How about a moratorium?

[redwitch]

What if we were to make January a month of no negative posts? That is, if a newbie posts about something occurring, we thank them for the information instead of doubting their word? If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself? If you get the urge to be snarky, you simply type your response but don't send it (deleting it later)? If you get the urge to be negative for any reason, you say it to yourself but don't post it?

I promise to not roll my eyes at VPL food posts (sorry, VPL, couldn't resist). I promise to not think "snarky" when Doug is being witty (again, just couldn't resist). I promise to not let the praises to the rafters about the Morses get stuck in my craw and "force" me to say something. I promise that if I don't like the food or service in a restaurant, I will keep it to myself for 31 days. I promise to not let those poor, misguided conservative souls get under my skin.

[tainsley]

What if we were to make January a month of no negative posts? That is, if a newbie posts about something occurring, we thank them for the information instead of doubting their word? If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself? If you get the urge to be snarky, you simply type your response but don't send it (deleting it later)? If you get the urge to be negative for any reason, you say it to yourself but don't post it?

I promise to not roll my eyes at VPL food posts (sorry, VPL, couldn't resist). I promise to not think "snarky" when Doug is being witty (again, just couldn't resist). I promise to not let the praises to the rafters about the Morses get stuck in my craw and "force" me to say something. I promise that if I don't like the food or service in a restaurant, I will keep it to myself for 31 days. I promise to not let those poor, misguided conservative souls get under my skin.

I second that motion! Happy New Year everyone!

[CarolSells]

Redwitch, you are such a marvelous person. We are all very blessed to be a party to your wisdom.

And how about these:

Let's don't pick on all people of a certain profession because we think we understand how their profession works.

If people post that The Purple People Eater was sighted in their neighborhood just let it go.

True story. A elderly lady in south Atlanta called the police station to report that GIANT turkeys were running all about in her backyard. Deputy rolled his eye, I'm sure, and they all had a good laugh. Turns out that a truck had overturned on nearby I-75 and a bunch of ostriches had escaped!

[Golfingnut]

I'm in.

[glgene]

Yes...during January (and thereafter) a cup filled 50% is 1/2 full...not 1/2 empty.

Ahhh-TV! We're living the dream in Paradise.

Gene

[graciegirl]

What if we were to make January a month of no negative posts? That is, if a newbie posts about something occurring, we thank them for the information instead of doubting their word? If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself? If you get the urge to be snarky, you simply type your response but don't send it (deleting it later)? If you get the urge to be negative for any reason, you say it to yourself but don't post it?

I promise to not roll my eyes at VPL food posts (sorry, VPL, couldn't resist). I promise to not think "snarky" when Doug is being witty (again, just couldn't resist). I promise to not let the praises to the rafters about the Morses get stuck in my craw and "force" me to say something. I promise that if I don't like the food or service in a restaurant, I will keep it to myself for 31 days. I promise to not let those poor, misguided conservative souls get under my skin.



Redwitch. You know I think the world of you but never more than today. Excellent plan.


I will try to be nice.

[angiefox10]

I agree!

[JE Greenwood]

What if we were to make January a month of no negative posts? That is, if a newbie posts about something occurring, we thank them for the information instead of doubting their word? If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself? If you get the urge to be snarky, you simply type your response but don't send it (deleting it later)? If you get the urge to be negative for any reason, you say it to yourself but don't post it?

I promise to not roll my eyes at VPL food posts (sorry, VPL, couldn't resist). I promise to not think "snarky" when Doug is being witty (again, just couldn't resist). I promise to not let the praises to the rafters about the Morses get stuck in my craw and "force" me to say something. I promise that if I don't like the food or service in a restaurant, I will keep it to myself for 31 days. I promise to not let those poor, misguided conservative souls get under my skin.

That is a wonderful idea!

[jblum315]

Redwitch, as usual, is the voice of sanity and I totally agree with her plan.

[Karenu]

Wonderful idea!

[shcisamax]

EXCELENTE ! Such a better thread than mine that focussed on what was wrong ....Redwitch actually came up with a positive solution. Bravo! I'm in.

[l2ridehd]

So for the whole month we can have no dog poop, round about, bad food, or electric vs gas debates? There will be no posts.

[TheVillageChicken]

http://latestbloomer.uskoa.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/Famous-Sayings_fat+lady+sings-Kumbaya.png

[shcisamax]

Now that's the TOTV I remember.

[Jhooman]

I'm in. Well said, your brilliant.

Happy New Year!

[swimdawg]

http://latestbloomer.uskoa.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/Famous-Sayings_fat+lady+sings-Kumbaya.png

Now we're talkin'

Swimdawg Post of the Day Award! :eclipsee_gold_cup:

[redwitch]

So for the whole month we can have no dog poop, round about, bad food, or electric vs gas debates? There will be no posts.

Sure there will -- lots of stuff for sale. And if you can talk about dog poop, round abouts, bad food and electric v. gas and be civil, don't see why they have to be unmentionables.

Who knows, maybe we'll have a whole of month of how nice it was visiting so and so; how great the food and service was at such and such; how seeing the tail wagging the dog on its walk was such a great joy; and so on that we won't have to pick on someone cause we disagree or are afraid they might be a troll or it doesn't fit our sensibilities of behavior.

[njbchbum]

Can we have the political forum brought back for that same duration?

