Village + Age

[optv13sp]

We will be buying a home in The Villages in January. We've rented in several different villages about 8 times since 2007 and we realize that one of the most appealing things about The Villages is getting together with neighbors. It is important to us to have at least some neighbors who are somewhat close to our age. Would those of you who live now and/or will soon live in the villages of Duval, Hemingway, Hadley, St. Charles, Sanibel, Fernindina,Gilchrist etc. share which village you live in and what your age is?

[Bogie Shooter]

I am not aware of any age requirements for any village.

[CalcTeacher]

I think the OP is referring to the trend where "younger" buyers buy in the new Villages. My husband and I (53 and 50) are building in Gilchrist (yes, I know we're younger than 55, but as long as TV has a certain percentage of residents over 55, it isn't a problem). We have met some of our soon-to-be neighbors...and they do not seem to be much older than we are but I think they are completely retired so do the math. However, my parents (both 73) just moved into a "spec" home in June in Tamarind Grove, a relatively newer Village. My mother-in-law is 82 and she lives in Santa Domingo (moved to TV about 12 years ago).

[graciegirl]

I am 107 and live in Laurel Valley. Our village is one year old and I am the youngest.

These kinds of questions REALLY get under my skin.

Sorry. I shouldn't have typed that.

[sueandskip]

I am 107 and live in Laurel Valley. Our village is one year old and I am the youngest.

These kinds of questions REALLY get under my skin.

I am 37 and married to a 93 yo...Can I move there ?

[cathyw]

WELCOME to TOTV. When you get here you will find that you will meet people based on your activities. Those that you have the most in common with, you will socialize with. These people may or may not live in your Village. It doesn't matter. Age is just a number.

[keithwand]

I am 37 and married to a 93 yo...Can I move there ?

Yes you can and at age 37 you have enough time for a few more husbands to boot!

Gracie- you look great for 107. Must be the water in Laurel Valley.

[optv13sp]

Yes, CalcTeacher, you are correct in that I am gathering information about trends. Thank you so much for your sincere answer. I also agree that we will socialize with others of like interests. As I mentioned, however, socializing with neighbors is also a lot of fun and being with others about our same age lends itself to visiting with them about common experiences etc. and that is something I enjoy. I have no idea why this innocent question would get under someone's skin. What am I missing?

[jimbo2012]

Well U may get better feedback if U told the group your age(s)

[graciegirl]

Yes, CalcTeacher, you are correct in that I am gathering information about trends. Thank you so much for your sincere answer. I also agree that we will socialize with others of like interests. As I mentioned, however, socializing with neighbors is also a lot of fun and being with others about our same age lends itself to visiting with them about common experiences etc. and that is something I enjoy. I have no idea why this innocent question would get under someone's skin. What am I missing?

Because most questions of this sort are posed by people who at the youngest end of the spectrum...who seem to be trying to avoid "older" people.

I apologize.

Welcome to you. You will fit in well in any village, just as most people do. The commonality we have is that we have lived and learned and were happy and sad by turns for about five decades,or more.... We have met a lot of people along the way, and accomplished a lot and have many stories to share and many, like me like to hear them..

I am sorry I acted like a mean person.

My Sweetie and I are both 72. He is far nicer.

[Roaddog53]

I am 107 and live in Laurel Valley. Our village is one year old and I am the youngest.

These kinds of questions REALLY get under my skin.

Sorry. I shouldn't have typed that.

I TOTALLY agree with you GG! Just move down here. If they are that picky about who they live around or associate with, maybe they shouldn't live here since they are so worried. I have never heard of someone moving to a city and asking what is the age of people around them. They have a good idea here though! Duh!! :agree:

[optv13sp]

Thank you graciegirl for the apology. As you may have noticed, that was only my third post ever and I was unprepared and uncomfortable with your response. Actually, we aren't very young and trying to avoid "old people". We're 68 and 72 and we are merely trying to gather as much information as possible to see if the villages we are interested in are a good fit for us.

[Mikeod]

Please don't worry about age differences. In our neighborhood, we have people ranging from the 50's to almost 90. We have a social club that meets monthly and we ALL have a good time.

At the beginning, the neighborhood did a lot of things together, but, as time went on, people met people from other villages with similar interests and we do not do quite as much together outside the social club. But we all get along wonderfully. We joke that you can't take an exercise walk around the neighborhood because you are always stopping to talk to one neighbor or the other.

[billethkid]

trying to zero in on whatever you are zeroing in on using age as you think you may know it from wherever else you live(d) or experienced has no bearing whatsoever on what are the ages of whoever in whatever village in TV.

If age is a criteria for where you want to buy you may need to be looking at other than TV.

I know 50++ who are older acting in every respect than many 65+ and 70+.

Remember the 50 somethings of today are tomorrows 70 somethings.....and wouldn't you feel bad if someone chose not to be your neighbor because you were too old.

