Thinking Lately About Death

[FG111]

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.

[Taltarzac725]

I just think of all the marvelous people we may meet like Mark Twain, Groucho Marx, Will Rogers, Theodore Roosevelt, my late Uncle Bill Elsberg, etc.

Who knows what happens next?

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.

[dhdallas]

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.


Personally, I do not fear death but I do fear living too long. I was a RN, paramedic & coroner at one time or another in my life and saw a lot of death up close. Other than children, I rarely felt sad at deaths which occurred even at relatively young ages. I have seen what happens to a person as they age. If you live long enough it is (almost) a certainty that you will lose all of your mental faculties and control of your bodily functions. My father used to say that he didn’t mind getting old because so many don’t get the chance. Then he developed dementia & became so weak he lived his last 18 months confined to his bed. Maybe if he could have seen the ending in store for him, he might have revised that statement.

Pope Paul VI once said, “Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it I say! Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.”

[retiredguy123]

Personally, I do not fear death but I do fear living too long. I was a RN, paramedic & coroner at one time or another in my life and saw a lot of death up close. Other than children, I rarely felt sad at deaths which occurred even at relatively young ages. I have seen what happens to a person as they age. If you live long enough it is (almost) a certainty that you will lose all of your mental faculties and control of your bodily functions. My father used to say that he didn’t mind getting old because so many don’t get the chance. Then he developed dementia & became so weak he lived his last 18 months confined to his bed. Maybe if he could have seen the ending in store for him, he might have revised that statement.

Pope Paul VI once said, “Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it I say! Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.”
Yes, but how many people, who can refuse life extending treatments, actually refuse the treatments? In my experience, not many.

[manaboutown]

‘Enjoy Yourself’ (1950) - DORIS DAY - Lyrics - YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=paRj_Pp3okk)

[wisbad1]

Personally, I do not fear death but I do fear living too long. I was a RN, paramedic & coroner at one time or another in my life and saw a lot of death up close. Other than children, I rarely felt sad at deaths which occurred even at relatively young ages. I have seen what happens to a person as they age. If you live long enough it is (almost) a certainty that you will lose all of your mental faculties and control of your bodily functions. My father used to say that he didn’t mind getting old because so many don’t get the chance. Then he developed dementia & became so weak he lived his last 18 months confined to his bed. Maybe if he could have seen the ending in store for him, he might have revised that statement.

Pope Paul VI once said, “Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it I say! Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.”
Death is harder on the one left behind. Enjoy your love ones every day.

[Topspinmo]

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.

Yes, I thank the virus for that. but I don’t dwell on it. Most of us are on borrowed time anyway.

[Topspinmo]

‘Enjoy Yourself’ (1950) - DORIS DAY - Lyrics - YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=paRj_Pp3okk)

:coolsmiley: Big fan of Doris Day!!!

[vintageogauge]

I don't worry about death I just Hope that when the time comes it's quick. Saw too many family members linger on in pain.

[manaboutown]

Seriously, when the pandemic got going last March I reviewed and updated my estate documents. They are now all in order. It was a wake up call. I know people who have died from COVID-19 and others who have had their health seriously compromised by it. Too, over the last few years I have lost some long time friends to death from other causes. Some were in their 50s and 60s. "Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think!"

[Mortal1]

I watch it in my rear view mirror and it creeps slowly closer each day...with each new ache and pain...with each dream that isn't all smiley faces and colored balloons. And every morning I get up(not as quickly or as steady) and greet the new day with a cuppa coffee and planning my day....when it ends...I won't know and look forward to a new beginning...I hope...:-)

[davem4616]

we find comfort in being active in our church....at some point we're going to meet St Peter.

We're hoping that we will have given enough to charity and honored our parents enough so that we've accumulated enough points to get an upgrade.

we don't dwell on dying...if we did, we'd seek professional help

[dhsmith]

7 months ago I was rushed to hospital and had a pacemaker implanted 8 days after that I found that I had Stage 2 prostate cancer, after 30 days of chemotherapy, 6 months of hormone therapy and 9 weeks of radiation I thought a lot about death.
I’ve decided whether I have one year or ten years that I ‘m living every day like it’s my last. My affairs are in order my wife will be able to handle everything I will not go to bed mad at my wife nor my kids over some meaningless issue that one might regret the rest of their lives.
Every day is a blessing live it to the fullest.

