. Best wishes as you make life transitions.

[Ladygolfer93]

Well, I'm not single and not gay, so maybe my opinion is not as broad based as you would like. But, IMO it was a non issue for many many years. I hope it still is but, the whole atmosphere of kind, accepting, people from all walks of life (original slogan was: where any man can retire like a king) has changed, as things do of course. People have become much more judgmental, more like the stereo typical "retirement" community with too many people with nothing to do but tend to the business of others. On the other hand, that does not mean that everything has changed for the worst, chances are you would not experience any kind of, shall we call it "discrimination" ? Not that it could not happen, but then,
as long as you know how a few people are no matter where you go. We have people here who are very offended by Christians and do not want them to have any visible symbols of their belief, there are those offended by small animal statures in gardens ! But all in all, I think while possible that you could be hurt or offended at something, such as lack of an invitation or a seeming slight of some kind, I still think it would be rare and that most people would be much more concerned about you as a good and kind neighbor and a decent caring human being. It always goes both ways of course, again only in my observation over quite a few years now, but I have never heard or observed that the gay community here is exclusive or unwelcoming to non gay people either. If it is at all possible (I'd tell the very same thing to anyone, gay or straight) rent for at least 6 months and one year if at all financially possible. It is the only way you can personally get a feel for the whole community and detect (if any ?) unkind or unaccepting attitudes. The sister of one of my closest college friends moved here with her partner and they have a large circle of couples both gay and straight that all play golf, bocci, cruise, kayak and have a fair number of neighborhood parties with all the time. Rent, that's my best suggestion, get acquainted with people, join some groups, make sure, don't want to spend retirement in an unfriendly place or with narrow minded people !

[Ladygolfer93]

I have visited the Villages and have been considering retiring there so I have been following the posts closely now just to get a feel for mind set of this community.

I must ask....why is everyone so nasty? Why do people feel so entitled to attack others who dare to have a different opinion? It is fine to disagree, as we all have a right to state our opinion, but why must it be in such a vicious way?

It is such a turn-off.
I am a born and bred NYer so I am fluent in sarcasm but this degree of nastiness is offensive even to me.

I am interested in the new apartments because I am a woman alone and do not want the trouble of keeping up a house.
I am not white trash. I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school.
I have a healthy income and retirement fund.
So, I might actually be an asset to your community.....I will not bring you down just because I live in an apartment.
But if I am going to be made to feel like crap simply because I chose to live in an apartment....I really don't need that! I will be retired. I want to enjoy!!!! Not listen to bitterness and prejudice.

So, if any of you now want to make a snarky remark because "I have an advanced degree from an Ivy League school" or because "I am a woman alone" or because of anything else you would like to pick out of this post and ridicule, just save it.....I am not interested in such ignorance.

You are in a playland. Go out and enjoy instead of sitting home and ruminating over trivial things and then spewing venom

I understand and share your observations.... somewhat. But, I have been here for many years (was still working at the time and since I was considering building a house here, I rented and that convinced me to buy at lot and build. Things have changed over the years, but, be aware.... a LOT of the people who post here use some shocking terms and sometimes I think that it is a "hobby" for them. Of course we have lost a great deal of that "little home town feeling", and the virus, together with the most controversial political atmosphere I have EVER experienced in all these years, have done a lot to destroy the atmosphere we enjoyed for so many years. Also, having a single family actually "owning" a town, a community, is not always a good thing. There is no mayor, no councilmen, and as the population becomes more diverse, you are going to see things on this that you would never had seen years ago. When TOTV began, it was a way we all HELPED each other by sharing really valuable info. But, again, things change, the website itself changed, became very commercial, you'll begin to recognize those who enjoy name calling, or just stirring controversy, as well as those genuinely concerned about the kinds of things that are indeed causing a lack of life quality but producing a much greater profit. The Virus has also made a huge difference. While some in my neighborhood have really pulled together to support each other, check on each other, encourage each other, others have shockingly seemed to be self appointed "virus police" , or trolls as some call them. Also the attitudes of some, certainly not all, have become either very fearful for their personal safety and health, or, very suspicious of others. It's not a pretty picture, but, know that while there are some VERY nasty things on here, the people who dominate that are definitely in the minority... and pretty much tend to be the ones whose whole life is posting on TOTV... don't read too much into it, but yes, it does exist to a much greater degree than it once did.

