Mean spirited people

[Russ_Boston]

Don't like them. Fell sorry for them. That is all. Going to play golf now.

[rdhdleo]

Don't like them. Fell sorry for them. That is all. Going to play golf now.

Please don't judge everyone that way. Not all are mean ;) Have a great golf game and enjoy! Life is too short to care about what others say especially people you don't know.

[Bruiser1]

Don't like them. Fell sorry for them. That is all. Going to play golf now.

"life is like a box of chocolates" oops wrong thread!:posting:

[jimbo2012]

I'm always surprised to meet some of them in person, it usually isn't the same personality that was behind the key board.

[graciegirl]

Me too. I wonder about a couple on here a lot and wonder if they are the same in person.

I am usually VERY pleasantly surprised, and sorta ashamed that I had made the wrong summary.

[Ceafolks]

Some are the same. They just wear a different face in person.

[gerryann]

Me too. I wonder about a couple on here a lot and wonder if they are the same in person.

I am usually VERY pleasantly surprised, and sorta ashamed that I had made the wrong summary.

So....do you think they just get some thrill by being "temporarily" mean? Do they enjoy making others hurt by making nasty comments? Are they in need of attention? Are they alone and have no one to make miserable, so they do it to "strangers" and feel that's ok? It's actually very sad that they feel this need to upset others. They must hurt, and want others to hurt as well. Being happy or sad...or being mean or kind is a decision that one makes when they open their eyes in the morning. One may not have control over how they are feeling physically, but in most cases they can control their attitude and mood for the day. Very often however, the "meanness" comes out after a few drinks. Most are probably good people, just needing others.

[BettyCrocked]

Use the ignore feature. I'm finding it saves me a lot of aggravation.

[graciegirl]

So....do you think they just get some thrill by being "temporarily" mean? Do they enjoy making others hurt by making nasty comments? Are they in need of attention? Are they alone and have no one to make miserable, so they do it to "strangers" and feel that's ok? It's actually very sad that they feel this need to upset others. They must hurt, and want others to hurt as well. Being happy or sad...or being mean or kind is a decision that one makes when they open their eyes in the morning. One may not have control over how they are feeling physically, but in most cases they can control their attitude and mood for the day. Very often however, the "meanness" comes out after a few drinks. Most are probably good people, just needing others.

I don't know. I always feel most everything is my fault. I try VERY hard to understand people and that is easier somehow to do in person. For me..

Then sometimes you give someone the benefit of the doubt and you are saddened by their behavior eventually.

[bkcunningham1]

This might put a smile back on their face.

That's corny.

[skyguy79]

Don't like them. Fell sorry for them. That is all. Going to play golf now.Russ, I can understand how you feel as I have been deeply hurt by these kinds of people both here and outside of TOTV. Words can and do hurt! I can feel sorry for some of those people too, but definitely no sympathy and no excuses for a few. That is all for me too, but as for going out and playing golf... I can only wish I could go out and play! Unfortunately, I'd find it quite difficult to even play one hole of miniature golf!

[bkcunningham1]

I guess it kinda is, when you don't know the story behind this sweet child. She has diabetes, her sugar has to be checked constantly throughout the day and night. Yet, she manages to always wear that beautiful smile.

"corny" That's good! lol

She is beautiful. It looks like she's in corn. Thus, my silly comment. The picture made me smile and I sure hope it makes Russ smile too. Thanks for posting it Sprinkler Buddy. She's a doll.

[kittygilchrist]

I don't know. I always feel most everything is my fault. I try VERY hard to understand people and that is easier somehow to do in person. For me..

Then sometimes you give someone the benefit of the doubt and you are saddened by their behavior eventually.

GG, most everything around here is made better by you. I carry your address knowing you are available. Maybe you don't know you are making a difference? You really are. You love.

[Bonnevie]

it's unfortunate, because the people most affected by mean people are generally caring people....as Russ obviously is....good nurses have to have an innate desire to help people
mean people were one of the reasons for the timing of my retirement....I was exposed to so many of them at my work, I began to think the world had only mean, entitled people....coming here has been like a tonic

[PammyJ]

Some people are miserable and are not happy unless they bring you down too! Misery loves company! I don't like being around them, hard though when they are family.

