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LI SNOWBIRD
12-30-2012, 10:31 AM
I am kinda saddened to see that younger people have no idea of the niceties of social introductions. I kinda learned them in grammar school (and still use them as best as I can remember). I don't need a quote from a Google search but would like to know if you use the old fashioned "Rules of Introduction" e.g. introducing a woman to the man assuming they are about the same age.
Thoughts...
:what:

shcisamax
12-30-2012, 10:49 AM
I don't need a quote from a Google search but would like to know if you use the old fashioned "Rules of Introduction" e.g. introducing a woman to the man assuming they are about the same age.
Thoughts...
:what:

It was my understanding that you would introduce a man to the woman as in Ms. Smith, may I present Mr. Davis" in a social situation but in business it would be decided by who ranked higher in the organization chart.

CFrance
12-30-2012, 11:00 AM
Here's how I learned it. You are with Mary and John. You encounter Joe, a person you know but Mary and John don't. You say, "Joe, let me present my friends Mary and John."

Of course, having learned this in the fourth grade, i could have faulty memory--shocking!-- or the rules could have changed. I really don't remember the man/woman thing, but it kind of makes sense when applied, say, 50 years ago.

shcisamax
12-30-2012, 11:07 AM
Then there is the age factor. I would introduce a friend to my grandmother as: Grandmother, may I introduce my friend Jane to you.

Trish Crocker
12-30-2012, 11:12 AM
Heck, I usually don't remember anyones name anyway so I'm hoping they will all introduce themselves so I can catch the names!

CFrance
12-30-2012, 11:48 AM
Then there is the age factor. I would introduce a friend to my grandmother as: Grandmother, may I introduce my friend Jane to you.

Oh, that's right. I remember the age thing now.

rubicon
12-30-2012, 12:02 PM
You are going to lose most young people with the word "Rules"let along introduction Civility is a thing of the past. Most introductions by men or women today go something like this These are my b------ And boasting about bodily funcions that in our day would embarass most. In the manner of social skills we are moving backward

Madelaine Amee
12-30-2012, 12:16 PM
You are going to lose most young people with the word "Rules"let along introduction Civility is a thing of the past. Most introductions by men or women today go something like this These are my b------ And boasting about bodily funcions that in our day would embarass most. In the manner of social skills we are moving backward

I beg to differ with you on this. My two son's still call our friends Mr. and Mrs. and their friends still refer to us as Mr. and Mrs. They are bringing their children up to wait to be introduced to their friends as Mr. & Mrs. too.

Barefoot
12-30-2012, 12:20 PM
Heck, I usually don't remember anyones name anyway so I'm hoping they will all introduce themselves so I can catch the names!

Glad to hear that we're not the only ones. :oops:

CFrance
12-30-2012, 12:33 PM
Heck, I usually don't remember anyones name anyway so I'm hoping they will all introduce themselves so I can catch the names!

Ditto, and I hope they repeat their name within three minutes so I can get a second chance to remember it.

I had my first name tattooed across the front of my pickleball visor so people can call me something other than Hey You during open play. Have gotten lots of Hey, good idea! Comments.

shcisamax
12-30-2012, 12:36 PM
Lately when I see someone I have met prior but do not remember their name, I say we have met and I introduce myself first to refresh their memory and, usually, not always but usually, they say their name in response.

LI SNOWBIRD
12-31-2012, 09:56 AM
I beg to differ with you on this. My two son's still call our friends Mr. and Mrs. and their friends still refer to us as Mr. and Mrs. They are bringing their children up to wait to be introduced to their friends as Mr. & Mrs. too.

I have nieces and nephews in their 20's who use the honorific "uncle" when addressing me. I also have young people use the Mr. Upon reflection, it seems that a lot of young people are polite and respectful after all.