[billethkid]

why not....it is what most do anyway everyday.

Maybe the admin would allow political discussions with these rules in place.....well ya never know!!

[Golfingnut]

We have a very nice compliment of forums right now. Let's not add any more please.

[jebartle]

What a great New Year's resolution for us all!....btw, Do movie reviews count?..(remember, I did say the popcorn was good).....giggle

[DougB]

What if we were to make January a month of no negative posts? That is, if a newbie posts about something occurring, we thank them for the information instead of doubting their word? If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself? If you get the urge to be snarky, you simply type your response but don't send it (deleting it later)? If you get the urge to be negative for any reason, you say it to yourself but don't post it?

I promise to not roll my eyes at VPL food posts (sorry, VPL, couldn't resist). I promise to not think "snarky" when Doug is being witty (again, just couldn't resist). I promise to not let the praises to the rafters about the Morses get stuck in my craw and "force" me to say something. I promise that if I don't like the food or service in a restaurant, I will keep it to myself for 31 days. I promise to not let those poor, misguided conservative souls get under my skin.


A WHOLE month?? Shouldn't we begin with baby steps?

[Carl in Tampa]

We have a very nice compliment of forums right now. Let's not add any more please.

Would this be considered "negative?"

:D

[Golfingnut]

Would this be considered "negative?"

:D

I have been here long enough to be positive the return of a certain form would bring back very negative posts and lots of them. No offense to those in favor, but it was closed for that very reason.

[rubicon]

What if we were to make January a month of no negative posts? That is, if a newbie posts about something occurring, we thank them for the information instead of doubting their word? If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself? If you get the urge to be snarky, you simply type your response but don't send it (deleting it later)? If you get the urge to be negative for any reason, you say it to yourself but don't post it?

I promise to not roll my eyes at VPL food posts (sorry, VPL, couldn't resist). I promise to not think "snarky" when Doug is being witty (again, just couldn't resist). I promise to not let the praises to the rafters about the Morses get stuck in my craw and "force" me to say something. I promise that if I don't like the food or service in a restaurant, I will keep it to myself for 31 days. I promise to not let those poor, misguided conservative souls get under my skin.

I respect the gesture and the suggestion. However, that's been done before. It was called Liar Liar with Jim Carrey. It did not work in the movie nor will it work here.

Its one thing to be honest, quite another to be nasty. Beside which how does one take the negative out of something that is negative?

I believe people should speak their minds as it is more honest and if they are negative by others standards, that's on them ,not you or me and they have to live with themselves

If everyone followed your suggestions to the letter TOTV threads would all be shut down except for For Sale or Just For Fun and a few others.

Hope that is not too negative for some:D Just saying.............

[Carl in Tampa]

What if we were to make January a month of no negative posts? That is, if a newbie posts about something occurring, we thank them for the information instead of doubting their word? If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself?

I hate to shatter the general spirit of comity with which your suggestion has been received, but I doubt that I have the necessary reserve of personal restraint to prevent me from "correcting" someone who says something with which I disagree.

That may be, in part, because I don't think I express myself with negative thoughts, but rather attempt to be positive and uplifting with my reasoned arguments in correcting the misconceptions or errors in reasoning of others.

(You may note that I write very long sentences; the first one, above, is about 41 words long. I learned long ago that it is characteristic of someone who spends too long in administrative positions in the federal government to write excessively long sentences.)

(You may also note that there is a not-too-subtle undertone of arrogance in my assumption that my opinion will be the correct one. I can't blame that on government service; that's just me. Well, not really. I think of myself as the alternate persona of Underdog; you remember..... "humble and lovable Shoeshine Boy.")

Well, I guess I've dug a deep enough hole for myself. I'll go now, leaving you with the reminder that it's not January yet.

:jester:

[CFrance]

I respect the gesture and the suggestion. However, that's been done before. It was called Liar Liar with Jim Carrey. It did not work in the movie nor will it work here.

Its one thing to be honest, quite another to be nasty. Beside which how does one take the negative out of something that is negative?

I believe people should speak their minds as it is more honest and if they are negative by others standards, that's on them ,not you or me and they have to live with themselves

If everyone followed your suggestions to the letter TOTV threads would all be shut down except for For Sale or Just For Fun and a few others.

Hope that is not too negative for some:D Just saying.............

I have to agree with rubicon on this one , Dee. Two reasons: I don't want a "fluffy" forum; and I think we should all debate/speak our minds and let the moderator decide who the offenders are.

Much as I respect you, Dee, your post asking for the cessation of negative posts actually became a negative post with your examples of what you are thinking but won't say for a month!:22yikes:

[Carl in Tampa]

I have been here long enough to be positive the return of a certain form would bring back very negative posts and lots of them. No offense to those in favor, but it was closed for that very reason.

You missed my point, which was a joke.

I was not expressing a view regarding the restoration of a political forum.

I was indicating that a post opposing the restoration of a political forum was a negative posting since it opposed a suggestion that had been made by someone else.

(Indicating, perhaps, the impractical side of redwitch's suggestion.)

I think I'm understanding why some attempts at humor on TOTV fall flat.


:ohdear:

[Golfingnut]

You missed my point, which was a joke.

I was not expressing a view regarding the restoration of a political forum.

I was indicating that a post opposing the restoration of a political forum was a negative posting since it opposed a suggestion that had been made by someone else.

