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oldyeller
04-24-2023, 07:21 AM
I recently played golf off campus at one of the area golf courses. It was early am with a shotgun start due to the large number of people in two different groups. Ninety women in one group and twenty men and women in the other group.
Prior to the start, one of our gentlemen (the term is used very loosely here) went to use the facilities and found a lineup of women standing waiting at the men's door. Our guy (the aforementioned gentleman, again, term is used very loosely here) went to the door, pointed to the "MEN's sign, and proceeded through the door oblivious to the line of women waiting in line. His argument, much to the chagrin and chastisement of the women standing in line, was its the MEN's restroom not the women's. Aren't the women offended when the men use their facilities?
The question is, is this guy a hero activist for men's rights, or a misogynistic cad?
rustyp
04-24-2023, 07:43 AM
I recently played golf off campus at one of the area golf courses. It was early am with a shotgun start due to the large number of people in two different groups. Ninety women in one group and twenty men and women in the other group.
Prior to the start, one of our gentlemen (the term is used very loosely here) went to use the facilities and found a lineup of women standing waiting at the men's door. Our guy (the aforementioned gentleman, again, term is used very loosely here) went to the door, pointed to the "MEN's sign, and proceeded through the door oblivious to the line of women waiting in line. His argument, much to the chagrin and chastisement of the women standing in line, was its the MEN's restroom not the women's. Aren't the women offended when the men use their facilities?
The question is, is this guy a hero activist for men's rights, or a misogynistic cad?
Tough question ! Which tees did the women play from ?
bruce213
04-24-2023, 07:44 AM
I don't think he's either a hero activist for men's rights, or a misogynistic cad, but I do think he is correct. It is the men's room.
Whitley
04-24-2023, 07:50 AM
I recently played golf off campus at one of the area golf courses. It was early am with a shotgun start due to the large number of people in two different groups. Ninety women in one group and twenty men and women in the other group.
Prior to the start, one of our gentlemen (the term is used very loosely here) went to use the facilities and found a lineup of women standing waiting at the men's door. Our guy (the aforementioned gentleman, again, term is used very loosely here) went to the door, pointed to the "MEN's sign, and proceeded through the door oblivious to the line of women waiting in line. His argument, much to the chagrin and chastisement of the women standing in line, was its the MEN's restroom not the women's. Aren't the women offended when the men use their facilities?
The question is, is this guy a hero activist for men's rights, or a misogynistic cad?
Not sure it would be appropriate to call a man a misogynist for using the men's restroom. In the past it may have been commendable to let the ladies use the men's RR, however today possibly not. I was pushed and berated for holding a door open for a woman entering the bank.
IMO he may have been boorish in the execvution, however I see nothing wrong with his expectation that the men's room is for men. Did we get the pronouns of the individuals waiting in line? That could make this go in a totally different direction.
Bilyclub
04-24-2023, 07:53 AM
It seems women become very agitated if a man even thinks about using the Ladies Room.
golfing eagles
04-24-2023, 07:56 AM
Not sure it would be appropriate to call a man a misogynist for using the men's restroom. In the past it may have been commendable to let the ladies use the men's RR, however today possibly not. I was pushed and berated for holding a door open for a woman entering the bank.
IMO he may have been boorish in the execvution, however I see nothing wrong with his expectation that the men's room is for men. Did we get the pronouns of the individuals waiting in line? That could make this go in a totally different direction.
I hope you pushed back :1rotfl::1rotfl::1rotfl:
dewilson58
04-24-2023, 08:10 AM
I think we need more activist for men's rights, but I'm not sure the Sh^tter is where we burn our jocks.
Two Bills
04-24-2023, 08:19 AM
I think he was a very brave man, and should be given an added two strokes on his golf handicap as a bonus.
dewilson58
04-24-2023, 08:21 AM
There are times when I identify as a women on the golf course.........for about three minutes.
:pepper2:
Boomer
04-24-2023, 08:26 AM
I recently played golf off campus at one of the area golf courses. It was early am with a shotgun start due to the large number of people in two different groups. Ninety women in one group and twenty men and women in the other group.
Prior to the start, one of our gentlemen (the term is used very loosely here) went to use the facilities and found a lineup of women standing waiting at the men's door. Our guy (the aforementioned gentleman, again, term is used very loosely here) went to the door, pointed to the "MEN's sign, and proceeded through the door oblivious to the line of women waiting in line. His argument, much to the chagrin and chastisement of the women standing in line, was its the MEN's restroom not the women's. Aren't the women offended when the men use their facilities?
The question is, is this guy a hero activist for men's rights, or a misogynistic cad?
Aw, c’mon, this is nothing new.
When women outnumber men — in a large group of people — and the restroom break-time is limited, this can happen. The men’s restroom is always a whole lot faster and if no one is in there, it is fair game.
