Agree or Not

[Travelingal702]

It's been said that, "A daughter's a daughter for the rest of her life. A son is a son until he takes a wife." Do you agree or not? From experience, I agree.

[Madelaine Amee]

OK, old saying with a lot of truth. HOWEVER, if you want to keep a son (of which I have two), you stay out of his business and when he finds a mate, you bend over backward to enjoy her.

I only have sons so it has been extremely important that I leave them alone to run their own lives, marry who they love, and to never get into their business. They know I am here to help in any way I can when they may need it, but I do not interfere with their lives.

I LIVED MY LIFE, LET THEM LIVE THEIRS. Just be there to catch them if need be!:icon_wink:

[tvbound]

OK, old saying with a lot of truth. HOWEVER, if you want to keep a son (of which I have two), you stay out of his business and when he finds a mate, you bend over backward to enjoy her.

I only have sons so it has been extremely important that I leave them alone to run their own lives, marry who they love, and to never get into their business. They know I am here to help in any way I can when they may need it, but I do not interfere with their lives.

I LIVED MY LIFE, LET THEM LIVE THEIRS. Just be there to catch them if need be!:icon_wink:

I totally agree. While it can be tempting, I always remind myself that I'm sure there were times when my own parents wanted to make a comment about my actions as a parent, but they withheld their comments, unless it was as a positive observation. I also try to remember how I would have felt, had they made any negative comments as a young parent - and I use that as my guideline for my own adult children and my grandchildren.

[dewilson58]

False.

[PugMom]

False.

once a parent-always a parent, no matter age/sex

[dewilson58]

once a parent-always a parent, no matter age/sex

:bigbow:

[Stu from NYC]

once a parent-always a parent, no matter age/sex

Very true but you do have to mind your own business when appropriate

[Two Bills]

We have three daughters, and they are still very close.
We have moved several times and left no forwarding address, but they always manage to track us down!:icon_wink:

[GOLFER54]

A daughter hopefully will take care of her parents when bad health becomes a factor, but even a son and his wife will do the same if there has been love and respect from all.

[Ginsanders]

Three sons and one daughter, but we are blessed by the wonderful daughter-in-laws. Daughter in laws stay in touch usually more than sons! But I do 'try' to stay out of their business unless asked.
One blessed lady because they all want to come visit at same time so they can see each other since they live in four different states!

[SeaCros]

Agree

[donassaid]

Absolutely!

[Bay Kid]

I raised my daughter from age 6 and my son from age 3. We are and will always be close. Can't imagine life without them.

[EileenK]

Don’t agree at al! It’s all about your relationship with each child.

[cafw1]

OK, old saying with a lot of truth. HOWEVER, if you want to keep a son (of which I have two), you stay out of his business and when he finds a mate, you bend over backward to enjoy her.

I only have sons so it has been extremely important that I leave them alone to run their own lives, marry who they love, and to never get into their business. They know I am here to help in any way I can when they may need it, but I do not interfere with their lives.

I LIVED MY LIFE, LET THEM LIVE THEIRS. Just be there to catch thIem if need be!:icon_wink: I have only sons and this is very good advice.

[Smarlow55]

Well said and good advice. And yes I agree girls are the family glue.

[joelfmi]

what keeps children sometimes together is if they want an inheritance they have to show interest whether it be a son or a daughter. I conservative person whom believes good behavior deserves reward otherwise such as calling, inviting me over, caring about me, being their when I need them, interest in my well being, keeping me out of nursing home. Have my grandchildren calling me .remembering holidays, birthdays, If they don't then you must what your action you will be towards them whether it be a son or daughter.

[Dasher0928]

It's been said that, "A daughter's a daughter for the rest of her life. A son is a son until he takes a wife." Do you agree or not? From experience, I agree.

Absolutely, unfortunately. 😢

[gwenhwalker@yahoo.com]

Sadly my only child/daughter has totally replaced me with her"new family"

[Bill297]

Most definitely. A daughter-in-law will always choose her mother over her mother in law. The best you can hope for a nice, friendly relationship. Let her know you are there to help but don’t interfere.

[Joanne19335]

once a parent-always a parent, no matter age/sex

My mother was the best MIL to have. She never interfered in my brother’s personal life, but he was her son until the day she died. As for daughters, there is no greater bond than that between a father and a daughter. The worst day of my life was when I lost my father when he passed away in 1980 at age 59. I don’t think I will ever get over it.

[deestatham@aol.com]

It's been said that, "A daughter's a daughter for the rest of her life. A son is a son until he takes a wife." Do you agree or not? From experience, I agree.
Yes! But an Italian son is forever the PRINCE!!!

[SacDQ]

We have a daughter and a son and we’re close with both and their families.

