Question

[Travelingal702]

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

[MartinSE]

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

At 72 I am starting to forget things. And my kids always laughed at how I dress - LOL!

Depending on the magnitude of your forgetfulness it might pay to listen to them and have a chat with your doctor. As we age it gets harder and harder to form long term memories. But, like aging, it happens so slowly that it is hard for us to see, but others that don't see us every day notice more than we do.

I noticed me (and my wife noticed me) forgetting things last year. My PCP scheduled a meeting for me for a psych exam. The doctor gave me a series of tests over an hour or so, and said it is normal to begin having trouble forming long term memories as we age - everyone does. In my case the issue was greater than normal, and less than she could make a diagnosis from. So, I am scheduled to go back this year, to see how it is progressing.

Dementia is a generic term covering a lot of different types including Alzheimer's, lewd body dementia, etc etc. In my case one of the symptoms includes growing irritability. ( which is one reason I have to take vacations from here occasionally.)

I suggest being tested - in my case I want to know so I can make plans before I can't make plans.

Good luck.

PS: If your post was meant to be funny, or something, I apologize, it just struck a cord with me.

[Mortal1]

When you reach a certain mental age you start acting more like a child.

[Garywt]

I myself have chemo brain so that can be tough at times. As for our parents my mom is 90 and my mil is 81. Both live on there own and our siblings try to control their lives by connecting to the ring doorbell or controlling their Comcast or trying to do home improvements that might be needed etc. My wife and I are constantly asking them what do you want to do. My sister wanted to replace the furnace and roof on my moms house and I said that at 90 years old is it something that really needs to be done since they were both fine.

So I understand what you are saying but if you can manage on your own then let them know and hope they don’t get made and stop talking to you…

[MartinSE]

I myself have chemo brain so that can be tough at times. As for our parents my mom is 90 and my mil is 81. Both live on there own and our siblings try to control their lives by connecting to the ring doorbell or controlling their Comcast or trying to do home improvements that might be needed etc. My wife and I are constantly asking them what do you want to do. My sister wanted to replace the furnace and roof on my moms house and I said that at 90 years old is it something that really needs to be done since they were both fine.

So I understand what you are saying but if you can manage on your own then let them know and hope they don’t get made and stop talking to you…

It is a good thing to listen to those the love you. At some point you may NOT be able to live alone, but not realize it.

[JMintzer]

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

My kids started doing that as teenagers...

My oldest, (after being asked how to do something on iTunes for the 2nd time), once said, "I honestly don't know how you make it thru the day!"

I responded, "I taught you how to wipe your butt!"

That shut her up... For about a minute... :1rotfl::1rotfl::1rotfl:

[Stu from NYC]

Our grandkids who are 11 and younger know so much more than we do about so many things.

At least they are all polite about it.

[Topspinmo]

Depends on how much cash got stashed?

[GOLFER54]

I had to read your post 20 times before I could comment, all I can say is

[GmaLisaG]

Thank you ! Very well-stated! ������

[yourjoy]

I get patted on the head a lot. ������

[ThirdOfFive]

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.
No, it isn't just you. But I think that a lot of it (in my case anyway) is that they're not treating you as a child so much as they are showing concern. It may be an expression of love, not patronization.

[me4vt]

I mean seriously, who do they think they are! Ah what were we discussing now?



Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

[barbnick]

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

This is why I moved 1000 miles away! Now they have to visit, on my turf, to pick on me and insult me!
I think it is Karma. Or revenge!

[Two Bills]

Wife and I threatened to leave everything to the Cat Society.
We now enjoy living in squalor and our senility in peace!

[tophcfa]

Our daughter told us we need to chill out and stop being so hyper critical of other people. We responded by criticizing the hell out of her.

[Ken D.]

Our daughter told us we need to chill out and stop being so hyper critical of other people. We responded by criticizing the hell out of her.
Good one!

[Ksnyder065]

I always say that my kids did a good job raising me!

[charlieo1126@gmail.com]

I’m still shopping for clothes at 83 , I’m a Armani and Hugo Boss including my jeans and T shirts I only have one request of those who will inherit, please keep me well dressed even after I won’t notice anymore

[Boomer]

Wife and I threatened to leave everything to the Cat Society.
We now enjoy living in squalor and our senility in peace!


