How friendly are you to strangers?

[La lamy]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?

[vintageogauge]

Is this a general discussion about The Villages or somewhere else?

[Villageswimmer]

Don’t wait for them. Say hello first. If they choose to ignore you, don’t give it a second thought.

[ROCKMUP]

I say Hi/Hello to everyone, I don't care if they reply.

Only time I get the red arse is when I hold the door for someone and they can't be bothered to say thanks. This will cause me to loudly say "You're welcome" and then go about my day.

Don't let people live rent free in your head, you do you.

[Art cov]

I speak to nearly everyone or nod but some ignore you, Kinda annoying to open a door for someone and get no thanks. Maybe their mind is someplace else.

[Toymeister]

As a male I am never surprised when a woman doesn't appear to be friendly, I assume this is some sort of defense mechanism that women are accustomed to doing.

[Freehiker]

I wave at every person I see when I riding on the golf cart, even though 98% do not wave back.

While they may have forgotten that they are fortunate to live in such a beautiful place and decide to be cranky old farts (COF) instead, I have not and refuse to let them ruin my good time.

[Ben Franklin]

True story. When we were driving through a small mountain town in PA, everyone kept waving at me. I said to my wife, "I must look like someone here in this town because people keep waving at me. It's either that, or these people are very friendly" A few minutes later we stopped to get lunch, and there were a lot of gnats. I started to wave them away from my face and realized, at that moment, people weren't waving at me, they were swatting away the gnats.

[DAVES]

True story. When we were driving through a small mountain town in PA, everyone kept waving at me. I said to my wife, "I must look like someone here in this town because people keep waving at me. It's either that, or these people are very friendly" A few minutes later we stopped to get lunch, and there were a lot of gnats. I started to wave them away from my face and realized, at that moment, people weren't waving at me, they were swatting away the gnats.

Amusing. Who said life is too important to take seriously? Twain?

[DAVES]

As a male I am never surprised when a woman doesn't appear to be friendly, I assume this is some sort of defense mechanism that women are accustomed to doing.

Reality-years ago I was checking out some babe-far too young for me. Besides my wife thinks Loretta Bobbet is her hero. A rude awakening. I was carrying a lot of stuff, she called me sir and asked if she could help me with the door.
Dads wisdom, never think you understand women. Even if you are right you will be wrong before you even saw the change. An interesting adventure.

[Velvet]

In TV nearly everyone I see nods, waves or says ‘hello’ where I live. Up north, in my mega city, people look suspiciously if I say ‘hello’ as if to say, ‘What do YOU want?’ The various areas are different too. The street gang areas are the worst and the gated communities are better. It took me a little while to get used to TV.

[Velvet]

As a male I am never surprised when a woman doesn't appear to be friendly, I assume this is some sort of defense mechanism that women are accustomed to doing.

In my group the females like to make the first move. A look, a smile etc.

[walterray1]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?

Probably not how you thought this post would go. I believe that one should make a decision based on the situation and location. Taking your morning walk in your neighborhood in The Villages feel free to wave and say good morning if you wish. It is a long time custom to waive at someone (especially in a golf cart) as they pass. We generally do and get the appropriate response. Something special about this place.

[walterray1]

Probably not how you thought this post would go. I believe that one should make a decision based on the situation and location. Taking your morning walk in your neighborhood in The Villages feel free to wave and say good morning if you wish. It is a long time custom to waive at someone (especially in a golf cart) as they pass. We generally do and get the appropriate response. Something special about this place.

Sorry my bad.

[La lamy]

Is this a general discussion about The Villages or somewhere else?

Both in TV and in general. I've been in many villages in TV that aren't as overtly friendly as the village I'm in.

[La lamy]

As a male I am never surprised when a woman doesn't appear to be friendly, I assume this is some sort of defense mechanism that women are accustomed to doing.

Yes I can see how some women don't want to lead men on, but a quick hello with no lingering stare does not send the wrong message I believe.

[La lamy]

I wave at every person I see when I riding on the golf cart, even though 98% do not wave back.

While they may have forgotten that they are fortunate to live in such a beautiful place and decide to be cranky old farts (COF) instead, I have not and refuse to let them ruin my good time.