(Indicating, perhaps, the impractical side of redwitch's suggestion.)

I think I'm understanding why some attempts at humor on TOTV fall flat.


:ohdear:

I am slow, but got it now. This site sure gets busy on rainy days.

Have a good one Tampa.

[DonH57]

Thirty days huh?

[redwitch]

Thirty days huh?

Um, sorry, Don -- January has 31 days.

[redwitch]

And I agree there would be a lot more fluff but maybe, just, maybe, it can get us all to stop and think before we post and hurt another's feelings. There is no way possible that this forum can be all sunshine and lollipops (thank goodness!) -- bad things happen to us, our neighbors, our friends, our community. And I'm not asking that we ignore the bad things in our lives for even one minute, let alone a whole month, just that we stop with all the negativity; stop doubting every post that doesn't fit our conceptions of TV; basically, stop telling folks that something didn't happen just cause you didn't hear of it or the paper didn't mention it. Maybe a month of not putting down someone or something because they/it weren't perfect will get us in the habit of thinking before we post. Certainly can't hurt to try.

[billethkid]

i can't wait for January then at least there won't be a negative comment about the nature of a political forum:angel:

[SALYBOW]

I'M IN:girlneener:

[justjim]

I'm just like a grape---one of the bunch. Since its not January, I'm taking bets that it won't last 24 hours. Any takers?

[foodcritic]

What if we were to make January a month of no negative posts? That is, if a newbie posts about something occurring, we thank them for the information instead of doubting their word? If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself? If you get the urge to be snarky, you simply type your response but don't send it (deleting it later)? If you get the urge to be negative for any reason, you say it to yourself but don't post it?

I promise to not roll my eyes at VPL food posts (sorry, VPL, couldn't resist). I promise to not think "snarky" when Doug is being witty (again, just couldn't resist). I promise to not let the praises to the rafters about the Morses get stuck in my craw and "force" me to say something. I promise that if I don't like the food or service in a restaurant, I will keep it to myself for 31 days. I promise to not let those poor, misguided conservative souls get under my skin.

Got it. So when someone says I'm considering not moving to TV because the pesticides they spray will cause cancer, the answer should be ?

[asianthree]

And for those of us still north...WE LOVE THE SNOW< AND THE ICE<<<<AND SO GLAD WE ARE HERE..:cold:

[Missouri boy]

what a wonderful idea.

[skyguy79]

And for those of us still north...WE LOVE THE SNOW< AND THE ICE<<<<AND SO GLAD WE ARE HERE..:cold:I'm with you having loved the ice and snow. That's why they had to bound and gag me, and hide me in the moving van when we moved down here. At least I lost several pounds during the trip down! :1rotfl:

[DonH57]

Um, sorry, Don -- January has 31 days.

Yes. It does.:smiley:

[Carl in Tampa]

Um, sorry, Don -- January has 31 days.

Maybe he though New Year's Day was a Holiday and wouldn't count in the moratorium.

:smiley:

[BS Beef]

Count me in!!! But bare in mind I'm one of those just trying to get my post count up so I can be taken seriously :laugh:

That being said I think you have a better chance of kissing your own elbow. But here's to trying :beer3:

[Barefoot]

.... I don't want a "fluffy" forum; and I think we should all debate/speak our minds and let the moderator decide who the offenders are. Much as I respect you, Dee, your post asking for the cessation of negative posts actually became a negative post with your examples of what you are thinking but won't say for a month!

I just read all 42 posts on this thread, and I find myself agreeing with CFrance. I think everyone should speak their mind and let the Moderators decide who is offending. I often see posts deleted by the Moderators. I think they are doing a good job. They certainly take all complaints from members seriously.

At the same time, I do believe we members should assume all posts are factual, whether the writer has 1 post or 1000 posts. Unless it's something really trollish, like a 20 year old woman wondering if there are any sugar daddies available in The Villages.

[CFrance]

I just read all 42 posts on this thread, and I find myself agreeing with CFrance. I think everyone should speak their mind and let the Moderators decide who is offending. I often see posts deleted by the Moderators. I think they are doing a good job. They certainly take all complaints from members seriously.

At the same time, I do believe we members should assume all posts are factual, whether the writer has 1 post or 1000 posts. Unless it's something really trollish, like a 20 year old woman wondering if there are any sugar daddies available in The Villages.

:a20::a20: (Dang, that was me!)

[Carl in Tampa]

At the same time, I do believe we members should assume all posts are factual, whether the writer has 1 post or 1000 posts. Unless it's something really trollish, like a 20 year old woman wondering if there are any sugar daddies available in The Villages.

Uh......... the answer would be "yes."


:$:

[duffysmom]

I have to agree with rubicon on this one , Dee. Two reasons: I don't want a "fluffy" forum; and I think we should all debate/speak our minds and let the moderator decide who the offenders are.

Much as I respect you, Dee, your post asking for the cessation of negative posts actually became a negative post with your examples of what you are thinking but won't say for a month!:22yikes:

I just read all 42 posts on this thread, and I find myself agreeing with CFrance. I think everyone should speak their mind and let the Moderators decide who is offending. I often see posts deleted by the Moderators. I think they are doing a good job. They certainly take all complaints from members seriously.

At the same time, I do believe we members should assume all posts are factual, whether the writer has 1 post or 1000 posts. Unless it's something really trollish, like a 20 year old woman wondering if there are any sugar daddies available in The Villages.

