Forever Home

[mbene]

Where are you going to spend forever?
Was talking with our kids and mentioned that we are planning on being cremated when the time comes and are currently looking for a place to be interred at the cemetery up north where many family members are located.
Our children moved down to Florida with us when we came 18 years ago.
They both said if we did that they probably won't visit because neither one of them plan on moving back up there, so I guess we'll start looking for a place to be interred either near the villages or the metro Orlando area.
Where are you planning on spending your time when it comes?

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Is this something you have thought about and done something about or is it something you're going to dump on your kids or someone else when that time comes?

[Two Bills]

Some years ago I knew a lady who wanted her ashes scattered at a local shopping Mall, her reasoning was that her daughter would visit her at least once a week.

[Arctic Fox]

Memories are more important than visiting carbon powder.

Spend more time with your family members now.

[Michael 61]

My “forever” home is in heaven, not here.

[thelegges]

Not legal and will get you banned but Haunted Mansion works.

On a side note Arlington would be perfect to think of all the wisdom and the brave souls that reside and walk the grounds. you could listen to story keepers for your ever

[ChicagoNative]

Have you ever considered a personal Keepsake Urn or a cremains piece of glass or jewelry?

My father died 50 years ago before cremations were so common. At the time, we bought a double plot for he and my mom in Chicago. Mom moved to Florida with me and when her checkout time came in 2012, we had a small portion of ashes in keepsake urns for her 3 kids, and the main urn was buried next to my father.

[BobnBev]

If you are former military, you can be intered at the Florida National Cemetary in Bushnell, for free.

[fdpaq0580]

Some place warm. Can't stand the cold.

[Two Bills]

Some place warm. Can't stand the cold.

See you down there. All my old mates will be there, should be a great party! :beer3:

[Shipping up to Boston]

See you down there. All my old mates will be there, should be a great party! :beer3:

I’ll bring the ice. M***** D*g will be fixing all of us some ‘tangy DDT cocktails’!

[Ecuadog]

I kinda like the idea of my ashes and urn being dropped into Laguna Cuicocha, a crater lake.

[shut the front door]

I'm going to be a shooting star.
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[Zenmama18]

[QUOTE=BobnBev;2326736]If you are former military, you can be intered at the Florida National Cemetary in Bushnell, for free.[/QUOTE

That will be the next (and last!) move from the Villages for hubby and me.

[crash]

Where are you going to spend forever?
Was talking with our kids and mentioned that we are planning on being cremated when the time comes and are currently looking for a place to be interred at the cemetery up north where many family members are located.
Our children moved down to Florida with us when we came 18 years ago.
They both said if we did that they probably won't visit because neither one of them plan on moving back up there, so I guess we'll start looking for a place to be interred either near the villages or the metro Orlando area.
Where are you planning on spending your time when it comes?

Appended

Is this something you have thought about and done something about or is it something you're going to dump on your kids or someone else when that time comes?

I plan on being cremated and ashes spread at sea. Don’t really care that much about it I will be dead.

[Jhnidy]

I have a bench at Lone Oak Cemetery in Leesburg. Ashes are placed inside the bench. Will "hold" 4 people. My son's remains are already there.

[Shipping up to Boston]

My favorite obit from a neighbor...'dont worry if you don't make it to my funeral....i wont be making it to yours'

[dtennent]

My aunt was a social worker who worked in a VA hospital in Washington DC. She was working with a gentleman who was nearing the end and told that he needed to think about what he wanted to do with his remains. His initial response was that re really didn’t care. When she came back the next week, he said “I want to be cremated and have the ashes shipped to my brother. I never really liked him, anyway.”

We will be cremated. I doubt that any of our family will ever visit us very often, if at all. Perhaps made into a Christmas ornament so that we are remembered at a happy time of the year?

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[thelegges]

Had to go to Ocala, there was a thrift store there. Lady was looking at a nice glass sculpture. She turned it over to look for the price, there was a name date and place engraved.

