Not the friendliest people

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..

[Bilyclub]

Welcome to TOTV. Some people are just jerks. That being said there are two sides to every story.

[RICH1]

Lots of anger on that South end near the Turnpike & Swamp. All that skin falling off, and the body cavity leakage issues in the pool, would be my main concern! The chlorine is doing what it can do, to kill the germs! Splash for smiles

[vintageogauge]

Lots of anger on that South end near the Turnpike & Swamp. All that skin falling off, and the body cavity leakage issues in the pool, would be my main concern! The chlorine is doing what it can do, to kill the germs! Splash for smiles

This reply reaffirms what BilyClub stated in his reply.

[Velvet]

Older people have difficulty with high pitch sounds children make (it physically hurts them), the childrens’ speed, and lack of consideration - all which come with age (usually). It is hard to mix children and older people well. A parent or grandparent wants to indulge the child, let them have fun, be children. In a public place this comes at the cost of making some other people suffer. What I see described here is that there are some older people who want to enjoy the rec pool and there are some children who want to enjoy the rec pool. There is nothing wrong with teaching the children how to behave in public reasonably (it sets them up for a good social life later), however, when and if other people are unreasonable (ie. expect children to act like considerate adults) there is nothing wrong with showing them how not to be bullied either.

[Garywt]

You should expect kids and noise at a family pool. Just tell them to go to their or an adult pool.

[Happydaz]

I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..

We ran into some unfriendly adults as well at that same pool. We had our grandchildren with us and one lady, in particular, kept scowling if the kids made any noise. She had a deep tan and kept her radio on at a high volume. You could tell she thought it was “her pool.” When she finally left she took her loud radio with her and all we were left with was the sound of happy children swimming in the pool.

[schwarz]

We ran into some unfriendly adults as well at that same pool. We had our grandchildren with us and one lady, in particular, kept scowling if the kids made any noise. She had a deep tan and kept her radio on at a high volume. You could tell she thought it was “her pool.” When she finally left she took her loud radio with her and all we were left with was the sound of happy children swimming in the pool.
Loud radios are not allowed. Call Community Watcg on the pool phone next time

[Stu from NYC]

I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..

This is why they have family pools. Perhaps another pool far away for people who think they own the place.

[MrFlorida]

Family pools are for families, and that includes grandkids. People who don't like it, can go to the adult pools. I would not let this spoil your fun, people here are generally friendly , sorry for your bad experience.

[Bogie Shooter]

This reply reaffirms what BilyClub stated in his reply.

I agree.

[tophcfa]

She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by.

No need to hold back in front of the kids, if you were at a family pool you were totally in the right. The world is full of AHOLES and it would be a good learning experience for the kids to watch first hand how to deal with them.

[New Englander]

I never go to family pools simply because I'd rather be in the adult only pools. Children will be children. That's why we have some family pools.:)

[vintageogauge]

A few kids running around is much better than winter traffic.

[brianherlihy]

ki had my grandsons at the f/p and i was told it was for the villages pople i have two paitos and a new home her . i told them to get lost

[Stu from NYC]

ki had my grandsons at the f/p and i was told it was for the villages pople i have two paitos and a new home her . i told them to get lost

You had every right to be at the family pool.

[DAVES]

I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..

We who were not there can only voice an OPINION. FOUR GRANDKIDS I expect grandma is far more tolerant of them than people not related to them.

[Stu from NYC]

We who were not there can only voice an OPINION. FOUR GRANDKIDS I expect grandma is far more tolerant of them than people not related to them.

Well she was nice enough to keep them on the other side of the pool well away from the grouch

[thevillages2013]

You should expect kids and noise at a family pool. Just tell them to go to their or an adult pool.

Yeah but the Adult Pool may be a quarter mile further than the family pool. Do you expect them to drive that incredibly long distance?:bigbow: Especially with the gas prices now!

[thevillages2013]

No need to hold back in front of the kids, if you were at a family pool you were totally in the right. The world is full of AHOLES and it would be a good learning experience for the kids to watch first hand how to deal with them.

I fully endorse this response! No really , if you want the little ones to learn how to deal with conflict just let them watch what your response is . It’s a real world out there people and these kids need to learn early

[Freehiker]

I never go to family pools simply because I'd rather be in the adult only pools. Children will be children. That's why we have some family pools.:)

Exactly.

[Decadeofdave]

On some days I "shop around" for a pool with only a few people. Just drive down Canal Street, there are 5 pools in a 1 mile distance.

[asianthree]

We who were not there can only voice an OPINION. FOUR GRANDKIDS I expect grandma is far more tolerant of them than people not related to them.

Sure, keep two at the pool, with grandma and leave the other 2 home alone. Or drop off 2 at the pool, and grandma stays at home with the other 2. Which ever works for you, and makes your day better. (Insert Sheldon Sign).

Guessing you might be the same as the person angry that KIDS were at the FAMILY POOL. 2 options sit at adult pool, or the one in your backyard, t o avoid any contact with children no matter how many.

[Stu from NYC]

Yeah but the Adult Pool may be a quarter mile further than the family pool. Do you expect them to drive that incredibly long distance?:bigbow: Especially with the gas prices now!

Easy walk downhill both ways:icon_wink:

[tophcfa]

My dog's a better speller.

So is ours, she just can't seem to hit the keyboard correctly with her paws.

[Worldseries27]

ki had my grandsons at the f/p and i was told it was for the villages pople i have two paitos and a new home her . I told them to get lost
m havn wat u hvn
brp

[tsmall22204]

You make it sound as if you were wronged, now i would like to hear the other side of that story.

[Luggage]

To the poster who had the problem with the lady with the radio, I would have gone over to her picked up her radio said how nice it was and then accidentally thrown it in the pool .

[Worldseries27]

i have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last sunday at cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so i could not respond like i wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to andy the regional manager of pool to make sure i was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that i did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: If you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..
you taught your gcs valuable life lessons about self control and being the better person.
Kudos
the rest are details

[Eg_cruz]

I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..
Sorry this happen to you. Let the kids have fun. Grumpy old folks…..I honestly can imagine beeping so cracking at kids in a pool.
Enjoy your visit with the little ones

[Worldseries27]

lots of anger on that south end near the turnpike & swamp. All that skin falling off, and the body cavity leakage issues in the pool, would be my main concern! The chlorine is doing what it can do, to kill the germs! Splash for smiles
should add " diot" to handle.

[Eg_cruz]

Spellcheck.
Proof read.
I was going to ask
Wine or keyboard

[mcwood4d]

I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..