[Kenswing]

I've been thinking more about the new McDonalds..

[Taltarzac725]

I've been thinking more about the new McDonalds..

That is NOTHING but very funny.

A little cross threading going on here.

[Debra Freeman]

For those that might be worried about being alone, it’s important to have a healthcare directive and you can choose a guardian that you trust before something happens. If you get dementia or become incapacitated, making decisions now, will ensure your wishes are carried out. I know of kind, professional, and compassionate guardians who cam also act as DPOA. If you need references, private message me.

[Two Bills]

I have decided not to go, so that's that problem sorted!

[Professor]

I do not fear death, no do I think much about it since it is inevitable. I am a practicing christian and feel I practice my faith each day in the way I live. If you live a good life and make the most of every day then there is little to be concerned with. Why worry about what you can't change...

[RICH1]

When you pass on this Earth and enter Heaven you get a new birthday!
Be extra special to your wife while your here!

[RICH1]

God Bless us all

[dandjg]

Heaven awaits me. Read the book of John in the New Testament. I have the joy and peace from the Lord in good times and bad.

[La lamy]

I have decided not to go, so that's that problem sorted!

:1rotfl: :clap2: :1rotfl:

[Cheapbas]

Dying isn’t the worse part of death, it’s the thinking of it, dwelling on it or fearing it. Everything ceases to matter once your are dead, accepting that has helped me put it out of my mind completely. Once it happens you will never think you got a raw deal or spend eternity regretting it.

[Joanne D]

It's a sign to love and cherish those in and around your life now. Pay extra attention to others and their lives it will give you more pleasure than you can imagine and they will remember you long after you are gone.

[JoelJohnson]

One thing everyone should have is a plan for their financial/digital life.

I read a story years ago where a young widow, with young children, lost her husband very suddenly. He took care of all the finances so when he died she had no idea where the money was, what bills had to be paid, etc.

From that experience she created a form for everything someone needs to know if she dies.

It doesn't need to include account numbers, but what bank the money is in, the accountants name and number, where important documents are, what bills are paid automatically online and when they are due.

Who (are at least where) the passwords are for the online accounts. (A password manager is good for this, like LastPass, and you only need to give the master password to someone you trust).

In other words, talk to whoever will be handling your affairs after your death and see what they will need to know.

[dennisgavin]

Yesterday is history
Tomorrow is a mystery
Today is a gift
That's why it's called the present!

I'm not afraid of death. I just don't want to be there when it happens..........

[MickeyStevens]

Personally, I do not fear death but I do fear living too long. I was a RN, paramedic & coroner at one time or another in my life and saw a lot of death up close.


Likewise I fear living too long.

[JimJohnson]

Thinking about it is fine. Worry when you start praying for it.

[Gdillon13]

I think about Jesus and his death on the cross that paid for my sin and his his words “that though a man die, still shall he live” when we know Christ as Savior 👍

[taruffi57]

I last ate in one in 1972.

[jswirs]

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.

I don't think about it very much. I've done what I could to help others while here, and used the tools I was gifted with to do so. I'll have no problem at judgement day. No one gets out of here alive, if everyone else can do it, I guess I can as well.

[3660barrelloop]

As we all think about death I am reminded of what King Solomon said, For everything there is a season a time for everything under the sun, a time to be born and a time to die. He also said he has made everything beautiful in its time, also he has put eternity in everyone’s heart.
We all have a longing for eternity, and the Greatest King of all reminds us if we believe in him we live even if we die. (Eternity )
That would fulfill King Solomon’s words he has made everything beautiful in its time.

[Jeanette.U]

“Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come” Rabindranath Tagore

[joelfmi]

Every Morning I wake up now I think of the loss of my wife of 55 years to covid during during May 2020. in a assisted living facility NYS . The loss of my wife should not have occurred. This is what torments me.
She was my best friend and a wonderful women to me and my children. I feel that my my life is over. Ever Day for me is a struggle

[Two Bills]

“Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come” Rabindranath Tagore

There are going to be a lot of disappointed people!

[Marie Bailey]

The Lord’s word tells me that if I accepted Him as my Lord and Savior, I will have everlasting life in heaven. Although I love my life here on earth, I know that I will join Him, and all who have gone before me, in Heaven one day. Other than the fear of the process of death, as none of us want to suffer, I have peace knowing what is beyond my life here.

