We really do have some grumps in TV!

[redwitch]

Saw a guy walking his dog yesterday, using the pinestraw to do his (the dog's, not the man's) business. Stopped to warn him to be careful because the pinestraw was known to have ticks. I wasn't rude, I don't think I was being arrogant, I thought I was being nice and helpful. If I had a dog that liked to go potty in an area that had ticks, I'd appreciate the warning. I might continue to let my dog use that spot, but I'd certainly be checking my dog carefully after each walk. If I thought someone was trying to help me and I thought what they were telling me was a bunch of hooey, I'd say thank you and go on my way. To say he yelled at me was putting it mildly! He was "sick of people thinking they knew better" than him. I was stunned.

I really thought it was a sad thing and felt sorry for him. Hope the rest of his day went better than that encounter; he certainly soured my day.

[graciegirl]

Redwitch...if I believed in astrology, I would say the moon was in a bad place yesterday or the stars weren't aligned right. I had such a day yesterday and it was my own mouth that opened and said something I thought was kinda clever and got me in trouble.

I know you and I know you are a sincere and helpful person. He may have been a person who knows it all. You just can't help those kinds of people.

Feel this hug. Today is another day. You know what your mom said. It had something with guten tag in it.

[BigMike]

Redwitch and Gracie some people would complain if you mailed them a check because they had to walk to the mailbox to get it:rant-rave:

Just know you did the right thing and let them go. And always remember you live in TV a place where the rest of us are working hard to get to. When we get there you can give me advice anytime :thumbup:

[Figmo Bohica]

Maybe he likes his dog to have ticks. Might be the only company that will put up with him. Me, I appricate any advice I can get when moving into a new area, concerning the current insect or whtever problem so that I know what to look out for.

Ya all have a good day.

[VillagesFlorida]

Redwitch...if I believed in astrology, I would say the moon was in a bad place yesterday or the stars weren't aligned right. I had such a day yesterday and it was my own mouth that opened and said something I thought was kinda clever and got me in trouble.

I know you and I know you are a sincere and helpful person. He may have been a person who knows it all. You just can't help those kinds of people.

Feel this hug. Today is another day. You know what your mom said. It had something with guten tag in it.

Gracie, the moon IS full tonight! Perhaps that affected this guy's ability to be civil the way it can affect my ability to sleep! "Grumps" ARE here but I am happy to say that in all of the years I have lived in The Villages I have only encountered 2 or 3 of them. Whenever I HAVE run into this kind of behavior I try to imagine scenarios in my mind that might cause someone to respond in such a defensive way. Could they have just received news about a serious health problem in themselves, or in a loved one or a friend? Did they just lose a loved one or close friend? Do they live in severe pain due to health problems? Are they in the midst of a serious financial crisis? Many things can happen to folks and some people just aren't able to handle serious life events in mature ways. Some people thrive on being the "victim". I feel sorry for people who take a kind gesture of caring as an attack on their intelligence. If living in this beautiful place hasn't removed the "grumpiness" out of this guy nothing will! Author John Bradshaw wrote something to the effect, "We are all on a spaceship, hurtling through space.". Wouldn't you think that this vision would be enough to make all of us realize that we are "in this thing together"? Most of us are here to help make the other passengers' rides as comfortable and pleasant as we can, as we journey through life.

[Freeda]

Redwitch, here's another hug ( )

[njbchbum]

the man's display of a lack of understanding of an offer of helpful information made me think that mercury could have been in retrograde - a time when communications of all sort can really be messed up! but i have to agree with villagesflorida that he must just be under the influence of the full moon - the waters of his body were rising and applying pressure to his brain making him lass able to be rational! ;)

gracie - as an astrology buff you might enjoy this website if you have not already been there: http://www.astrologycom.com/mercret.html#table. it's all about mercury retrograde and how communications can go especially haywire during that period. and here are the dates of mercury retrograde for 2011: March 30th to April 23rd, in Aries; August 2nd to 26th in Virgo, then Leo; and November 23rd to December 13th in Sagittarius.