Sometimes I dislike what people say and how they say it but I respect their right to say how they truly feel. I have the ability to take what I like and leave the rest.

[CFrance]

Sometimes I dislike what people say and how they say it but I respect their right to say how they truly feel. I have the ability to take what I like and leave the rest.

I wish they would put Like AND Dislike buttons on the forum. You could express your opinion without saying anything offensive.

[swimdawg]

I wish they would put Like AND Dislike buttons on the forum. You could express your opinion without saying anything offensive.

:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup: LIKE:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:

[Peachie]

I have to agree with rubicon on this one , Dee. Two reasons: I don't want a "fluffy" forum; and I think we should all debate/speak our minds and let the moderator decide who the offenders are.

Much as I respect you, Dee, your post asking for the cessation of negative posts actually became a negative post with your examples of what you are thinking but won't say for a month!:22yikes:

CFrance and Barefoot, I wholeheartedly agree with the two of you; I think muffling the voices of TOTV will turn this forum into "The Talk of the Milk Toast" forum. Honestly, how many people want to tune in for primarily to read "For Sale" ads and questions about good contractors in The Villages?

It may be reasonable to ask that newer posters receive some slack in the tone in which they are greeted but it's not unreasonable to request they offer more details when announcing major issues. Compromise in tone of discussion and detailed information seems possible.

There have been major discussions on this board, some in which I have participated. I believe many of us involved in different points of view have a lot to learn from each other. There may be small incidences of rancor but, I personally always continue to mentally reload the cases that have been made on this forum and rethink my own position.

I believe the viewpoints shared on this forum are very important to all of us even though they don't always mesh with my own. I don't have any malice toward the people with whom I have disagreed and realize we may not have much in common as close friends. Still I respect their right to voice their opinion and to offer us their validation for their opinion. We are all part of the human fabric in this world.

I'd hate to see this become a forum of little ole people primarily discussing the weather. Good evening to all of you. :censored:

[swimdawg]

CFrance and Barefoot, I wholeheartedly agree with the two of you; I think muffling the voices of TOTV will turn this forum into "The Talk of the Milk Toast" forum. Honestly, how many people want to tune in for primarily to read "For Sale" ads and questions about good contractors in The Villages?

It may be reasonable to ask that newer posters receive some slack in the tone in which they are greeted but it's not unreasonable to request they offer more details when announcing major issues. Compromise in tone of discussion and detailed information seems possible.

There have been major discussions on this board, some in which I have participated. I believe many of us involved in different points of view have a lot to learn from each other. There may be small incidences of rancor but, I personally always continue to reload the cases that have been made on this forum and rethink my own position.

I believe the viewpoints shared on this forum are very important to all of us even though they don't always mesh with my own. I don't have any malice toward the people with whom I have disagreed and realize we may not have much in common as close friends. Still I respect their right to voice their opinion and to offer us their validation for their opinion.

I'd hate to see this become a forum of little ole people primarily discussing the weather. Good evening to all of you. :censored:

:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup: LIKE:D:D:D

[Xavier]

i can't wait for January then at least there won't be a negative comment about the nature of a political forum:angel:

Uh, we haven't all agreed to play yet!

Xavier

[swimdawg]

Uh, we haven't all agreed to play yet!

Xavier

Hmmmm....tough call.
LIKE and DISLIKE

[eweissenbach]

Got it. So when someone says I'm considering not moving to TV because the pesticides they spray will cause cancer, the answer should be ?

The answer should be........

"I am positive that you are an idiot, and I mean that in the kindest possible way!"

[graciegirl]

The answer should be........

"I am positive that you are an idiot, and I mean that in the kindest possible way!"



Ed. You are the soul of diplomacy.

[angiefox10]

I'm not under the impression that anyone is saying you can't disagree with anyone. I think, and I could be wrong, the idea is to disagree with someone without calling names. Without stating that if you don't agree with me you are "childish" or "selfish".

Sometimes, if you disagree, can you just not comment? If you do, can you do it in a kind way?

Maybe something isn't to your taste? Do you really feel you have to state it every time?

If someone posts something.. There isn't anything wrong with asking for more information. But can you do it without calling them a liar? "I don't believe you" It's OK if you don't, but do you feel the need to say it every time. Is it always important to prove the other person wrong..... Well sure, the homes were broken into... but they didn't kick the door in on all of them.

I'm not trying to go after anyone in this post. I'm just saying, there isn't it possible to be nice without giving up your point of view?

[njbchbum]

CFrance and Barefoot, I wholeheartedly agree with the two of you; I think muffling the voices of TOTV will turn this forum into "The Talk of the Milk Toast" forum. Honestly, how many people want to tune in for primarily to read "For Sale" ads and questions about good contractors in The Villages?

It may be reasonable to ask that newer posters receive some slack in the tone in which they are greeted but it's not unreasonable to request they offer more details when announcing major issues. Compromise in tone of discussion and detailed information seems possible.

There have been major discussions on this board, some in which I have participated. I believe many of us involved in different points of view have a lot to learn from each other. There may be small incidences of rancor but, I personally always continue to mentally reload the cases that have been made on this forum and rethink my own position.

I believe the viewpoints shared on this forum are very important to all of us even though they don't always mesh with my own. I don't have any malice toward the people with whom I have disagreed and realize we may not have much in common as close friends. Still I respect their right to voice their opinion and to offer us their validation for their opinion. We are all part of the human fabric in this world.

