Moving soon

[Suzi]

I will be retiring (I think) and moving to TV. I am a scientist, type A, planner and organizer, and all around mentally engaged person. This has worked well for my profession and carried me far. However, I have become aware I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO RELAX. I can't meditate (or don't know how), can't get into yoga, don't like massages etc......because my mind is flying. I"ve had 2 massages during which I have composed letters, did grocery lists etc. I really want to start a new healthy life in TV. I will be moving there this summer and I want to take care of me instead of everyone else and I think I would like to join a group or have some personal help to try to relax and maybe do some mind-searching, bio-feedback, something to slow my mind and enjoy my surroundings mentally as well as physically.
Do any women out there have any ideas for me. I currently belong to a study club and we study various topics but-you see, its the researching and study that seems to keep me going. I don't know how to "zen" out and don't know how or where to start that process. My mind seems to be running all the time. HELP.

[Rbgold]

Hi SuziQ,
I think I know where you are coming from. While I know I am definitely not a Type A personality, I am a planner and organizer - it's what I do for a living (currently). I do try to make the most use of my time as well and often have a difficult time relaxing. When I get facials, my aesthetician told me that she always gets the feeling that I can't wait to jump out the chair and get on with something else. She is right about that! That is the main reason I am looking forward to retiring and moving to TV. I will have time to devote to "ME", my community and the pursuits that I have put off due to lack of time caused by the amount of hours that I work. My "list" grows daily. What excited me about TV was that there would be so many opportunities to try new things. For us that is the appeal. We are starting our move this week and hope to be full time next year.
Please feel free to send me a PM if you wish. If I'm not mistaken, I think we already emailed about my dog, Barney. Wishing you well with your planning.

Rona

[Scoops]

I can so relate to your situation. I am still adjusting but I started with a step down approach. I started by doing some volunteer work within my profession. That kept me connected without alot of stress or major accountabilities but I still was able to use my skill set. I have migrated away from that role since we moved here. Now I am doing some volunteer work for my church which is fulfilling because they need my organization skills. I am studying Tai Chi because it is helpful with the meditation part or my adjustment. I have learned to play Mahjongg which lets me use my brain and then I play bunco to laugh and meet lots of new friends. It's a process but I am loving my new life everyday. PM me if you want to get together when you move here.

[Bonnevie]

Suzi, I related to everything you wrote...including I'm retiring (I think)....
maybe we can start a club....

[chachacha]

i am not the best person to give advice in this area because i am VERY relaxed and have been retired since my husband passed away when i was only 51...but if you want a quiet, tranquil friend to take in a movie with or whatever, please contact me when you get here! my best friend is type A and we both find that we help each other...i help her to calm down and she helps me to get out and do stuff! :)

[quirky3]

I can relate to what you're saying. I'm not sure where you live now, but just moving to Florida gives you a sense of slower, more relaxed living. The Walmart cashiers will take a few moments to talk about the customer's grandchilden, and maybe look at their picture. So, in some respects, you will be forced to be a little more patient and used to a slower pace. I am also counting on being in TV to help me slow down and smell the roses.

[cbg150]

Count me in the club! I am a Type A personality, I have worked at a University for 32 years and I am moving to TV at the end of the school year in May. Stress reduction is #1 on my To Do list (are To Do lists even allowed?)

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[Bonnevie]

sounds like a lot of us may be there about the same time...we definitely need to start something....just swapping stories about the hectic lives we led would probably be therapeutic.

[Uptown Girl]

I, like many others juggled and multitasked for years to provide my living.
Downtime for me was rare. Thankfully, I stayed healthy enough to finally make it here, with time and ability to enjoy this wonderful new chapter of life.

I made a decision to strive to do the things that PLEASED me, even if I was not sure of what they might yet be.
The nice thing here in The Villages is, there are multitudes of things to try without having to make a permanent commitment. If you like it, return and do it again. If you don't, let it go.

For serenity, I took a clay sculpture class (through our college) I go to a drumming circle when I am in the mood. I dance like a beginner at a jazz class and find myself grinning the whole time I am there.
I found a morning water aerobics class that uses fun music, and another one in the evening where we watch the glorious sunsets reflect on the water and surround and engulf us as we move.