I have encountered this.

The villagers who complain about children at family pools need to be advised that there are other pools available to them.

Ask them to help you understand which of the posted rules your grands are violating...then show them the gate.

Life is too short.

[Eg_cruz]

m havn wat u hvn
brp
Hahahahaha
Wine time

[RoyCooper]

She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by.

Excuse me ma'am, please don't use that foul language in front of my grandkids. Get out of my face or I'll be forced to call Neighborhood Watch. Now buzz off.

No reason for you to resort to foul language, but you don't have to "take it". Be clear and follow through if it continues.

[me4vt]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!

[Kgcetm]

Don’t let these people get away with it. Tell them it’s a family pool and you are within the rules. If they don’t like it they should leave.

Entitlement isn’t something you get with age.

[MartinSE]

Excuse me ma'am, please don't use that foul language in front of my grandkids. Get out of my face or I'll be forced to call Neighborhood Watch. Now buzz off.

No reason for you to resort to foul language, but you don't have to "take it". Be clear and follow through if it continues.

Exactly. No need for foul language and or illegal actions. remain calm (screen later) and say that.

[MSGirl]

Older people have difficulty with high pitch sounds children make (it physically hurts them), the childrens’ speed, and lack of consideration - all which come with age (usually). It is hard to mix children and older people well. A parent or grandparent wants to indulge the child, let them have fun, be children. In a public place this comes at the cost of making some other people suffer. What I see described here is that there are some older people who want to enjoy the rec pool and there are some children who want to enjoy the rec pool. There is nothing wrong with teaching the children how to behave in public reasonably (it sets them up for a good social life later), however, when and if other people are unreasonable (ie. expect children to act like considerate adults) there is nothing wrong with showing them how not to be bullied either.

First, MANY of the residents down south are not elderly…unless you consider 50s elderly. Second, this is a family pool. I agree, if you want quiet, then go to one of the MANY adult pools in The Villages. Unless the kids were performing dangerous stunts that effect other swimmers, then let grandma know in an adult manner,

[golfing eagles]

To the poster who had the problem with the lady with the radio, I would have gone over to her picked up her radio said how nice it was and then accidentally thrown it in the pool .

In which case you would likely be arrested for vandalism.

[Worldseries27]

kids aren’t welcome in a retirement community, that’s why we move here!!
i've seen this movie before

[Madelaine Amee]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!

Unfortunately, I think you are correct in your assessment; but The Villages openly encourages Grandparents to have their Grandchildren here for a month during the summer. Something called Summer Camp I think.

That said, I think the adults were at the wrong pool It is a FAMILY pool. Have you ever been to a family pool? It is like being at a Disney pool.

[Stu from NYC]

Excuse me ma'am, please don't use that foul language in front of my grandkids. Get out of my face or I'll be forced to call Neighborhood Watch. Now buzz off.

No reason for you to resort to foul language, but you don't have to "take it". Be clear and follow through if it continues.

Need to set an example to your grandkids be firm but polite and than up the stakes if necessary

[Stu from NYC]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!

My kids and grandkids are always going to be made welcome here. Sorry if you disagree.

[Travelhunter123]

Older people have difficulty with high pitch sounds children make (it physically hurts them), the childrens’ speed, and lack of consideration - all which come with age (usually). It is hard to mix children and older people well. A parent or grandparent wants to indulge the child, let them have fun, be children. In a public place this comes at the cost of making some other people suffer. What I see described here is that there are some older people who want to enjoy the rec pool and there are some children who want to enjoy the rec pool. There is nothing wrong with teaching the children how to behave in public reasonably (it sets them up for a good social life later), however, when and if other people are unreasonable (ie. expect children to act like considerate adults) there is nothing wrong with showing them how not to be bullied either.
Family pools are for families with children. Children in pools having fun make noise
Why disturb a happy family

[Travelhunter123]

We ran into some unfriendly adults as well at that same pool. We had our grandchildren with us and one lady, in particular, kept scowling if the kids made any noise. She had a deep tan and kept her radio on at a high volume. You could tell she thought it was “her pool.” When she finally left she took her loud radio with her and all we were left with was the sound of happy children swimming in the pool.

Are radios allowed in pools

[Travelhunter123]

No need to hold back in front of the kids, if you were at a family pool you were totally in the right. The world is full of AHOLES and it would be a good learning experience for the kids to watch first hand how to deal with them.
Suggest you request help from Villages personnel

[golfing eagles]

Are radios allowed in pools

Not according to most manufacturer's owner's manuals, which usually includes a statement such as:

This product is not intended to be used underwater:1rotfl::1rotfl::1rotfl:

[PattiQ]

:boom:Older people have difficulty with high pitch sounds children make (it physically hurts them), the childrens’ speed, and lack of consideration - all which come with age (usually). It is hard to mix children and older people well. A parent or grandparent wants to indulge the child, let them have fun, be children. In a public place this comes at the cost of making some other people suffer. What I see described here is that there are some older people who want to enjoy the rec pool and there are some children who want to enjoy the rec pool. There is nothing wrong with teaching the children how to behave in public reasonably (it sets them up for a good social life later), however, when and if other people are unreasonable (ie. expect children to act like considerate adults) there is nothing wrong with showing them how not to be bullied either.

[Jbbest]

I took my grandsons (also noisy, rambunctious and were having FUN) to the same pool, had the same experience with two couples who didn't comprehend "Family pool." Same reaction.

[yamma3]

We have two rather loud grandchilden - I think I know which pool we will go to when they visit!:icon_wink:

[Two Bills]

Spellcheck.
Proof read.

carnt c wots rong wivit?

[SusanStCatherine]

Are radios allowed in pools

Only if it is plugged into an electrical outlet! Just kidding 😉

[Happydaz]

I took my grandsons (also noisy, rambunctious and were having FUN) to the same pool, had the same experience with two couples who didn't comprehend "Family pool." Same reaction.

I think the Cattail family pool is a particular problem pool where some local adults consider it their own personal pool. If I run into this situation again I will report it. Anyone else going there should be aware of this situation and report it as well. Since we are a rule driven community we should respect that family pools are for children and adults and neighborhood pools are for adults only. Follow the rules people.

[Topspinmo]

I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..


So sorry you and you’re grandkids had to experience that. What you experienced use to be very low percentage of villages. Now seems % has gone way up?