[deestatham@aol.com]

I forgot to add that my reply about the PRINCE is coming from the sister of that Italian PRINCE who KNOWS!

[doecats]

A Child is a child until the first national parents close

[Garywt]

Somewhat... My oldest spends a lot of time with her family but we do see them and our grandson. Our youngest sons wife did not come from a great situation so we see them a lot. Our daughter is a daddy’s girl and she and our grandson live with us.

[HORNET]

Depends on how children are raised

[HORNET]

It's been said that, "A daughter's a daughter for the rest of her life. A son is a son until he takes a wife." Do you agree or not? From experience, I agree.
Depends on how children are raised

[Wizie1949]

I’m 71. When I married my husband became closer to my family than his own because we lived closer. My brother became closer to his wife’s family also because of location. Also it is very important to accept your child’s choice of a partner whether you like them or not. So many in laws just don’t want to accept their child’s choice and it causes deep separations within families. Love your in-laws because they are family and they make your son or daughter complete

[aliquo]

No I do
Not agree

[stebooo]

I think it's very true. I have 4 daughters and 1 son. They confirm the stats. I have often asked other couples. Same outcome.

[gcangel]

It's been said that, "A daughter's a daughter for the rest of her life. A son is a son until he takes a wife." Do you agree or not? From experience, I agree.
Agree

[Caroles Home]

Definitely TRUE....

[Cloud Nine]

It's been said that, "A daughter's a daughter for the rest of her life. A son is a son until he takes a wife." Do you agree or not? From experience, I agree.

Really wish I could agree but our three sons are very caring and communicative. Our only daughter has been bonded to her husband’s family for over 25 years now. We have definitely taken a back seat to her other family......it’s unpleasant but we’ve learned to live with the situation and keep the peace.😞😞

[jimkerr]

I disagree. Treat all of your children with Love no matter their sex.

[perrjojo]

I am neutral as I just think it is different.

[justjim]

It all depends on who your son marries.

[Nucky]

Madelaine Amee couldn't have said it better. We have three boys who are very different in many ways. They have all found the love of their lives and seem to be doing just fine.

I learned that unless they put something in the form of a question then mums the word on most major subjects.

Out of the three sets of kids, one set is dead against getting the Covid Vaccination. I approached the subject lightly and told them a true story about a friend I lost who belongs to a club that I belong to in N.J. After the story I asked what he thought and although he said he was sorry for my loss it didn't change his mind. So for me it is case closed. I would not approach the subject with his wife, not a chance.

Madelaine Amee said what I was thinking much better than I could have. Thank You.

[mjpuleo]

don't believe in interfering, but some daughter-in-laws can be very selfish and jealous and want to break any ties with sons and mothers.

[prettyw102@aol.com]

I couldn't agree with you more! We have a daughter and two sons, all happily married. Our sons call us 1x or 2x a week, our daughter not as much. We do not meddle in their business or give advice, unless asked.Thankfully, most of the time. they make good decisions. Our sons are just as close to us as before they were married. Our daughter is just as aloof as she was before she was married lol We are blessed with three amazing, educated, loving,, professional, kids (and their spouses) who have given us two precious grandchildren (so far). The key to good relationships with your kids and their spouses is not to meddle.

[rrb48310]

Daughters are closer to their mother, at least in our case we have two boys. It was one of the deciding factors for us to become full time residents in The Villages. Our daughters in-law’s are great, our older son & family moved to Tennessee (from Michigan) just before I retired and our youngest married just after I retired. Wife was really close with the younger son and very happy he found a wonderful wife, but our newest daughter in-law is really close to her (large) family. Although they did make time to see us, it wasn’t enough, we would sit around waiting for a call to come for a visit or dinner, that was barley enough in the warm months and not what we wanted in the colder months. Our son was disappointed when we told him of our plans to move, but we explained that instead of just seeing them (and grandbaby) an hour or two a week we could spend more quality time with them if they would come and visit for a week or more in Florida. He said he got it and both said that after visiting here in The Villages they saw we were much happier. We keep in touch via FaceTime (to see our newest granddaughter) and had a family (both sons, family & 4 grandkids) reuniting planed, that COVID crashed. My wife says that if we had daughters we wouldn’t have moved.

[Aloha1]

I have daughters and sons. My oldest daughter is 44 and I still choke up when I hear the song by Mike Douglas, "The Men In My Little Girls Life". Doesn't help that the boy she married is named Tim. She'll always be my little girl.

My sons are also close but the relationship is a little different in that as their father my job is still to be there, teach, and support.

[Barborv]

But a Jewiush mothers son is the KING!! LOL LOL

[Barborv]

Jewish, not Jewiush LOL