Forget the age bit....it is a number on a piece of paper that has nothing to do with how some of us behave.

btk

[tommy steam]

We will be buying a home in The Villages in January. We've rented in several different villages about 8 times since 2007 and we realize that one of the most appealing things about The Villages is getting together with neighbors. It is important to us to have at least some neighbors who are somewhat close to our age. Would those of you who live now and/or will soon live in the villages of Duval, Hemingway, Hadley, St. Charles, Sanibel, Fernindina,Gilchrist etc. share which village you live in and what your age is?

What would your age be?

[tommy steam]

Yes, CalcTeacher, you are correct in that I am gathering information about trends. Thank you so much for your sincere answer. I also agree that we will socialize with others of like interests. As I mentioned, however, socializing with neighbors is also a lot of fun and being with others about our same age lends itself to visiting with them about common experiences etc. and that is something I enjoy. I have no idea why this innocent question would get under someone's skin. What am I missing?

Your Age.

[tommy steam]

Because most questions of this sort are posed by people who at the youngest end of the spectrum...who seem to be trying to avoid "older" people.

I apologize.

Welcome to you. You will fit in well in any village, just as most people do. The commonality we have is that we have lived and learned and were happy and sad by turns for about five decades,or more.... We have met a lot of people along the way, and accomplished a lot and have many stories to share and many, like me like to hear them..

I am sorry I acted like a mean person.

My Sweetie and I are both 72. He is far nicer.

I dont think you were mean.

[cathyw]

What would your age be?

Said they were 68 and 72.

[CaptJohn]

Most of my friends over the years have been older than me and I like it that way! (I'm 64.10)
One can learn a lot from persons with more and varied experience.
I will like Gracie at either age!

[hotrodgirl]

Hi dlloltv-
Firstly, Gracie is one of the very nicest people I almost know :laugh:
And I understand the basis for your question though I assure you it probably won't really matter once you get to know the people who live near you! I have met many through this forum who I like immensely and really have no idea of their current ages. That being said, I chose to build in Gilchrist where it seems we have just a bit of a party atmosphere! Of course I did not know that at the time, but many of us in Gilchrist and Fernandina have been corresponding through this forum. I think most are on the younger side, though not all, but they do all seem very friendly. I am not quite 60 myself having had the capability to retire a bit early and enjoy life! I close on Dec 5th and greatly look forward to meeting many new friends and hope as well to have lots of visitors! Welcome to TV and I know that you will be happy in whatever neighborhood you choose! Just make sure it's ours:a040:

[Patty55]

We will be buying a home in The Villages in January. We've rented in several different villages about 8 times since 2007 and we realize that one of the most appealing things about The Villages is getting together with neighbors. It is important to us to have at least some neighbors who are somewhat close to our age. Would those of you who live now and/or will soon live in the villages of Duval, Hemingway, Hadley, St. Charles, Sanibel, Fernindina,Gilchrist etc. share which village you live in and what your age is?

Okie Dokey, another "Looky Lou" making IMO no sense at all. You've been coming here for 5 years, 7 trips-HUH?

So, what are you looking for, older or younger? I don't know, don't care how much backpedaling, it smacks of age-ism to me.

Access to my village is DENIED.

[Patty55]

I am 107 and live in Laurel Valley. Our village is one year old and I am the youngest.

These kinds of questions REALLY get under my skin.

Sorry. I shouldn't have typed that.

Yes, you should have typed that, YOU BE YOU.

[gomoho]

Awww - give her a break. My husband and I were fulltiming in our RV for 5 years and some of the parks we went to were like "night of the living dead". Then we would go to another park - usually a completely different geographic area and discover the same aged people as the other park living and enjoying life. So some of us have experienced less than desirable situations in senior communities and it is a reality. We all are lucky enough to be here already and understand age really is not an issue; HOWEVER, I would venture to say (at the risk of getting beat up) the newer neighborhoods would probably have more younger people because they just got here and built their dream homes.

[perrjojo]

We live in Mission Hills..ages range from mid 40's to early 80's. We all have a great time together. Don't worry, be happy. Oh, and when you get to be the oldest(and hopefully you will), remember back to when you worried about the age of your friends. We are 69 and have younger friends that seem too of for us and older friends who seem too young.

[Mack184]

WELCOME to TOTV. When you get here you will find that you will meet people based on your activities. Those that you have the most in common with, you will socialize with. These people may or may not live in your Village. It doesn't matter. Age is just a number.
Not necessarily..Age often means something especially when it comes to being able to relate your life experiences to others. Most people are more comfortable when they can be around those of the same age & life experience. I don't think it's a dumb question at all as one poster thought. It makes perfect sense. I'd want..and we did..to take a look at the general make up of one area over another.

I would say the best way to find out is tour around the different sections and attempt to learn. Federal law forbids TV or any other developer from giving and/or steering you to particular sections, but if you keep your eyes and ears open you can learn a lot about the areas you are interested in.

Good luck in finding what you want!