[SusanStCatherine]

Are radios allowed in pools

I just asked this question of the manager at Ezell Rec. She said that music should not be loud enough for others to hear at the adult pools - it's for personal use only. So if others can hear it, that is not allowed and she said you should call the rec center desk.

IMHO it is very rude to bring and blare your Bluetooth speaker plopping it at the pool edge to impose your tunes on others trying to read, take a nap, or have a nice peaceful conversation. That's why I asked. I wish the rule was posted.

They make waterproof ear buds so you are free to enjoy your music while in the pool.

Apparently the family pools and sports pools have the TV radio station playing over the speakers.

[Bill Torres]

I moved here knowing I had options that allows my family to visit us and one was the “Family Pool”.

[SusanStCatherine]

I was at a family pool on Thanksgiving day with my almost 30 year old daughter. There were many children there carrying on loudly and we were in our lounge chairs and could not even hear each other talk. We left and went to the adult pool even though rules say not for under 30. Common sense to many people.

[Topspinmo]

Older people have difficulty with high pitch sounds children make (it physically hurts them), the childrens’ speed, and lack of consideration - all which come with age (usually). It is hard to mix children and older people well. A parent or grandparent wants to indulge the child, let them have fun, be children. In a public place this comes at the cost of making some other people suffer. What I see described here is that there are some older people who want to enjoy the rec pool and there are some children who want to enjoy the rec pool. There is nothing wrong with teaching the children how to behave in public reasonably (it sets them up for a good social life later), however, when and if other people are unreasonable (ie. expect children to act like considerate adults) there is nothing wrong with showing them how not to be bullied either.

Then, the old people with mental problems need to go adult pools. The family pools are for kids.

[Topspinmo]

You make it sound as if you were wronged, now i would like to hear the other side of that story.

The other side ,it’s family pool, end of story..

[donfey]

I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..

Family pools are, well, FOR FAMILIES! And, as already suggested, some people are less than "friendly." They are not, and CAN NOT be happy because wherever they go, there they are. They belong in an "old folks home."

[Ruth Garza]

Sorry you had to endure that. As a counselor I learned that old doesn’t always equate to grumpy. If they’re a “glass bowl” at 70, they were more than likely a “glass bowl” at 30 too.

[OhioBuckeye]

Well it might be called the friendliest town in America but it’s still just another town or city in the U.S. Also just like any other city you have all walks of life. So just keep to yourself & don’t voice your opinion to anyone. But most people there are very nice!

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

The noise level is expected to be louder at family pools.

However, the running around part is not acceptable, and is against the rules. Here are the rules for the family pools:

It is requested that children 36 months of age and younger wear protective swim products.

Running, horseplay and throwing of any objects in the pool or deck area is prohibited.
Noodles, unbreakable masks, goggles, and small plastic buckets are the only items allowed in the pool.
Please encourage small guests to take bathroom breaks.
Approved life vests are permitted. Infant and toddler flotation devices are allowed with adult supervision.

[JMintzer]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!

We? Speak for yourself...

[A-2-56]

You are correct about the pools and if they want less “family” laughing and activity they need to move their grumpy old butts to an adult pool.
Stick up for yourself and don’t let them win.

[DAVES]

You make it sound as if you were wronged, now i would like to hear the other side of that story.

People are people. I am not aware of a single post on any issue where it says I didn't realize I WAS WRONG. As I posted FOUR GRAND KIDS. Grandma is surely more tolerant then are others.

My uncle had four kids. We spent a lot of time with them when I was just a bit older than the oldest one. They needed a babysitter and couldn't find one. I expect any they had used previously would not be dumb enough to do it again. In desperation they asked my sister to do it. She had to call my parents to rescue her. When, my parent arrived, I went with them, my sister was tied to a chair.

[Carlsondm]

He probably bumped into the grouchy woman at our adult pool who told people what noodles they could and could not use in the pool. She made an older couple (new home owners) leave because their sling chair was not appropriate.
We may have urged her to go pool hopping. : )

[New Englander]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!

Wrong! There are places in The Villages that accommodate children visiting their grandparents like family pools.

[ElDiabloJoe]

Lol, She should have come and yelled at me. My standard reply, as I've mentioned before, is simply "Write me a ticket." If they can't, they can kick rocks or pound sand. I'm not intimidated in the least by boorish or hostile people confronting me. Had a career full of it, phases me not one little bit.

[stevecmo]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!

I'm guessing there aren't a whole lot of places that YOU are welcome. :ohdear:

[charmed59]

I think the Cattail family pool is a particular problem pool where some local adults consider it their own personal pool. If I run into this situation again I will report it. Anyone else going there should be aware of this situation and report it as well. Since we are a rule driven community we should respect that family pools are for children and adults and neighborhood pools are for adults only. Follow the rules people.

Where is the closest adult pool to the Cattail pool?

[Ecuadog]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!

I'll bet that Will Rogers never met you.

[Bobro44]

OMG, grumpy old people -- who'da thunk? Wouldn't be The Villages without some. ...which I, I must admit, was one yesterday for unrelated reasons.

[Happydaz]

Where is the closest adult pool to the Cattail pool?

You may have the answer there. Maybe they have a lack of neighborhood, i.e. adult, pools south of 44.

[RVJim]

First, MANY of the residents down south are not elderly…unless you consider 50s elderly. Second, this is a family pool. I agree, if you want quiet, then go to one of the MANY adult pools in The Villages. Unless the kids were performing dangerous stunts that effect other swimmers, then let grandma know in an adult manner,

65 and over is considered elderly by the medical profession.

[Gulfcoast]

Yeah but the Adult Pool may be a quarter mile further than the family pool. Do you expect them to drive that incredibly long distance?:bigbow: Especially with the gas prices now!

Actually, yes. If they want the quiet, calm experience of being at an adults only pool then they should go to the adult's only pool. If you can't tolerate children well it makes sense to steer clear of the family pool altogether. If children annoy you then it's probably wise to purchase a home closer to the adults only pool.

Now if the little rugrats were running on deck, screeching, cannon balling into the water and splashing people or smacking adults in the head with their water toys then that would be a problem for most adults. But since it was only a couple of adults expressing their irritation it does sound like the Op and her grandkids were behaving within reason. It was the grouches who were out of line.

[DaleDivine]

Older people have difficulty with high pitch sounds children make (it physically hurts them), the childrens’ speed, and lack of consideration - all which come with age (usually). It is hard to mix children and older people well. A parent or grandparent wants to indulge the child, let them have fun, be children. In a public place this comes at the cost of making some other people suffer. What I see described here is that there are some older people who want to enjoy the rec pool and there are some children who want to enjoy the rec pool. There is nothing wrong with teaching the children how to behave in public reasonably (it sets them up for a good social life later), however, when and if other people are unreasonable (ie. expect children to act like considerate adults) there is nothing wrong with showing them how not to be bullied either.