A couple of times, at conferences, when the men’s restroom was empty and the line to the women’s room was ridiculous, I have led the charge myself…….
“Squatters’ Rights!”
BUT, in the circumstance described above, I would have smiled my very best smile at the guy and said, “Hold on a minute. Let me clear the stalls, and then you can go in next.”
That would have been the fair and mannerly and common sense thing to do.
But in this day and age, would that have taken the wind out of his sails?
Or would he rather have continued to rant and rave?
Btw, I doubt those women were “chagrined” because they were embarrassed to be in that line. But they were probably worried he might shoot them…..
Boomer
PS: Our nation has been stoked into losing its collective mind. Millions of Americans wake up each morning looking for something to be angry about, something or somebody to hate.
Pogo was right.
dewilson58
04-24-2023, 08:28 AM
“Squatters’ Rights!”
:bigbow:
Bill14564
04-24-2023, 08:32 AM
I don't think he's either a hero activist for men's rights, or a misogynistic cad, but I do think he is correct. It is the men's room.
Absolutely. It would be foolish for the women not to use the Men's room if it was available but it's only reasonable that a man should get preference at the Men's room door.
Do these rooms have multiple stalls? If not, then perhaps the Men's and Women's signs should be replaced by a simple Restroom sign.
fdpaq0580
04-24-2023, 09:18 AM
Put the shoe on the other foot.
If the numbers had been reversed (lots of men and few women) and the men commandeered the women's restroom, how (I wonder) would the ladies feel about being expected to wait their turn behind all the men?
Stu from NYC
04-24-2023, 09:48 AM
Put the shoe on the other foot.
If the numbers had been reversed (lots of men and few women) and the men commandeered the women's restroom, how (I wonder) would the ladies feel about being expected to wait their turn behind all the men?
The guy did the right thing nothing to be embarrassed going to the head of the line.
Men taking over the ladies room blood would flow.
Did the ladies in the mens room leave the seat up?
fdpaq0580
04-24-2023, 11:04 AM
Not sure it would be appropriate to call a man a misogynist for using the men's restroom. In the past it may have been commendable to let the ladies use the men's RR, however today possibly not. I was pushed and berated for holding a door open for a woman entering the bank.
If chivalry is dead, then it was a woman who killed it!
Two Bills
04-24-2023, 11:15 AM
If the bloke was a misogynist he probably would have peed on the seat.:icon_wink:
fdpaq0580
04-24-2023, 12:13 PM
If the bloke was a misogynist he probably would have peed on the seat.:icon_wink:
Hey! A little decency, mate. We may pee standing up, not many can "dump: while standing.
VApeople
04-24-2023, 06:49 PM
Years ago I was at beautiful Sky Meadows in northern Virginia. When I went to use the restroom, there were several ladies waiting to use their restroom, but I went into the single-stall men's room, finished, and walked away. I thought about it later and realized I should have told the ladies they were welcome to use the men's room and we should form a single line to wait for the first available restroom.
A few weeks ago in Silver Springs state park, I went to use the restroom and found the same situation - a line for the women's restroom but none for the single stall men's room. I told the women they could use the men's room. When a young guy came up, I told him there was a woman in the men's room and asked him to wait until it was free. He agreed and thought it was a fair thing to do.
fdpaq0580
04-24-2023, 11:03 PM
Years ago I was at beautiful Sky Meadows in northern Virginia. When I went to use the restroom, there were several ladies waiting to use their restroom, but I went into the single-stall men's room, finished, and walked away. I thought about it later and realized I should have told the ladies they were welcome to use the men's room and we should form a single line to wait for the first available restroom.
A few weeks ago in Silver Springs state park, I went to use the restroom and found the same situation - a line for the women's restroom but none for the single stall men's room. I told the women they could use the men's room. When I young guy came up, I told him there was a woman in the men's room and asked him to wait until it was free. He agreed and thought it was a fair thing to do.
Yeah! I dare him to try and drag her out mid deposit.
Who says chivalry is dead?
Rwirish
04-25-2023, 04:48 AM
Men’s restroom, he is correct.
jcreason5616
04-25-2023, 05:10 AM
Not sure it would be appropriate to call a man a misogynist for using the men's restroom. In the past it may have been commendable to let the ladies use the men's RR, however today possibly not. I was pushed and berated for holding a door open for a woman entering the bank.
IMO he may have been boorish in the execvution, however I see nothing wrong with his expectation that the men's room is for men. Did we get the pronouns of the individuals waiting in line? That could make this go in a totally different direction.
I just chastised my husband for NOT holding the door open. Sorry, guys. Seems you just can’t win.
Travelhunter123
04-25-2023, 05:53 AM
Tough question ! Which tees did the women play from ?