I'd hate to see this become a forum of little ole people primarily discussing the weather. Good evening to all of you. :censored:

I wholeheartedly agree! Furthermore, asking me to refrain from speaking my mind/feelings is like asking me to remove my creche from the lawn at Christmas because it might offend a neighbor. I simply cannot give up some things because another might be offended...even if for a little while.

[graciegirl]

I wholeheartedly agree! Furthermore, asking me to refrain from speaking my mind/feelings is like asking me to remove my creche from the lawn at Christmas because it might offend a neighbor. I simply cannot give up some things because another might be offended...even if for a little while.



You are right. Some things just shouldn't be hushed.

[lightworker888]

If we consider the intent behind Redwitch's suggestion, I read it as a desire to somehow stop the apparent "negativity" that is felt by some of our community. That may be a personal perception, but it is nevertheless valid for those who feel this way. The request for more consideration and some thought before typing seems to me to be reasonable for any forum and shouldn't stop anyone from posting.

There are people who are harsher than others when conversing with others and their comments, as all comments do, tell us more about them than about what they are commenting on. It is good practice for us all to be able to hear another''s differing opinion and recognize that that is all it is...an opinion. Everyone has their own view of the world and it is not wrong, just different. No one has to find someone to support their view in order for it to be OK to have the view. The challenge is to not take comments personally. They are just another person's opinion and usually come from people who have no understanding about the other person's history or all the facts about the scenerio.

I'd like to support more kindness and consideration on the board, while encouraging all posters to post what is on their mind pertaining to any thread. As a senior community i would hope that we could all find it within ourselves to be civil with each other. We are all wanting more peace,I think, so maybe we can see it happen on this board, at least for a month!

Off my soapbox and to bed.....Night all

LW888

[elizabeth52]

I wish they would put Like AND Dislike buttons on the forum. You could express your opinion without saying anything offensive.If there were, I would "like" your post!

[Carl in Tampa]

I'm not under the impression that anyone is saying you can't disagree with anyone.

Well, yes, I think that is precisely what red witch was saying.

Quote: "If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself?"

I don't think she is going to get a consensus on this proposal.

But, who knows? It isn't January yet...........

:icon_wink:

[angiefox10]

Well, yes, I think that is precisely what red witch was saying.

Quote: "If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself?"

I don't think she is going to get a consensus on this proposal.

But, who knows? It isn't January yet...........

:icon_wink:


You may be right.... Thank you for your opinion... *smile*

[anarick]

Who are we kidding? People are going to say or write what they want when they want without any regard to how the reader feels. There are those that get their kicks in belittling others and this forum is their hunting ground. All forums are open and their is no filter to prevent the hunters from attacking. If we stop voicing our true opinions the hunters win. We should continue writing and expressing ourselves as we see fit.
H.G. Wells once wrote quote I write as straight as I can, just as I walk as straight as I can, because that is the best way to get there unquote.
Keep stroking

[redwitch]

I think Angie "got" what I meant and I think several others did as well. You can disagree with someone without getting nasty about it. You don't have to call someone a name or be so sarcastic that you may as well have called the person a fool or an idiot. You certainly don't have to call someone a liar (or imply they are) when they say something has happened (at least not until you have personally checked for facts and found the person to in fact be a liar and a troll).

I'm simply asking for a month of being respectful to each other, to not doubt everything said by a newbie, to correct something misspoken nicely, to not whine when something is not perfect, to agree to disagree without namecalling. Basically, just be nice for 31 days. Whether anyone else does it or not, I know I am going to try.

[eweissenbach]

I think Angie "got" what I meant and I think several others did as well. You can disagree with someone without getting nasty about it. You don't have to call someone a name or be so sarcastic that you may as well have called the person a fool or an idiot. You certainly don't have to call someone a liar (or imply they are) when they say something has happened (at least not until you have personally checked for facts and found the person to in fact be a liar and a troll).

I'm simply asking for a month of being respectful to each other, to not doubt everything said by a newbie, to correct something misspoken nicely, to not whine when something is not perfect, to agree to disagree without namecalling. Basically, just be nice for 31 days. Whether anyone else does it or not, I know I am going to try.

I agree Red. Disagreement need not be disagreeable, dissent need not be personal, differences of opinion need not be contentious. We can all use a little work on diplomacy in posting. Maybe thinking about how we frame our replies for a month would lead to better long-term understanding.

[CFrance]

The answer should be........

"I am positive that you are an idiot, and I mean that in the kindest possible way!"

Okay, make that three buttons... "Like," "Dislike," and "That Was Hysterical."

[njbchbum]

Bless you, redwitch! Your heart sure is in the right place! But we are a community of opinions and some express themselves with forthrightness and honesty and are quite blunt in doing so...while others here cannot accept forthrightness, honesty and someone being blunt. It will be interesting to see how this social experiment turns out...and how many posts are deleted by the mods and how many complaints are still made to the administrator.

[asianthree]

i think saying what we feel about the post is great, but to bash another poster if more what red is looking for...and there seems to more than usual..but just my thoughts

[CarolSells]

Well, not to hijack the thread but I vote that the moderator not be allowed to delete inappropriate posts and responses until I personally have had a chance to to read, review, and gasp! I hate it when I leave you kids alone for a little while, a cat fight ensues, and all that's left is deleted lines. Sheesh!

