Think it's time for me to sign off....

[The Village Girl]

I think it's time for me to sign off as well....

My posts have always been fun and I truly thought for the most part people liked them and found them funny!

Now it appears this is not the case. This has always been a fun forum for me and yes sometimes I am honest. I guess that being honest on this forum is not OK.

I will be glad to leave the forum so that the some of you can be happy again.

[Carla B]

To quote a favorite Rocky Horror Song...."It was fun when it all began...." Good Luck.

[LoriAnn]

Just refrain from posting things you wouldn't say to someone in person. Some of your posts are funny and some are brutal. Honesty is not an excuse for hurtful comments. Stay around and play nice.

[SunCity]

I think it's time for me to sign off as well....

My posts have always been fun and I truly thought for the most part people liked them and found them funny!

Now it appears this is not the case. This has always been a fun forum for me and yes sometimes I am honest. I guess that being honest on this forum is not OK.

I will be glad to leave the forum so that the some of you can be happy again.

we have been enjoying your posts out here in sun city arizona. you are so entertaining. don't leave. we actually wondered whether this happinow was a real person or just a fake picture of a couple on their avatar picture. we still wonder because she says something one day and than she changes. and some of her questions are bizarre. but she seems like a nice person and so do you. you are more fun, though. she seems more serious. we liked your honesty. please don't leave. we readers out in the west will miss you. you are so entertaining and fun. we will not be happy if you leave this entertaining forum.

[Skybo]

It’s one thing to voice an honest opinion about a specific topic or statement, but it’s quite another to attack an individual’s personality, state of mind or posting habits.

[schotzyb]

I think it's time for me to sign off as well....

My posts have always been fun and I truly thought for the most part people liked them and found them funny!

Now it appears this is not the case. This has always been a fun forum for me and yes sometimes I am honest. I guess that being honest on this forum is not OK.

I will be glad to leave the forum so that the some of you can be happy again.

I see nothing wrong in any of your posts and I made a habit to read them all. Some people really are going to cry "foul" no matter what you say. Honesty is always the best ; you have less to remember that way.

[gerryann]

:popcorn:

[JimPete]

VG, I would hate to see you go. You add spice to this forum and make it more interesting. Everybody that post on this forum adds to it's appeal. I don't want to see anyone bow out of TOTV.

Jim

[skyguy79]

If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen. Goodbye.

The village girl is a TROLL! Not a very interesting or creative one. I usually just skip her/his posts. Village girl may have gone a little overboard with her remarks and I wouldn't have stated them if it was me, but the remarks didn't really bother me and I don't view them as reaching the level of being "brutal" as some posters made sure to emphasized. VG did admit that she was being honest, but she never said that she was being "brutally" honest or intended to be. That term was later started by someone who IMO, wanted to embellish and sensationalize their own opinions of her posts.

What does bother me though is how the two posts quoted above were ignored while a number of people were dissing VG. Not a single person - nada - said boo about them which I think was a bigger problem that what was being stated. I'll restrain from what I further thing about that!

The first quote above wasn't even criticism, but it was a simple hurtful display of disrespect for Happinow and her feelings. The second quote called VG a "Troll" and that is something I would never publicly have enough gall to call another poster here on TOTV as the poster above did... and then to follow up with insulting personal non constructive opinions to boot. There are a few people on TOTV however (not involved in these posts in any way) that I know are trolls. I know because I have been personally attacked and insulted by them for no good reason at all, as well as having been lied about by one of those persons in an attempt to create trouble for me with the then Admin.

Anyway, that's my feeling about things and most likely my final remarks about this subject!

[graciegirl]

Don't go Village Girl. Whoever you are, you are old enough to call a spade a spade.

[skyguy79]

I agree with you Gracy that VG shouldn't go and I don't want her to go either, but ultimately as you stated "She's a big girl" and that is her decision to make!

[The Village Girl]

I'm not signing off any more then Happinow is! I'm just messing with you. I agree with the poster who said if you are going to sign off, you just leave quietly.

That being said, if you really read my post you would see that I didn't do any more then agree with previous threads and site the reason they may have been posted. For some reason this is the comment that was posted as the offending comment.

"Only Gracie can be Gracie. All others are a cheap imitation.

Honey, just try being you.

I agree with the others. You are all over the board.

You know TV by visiting your inlaws, you don't know anything about TV, you then know everything and then you are making suggestions about changes in TV. At times you have no clue as to how to decorate and then you are a regular Martha Stewart.

Huh?"

There was nothing in this post that called Happinow a name or anything else. I also think it's interesting how the same people who accused me of being so "harsh" were in fact harsh to me.