This is a family pool. Children like to have fun by yelling, playing, and being a little unruly. If the older adults don't like it there are ADULT pools for them as others have stated....
:bigbow::bigbow:

[Stu from NYC]

This is a family pool. Children like to have fun by yelling, playing, and being a little unruly. If the older adults don't like it there are ADULT pools for them as others have stated....
:bigbow::bigbow:

Very well said

[golfing eagles]

I was at a family pool on Thanksgiving day with my almost 30 year old daughter. There were many children there carrying on loudly and we were in our lounge chairs and could not even hear each other talk. We left and went to the adult pool even though rules say not for under 30. Common sense to many people.

So blatantly violating the rule concerning the age for adult pools is your definition of "common sense". Wow.

[Oldragbagger]

You may have the answer there. Maybe they have a lack of neighborhood, i.e. adult, pools south of 44.

There is a neighborhood “adult pool” at every postal and rec center down here south of 44 as far as I have seen and we get out and about quite a bit on our bikes exploring the neighborhoods.

[Bogie Shooter]

Well it might be called the friendliest town in America but it’s still just another town or city in the U.S. Also just like any other city you have all walks of life. So just keep to yourself & don’t voice your opinion to anyone. But most people there are very nice!

.”keep to yourself”
“ don’t voice opinion”
Is that the way you acted , before, leaving?
TV is not a keep to yourself place!

[gettingby]

I personally have tried my best to avoid violence however if someone starts yelling and using language around my grand children, man or woman be prepared to loose some teeth. I’ll face what ever consequences come from that no problem. Say what you want to me, we enjoy free speech but be ready for some pain. I won’t stop till they do.

[JSR22]

I personally have tried my best to avoid violence however if someone starts yelling and using language around my grand children, man or woman be prepared to loose some teeth. I’ll face what ever consequences come from that no problem. Say what you want to me, we enjoy free speech but be ready for some pain. I won’t stop till they do.

Being a bully is not a good example for your grandchildren. Lose not loose.

[gettingby]

Being a bully is not a good example for your grandchildren. Lose not loose.

Funny to me she’s being a bully. The best way to teach someone being a bully is for them to bleed. Her husband will remind her what happened last time she used that kind of language at the wrong time. You can’t go through life being a victim. Sounds to me like she’s long overdue for a good smack.

[JSR22]

Funny to me she’s being a bully. The best way to teach someone being a bully is for them to bleed. Her husband will remind her what happened last time she used that kind of language at the wrong time. You can’t go through life being a victim. Sounds to me like she’s long overdue for a good smack.

No evidence that she has a husband. If she has a husband he should not smack her. Do you smack your significant other, children or grandchildren?

[rsimpson]

Bingo! I would NOT have held back. The old grouch needs to move to another pool.

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

You make it sound as if you were wronged, now i would like to hear the other side of that story.

I believe that I was. I made sure that I took the kids to a family pool and adhered to the rules. Children will be children and I never let them get near her side of the pool where she was playing her radio.

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!

Then I guess you should tell the Villages not to hold summer camps for kids then. Their idea so that's why they're here...

[Worldseries27]

there is a neighborhood “adult pool” at every postal and rec center down here south of 44 as far as i have seen and we get out and about quite a bit on our bikes exploring the neighborhoods.
💯% correct and on top of that is sawgrass grove with ezell regionalllll recreation center and eastport and state of the art medical hospital and medical centers coming.
Sounds like some north of 44 are unenlightened, misinformed or just a shade of green.
" say it ain't so " unhappy.

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

[QUOTE=Happydaz;2106403]I think the Cattail family pool is a particular problem pool where some local adults consider it their own personal pool. If I run into this situation again I will report it. Anyone else going there should be aware of this situation and report it as well. Since we are a rule driven community we should respect that family pools are for children and adults and neighborhood pools are for adults only. Follow the rules people.[/QUO


Thank you for your comments. We thought that we were following the rules by taking them to a family pool. I can see by several other posts that this seems to be a problem at Cattail. Will not hesitate to report it if it happens again.

[DAVES]

I personally have tried my best to avoid violence however if someone starts yelling and using language around my grand children, man or woman be prepared to loose some teeth. I’ll face what ever consequences come from that no problem. Say what you want to me, we enjoy free speech but be ready for some pain. I won’t stop till they do.

What size orange jump suit do you wear?

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

Well it might be called the friendliest town in America but it’s still just another town or city in the U.S. Also just like any other city you have all walks of life. So just keep to yourself & don’t voice your opinion to anyone. But most people there are very nice!

Yes the Villages has someone from every walk of life but I did keep away from her side of the pool, making sure she wasn't splashed. I'm voicing my opinion because what she did was uncalled for and others should know. FYI...I've met alot of nice people here!

[GOLFER54]

When I go to a Family pool, I expect the kids to make noise and rough house. When I go to an Adult pool, I usually witness the same.

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

[QUOTE=Happydaz;2106496]You may have the answer there. Maybe they have a lack of neighborhood, i.e. adult, pools south of 44.[/QUOT


The new DeLuna section has an adult pool, just a few minutes down the road from cattail..

[Bogie Shooter]

I personally have tried my best to avoid violence however if someone starts yelling and using language around my grand children, man or woman be prepared to loose some teeth. I’ll face what ever consequences come from that no problem. Say what you want to me, we enjoy free speech but be ready for some pain. I won’t stop till they do.

So much could be said..................................

[Bogie Shooter]

What size orange jump suit do you wear?

Isn't that "did you wear"?

[asianthree]

I personally have tried my best to avoid violence however if someone starts yelling and using language around my grand children, man or woman be prepared to loose some teeth. I’ll face what ever consequences come from that no problem. Say what you want to me, we enjoy free speech but be ready for some pain. I won’t stop till they do.

Funny to me she’s being a bully. The best way to teach someone being a bully is for them to bleed. Her husband will remind her what happened last time she used that kind of language at the wrong time. You can’t go through life being a victim. Sounds to me like she’s long overdue for a good smack.

In today world of children being killed in school, and in drive by shootings, I am glad you have moved to a retirement community. So children are less likely to be exposed to the violence of beatings, and apparently striking women because you think they are long overdue.