Wow 98%?!!! That's sad, but glad you still choose to do you!!

[La lamy]

True story. When we were driving through a small mountain town in PA, everyone kept waving at me. I said to my wife, "I must look like someone here in this town because people keep waving at me. It's either that, or these people are very friendly" A few minutes later we stopped to get lunch, and there were a lot of gnats. I started to wave them away from my face and realized, at that moment, people weren't waving at me, they were swatting away the gnats.

:1rotfl: :1rotfl: :1rotfl: :1rotfl:

[EdFNJ]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail.
Maybe some have other things on their mind more important at that moment than waving at a stranger?

I wave at every person I see when I riding on the golf cart, even though 98% do not wave back.

While they may have forgotten that they are fortunate to live in such a beautiful place and decide to be cranky old farts (COF) instead, I have not and refuse to let them ruin my good time. Maybe they didn't see you waving? Or maybe their arm got tired at waving at the last 30 passing carts. Or maybe they thought you were waving at someone else? Everyone doesn't constantly stare into incoming golf cart windows seeing how people are reacting to them. We walk every morning and occasionally miss returning a wave here or there because we are looking at he golf course or flowers or birds "in such a beautiful place" so don't take it personally or judge people simply by the lack of a wave. Best place to be if you want your wave returned 100% of the time is Disney. People aren't always going to be paying attention to your golf cart when they are walking or running or looking at nature. If maybe I was one who forgot to wave to you this morning here is a few free waves:


:wave::wave::wave::wave::wave::wave::wave::wave:

[GrumpyOldMan]

My wife and I are both hermits - introverts and not very social creatures. So, we tend to not join in neighborhood events like driveway parties and things.

Since moving here, we have been making it a point to wave, smile and nod at anyone and everyone as we drive around or are getting the mail or whatever. I would say about 99% of those that notice us wave and smile back.

It is sad some here in TV have had other experiences, but our experience is this is the friendliest home town we have ever live in.

Online is a tad different, but in person people always seem friendly to us.

[jbartle1]

Never met a stranger, we always wave, response or not.

[Two Bills]

I am a very social person when out, I talk and acknowlege all who pass.
My kids when young were allways embarrassed that I spoke to people in shopping queues etc.
Funny thing is I dislike parties, socialising at home or in others houses.
Really guard my privacy.
A shrink would have a field day with me!

[roob1]

Complicated question!

Primarily we need to examine individual differences, i.e. heredity and environment both determine personality traits. Certainly past experiences play a role, as you have mentioned.

Will the "electronically connected, social media" environment result in a preference to isolate oneself and make face to face interaction less preferred and therefore less important to people?

I believe Dale Carnegie had it right (HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE). His principles should continue to apply, and he certainly would encourage us to show interest in others. Greeting a stranger would obviously fall into this category!

Enjoy your Northern summer!!


I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?

[retiredguy123]

One Sunday morning, I was picking up my mail. A woman was having trouble getting a newspaper from the machine, so I asked if I could help. She said she had only brought 3 quarters and a nickel. But, when I said that I would be happy to give her a quarter, she replied, "Oh no, I'll walk home and get my own quarter". I thought that was pretty rude.

[banjobob]

When we bought here 9 years ago everyone seemed to wave as being part of big family . With the influx of northerners small town old fashioned friendliness is gone, scowls and gloom seems to be their natural manner.

[thevillages2013]

One Sunday morning, I was picking up my mail. A woman was having trouble getting a newspaper from the machine, so I asked if I could help. She said she had only brought 3 quarters and a nickel. But, when I said that I would be happy to give her a quarter, she replied, "Oh no, I'll walk home and get my own quarter". I thought that was pretty rude.
She was probably worried that your quarter had Covid on it. Probably washes her coins. You should have dropped a quarter on the concrete and walked off.

[Girlcopper]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?i usually give a quick nod or Ill be waving all day while in the golf cart, walking pth etc. ive gotten a glare when they missed the nod. Too bad, buddy. Im out for my exercise. I made the attempt and you missed it. Go home and be miserable!!