[George Bieniaszek]

Truly an excellent post!! Maybe that would be a great New Year's Resolution for those searching for the perfect resolution!!

Who knows, maybe positive thoughts and posts may catch on and continue thru February as well!!!

[Abby10]

Since I was the one who initiated the pesticide concern that FOODCRITIC references in post #36, I feel compelled to weigh in here. Even though I would be considered a "newbie" as far as posting, I have been lurking on this site for so many years that I actually feel I "know" many of you, if that makes any sense. By being allowed to express yourself in a back and forth dialogue on this forum enables us to get to know the personalities of one another. If all we were allowed to do was to respond as "yes" men/women, so to speak, and not be allowed to disagree about something, it would not enable us to get to "know" one another very well. Personally, I would have been very disappointed to have had only agreeable posts on my pesticide question (there probably would have been NO posts - HA!) I really wanted honest feedback both ways, since education and thought provoking conversation was what I desired. And although it could have been a very inflammatory post, I feel that most of the responses were caring and informational, with a few welcomes to come on down and join you all, despite the post. I do understand REDWITCH'S concern in regards to HOW sometimes people express themselves, be it condescending or downright hurtful sometimes, but if there was really someone who ALWAYS rubbed me the wrong way or upset me too much to read their posts, I would just use the delete/hide option so I never see their posts. Personally, it would take a lot for me to do that though as I like differing opinions - IMHO, that's how you learn and grow.

[shcisamax]

I really wanted honest feedback both ways, since education and thought provoking conversation was what I desired.

We all look for honest feedback. I think what Redwitch is saying is there is no reason for derogatory or hurtful language.

[Abby10]

Totally agree, shcisamax.......derogatory or hurtful language adds absolutely nothing to a good conversation.

[CFrance]

Since I was the one who initiated the pesticide concern that FOODCRITIC references in post #36, I feel compelled to weigh in here. Even though I would be considered a "newbie" as far as posting, I have been lurking on this site for so many years that I actually feel I "know" many of you, if that makes any sense. By being allowed to express yourself in a back and forth dialogue on this forum enables us to get to know the personalities of one another. If all we were allowed to do was to respond as "yes" men/women, so to speak, and not be allowed to disagree about something, it would not enable us to get to "know" one another very well. Personally, I would have been very disappointed to have had only agreeable posts on my pesticide question (there probably would have been NO posts - HA!) I really wanted honest feedback both ways, since education and thought provoking conversation was what I desired. And although it could have been a very inflammatory post, I feel that most of the responses were caring and informational, with a few welcomes to come on down and join you all, despite the post. I do understand REDWITCH'S concern in regards to HOW sometimes people express themselves, be it condescending or downright hurtful sometimes, but if there was really someone who ALWAYS rubbed me the wrong way or upset me too much to read their posts, I would just use the delete/hide option so I never see their posts. Personally, it would take a lot for me to do that though as I like differing opinions - IMHO, that's how you learn and grow.

Good thoughts, Abby10. The moderator will take care of the truly offensive posters, and if some others are a little "edgy," that's what makes it interesting to me. If everyone just passed, rather than express disagreement (even strongly) with a poster, we wouldn't get anywhere, and the forum would become boring.

I appreciate Redwitch's sentiment, but I feel that most of the posters are polite and/or humorous. They're not going to change and become mean. Most of the posters are not going to accuse others of being liars. And as for the negative/sarcastic/mean posters? They're not going to change anyway! Let the Mod have at them.

[njbchbum]

We all look for honest feedback.
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That is true, shcisamax - but - what some people post as their 'honest' feelings/opinion...others interpret as harsh, mean, cruel and then file a complaint with the site admin. Is the former a brute; is the latter overly sensitive? Sometimes there is no way to determine if what we post is going to hit someome the wrong way.

[Barefoot]

Well, not to hijack the thread but I vote that the moderator not be allowed to delete inappropriate posts and responses until I personally have had a chance to to read, review, and gasp! I hate it when I leave you kids alone for a little while, a cat fight ensues, and all that's left is deleted lines. Sheesh!

When I leave for a while and come back to see ten deleted posts, it always makes me wonder what has been going on, and who's been sent to the principal's office.

[swimdawg]

Okay, make that three buttons... "Like," "Dislike," and "That Was Hysterical."

"TWH" button is when I chime in with the Swimdawg Post of the Day Award. (Always feel free to let me know who should get the coveted???award). The pressure to give the award is so heavy.....just like the Oscars.

We have the serious posts....the fluff posts and now we have "That Was Hysterical" posts. Love love love it! :D:D:D

[shcisamax]

That is true, shcisamax - but - what some people post as their 'honest' feelings/opinion...others interpret as harsh, mean, cruel and then file a complaint with the site admin. .

Maybe if people just think of themselves on the forum as being at a friend's home for a party and speak accordingly, there would be a manner of speaking that would not be offensive.

BTW: njbchbum...I will take the red off your hands.

[graciegirl]

Maybe if people just think of themselves on the forum as being at a friend's home for a party and speak accordingly, there would be a manner of speaking that would not be offensive.

BTW: njbchbum...I will take the red off your hands.


Sometimes how people couch a phrase is very regional and different. There are all kinds of opportunities for people to be misunderstood, but most of us can read intent.