Luv it!

It sure is fun to mess with their heads to work things to our advantage.

For instance, I hate to shop for shoes. My daughter Boomette is a bit of a fashionista.

We have a family wedding coming up soon. I have found my dress, but I showed her the shoes I “plan” to wear. I knew those shoes would look quite hideous…….

Well, away she went and found several good choices for me — saved me a lot of time and aggravation.

She did not even realize that I pulled the same routine before a wedding a few years ago. She just thinks she has to save me from looking frumpy……….

Mwaaaa-ha-ha-ha :)

Boomer

[NewRealms]

Didn't you do that to your parents? Think about it. The cycle of life continues!

[davem4616]

There certainly are times when some of the kids call and they're asking more questions than they used to, but
we're now 1400 miles away from all of them.

I look at it as a special love from kids that actually care.

Yeah, I sometimes open the wrong cabinet, walk into a room and forget why I did it...but so what, it's just part of the natural aging process.

My wife has Alzheimer's ...THAT's a whole different level of cognitive loss

[asianthree]

Our kids and grands have never criticized about our lifestyle, our thoughts, or actions. Never correct us on something we may have missed or can’t remember. It would be an insult to do so. We would not do so in their life, so would not expect anything different

If they do have thoughts or comments, it is never to us. We raised them not to criticized, on what was not in their control. We have family discussions about small things, and major issues.

But every once in awhile you will here a Bless your heart ♥️ In one of their conversations, so they are not perfect.

[manaboutown]

Not at all with my children but the staff at the offices of physicians and dentists seem to treat me at age 80 somewhat as if I am in my second childhood. I find it amusing.

[Stu from NYC]

Luv it!

It sure is fun to mess with their heads to work things to our advantage.

For instance, I hate to shop for shoes. My daughter Boomette is a bit of a fashionista.

We have a family wedding coming up soon. I have found my dress, but I showed her the shoes I “plan” to wear. I knew those shoes would look quite hideous…….

Well, away she went and found several good choices for me — saved me a lot of time and aggravation.

She did not even realize that I pulled the same routine before a wedding a few years ago. She just thinks she has to save me from looking frumpy……….

Mwaaaa-ha-ha-ha :)

Boomer

What a great idea. Thank you will steal it.

[Tamarama]

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

Yes, MY children in their 30’s do it to me, and I have caught myself doing to my Mom. Working on it, having some healthy discussions with kids and warning them they won’t like it when their kids do it to them. Strange though it is so common! It is unintentional disrespect, would love to hear how others handle it.

[MartinSE]

Yes, MY children in their 30’s do it to me, and I have caught myself doing to my Mom. Working on it, having some healthy discussions with kids and warning them they won’t like it when their kids do it to them. Strange though it is so common! It is unintentional disrespect, would love to hear how others handle it.

I guess showing concern and love doesn't strike me as disrespect. Just the opposite.

Maybe unintended if you feel that way, so maybe a simple conversation that you don't like it would help?

[B-flat]

At 72 I am starting to forget things. And my kids always laughed at how I dress - LOL!





Dementia is a generic term covering a lot of different types including Alzheimer's, lewd body dementia, etc etc. In my case one of the symptoms includes growing irritability. ( which is one reason I have to take vacations from here occasionally.)



PS: If your post was meant to be funny, or something, I apologize, it just struck a cord with me.

Question I'm not familiar with "lewd body dementia?" Does that mean we forget how to have sexual relations. Sorry I couldn't resist it's actually "Lewy" body dementia.

[MartinSE]

Question I'm not familiar with "lewd body dementia?" Does that mean we forget how to have sexual relations. Sorry I couldn't resist it's actually "Lewy" body dementia.

LOL!! Yeah, my bad, typo. My fingers don't always do what my brain tells them to any more - LOL!

[Dsalmiery]

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

Nowadays - boys dress like girls and girls dress like boys. I'll stick to "the old way" to dress!

[B-flat]

At 72 I am starting to forget things. And my kids always laughed at how I dress - LOL!

