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CoachKandSportsguy
07-28-2023, 03:31 PM
Just rejected a friend request from a name which has never posted a single message.

What does a friend request get a member anyway?

Bill14564
07-28-2023, 03:50 PM
Just rejected a friend request from a name which has never posted a single message.

What does a friend request get a member anyway?

On Social Media networks (FB, Twitter, etc), it gets them access to whatever personal information you share with friends including the list of your friends. With the list of your friends they can send out even more friend requests and build an even larger network.

On the passive side, they can watch what you and your friends post about themselves: places they are visiting, vacation schedules, responses to polls, responses to stupid and meaningless questions that sometimes turn up as security questions, etc.

On the active side, they can post something that will be seen and possibly shared by your friends. Want to push a piece of disinformation? Put it in a meme that gets seen by dozens, shared by a few, and then seen by hundreds more.

There might be a financial aspect too. If businesses were willing to give me half a cent for every time someone looked at or clicked on an add then it would benefit me to have a large network of people who saw my posts. I don't know if this is an incentive but from some of the posts I see on FB I can believe that it is.

Two Bills
07-28-2023, 04:08 PM
One of my grand daughters crowd has over 3000 friends on Facebook.
Think it is an ego or status thing.
I have a Facebook account I use just to see what our kids are up too.
My only Facebook friend is my dog.
I had to starve him for a week, and threaten him with the Vet to get him to ask.

Billy No-mates.

dewilson58
07-28-2023, 04:18 PM
On ToTV???


Assuming yes......................ZIP.

Bill14564
07-28-2023, 04:21 PM
On ToTV???


Assuming yes......................ZIP.

There are friend requests on ToTV? I had no idea.

margaretmattson
07-28-2023, 04:23 PM
One of my grand daughters crowd has over 3000 friends on Facebook.
Think it is an ego or status thing.
I have a Facebook account I use just to see what our kids are up too.
My only Facebook friend is my dog.
I had to starve him for a week, and threaten him with the Vet to get him to ask.

Billy No-mates. My Facebook account is completely blank. My page on this forum is blank. People who know me and want to share will post something and I will look at it then delete. I cant understand why people will post personal information in the hopes of becoming famous. Or want you to share your information with a herd of online "friends." IMHO: you have a better chance of being a victim of crime.

I have zero online friends and am proud of it. The friends I do have, I can see and touch. Never going to have it any other way.

dewilson58
07-28-2023, 04:24 PM
There are friend requests on ToTV? I had no idea.

Ok, everyone send Billy a request.

LuvNH
07-28-2023, 05:21 PM
Some of the old timers who have been in TV for about 20 yrs might remember it was all the rage to get loads of "friends". When I started to post I got requests and turned them all down. I have friends, don't need more especially from someone I don't personally know.

OrangeBlossomBaby
07-28-2023, 10:31 PM
There are very gullible people on the internet. There are also predators on the internet. If you tend toward the naive or gullible, then you are the perfect prey for predators. Never accept a friend request from someone you either don't know, or haven't interacted with for awhile in front of others (such as on an internet forum rather than private message). I have tons of followers on Twitter but I mute any who try to private message me there.

CarrieOn
07-29-2023, 05:52 AM
I never accept if I do not know them

Gunny2403
07-29-2023, 06:16 AM
A stalker

Kelevision
07-29-2023, 06:29 AM
Just rejected a friend request from a name which has never posted a single message.

What does a friend request get a member anyway?

I had no clue one could even do that on this site?

deborahcme
07-29-2023, 06:36 AM
Here is my "go to" for friend requests. Do I know you now? Do I want to know you? Imagine if someone just walked up to you and said "wanna be friends?" You'd think those same thoughts, but of course, in person there's an opportunity to better answer them. Earlier poster said it all; those who collect "friends" may want to become influencers or just have the collecting spirit. If you are talking FB, you can "unfriend" someone without it being a public event (unlike in real life!). Not sure about other platforms, but as they all compete with each other, it's probably an option there as well.

Windguy
07-29-2023, 06:49 AM
I won’t “friend” anyone that I don’t trust enough to let them spend the night alone in my house. I don’t want to risk burglary if I post pictures while I’m on a trip.

DonnaNi4os
07-29-2023, 08:11 AM
Just rejected a friend request from a name which has never posted a single message.

What does a friend request get a member anyway?