[Happinow]

If Russ is talking about mean people in the hospital where he works, maybe it's because when people hurt or don't feel good it makes them mean. It may not be their nature but not feeling well or being in pain can bring the worst out in us humans. Otherwise, some people are just mean spirited.... I live near one.

[Barefoot]

If Russ is talking about mean people in the hospital where he works, maybe it's because when people hurt or don't feel good it makes them mean. It may not be their nature but not feeling well or being in pain can bring the worst out in us humans.

Most of us wouldn't want to be around sick people all the time. I think nurses are angels ... overworked and underpaid.

[Bonnevie]

my mother who was a nurse said she liked taking care of people when they are sick....she said it's when they starting getting better their true personalities came out....though today they don't keep you in the hospital long enough to start feeling better....

[Bruiser1]

That's corny.

There is a KERNEL of truth in your accessment!:1rotfl:

[Mango47]

If Russ is talking about mean people in the hospital where he works, maybe it's because when people hurt or don't feel good it makes them mean. It may not be their nature but not feeling well or being in pain can bring the worst out in us humans. Otherwise, some people are just mean spirited.... I live near one.

OMG are you having another dustup with your neighbor about his landscaping? What villages are you in? Being in a dysfunctional neighborhood must be difficult. Good luck, Mango

[redwitch]

Russ, hope golf was great yesterday and things look a bit better today. Hugs!

[graciegirl]

Russ, hope golf was great yesterday and things look a bit better today. Hugs!


Redwitch. You are a good person and I am proud to call you friend.

[SALYBOW]

So....do you think they just get some thrill by being "temporarily" mean? Do they enjoy making others hurt by making nasty comments? Are they in need of attention? Are they alone and have no one to make miserable, so they do it to "strangers" and feel that's ok? It's actually very sad that they feel this need to upset others. They must hurt, and want others to hurt as well. Being happy or sad...or being mean or kind is a decision that one makes when they open their eyes in the morning. One may not have control over how they are feeling physically, but in most cases they can control their attitude and mood for the day. Very often however, the "meanness" comes out after a few drinks. Most are probably good people, just needing others.

I am sometimes amazed at the Cavalier attitude some people on this forum have and put on the permanent cyber space. But as someone wiser than I once said, "Opinions are like A**holes, everybody has one. I try yo ignore it.

[patfla06]

My lovely daughter-in-law just quit a job due to a toxic boss.
Her resignation letter stated "due to this hostile and unprofessional workplace.....".

She made her cry on numerous occasions!
When I heard that I told her I was flying up and SOMEONE would
Be crying but wouldn't be my D-I-L!

[graciegirl]

My lovely daughter-in-law just quit a job due to a toxic boss.
Her resignation letter stated "due to this hostile and unprofessional workplace.....".

She made her cry on numerous occasions!
When I heard that I told her I was flying up and SOMEONE would
Be crying but wouldn't be my D-I-L!

Do you need any help?

[patfla06]

Do you need any help?

Thank you Gracie, it sounds like I made need some help with
this crazy woman!

[rubicon]

This may sound dumb to some but before responding I would like to know under what circumstances such mean spirited exchange took place where? why? What was said? body language?

When I was a kid and my parents grounded me I believed they were mean spirited. When Simon Cowell told contestants on American Idol what he thought some people believed he was mean spirited. Joe Pesi's un-mistakenly was often portrayed as a mean spirited gangster.
I believe Alex Baldwin is mean spirited as well as Kanye West .
I'm nice:D

[mrdarcy]

I've quit some jobs too because of toxic bosses. A nurse once taught me that you teach people how to treat you. If you allow people to abuse you, many will try. Sometimes one just has to say, "No, I won't permit that." And sometimes that means leaving a job in which the boss is abusive, especially if the bosses above him/her tolerate it. I'm convinced a better job awaits your daughter-in law.

[wendyquat]

If Russ is talking about mean people in the hospital where he works, maybe it's because when people hurt or don't feel good it makes them mean. It may not be their nature but not feeling well or being in pain can bring the worst out in us humans. Otherwise, some people are just mean spirited.... I live near one.

I don't think Russ would talk about anyone from work, patient or otherwise. I'd think he's probably referring to a mean spirited post on TOTV! I read one a couple of days ago that is still grating on my lst nerve! Even my golf game yesterday didn't help!

[Easyrider]

My lovely daughter-in-law just quit a job due to a toxic boss.
Her resignation letter stated "due to this hostile and unprofessional workplace.....".