[graciegirl]

I have family members who live in TV, & as I near retirement it’s an affordable option for me as well.

As a single gay man, I wonder whether it’s a good fit for me. I know there’s an active, officially sanctioned gay Resident Lifestyle group, but I’d still be in the minority in TV. I’ve visited a number of times, but it’s not easy to gauge what it would be like for me to live there.

I’m fit & active & know there are any number of activities that might appeal to someone who’s friendly, but an introvert, who just wants to live a peaceful, quiet life. I’ve been very fortunate throughout my life, & not experienced overt or discriminatory homophobia or a fear of living my life openly. Now is not the time for that to change.

I was reluctant to post this & generally avoid posting to forums or any form of social media, since threads can quickly turn negative. However, this is such an important decision, I feel compelled to try. I look forward to, & appreciate your honest, thoughtful comments. Thank you.

If you are 55 that makes you generally younger than most people here. As for your being gay, I think the same problems will face you as you would face anywhere. There is a lot of "geographic" difference in attitude here in TV. Many find people from the Upper Midwest almost unbearably nice. (I happen to like that) Some find people from NYC very outspoken. Some find Southerners artificially sweet. We personally have one male gay friend and 16 gay women friends who live here. All of the gay people I know personally vote differently from the majority of people in The Villages. I have always wondered WHY?? I have had two women friends who are gay move to Tampa.

I love it here. I think anyone would but I am me. We all are who we are. I hope you find a wonderful rest of your life wherever you decide to live.

(There are a lot of very conservative Christians who live here who believe homosexuality is a choice and is sinful) BUT the ones I know are kind and polite if that helps.

[GreySkies]

In my opinion, your sexual preference or the opinions of others about your sexual preference should not be a major factor in deciding where you want to live. If your feel comfortable with living in TV then you make it happen, as simple as that. However, I do agree with those who say RENT before you buy, I am doing that myself, I am on month 2 of a year lease in TV.

[graciegirl]

I believe you will love it here!! So many friendly and
non judgemental folks. Friends come easy, and of course there are so many activities...even with COVID
You might find some nice furnished long term rentals on Villagershomes4rent.com
Makes it easy to find a home in the location you want
That's how we found our home.
Hope your decision will be an easy one, once you arrive here:coolsmiley:

I just read your newest post. It is interesting that you tout long term rentals on one hand........and worry about them on the other.

You seem like a lovely person.

[VApeople]

As a single gay man, I wonder whether it’s a good fit for me.

A gay woman moved into our cul-de-sac three houses away from us. She and her companion get along very well with her neighbors. They got invited to parties before the virus hit. We invited them to our driveway party last year and they stayed until the end and even helped us clean up, which is usually a sign that they felt welcome.

To be honest, most of are too 'experienced' to be judgmental. We just want to enjoy our life.

[John41]

I have family members who live in TV, & as I near retirement it’s an affordable option for me as well.

As a single gay man, I wonder whether it’s a good fit for me. I know there’s an active, officially sanctioned gay Resident Lifestyle group, but I’d still be in the minority in TV. I’ve visited a number of times, but it’s not easy to gauge what it would be like for me to live there.

I’m fit & active & know there are any number of activities that might appeal to someone who’s friendly, but an introvert, who just wants to live a peaceful, quiet life. I’ve been very fortunate throughout my life, & not experienced overt or discriminatory homophobia or a fear of living my life openly. Now is not the time for that to change.

I was reluctant to post this & generally avoid posting to forums or any form of social media, since threads can quickly turn negative. However, this is such an important decision, I feel compelled to try. I look forward to, & appreciate your honest, thoughtful comments. Thank you.

Honestly there is not much social life here for a gay man. Our friends went to St Pete and bought a condo in an area with a very active gay community.

[Stu from NYC]

I would suggest you rent for several months to give you time to experience the community and give you a better idea of where you might want to live.

We are new ourselves and like it here but do find people friendly for the most part. I walk a lot and vast majority will say good morning or hello but some will stare straight ahead and ignore any one else.

As they say takes all kinds

[Northwoods]

This is the intolerance capital of America. Come here as a last resort.

As you can see there are some negative people, but they are few and far between.

