Starting an updated post from 07'

[LynnDeb]

Lynn and Bruce here, we are in our early 60's moved into Woodbury Village since Feb 13'. I have responded to outdated posts example meeting new people posted back in 07' on here. I didnt realize it until I looked at the small print above the pic of the people.
I do find so far people are clicky here in TV, hard to make friends.
I play as a newbie mah jongg at the rec centers and have been enjoying the game. Have been looking to be involved w a group. Someone told me that people who have been friends for a while "if you're lucky and they're sympathetic" they might allow you to join them. So far no luck, I'm posting to see has or/is anyone feeling the same?
Also I notice that people older than us dont seem to have patience w us, I guess that's because they've been there done it not interested anymore so they've moved on too. People moving to TV of all ages, in all the Villages, from N of 466 to S of 466 I'm wondering what their feeling is on this topic??? Looking forward to hearing from you with an open mind please, Lynn

[graciegirl]

I am so sad you feel this way right now. Please come to the lunch gathering I am having in December. I issued an open invitation a couple of months ago, really instigated by someone feeling down on this forum, but it ended up with almost thirty sweet women coming to our home and spending several hours together; chatting, laughing, having the time in a relaxed atmosphere to get to know each other.

Age has nothing to do with wonderful friendships, here or anywhere.

My coffee pot is always on Lynndeb. I always have something sweet in my pantry to share and daughter Helene and I would love to have you come over anytime.

I will send you a PM with directions and telephone number.

I can gather a few warm folks right away.

Say the word.

Hugs,

Gracie

[Jaggy]

I am so glad to see Gracie responded to you. I read your post early this morning and could not get it off of my mind.. I reread and saw almost 70 some people had read it but not one person responded..I was not sure how I wanted to reply since I moved here in Nov '12 and I have some of your same feelings. Take Care.

[graciegirl]

I am so glad to see Gracie responded to you. I read your post early this morning and could not get it off of my mind.. I reread and saw almost 70 some people had read it but not one person responded..I was not sure how I wanted to reply since I moved here in Nov '12 and I have some of your same feelings. Take Care.


Jaggy. You are absolutely welcome too. Anytime. We love company. Maybe we need to gather a few girls before December.

Tea and crumpets? Tea and laughter? Anyone wanna come over?

[kittygilchrist]

Amazing, Grace.

[McP1605]

Oh dear! My husband passed away in February and I have been so lonely. I am moving to TV in early November because when I looked around there it seemed like everyone was so friendly and out doing things. I am a young widow (55) and I miss him so much. I sure hope that I don't find the same thing when I get there. I hope this wasn't a huge mistake. I don't ever want to remarry, but I sure would like to be able to live in a friendly, active place where I can make friends and have fun times. I do know that this will be my 18th move since I got married and I do know it takes about a year to feel comfortable somewhere, so I am determined to give it a year and hope by then I will love it! Thank you for your post. It will help me to know that it's not going to happen overnight!

[redwitch]

For some, making friends is easy. For others, it's not. It took me about a year to find a group that accepted me and that I enjoyed doing things with. I was and am the baby of this group but they include me as much as I care to be included and when I need down time, that's acceptable, too.

For a Mah-Jong group, try to make your own -- find other players who are in the same boat and arrange a set time to play together every week. Offer to sub with groups that live near you or ladies that you just happen to like. It takes time, but it will come together.

TOTV is a great way to meet new people and make new friends. Come Crisper's on the third Friday; join in on the TOTV Happy Hour; accept Gracie's gracious invitations.

Don't give up. You will find your friends and niche.

[kittygilchrist]

Yes to what Redwitch said.
I started a meet/greet thread in the singles forum which has turned into a great group of singles who aren't a club, for singles who prefer smaller, more spontaneous ways to get together.
Kitty

[2newyorkers]

Hi LynnDeb and Jaggy. I sent each of you a pm.