[billlaur]

Stranger danger

[Eileenrush]

This poem came to mind

Smiling is Infectious
By: Spike Milligan

Smiling is Infectious
You catch it like the flu
When someone smiled at me today
I started smiling too

I passed around the corner
And someone saw my grin
When he smiled I realized
I had passed it on to him

I thought about that smile
Then I realized it’s worth
A single smile just like mine
Could travel round the earth

So if you feel a smile begin
Don’t leave it undetected
Let’s start an epidemic quick
And get the world infected

[Cheapbas]

Walking, riding my bike or out in the cart I always look to say hi, wave or even nod.

Some people seem deep in thought and don’t look up, but that’s ok, I don’t take it as rude I just assume they have a lot on their mind.

[rochellepfaff]

I wave at every person I see when I riding on the golf cart, even though 98% do not wave back.

While they may have forgotten that they are fortunate to live in such a beautiful place and decide to be cranky old farts (COF) instead, I have not and refuse to let them ruin my good time.

I walk every morning and many golf carts pass by. Some people do wave, but often, it's right as they are passing. It's too late to wave back. And sometimes, I'm just not looking at the cart, so I have no idea if they waved. Most of the time, if the sun is in my eyes, which if often is as it is just coming up, I cannot see into the cart, and have no idea if they waved. So if I don't wave back, it is not because I'm unfriendly. It's becasue I didn't know you waved, or it was too late to respond.

[Greg Evans]

They have moved here from NY and are bringing their rudeness with them

[nick demis]

Before we moved here and after the start of covid, my wife used to think I was nuts when I would talk to people, especially the workers in the supermarket. All the workers appreciated it and most of the shoppers seemed to perk up. Moving here it seems that the people IN the Villages are friendly but as soon as you go outside, people are like they were up north.

[La lamy]

Maybe some have other things on their mind more important at that moment than waving at a stranger?

Maybe they didn't see you waving? Or maybe their arm got tired at waving at the last 30 passing carts. Or maybe they thought you were waving at someone else? Everyone doesn't constantly stare into incoming golf cart windows seeing how people are reacting to them. We walk every morning and occasionally miss returning a wave here or there because we are looking at he golf course or flowers or birds "in such a beautiful place" so don't take it personally or judge people simply by the lack of a wave. Best place to be if you want your wave returned 100% of the time is Disney. People aren't always going to be paying attention to your golf cart when they are walking or running or looking at nature. If maybe I was one who forgot to wave to you this morning here is a few free waves:


:wave::wave::wave::wave::wave::wave::wave::wave:

You bring up some good points.

[CaptainMeso]

Welcome to mid-west meets New York and California. I’ll say hi to you La Lamy and do so to everyone else. If they want to be unfriendly so be it not going to change my attitude.

[Blackbird45]

I'm a New Yorker and I find the people here very friendly in comparison. It actually took me a while to get use to people waving as I drove by or smiling as a walk pass them. You have to remember the Villages have people from all over the country. Please don't take it personably

[dewilson58]

One Sunday morning, I was picking up my mail. A woman was having trouble getting a newspaper from the machine, so I asked if I could help. She said she had only brought 3 quarters and a nickel. But, when I said that I would be happy to give her a quarter, she replied, "Oh no, I'll walk home and get my own quarter". I thought that was pretty rude.

Your wife is a proud woman.

[dewilson58]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?

Maybe it's your smile.

[forebubba]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?
Moved permanently here in 2008. We had been visiting my in laws since 2001. It was the friendliest home town when everyone greeted everyone in passing. Sadly this is no longer the case because a small percentage of people take their sence of entertainment too far. Some are just miserable people. I just smile to myself if they don't respond to a friendly greeting of wave.
Enjoy your life.

[G.R.I.T.S.]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?

I would add being southern helps. I was told not to be a knot on a log.

[Mrodmh]

If you expect to be thanked, don’t do it.

[Mrodmh]

I say Hi/Hello to everyone, I don't care if they reply.

Only time I get the red arse is when I hold the door for someone and they can't be bothered to say thanks. This will cause me to loudly say "You're welcome" and then go about my day.

Don't let people live rent free in your head, you do you.


If you expect to be thanked, don’t do it. Saying “you’re welcome” in a passive aggressive way is completely immature.