She made her cry on numerous occasions!
When I heard that I told her I was flying up and SOMEONE would
Be crying but wouldn't be my D-I-L!

Might be a wasted trip as not many employers if any will be willing to discuss a matter like this with a mother-in-law and even if they are willing it is likely illegal due to privacy rules.

Doesn't look to good if an employee needs others to intervene on their behalf. Can't just run away from situations like this and there was no reason to be in such a hurry to leave. Crying by an employee doesn't necessarily mean anyone else did something wrong as some cry at the drop of a hat. It would have been better for her to have requested a meeting with personnel or a higher level manager to discuss the problem and then decided if leaving was the only alternative. Even then if it truly is a hostile environment and it has been properly documented there is recourse in the courts. Document, document, document, is the only way to have a case that will ever hold water.

[2BNTV]

Random thoughts:
1. Mean people stink.
2, I don't let anyone rent space in my head.
3. Life it too short to be little.
4. Mean people may not feel well and just try to make some people as miserable as they are.
5. Don't seat the sweat stuff, it's all same stuff.

I wouldn't let anyone ruin my day. :smiley:

I wouldn't let my boss from he** get the best of me, in that I considered a badge of honor to be able to take his cruel methods, and laugh them off. Talk about he**ish working conditions but then, I would have to catch myself to remember he was totally ignorant of computer technology and was totally over his head in his ability to manage people.

I'm sure your DIL will get a better job that suits her abilities and finds nice people to work with.

[ssmith]

Russ has been maliciously attacked before on this forum....

it is too bad that a few bad apples have to ruin it for the rest....

Russ took an extended time-out from TOTV and we sure missed him....

Same with Gracie....sure hope this doesn't happen again...

[wendyquat]

Russ has been maliciously attacked before on this forum....

it is too bad that a few bad apples have to ruin it for the rest....

Russ took an extended time-out from TOTV and we sure missed him....

Same with Gracie....sure hope this doesn't happen again...

:agree:

[patfla06]

I've quit some jobs too because of toxic bosses. A nurse once taught me that you teach people how to treat you. If you allow people to abuse you, many will try. Sometimes one just has to say, "No, I won't permit that." And sometimes that means leaving a job in which the boss is abusive, especially if the bosses above him/her tolerate it. I'm convinced a better job awaits your daughter-in law.

Thanks!

[patfla06]

Might be a wasted trip as not many employers if any will be willing to discuss a matter like this with a mother-in-law and even if they are willing it is likely illegal due to privacy rules.

Doesn't look to good if an employee needs others to intervene on their behalf. Can't just run away from situations like this and there was no reason to be in such a hurry to leave. Crying by an employee doesn't necessarily mean anyone else did something wrong as some cry at the drop of a hat. It would have been better for her to have requested a meeting with personnel or a higher level manager to discuss the problem and then decided if leaving was the only alternative. Even then if it truly is a hostile environment and it has been properly documented there is recourse in the courts. Document, document, document, is the only way to have a case that will ever hold water.

I was KIDDING about going to her former boss.
I just wanted her to feel my support.

The woman owns the company, there is no H.R. to go to,
And the boss has lost 6 employees in the past year.
My D-I-L made the right decision and she can more then take care of herself.

[Easyrider]

I was KIDDING about going to her former boss.
I just wanted her to feel my support.

The woman owns the company, there is no H.R. to go to,
And the boss has lost 6 employees in the past year.
My D-I-L made the right decision and she can more then take care of herself.

Got it, wife was in HR for many years, heard about lots of situations...:coolsmiley:

[graciegirl]

Might be a wasted trip as not many employers if any will be willing to discuss a matter like this with a mother-in-law and even if they are willing it is likely illegal due to privacy rules.

Doesn't look to good if an employee needs others to intervene on their behalf. Can't just run away from situations like this and there was no reason to be in such a hurry to leave. Crying by an employee doesn't necessarily mean anyone else did something wrong as some cry at the drop of a hat. It would have been better for her to have requested a meeting with personnel or a higher level manager to discuss the problem and then decided if leaving was the only alternative. Even then if it truly is a hostile environment and it has been properly documented there is recourse in the courts. Document, document, document, is the only way to have a case that will ever hold water.

I believe he was venting. He was sharing. He was saying that HURTING someone for the satisfaction isn't NICE.

