Why Are the Cute Ones Always Crazy?

[Geewiz]

So....there is this really attractive one - Hope. We tease...we flirt...we dance. Then kaboom - she lower the axe and it's clear she wants a Jerry Fawell wanna be. I am so clear that I accept anyone's spiritual needs - but, I'm an agnostic. It's not indifference....I'm a fairly smart guy and I don't buy into any ideology...but, I will support the answer that fulfills anyone. We all have our needs and our own answers. Love means supporting and not judging.

So - share your horror dating stories.

[Newbeginnings]

I had one guy that wrote me a scathing email after the election that was filled with bigotry ranting, in this day and age? We went out a few times, pleasant, but after that email I scattered like a cockroach. Another guy told me he was married while in the middle of the date, after a friend of his vouched he was divorced, reason he was still married his wife just got out of Federal prison and he was try to get out of debt 300 grand, i didn't want any more information, I really ran after that one, good thing I workout.

[manaboutown]

My 42 year old daughter confirms 'they are all crazy'. She says the trick is to find one whose craziness one can live with.

From my perspective, whether a man ends up with a nest egg or a goose egg largely depends on the chick he marries!

[kittygilchrist]

Man, you've been thru what I have, but from the opposite gender...
Kitty

[kittygilchrist]

Hey, I'm the cute one!
ergo...

[redwitch]

Blind date for dinner. His ex comes into restaurant. He gets up to talk to her. Says he's sorry but he has to try again. Leaves me his credit card to pay for the meal and take a cab home. I looked at him, I looked at the card (AmEx platinum) and went to town. Ordered champagne ($150), wine for surrounding tables ($400), $100 tip for waiter, cab ride from Lafayette (about 6 miles from house) to San Francisco, Marin County and home that way ($375). Seemed fair to me.

[NIPAS K-9]

Blind date for dinner. His ex comes into restaurant. He gets up to talk to her. Says he's sorry but he has to try again. Leaves me his credit card to pay for the meal and take a cab home. I looked at him, I looked at the card (AmEx platinum) and went to town. Ordered champagne ($150), wine for surrounding tables ($400), $100 tip for waiter, cab ride from Lafayette (about 6 miles from house) to San Francisco, Marin County and home that way ($375). Seemed fair to me.

ohhhhhh EXCELLENT WAY TO GET REVENGE. I LIKED THAT ONE. :boom:

[Geewiz]

OK - 2 funny ones from Chicago.

Date 1 - We corresponded a great deal and shared all about the other (or so I thought). I took her to dinner at a classic Chicago joint. It becomes totally clear right after the salad that she hates me because I'm not Greek. I said if you wanted a Greek guy why pick me to play with - she said "I thought you might be Greek because you're funny. I was amazed. I said - "Jews are funny. The Irish are funny. The English are droll. As a group, Greeks aren't funny...comedy to Greeks is the absence of tragedy." Kaput went the date.

Date 2. She contacted me and flirted like mad and asked how I felt about dating tall girls. I said, "I love to slow dance with them especially when they wear heels." We met at a rib joint. Her first comment was I had a "gay car" (it's a red Rav4). I didn't know how to respond - actually - her disdain for the word "gay" made me feel dirty just dining with her. Finally I said, "When I bring the car into the mechanic - what they do together is their business...as long as the car runs the next morning....all is good with me." Date = kaput.

[Geewiz]

Hey, I'm the cute one!
ergo...

Kitty - I already said I was going to hit on you Saturday. Be kind when you reject me.

[misky]

So....there is this really attractive one - Hope. We tease...we flirt...we dance. Then kaboom - she lower the axe and it's clear she wants a Jerry Fawell wanna be. I am so clear that I accept anyone's spiritual needs - but, I'm an agnostic. It's not indifference....I'm a fairly smart guy and I don't buy into any ideology...but, I will support the answer that fulfills anyone. We all have our needs and our own answers. Love means supporting and not judging.

So - share your horror dating stories.

A ladyfriend invites me to her house for dinner and for a hottub after. In the middle of dinner, her boyfriend comes in (he apparently lives there and I know him) and says hello to both of us and watches tv. I left before it got any stranger!

[TicoTexan]

Three 'Internet' Dating TRUE Stories:

My Story:
Meet at Bar. Over first drink she informs me her ex-boyfriend is a hit man for the Mafia. I ask how she knows this. She says "He has a gun and a bullet wound in his shoulder". I am startled and ask if she sees his car around the bar. No, she says, he has a day job ... as a pharmacist. Check please!

Michelles Story:
Michelle is a 6'2" redhead. Has minimum height standard of 6'5" for her dates. Meets a guy at a bar. He stands up and is way shorter than her - about 5'6". He asks "How tall are you? I'm 6'6" tall. You must be 7 foot tall at least" She mumbles apology and leaves. Of course 5'6" is 66".