[Bill-n-Brillo]

JMHO - - - - - Regardless of people's ages, I think you'll find the newest areas will have more neighborhood activities and "automatic socializing". Why? Because everyone there (regardless of their age) is in the same boat - they're all new to the Village they're in and are all excited and wanting to meet everyone around them. Not so in many cases when you move into a Village that has existed for a while - say several years. Most people there have been settled in for a while and have found/made friends both in the neighborhood and via their other activities. Not to say that there's nothing that goes on in their Village from a social standpoint. But you might find that, since everyone's not in the same boat as you (new to the neighborhood), your expectations might not be met. We bought a home in Duval around 2 years ago and found this to be the case. We're snowflakes so that might have a little bit of a bearing on it......but I really don't think so. From Day One, we knocked on doors to introduce ourselves to our neighbors, have spoken/waved to everyone who goes by, and so on. EVERYONE without exception has been very nice and extremely friendly........but for the most part, we'd never know that if we weren't the ones stepping up to initiate the interaction.

Wherever you choose to buy will be great!

Bill :)

[Dr Winston O Boogie jr]

I am 37 and married to a 93 yo...Can I move there ?

I'm 60 and my wife is...well, let's just say she's A LOT younger than me and way too young to qualify to live in the Villages on her own.
But she is over 18 so she qualifies as long as she's with me.

[notlongnow]

I am 107 and live in Laurel Valley. Our village is one year old and I am the youngest.

These kinds of questions REALLY get under my skin.

Sorry. I shouldn't have typed that.
__________________

I am a year from retiring and I hope that at some point I meet you. You are a hoot!
My parent are there now and I visit them so maybe we can meet. You are the kind of neighbor I hope for.
EB

[redwitch]

I think it's easier to be one of the "young uns" in the neighborhood than the other way around, so I do understand the OP's concerns. If you're in your early 60's, you'll be perfectly comfortable meeting and, yes, socializing with those older than you. You can keep up. However, if you're at the other end, it may not be as easy for you. You may not want to stay up as late doing things with your neighbors. You may not have the energy to go to Ocala for dinner and then dancing in the square and then hearing some karaoke. You're not really a baby boomer so don't quite get the culture and the ideology that comes with that generation. So, there is reason for some hesitation.

Now, all of that being said, if you're a young 68 and 72, fitting in in a new, active village won't be a problem. Most of your neighbors will happily accept any physical limitations you might have. They'll accept you and enjoy your stories if you'll accept them and enjoy their stories. If you're an old fogey, you'll have major issues. But, then, you'll have major issues wherever you live. Grumps hate The Villages.

So, decide what is best for you as a person, not you as a person of a certain age. As Bill said, a new village will have more activities together. An older village will be more set and you'll have to make the effort to join in.

Good luck with whatever you choose.

[maryanna630]

My husband and I are 70 and we moved to Mexico full time almost 5 years ago. What we found was that the friends we made initially were not necessarily our good friends a few years later. In the beginning we socialized,with everyone but as time went on and we got to know people better, we naturally gravitated more to those with our interests. In my experience, really good friendships can take time to develop. We have lived many places and had wonderful neighbors, but they were not necessarily our best friends. I may be different, but I value the quality of relationships over the quantity. We are looking forward to our first visit to the villages in November as we are considering moving back to the US. Anyone else out there who has lived in Mexico and then moved to the Villages?

[2-crazy]

Maryanna630

Yes, there are, your observations on friendships have good value. Where in Mexico do you currently live? We lived in Mazatlan, State of Sinaloa for a few years. Build a house by the ocean and learn to dislike our dream.

[teritat]

Those of us that are in our late 50's don't have as much in common with those in their 70's/80's...just the way it is. Not saying that those in 70's/80's aren't trying to do some of the same activities as the 50's...but the attitudes/style of life/outlook on life will probably be different. We lived in one village for 4 years and then move to Ferdindina hoping to find the younger aged retiree but it is a mix bag in new village also. So, to answer your question - not one specific area is calling to the younger retiree over the older retiree.

[Schaumburger]

I think it's easier to be one of the "young uns" in the neighborhood than the other way around, so I do understand the OP's concerns. If you're in your early 60's, you'll be perfectly comfortable meeting and, yes, socializing with those older than you. You can keep up. However, if you're at the other end, it may not be as easy for you. You may not want to stay up as late doing things with your neighbors. You may not have the energy to go to Ocala for dinner and then dancing in the square and then hearing some karaoke. You're not really a baby boomer so don't quite get the culture and the ideology that comes with that generation. So, there is reason for some hesitation.

Now, all of that being said, if you're a young 68 and 72, fitting in in a new, active village won't be a problem. Most of your neighbors will happily accept any physical limitations you might have. They'll accept you and enjoy your stories if you'll accept them and enjoy their stories. If you're an old fogey, you'll have major issues. But, then, you'll have major issues wherever you live. Grumps hate The Villages.

So, decide what is best for you as a person, not you as a person of a certain age. As Bill said, a new village will have more activities together. An older village will be more set and you'll have to make the effort to join in.