[talonip]

Older people have difficulty with high pitch sounds children make (it physically hurts them), the childrens’ speed, and lack of consideration - all which come with age (usually). It is hard to mix children and older people well. A parent or grandparent wants to indulge the child, let them have fun, be children. In a public place this comes at the cost of making some other people suffer. What I see described here is that there are some older people who want to enjoy the rec pool and there are some children who want to enjoy the rec pool. There is nothing wrong with teaching the children how to behave in public reasonably (it sets them up for a good social life later), however, when and if other people are unreasonable (ie. expect children to act like considerate adults) there is nothing wrong with showing them how not to be bullied either.someone said it best. Go to the adult pool. Stay away from family pools or better yet put a pool in your back yard

[golfing eagles]

someone said it best. Go to the adult pool. Stay away from family pools or better yet put a pool in your back yard

Good suggestion. If they want a private pool, put in a private pool. Because it is almost a guarantee that the same people will get into a confrontation over something else at an adult pool.

[Ken Nelson]

We traveled across country to be here and saw every kind of person....it was awesome. When we arrived in The Villages we noticed that 90% of the folks were happy and that 10% were entitled and visibly had that on display.....I mentioned that observation to my sales agent and she hugged me and said you get it. After 3 months my opinion has not changed.....it is a very vocal 10%. Once we got that, we only focus on the 90%!

[coffeebean]

Older people have difficulty with high pitch sounds children make (it physically hurts them), the childrens’ speed, and lack of consideration - all which come with age (usually). It is hard to mix children and older people well. A parent or grandparent wants to indulge the child, let them have fun, be children. In a public place this comes at the cost of making some other people suffer. What I see described here is that there are some older people who want to enjoy the rec pool and there are some children who want to enjoy the rec pool. There is nothing wrong with teaching the children how to behave in public reasonably (it sets them up for a good social life later), however, when and if other people are unreasonable (ie. expect children to act like considerate adults) there is nothing wrong with showing them how not to be bullied either.
The OP stated it very well. Folks who don't want to hear children laughing and screaming and splashing in a pool should not go to a family pool. That is as simple as that. There are adult neighborhood pools for those who wish not to be around children. That would be me.

[coffeebean]

Spellcheck.
Proof read.

I don't think "spellcheck" entered that jibberish.

[coffeebean]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!
Where in the world did you get that Idea? Children are most certainly welcome in The Villages. Just ask all those grandparents who welcome their grandkids for visiting. They key word is "visiting". Children do not reside here but are certainly welcome for visits.

[Bogie Shooter]

I don't think "spellcheck" entered that jibberish.

Just some suggestions to avoid the gibberish…………
Did it enter jibberish?

[Madelaine Amee]

I believe that I was. I made sure that I took the kids to a family pool and adhered to the rules. Children will be children and I never let them get near her side of the pool where she was playing her radio.

If this happens to you and your Grandchildren again, I think you have to be more aggressive in your handling of the problem. If it were me I would suggest in a loud and very forceful voice that they control their foul language, pick up their loud radio and make their way to an adult pool where they belong. Make sure you say it in a voice loud enough to be heard by other pool attendees. You might add "this is a FAMILY" pool for children and relatives."

I am sure you will get a mouthful, but you will be in the right.

[Stu from NYC]

If this happens to you and your Grandchildren again, I think you have to be more aggressive in your handling of the problem. If it were me I would suggest in a loud and very forceful voice that they control their foul language, pick up their loud radio and make their way to an adult pool where they belong. Make sure you say it in a voice loud enough to be heard by other pool attendees. You might add "this is a FAMILY" pool for children and relatives."

I am sure you will get a mouthful, but you will be in the right.

Totally agree with you

[coffeebean]

Just some suggestions to avoid the gibberish…………
Did it enter jibberish?

No, that was me. I must have misspelled gibberish. My bad!

[flflowers]

You make it sound as if you were wronged, now i would like to hear the other side of that story.

Doesn't matter....FAMILY POOL . End of story

[Marathon Man]

We who were not there can only voice an OPINION. FOUR GRANDKIDS I expect grandma is far more tolerant of them than people not related to them.

Doesn't matter. It's a family pool.

[Marathon Man]

This is not the first time that someone has reported rudeness at the Cattail pool. Others have talked about some of the regulars there attempting to chase people away by claiming that Cattail is for residents in the immediate area only.

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

This is not the first time that someone has reported rudeness at the Cattail pool. Others have talked about some of the regulars there attempting to chase people away by claiming that Cattail is for residents in the immediate area only.

We should totally organize a get-together at the Cattail pool soon.

[Happydaz]

This is not the first time that someone has reported rudeness at the Cattail pool. Others have talked about some of the regulars there attempting to chase people away by claiming that Cattail is for residents in the immediate area only.

Cattail pool needs to be monitored more closely by recreation center employees to make sure no one is using a loud radio or harassing families with children. The guilty parties should be on notice that their days of ascendancy are over.

[Gulfcoast]

When I go to a Family pool, I expect the kids to make noise and rough house. When I go to an Adult pool, I usually witness the same.

Haha, so the adults at the adult pool can get rowdy, too? What exactly are they doing?

All of this has been interesting information. I suppose I'm used to the controlled chaos at a family pool. I assumed the adult pools were rather calm and sedate but maybe not?

[Gulfcoast]

This is not the first time that someone has reported rudeness at the Cattail pool. Others have talked about some of the regulars there attempting to chase people away by claiming that Cattail is for residents in the immediate area only.

Perhaps consider renaming it the Cat Fight pool?

[debem1@aol.com]

i have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last sunday at cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so i could not respond like i wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to andy the regional manager of pool to make sure i was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that i did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: If you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..
amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

We should totally organize a get-together at the Cattail pool soon.


That would be wonderful 😊
My husband and I love to meet new people in our area!!!

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

If this happens to you and your Grandchildren again, I think you have to be more aggressive in your handling of the problem. If it were me I would suggest in a loud and very forceful voice that they control their foul language, pick up their loud radio and make their way to an adult pool where they belong. Make sure you say it in a voice loud enough to be heard by other pool attendees. You might add "this is a FAMILY" pool for children and relatives."

I am sure you will get a mouthful, but you will be in the right.

Thank you for your comments. I was so caught off guard by her rudeness and language and that my grandkids were near by. I will be more forceful next time, I promise you. And by the way, I did tell her this was a family pool but that landed on deaf ears.

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

Totally agree with you


Thanks for agreeing. If it happens again, I will be more forceful in my response as I and kids did nothing wrong.