[graciegirl]

I enjoyed reading these responses. I find it reassuring to know that most people are friendly and most are kind. Maybe because in life we learn to dismiss and walk away from those who aren't.

I think people who choose to come here, and we all did, are automatically not choosing high rises and places that make you a little more isolated.

I don't know why. I know that people who want the warmth of friendship will find it here and perhaps they would find it most anywhere.

I don't know if we are the friendliest home town, but opportunities abound and nice caring people are everywhere.

Good Morning!

[Two Bills]

This poem came to mind

Smiling is Infectious
By: Spike Milligan

Smiling is Infectious
You catch it like the flu
When someone smiled at me today
I started smiling too

I passed around the corner
And someone saw my grin
When he smiled I realized
I had passed it on to him

I thought about that smile
Then I realized it’s worth
A single smile just like mine
Could travel round the earth

So if you feel a smile begin
Don’t leave it undetected
Let’s start an epidemic quick
And get the world infected

Spike Milligan was a comedian and suffered badly from depression due to bipolar disorder, and also a hypocondriac.
He died aged 84.
His grave stone bears the great line.

'I told you I was ill'

[kendi]

There are many reasons why someone won’t respond to another’s greeting. I greet others because I enjoy being friendly. How they respond or not is not my business and I don’t give it a second thought.

[cj1040]

It varies...most people from big cities or especially up north do not acknowledge strangers...think walking in NYC etc. That continues after they move and some people are just not that friendly!

[butlerism]

Yes and Yes.

It was our parents training and some people are just locked up for whatever reasons.

I say hello to everyone, even stop and talk. After all this is The Villages.

As a former military Officer we were instructed to convey the greeting of the day.

That could be serious or funny.
Always be armed with a quick diddy to pull a giggle

Funny lines are always good starters.... like if you see a couple...

1- " You let him out with that shirt on"
2- " You two make such a sweet couple, A couple of what... I don't know"
3- " Someone walking their Dog, ask Who is Waling who?"

Life is short Avoid the Mean people.
I can typically spot bad behaviors quickly, and avoid those peeps

[Ecuadog]

They have moved here from NY and are bringing their rudeness with them

May I ask from where you brought your abundance of politeness?

[dtennent]

We moved from upstate NY in a rural area where everyone waved as they went by. When I am out walking, I try to wave and smile at all who pass by - especially those in golf carts driving into the sun. Want to make sure that they see me!

[Tim C.]

Like other things in TV, and something many of you might be familiar with, it "depends"

[roob1]

Don't you wish people would stop clumping together NYC and NY state? Upstate (Albany and north) and western NY are so different from NYC.


We moved from upstate NY in a rural area where everyone waved as they went by. When I am out walking, I try to wave and smile at all who pass by - especially those in golf carts driving into the sun. Want to make sure that they see me!

[EdFNJ]

There are many reasons why someone won’t respond to another’s greeting. I greet others because I enjoy being friendly. How they respond or not is not my business and I don’t give it a second thought.

BINGO! The correct answer to this entire thread!

[Marjorie Hardman]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?
I totally agree and do the same when I hold a door for someone and they can't be bothered to say "thank you".

[gbs317]

I consider myself a friendly person and like saying hello or waving or even a smile to everyone I meet. Now that being said if someone doesn’t return your greeting don’t let it worry you. You never know how one is feeling, as we get older maybe the aches are a little extra this day or we had a bit of bad news or simply he or she did not see you because their mind is on something else. Don’t let it get you down or upset just know that you have offered your smile or greeting in good faith. Never expect a greeting in return but if you get one, to me, that’s icing on the cake.

[Travelingal702]

I had just left a big meeting and was headed into a shop. A lady stopped me to tell me how "pretty" I looked. And remarked that, "....you're even wearing make-up". I took it all as a compliment and it really made my day! A few nice words can make a person's day and it certainly doesn't hurt the person making the compliments. Kindness goes a long way!

[MandoMan]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?

Some people here are from places where smiling at people is uncommon, but many eventually unwind. I tend to smile at most people—or at least I think I do, though maybe they don’t recognize it as a smile. Most smile back. It makes life good. I here that in NYC people learn to avoid eye contact, but I don’t care. I try to make eye contact just for fun when I’m there—and to cheer them up a little.