I found wonderful places along the golf car paths, that reveal ponds with water falls and beautiful wading birds. Grabbing a cup of coffee early in the morning and heading out for a ride before any hustle or bustle begins is a lovely way to begin the day.... a luxury I never had before.
Serenity begins to creep into your life effortlessly with things like this and these examples are but a small taste of all that can spark and refresh you here, but it takes time to let it unfold.

Think of it simply as a realignment back to who you really are inside.
I have a feeling you will do well.

:welcome: to your new life. It's gong to be cool.

[Bonnevie]

check this out for meditation...I swear you can find anything at TV

Club Meetings & Special Events - Parapsychology Club of The Villages, FL (http://parapsychclub.weebly.com/club-meetings--special-events.html)

[Blessed2BNTV]

Suzi, I totally know where you are coming from! I have owned a marketing agency for the past 16 years and looking forward to permanently moving to TV in the next few years. We did buy a house in Duval and try to go to our home every 1 - 2 months.
I too think about turning off my brain at times.
I will send a pm.

[Blessed2BNTV]

Suzi, I related to everything you wrote...including I'm retiring (I think)....
maybe we can start a club....

I will join the club! Bet we can get at least 5 members. Is that the # needed to create a club?

Lillian

[Billyg]

I'm in..sooo nice to know that I am not alone. I always wish that I could take my head off at night n put it on the bureau til I need it.
Lets get together, talk, share, laugh and
P
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[JP]

SuziQ now:posting: SuziQ in The Villages:pepper2::pepper2::pepper2::gc: You'll figure it out. Life in The Villages will let you finally relax.:coolsmiley:

[marianne237]

It did take a little time, but we conquered the "turn off the world" problem. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Relaxation happens!

[Hopeful2]

Reading the responses to this post has been very encouraging. I have worked for decades in a high stress job and I've never learned to relax. My husband and I are looking to retire and buy a house in the Villages soon. . . but I have been concerned as to whether the adjustment will be difficult. I know that must sound crazy to many people . . . but we lost our only child several years ago and the pain is always with us. After visiting the Villages, I found myself believing that just maybe we could make a new life for ourselves. After reading so many wonderful posts from so many wonderful people, I'm becoming more positive every day. Please save a place for me in your club!

[Blessed2BNTV]

Reading the responses to this post has been very encouraging. I have worked for decades in a high stress job and I've never learned to relax. My husband and I are looking to retire and buy a house in the Villages soon. . . but I have been concerned as to whether the adjustment will be difficult. I know that must sound crazy to many people . . . but we lost our only child several years ago and the pain is always with us. After visiting the Villages, I found myself believing that just maybe we could make a new life for ourselves. After reading so many wonderful posts from so many wonderful people, I'm becoming more positive every day. Please save a place for me in your club!

Place saved for you my friend! And as a mother of an only child as well, my heart hurts for you and your husband. One thing I have found on being a Villager, is there are so many caring and compassionate folks here.

[readmore]

I retire this friday and share your concerns.

[Dafoe]

Today I start this new journey. The departmental meeting starts in 1 hour and I won't be there. Desk is cleaned out, bookcase is empty, I'm hanging onto my keys for few days. After teaching at a college for decades, I'm now just me. Let me know when you form a club and count me in! We move into our Gilchrist home in April. We'll be splitting time between Minnestoa and TV as my husband finishes up his last few years of work. We'll be there each month for 1-2 weeks.

[Scoops]

Well, how about if we get things moving - I propose that all of us 'leading ladies' meet for coffee. Wednesday, April 3 at Panera's in LSL. I'll get a table on the patio if the weather is nice.

[Blessed2BNTV]

We will be in TV middle of month. Could we meet April 18th or 19th?

We are new to TV and would love to meet other terrific women!

[Scoops]

I like to have coffee more than once a month so I will leave the date of April 3 as a first get together and then also propose Thursday, April 18 at 10 AM at the same place. After that we can see how the group would like to proceed. I too, am looking forward to meeting some other outstanding women. Will that work for you Lily?