[gmcneill]

Redwitch:
1. The guy was a dope, plain and simple (although I agree with other descriptions used by fellow posters here).

2. I don't feel sorry for the guy, I feel sorry for his dog who has to live with and depend on him 24/7!!

3. The guy caused some sourness in your life this morning but do NOT let him continue to do so for even another moment! There is plenty of sugar in TV, go find some right now! (please).

[jebartle]

Yesterday played golf and this person, who will remain nameless, EVERYTIME I've played with her, a black cloud follows our group for 2 or 4 HOURS....Yipsters!...Life is soooooo short and huffing and puffing about golf is such a waste of time....It was a beautiful day and soooo thankful to be above ground!....I have a feeling that she always looks at the glass as half empty and that is such a shame.... When I encounter an unhappy person, I soooo wish they were reminded about our troops in the Mid-east, or a family that will lose a loved one....

[Midge538]

the moon IS full tonight!

"I guess that was the reason (yesterday) that she turned left off of #446 smashing right into the oncoming car at the corner of Rolling Acres Road. I couldn't see any other reason ... it was a clear intersection and a clear day. Scary."

[graciegirl]

"I guess that was the reason (yesterday) that she turned left off of #446 smashing right into the oncoming car at the corner of Rolling Acres Road. I couldn't see any other reason ... it was a clear intersection and a clear day. Scary."

Who did? Oh no!

[Midge538]

Who did? Oh no!

It was a young female driver. It was scary as it was not busy and it was such a clear day. Texting???

[2BNTV]

Saw a guy walking his dog yesterday, using the pinestraw to do his (the dog's, not the man's) business. Stopped to warn him to be careful because the pinestraw was known to have ticks. I wasn't rude, I don't think I was being arrogant, I thought I was being nice and helpful. If I had a dog that liked to go potty in an area that had ticks, I'd appreciate the warning. I might continue to let my dog use that spot, but I'd certainly be checking my dog carefully after each walk. If I thought someone was trying to help me and I thought what they were telling me was a bunch of hooey, I'd say thank you and go on my way. To say he yelled at me was putting it mildly! He was "sick of people thinking they knew better" than him. I was stunned.

I really thought it was a sad thing and felt sorry for him. Hope the rest of his day went better than that encounter; he certainly soured my day.

red

Sorry to hear this happened to you. Feel this hug.

It's easy to say to not let this ruin your day but I think I know how you feel. This sounds like something else is bothering this person and he is the type who lashes out at people.

If it were me, I try to let it roll off of of me but that's easier said than done.
I know it would bother me for a while.

Reminds me of the saying, "don't let anybody rent space in your head". :)

[Bill-n-Brillo]

Hey red - Maybe the guy's shorts were on just a bit too tight.............. :22yikes: THAT would probably make him grumpy!

Bill :)

[LittleDog]

However there are some people here who believe they are the "police" and tell you what you should do when no one has given them authority to do that. As an example when I was a newbie in the Villages I parked my golf cart in front of Toojays for a minute as I had to go in there. There were not a lot of cars on the street at that time in the morning. I was parked like a car would be parked, not headon. A women who was crossing the street told me that I was not supposed to park my cart like that. She must have felt it was her duty to tell me how to park. There are people like this in the Villages. I felt like telling this women it's none of her business. Don't know if this is the same as the Redwitch incident but the guy probably felt it was none of her business even though she was just being helpful. Just another opinion.

John

[springfield illinois]

I always figure those who get there panties in a wad,, just need to buy bigger panties!! I worry bout folks who think somebody pees in there Cheerios every day!
If I was on leash doing my business, and you told the guy holding the leash I could get ticks,, I would be very greatful you told him! I bet the dog is happy with you! Ah mans best friend!! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!!

[2BNTV]

Hey red - Maybe the guy's shorts were on just a bit too tight.............. :22yikes: THAT would probably make him grumpy!