[paulat585]

I don't fear death. Fear lingering. Per comments above, am now getting my documents in order. Have only one child who gets teary-eyed when I try to talk to him about my plans. Need to bite the bullet and have that talk.

[Ashbrook]

I have a beautiful life, one that I am not anxious to leave, however my faith in Jesus Christ as Savior is my assurance I have eternal life. I believe there is a heaven and hell and that we will all face that reality someday. Faith is the evidence of things unseen.

[jetcapt]

No one wants to live to 100. Until they're 99.

[kendi]

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.

Yes, I do. Thinking about dying actually helps us to have a healthier perspective of life. Priorities can change. Much of what were major issues are now considered to be the “small stuff”. It’s much easier to see the good in people and less time is spent complaining. Life is more joyful. Anyone who is a Christian and doesn’t have at least a tiny part of them looking forward to dying might think about re-examining their relationship with God. “Heaven” by Randy Alcorn is a good book for reference.

[newchapter]

I am so very sorry to hear about your wife. I hope and pray you find happiness again.

[jonathanb]

As we age I think it’s just natural to think more about the day we will die. It is my faith in Jesus Christ, God's only begotten son, and the work He did for me in conquering death on the cross and His resurrection that makes me have the certain hope of living with Him in heaven forever. All God asks of us is to turn away from our sin (repent) and turn to Him and believe in Jesus. Receive the GIFT of eternal life from Him.

[jonathanb]

So sad. I will pray for you. I pray that God will comfort you in your time of grieving.

[kendi]

Every Morning I wake up now I think of the loss of my wife of 55 years to covid during during May 2020. in a assisted living facility NYS . The loss of my wife should not have occurred. This is what torments me.
She was my best friend and a wonderful women to me and my children. I feel that my my life is over. Ever Day for me is a struggle

I’m sorry Joelfmi. 😢. Wonder if there is a men’s support group in the area. I know this type of group has been helpful for many men where I lived up North. Hospice is a good place to start looking if you’re so inclined to find such a group. Men’s groups are not necessarily about talking, but instead comradery.

[rockyhyder]

Thank you for the thought provoking post. I am very thankful for my health, family and this wonderful chapter of our lives. I spent a career in the fire service so I realize my choice of career likely shortened my life expectancy but I don’t dwell on that. I wrote a blank check with my life when I joined the fire service and resolved my final destiny through faith in Jesus Christ some years later. Now I am resolved to make these years my best years regardless of how many or few may be left. I focus on living rather than death.

[fastboat]

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.

Death is just the beginning. You were created with an soul which will live for all eternity. It's up to you where it'll spend it. :a040::a040::a040:

[DAVES]

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.

Having had a minor is psychology, the shrinks like most others try to put things into neat boxes for communication. There are two stressful times in your life and they are sort of related. The exact age varies but about 17, the stress is what will I do with my life. About 60 it is what have I done with my life.

Peace, for me it is recognizing there are things you cannot change, not everything unlike in third grade has a do-over. Regrets will never bring happiness or result in anything at all that is positive.

All you can do is the best you can. Do not let what others think matter more than they are worth. What others think, selecting the others is a life art. What they think only matters if the they will still be there to pick up the pieces if it goes bad. Makes for a far shorter list of people whose opinion matters.

[rmd2]

Seriously, when the pandemic got going last March I reviewed and updated my estate documents. They are now all in order. It was a wake up call. I know people who have died from COVID-19 and others who have had their health seriously compromised by it. Too, over the last few years I have lost some long time friends to death from other causes. Some were in their 50s and 60s. "Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think!"

I've lived here for 10 years. I just looked a some of my old e-mails and I see that in 2019 (just prior to covid) I reviewed my will and updated my 5 Wishes document. I gave copies to 2 of my relatives. I wonder if I had ESP into what would occur in the coming year - covid. Fortunately I didn't get covid but eventually I'll get something.

[Gulfcoast]

I've lived here for 10 years. I just looked a some of my old e-mails and I see that in 2019 (just prior to covid) I reviewed my will and updated my 5 Wishes document. I gave copies to 2 of my relatives. I wonder if I had ESP into what would occur in the coming year - covid. Fortunately I didn't get covid but eventually I'll get something.