He was kinda stating that hurting someone he loved made him feel protective. I am sure she did what she felt was right. If I had my life to live over I would have threatened divorce to Sweetie and not been such a wuss and told him to QUIT and find a job elsewhere because of a cruel, unstable, more than toxic man who enjoyed pulling wings off flies and the flies were his staff.

I had one too. It was awful. I see the same vein of character here, the taunting, the cruel posts, the ANONYMOUS ability to hurt people's hearts.

It isn't nice. It isn't right and we all can name the top five.

It's funny THEY don't care.

[Cedwards38]

I really enjoy 98% of TOTV, and I find some incredibly helpful information here, but it does seem there are a few who either relish in showing us how much smarter they are than the rest of us, or others who can not resist the urge to show us their rapierlike sense of humor, regardless of how hurtful this might be. For those few, I agree completely with Russ.

[graciegirl]

Russ is a good egg. He would NEVER be anything but the best nurse. He is a good person.

We all get off track at times on this forum.

I think I have lately and I apologize.

Sometimes we lose our patience .

We are all human.

[nitehawk]

This is one nice thread - am making a sauce and have to go and "Stir the Pot"

[mickey100]

Russ has been maliciously attacked before on this forum....

it is too bad that a few bad apples have to ruin it for the rest....

Russ took an extended time-out from TOTV and we sure missed him....

Same with Gracie....sure hope this doesn't happen again...

A number of people have been maliciously attacked before on this forum, some for just asking simple questions about the Developer, for letting newbies know about the IRS issues, or for implying the Villages isn't perfect...IMHO the moderators need to do a better job of keeping things from spinning out of control when these attacks start.

[kittygilchrist]

I don't think Russ would talk about anyone from work, patient or otherwise. I'd think he's probably referring to a mean spirited post on TOTV! I read one a couple of days ago that is still grating on my lst nerve! Even my golf game yesterday didn't help!

:agree: I haven't met Russ in person, but online he is a gentle hero. I attribute to him the good judgment to stick to talking about what's happening online. His choppy sentences say he has just had it with people on here for the sole purpose of inflicting pain.
yes I make assumptions, but prefer to call it intuition. Not always right.

[Peachie]

:agree: I haven't met Russ in person, but online he is a gentle hero. I attribute to him the good judgment to stick to talking about what's happening online. His choppy sentences say he has just had it with people on here for the sole purpose of inflicting pain.
yes I make assumptions, but prefer to call it intuition. Not always right.

I too am impressed with you, Russ. Your common sense, wisdom and thoughtfulness are impressive. I think TVRH is very lucky to have you on board and contributing in their goal of providing excellent healthcare. It's great that you're not letting the mean-spirited people get to you, hit 'em straight! :eclipsee_gold_cup:

[patfla06]

I believe he was venting. He was sharing. He was saying that HURTING someone for the satisfaction isn't NICE.

He was kinda stating that hurting someone he loved made him feel protective. I am sure she did what she felt was right. If I had my life to live over I would have threatened divorce to Sweetie and not been such a wuss and told him to QUIT and find a job elsewhere because of a cruel, unstable, more than toxic man who enjoyed pulling wings off flies and the flies were his staff.

I had one too. It was awful. I see the same vein of character here, the taunting, the cruel posts, the ANONYMOUS ability to hurt people's hearts.

It isn't nice. It isn't right and we all can name the top five.

It's funny THEY don't care.

I thought he felt I meant it. Figured he didn't get my sense of humor.

It's very sad that both you and your DH had that experience. It makes you wonder if they wake up in the morning determined to make everyone as miserable as they are.

I told my D-I-L you can't reason with a dysfunctional person!

She is much, much happier this week being out of there.

Thanks!

[samhass]

I too am impressed with you, Russ. Your common sense, wisdom and thoughtfulness are impressive. I think TVRH is very lucky to have you on board and contributing in their goal of providing excellent healthcare. It's great that you're not letting the mean-spirited people get to you, hit 'em straight! :eclipsee_gold_cup:

Well said, Peachie.

[patfla06]

A number of people have been maliciously attacked before on this forum, some for just asking simple questions about the Developer, for letting newbies know about the IRS issues, or for implying the Villages isn't perfect...IMHO the moderators need to do a better job of keeping things from spinning out of control when these attacks start.

I totally agree. I feel like people "gang up on them" with their supposed humor.
I don't like it.