[Barb.callow]

Loretta Bobette is her hero — BWAHAHAHAHA!!!!

[EdFNJ]

I consider myself a friendly person and like saying hello or waving or even a smile to everyone I meet. Now that being said if someone doesn’t return your greeting don’t let it worry you. You never know how one is feeling, as we get older maybe the aches are a little extra this day or we had a bit of bad news or simply he or she did not see you because their mind is on something else. Don’t let it get you down or upset just know that you have offered your smile or greeting in good faith. Never expect a greeting in return but if you get one, to me, that’s icing on the cake.
Exactly. Evidently some folks are so needy for recognition they take it personally when they aren't "thanked" for being friendly. ;)

[lstevenson1470]

I almost always smile and say "good morning" or "hi" to people here in The Villages and other places. It makes me happy, especially when they respond in-kind. The worst thing that happens is when someone lonely proceeds to tell me their life story. It is a small price to pay for making someone else happy for a few minutes.

[KRMACK55]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?
TV is not Florida’s friendliest hometown. I lived in a small town in Michigan and we are met each other helped each other and when I bought my designer house I thought it was the same. It is not even close. My neighbors do not wave or check on each other however those who have doggies I’ve
Noticed are very friendly. Having had a fractured wrist and other things here it helped me to clarify that this not where I want to spend the next 30 years. It’s too big, corporate and artificial.

[Bogie Shooter]

TV is not Florida’s friendliest hometown. I lived in a small town in Michigan and we are met each other helped each other and when I bought my designer house I thought it was the same. It is not even close. My neighbors do not wave or check on each other however those who have doggies I’ve
Noticed are very friendly. Having had a fractured wrist and other things here it helped me to clarify that this not where I want to spend the next 30 years. It’s too big, corporate and artificial.

Wow!

[Jim1mack]

Nice post.

[dewilson58]

Wow!

I was thinking the same thing.
Maybe this guy IS the guy on #4, Destin, Bonifay.
:ohdear:

[Velvet]

I guess I’m used to the fact that no one owes you anything. If they give something like being friendly, it’s a bonus. Friendliness is more about giving and less about receiving.

[Heytubes]

When driving my cart I wave to everyone. Those that ignore me I honk my horn and wave again and always get a 100% wave back with a smile.

[jimjamuser]

In my group the females like to make the first move. A look, a smile etc.
Impressive group. Always easiest for the woman to make the 1st move. Men often question themselves and wonder if they can impress some visually spectacular woman. That IS why bars and alcohol were invented.

[Calisport]

Walking I see most people saying hello in retirement communities. On the west coast there are certain recent Asian cultures where it is not acceptable to greet strangers. So many people get upset when they wave and get no response here. In the villages I notice 99 percent smile and wave.

[HRDave]

Barb & I like people and always smile & wave in our cart & pleasantly greet people in the squares & restaurants.
I think a lot of people are kind of shy & then you have the naturally grouchy people who always walk around like they hate everybody.
Barb & I just view those as inherently unhappy people. It’s kind of sad because they miss out on the best part of The Villages. We have met so many great people here. That’s one of the best parts of The Villages!

[patrickj]

Where possible I always say "hello" and don't worry if they reply. Good statement, don't let them live in your head if they don't acknowledge. Life is too short.

[ThirdOfFive]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?
I do a lot of walking on "multi-use" (?) paths and make it a point to smile and wave at everyone I meet. Nearly everyone responds in kind. I also make it a point to step off the pavement and walk on the grass when a cart or a bicycle is coming my way. Seems to be appreciated.

[Two Bills]

Regarding what our parents taught regarding talking to strangers.
I could never understand why I could not take sweets from 'strange men.'
Most of my family were totaly wierd and strange compared to 'strange men.' and they didn't even offer sweets.
For years I thought "because" was some sort of disease!
And if I was spotted speaking to a neighbor, the first thing I was asked was, "What did you say? What did you tell them?"
Our house was like the Spanish Inquisition, only tougher.
We had more secrets than MI5, but as no one told me what they were, how the b****y heck was I supposed to tell them to others.
80 odd years later, I still don't know what the £$%*&! secrets were! :shrug:

[TNKYGAL]