Bill :)

Maybe he put them on backwards and he needed to go. :shrug::jester:

No one has the right to be extremely rude when someone is trying to help them.

[MrMark]

However there are some people here who believe they are the "police" and tell you what you should do when no one has given them authority to do that. As an example when I was a newbie in the Villages I parked my golf cart in front of Toojays for a minute as I had to go in there. There were not a lot of cars on the street at that time in the morning. I was parked like a car would be parked, not headon. A women who was crossing the street told me that I was not supposed to park my cart like that. She must have felt it was her duty to tell me how to park. There are people like this in the Villages. I felt like telling this women it's none of her business. Don't know if this is the same as the Redwitch incident but the guy probably felt it was none of her business even though she was just being helpful. Just another opinion.

John

TOUCHE! Often unsolicited comments/opinions/chastisements evoke responses that the perpetrator finds unacceptable. Don't intrude and you'll surely find less reason to tell the wide world how badly you've been treated. Remember, "silence is golden"!

[rubicon]

I happen to agree with the above-stated post. Some folks seem bent on being helpful but actually are seen as being intrusive. Many people view their morning walk as quiet time, time to reflect, etc. A simply nod as you pass serves the purpose.. What I don't get in this conversation has to do with why living in TV is inconsistent with being grumpy. I defend your right to be grumpy.

[graciegirl]

Rubicon. Happy up!:wave:

[rubicon]

Graciegirl:wave: I am not a grump. I just beleieve there is no since being a grump unless you can act like one:pepper2:

[dillywho]

Why could he not have just politely said, "Thank You", and moved on? Knowing Red, I don't think she would have followed him around. She would have just moved on as well. (Maybe he was just having a bad day. If so, at least he wasn't taking his frustration out on his poor dog.)

[buzzy]

It's all relative. We have been living in a South FL condo. At a condo, 70% of the people will tell you when they don't like what you are doing. The other 30% will post an anonymous note on the bulletin board. It has to be a lot better in TV.

[graciegirl]

Graciegirl:wave: I am not a grump. I just beleieve there is no since being a grump unless you can act like one:pepper2:

I know you are not a grump. And what you say makes sense....

I think........

[katezbox]

Graciegirl:wave: I am not a grump. I just beleieve there is no since being a grump unless you can act like one:pepper2:

I know you are not a grump. And what you say makes sense....

I think........

Rubicon's quote makes more sense if you change the word "since" to "sense."
I think....

[Canukistan]

Gracie, the moon IS full tonight! Perhaps that affected this guy's ability to be civil the way it can affect my ability to sleep! "Grumps" ARE here but I am happy to say that in all of the years I have lived in The Villages I have only encountered 2 or 3 of them. Whenever I HAVE run into this kind of behavior I try to imagine scenarios in my mind that might cause someone to respond in such a defensive way. Could they have just received news about a serious health problem in themselves, or in a loved one or a friend? Did they just lose a loved one or close friend? Do they live in severe pain due to health problems? Are they in the midst of a serious financial crisis? Many things can happen to folks and some people just aren't able to handle serious life events in mature ways. Some people thrive on being the "victim". I feel sorry for people who take a kind gesture of caring as an attack on their intelligence. If living in this beautiful place hasn't removed the "grumpiness" out of this guy nothing will! Author John Bradshaw wrote something to the effect, "We are all on a spaceship, hurtling through space.". Wouldn't you think that this vision would be enough to make all of us realize that we are "in this thing together"? Most of us are here to help make the other passengers' rides as comfortable and pleasant as we can, as we journey through life.

Ahhhh.....beautiful....I couldn't have said it beter myself....

[superuke]

The think the old chap needs some friendly cat!

[mrfixit]

I happen to agree with the above-stated post. Some folks seem bent on being helpful but actually are seen as being intrusive. Many people view their morning walk as quiet time, time to reflect, etc. A simply nod as you pass serves the purpose.. What I don't get in this conversation has to do with why living in TV is inconsistent with being grumpy. I defend your right to be grumpy.