What does it get you? On the positive sides you get in touch with people you haven’t seen in many years. Personally I enjoy that. However, it can be very dangerous. I’ve gotten messages that say they have read my messages and, “even though you don’t know me, I find your messages interesting and I’d like to get to know you better”!!!! These are usually from men. In a case like that I block them by clicking on their name, hitting the 3 dots at the top right and hitting BLOCK. We must be vigilant to protect ourselves. It can be very dangerous in cyberspace.

OrangeBlossomBaby
07-29-2023, 09:09 AM
What does it get you? On the positive sides you get in touch with people you haven’t seen in many years. Personally I enjoy that. However, it can be very dangerous. I’ve gotten messages that say they have read my messages and, “even though you don’t know me, I find your messages interesting and I’d like to get to know you better”!!!! These are usually from men. In a case like that I block them by clicking on their name, hitting the 3 dots at the top right and hitting BLOCK. We must be vigilant to protect ourselves. It can be very dangerous in cyberspace.

That type of messaging especially is ALWAYS a fraud or scam. It's a common scam on Facebook. Once you respond or "like" or "friend" them, they start sending you innocent messages, laughing at your jokes, asking about the health of your kid after you'd posted they broke their leg, etc. They're data-mining you. They eventually determine that you have savings, or money, or assets, by seeing pictures of your house, or the jewelry you wear in the photos of your vacation cruise..etc. etc.

And eventually they let on that they're wealthy. And they became wealthy by [insert thing]. In fact, now that you two know each other pretty well, they'll let you in on it if you'd like. There are only a few spots available for this opportunity. You don't have to act right away but the deadline will be coming up soon.

They bring it up gradually, increasing the level of urgency until you cave in and invest. Then they come up with reasons why the investment isn't working as it should - and they'll need a little more to secure it solidly.

They'll keep doing this until you refuse. And then, they disappear. With your money.

Red Rose
07-29-2023, 09:56 AM
What can I do to block friend requests in the first place? I get so many and it takes forever to delete them all.

Sandy and Ed
07-29-2023, 12:36 PM
What really gets me angry is all the “possible” friends that Facebook sends to me. I have traveled quite a bit and made a mistake of including my past locations on my page. NOW I get suggested friend from the Middle East, Africa, south and Central America, etc. Haven’t figured out how to get YouTube to stop being so friendly and “helpful”.

Sandy and Ed
07-29-2023, 12:37 PM
What can I do to block friend requests in the first place? I get so many and it takes forever to delete them all.
Probably mean the suggested friends Facebook lists. Yes it is a pain in the derrière and wastes a lot of time to delete

PugMom
07-29-2023, 01:29 PM
one things you will certainly get is lots & lots of spam

Two Bills
07-29-2023, 01:43 PM
Ok, everyone send Billy a request.


Thanks Pal...............................:cus:

OrangeBlossomBaby
07-29-2023, 03:41 PM
What really gets me angry is all the “possible” friends that Facebook sends to me. I have traveled quite a bit and made a mistake of including my past locations on my page. NOW I get suggested friend from the Middle East, Africa, south and Central America, etc. Haven’t figured out how to get YouTube to stop being so friendly and “helpful”.

For Facebook, just install the FBP browser extension. You can customize what you see, what you don't see, how you see (or not) see, who gets what access, which notifications you get, which you don't get - you can filter posts containing words you don't like, or invite posts that contain words that you do like. You can set it up to get informed when anyone you've "friended" unfriends you, etc. etc.

FBP is always updating, because Facebook is always working to get around FBP's robust filtering system. So every few months you'll have a day or three when FBP isn't working the way you wanted it to. But it's pretty awesome. I see *NO* sponsored ads at all, ever.

OrangeBlossomBaby
07-29-2023, 03:43 PM
Probably mean the suggested friends Facebook lists. Yes it is a pain in the derrière and wastes a lot of time to delete

I get a line of account names/photos across my screen as "suggested" friends. I just ignore it. Just don't accept any of them, or click on them.

margaretmattson
07-29-2023, 11:54 PM
That type of messaging especially is ALWAYS a fraud or scam. It's a common scam on Facebook. Once you respond or "like" or "friend" them, they start sending you innocent messages, laughing at your jokes, asking about the health of your kid after you'd posted they broke their leg, etc. They're data-mining you. They eventually determine that you have savings, or money, or assets, by seeing pictures of your house, or the jewelry you wear in the photos of your vacation cruise..etc. etc.