She thought it was the designer, nope it was ashes from someone’s not so loved relative. May be a forever home, until it goes in the garage sale:1rotfl:

[MandoMan]

Where are you going to spend forever?
Was talking with our kids and mentioned that we are planning on being cremated when the time comes and are currently looking for a place to be interred at the cemetery up north where many family members are located.
Our children moved down to Florida with us when we came 18 years ago.
They both said if we did that they probably won't visit because neither one of them plan on moving back up there, so I guess we'll start looking for a place to be interred either near the villages or the metro Orlando area.
Where are you planning on spending your time when it comes?

Appended

Is this something you have thought about and done something about or is it something you're going to dump on your kids or someone else when that time comes?

“Well, you can bury her, burn her, or dump her in the Thames.”
“Dump her in the Thames?”
“Oh, were you fond of her?”

My dad had my mom cremated when she died ten years ago, then dumped her ashes under some rose bushes in Washington Park in Denver, a place he liked to visit. He could sit on a bench there and think of her. But now he’s 95 and not allowed to drive, so he can’t easily get there. Then the parks department dug up the rose garden and replaced it with native plants. (You might call them weeds.) I took him there last December. It wasn’t the same.

Now he wants to be cremated and thinks maybe his ashes should be scattered under the big fir trees in the backyard. But we point out to him that after he dies, we are going to sell the house, so it’s not like we would ever sit there to think of him.

My family lives in my heart—many generations of them. I never visit their graves. As long as I think of them, in a way they live on. Ashes? Just let the cremation company toss them, or flush them down the toilet. Treasure up your loved ones in your memories.

[Girlcopper]

Where are you going to spend forever?
Was talking with our kids and mentioned that we are planning on being cremated when the time comes and are currently looking for a place to be interred at the cemetery up north where many family members are located.
Our children moved down to Florida with us when we came 18 years ago.
They both said if we did that they probably won't visit because neither one of them plan on moving back up there, so I guess we'll start looking for a place to be interred either near the villages or the metro Orlando area.
Where are you planning on spending your time when it comes?

Appended

Is this something you have thought about and done something about or is it something you're going to dump on your kids or someone else when that time comes?
This is all a personal decision. And anyone who leaves their death arrangements to family members at the end are inconsiderate. Plan your own afterlife. Quit being cheap and expectin everyone else to bury you or what ever.

[Marmaduke]

“Well, you can bury her, burn her, or dump her in the Thames.”
“Dump her in the Thames?”
“Oh, were you fond of her?”

My dad had my mom cremated when she died ten years ago, then dumped her ashes under some rose bushes in Washington Park in Denver, a place he liked to visit. He could sit on a bench there and think of her. But now he’s 95 and not allowed to drive, so he can’t easily get there. Then the parks department dug up the rose garden and replaced it with native plants. (You might call them weeds.) I took him there last December. It wasn’t the same.

Now he wants to be cremated and thinks maybe his ashes should be scattered under the big fir trees in the backyard. But we point out to him that after he dies, we are going to sell the house, so it’s not like we would ever sit there to think of him.

My family lives in my heart—many generations of them. I never visit their graves. As long as I think of them, in a way they live on. Ashes? Just let the cremation company toss them, or flush them down the toilet. Treasure up your loved ones in your memories.
Loved your story and your sentiments. Beautiful!

[HiHoSteveO]

Where are you planning on spending your time when it comes?
Is this something you have thought about and done something about or is it something you're going to dump on your kids or someone else when that time comes?

Have thought about it AND done something about it. Not dumping it on the kids.
Going back up north same place as many other family members. Lots have been purchased and stone has been erected.

Many never visit a cemetery anyway, so wouldn't worry about if the kids will visit. Who says they'll even BE in FL in the future?
I figure it's for the convenience of grandchildren, great-grandchildren and many beyond.

[True Blue]

Where are you going to spend forever?
Was talking with our kids and mentioned that we are planning on being cremated when the time comes and are currently looking for a place to be interred at the cemetery up north where many family members are located.
Our children moved down to Florida with us when we came 18 years ago.
They both said if we did that they probably won't visit because neither one of them plan on moving back up there, so I guess we'll start looking for a place to be interred either near the villages or the metro Orlando area.
Where are you planning on spending your time when it comes?

Appended

Is this something you have thought about and done something about or is it something you're going to dump on your kids or someone else when that time comes?

Just curious - how often do you visit the “cemetery up north where many family members are located”?