As a retired high school teacher, I've had years of mandatory "suicide training" that included a true story of a suicidal teen who dropped his books while walking home (where he planned to end it all), and was surprised when a friendly classmate smiled and helped him pick up the books. He aborted the planned suicide. I believe that we never know when our expression of kindness & caring - whether a smile, a compliment, helping with coins or a door held open - may have made a difference in someone's life for a moment, a day or even longer.
When in The Villages, I've experienced a hefty dose of friendliness through smiles, waves & friendly conversations with strangers who often quickly become friends. Genuine smiles always lift my spirits! Wave and smile away!! But as others have stated, if not returned, don't assume it's because someone is hateful and rude - I'm sure we all miss opportunities! Just continue enjoying your day - who knows, you may have made a difference to someone along the way! :)

[Garywt]

We call people that don’t waive back or say hi, the unfriendlies.

[valuemkt]

Many people who spent years in corporate america, especially those who spent a vertain amount of time in HQ and Regional HQ offices, were "trained" by example to develop the "hallway stare". That is, en route from one meeting to another, they could pass a gaggle of people along a hallway and NEVER make eye contact with any of them. They then digressed to passing a single person in that hallway and looked straight through them, but never at them. A well meaning Hi, How's it going, were never returned.

It is incredibly refreshing to quickly develop greeters / wavers wrist problem by waving to nearly everyone you pass by in the Villages. I would say the people that still practice the hallway stare are less than 5% here.

[La lamy]

When driving my cart I wave to everyone. Those that ignore me I honk my horn and wave again and always get a 100% wave back with a smile.

:1rotfl: :1rotfl: :1rotfl: :1rotfl: That's a pretty aggressive way to go about being nice!!! :1rotfl::1rotfl:

[Velvet]

Walking I see most people saying hello in retirement communities. On the west coast there are certain recent Asian cultures where it is not acceptable to greet strangers. So many people get upset when they wave and get no response here. In the villages I notice 99 percent smile and wave.

In Hawaii too there are many Asians especially Japanese. I found a slight nod of the head makes them more receptive. Cultural differences, I guess.

[JudyTom]

Be careful when you buy things at City Furniture They refuse to take anything back once it leaves the store. Not very friendly is it for being in the friendliest city! Not only that but they do not even tell you when you buy something from them they have this policy..Read the fine print! We did not.

[GOLFER54]

I’ve had a two strike rule when I was at work. I See someone I say, “Hi or Hello “ if I got no response from them no problem, when I see same person I’ll say “ hi or hello “ again, no response, next time I see them I see them as invisible and walk by and say nothing. If perchance a person says hello to me, I’ve always responded with “ Hi how are you ? “ Many conversations have come from that meeting as well as many friends.

[Bella6368]

I've been wondering lately why some people choose not to smile or say hello when crossing others on the street or a walking trail. I'm not sure if it's because I was born in a small town, but I love spreading cheer whenever I can. When I was in a big city for decades I didn't expect it, but love the TV village I'm in because so many people like to say hello. In my new northern summer home (125,000 population) I find there's some people who choose not to acknowledge my boyfriend and I when we are on a walk which feels so weird. What's your experience? Is what our parents teach us "don't speak to strangers" continue into adulthood for some of you, or do you prefer saying hello whenever you can?

My husband and I spent a month in the Villages last May, and found most everyone to especially friendly. With a population as large as The Villages, I suppose it is normal to say that there will always be a few who simply can't be bothered to spread some cheer. I have noticed there are some very arrogant posts on TOTV, that must be attached to "someone", so that's one possibility. I do think also though, some perhaps have health issues weighing heavily on their mind perhaps, and so their personal issues at hand may prevent them from being super friendly at the time. We personally find The Villages to be a very friendly community, especially compared to where my husband and I are coming from.

[Looking for next wife]

Monaghan Country Music Festival 2016 - Highlights - YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=43_oZa9z2t4)

I did not know where to post this. I stumbled on it and am hoping someone here knows better how to share it.

Please watch the children; they are awesome.

I dare you to watch this twice and not make yourself a drink, lol

Who says older people can't teach younger to have a good time

ENJOY, All of us Americans; new or old; let's get together!!