Depending on the magnitude of your forgetfulness it might pay to listen to them and have a chat with your doctor. As we age it gets harder and harder to form long term memories. But, like aging, it happens so slowly that it is hard for us to see, but others that don't see us every day notice more than we do.

I noticed me (and my wife noticed me) forgetting things last year. My PCP scheduled a meeting for me for a psych exam. The doctor gave me a series of tests over an hour or so, and said it is normal to begin having trouble forming long term memories as we age - everyone does. In my case the issue was greater than normal, and less than she could make a diagnosis from. So, I am scheduled to go back this year, to see how it is progressing.

Dementia is a generic term covering a lot of different types including Alzheimer's, lewd body dementia, etc etc. In my case one of the symptoms includes growing irritability. ( which is one reason I have to take vacations from here occasionally.)

I suggest being tested - in my case I want to know so I can make plans before I can't make plans.

Good luck.

PS: If your post was meant to be funny, or something, I apologize, it just struck a cord with me.

LOL!! Yeah, my bad, typo. My fingers don't always do what my brain tells them to any more - LOL!

I thought it was a typo but figured you'd take it in good stride. :)

[jebartle]

Our kids and grands have never criticized about our lifestyle, our thoughts, or actions. Never correct us on something we may have missed or can’t remember. It would be an insult to do so. We would not do so in their life, so would not expect anything different

If they do have thoughts or comments, it is never to us. We raised them not to criticized, on what was not in their control. We have family discussions about small things, and major issues.


But every once in awhile you will here a Bless your heart ♥️ In one of their conversations, so they are not perfect.

Love that southern joke "Bless your heart"....

[JMintzer]

Nowadays - boys dress like girls and girls dress like boys. I'll stick to "the old way" to dress!

C'mon... Take a walk ion the wild side!


- Lou Reed

[Hoosierb4]

There are some new and promising treatments for Alzheimers in development. I've seen ads for trials near The Villages for of one of the leading candidates (Simufilam, I think it's called). Just google "Rethink ALZ" to find information.

[MartinSE]

There are some new and promising treatments for Alzheimers in development. I've seen ads for trials near The Villages for of one of the leading candidates (Simufilam, I think it's called). Just google "Rethink ALZ" to find information.

Thank you.

[Rwirish]

No, just you.

[ThirdOfFive]

There are some new and promising treatments for Alzheimers in development. I've seen ads for trials near The Villages for of one of the leading candidates (Simufilam, I think it's called). Just google "Rethink ALZ" to find information.
Sometimes I think that advances in medicine are really a two-edged sword. We keep our bodies alive long after our ability to use that body with anything resembling normalcy flees forever. It took my dad eight years to die, cooped up in a nursing home with Parkinson's which robbed him both his mind and his body. Yes, he was alive--barely--he couldn't move, feed himself or talk, but he definitely was NOT living, in any reasonable sense of that word. That was eighteen years ago now and it hurts whenever I think about it. Had it been his choice, he definitely would NOT have chosen such an exit.

We're lucky here in TV: our personal and retail spaces are designed to maximize the functionality of a geriatric population, and the availability of activities designed for us is huge. If we CAN function then this is the best place for us: Last year my wife and I played golf with a gentleman who was 96 years old, could still hit the ball well and was a lot of fun to be with. I remember on one tee he took off his jacket, stretched, and said "that warm sun makes me feel like I'm 85 again". If I live to be 96 that would be how I would elect to age, but how many of us really have that choice? All I know is that I'm going to live every day as if it were my last, and when it comes time to check out I'll have no regrets.

[MartinSE]

Sometimes I think that advances in medicine are really a two-edged sword. We keep our bodies alive long after our ability to use that body with anything resembling normalcy flees forever. It took my dad eight years to die, cooped up in a nursing home with Parkinson's which robbed him both his mind and his body. Yes, he was alive--barely--he couldn't move, feed himself or talk, but he definitely was NOT living, in any reasonable sense of that word. That was eighteen years ago now and it hurts whenever I think about it. Had it been his choice, he definitely would NOT have chosen such an exit.