Good luck with whatever you choose.

Redwitch, Well spoken. I would happily move to any village tomorrow. And I'm 52.

[Schaumburger]

My husband and I are 70 and we moved to Mexico full time almost 5 years ago. What we found was that the friends we made initially were not necessarily our good friends a few years later. In the beginning we socialized,with everyone but as time went on and we got to know people better, we naturally gravitated more to those with our interests. In my experience, really good friendships can take time to develop. We have lived many places and had wonderful neighbors, but they were not necessarily our best friends. I may be different, but I value the quality of relationships over the quantity. We are looking forward to our first visit to the villages in November as we are considering moving back to the US. Anyone else out there who has lived in Mexico and then moved to the Villages?

maryanna630, Welcome to TOTV. Hope your first visit to The Villages next month is enjoyable. Let us know what you think of TV once you have visited. :welcome:

[carm310]

Hemingway...we will finally be full time next summer, we are well into year 4 of our 5 year plan! :pepper2: I am 52 going on 80. I absolutely love my friends and neighbors regardless of age and they do not fault me for being younger than them. Most of the time I have a hard time keeping up with them!

[graciegirl]

Those of us that are in our late 50's don't have as much in common with those in their 70's/80's...just the way it is. Not saying that those in 70's/80's aren't trying to do some of the same activities as the 50's...but the attitudes/style of life/outlook on life will probably be different. We lived in one village for 4 years and then move to Ferdindina hoping to find the younger aged retiree but it is a mix bag in new village also. So, to answer your question - not one specific area is calling to the younger retiree over the older retiree.

This forum is read by a very wide age span of real people. I know and enjoy here in The Villages friendships with many people who range from a girl of 52, one of my dearest friends to a girl of 89, one of my dearest friends. The 89 year old is in my Friday golf group, the 52 year old is in my Tuesday golf group. Most days the 89 year old could beat the 52 year old...but that isn't the point.

I have met closed minded and insensitive people of every age. I have met ageless people. I have met people who I was shocked to find they were much older than I had first thought and some who I found it hard to believe were much younger.

I have met younger people who were all up tight and rigid and never saw the humor in anything, and I have met older people just like them.

I have met younger people who could not participate in sports but still enjoy the art classes I attend. One of my younger friends, in her mid fifties has had both knees replaced and is now able to play tennis again. Another friend in her 70's hasn't had any replacements and plays tennis just as much.

I have met people who remind me of my old aunt in every annoying way. I have met people who I remind of their old aunt in every annoying way.

When you say out loud that you are seeking friends of your own age that is fine, it is HOW you say it, that sometimes is hurtful and shows an interior selfishness and lack of sensitivity.

My goal in decorating my home has always been, to be so up on trends and what is happening in decor that if someone broke in to rob me they would assume I was in my twenties and just graduated from design school.

My goal in living is to have learned enough from life experiences to not to miss anything and try NOT to hurt anyone.

I don't have parties where everyone leaves drunk, but I used to.
I don't take ballet barre, don't run five miles every day but I used to.
I now can paint portraits of people that I could not do four years ago and I am still learning. I don't care if my friends don't paint portraits of people if they don't care I can't extend into a good arabesque anymore or don't want to play pickleball or gamble. I didn't want to play pickleball or gamble twenty years ago.

I think the reason that I don't stay up late may be partly to do with age and partly to do with early tee times, lunch afterwards, followed by an art class, working in the yard and a walk around the neighborhood and a swim and then out to dinner with friends and gatherings after dinner on our front porch.

No one ever should have to feel bad here in this community for being older. This is the last place I would expect to find age prejudice.

If we have it, we need to lose it, because we are missing out on a lot of fun.

[2 Oldcrabs]

I am 58 but my wife says I act like a child. I live in Sanibel so you might want to move to a neighborhood with "older thinking people".:jester:

[jimbo2012]

dlloltv,
Since you have been coming here since '07 and at that 8 times I would think you should have a good idea to the answer to your question and now are trying to only re-confirm what U already know.

I spent 3 different days last April looking around and found the average age less than the 55+ community I stayed at over the last few few winters. bought a lot in June.

Two weeks ago I spent 10 days here in a 8 year old rental, and those folks were older but not old, I honestly did not see a mix of folks in their 50's there.

As to which village I think all are mixed, but new areas will just be a younger mix, but it doesn't matter you'll make friendships with those of similar likes & minds.

But the bigger question is do you want new or a resale there are advantages to both and that question is of more import I believe than where.

I'm building in Fernandina, the street is very new but the people I've met are not over 75. It's adjacent to two Patio Villa sections and about 50 cottages, my guess is most R in their 60's. Which IMO makes most folks there more active.

Based on the number of folks that have replied to your ? we need to hear from you at this point.

.

[Bogie Shooter]

Because most questions of this sort are posed by people who at the youngest end of the spectrum...who seem to be trying to avoid "older" people.

I apologize.