I do find this forum fun.... I think most people know that for the most part I am having a good time. If you don't... oh well... I plan to continue to have fun and yes, I will continue to post on TOTV.

That is all!

[JimPete]

VG, are you and Happinow going to kiss and make up now?

Jim

[skyguy79]

I'm not signing off any more then Happinow is! I'm just messing with you.It's not nice to mess with Skyguys mind. It's already messed up enough! :22yikes:

[PR1234]

I'm not signing off any more then Happinow is! I'm just messing with you. I agree with the poster who said if you are going to sign off, you just leave quietly.

That being said, if you really read my post you would see that I didn't do any more then agree with previous threads and site the reason they may have been posted. For some reason this is the comment that was posted as the offending comment.

"Only Gracie can be Gracie. All others are a cheap imitation.

Honey, just try being you.

I agree with the others. You are all over the board.

You know TV by visiting your inlaws, you don't know anything about TV, you then know everything and then you are making suggestions about changes in TV. At times you have no clue as to how to decorate and then you are a regular Martha Stewart.

Huh?"

There was nothing in this post that called Happinow a name or anything else. I also think it's interesting how the same people who accused me of being so "harsh" were in fact harsh to me.

I do find this forum fun.... I think most people know that for the most part I am having a good time. If you don't... oh well... I plan to continue to have fun and yes, I will continue to post on TOTV.

That is all!

VG it's easy to have "Fun" at other people's expense when you're anonymous isn't it.

[LoriAnn]

Trolling is a behavior not name calling. If VG is gonna dish, she's gotta take.

[The Village Girl]

Just because you don't know who I am, doesn't mean that others don't. I'm not as anonymous as you might think.

Have I said or done anything to hurt you?

[The Village Girl]

Trolling is a behavior not name calling. If VG is gonna dish, she's gotta take.

Have I done something to you?

[gerryann]

:icon_bored: Oh good grief!!! Is this grade school????

[JimPete]

:icon_bored: Oh good grief!!! Is this grade school????


What can you do? :shrug: I guess kids will be kids. I'm going to bed.

Jim

[CarGuys]

VG is giving the Grade School Smack Down!

Meet me by the Monkey Bars at Recess!

Hurt Feelings Report Forms for all.:cryin2:

[l2ridehd]

There is a lesson that has to be learned the hard way in regard to communications. You could say something and inflect tone, a smile, a growl, a sneer, a laugh and the meaning can change. And sometimes very dramatically. However when you write something down on paper (or on a forum) the meaning you have and what the reader gets for a message can be totally different. You may mean it to be funny and are laughing as you type, but the reader has a totally different mood or thought process when they are reading your post.

There was a demonstration in a communication class where a very short sentence was written. "go to the store and buy eggs and milk" This was handed to the first person who had to read it, destroy the note, write down the same message and pass it to the next person who did the same thing. After it was passed through about 15 to 18 folks in the class the note was read. Not even close to the original very simple message.

Communication is a very difficult skill to master. Most of us here are mediocre at best. There are a few who are very good, but only a few. So please consider this when you read others posts and realize just maybe they didn't mean it the way you interpret it. If your trying to be funny always add a smiley face, always read your message twice before hitting submit, always try to think about how someone else might think about what you wrote.

[The Village Girl]

Trolling is a behavior not name calling. If VG is gonna dish, she's gotta take.

I do dish and I do take it as well. If you were to check my posts you will see that I make fun of myself and have taken it back from others. Again, I'm on here to have fun.

As to my comments to Happinow, if you read the threads, we have commented back and forth to each other. She has in fact made me laugh on several occasions when she has come back at me in her threads. I have never taken them to be mean.

As to my comment. Sorry folks, while some of you find it to be mean, it wasn't meant to be. Her posts are very confusing to me for the reasons stated. Understand, she has not contacted me personally to ask about this but only called me out publicly on the forum. I understand that some of you will not like me and I'm OK with that. I also understand that not everyone will think that I am funny, and I'm OK with that. There have been times the Admin has removed something that he has thought was questionable and I'm OK with that.

Also understand, this is the last I will have to say about this. If Happinow has a problem with me, I think maybe she might have wanted to bring it to me before grandstanding with the "I'm leaving the forum now" thread. But, what do I know?

[skyguy79]

There is a lesson that has to be learned the hard way in regard to communications. You could say something and inflect tone, a smile, a growl, a sneer, a laugh and the meaning can change. And sometimes very dramatically. However when you write something down on paper (or on a forum) the meaning you have and what the reader gets for a message can be totally different. You may mean it to be funny and are laughing as you type, but the reader has a totally different mood or thought process when they are reading your post.