There are many honest and reasonable people who have heard something from someone that they accept as valid but it is not. That is the reason there is Snopes.


An open dialogue and sincere people seeking the truth is one of the benefits of this forum in my opinion. I think it DOES matter if there are two, or there are ten break ins. One is far worse than the other. How to protect yourself from a break in is the same and those kinds of things are helpful and should be shared.


I did call the Sumter County Sheriffs department and I now know how many break ins have occurred recently.


You all can call them too if you want to know.

[billethkid]

people will always be different when face to face...it is just human nature.

Some of the bold and at times offensive are that way only because they have anonymity to shield them.

We must also keep in mind no two people see/hear/interpret very much the same way. Especially in absence and written expression.

Just think of the variety of interpretations from any sized group about the temperature in a room. Too cold? Too warm? A draft? Hurts my lumbago? Open the door? Close the door? Turn on the fan? Turn off the fan?
Words from a key board are no different.

[shcisamax]

Sometimes how people couch a phrase is very regional and different. There are all kinds of opportunities for people to be misunderstood, but most of us can read intent.



Isn't "intent" the magic word...

[eweissenbach]

people will always be different when face to face...it is just human nature.

Some of the bold and at times offensive are that way only because they have anonymity to shield them.

We must also keep in mind no two people see/hear/interpret very much the same way. Especially in absence and written expression.

Just think of the variety of interpretations from any sized group about the temperature in a room. Too cold? Too warm? A draft? Hurts my lumbago? Open the door? Close the door? Turn on the fan? Turn off the fan?
Words from a key board are no different.

BTK is correct, of course. The written word can be interpreted in many ways due to lack of context, lack of emphasis or expression, and the writer's attempt to be concise, and therefore leave out the context. I have never forgotten Zig Ziglar using the example of how words can change meaning due to emphasis. He used what seems like a straightforward expression - "I didn't say I beat my wife" If the emphasis is on the "I" it indicates that someone else may have said it, but not me. If the emphasis is on the "didn't", it is an emphatic denial. If the emphasis is on the "say" it implies I may have inferred it, but I didn't SAY it. If the emphasis is on the second "I", it implies someone else may have beaten her, but not me. If the emphasis is of the "beat", it implies the I may have smacked her, but I certainly didn't BEAT her. If the emphasis is on the "my", it implies I beat someone elses wife, but not mine. And if the emphasis is on "wife", It implies I may have beaten someone, but not my WIFE. Silly example perhaps, but it makes the point that the written word can be interpreted in many ways.

[2BNTV]

In a perfect world, the following is to be used for 365 day per year, except in a leap year of 366.
1. We can all, agree to disagree respectfully.
2. People tend to write, as they talk to someone.
3. We all come from various backgrounds and educational levels.
4. The written word leaves something to be desired, in terms of intent.
5. How you say something, may be more important than the words themselves.
6. Thinking how a post, would affect another poster in general, is a good thing, before hitting the submit button.
7. Pause and think, if what you wrote, makes sense, and is clearly written.
8. Never type a post, when hurried.
9. Never type a post, when your upset.
10. Letting some posts, roll off you back, is the best way to handle being upset.

I never let anyone rent space in my head.

People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care.

[eweissenbach]

In a perfect world, the following is to be used for 365 day per year, except in a leap year of 366.
1. We can all, agree to disagree respectfully.
2. People tend to write, as they talk to someone.
3. We all come from various backgrounds and educational levels.
4. The written word leaves something to be desired, in terms of intent.
5. How you say something, may be more important than the words themselves.
6. Thinking how a post, would affect another poster in general, is a good thing, before hitting the submit button.
7. Pause and think, if what you wrote, makes sense, and is clearly written.
8. Never type a post, when hurried.
9. Never type a post, when your upset.
10. Letting some posts, roll off you back, is the best way to handle being upset.

I never let anyone rent space in my head.

People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care.

Pretty sound advice Joe:BigApplause:

[DougB]

In a perfect world, the following is to be used for 365 day per year, except in a leap year of 366.
1. We can all, agree to disagree respectfully.
2. People tend to write, as they talk to someone.
3. We all come from various backgrounds and educational levels.
4. The written word leaves something to be desired, in terms of intent.
5. How you say something, may be more important than the words themselves.
6. Thinking how a post, would affect another poster in general, is a good thing, before hitting the submit button.
7. Pause and think, if what you wrote, makes sense, and is clearly written.
8. Never type a post, when hurried.
9. Never type a post, when your upset.
10. Letting some posts, roll off you back, is the best way to handle being upset.

I never let anyone rent space in my head.

People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you
care.

What about #11, never post when you are drunk or stoned?

[Cedwards38]

It's a deal. I'm in. But I need clarification. Are negative posts those that criticize other posters on the site, or do they include anything less than sunshine and flowers? For example, is it negative to say,"I hate it when it rains," or "That dog poop sure messes up my yard," or "There sure is a lot of speeding on Morse Boulevard." I can live with the rules, but I want to make sure I understand them.

[graciegirl]

It's a deal. I'm in. But I need clarification. Are negative posts those that criticize other posters on the site, or do they include anything less than sunshine and flowers? For example, is it negative to say,"I hate it when it rains," or "That dog poop sure messes up my yard," or "There sure is a lot of speeding on Morse Boulevard." I can live with the rules, but I want to make sure I understand them.