Welcome to you. You will fit in well in any village, just as most people do. The commonality we have is that we have lived and learned and were happy and sad by turns for about five decades,or more.... We have met a lot of people along the way, and accomplished a lot and have many stories to share and many, like me like to hear them..

I am sorry I acted like a mean person.

My Sweetie and I are both 72. He is far nicer.

I don't think you acted mean. Silly questions sometimes get silly answers!

[JoeC1947]

The OP asked a legitimate question. Why some posters took offense is beyond me! So typical of the lynch mob. I personally think that it's very important that you live in a neighborhood of people your age.

[2BNTV]

I think the original poster was trying to gather info about what village may best suit their interst in terms of energy level and the ability to relate to their potential neighbors. People the same age have more in common with others and feel more comfortable while in their presence.

Who's to say whether someone older will have more energy and enthusiam to live an active lifestyle. :shrug:

To each his/her own.

[graciegirl]

The OP asked a legitimate question. Why some posters took offense is beyond me! So typical of the lynch mob. I personally think that it's very important that you live in a neighborhood of people your age.

Well Joe, That ain't happenin'. There isn't a neighborhood anywhere in this HUGE place that has people of the same age.OR....all athletic, all Republicans, all college graduates, all from the midwest, ...You get the picture.

We are diverse and perverse. Obviously.

but YOU can live in my neighborhood anytime because you are smart and funny. I love your posts but this one I had to disagree with.

[billethkid]

so expressing an opinion, maybe different than someone else's constitutes being a part of a lynch mob.....over time you will find that is really not true.

See Gracie's last post for clarity on the real nature of TV.

btk

[Challenger]

The words we use to express our opinions are important. Lynch Mob, Liar, etc. seem to be overused and IMHO are not the way to express what in most cases are not facts, but opinion. Listen to the rants of our politicians. Good thing Aaron Burr is not around!

[2BNTV]

[QUOTE=graciegirl;565263].

My goal in living is to have learned enough from life experiences to not to miss anything and try NOT to hurt anyone.

:agree: Great creed to live by.

Also:

It's better to be childlike than childish.

[Madelaine Amee]

I personally think that it's very important that you live in a neighborhood of people your age.

......and in my opinion, this is not a very sensible answer! When have you, or any one of us in our lifetimes rented an apartment or bought a house according to the age of our neighbors? We rented or purchased a home because that is the piece of property we liked, or the school district was excellent etc. etc., we didn't go round canvassing the neighborhood to see what age group they belonged to.

On the other hand, I think that when one considers relocating to a "retirement" community there is a certain amount of fear attached to that decision due to the "age" factor connected with the dreaded words "retirement community".

Times have changed. People are not chronologically "old" any more. One's aging process is very often controlled by one's health or interests.

[Bogie Shooter]

......and in my opinion, this is not a very sensible answer! When have you, or any one of us in our lifetimes rented an apartment or bought a house according to the age of our neighbors? We rented or purchased a home because that is the piece of property we liked, or the school district was excellent etc. etc., we didn't go round canvassing the neighborhood to see what age group they belonged to.

On the other hand, I think that when one considers relocating to a "retirement" community there is a certain amount of fear attached to that decision due to the "age" factor connected with the dreaded words "retirement community".

Times have changed. People are not chronologically "old" any more. One's aging process is very often controlled by one's health or interests.

I think this is the real answer.

[wlou]

someone posting about the "age " thing would make someone older feel bad. I would never want anyone, regardless of age, to ever feel bad about their age. Funny thing is,,,I am on the younger side around here and almost weekly get the comment," You are not old enough to live here"....I thought us younger ones got that treatment more so than the other age groups!! I KNOW I am in the minority here in TV being in my 50's but am okay with that. It is a great place to live and I can tell ya my son in his late twenties always says he cant wait to retire here! I would hope NO ONE ever takes these age comments personal. Of course, if the poster said they were looking for the neighborhood w/the most bowlers,golfers,etc, it would not have been the same responses. Sorry you felt that way Gracie, truly, because most of us young-uns" here never mean we don't want to hang out with older folks.I will end by saying that I had a conversation with my 82 yr neighbor that I adore. She said, " I bet you would like to hang out w/people more your age so you can play pickleball and other fun things where you need good knees!As for us, we don't want to live or hang around with 30 or 40 year olds, they are not smart enough about life yet !""
LOL,,
great huh? And she meant no harm, just the facts.....

[JoeC1947]

I rest my case.

[graciegirl]

I rest my case.

And I listened with my heart. I am too sensitive.