[txyaya]

I'm from Texas. Born in March when the bluebonnets bloom prolifically each year. My kids have known for years I wish to be scattered in a bluebonnet patch somewhere in Texas.

[Lea N]

If you are former military, you can be intered at the Florida National Cemetary in Bushnell, for free.

Do you know if this applies to non-military spouse so they are buried next to each other?

[Cuervo]

I was thinking of being laminated in plastic and left at a local bar.

[Villagesgal]

Lady Lake Cemetery in one of their columbariums. Beautiful small local Cemetery.

[Shipping up to Boston]

Surprised no local funeral home or cremation service ads popped up on this thread....yet!

[Dgodin]

We'll be at Bushnell. We've made all the arrangements; will, power attorney, trust, prepaid funeral/cremation, funeral mass.
And we've discussed it all with the kids. Its a pain to go through it all but worth it.

[GATORBILL66]

Where are you going to spend forever?
Was talking with our kids and mentioned that we are planning on being cremated when the time comes and are currently looking for a place to be interred at the cemetery up north where many family members are located.
Our children moved down to Florida with us when we came 18 years ago.
They both said if we did that they probably won't visit because neither one of them plan on moving back up there, so I guess we'll start looking for a place to be interred either near the villages or the metro Orlando area.
Where are you planning on spending your time when it comes?

Appended

Is this something you have thought about and done something about or is it something you're going to dump on your kids or someone else when that time comes?


Check out LONE OAK CEMETERY of Rt.44 in Leesburg, Florida. 352-326-9085 or 352-267-6409.

[mikemalloy]

MY wife told me once that she'd have my ashes spread at Pebble Beach. I asked her "which hole?" She replied "The Tap Room." (The bar there.)

[Professor]

Where are you going to spend forever?
Was talking with our kids and mentioned that we are planning on being cremated when the time comes and are currently looking for a place to be interred at the cemetery up north where many family members are located.
Our children moved down to Florida with us when we came 18 years ago.
They both said if we did that they probably won't visit because neither one of them plan on moving back up there, so I guess we'll start looking for a place to be interred either near the villages or the metro Orlando area.
Where are you planning on spending your time when it comes?

Appended

Is this something you have thought about and done something about or is it something you're going to dump on your kids or someone else when that time comes?

We decided to be buried here in Florida in the National Cemetary since I am a veteran. Kids live in different places so doubt they will come to see us at the gravesite very often, but likely would be the same if we were buried where one of them lives since they have very busy lives. My wife passed away a few months ago and I am glad we made the decision together. If she was buried somewhere up North I wouldn't get to visit every week like I do now. It's really about us...each other...not the kids. I suggest you get buried close to where your spouse can visit if they desire to do so.

[Cuervo]

I was raised a N.Y. Street kid who does not believe in the hereafter.

My wife passed away about a year ago and I had her buried with her parents and her son in N.Y.
Even though I do not believe in the hereafter, I went to visit the grave site on Christmas and I’m going back up this month for her birthday.

This not only has to do with respect for her. But even though I thought I was impervious to feelings every now and then I feel her absence. It’s what I would consider therapy for myself.

Look live is for the living, once life leaves the body it’s nothing more than a shell. But for the ones you leave behind it might be more. Maybe you should take into consideration what you children would like.

[gbs317]

I told my family to put my ashes around my fig tree in the backyard.

[mbene]

Just curious - how often do you visit the “cemetery up north where many family members are located”?

Whenever I make a trip back up north, every year or two, I always try to make it to the cemeterys. I usually make a day of it, stop by my parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, brothers, cousins, for a visit. I find it helps me to focus on them, helps jar some long forgotten memories. I know I don't need to go to the cemetery to remember them, but I find it calming and comforting to be there. Maybe it's because I remember going as a child with my parents, and saw how comforting it was for them.
I never really got into genealogy until recently, I wish I would have thought about it when there were still some of my last generation alive to answer some of the questions I have now.

[Kenswing]

If you are former military, you can be intered at the Florida National Cemetary in Bushnell, for free.
Already have my authorization letter. We don’t have any kids and no family on this side of the country so we figured we had better have everything arranged in advance.