We're lucky here in TV: our personal and retail spaces are designed to maximize the functionality of a geriatric population, and the availability of activities designed for us is huge. If we CAN function then this is the best place for us: Last year my wife and I played golf with a gentleman who was 96 years old, could still hit the ball well and was a lot of fun to be with. I remember on one tee he took off his jacket, stretched, and said "that warm sun makes me feel like I'm 85 again". If I live to be 96 that would be how I would elect to age, but how many of us really have that choice? All I know is that I'm going to live every day as if it were my last, and when it comes time to check out I'll have no regrets.

I understand, I always say that quality is more important than quantity. My PCP has my living will and in it I state, no extreme measures unless they feel confident that I will regain my quality of life.

Medicine, when it fixes the problem is great, but sometimes that comes at a steep cost in quality of life.

[OhioBuckeye]

But when your children start treating you like a second rate citizen like all of a sudden they’re 5 times smarter than you, how’s that make you feel? I know things have changed but does that make your children right or smarter than you? I’m not going to get controlled by my children. I do forget sometimes but my children & grandchildren still ask me how to fix things when they screw something up!

[DaleDivine]

Be nice to your children. They're the ones that will be picking out your nursing home...
:clap2::clap2:

[MartinSE]

But when your children start treating you like a second rate citizen like all of a sudden they’re 5 times smarter than you, how’s that make you feel? I know things have changed but does that make your children right or smarter than you? I’m not going to get controlled by my children. I do forget sometimes but my children & grandchildren still ask me how to fix things when they screw something up!

I take it as a sign they love and care about me. Doesn't mean I agree with them, doesn't mean anyone is smarter. It means they are concerned.

[craigrmorrison]

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.
I’m sure this can be true, however as an adult child of senior parents sometimes the benefit of the doubt in grace goes along way. Remember we love you!

On the flip slide, my favorite financial guru, Dave Ramsey, refers to the “powdered butt syndrome”. If someone has powdered your butt (as a baby) they are reluctant to take advice from their children. lol

[LianneMigiano]

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.For me it was quite the opposite. When my father had to give up his driver's license (couldn't pass the eye test) I went to live with him until we could find reliable help for him. He treated me just like I was a little girl and I was more than 50 years old!:ohdear:

[OhioBuckeye]

Nursing Home, then they’ll be a comment here asking how can nursing homes rob us seniors & take all our money. I’ll give all my money to my children or grandchildren to take me in. I’m not rich but not poor either. Nursing Homes are just money grabbers, they don’t care that much how you’re treated, they’re just interested in getting your money just as fast as they can before you die!

[MartinSE]

Nursing Home, then they’ll be a comment here asking how can nursing homes rob us seniors & take all our money. I’ll give all my money to my children or grandchildren to take me in. I’m not rich but not poor either. Nursing Homes are just money grabbers, they don’t care that much how you’re treated, they’re just interested in getting your money just as fast as they can before you die!

Predatory Capitalism - Capitalism gone bad.

Sadly some (most?) are warehouses that store someone until they die. They maximize profit without regard to the health and welfare of the body being stored there.

Some, do care, we had to placed my wife's mother in one in Oregon and it was fantastic. Lot of communication with us. They listened and responded to all of her mothers complains (she complained a lot of everything). And they went out of their way at the end to help my wife that flew out to be there.

It's too bad we can't make predatory capitalism illegal, it is certainly immoral.

[Wyseguy]

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

They love you. They care for you as you cared for them when they were little. Sure, we may not require it, but I accept it as a show of love. You are fortunate.


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[Wyseguy]

Yes, MY children in their 30’s do it to me, and I have caught myself doing to my Mom. Working on it, having some healthy discussions with kids and warning them they won’t like it when their kids do it to them. Strange though it is so common! It is unintentional disrespect, would love to hear how others handle it.

Why not just smile and hug them. They are showing they care for and love you.

[Wyseguy]

Nursing Home, then they’ll be a comment here asking how can nursing homes rob us seniors & take all our money. I’ll give all my money to my children or grandchildren to take me in. I’m not rich but not poor either. Nursing Homes are just money grabbers, they don’t care that much how you’re treated, they’re just interested in getting your money just as fast as they can before you die!

Paying 6,700.00 a month for assisted living (All meals are included). If you and your widfe/husband work, and if your parent requires constant care, there is little choice but an ALF or nursing home. It is very difficult on so many levels.