[NewtoFL]

When I go to a Family pool, I expect the kids to make noise and rough house. When I go to an Adult pool, I usually witness the same.
I have seen adults act pretty awful at the pools and many times had to put up with the boorish resident who thinks that everyone wants to listen to their music. Some people are just arrogant.

We are lucky that there is the option of the adult or family pool. In many communities there is no choice. My cousin was telling me about an old lady at her pool who had a fit because some kids accidentally splashed her. My cousin’s husband said in a loud voice “don’t you hate it when you get wet in the pool”. I’m still laughing. Some people are just miserable.

[Pairadocs]

I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..

I probably shouldn't even bother to answer but, throw caution to the wind I guess. All I can say is (what most hate to hear !).... it never used to be like that. Yes, you would never believe the kindness and friendliness of those you found here. I used to marvel at how in the world that could happen, how could one retirement area attract so many people of similar philosophy, general outlook, etc. But the bottom line is with growth came diversification, and with more and more and more growth, came extremes in every category from lack of respect for others, to speeding, trespassing, even theft of simple things; a beach towel, a sun hat. It's the way of the world I suppose, with growth comes a more and more diverse population. Also, the explosion of AB&B's, rental for income was individual, rare, and at one time was unbelievably controlled and regulated by the villages administration. At one time it was so tough to rent your place out, friends of ours made the decision not to even try to meet the villages regulations. So I guess your incident at the pool is the price of "progress". Incidentally, we frequent the country club pools and the family pools intentionally so we are surrounded by a variety of ages, including children. Others prefer to avoid that at all. So as you say, it's a shame those who want extreme quiet and not much age difference, don't just stick to those pools. We "seem" to have something for all types !

[Pairadocs]

I have seen adults act pretty awful at the pools and many times had to put up with the boorish resident who thinks that everyone wants to listen to their music. Some people are just arrogant.

We are lucky that there is the option of the adult or family pool. In many communities there is no choice. My cousin was telling me about an old lady at her pool who had a fit because some kids accidentally splashed her. My cousin’s husband said in a loud voice “don’t you hate it when you get wet in the pool”. I’m still laughing. Some people are just miserable.


I love your cousin's husband's reply, I'm still laughing and wasn't even there. Thanks for something "light". Last week we got trapped, and I do mean trapped, by one of those "boorish" types. A man, who "followed' people IN the water, and then would start telling them about HIMSELF, and how he was "featured" on the cover of a certain publication in this area, and he would not STOP, even when you turned to your companions and had your own conversation. He did this to us and to others. We finally left the pool to eat a snack.... this man got out of the water, brought a CHAIR near our table (not right up to it, but next to it) and had gotten a copy of the publication with his picture which he wanted to SHOW US. At that time, we started to get really nervous, but who would you tell that someone's constant "chattering" just doesn't seem "normal" ????

[NewtoFL]

My cousin’s husband is pretty funny.

Takes all kinds I guess.

[Hifred]

Marsh Bend is a beautiful area. I understand your frustration regarding having you grand kids at the pool and having a person criticize you in front of them. It is unfortunate that the neighborhood does not have a serenity pool near by. I really like peace and quiet at the pool and that is what turned me off about living in the Marsh Bend area. It is difficult to understand or justify the behavior you described and I am sorry your grandchildren had that experience here.

[kendi]

One side of the story. What’s the other? Oh, and it’s really nobody’s business but yours. Why put this on social media?

[Worldseries27]

Perhaps we need to resort to our id's being scanned at pool entrances. This way law and order might prevail at these sites where apparently bullies thrive because of their anonymity. Same principle used at our gates. Time-outs for offenders might work village wide.

[jaygbailey]

That’s too bad. I have met some really nice people at the pools and there have been some not so nice as well. It would be nice when you move to TV that you have to take an oath to do your part to make it “The Friendliest City in the World”.

[Eg_cruz]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!
I can feel the chill in the air

[Eg_cruz]

I'm guessing there aren't a whole lot of places that YOU are welcome. :ohdear:
Yuppers

[brianherlihy]

well guy next door called the cops on me . i told him to keep his dog off my grass. the cop had to wast time on him and i

[Madelaine Amee]

I probably shouldn't even bother to answer but, throw caution to the wind I guess. All I can say is (what most hate to hear !).... it never used to be like that. Yes, you would never believe the kindness and friendliness of those you found here. I used to marvel at how in the world that could happen, how could one retirement area attract so many people of similar philosophy, general outlook, etc. But the bottom line is with growth came diversification, and with more and more and more growth, came extremes in every category from lack of respect for others, to speeding, trespassing, even theft of simple things; a beach towel, a sun hat. It's the way of the world I suppose, with growth comes a more and more diverse population. Also, the explosion of AB&B's, rental for income was individual, rare, and at one time was unbelievably controlled and regulated by the villages administration. At one time it was so tough to rent your place out, friends of ours made the decision not to even try to meet the villages regulations. So I guess your incident at the pool is the price of "progress". Incidentally, we frequent the country club pools and the family pools intentionally so we are surrounded by a variety of ages, including children. Others prefer to avoid that at all. So as you say, it's a shame those who want extreme quiet and not much age difference, don't just stick to those pools. We "seem" to have something for all types !

Just my opinion, but your post gives a very good explanation of what is happening to TV. We moved here 18 yrs ago and over the past two to three years have gradually seen it degrade in many ways. I guess it was too good to last.

This is a rule driven community, but rarely does TV back their own rules. They should remember it takes no time at all to lose your good name and reputation and once it is gone it is hard to get it back.

[banjobob]

I guess I don’t take criticism well , I would have shown the grandkids what I was made of and ran the big mouth out of the pool with the old the geezer for butting in ,it is a family pool but wild kids behavior is not acceptable. Some people have kids that do not know how to behave publicly , see them in restaurants ,and other places. Screaming and hollering is not proper public behavior, no matter where you are.

[joelfmi]

Thank you for having the courage to talk about The Villages your transparency is greatly appreciated. From what I have read what they advertised about it is a lot of smoke and mirrors. That is why before are buy there I will do a lot of Due Diligence and not believe what management are saying about life there.

[rrtjp]

We who were not there can only voice an OPINION. FOUR GRANDKIDS I expect grandma is far more tolerant of them than people not related to them.
Exactly, kids will be kids but that doesn’t mean they should go unsupervised and doing anything they want. Two sides to every story. I like going to the family pools, I like kids especially when the adult that is with them is not ignoring them.