[optv13sp]

Thank you very much for responding to my question. I had many thoughtful informative responses both here and in PM messages. All I was trying to do was gather information that I thought would be helpful in making our decision about where we will buy a home. Both The Villages Sales Representatives and non Village realtors have told us that buyers in the newest villages tend to be “much younger” and I was trying to determine if that was accurate and what age did they mean when they say “much younger”. We enjoy being with people of all ages and wondered if some villages tend to have a mix of ages compared to the newest villages and based on your responses it appears that the newest villages trend toward younger people and other neighborhoods have a mix of ages. It never once occurred to me that my question would be perceived as having a bias against older people or only wanting to associate with any one type of person exclusively. If one only wanted to be with much younger people I assume they wouldn’t consider moving to The Villages at all. That’s why I was taken aback by the instant assumption that that was why I had asked that question. Actually, I wondered if we were a bit too old for the very newest Villages in spite of our youthful approach to life. So let me say again, thank you to all of you who were very gracious in sharing your experiences and thoughts about choosing a neighborhood. You can’t imagine how nice that felt to know that you took the time to respond in such a caring, friendly manner to this future resident.

[jannd228]

Thank you very much for responding to my question. I had many thoughtful informative responses both here and in PM messages. All I was trying to do was gather information that I thought would be helpful in making our decision about where we will buy a home. Both The Villages Sales Representatives and non Village realtors have told us that buyers in the newest villages tend to be “much younger” and I was trying to determine if that was accurate and what age did they mean when they say “much younger”. We enjoy being with people of all ages and wondered if some villages tend to have a mix of ages compared to the newest villages and based on your responses it appears that the newest villages trend toward younger people and other neighborhoods have a mix of ages. It never once occurred to me that my question would be perceived as having a bias against older people or only wanting to associate with any one type of person exclusively. If one only wanted to be with much younger people I assume they wouldn’t consider moving to The Villages at all. That’s why I was taken aback by the instant assumption that that was why I had asked that question. Actually, I wondered if we were a bit too old for the very newest Villages in spite of our youthful approach to life. So let me say again, thank you to all of you who were very gracious in sharing your experiences and thoughts about choosing a neighborhood. You can’t imagine how nice that felt to know that you took the time to respond in such a caring, friendly manner to this future resident.

Excellent post, appropriate and well written, I agree with you

:agree:

[Bogie Shooter]

Thank you very much for responding to my question. I had many thoughtful informative responses both here and in PM messages. All I was trying to do was gather information that I thought would be helpful in making our decision about where we will buy a home. Both The Villages Sales Representatives and non Village realtors have told us that buyers in the newest villages tend to be “much younger” and I was trying to determine if that was accurate and what age did they mean when they say “much younger”. We enjoy being with people of all ages and wondered if some villages tend to have a mix of ages compared to the newest villages and based on your responses it appears that the newest villages trend toward younger people and other neighborhoods have a mix of ages. It never once occurred to me that my question would be perceived as having a bias against older people or only wanting to associate with any one type of person exclusively. If one only wanted to be with much younger people I assume they wouldn’t consider moving to The Villages at all. That’s why I was taken aback by the instant assumption that that was why I had asked that question. Actually, I wondered if we were a bit too old for the very newest Villages in spite of our youthful approach to life. So let me say again, thank you to all of you who were very gracious in sharing your experiences and thoughts about choosing a neighborhood. You can’t imagine how nice that felt to know that you took the time to respond in such a caring, friendly manner to this future resident.

This approach would have had different responses than those received for the original post.
Hope you find your ideal village.

[gomoho]

Florida's friendliest home town is probably also Florida's most opinionated home town. Post anything that could have more than one viewpoint and you will be sure to hear all of them here. Most folks are wonderful and friendly and willing to help, but a few are just waiting to jump down someone's throat. Might be frustration that one of their favorite sites has been removed! Welcome and please take everything with a grain of salt and the good intention it is posted with.

[duffysmom]

Thank you very much for responding to my question. I had many thoughtful informative responses both here and in PM messages. All I was trying to do was gather information that I thought would be helpful in making our decision about where we will buy a home. Both The Villages Sales Representatives and non Village realtors have told us that buyers in the newest villages tend to be “much younger” and I was trying to determine if that was accurate and what age did they mean when they say “much younger”. We enjoy being with people of all ages and wondered if some villages tend to have a mix of ages compared to the newest villages and based on your responses it appears that the newest villages trend toward younger people and other neighborhoods have a mix of ages. It never once occurred to me that my question would be perceived as having a bias against older people or only wanting to associate with any one type of person exclusively. If one only wanted to be with much younger people I assume they wouldn’t consider moving to The Villages at all. That’s why I was taken aback by the instant assumption that that was why I had asked that question. Actually, I wondered if we were a bit too old for the very newest Villages in spite of our youthful approach to life. So let me say again, thank you to all of you who were very gracious in sharing your experiences and thoughts about choosing a neighborhood. You can’t imagine how nice that felt to know that you took the time to respond in such a caring, friendly manner to this future resident.

Thank you for your gracious response, I have a feeling that you will be happy wherever you live.:wave:

[Down Sized]

I am 37 and married to a 93 yo...Can I move there ?

I think I saw you today at Walgreens!!:wave:

[Down Sized]

I think the original poster was trying to gather info about what village may best suit their interst in terms of energy level and the ability to relate to their potential neighbors. People the same age have more in common with others and feel more comfortable while in their presence.