[mamamia54]

With the influx of northerners. Really. I smile at everyone I pass. I can easily strike up a conversation like I knew you all my life! We also pass golf carts and I smile and people stay stoned faced. I said so my hubby so much for the friendliest town. More like some people are miserable no matter where they live. Lighten up, be happy and enjoy what’s left of our lives.

[MaryAnne28]

When I walk in TV and in NY, I mostly greet those passing by. When I don’t, it’s not because I’m unfriendly. It’s either because I have my earbuds on and talking/listening to the person on the phone. Or it could be I have something I my mind that I’m thinking about and not looking around. I am from NY and considered friendly. Don’t take it personally and don’t label those that don’t acknowledge you today. Tomorrow they can be the first one saying hello.

[JMintzer]

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But they get a pass if they have a dog... :icon_wink:

[ROCKMUP]

If you expect to be thanked, don’t do it. Saying “you’re welcome” in a passive aggressive way is completely immature.

I do expect people to act correctly, simple decency isn't difficult nor does it cost you a single thing. If you're so lazy or self absorbed that you can't be bothered to reply, its what you'll get. I was raised better than that.



Immature, maybe but I'm good with that.

[mady101]

Thank you for the poem, Smiling is Infectious. Brought a smile to my face and will pass it on.

[cswett5234]

....A few nice words can make a person's day and it certainly doesn't hurt the person making the compliments. Kindness goes a long way!

good point, I know if I see a woman and there's something striking about her (nice shoes, cool hair, pretty dress...), I quickly mention it in passing and keep right on moving, not stopping to engage or make things awkward for her...just a short, "....hey, cool hair by the way..." and keep on walking. They don't need to think I'm stalking them or expecting dinner or more, just a simple compliment.

[Gpsma]

Oh please this isnt Podunk where u came from...TV has become a city.

I dont feel obligated to be Jed Clampet and wave and smile at everyone.

Someome waves or says hello i wil, respond. But im not driving in my car or golf cart thinking I should be the greeter of the Villages.

[Velvet]

good point, I know if I see a woman and there's something striking about her (nice shoes, cool hair, pretty dress...), I quickly mention it in passing and keep right on moving, not stopping to engage or make things awkward for her...just a short, "....hey, cool hair by the way..." and keep on walking. They don't need to think I'm stalking them or expecting dinner or more, just a simple compliment.

Some people don’t like to be commented on their looks, or what they wear. It’s not like everyone dresses for others’ attention. It is personal and they simply don’t care whether someone else likes it or not and they are not interested in hearing about it. There are better ways to start a conversation. Or a short genuine smile, that is usually appreciated.

[DruannB]

Today I accidentally scared the crap out of a woman who had stopped at the McDonald’s drive up. I ran up to her car because I heard a baby crying loudly. The woman was on her cell phone. Her newborn was in the back seat next to the door—which was wide open. When I got her attention and told her that her door was open, she looked back at her baby and started to cry. She said she had been driving for miles with the door open. I thank God I was friendly enough to get her attention but I have been worried ever since about a mother that ignores a newborn crying. And is on her cell phone while driving. We used to say it takes a village to raise a child. Obviously, it still does.

[Nucky]

When we bought here 9 years ago everyone seemed to wave as being part of big family . With the influx of northerners small town old fashioned friendliness is gone, scowls and gloom seems to be their natural manner.

Yeah those Canadian People are Rough!

You’ve gotta be kidding?

[Two Bills]

I was taking an early morning walk past Lake Sumpter a while ago, when I saw a guy swimming.
He was a really friendly chap who waved and greeted me several time before dissapearing. I acknowledged his greetings, wished him good morning, and continued my walk.
I heard on the news later that some poor man was found drowned at Lake Sumter.
So sad.:icon_wink:

[La lamy]

I was taking an early morning walk past Lake Sumpter a while ago, when I saw a guy swimming.
He was a really friendly chap who waved and greeted me several time before dissapearing. I acknowledged his greetings, wished him good morning, and continued my walk.
I heard on the news later that some poor man was found drowned at Lake Sumter.
So sad.:icon_wink:

Wow, that was dark humor!!! :1rotfl: :1rotfl: Glad there was a winky face included.

[JMintzer]

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