[Jandj1987]

It the point. It’s a family pool. Don’t like it, get your own or go to the adult pool 🤷🏻*♀️

[coconutmama]

Thank you for having the courage to talk about The Villages your transparency is greatly appreciated. From what I have read what they advertised about it is a lot of smoke and mirrors. That is why before are buy there I will do a lot of Due Diligence and not believe what management are saying about life there.

“People are people wherever you go” as the song says, so I would not judge our community on this incident.

Personally we have our own pool, but do occasionally enjoy going to our nearby family pool for the atmosphere of younger people. All have been well behaved.

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

Exactly, kids will be kids but that doesn’t mean they should go unsupervised and doing anything they want. Two sides to every story. I like going to the family pools, I like kids especially when the adult that is with them is not ignoring them.


Thanks for your reply. I was in the pool with ALL of them to make sure they stayed on same side of pool as me. Kids are kids and are noisy when having fun.

[Bilyclub]

“People are people wherever you go” as the song says, so I would not judge our community on this incident.

Personally we have our own pool, but do occasionally enjoy going to our nearby family pool for the atmosphere of younger people. All have been well behaved.

Don't waste your time on that poster. Just hangs out here to rip on TV.

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

One side of the story. What’s the other? Oh, and it’s really nobody’s business but yours. Why put this on social media?

Yes it's MY side of the story and I did contemplate putting it on social media. The main reason I did was because I kept thinking that maybe I was to blame for this woman's reaction. But after I reported it to Andy, the regional manager of this pool, I realized that I was at the right pool and did nothing wrong. And according to several posts, I'm not the only one who has experienced such rudeness at Cattail.

[lmsintx@gmail.com]

You're right - this is the land of the grumps. They are everywhere. They all forgot that they were once fun- loving children. Welcome to God's waiting room.

[tallmanf]

Same with pool walkers.

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

Perhaps we need to resort to our id's being scanned at pool entrances. This way law and order might prevail at these sites where apparently bullies thrive because of their anonymity. Same principle used at our gates. Time-outs for offenders might work village wide.

I agree with you about scanning your ID card at pool. This will make people responsible for their uncalled for behavior.

[Veiragirl]

Give me traffic any then a bunch of screaming kids. BUT I do agree with going to an adult only pool if you don't want to hear someones elses irchins

[Gulfcoast]

Yes it's MY side of the story and I did contemplate putting it on social media. The main reason I did was because I kept thinking that maybe I was to blame for this woman's reaction. But after I reported it to Andy, the regional manager of this pool, I realized that I was at the right pool and did nothing wrong. And according to several posts, I'm not the only one who has experienced such rudeness at Cattail.

Since you reported it to the regional manager did you find out whether or not they would look into the matter and possibly send a letter to the person reminding her of family pool policies and, if necessary, even temporarily suspending her pool privileges for a week or whatever? I'm just wondering what, if anything, can be done to discourage that type of unpleasant encounter in the future?

[TGRANNYT]

I agree with 100% regarding the family pools. If you don't like children, go to an adult pool where it is quiet.

[Linnberg]

We have two rather loud grandchilden - I think I know which pool we will go to when they visit!:icon_wink:
Go for it!!! 👏👍

[Sharon654321]

Please encourage Adult Swimmers to take frequent Potty Breaks instead of peeing in the pool!

[ThirdOfFive]

So sorry you and you’re grandkids had to experience that. What you experienced use to be very low percentage of villages. Now seems % has gone way up?

I've always maintained that the reason the jerks stand out is because there are so few of them here.

[Travelhunter123]

Kids aren’t Welcome in a Retirement community, that’s why we move here!!

For those of us that have grandchildren, we hope you wear your “Americas Friendliest Home Town” tee shirt and act accordingly

[Spikearoni]

m havn wat u hvn
brp

Now that’s funny👏🏻

[debron911]

We ran into some unfriendly adults as well at that same pool. We had our grandchildren with us and one lady, in particular, kept scowling if the kids made any noise. She had a deep tan and kept her radio on at a high volume. You could tell she thought it was “her pool.” When she finally left she took her loud radio with her and all we were left with was the sound of happy children swimming in the pool.

I believe she was in violation of the pool guidelines on the villagesgov.org site, having a loud radio! There is mention of personal radios “to only play music that they can hear.” “Use of headphones or earbuds are preferred.” So she herself wasn’t following the guidelines!

[Gulfcoast]

I can deal with a radio at the pool and I can deal with kids playing at the pool. What I would not want to deal with is some angry resident cursing at me in front of my grandchildren. It's the hostility that is so shocking. It makes me wonder if there might be some dementia involved.

[Bellavita]

I CANNOT AGREE MORE

OLD PEOPLE WHO ARE MISERABLE GO TO THE SMALL POOL
if you want to share the larger pool so you can walk longer for exercise be tolerant of children . They are in the only pool available to them .

There will be noise
There will be splashing
There will be jumping
There will be children racing in the water
They might bump into you because you think you can just walk in front of them

Advise from a swimmer, go to a sport pool and walk during the hours available.
Try not to be a miserable old person.
Would you treat your family like this...if you said yes ...work on the miserable part.

Residents wanting a quiet pool need to go to theirs, the regional are the only I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..

[rrtjp]

From most of the replies here it appears the adults without kids using the “family “ pools here have no rights at all. I thought the family pools were for everyone’s enjoyment. I personally enjoy the family pools and prefer them over the adult pools. I like watching kids having a good time. I have never had a bad experience at the Homestead family pool. As long as your kids are not running around my lounge chair or whacking me in the head with their toys it’s all good. All I need is just a little personal space and respect for that space and I’m good. Is that asking too much at a family pool?

[coffeebean]

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[Velvet]

From most of the replies here it appears the adults without kids using the “family “ pools here have no rights at all. I thought the family pools were for everyone’s enjoyment. I personally enjoy the family pools and prefer them over the adult pools. I like watching kids having a good time. I have never had a bad experience at the Homestead family pool. As long as your kids are not running around my lounge chair or whacking me in the head with their toys it’s all good. All I need is just a little personal space and respect for that space and I’m good. Is that asking too much at a family pool?

It sounds like that some people find it ok to let children behave as IF they were at their own private pool. Even a family pool is public and children need to behave accordingly. But those older people who are so darn upset, they also need to remember it is not their private pool it is a public pool the public being all Villagers and their guests.