Who's to say whether someone older will have more energy and enthusiam to live an active lifestyle. :shrug:

To each his/her own.

I think what their trying to say is that they don't want in with the 70 & 80 year olds. Like in the older northern parts of T V. Nothing wrong with that, they were just afraid to say it.

[bkcunningham1]

I'm 51 and my husband is 54. We live in the older northern part of TV. Our neighbors vary from people our age, younger and older. Our friends' ages vary as well, but all are young at heart and the best people in the whole wide world.

[graciegirl]

I think what their trying to say is that they don't want in with the 70 & 80 year olds. Like in the older northern parts of T V. Nothing wrong with that, they were just afraid to say it.

Why?

[Down Sized]

I'm 51 and my husband is 54. We live in the older northern part of TV. Our neighbors vary from people our age, younger and older. Our friends' ages vary as well, but all are young at heart and the best people in the whole wide world.

Do you live close to SS?

[Down Sized]

Even my Real estate salesman said he has that request all the time. The newer younger want with their own age. I don't think this is a big secret. Come on.

[graciegirl]

Even my Real estate salesman said he has that request all the time. The newer younger want with their own age. I don't think this is a big secret. Come on.

Why?

[bkcunningham1]

Do you live close to SS?

Yes. I live close to Spanish Springs. I live in Country Club Hills.

[Down Sized]

I'm sure there is probably a dozen or two your your age up there.

[Down Sized]

It's almost 9:00 I have to get ready for bed. Good :wave:night.

[bkcunningham1]

It's almost 9:00 I have to get ready for bed. Good :wave:night.

Good night, Down Sized. Sweet dreams.

[Schaumburger]

I rented in Mira Mesa this past June (close to Spanish Springs) -- loved that location and the house. I'm a relative youngster by TV standards. I would buy close to Spanish Springs in a heart beat. I would also buy close to LSL in a heart beat. My #1 priority would be an affordable, well maintained home regardless of what village it is located in or the age of my neighbors. Just my 2 cents.

[graciegirl]

I rented in Mira Mesa this past June (close to Spanish Springs) -- loved that location and the house. I'm a relative youngster by TV standards. I would buy close to Spanish Springs in a heart beat. I would also buy close to LSL in a heart beat. My #1 priority would be an affordable, well maintained home regardless of what village it is located in or the age of my neighbors. Just my 2 cents.

I hope you find your happiness here because you are a dear good person.

[BostonCelt]

trying to zero in on whatever you are zeroing in on using age as you think you may know it from wherever else you live(d) or experienced has no bearing whatsoever on what are the ages of whoever in whatever village in TV.


Diagram that sentence, someone......

[2BNTV]

I rented in Mira Mesa this past June (close to Spanish Springs) -- loved that location and the house. I'm a relative youngster by TV standards. I would buy close to Spanish Springs in a heart beat. I would also buy close to LSL in a heart beat. My #1 priority would be an affordable, well maintained home regardless of what village it is located in or the age of my neighbors. Just my 2 cents.

:agree: but I am not a younster. I get along with people of any age so it's not an issue for me.

I figure halfway to SS and LSL for me. By car to Brownwood, as it is too far by cart.

[billethkid]

As we age we all have our own narrow minded view of those older than us or those who act older than us.

A lift from a post above "... a relative youngster by TV standards...." begs the question.....and just what might those standards of OLD be here in TV?????

Too bad some will miss out on some very nice places to live in TV because of the need for the "younger" specification.

As far as the newer built areas having "younger" residents......Yup those of us who retired sometime yester year are in deed older than those retiring now. And that would mean the folks looking to buy/build in TV currently must be "younger" than those of us who already live here....duh.

And I now wonder what those who are "older" than those of us already here and looking to buy/build in TV ask? Do you think they want to know where the "older" folks live.

I know the horse is beaten and dead. But there are those of us who are old and know it and don't know it and it doesn't matter because of who we are and how we act. Then there are those, apparently, who are old and may feel a need to separate themselves from the "old" because they are and are just fighting/denying the fact they too are well ......"old".

All find out soon enough that age is nothing more than a number on a piece of paper that allows laws/rules to govern (or not) by. Eventually as one becomes a resident of TV one soon discovers "age" is indistinguishable.....a relative concept that has absolutely no impact on the behavior, attitude, capability or demeanor of an individual.

I am in my 70's and I still complain about the old farts who are in my way or going to slow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:jester::a20:

btk

[cquick]

WELCOME to TOTV. When you get here you will find that you will meet people based on your activities. Those that you have the most in common with, you will socialize with. These people may or may not live in your Village. It doesn't matter. Age is just a number.

We are in our 60's and have lived in 3 neighborhoods....and they are a mixture of ages......