That's sounds like a smart thing to do.

[OhioBuckeye]

Ever since I had my 5 way heart bypass in Nov. of 2011. I think about it all the time & when will my newest plumbing will wear out. I just remember my heart Dr. saying, “Well your all set for the Nexted 10 to 15 yrs”. So yes, I think about it a lot. I keep thinking, how much exercise should I be doing & what exercising should I be doing & am I eating right!

[cherylncliff]

One of the best things you can do is to organize all your information about insurance, health care, long term care, financial information including auto-pays and credit cards and make sure your children or heirs know all that and where you keep it, including passwords for accounts. Also, make sure you have an up to date will, especially if you have a previous will from another state as Florida has its own idiosyncrasies. When you are gone it will not be your problem but this will greatly ease the burden on those that come after.

[stebooo]

Any one at our age will certainly be thinking on these things. You said in your opening "thank God", assuming that you are a beleiver, (some people say things but don mean them), this should be easier. If we are believers in Jesus Christ we have a more eternal view on this topic. That gives us the peace that surpasses all uunderstanding. And don't worry. Despite that peace I'm guessing none of us want to be on this afternoon boat leaving to heaven . 😄

[Garywt]

I don’t have time to think about death. I have been battling a uncurable cancer for 7.5 years so all I have time for is living and deciding what we are doing next. I have no plans to go anywhere for a long time.

[Edcarney]

Every day of my life I realize it could be the last but there is no fear of death. Why? The answer is a relationship with Jesus Christ. Romans 10:9-10 if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead you will be saved. Forward the heart main believe it onto righteousness and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. Romans 10:13 tells you how to do this. For whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved. No more fear of death to be absent with the body is to be present with the lord

[stebooo]

Any one at our age will certainly be thinking on these things. You said in your opening "thank God", assuming that you are a beleiver, (some people say things but don mean them), this should be easier. If we are believers in Jesus Christ we have a more eternal view on this topic. That gives us the peace that surpasses all uunderstanding. And don't worry. Despite that peace I'm guessing none of us want to be on this afternoon boat leaving to heaven . 😄

[stebooo]

I remember visiting my grandma for her 94th birthday and she had been in a nursing home at that point probably 2 years. She was asleep curled up like a baby not much of a life to live. I said to my dad, who is standing next to me, I don't think I want to live to be 94. His immediate without thinking response was you might want to wait till your 93 to make that call. the wisdom of our parents

[camaguey48]

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.
For every breath I take, someone is taking their last. I aim to enjoy every second of my life.

[Jerry101]

Here’s what I hold to.
John 3:16-17

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.

[Spalumbos62]

I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time. I too lost a best friend in July 2020, couldn't wrap my head around her very early death. Someone told me of the book, the medium next door, by Maureen Hancock. Which I bought and got so much comfort from. No, not trying to get you on a path that you have no interest in, I understand...but the interesting thing she writes is that, yes they pass, but they are still with us, just not in the same form. Almost like the change a caterpillar goes thru. And if you let yourself listen and be aware you might start feeling her presence still there, and find comfort.
I would be happy to send this book to you, or drop it off when I get down there in april. 😌

[Rlheinz19@yahoo.com]

This is why we are making the move to Tge Villages now. No idea how long we have left and want to enjoy as much as we can.

[FG111]

I originally came up with this thread because I remember back a few years while driving on the New Jersey Turnpike, I stopped near Secaucus to fuel-up. Next to me I saw two young kids both driving together a brand new Indian Motorcycle still with the paper tag. They both seemed very happy and I was a bit jealous. The three of us talked about the bike and both appeared to be two nice young guys.

Both of us left at about the same time and naturally the motorcycle drove away faster than myself. Within a few minutes, I was caught in a major traffic jam and traffic didn't move for an hour. Traffic finally cleared and as I drove, I saw alot of police cars on the side of the road and that same Indian Motorcycle with a paper tag damaged on the ground and two yellow death clothes covering two bodies. At that moment I just realized that I was probably the last person these guys met before their death and I'm confident that these guys absolutely no idea what was about to happen to them.