There was a demonstration in a communication class where a very short sentence was written. "go to the store and buy eggs and milk" This was handed to the first person who had to read it, destroy the note, write down the same message and pass it to the next person who did the same thing. After it was passed through about 15 to 18 folks in the class the note was read. Not even close to the original very simple message.

Communication is a very difficult skill to master. Most of us here are mediocre at best. There are a few who are very good, but only a few. So please consider this when you read others posts and realize just maybe they didn't mean it the way you interpret it. If your trying to be funny always add a smiley face, always read your message twice before hitting submit, always try to think about how someone else might think about what you wrote.Excellent post and I especially like the pass the note part. It reminded me of many years ago when we were having a party at a friends home where we all sat in a circle and one of us would wisper a simple message into the ear of the one next to us. They in turn did likewise to the next person and this continued until it reached the last person in the circle. The results were amazing in just how much the message changed through the exchanges.

[rubicon]

I just wish some people get over themselves, not offend easily ignore, PC and speak up that's all most of us have left. "Stick and stones will break my bones but names will never matter" Geeezzz

[angiefox10]

I didn't think VG was trying to be mean. In fact, I do think for the most part, she does try to be funny. I've seen her take a lot of heat on her threads. More then most of you would.

Honestly, I was/am having trouble connecting the dots with some of the threads. I don't want to see either one of them leave the forum and I feel this has been blown way out of proportion.

I too wonder why the comments came up as a thread and not in a PM. Honestly, I don't think if Happinow was trying to resolve it, this was the way to do it. If it had been at me, I'm not so sure I wouldn't have reacted a lot more then VG.

I also don't know who most of you are who are suddenly coming out of the woodwork on this topic. I'm seeing some pretty mean comments to both parties.... Posters who have only made a few posts making some pretty harsh posts. Just who are the trolls, because I'm getting confused? :police:

[CarGuys]

Angie they live in that pasture in back of our home and they come in and destroy our new lawn.

Ohhh no that was Moles not Trolls

My Bad!

On a more serious note. There is documentation all over the place about face to face communication feeling tones and body language and facial expressions. We all know this.

And we cannot do it in type. Well some are good at it and some are terrible.

I have a friend in TV that I absolutely repect but we cannot communicate in e-mails. Even a phone call is strained. Face to Face it's all good.

On line he becomes an e-mail terroritsts. Abrupt Short in. If fact his last comment to me was that TOTV is full of jerks and complainers.

Now the real sad story- SU lost last night- Sigh!

[graciegirl]

:coolsmiley::a20:Hervey. You are so funny and you are the great guy.

[skyguy79]

I have a friend in TV that I absolutely repect but we cannot communicate in e-mails. Even a phone call is strained. Face to Face it's all good.

On line he becomes an e-mail terroritsts. Abrupt Short in. If fact his last comment to me was that TOTV is full of jerks and complainers.

Now the real sad story- SU lost last night- Sigh!One thing that we should never do is make a statement complaining that "TOTV is full of jerks and complainers." :doh: A bit self-denigrating don't ya think? Anyway, you're right about SU. Unfortunately they kind of beat themselves in the last few minutes of the game. Pushed too hard and too carelessly! Oh well!
http://www.smiley-lol.com/smiley/sport/basket/bas2ket.gif

[skyguy79]

:coolsmiley::a20:Hervey. You are so funnay and you are the great guy.Carguy may be great guy but never Sky guy. I'm the one and only skyguy. Scarry isn't it? :22yikes:

[CarGuys]

One thing that we should never do is make a statement complaining that "TOTV is full of jerks and complainers." :doh: A bit self-denigrating don't ya think? Anyway, you're right about SU. Unfortunately they kind of beat themselves in the last few minutes of the game. Pushed too hard and too carelessly! Oh well!
http://www.smiley-lol.com/smiley/sport/basket/bas2ket.gif

Maybe we all do this sometimes on line and we get lost?
SkyGuy you nailed it on the head! SU threw it away. I believe the loss of Mello hurt them bad. I am pround the kids went as far as they did. Nothing to be ashamed of.

I am Happy for my Ohio Friends. I hope they take it all now!

H

[Bill-n-Brillo]

Go Buckeyes!!! :wave:

:popcorn:

Bill :)

[graciegirl]

Go Buckeyes!!! :wave:

:popcorn:

Bill :)

What he said!!!

[lovesports]

Village Girl,
Do you remember Larry Wilson? You stalked him and called him a liar on his posts. I will never know what problem you had with him but you baited him every chance you got- trying to start a flame.