[missypie]

Dear LynnDeb,

I would really like to meet you. It is difficult to move to a new area. My sister who has lived here for a few years said it took her about 2 years to get into the new friends groove. I get that. I just moved to TV as well and as soon as I was there a few weeks I met lovely people. Then I left to visit my 1st new grandchild in Michigan. I will be back next week. Feel free to PM me and lets have coffee or tea soon. If anyone else wants to join then PM me as well.

Can't wait to go to Gracie's in December. She is the bomb!!!!!!:pepper2:

[Bogie Shooter]

Check with your neighbors about a social club in Woodbury. Most villages have one and usually meet once a month.

[stroglass]

I hope to be in tv soon looking for a house in 2 weeks an am also 60 y/o I would love to have a friend to do things with as my husband is a golfer and I am not so good so I hold him back. please feel free to PM meand we can talk
Kathy

[LuvlyJubly]

Jaggy. You are absolutely welcome too. Anytime. We love company. Maybe we need to gather a few girls before December.

Tea and crumpets? Tea and laughter? Anyone wanna come over?

Did someone mention tea & crumpets? Gracie you are so sweet and so welcoming!
Lynndeb, I have heard the same things being said about age etc. but when we came over last year not once did age seem to be a problem, young or old. I believe everyone is in The Villages for the same thing, happiness, longevity, and just want to enjoy life! Keep your head up and I am sure things will start to look differently real soon. Since you have had an invite from Gracie you have nothing to lose but loads to gain so take it and run with it. It could be a way of meeting new people. Always give people a chance and put yourself out there as you seem a lovely person and there shall be plenty of people who would like to be your friend. Count me in!
Amy

[tippyclubb]

LynnDeb my heart goes out to you that your not making friends. It must be lonely moving to TV and not knowing anyone. Please go to Gracie's house and attend the meeting at Crispers. There's no doubt doing so is going to open up a whole new social array of potential friends.

TV has the reputation of being a friendly town and we found that to be true on our recent LSV. However, it just didn't happen, we had to speak first and engage people in conversation. Once the ice was broken people were very friendly. Don't be shy, and try to start conversations with a simple hello, a smile, and introduce yourself and most likely you will receive the friendly positive response you are looking for.

[PammyJ]

Lynndeb,
Come to Crispers Friday! We have a once a month Happy Hour ( usually more than an hour). I will post date and time soon!

[LynnDeb]

Is the Crispers meet this Friday?
Thank you all for your posts...I have written back to you and hope to get some emails....
Hugs, Lynn

[kittygilchrist]

lynndeb, if you would like to join us for a singles dinner the 25th about 5:30, PM me.

[Schaumburger]

Is the Crispers meet this Friday?
Thank you all for your posts...I have written back to you and hope to get some emails....
Hugs, Lynn

Yes, Lynn. The lunch at Crispers is this Friday, 10/18 at 3:00 pm at Crispers on 466. When I have attended, the lunch has been at the side patio of Crispers. I plan on attending, and I am just a TV wannabee who happens to be visiting in TV this week. Hope you can make it. :wave:

Laura (Schaumburger)

[mixsonci]

I also do not make friends easily, quite the introvert, even though I work for an Ambassador in an Embassy, which is why I love this TOTV. It's full of ideas and suggestions. People are people everywhere and you will find some that are not so friendly and inviting (cliquey) and others, like Gracie, with open arms and coffee. A place like TV you will find both and you just have to migrate to the "good" ones. I won't retire for another year, can't wait, buy my mom and I are visiting for a week, Dec 8 - 15, so if there are any "get togethers" during that week, we would love to drop by and say Hi, I bought a house in Collier Village.

[2BNTV]

LynnDeb:

I am so sorry you are not making friends as easily as you like but don't give up. They are out there.

Remember, "half the world is waiting for the other half to say hello".

Crispers is every third Friday of the month in the Southern Trace Shopping Plaza, (Rt 466 and intersection of cr 101, county rd), at 3 PM.


Next one is November 15.

I hope to see you there. as will other talk of the villages people.