[jswirs]

Every Morning I wake up now I think of the loss of my wife of 55 years to covid during during May 2020. in a assisted living facility NYS . The loss of my wife should not have occurred. This is what torments me.
She was my best friend and a wonderful women to me and my children. I feel that my my life is over. Ever Day for me is a struggle

In 2019 I lost my wife of 50 years, and felt the same as you do. I was very lucky, while I was working as a volunteer in a hospital, I met a young lady who had just lost her husband. We were married Oct. 1st. I know how difficult it is, but you must keep a positive attitude, and pray. God Bless and Be well. Message me back if you would like to talk.

[Cindy619]

Yes, I think about it often. At our age, that's probably a good thing. But then... what happens after I die? Now THAT'S what I want to focus on. We will all meet our Maker, and we can be ready when that time comes.

[rjm1cc]

No. It comes to all of us. Hopefully we just drift away. But the problem is the ones you leave behind. So get your estate paperwork in order and make sure your survivors know your wishes . Have a Will, Power of Attorney (only valid while you are alive) and health directive. Have a file with copies of all your monthly and annual bills (for account number, phone number and address). Have copies of all your financial statements. I would write up a memo on what to do. If you maintain the home be sure to tell your survivors the maintenance that is required. I would also arrange for and pay for the funeral. Once you have made it as easy as you can on your survivors no need to worry about death.

[Rzepecki]

Nope, only thinking about living.

[lisarenee523]

You also have to be prepared for sudden death, and speaking from experience, make sure the one's left behind know where everything is, who to call, where to go, where to find what, and what to do. I'll even say, you might even want to take it one step further, and have your funeral / Celebration of Life planned out. That way the family doesn't have to make sudden, and foggy decisions. Make it easier on the people left behind.

There is a great book out that will help you, and them, "I'm Dead. Now What".
Amazon.com (https://www.amazon.com/Life-Planning-Workbook-Easy-Find/dp/1690155701/ref=sr_1_6?dchild=1&hvadid=78615135432381&hvbmt=be&hvdev=c&hvqmt=e&keywords=i%27m+dead+now+what+planner&qid=1615316124&sr=8-6)

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=i%27m+dead+now+what+planner&hvadid=78615135432381&hvbmt=be&hvdev=c&hvqmt=e&tag=mh0b-20&ref=pd_sl_78tyya23g2_e

Enjoy and live the rest of your life living, not thinking about dying. If there is something you want to do, do it.

[dstinchcomb2@yahoo.com]

Heaven awaits me. Read the book of John in the New Testament. I have the joy and peace from the Lord in good times and bad.
Amen, I agree. Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and His death on the cross for your sins and Heaven awaits upon your death.

[PugMom]

I've been thinking more about the new McDonalds..

me too! my daughter & i are figuring what time we need to get up for the 1st breakfast of the day :1rotfl:

[vitacr]

I am a mobile notary and meet many seniors who have a fear of death and procrastinate getting their "house in order." Please don't wait until you're in a coma or been diagnosed with dementia............you're family will thank you. If you don't have a Trust, please consider a Durable Power of Attorney and a Last Will & Testiment, at a minimum. I can help.

[Dot Rheinhardt]

Alzheimer's doesn't hit everyone. Both my mother and mother-in-law lived to be nearly 100. My mother-in-law did crossword puzzles in ink and kept one son's business records for him. Mt mother balanced her check book and kept track of all household expenses. It's all in the genes. If Alzheimer's runs in your family, get things in order now and live every day as best you can. When a friend's father turned 104 and was asked what he wanted to do for his birthday he said "go to Hooters". He went with other old friends and had a great time.

[furbish]

‘Enjoy Yourself’ (1950) - DORIS DAY - Lyrics - YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=paRj_Pp3okk)

Doris Day - Whatever Will Be Will Be Que Sera Sera (Best All Time Hits Forever 2014 / HQ) Mu(C)o - YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3FKA-3uRdQY)

[newgirl]

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.

Take control now of how you want to die ( 5 wishes, a will, a power of attorney, medical power of attorney) Is staying out of pain #1, not being forced to die in a hospital( unless of course it happens in a er) etc. After working in hospice, I can tell you that people choose the moment of death. Many wait to see someone, many wait till everyone goes for coffee...if you are scared,speak to any open minded person who has ever cared for hospice clients. Unless you have a huge religious block that blinds you to what you see in front of you over and over, then anyone that has spent time with the dying will tell you that death is nothing to fear. Only fear is leaving the past( living or life) just as it is scary to walk away from any other part of the past in order to experience the future.