[rrtjp]

Agree 100%

[TLDailey53]

I have owned a home in the villages for 2 years now and have never felt so unwelcome here as last Sunday at Cattail family rec pool. Had my 4 grandkids with me in the pool and keeping them on one side of it away from others. Apparently a woman thought this was her private pool and that we were too loud and unruly. She aggressively accosted me in front of kids and used foul language so I could not respond like I wanted due to my kids being close by. Then a old man decided to walk in front of me and put in his 2 cents. I made a call to Andy the regional manager of pool to make sure I was at appropriate pool for families and that what my kids were doing was ok. He agreed that I did nothing wrong and if happened again, to get a name and call him. My point: if you want a quiet pool, then you need to visit an adult pool..there are over 20 of them!! Family pools are for families with children and they are loud and splash-don't ruin it for them just because you're old and grumpy..

Well some people here in TV are just nasty old people who think they are entitled. It is also possible that they were “outsiders” who managed to get in to the pool. You should go back again & see if they are there and then report them immediately.

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

From most of the replies here it appears the adults without kids using the “family “ pools here have no rights at all. I thought the family pools were for everyone’s enjoyment. I personally enjoy the family pools and prefer them over the adult pools. I like watching kids having a good time. I have never had a bad experience at the Homestead family pool. As long as your kids are not running around my lounge chair or whacking me in the head with their toys it’s all good. All I need is just a little personal space and respect for that space and I’m good. Is that asking too much at a family pool?

I think you're missing their point. Family pools ARE for everyone but if you can't handle the noise, splashing, kids playing with each other...go to an adult pool...my grandkids weren't in the woman's space but stayed away from her side of the pool with her radio. I go to a family pool knowing full well what to expect there.

[debjtm4@brmemc.net]

Since you reported it to the regional manager did you find out whether or not they would look into the matter and possibly send a letter to the person reminding her of family pool policies and, if necessary, even temporarily suspending her pool privileges for a week or whatever? I'm just wondering what, if anything, can be done to discourage that type of unpleasant encounter in the future?

Unfortunately, he didn't offer me anyway of handling the situation. Maybe if I'd gotten her name, Andy could do something but I doubt she'd have the gumption to give me her name. All he said was if it happened again to report it to his office. I even asked if they could post a flier on the gate stating this is a family pool where children are welcome. He said it wouldn't do any good

[New Englander]

I personally have tried my best to avoid violence however if someone starts yelling and using language around my grand children, man or woman be prepared to loose some teeth. I’ll face what ever consequences come from that no problem. Say what you want to me, we enjoy free speech but be ready for some pain. I won’t stop till they do.

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[Pairadocs]

Just my opinion, but your post gives a very good explanation of what is happening to TV. We moved here 18 yrs ago and over the past two to three years have gradually seen it degrade in many ways. I guess it was too good to last.

This is a rule driven community, but rarely does TV back their own rules. They should remember it takes no time at all to lose your good name and reputation and once it is gone it is hard to get it back.

We retired very early, 20 years ago in the days when the villages were not as concerned about your age as your ability to pay cash to have a home built. BUT... those "old days" were far far different, no 30 mph golf carts whizzing by giving others the "bird" for only going 20, no one even thought about taking their dog a few blocks away, unleashing them for a few minutes, and directing them to a yard to "do their thing", and when almost every neighborhood got together once a week or once every other week, for a "drive way, bring your own choice of drink", get together, you always knew everyone....by name. The "good old day" actually WERE GOOD ! With diversity and numbers, comes a very different "vibe".

Most people today would not believe how polite people were, how FRIENDLY all neighborhoods were, how people helped each other (not "trolled" to find what people were doing "wrong", and along with that, how the rules WERE followed and enforced. You had to sign into EVERY pool, not just the CC pools. Have to add, there will be many who criticize anyone who even mentions "what is WAS like", or the "good old days", but some of us know what a wonderfully friendly place it actually was for all who came here strangers. As far as The Villages being in danger of loosing their "good name", IMO the reputation which once did matter, is now irrelevant. A steady stream of people and their money will not stop at this point. and honestly I don't think that a friendly, welcoming, neighborhood is the number one priority for people any more when considering where to retire, but, as always, could be quite wrong ! We're in an area with larger homes, not a villa area, and yet, little by little the large homes either sit empty much of the time, with the owners coming 2-3 times a year and not renting it out between, and then we are seeing more and more large designer homes in our block and the surrounding blocks being purchased solely for the Air B&B income. When we bought a lot and built here, we were told by the sales person that kind of thing only goes on in villa neighborhoods ! Now we are beginning to wonder if perhaps the people in villa's are MORE permanent than the traditional home neighborhoods. Things change... it's the way of the world !

[Bogie Shooter]

We retired very early, 20 years ago in the days when the villages were not as concerned about your age as your ability to pay cash to have a home built. BUT... those "old days" were far far different, no 30 mph golf carts whizzing by giving others the "bird" for only going 20, no one even thought about taking their dog a few blocks away, unleashing them for a few minutes, and directing them to a yard to "do their thing", and when almost every neighborhood got together once a week or once every other week, for a "drive way, bring your own choice of drink", get together, you always knew everyone....by name. The "good old day" actually WERE GOOD ! With diversity and numbers, comes a very different "vibe".

Most people today would not believe how polite people were, how FRIENDLY all neighborhoods were, how people helped each other (not "trolled" to find what people were doing "wrong", and along with that, how the rules WERE followed and enforced. You had to sign into EVERY pool, not just the CC pools. Have to add, there will be many who criticize anyone who even mentions "what is WAS like", or the "good old days", but some of us know what a wonderfully friendly place it actually was for all who came here strangers. As far as The Villages being in danger of loosing their "good name", IMO the reputation which once did matter, is now irrelevant. A steady stream of people and their money will not stop at this point. and honestly I don't think that a friendly, welcoming, neighborhood is the number one priority for people any more when considering where to retire, but, as always, could be quite wrong ! We're in an area with larger homes, not a villa area, and yet, little by little the large homes either sit empty much of the time, with the owners coming 2-3 times a year and not renting it out between, and then we are seeing more and more large designer homes in our block and the surrounding blocks being purchased solely for the Air B&B income. When we bought a lot and built here, we were told by the sales person that kind of thing only goes on in villa neighborhoods ! Now we are beginning to wonder if perhaps the people in villa's are MORE permanent than the traditional home neighborhoods. Things change... it's the way of the world !

You cannot assume everything posted in the previous posts is true.
Our village has all the things that you had when you first came here…….and we started 21 years ago……it’s the same today.
Not all is doom and gloom as you seem to think.