Suzies Story:
Suzie meets her date at Denny's. On his profile under "What is the first thing people notice about you?", he responded with "My beautiful wavy hair" - unusual since most answers are 'My smile' or 'I'm tall' etc ... Upon entering Denny's she can tell he is wearing a toupee from across the diner. She is expecting him to rip off the toupee, exposing his "beautiful wavy hair" and have a good laugh at the joke. He does not.

[OurHappyHome]

Boy am I glad I am happily married. I don't think I could go through all this high school stuff again. I feel for you having to deal with this.

[queasy27]

I do not remember why, but when I was in my 20s I was corresponding with a guy I hadn't met. It was all very jokey and he sent funny letters and cards with sketches and comic doodles. When we decided to meet, he came over for our first date wearing ...





a clown suit.

[TVMayor]

I do not remember why, but when I was in my 20s I was corresponding with a guy I hadn't met. It was all very jokey and he sent funny letters and cards with sketches and comic doodles. When we decided to meet, he came over for our first date wearing ...





a clown suit.
Watch what you say about the clowns they have a strong force in TV.

[TVMayor]

Boy am I glad I am happily married. I don't think I could go through all this high school stuff again. I feel for you having to deal with this.
You will not be for long if Mrs A finds you sniffin around the singles page.

[manaboutown]

This did not happen to me but to a guy I know. About 15 years ago, before internet dating, a dating service which shall remain unnamed herein was in business. They took photos of their members and set up profiles which members could review. This fellow selected a woman based on her photo and profile. She agreed to go out with him. When he showed up at her door a woman who looked completely different than the photo answered the door and identified herself as his date. He told her she looked nothing like her photo. She admitted she had had a good looking friend go in for the photo session and that the photo was not of herself. He left.

I do know of a very good looking real estate lady where I now reside. She rarely if ever sells a house but meets many well off men through her business. She has married and then divorced several and has become rather wealthy through it all.

After thinking it over a while my dating life has been mostly a lot of fun. Many of the women I meet and date I am able to check out because we have friends in common. I also learned to not ever agree to a blind date without a good, clear full (clothed) body shot photo, even with someone I know well wanting to set me up.

Of course in these days of meeting through internet dating sites I do recommend whenever possible that daters of both sexes do some preliminary screening before agreeing to meet a total stranger for the first time.

[kittygilchrist]

I'm going back to the first blind date, while I was in college, working part time, where the pharmacist matchmaker promises me Mr. Blind Date is tall, handsome and loaded. I was in my early 20's living w/family, my brother answers the door and yells, "Mom, your date's here!"
The date was in his forties. Since I am one inch shorter at 5'9" than the average man, tall means tall, and he was average--not bad looking, but old enough to be balding.

We go to a gator game, and it rains...then on to his place to dry off a bit. I mix 2 drinks for us at the house, the we get in the Mercedes and stop for gas, where the now doubly "loaded" date is so inebriated he floods the car.

I call the pharmacist to come get me...when he arrives I suggest we push the car away from the pump. Mr. BD says, "I've never pushed a car..." so we let him drive.
Now I'm pushing the car in the rain, and notice that bozo has his foot on the brake. I didn't say the f word back then, and I regret having missed that opportunity...but I did OK, cuz Mom taught me to swear pretty well without it. :rant-rave:

[Cgirmo]

Ahhh..this was a very nice lady. 40 and still saving herself which I respected. Week 1 and 2 were fine. Week three states she can throw a wedding together in 30 days. Excellent skills. Week 4, I was led into the bedroom and told to sit on the edge of the bed!!!! She walks over, throws open the closet door exposing a bookcase full of dvd's and screams..I have every Elvis movie! You can watch each and every one..All I need is to be married in Vegas by an Elvis impersonator and I can die happy!! I just left the building.

[Geewiz]

Delete

[Bonnevie]

IDK seems like if you had simply responded "I'm sorry" I didn't mean to offend you by my remark" would have done the trick...maybe she was a little sensitive but I can see her point...there are a lot of users out there and we've all met more than our share and probably tend to be very wary of possible red flags.

[mainlander]

GW I don't "get it". The respondant to your e-mails seems like an honest and insightful person, not a bit crazy imo. Crazy is "posting" private e-mails, imo.

[Geewiz]

GW I don't "get it". The respondant to your e-mails seems like an honest and insightful person, not a bit crazy imo. Crazy is "posting" private e-mails, imo.

I deleted it...please follow suit.

[redwitch]

Gee, maybe you should reconsider what you say in your emails to potential dates. Let them know about you, don't try to be funny or cute, just you. Song lyrics, poetry are nice but I'd be pretty creeped out if a guy sent me one before I really knew him (IRL, not just online). It would feel like the guy is hiding behind words and I would want to know the guy, be able to trust him. If you hide yourself, there is no way to develop any trust. Just my opinion, sorry.