[dcc@cohrn.com]

Here is a link to our Centers for Wellbeing if you are interested

Cornerstone Centers for Wellbeing (https://cornerstonecentersforwellbeing.org/)

[DAVES]

For those that might be worried about being alone, it’s important to have a healthcare directive and you can choose a guardian that you trust before something happens. If you get dementia or become incapacitated, making decisions now, will ensure your wishes are carried out. I know of kind, professional, and compassionate guardians who cam also act as DPOA. If you need references, private message me.

Family experience. A healthcare directive you should discuss with your family. My uncle had a signed DNR. He had a major stroke and was brain dead. Though I was as close to him as I was to my father. His son demanded that the hospital resuscitate him.
I of course said nothing. I could not, would not. My uncle was resuscitated, he died shortly later. Yet, another gray area in the real world.

[DAVES]

I remember visiting my grandma for her 94th birthday and she had been in a nursing home at that point probably 2 years. She was asleep curled up like a baby not much of a life to live. I said to my dad, who is standing next to me, I don't think I want to live to be 94. His immediate without thinking response was you might want to wait till your 93 to make that call. the wisdom of our parents

I regret that I can no longer honestly ask older people I know to explain jokes about getting old.

I have a friend who buys piles of condolence cards. I asked him not to buy one for me,
I hope it will be yellowed by the time it is needed.

[MrExcite721]

As an agnostic and a believer in reincarnation, I know, lots of issues there . . . I tell myself, time before my birth existed as did I, time after my death will exist, as will I.

I have had moments of reincarnation recall, not deja vu but something from my past life reaching to me. I find incredible comfort in those moments, as a reminder that I have to pass from this life to reach my next life.

I believe in the soul. The internal energy it possesses.

[Laurawilcox]

I agree Paula. I don’t fear death I fear the goodbyes. Having an only child and watching her fear for that moment is the hardest part. She was born when I was forty, so not lots of time to share and teach her.

[NewRealms]

What choice do we have? Unless we pull the plug ourselves the end of life comes at the end... when ever and what ever that might look like. Dementia is a curse on the aged for sure. But, we live as long as we are given.

[NewRealms]

Most of us are on borrowed time anyway.

What does that really mean? From whom did we borrow the time? In truth all of our time is on loan. It comes and then it goes. And, as it goes we think more and more about our end time. Is that so unnatural?

[NewRealms]

I'm not afraid of death. I just don't want to be there when it happens..........

Yep, a good old Woody Allen line. And, it's soooo flippin' true.

[NewRealms]

Likewise I fear living too long.

Fear is such a distraction to the present moment.

[LiverpoolWalrus]

‘Enjoy Yourself’ (1950) - DORIS DAY - Lyrics - YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=paRj_Pp3okk)

The Specials - Enjoy Yourself - YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cPd_awQuH4o)

[Ben Franklin]

As an agnostic and a believer in reincarnation, I know, lots of issues there . . . I tell myself, time before my birth existed as did I, time after my death will exist, as will I.

I have had moments of reincarnation recall, not deja vu but something from my past life reaching to me. I find incredible comfort in those moments, as a reminder that I have to pass from this life to reach my next life.

I believe in the soul. The internal energy it possesses.

I believe that when we die, only our ego vanishes, and consciousness lives on, which is the source everyone calls God. Man has created every god he's ever worshiped, all 12,000 plus of them. What is our consciousness? It that little observer, within yourself, that questions your ego. We can achieve a healthy ego, or allow it to become so sick, we never hear the consciousness.

The University of Virginia, the 10th best school in the US for medicine has a perceptional studies curriculum, which includes studies on reincarnation. I have a very interesting story, if you want to hear about it. Check out U of Vs perceptual studies curriculum.

https://med.virginia.edu/perceptual-studies/

[vintageogauge]

I'm really hoping that there is no such thing as reincarnation as i sure as hell don't want to come back to what is going on in this world and try to start all over again. My grandmother, father, uncle, and aunt all died in institutions from complications of Alzheimers. After seeing so much of that in my family, that is my greatest fear, much more so than death itself.