The women can play from any tee they want to!
msilagy
04-25-2023, 06:04 AM
The women (I am one) should have moved aside and let the man use the men's bathroom. That's my opinion and the polite thing to do. After all it's a 'men's room" and most men don't impede on a "ladies room."
Mrfriendly
04-25-2023, 06:26 AM
Relatable (unfortunately 😉)
ehendersonjr
04-25-2023, 06:40 AM
I recently played golf off campus at one of the area golf courses. It was early am with a shotgun start due to the large number of people in two different groups. Ninety women in one group and twenty men and women in the other group.
Prior to the start, one of our gentlemen (the term is used very loosely here) went to use the facilities and found a lineup of women standing waiting at the men's door. Our guy (the aforementioned gentleman, again, term is used very loosely here) went to the door, pointed to the "MEN's sign, and proceeded through the door oblivious to the line of women waiting in line. His argument, much to the chagrin and chastisement of the women standing in line, was its the MEN's restroom not the women's. Aren't the women offended when the men use their facilities?
The question is, is this guy a hero activist for men's rights, or a misogynistic cad?
When using a “single user” men’s restroom at a Rec Center, I recommended all single user restrooms be remarked with “family” signs instead of men’s or women’s signs.
With a single user restroom, there’s no need to make them gender-specific.
My experience has been that women’s restroom lines are often more frequent and/or longer than men’s lines so making single user restrooms non-gender specific would benefit women more than men.
Signguy
04-25-2023, 07:10 AM
The obvious detail being left out is which plumbing fixture he needed to use.
If it was the toilet, then he should have waited.
However if it was the urinal then, no harm no foul. Although at a golf course, my first inclination would be to go behind a tree.
I feel confident, that none of the ladies involved saw something they had not seen before, nor was any of them so shocked, that they were overcome by the vapors. ;-)
VApeople
04-25-2023, 07:46 AM
My experience has been that women’s restroom lines are often more frequent and/or longer than men’s lines so making single user restrooms non-gender specific would benefit women more than men.
Yeah, both my wife and I agree.
OrangeBlossomBaby
04-25-2023, 07:48 AM
I recently played golf off campus at one of the area golf courses. It was early am with a shotgun start due to the large number of people in two different groups. Ninety women in one group and twenty men and women in the other group.
Prior to the start, one of our gentlemen (the term is used very loosely here) went to use the facilities and found a lineup of women standing waiting at the men's door. Our guy (the aforementioned gentleman, again, term is used very loosely here) went to the door, pointed to the "MEN's sign, and proceeded through the door oblivious to the line of women waiting in line. His argument, much to the chagrin and chastisement of the women standing in line, was its the MEN's restroom not the women's. Aren't the women offended when the men use their facilities?
The question is, is this guy a hero activist for men's rights, or a misogynistic cad?
I wouldn't care. If I had to go badly enough AND there was no one in the mens' room, I'd let someone know I was going in there, and I'd go in there and do my business and get out.
I wouldn't be offended if a man did the same in the ladies' room, as long as he aimed his business and made sure the seat was in the "down" position when he was done.
Whitley
04-25-2023, 07:55 AM
I wouldn't care. If I had to go badly enough AND there was no one in the mens' room, I'd let someone know I was going in there, and I'd go in there and do my business and get out.
I wouldn't be offended if a man did the same in the ladies' room, as long as he aimed his business and made sure the seat was in the "down" position when he was done.
Can not imagine you would want to use a mens room. We do not have piano players, a coffee bar, concierge soap and towel service like the ladies room does.
mntlblok
04-25-2023, 08:27 AM
If chivalry is dead, then it was a woman who killed it!
From Dave Chappelle, I believe. :-)
cjrjck
04-25-2023, 08:39 AM
I doubt he was misogynistic but he probably was a Yankee. A Southern man would have seen the line and just gone back to his cart and figured the world is my restroom. I'll find a suitable bush somewhere.
OrangeBlossomBaby
04-25-2023, 08:50 AM
Can not imagine you would want to use a mens room. We do not have piano players, a coffee bar, concierge soap and towel service like the ladies room does.
I would, and I have. I've also copped a squat in the woods, on the side of a road when I was driving in an area without a nearby gas station, used latrines and outhouses. When you gotta go, you gotta go. I don't rightly give a flying fart who's in there. If there's a stall with a door that I can squat behind or a bush I can duck behind, it's fair game to me. My bladder is more important than your testosterone.
OhioBuckeye
04-25-2023, 09:00 AM
Isn’t this what society wants though, it’s a transgender world now even if he didn’t have a dress on & makeup on. Guess the ladies thought so! I’m not trying to be a wise guy, but it’s what there trying to teach our grade school kids this, hum!!!
Whitley
04-25-2023, 09:14 AM
I My bladder is more important than your testosterone.
Hmmmmm, OK?:confused::confused::confused:
Not sure how my testosterone was put in play, but OK.