Maybe, just maybe he had recently gotten some bad news. Like...you have the big C...or maybe "the wife" or a child had just passed. Personally I would have said "thank You". Some people take anything as a personal affront to their intelligence. You can not let someone's inner despair spoil your day. Let it go.....shake it off...smile at others ....AND...say a prayer for the grumps' inner peace. This is The Villages....we need a few grumpy people just to offset the overwhelming majority of happy people. Now, as an aside, maybe he puts a few drops of white distilled vinegar in his dog's water bowl.....and is not worried about the dog getting bit by a tick.( they will not drink the first few hours....But..they will drink it by morning... AND become healthier all over.. Will not need the meds for arthritis...At least it worked for my 125 pound 13 year old mutt. Vet said he did not believe it was the same dog within 60 days.

[Pturner]

Red,
If you let me know I was putting my sweet dog in danger of ticks-- he'd give you a good lickin'. :doggie:

Hugs,
P

[bkcunningham1]

Red, maybe it was Fumar doing Gary a favor? You know how he loves dogs.

[ilovetv]

Saw a guy walking his dog yesterday, using the pinestraw to do his (the dog's, not the man's) business. Stopped to warn him to be careful because the pinestraw was known to have ticks. I wasn't rude, I don't think I was being arrogant, I thought I was being nice and helpful. ..... To say he yelled at me was putting it mildly! He was "sick of people thinking they knew better" than him. I was stunned. I really thought it was a sad thing and felt sorry for him. Hope the rest of his day went better than that encounter; he certainly soured my day.

Maybe he has no say in anything at home and his wife is one of those few who hates TV and wants to move back to the northernmost area of Michigan, where they get 200 inches of snow/year and it's 30 below zero for months. That would make a LOT of us grumpy.

[whartonjelly]

I have learned that silence is golden , the hard way. I lost a good friend just meaning well.

[redwitch]

Thanks for all the kind words and hugs. They were needed and appreciated. It has not been a good week/month and his yelling at me just got under my skin. I can usually shrug the dolts of this world off, but this one just hurt. It's not like I told him to not walk his dog in the pinestraw, just wanted to let him know there was a danger of ticks and I really don't care how miserable someone's life is, there's no excuse of that behavior. He could walk, he had a dog who loved him, he lived in The Villages, it was a beautiful day outside. Ah, well, life goes on and for the one grump there are five smiling and happy to make you smile with them and then there's the four who make you smile just because they are part of this world (like Gracie).

BTW -- Some of your comments cracked me up. The smiles were needed, too. And, since it was he who had his panties in a wad, maybe that was the problem -- he's a cross-dresser and his wife hid his bra.

[robertj1954]

Saw a guy walking his dog yesterday, using the pinestraw to do his (the dog's, not the man's) business. Stopped to warn him to be careful because the pinestraw was known to have ticks. I wasn't rude, I don't think I was being arrogant, I thought I was being nice and helpful. If I had a dog that liked to go potty in an area that had ticks, I'd appreciate the warning. I might continue to let my dog use that spot, but I'd certainly be checking my dog carefully after each walk. If I thought someone was trying to help me and I thought what they were telling me was a bunch of hooey, I'd say thank you and go on my way. To say he yelled at me was putting it mildly! He was "sick of people thinking they knew better" than him. I was stunned.

I really thought it was a sad thing and felt sorry for him. Hope the rest of his day went better than that encounter; he certainly soured my day.

There are times when " No good deed goes unpunished". Fortunately for the majority of us that never stops us from being nice and offering help to others. It is the right thing to do... :)

[skyguy79]

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3593/3622440632_b675a15591.jpghttp://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQveT-8KoPL1zWAT9FNcXXjfQ3ESUBL7duFMtkSbujBKoUDR0lg
Is this the guy and his dog?

[2BNTV]

There are times when " No good deed goes unpunished". Fortunately for the majority of us that never stops us from being nice and offering help to others. It is the right thing to do... :)

Amen.

I'm glad your feeling better Redwitch. :)