[Topspinmo]

What does that really mean? From whom did we borrow the time? In truth all of our time is on loan. It comes and then it goes. And, as it goes we think more and more about our end time. Is that so unnatural?

IMO, in my case, due to medical procedure life has gone on. So I am on borrowed time. It means once you get certain age with health issues you could go anytime. Make The use out of every day and don’t let the small stuff bother you.

[Topspinmo]

I'm really hoping that there is no such thing as reincarnation as i sure as hell don't want to come back to what is going on in this world and try to start all over again. My grandmother, father, uncle, and aunt all died in institutions from complications of Alzheimers. After seeing so much of that in my family, that is my greatest fear, much more so than death itself.


Or maybe the world will be better place in the future?

[Topspinmo]

I believe that when we die, only our ego vanishes, and consciousness lives on, which is the source everyone calls God. Man has created every god he's ever worshiped, all 12,000 plus of them. What is our consciousness? It that little observer, within yourself, that questions your ego. We can achieve a healthy ego, or allow it to become so sick, we never hear the consciousness.

The University of Virginia, the 10th best school in the US for medicine has a perceptional studies curriculum, which includes studies on reincarnation. I have a very interesting story, if you want to hear about it. Check out U of Vs perceptual studies curriculum.

Division of Perceptual Studies | University of Virginia School of Medicine (https://med.virginia.edu/perceptual-studies/)


IMO, you only live on by the ones that remember you and pass you’re memory on.

[VILLAGERBB]

FG111 - I wonder about it but have no fear. Enjoy your life and know you will not be alone when the end comes. Peace!:pray:


Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.

[Velvet]

Love my life here on earth and hope to have lots of it. But if I am bed ridden I plan to see movies, I have been saving up, listen to music that I enjoy and many more things. But when the time comes, I hope to get to meet the Creator Himself, I truly look forwards to that. Perhaps I can see my parents and a particular grandmother. I also have friends who have passed on who I’d like to catch up with.
And if I am wrong and there is truly reincarnation, then I’ll be back. Time is such an amazing thing!

[JimJohnson]

Every morning when I wake-up, I always thank God because I am truly blessed that I have my health, my kids are doing well, I live in a lovely community in a lovely new home, have a lovely ( mostly ) spouse and in a great financial position in my life.

But lately as each day passes, I realize that this wonderful dream of life will come to an end. No matter how healthy I eat and no matter how many marathons I still participate in order to maintain a healthy life style in order to maximize my life expectancy, my life will come to an end. Obviously as each day passes, we all become one day older and one day closer to death.

Does anyone think about their inevitable demise and how do you deal with the uncertainty of death? Thanks and be safe.

I feel ya and understand. As I age, I thank nature for letting me know it’s OK to leave when it’s time. At 73, I have had a wonderful life and honestly, Don't want it to go much longer. I’m am in good health at the moment, but I am feeling old and don’t like it. I am an Atheist, so death is more appealing to me than for those that believe you have to go when called by the lord, no matter how much suffering that may bring. As an Atheist, I want to be gone ten minutes before the suffering of old age begins.

[Velvet]

I agree with getting your things in order. Wills, power of attorney, financial and medical. What treatment you want if you can’t make decisions any more.

My mother was always afraid to think of her death. She felt she would hurry it up if she thought about it. Before passing she developed dementia. Although she had mentioned a few times what she wanted to happen after her death, it never happened. She left a person in charge who totally disregarded her wishes. It was not in writing.

[JimJohnson]

I agree with getting your things in order. Wills, power of attorney, financial and medical. What treatment you want if you can’t make decisions any more.

My mother was always afraid to think of her death. She felt she would hurry it up if she thought about it. Before passing she developed dementia. Although she had mentioned a few times what she wanted to happen after her death, it never happened. She left a person in charge who totally disregarded her wishes. It was not in writing.

Get it written down and notarized!!! I had an aunt that gave all powers to a friend to insure she would be cremated, but as her friend did not believe that she should be cremated, and had her buried at the cost of $9,300 and passed that cost on to her surviving daughter. I contacted the friend to inquire into why. She told me that she felt it was against the will of god to cremate. Soon after that, my wife and I went to Baldwin Brothers too have our wish to be cremated, contracted, legalized and paid in advance. We provided all that with our wills to our children. It is a horrific thought to think some religious NUT would change my final wish for such a selfish reason.