[fdpaq0580]

My wife, like all my loved ones, living or not, are always with me in my heart and mind. No matter where I may wander, I am never alone.

[TVTVTV]

This is all a personal decision. And anyone who leaves their death arrangements to family members at the end are inconsiderate. Plan your own afterlife. Quit being cheap and expectin everyone else to bury you or what ever.


Right. Why make your kid(s) wonder what you might have wanted when emotions are high? I have written final wishes and provided the names of 2 crematoriums not far away that I researched and am comfortable with their prices and service. How do your kids know your preference if they live out of state? Make it easy with info, names ad phone numbers. Shop around for yourself while you have time, because kids don't when they are young, and it'll be appreciated by them. No need to prepay if you don't want the formality and contract, but give your kids some hints and tips.

[JMintzer]

Do you know if this applies to non-military spouse so they are buried next to each other?

Not next to each other but one on top of the other, sharing the same gravesite.

The military member's name is engraved on the front of the headstone, the spouse's name on the back.

[juddfl]

I have a friend who said that her and her husband planned to travel when they retired. They retired to The villages and they had so much fun that they didn't get around to traveling. He passed away and she now travels and leaves a little of him in all the countries that she visits. It makes her feel good that he was in spirit with her.

[Reet0823]

Have you ever considered a personal Keepsake Urn or a cremains piece of glass or jewelry?

My father died 50 years ago before cremations were so common. At the time, we bought a double plot for he and my mom in Chicago. Mom moved to Florida with me and when her checkout time came in 2012, we had a small portion of ashes in keepsake urns for her 3 kids, and the main urn was buried next to my father.

My wife passed Christmas Eve of 2023. Getting ready for burial-at
-sea May 5th, 2024. How do I research Keepsakes Urn or jewelry as you mentioned.

[HandyGrandpap]

Just sharing a comment as an fyi, not endorsing either way, just adding to the thread:
Caller a while back to the Dave Ramsey radio show asked how he can minimize his burial expenses so as not to burden his family. The person lived in a larger city with a medical university. Dave suggested to make arrangements with the medical school to donate the body for medical research.

[Shipping up to Boston]

Just sharing a comment as an fyi, not endorsing either way, just adding to the thread:
Caller a while back to the Dave Ramsey radio show asked how he can minimize his burial expenses so as not to burden his family. The person lived in a larger city with a medical university. Dave suggested to make arrangements with the medical school to donate the body for medical research.

You might want to rethink that suggestion.......



Harvard’s morgue scandal is part of ‘a much larger story’ in trading human remains – NBC Boston (https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.nbcboston.com/investigations/harvards-morgue-scandal-is-part-of-a-much-larger-story-in-trading-human-remains/3136374/&sa=U&ved=2ahUKEwi05MyO5O-FAxXlGFkFHeOdDjYQFnoECAYQAg&usg=AOvVaw3sTcWukvZ0AVsnLu5GGaIi)

[cjrjck]

My “forever” home is in heaven, not here.

Based on the other responses so far, we might have the place to ourselves. 😁

[PersonOfInterest]

No matter what your 'wishes' are or whatever arrangements you have made for cremation/burial, it will be up to the controlling family member to carry out whatever will be done with your remains. You'll never know anyway.

[PersonOfInterest]

My “forever” home is in heaven, not here.

Leave your address and we'll write to you.

[ThirdOfFive]

Told my wife that when I tipped over she should have me stuffed and mounted, then propped up in my favorite chair with a scowl on my face, a beer in one hand and the other hand raised in the one-finger salute. But we don't know any taxidermists, so...

On a more pragmatic note we both purchased preneed cremation policies, so when the time comes we're shipped off to the crematorium for toasting, with the ashes returned in a cardboard box to whomever is the surviving spouse. What happens after that is the family's call. My personal preference is to have my ashes scattered over the Boundary Waters Canoe Area Wilderness in far NE Minnesota. I know some pilots so that shouldn't be a problem.

[fdpaq0580]

Leave your address and we'll write to you.

USPS delivers to Heaven? I never knew that! 😲

[Shipping up to Boston]

Told my wife that when I tipped over she should have me stuffed and mounted, then propped up in my favorite chair with a scowl on my face, a beer in one hand and the other hand raised in the one-finger salute. But we don't know any taxidermists, so...