With the exception of the one college party at Goucher Dorms (back then an all female college) there has never been a time I had to go with such urgency that I'd consider using a bush. Even then I made it across to IHOP (in some areas the restaurant not much cleaner than a public restroom) Just lucky I guess.
OrangeBlossomBaby
04-25-2023, 09:25 AM
Hmmmmm, OK?:confused::confused::confused:
Not sure how my testosterone was put in play, but OK.
With the exception of the one college party at Goucher Dorms (back then an all female college) there has never been a time I had to go with such urgency that I'd consider using a bush. Even then I made it across to IHOP (in some areas the restaurant not much cleaner than a public restroom) Just lucky I guess.
I lived in the burbs at the foot of a mountain range. We used to have lots of keg parties in the fields there. They don't have bathrooms there, or even outhouses. I also went to girl scout camp where we had latrines, which were just holes dug in the ground with a squatting stool and plywood walls and a screen for a roof to keep the birds and squirrels and bats out.
Luck has nothing to do with it. Eliminating bodily waste is a natural thing, there's nothing more natural than eliminating bodily waste - in nature.
Just bring your own TP, or learn to identify leaves VERY carefully, even in the dark. Otherwise you could be in for a world of hurt - and a world of poison oak.
fdpaq0580
04-25-2023, 09:31 AM
I would, and I have. I've also copped a squat in the woods, on the side of a road when I was driving in an area without a nearby gas station, used latrines and outhouses. When you gotta go, you gotta go. I don't rightly give a flying fart who's in there. If there's a stall with a door that I can squat behind or a bush I can duck behind, it's fair game to me. My bladder is more important than your testosterone.
Thank you! I really needed a good laugh this morning. You made my day!
MidWestIA
04-25-2023, 10:48 AM
go by the back building or tree and do it they put you in that position
Normal
04-25-2023, 10:54 AM
If there was only a urinal, the problem would be non existent.
barcherl
04-25-2023, 10:57 AM
The women should realize they were at the Men's door.
RUCdaze
04-25-2023, 01:46 PM
OldYeller, et al: I think I would just mind my own business. And I take Umbridge at you defaming this gentleman.
rjm1cc
04-25-2023, 02:47 PM
I don't see a problem with the women using the men's restroom as you described it.
I am assuming one person is in the restroom at a time. Thus why not label both restrooms just restrooms. No need for separate rooms when only one person uses at a time.
Taltarzac725
04-25-2023, 02:59 PM
The line jumper is a twit.
bark4me
04-25-2023, 03:21 PM
I recently played golf off campus at one of the area golf courses. It was early am with a shotgun start due to the large number of people in two different groups. Ninety women in one group and twenty men and women in the other group.
Prior to the start, one of our gentlemen (the term is used very loosely here) went to use the facilities and found a lineup of women standing waiting at the men's door. Our guy (the aforementioned gentleman, again, term is used very loosely here) went to the door, pointed to the "MEN's sign, and proceeded through the door oblivious to the line of women waiting in line. His argument, much to the chagrin and chastisement of the women standing in line, was its the MEN's restroom not the women's. Aren't the women offended when the men use their facilities?
The question is, is this guy a hero activist for men's rights, or a misogynistic cad?
It depends. How did those women identify as?
kkingston57
04-25-2023, 03:52 PM
I recently played golf off campus at one of the area golf courses. It was early am with a shotgun start due to the large number of people in two different groups. Ninety women in one group and twenty men and women in the other group.
Prior to the start, one of our gentlemen (the term is used very loosely here) went to use the facilities and found a lineup of women standing waiting at the men's door. Our guy (the aforementioned gentleman, again, term is used very loosely here) went to the door, pointed to the "MEN's sign, and proceeded through the door oblivious to the line of women waiting in line. His argument, much to the chagrin and chastisement of the women standing in line, was its the MEN's restroom not the women's. Aren't the women offended when the men use their facilities?
The question is, is this guy a hero activist for men's rights, or a misogynistic cad?
Comment begs the question as to why when there is only `1 toilet in each bathroom(no urinal) and 1 is labeled men and the other is labeled women. Bathrooms like this should be for both genders. This way men and women have equal access and same privacy.
kkingston57
04-25-2023, 03:57 PM
Absolutely. It would be foolish for the women not to use the Men's room if it was available but it's only reasonable that a man should get preference at the Men's room door.
Do these rooms have multiple stalls? If not, then perhaps the Men's and Women's signs should be replaced by a simple Restroom sign.
Agree 100%. Feel bad for woman at major venues like Amway Center. Line for them is out the door and men, no problem.
tophcfa
04-25-2023, 09:40 PM
I don’t mind the women using the mens room, as long as they leave the toilet seat up!
PugMom
04-26-2023, 09:20 AM
If chivalry is dead, then it was a woman who killed it!
:bigbow::clap2::bigbow:
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