Let me say that I am a conservative person and I would welcome you into my community. I have a number of close friends that are gay (both men and women) and I think the world of them.
There are two female gay couples that live in my neighborhood. I've never seen them treated differently than anyone else in the neighborhood.
I think the suggestion to rent is a good one.
I've found that buying in a new neighborhood is a great way to meet people. It worked well for us.
I hope you come down here and find The Villages is a great place for you.
And... don't judge The Villages by The Talk of The Villages. Living here is NOTHING like this site.

[Stu from NYC]

As you can see there are some negative people, but they are few and far between.

Let me say that I am a conservative person and I would welcome you into my community. I have a number of close friends that are gay (both men and women) and I think the world of them.
There are two female gay couples that live in my neighborhood. I've never seen them treated differently than anyone else in the neighborhood.
I think the suggestion to rent is a good one.
I've found that buying in a new neighborhood is a great way to meet people. It worked well for us.
I hope you come down here and find The Villages is a great place for you.
And... don't judge The Villages by The Talk of The Villages. Living here is NOTHING like this site.

Great advise. Wonder why so many here are so intolerant of others

[golfing eagles]

Look at the Atlanta area which is where I’m going they have a thriving gay community so much to do. Part of the reason I’m going is this place is too expensive and not friendly at all. Taxes up 25% house bond 30% amenity monthly 200-240 and for what ? It’s not as easy as you think to do things here and everything you do costs money. To find out how the place works and they do a terrible job of that is a real estate newspaper called the Sun. The heat is unbearable and it costs a lot to maintain your house, cable WiFi,food, gas it’s very expensive here as are utilities.

In GA the day you get move in your homestead starts and they have seasons.

YOU'LL BE SORRY!! It's not everything you see advertised about it.

Minority opinion noted. Don't let the door hit you on your way out.

BTW, the amenity fee is about $155, NOT 200-240, and for that you get 38 exec golf courses, very neat landscaping in the common areas, 80+ neighborhood pools, dozens of Rec centers, community watch patrolling every neighborhood 3x/day and 3 town squares with nightly entertainment (yes, I know the amenity fee does not pay for the entertainment), all reachable in a golf cart.

Food is a bit more expensive than other areas of the country, utilities are cheaper, and WiFi is no more expensive than elsewhere

I have not witnessed any nasty homophobic behavior, although I'm sure there are some bigots lurking about. And unlike a post on another thread, there are no "rabid packs of angry old white men" roaming the streets

Rent for 4-6 months and try it out for yourself, you ARE welcome here!

[Ladygolfer93]

I don't think you are going to get a very accurate perspective based on the tiny percent of people who post on this forum.

The new apartments in Brownwood would be a great place to live and very reasonable considering of all the shops, restaurants and entertainment with in walking distance. The Villages is a very friendly place where most everyone minds their own business. If you hit the town squares once things fully reopen then you will get a much better idea what most people are like.

I generally agree with the above advice. Definitely RENT for as long as you can. If you can rent for 6 mos. so you can really get a "feel" for all the areas, have time to get to actually know people in different villages, you'll find quite a lot of differences. There are some villages, and some villa areas, where people really make an effort to know each other. Driveway gatherings weekly (bring your own beverage), and many others, cruises together, pot lucks, etc. while there are other villages and neighborhoods where you hardly see anyone. Most probably assume that those who only use their home here a few times a year and only a few days at a time, have a villa. In my neighborhood that is far from true. We have a number of large homes, all with 3 BR minimum, and some used as little as a total of two weeks per year... and NOT rented out in between. So, you really need to try to live here before buying, get that feel for how different the neighborhoods can be. Also, it definitely has changed here, especially the last 4-5 years and very obviously since the "virus"... which seems to have made many people very nasty. I also agree that you will see on here many really nasty opinions and what seems like very narrow minded people. I would not take it all seriously. Some probably have been like that all their lives, but don't be surprised if some are fictitious ! But in general, no, people are not nearly as friendly as they used to be. Why ? Who knows, perhaps just more diversification ? More people from larger cities perhaps where it was not wise to be outgoing and friendly to anyone who moved into a building ? I know my children who work and live in big cities definitely do not go out of their way to welcome anyone who buys a condo there, while once in The Villages, you would have all kinds of people at your door when you moved in, with food, with invitations, I was even offered the use of "temporary window shades" that needed no hardware".... neighbors had used them while they were selecting and having their window treatments made. It is not like that as much any more, but don't judge by how some talk and what some people "call" others in their posts !