On a more pragmatic note we both purchased preneed cremation policies, so when the time comes we're shipped off to the crematorium for toasting, with the ashes returned in a cardboard box to whomever is the surviving spouse. What happens after that is the family's call. My personal preference is to have my ashes scattered over the Boundary Waters Canoe Area Wilderness in far NE Minnesota. I know some pilots so that shouldn't be a problem.

The first paragraph of your post.....for a second, I thought you were giving the last review at Sonny’s! ;)

[OrangeBlossomBaby]

I'm an organ donor (which is against my religion). I can't be buried in a Jewish cemetery because I'm an organ donor, and because I have a tattoo (also against my religion). Once I'm dead, I will cease to care what someone wants to do with my ashes. They can just toss them in the trash, that's fine. I don't want my death to be someone else's financial burden.

[Shipping up to Boston]

I'm an organ donor (which is against my religion). I can't be buried in a Jewish cemetery because I'm an organ donor, and because I have a tattoo (also against my religion). Once I'm dead, I will cease to care what someone wants to do with my ashes. They can just toss them in the trash, that's fine. I don't want my death to be someone else's financial burden.

* just as long as it’s not in a rec center dumpster OBB!:a20:

[fdpaq0580]

I'm an organ donor (which is against my religion). I can't be buried in a Jewish cemetery because I'm an organ donor, and because I have a tattoo (also against my religion). Once I'm dead, I will cease to care what someone wants to do with my ashes. They can just toss them in the trash, that's fine. I don't want my death to be someone else's financial burden.

Two thumbs up! Practical and compassionate.

[coffeebean]

~~~

[Two Bills]

USPS delivers to Heaven? I never knew that! 😲

Also, Father Christmas!

[Nell57]

We were together 49 years. I had a very difficult time after my husbands passing. At his service I gave a small amount of his cremains to family members , to be spread in their towns. For the next few years I took a tablespoon of his ashes (in a contact lenses case) everywhere I traveled, and revisited places we had lived or loved. Very easy to He is all over the world.
Some ashes are under a headstone in Ohio. I still have some to be mixed with mine….then mine will be buried there, too.
I know this is way too much for some people, but it’s what gave me comfort.
The point of the story….cremation gives you options. Cremains can be divided and given away or disposed of all at once.
Our local columbariums hold two urns per niche. Very inexpensive, but you do have a final memorial.
It’s a matter of deciding what is important to you.

[Shipping up to Boston]

We were together 49 years. I had a very difficult time after my husbands passing. At his service I gave a small amount of his cremains to family members , to be spread in their towns. For the next few years I took a tablespoon of his ashes (in a contact lenses case) everywhere I traveled, and revisited places we had lived or loved. Very easy to He is all over the world.
Some ashes are under a headstone in Ohio. I still have some to be mixed with mine….then mine will be buried there, too.
I know this is way too much for some people, but it’s what gave me comfort.
The point of the story….cremation gives you options. Cremains can be divided and given away or disposed of all at once.
Our local columbariums hold two urns per niche. Very inexpensive, but you do have a final memorial.
It’s a matter of deciding what is important to you.

Thank you for sharing.....and I totally agree with the option.

[fdpaq0580]

Also, Father Christmas!

🤥🫢🤨🙄 So, (sniff, my mommy lied?

[JMintzer]

I'm an organ donor (which is against my religion). I can't be buried in a Jewish cemetery because I'm an organ donor, and because I have a tattoo (also against my religion). Once I'm dead, I will cease to care what someone wants to do with my ashes. They can just toss them in the trash, that's fine. I don't want my death to be someone else's financial burden.

Absolute nonsense....

A simple Google search reveals:

"Is organ donation permitted in Judaism? Organ donation is giving an organ to help someone who needs a transplant. In principle Judaism sanctions and encourages organ donation in order to save lives (pikuach nefesh)."

"An organ donor can be buried in a Jewish cemetery with any/all traditional funeral and burial rituals, including Tahara (ritual washing)."

"While the Jewish community might still be divided over tattoos, the prohibition against burying a tattooed person in a Jewish cemetery is a myth."