[Suzi]

I'm afraid that I will be unable to attend either coffee. I arrive for my design meeting the evening of Wednesday April 3rd and depart Saturday the 13th. But I am very happy that many of the recent posters on this topic will have an opportunity to meet. I hope that someone can PM me and let me know how the gathering turned out and future plans.

[Blessed2BNTV]

Looking forward to meeting all on the 18th!

Suzi - enjoy your time in TV.

[Rbgold]

We won't be in TV until end of May thru June 3, but would like to know if there will be other dates going forward!

[2BNTV]

Reading the responses to this post has been very encouraging. I have worked for decades in a high stress job and I've never learned to relax. My husband and I are looking to retire and buy a house in the Villages soon. . . but I have been concerned as to whether the adjustment will be difficult. I know that must sound crazy to many people . . . but we lost our only child several years ago and the pain is always with us. After visiting the Villages, I found myself believing that just maybe we could make a new life for ourselves. After reading so many wonderful posts from so many wonderful people, I'm becoming more positive every day. Please save a place for me in your club!

So sorry for the lost of your only child. It must be very difficult. Hopefully, as time goes on, the pain will become smaller. llittle by little, each day. I lost a cousin at an early age and I know her mother never really got over it, I know it will always be part of you. I have only one child and I couldn't imagine the world without him.

Hoping TV wonderful and caring people will help substain you with various activities and clubs. Best wishes.

[Dafoe]

I'll have to miss this first meeting, but do keep me posted!! My husband and I head for TV on April 17 - Will arrive late ( and bedraggled!) on the 18- staying overnight with a friend in Duval and get our keys! We'll be madly buying beds/ etc . I'll be spending a couple of weeks there in April and May/ then my summer will bring me back to Minnesota. I'd love to connect mid April hear your stories! ;)

[Bonnevie]

I'll miss the first meetings as well. Hope to be there in June...

[Scoops]

I just wanted to circle back with everyone about our meeting dates. After putting a stake in the ground and offering April 3, April 10 and April 18 as some possible dates, I have heard from several of you with your personal schedules. Here is a status of attendees so far:

No one confirmed April 3
1 person (Suzi) other than myself confirmed April 10
1 person (Lilly) other than myself confirmed April 18

The majority of you that expressed interest will be moving in during May and June. So here is my latest proposal. Cancel April 3 and 10th meetings; retain April 18 as a first get together. Then we can have one in May when more of you have arrived.

If you continue to have interest in participating in this 'gathering of interesting women' please PM me your email address so that I can include you in our updates. My best.

[Blessed2BNTV]

Do you think the best week to meet in May would be Memorial week since others may use that week to be back in TV. We will be back in Florida that week.

Looking forward to meeting you Scoops and others as well.

[LynnDeb]

I, like many others juggled and multitasked for years to provide my living.
Downtime for me was rare. Thankfully, I stayed healthy enough to finally make it here, with time and ability to enjoy this wonderful new chapter of life.

I made a decision to strive to do the things that PLEASED me, even if I was not sure of what they might yet be.
The nice thing here in The Villages is, there are multitudes of things to try without having to make a permanent commitment. If you like it, return and do it again. If you don't, let it go.

For serenity, I took a clay sculpture class (through our college) I go to a drumming circle when I am in the mood. I dance like a beginner at a jazz class and find myself grinning the whole time I am there.
I found a morning water aerobics class that uses fun music, and another one in the evening where we watch the glorious sunsets reflect on the water and surround and engulf us as we move.

I found wonderful places along the golf car paths, that reveal ponds with water falls and beautiful wading birds. Grabbing a cup of coffee early in the morning and heading out for a ride before any hustle or bustle begins is a lovely way to begin the day.... a luxury I never had before.
Serenity begins to creep into your life effortlessly with things like this and these examples are but a small taste of all that can spark and refresh you here, but it takes time to let it unfold.

Think of it simply as a realignment back to who you really are inside.
I have a feeling you will do well.

:welcome: to your new life. It's gong to be cool.

I agree with your resposonce, I also recently moved to the Springdale area trying to decide what I'd like to do as well.

[Dafoe]

Keep me posted on when the next gathering is and where you are meeting. I arrive late in the afternoon on the 18th. I'll be there till the end of the month and then return for 2 weeks in them middle of May. I look forward to meeting you all! Sue