[OhioBuckeye]

You’re right but they believe in what their generation tells them to do, just like ours.But I’m not going to let my children or great grandchildren tell me to listen to rap music just because they don’t like what I listen to or tell me we have to get with their times so I’ve got to change. Actually it’s not so much our children it’s our crazy society that’s trying to tell us what we have to do. Not knocking our children, they’re 45 to 53 yrs. old. I blame our legal system, teachers & the rest of our society for the way we’re headed!

[MartinSE]

You’re right but they believe in what their generation tells them to do, just like ours.But I’m not going to let my children or great grandchildren tell me to listen to rap music just because they don’t like what I listen to or tell me we have to get with their times so I’ve got to change. Actually it’s not so much our children it’s our crazy society that’s trying to tell us what we have to do. Not knocking our children, they’re 45 to 53 yrs. old. I blame our legal system, teachers & the rest of our society for the way we’re headed!

Interesting that you interpreted the question to be about things like a music style. I interpreted it as being about things involving safety. I guess we all see the world through our own sunglasses.

[Boomer]

You’re right but they believe in what their generation tells them to do, just like ours.But I’m not going to let my children or great grandchildren tell me to listen to rap music just because they don’t like what I listen to or tell me we have to get with their times so I’ve got to change. Actually it’s not so much our children it’s our crazy society that’s trying to tell us what we have to do. Not knocking our children, they’re 45 to 53 yrs. old.I blame]our legal system, teachers & the rest of our society for the way we’re headed!



Oh yeah, never miss an opportunity to scapegoat and whip out that big ol' wide brush to slop toxic, monochromatic paint all over teachers. . . And then join that power-crazed crowd, carrying pitchforks and torches to go after teachers for imagined grievances, propagated by lies -- until dedicated teachers flee the profession and schools will be left with the bottom of the barrel to carry on "education."

I cannot imagine why anybody of sound mind would go into teaching now. I would advise any young person to not even consider teaching and if already in it, to get outa Dodge while they still can.

But, I digress. Back to topic now. . .whatever that was........

Boomer

[CoachKandSportsguy]

I told both my kids, now in their 30's, that sometimes, old people get "funny", or say strange statement, because they are no longer in the workforce, and don't keep up with day to changes in the real world, and really could care less any more. .

And my kids have said that now they understand why I said what I did when they were teenagers and in college.

good luck

[MartinSE]

Oh yeah, never miss an opportunity to scapegoat and whip out that big ol' wide brush to slop toxic, monochromatic paint all over teachers. . . And then join that power-crazed crowd, carrying pitchforks and torches to go after teachers for imagined grievances, propagated by lies -- until dedicated teachers flee the profession and schools will be left with the bottom of the barrel to carry on "education."

I cannot imagine why anybody of sound mind would go into teaching now. I would advise any young person to not even consider teaching and if already in it, to get outa Dodge while they still can.

But, I digress. Back to topic now. . .whatever that was........

Boomer

Yup, so sad and true. Let's not fix a problem, let's just throw out the baby with the bath water.

It was not that long ago that countries from around the world sent representatives here to witness and learn about our:

Post Office
Public Schools
Law Enforcement
Interstate hi way system

And on and on. Then it became popular to hate on those instead of trying to fix the problems that had developed.

So, yeah, let's shut down all the public schools so we can become like every other third world country where only the rich are educated.

[Boomer]

I’m still shopping for clothes at 83 , I’m a Armani and Hugo Boss including my jeans and T shirts I only have one request of those who will inherit, please keep me well dressed even after I won’t notice anymore


This post caught my attention because I had just been in a conversation with a friend about what men wear. I had commented that I had been noticing that there are some successful young men, some of whom are very high-profile, who are dressing in just a simple t-shirt and jeans. No logo. No inane slogans. No stupid statements. And certainly no political proclamations. Just a plain, well-fitting t-shirt and good looking jeans. The t-shirts are always a dark color though. A white t-shirt might make the guy look like a fugitive from the cast of “Grease”. . .

I say yay to that understated, ironically classy look if it looks good on you — no matter how old you are.

Boomer