Best friends husband died

[asianthree]

We have all experienced death, but this was so sad..My BFF has a home in AZ and her husband was there for winter months...she spoke to him on tuesday....was flying out on sunday to enjoy a few weeks with him..no answer so on saturday the police made a well call at the home and found him sitting in his chair...as i help her get things together to fly out...she asked me if they had a home in TV do you think someone would have noticed...i told her i didn't know for sure but in our neighborhood it would have been noticed...i am so heartbroken for her..they were coming in october to stay with us in TV....he was only 49...for those who know someone living alone please check on them from time to time...sometime its not about age....thanks

[mainlander]

Such a shame and such a young age. Condolences.

[bkcunningham1]

My condolences to you and your friend. I can't imagine her shock and pain. Thank you for taking the time to post such a thoughtful reminder.

[Ecuadog]

Rip

[obxgal]

My deepest sympathies to you and your friend. I too can to imagine what she must be going through. I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers.

[CFrance]

It could have come on so suddenly that having neighbors around wouldn't have helped. I hope your friend doesn't blame herself for not being there. The what-ifs could tear one up.

My condolences to your friend nd you.

[Parker]

So sad. And scary.

[Schaumburger]

I am also extending my condolences to you and your friend.

[BobnBev]

We have all experienced death, but this was so sad..My BFF has a home in AZ and her husband was there for winter months...she spoke to him on tuesday....was flying out on sunday to enjoy a few weeks with him..no answer so on saturday the police made a well call at the home and found him sitting in his chair...as i help her get things together to fly out...she asked me if they had a home in TV do you think someone would have noticed...i told her i didn't know for sure but in our neighborhood it would have been noticed...i am so heartbroken for her..they were coming in october to stay with us in TV....he was only 49...for those who know someone living alone please check on them from time to time...sometime its not about age....thanks

Make sure she comes to see you in October. Drag her by the hair if need be. She will need this time to unburden herself by talking with you. That's what good friends are for.:bowdown:

[Villageshooter]

my prayers to u and ur friend...... we all need human interaction ,, if u see someone setting alone dont be shy about trying to make conversation with them, u might be the only person all day that has smiled at them ,,, there are so many people here that are so lonely and shy about reaching out,,,i have met some wonderful folks whose kids that could care less and just waiting for them to die,,,, reach out to others

[graciegirl]

I am sorry Asianthree for you and for her.

I feel someone here in our neighborhood would have noticed because we are always doing something WITH someone. I know she is thinking, how could I have kept this from happening. Anyone would. I am so sorry.

[Villages PL]

I experienced a similar situation while living in California. I lived in an appartment building and a single woman in the next appartment died while watching TV. It was about 3 or 4 days before anyone noticed. Eventually, the manager opened the door with her key. The woman was found sitting up in her chair and the TV was still on. It was very sad to think that she didn't have anyone to check on her.

It took a long time for the removal of the body. I asked the manager what was taking so long. She said, "when a person is found sitting up and rigor mortis sets in, they have to cut the limbs to straighten them out before removing the body." That was 43 years ago.

Be a good friend and do whatever you can to keep her busy. Plan on doing things together to take her mind off of what happened.

[BAILYBOOHOO]

My deepest sympathies go out to your friend . Sending her a hug and you also .

[carm310]

I am sorry for your friend's loss. She is fortunate to have you, a caring friend in her life at this time.

[senior citizen]

'Sudden Death' Robs Us of The Chance to Say Goodbye......

I still remember getting the phone call many moons ago from my childhood friend's husband, saying she had passed away suddenly overnight, at age 39.

She wasn't alone at the time, but in the emergency room of her hospital, with her husband at her side......but it was still unexpected, nevertheless.......enlarged heart.

I got the call the next morning......

Long terminal illnesses give loved ones , and the patient themselves, a chance for closure and goodbyes.........whereas "sudden death" is always difficult.

Happening to such a young person, as your friend's husband....is very hard.

[senior citizen]

p.s.
Actually, older folks dying alone, unattended is NOT unusual. Younger ones.........yes indeed.

While doing my genealogy, I had several cousins tell me of folks in their family, mainly males, who had retired to Florida after becoming widowers.........

Without going into gory details that were relayed to me........anyone can imagine what a body lying on the couch would be like, in the Florida heat and humidity, being found a month later........all of their children were "up north". The four deaths in question all occurred during the summer months.........so I imagine that their neighbors might have also migrated back up north. The deceased were extended family of cousins.........they told me the stories while giving me the death dates for the family tree.

Again, not young person, but my own aunt was found dead at her kitchen table with her head on her arms.........she had just keeled over and died. Her husband found her when he came home for supper.........she was my confirmation sponsor.

Similar story, my daughter's husband's uncle was found the same way, at his dining room table........head slumped over his arms......which were resting on the table.
Nephew came to check and found him deceased.

Just remembered........a middle aged man, who had just played racket ball (indoors) with a friend of ours, was found dead in his reclining chair after eating a ham sandwich........watching t.v.........he was in his mid 40's at the time, leaving a wife and two children who all were "away"........