I always thought you were a "he" because you seemed to be very judgmental and crude in your statements. You seemed to think you knew it all. You were also all over the board in your postings. One minute saying people needed to be nicer and you missed those who stopped posting. The next moment being as nasty as possible to who ever you had chosen as your victim. Next actually being funny. Go back and reread your posts. You will see it all.

I have watched this board since it was started and it is full of very nice people. Every once in awhile a troll and or a cyber bully like you comes along. I thank the people who called you out. I also might add if you had a problem with Happ.. or Larry or anyone,you could of sent them a private message instead of your public postings.

[The Village Girl]

Yes Larry, I remember you. You talked about your friendships and business dealings with the Morse family. I simply asked you about it. You would never answer. Did I call you a liar about it? I don't think so, since I don't remember thinking that. But I suppose since you never responded, maybe it was so.

I remember you well. I remember you, and how you treated Russ and making a comment about how you are in charge of the sports and you would see to it that Russ would never play. Russ left after that. He doesn't come on much even now.

Yes Larry, I remember you.

[lovesports]

You haven't learned a thing. Still trying to bait and be your old "I know everything" nasty old self.

I'm not going to waste my time.


You are sooo wrong. I repeat-you are so wrong. Probably you are a nut job who is very lonely. Your life must be reading this forum. You must be on it everyday.

For your information, Russ and I are friends. He is working long shifts at the hospital and living the Village lifestyle now. He is very busy and happy. He posts when he can, especially about health care.

Now go read Larry's posts again and again and again because you seem to be obsessed with him. I am going to bed. You have gotten all the attention I am going to give you. I say again, most the people on Talk Of The Villages are very nice and I will just ignore you in the future.

[njbchbum]

i thought vg signed off already!

[The Village Girl]

You haven't learned a thing. Still trying to bait and be your old "I know everything" nasty old self.

I'm not going to waste my time.


You are sooo wrong. I repeat-you are so wrong. Probably you are a nut job who is very lonely. Your life must be reading this forum. You must be on it everyday.

For your information, Russ and I are friends. He is working long shifts at the hospital and living the Village lifestyle now. He is very busy and happy. He posts when he can, especially about health care.

Now go read Larry's posts again and again and again because you seem to be obsessed with him. I am going to bed. You have gotten all the attention I am going to give you. I say again, most the people on Talk Of The Villages are very nice and I will just ignore you in the future.

Larry, I do hope that you and Russ are friends. Honestly, you frightened me with your post to him. There were many, but this is the one that bothered me.

With everyone else, I think this is a very needed thread.

Russ, you won't have to tell me a thing. I do the evaluations when new people try out for a team. And if I don't do it, I know all the people who do...

I know you can't keep your mouth shut so just know I'm done with you!!! See you at try-outs.

This post and your constant reference to your friendship with the Morse family was very scary to me. I asked you many times how you knew them and you never would answer. Not in a PM or online. Russ did leave and while he does post, not like he used to.

As to how Russ is doing and his being here, he has posted that himself on TOTV. That's not to say that you and he are not friends as you may well be.

As long as I'm being honest here at times I found you to be a very charming man. But after your threat to Russ, you scared me and, yes, I did want to know how you knew the Morse family. Was that something to fear? I didn't/don't know.

I'm not baiting you, I have honestly asked that question many times and you never answered.

Now, another question for you? When did I call you a liar? I truly don't remember thinking that you were, so maybe it was a lack of communication on my part that you would think that.

Larry, you brought this topic up,not me.

[jblum315]

Yes Larry, I remember you. You talked about your friendships and business dealings with the Morse family. I simply asked you about it. You would never answer. Did I call you a liar about it? I don't think so, since I don't remember thinking that. But I suppose since you never responded, maybe it was so.

I remember you well. I remember you, and how you treated Russ and making a comment about how you are in charge of the sports and you would see to it that Russ would never play. Russ left after that. He doesn't come on much even now.

Yes Larry, I remember you.

OK, Fine, so sign off already

[plimit56]

This is so petty so take your disagreements off line and don't bother the rest of us that are trying to enjoy these forums with good productive information.

"Saving one dog won't change the world...but the world will change for that one dog."

[The Village Girl]

i thought vg signed off already!

OK, Fine, so sign off already


I'm baffled Have I done something to you that has hurt you?

[Moderator]

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If it's getting to be too much, a quiet sabbatical is a good idea.

To Village Girl, we know for a fact that LoveSports is not Larry Wilson, so, your accusations are unfounded.

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