[mrsyarbie]

[QUOTE=dlloltv;564968]We will be buying a home in The Villages in January. We've rented in several different villages about 8 times since 2007 and we realize that one of the most appealing things about The Villages is getting together with neighbors. It is important to us to have at least some neighbors who are somewhat close to our age. Would those of you who live now and/or will soon live in the villages of Duval, Hemingway, Hadley, St. Charles, Sanibel, Fernindina,Gilchrist etc. share which village you live in and what your age is?[/QUOTe


So if you can share your age I can share what information I know of...

[jackz]

[QUOTE=dlloltv;564968]We will be buying a home in The Villages in January. We've rented in several different villages about 8 times since 2007 and we realize that one of the most appealing things about The Villages is getting together with neighbors. It is important to us to have at least some neighbors who are somewhat close to our age. Would those of you who live now and/or will soon live in the villages of Duval, Hemingway, Hadley, St. Charles, Sanibel, Fernindina,Gilchrist etc. share which village you live in and what your age is?[/QUOTe


So if you can share your age I can share what information I know of...

Asked and Answered. See Post 12 on this thread. (We're 68 and 72 )

[bkcunningham1]

The question begs to be asked. Are you a young 68 and 72 or an old 68 and 72?

[billethkid]

"Are you a young 68 and 72 or an old 68 and 72?"

Does a young 80 overlap an old 68/72 or a young 68/72?

I would like to think here in TV the more appropriate question would be trying to find a village that has people who share your interests and energy levels.

Age bias will only assure that you live in a village with people your age.

Don't cheat yourself out of the more abundant options available sans the age criteria.

btk

[graciegirl]

As we age we all have our own narrow minded view of those older than us or those who act older than us.

A lift from a post above "... a relative youngster by TV standards...." begs the question.....and just what might those standards of OLD be here in TV?????

Too bad some will miss out on some very nice places to live in TV because of the need for the "younger" specification.

As far as the newer built areas having "younger" residents......Yup those of us who retired sometime yester year are in deed older than those retiring now. And that would mean the folks looking to buy/build in TV currently must be "younger" than those of us who already live here....duh.

And I now wonder what those who are "older" than those of us already here and looking to buy/build in TV ask? Do you think they want to know where the "older" folks live.

I know the horse is beaten and dead. But there are those of us who are old and know it and don't know it and it doesn't matter because of who we are and how we act. Then there are those, apparently, who are old and may feel a need to separate themselves from the "old" because they are and are just fighting/denying the fact they too are well ......"old".

All find out soon enough that age is nothing more than a number on a piece of paper that allows laws/rules to govern (or not) by. Eventually as one becomes a resident of TV one soon discovers "age" is indistinguishable.....a relative concept that has absolutely no impact on the behavior, attitude, capability or demeanor of an individual.

I am in my 70's and I still complain about the old farts who are in my way or going to slow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:jester::a20:

btk

This post is well said and shows the writer to be ageless, a thinker, a person with a sense of humor and completely in agreement with what I believe.

Trapped inside of everyone of us that lives here in The Villages, the young-old and the old-old, is a 17 year old still alive and well and that 17 year old may still have a bit of an attitude about being summarily dismissed because of age.

And I love this line..

Age and treachery will beat youth and exuberance at every turn.;)

[2BNTV]

I asked my mother who was in her nineties to call my best friends sick mother to cheer her up.

She complained to me and asked why I did I bother to ask to call and that she couldn't hear what she was saying. She then asked how old she was and I replied , she is 78.

She said, "Oh, she's just a kid". :smiley:

Age is in the eye of the beholder.

[bkcunningham1]

Well, I know a young 100 year old man who is more active than most anyone I know. It isn't an insult. It is an observation. I'm 51 and I'm not as active as most of my friends. My friend shoots pool, plays boche, walks daily, attends Mass, sings karaoke, lol.

I know some people in their early-70s who aren't as active. It isn't an insult. The do the best they can do and enjoy themselves. I hope they enjoy themselves. If they don't, it isn't anyone's fault but their own. I know people in their 70s who travel and explore the world. Some are younger than others.

[bkcunningham1]

I asked my mother who was in her nineties to call my best friends sick mother to cheer her up.

She complained to me and asked why I did I bother to ask to call and that she couldn't hear what she was saying. She then asked how old she was and I replied , she is 78.

She said, "Oh, she's just a kid". :smiley:

Age is in the eye of the beholder.

That's right, 2BNTV. My dad turned 93 on Sept. 11. His health is good, but his mobility is really compromised since a bought of pneumonia a couple or years ago. Before that he was volunteering at the local food pantry.

[siu74]

I was transferred when our son was about the same age. It was not The Villages but he was still looking for friends in a new location. He took a few classes at the local jr college and met some friends. He also worked at the YMCA Camp and latchkey program. Most of the counselors were his age. He made alot of good friends at the YMCA. Don't know if there is anything like that in the surrounding area but might be an idea. Wish you the best of luck. Also, when we were The Villages earlier this year there was a young man that came to "Are You Smarter Than a 5th Grader". I think he had as much fun as we did.