And eventually they let on that they're wealthy. And they became wealthy by [insert thing]. In fact, now that you two know each other pretty well, they'll let you in on it if you'd like. There are only a few spots available for this opportunity. You don't have to act right away but the deadline will be coming up soon.

They bring it up gradually, increasing the level of urgency until you cave in and invest. Then they come up with reasons why the investment isn't working as it should - and they'll need a little more to secure it solidly.

They'll keep doing this until you refuse. And then, they disappear. With your money. Good info! Thanks!

TillyBear
07-30-2023, 04:59 AM
What does it get you? On the positive sides you get in touch with people you haven’t seen in many years. Personally I enjoy that. However, it can be very dangerous. I’ve gotten messages that say they have read my messages and, “even though you don’t know me, I find your messages interesting and I’d like to get to know you better”!!!! These are usually from men. In a case like that I block them by clicking on their name, hitting the 3 dots at the top right and hitting BLOCK. We must be vigilant to protect ourselves. It can be very dangerous in cyberspace.

Yes and you are very right to block these people. Usually there image is of someone in uniform, but the reality is its someone from extremely poor country sat in an internet cafe with many others who are trying to get money from people.There targets are usually women, and if they message enough they will get one that will except them, and there starts the 'online romance', followed by requests for money, and so many women have fallen for it.My friends daughter even, who is a different generation to us !He told her very quickly he had fallen in love with her, then came the requests for money, he said he wanted to see her as soon as possible and would she send him money for the airfare, and she did. And guess what the plane got cancelled!So then she sent him a second lot of money. My friend had to involved social services to get through to her daughter that it was just a scam, but it was hard going. She really thought someone loved her....Its very very sad.

CoachKandSportsguy
07-30-2023, 05:04 AM
Just to be clear, the friend request I received was specific to this site. I’ve been on the internet for over 30 years so am pretty familiar with other social media sites.
It does however appear that others are appreciative of the expert advice that others have provided on generic friending.
Thanks for the PSA.

Sandy and Ed
07-30-2023, 06:03 AM
For Facebook, just install the FBP browser extension. You can customize what you see, what you don't see, how you see (or not) see, who gets what access, which notifications you get, which you don't get - you can filter posts containing words you don't like, or invite posts that contain words that you do like. You can set it up to get informed when anyone you've "friended" unfriends you, etc. etc.

FBP is always updating, because Facebook is always working to get around FBP's robust filtering system. So every few months you'll have a day or three when FBP isn't working the way you wanted it to. But it's pretty awesome. I see *NO* sponsored ads at all, ever.
Thank you. Now I just need to figure out what the FBP extension is and where to get

Indydealmaker
07-30-2023, 10:35 AM
Wait until you return from a trip to post those photos.

Marsha11
07-30-2023, 12:10 PM
You utilize disinformation. That's the woke word today. Sad info

JGibson
07-31-2023, 07:55 AM
Facebook is selling all your personal information anyway thats why they paid 100s of millions of dollars for their Spybook operation.

OrangeBlossomBaby
07-31-2023, 09:58 AM
Thank you. Now I just need to figure out what the FBP extension is and where to get

Install F.B. Purity to Clean Up + Customize Facebook (https://www.fbpurity.com/install.htm) (for click-cautious folks - this does NOT automatically install anything, it just takes you to the webpage that explains F.B.Purity (stands for fluff-busting purity so as not to violate the trademark of FaceBook) and provides an installation button, which you'd have to manually click if you choose to install).

DAVES
07-31-2023, 11:29 AM
My Facebook account is completely blank. My page on this forum is blank. People who know me and want to share will post something and I will look at it then delete. I cant understand why people will post personal information in the hopes of becoming famous. Or want you to share your information with a herd of online "friends." IMHO: you have a better chance of being a victim of crime.

I have zero online friends and am proud of it. The friends I do have, I can see and touch. Never going to have it any other way.

Perhaps OLD SCHOOL. Privacy has great value. Today difficult if not impossible to have.
Some part with privacy like it has no value. In fact they give it away.

Even the term friend has lost all meaning. For me a friend is someone you can count on and who can count on you. Most friends are just people you do not even know.

Bay Kid
08-01-2023, 07:29 AM
I got a friend request from a TOTVs member, but I don't know who they are, just a screen name. I haven't replied.