[queasy27]

Geewiz, you don't have to answer if you'd rather not, but I'm curious how your correspondence with Ivy began. How did your signals get so thoroughly crossed about whether or not she was even looking for a romantic relationship?

[USSGompers]

This did not happen to me but to a guy I know. About 15 years ago, before internet dating, a dating service which shall remain unnamed herein was in business. They took photos of their members and set up profiles which members could review. This fellow selected a woman based on her photo and profile. She agreed to go out with him. When he showed up at her door a woman who looked completely different than the photo answered the door and identified herself as his date. He told her she looked nothing like her photo. She admitted she had had a good looking friend go in for the photo session and that the photo was not of herself. He left.

I do know of a very good looking real estate lady where I now reside. She rarely if ever sells a house but meets many well off men through her business. She has married and then divorced several and has become rather wealthy through it all.

After thinking it over a while my dating life has been mostly a lot of fun. Many of the women I meet and date I am able to check out because we have friends in common. I also learned to not ever agree to a blind date without a good, clear full (clothed) body shot photo, even with someone I know well wanting to set me up.

Of course in these days of meeting through internet dating sites I do recommend whenever possible that daters of both sexes do some preliminary screening before agreeing to meet a total stranger for the first time.
That had to be 'Great Expectations' dating service. I signed up for that in 1999 in Orlando when I was 45 years old. Had pics done of me and a profile for $2,000. Got a hit from a guy in Wildwood. He convinced me to rent out my home fully furnished and quit my job as a Quality control Inspector at a major printing company and come move in with him in Wildwood after only 2 months.

Yes, I believed in love and was lonely. We broke up within 10 months. He was 39 years old and I found out that I would have been his 5th wife.

I got out just in time. We were to be married Feb 14th and broke up Feb 10th!!!!

The lady I rented my home to trashed it and I was able to sell it for what I owed the mortgage company. The furniture was ruined by a big dog peeing on it that I did not know she had.

YIKES!!

:shocked:

[Geewiz]

Geewiz, you don't have to answer if you'd rather not, but I'm curious how your correspondence with Ivy began. How did your signals get so thoroughly crossed about whether or not she was even looking for a romantic relationship?

Hopefully this will be the end of it...I contacted her on a particularly edgy dating site...and she made such a big deal out of not being called cute...well as Mr. Springsteen said - "When they said sit down - I stood up." But, I tease - and I try to be gentle and kind.

She is very articulate and wound a bit tight. This is a dating website where you don't look for pen pals.

My pal Ellen says I reveal far too much...but, as a writer I have a limited ability to self edit. This is my error. I don't date in TV because I've got enough of a bad rep.

The point of the thread is the whole dating game brings out the strangeness in all of us. TV is odd because of the ratio between men and women favors guys and I think that is hard for some women to cope with as it encourages the predator in guys.

Since I tend to date younger and edgy women...the typical balance where guys pursue girls is still in play. But - what is different is that most of the girls are divorced and have a very cynical view of guys....probably well warranted.

C'est la vie.

[OnTrack]

Blind date for dinner. His ex comes into restaurant. He gets up to talk to her. Says he's sorry but he has to try again. Leaves me his credit card to pay for the meal and take a cab home. I looked at him, I looked at the card (AmEx platinum) and went to town. Ordered champagne ($150), wine for surrounding tables ($400), $100 tip for waiter, cab ride from Lafayette (about 6 miles from house) to San Francisco, Marin County and home that way ($375). Seemed fair to me.

That's a classic!!! :D

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[redwitch]

That's a classic!!! :D

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Basic rule -- don't tick off a redhead (whether natural or straight out of the bottle) .... we have ATTITUDE! :boxing2:

[Geewiz]

Basic rule -- don't tick off a redhead (whether natural or straight out of the bottle) .... we have ATTITUDE! :boxing2:

Sorry - every gal has attitude. Guys, too. As we age we settle into patterns and don't appreciate someone who wants to change us. When younger we are more malleable.

[2 Oldcrabs]

My father told me, "everyone in the world is crazy except myself and your mother, and I am not too sure about your mother". Crazy is a "relative term", depends on your outlook.:)

[manaboutown]

I just picked up a new book on internet dating entitled 'DATA, a love story' by Amy Webb. It starts out with some amusing dating horror stories. Then the author relates her initial internet dating experiences. Some are hysterical.

Since I am only part way into the book I do not yet know how she learns to set up a profile which works to attract the sort of man she wants but she does end up happily married to a man she met on a dating website.

I am going to finish the book and set up a new profile on a dating site (again).