YOU are ALWAYS reasonable.

[graciegirl]

What about #11, never post when you are drunk or stoned?



I know that was for a laugh Dougbee, but sometimes you can see the difference on here as the evening progresses..


There is NOTHING worse than a reformed anything. (That would be me);)

[redwitch]

I think everyone needs to have their own guidelines -- mine are no sarcasm; no whiney complaints (so, not gonna complain about poor service in a restaurant but would definitely post if I saw bugs in one); no namecalling (even in my mind); definitely NO criticizing another post. Just 31 days of being civil, thinking about the tone of a post/reply, waiting to hit enter if there is a doubt.

[Golfingnut]

I think everyone needs to have their own guidelines -- mine are no sarcasm; no whiney complaints (so, not gonna complain about poor service in a restaurant but would definitely post if I saw bugs in one); no namecalling (even in my mind); definitely NO criticizing another post. Just 31 days of being civil, thinking about the tone of a post/reply, waiting to hit enter if there is a doubt.

If we could eliminate sarcasm I would be a very happy camper.:MOJE_whot:
:clap2:
:thumbup:

[billethkid]

and then we have the reality of
intent VS perception and/or interpretation

all variable according to each individual reader affected by environment, attitude, time of day, how many beers, how many visitors, a full moon, etc, etc.

[CFrance]

What about #11, never post when you are drunk or stoned?

You are so, so bad! :1rotfl::D

[Golfingnut]

As a matter of fact, I am already happy. More and more we get closer to civil communication.

[CFrance]

I think everyone needs to have their own guidelines -- mine are no sarcasm; no whiney complaints (so, not gonna complain about poor service in a restaurant but would definitely post if I saw bugs in one); no namecalling (even in my mind); definitely NO criticizing another post. Just 31 days of being civil, thinking about the tone of a post/reply, waiting to hit enter if there is a doubt.

Your clarification is good. I still say those posters who engage in sarcasm, whiney complaints, and poor service are in the minority. Maybe they will knock it off for a month.

[njbchbum]

Your clarification is good. I still say those posters who engage in sarcasm, whiney complaints, and poor service are in the minority. Maybe they will knock it off for a month.

I hope that they continue to post - allows me to be wary if/when I need to go to one of those places AND the oppty to reply that I experienced same or better than the other poster - for the benefit of others down the line. As a career human resources professional, I was often called upon to resolve 'problems' - usually by transfer or separation from the dept or the office altogether.

[Barefoot]

"Am thinking about opening a gym called 'Resolutions'...it will have exercise equipment there for two weeks...and it will then turn into a bar for the rest of the year!"

NJ BB, you are too funny! :1rotfl: Where do I buy my membership?

[skyguy79]

Am thinking about opening a gym called 'Resolutions'...it will have exercise equipment there for two weeks...and it will then turn into a bar for the rest of the year! Having caught this signature, my thought is that it could well be a good nomination of a "Swimdawg Signature Award of the Week!" How about it swimdawg? :clap2:

[billethkid]

Your clarification is good. I still say those posters who engage in sarcasm, whiney complaints, and poor service are in the minority. Maybe they will knock it off for a month.

Once again the 2% command so much attention. And their behavior is used to taint the good behavior of the other 98%.

Makes no sense (not intended as a negative comment jst a predicament of fact).

[DonH57]

What about #11, never post when you are drunk or stoned?

Oooh. No? You're not supposed to do that?

[The Great Fumar]

After reading several posts I really think its a good idea to try it for a month and see how it goes because something has to be done about all the negativity I have read recently ......
I had a friend who used to read all the negative comments and was getting to the point of seriously wanting to jump off the old sales center in Spanish Springs , the only reason he didn't was because he was afraid of heights, so he then contemplated throwing himself in front of street legal golf cart but he tried it at a roundabout and they all missed him a mile because no one could figure out where or when to exit .....Finally he decided to move to Stone Crest and was never heard from again...

I miss him , by about 8 feet actually, as I couldn't figure out where to exit either......
Right Turn Fumar.......:duck:

[angiefox10]

After reading several posts I really think its a good idea to try it for a month and see how it goes because something has to be done about all the negativity I have read recently ......
I had a friend who used to read all the negative comments and was getting to the point of seriously wanting to jump off the old sales center in Spanish Springs , the only reason he didn't was because he was afraid of heights, so he then contemplated throwing himself in front of street legal golf cart but he tried it at a roundabout and they all missed him a mile because no one could figure out where or when to exit .....Finally he decided to move to Stone Crest and was never heard from again...

I miss him , by about 8 feet actually, as I couldn't figure out where to exit either......
Right Turn Fumar.......:duck:

How I have missed your posts!

[redwitch]

Welcome back, Fumar. Now don't leave us for so long ever again!

[nitehawk]

i guess I will see everyone in FEB

[swimdawg]

After reading several posts I really think its a good idea to try it for a month and see how it goes because something has to be done about all the negativity I have read recently ......
I had a friend who used to read all the negative comments and was getting to the point of seriously wanting to jump off the old sales center in Spanish Springs , the only reason he didn't was because he was afraid of heights, so he then contemplated throwing himself in front of street legal golf cart but he tried it at a roundabout and they all missed him a mile because no one could figure out where or when to exit .....Finally he decided to move to Stone Crest and was never heard from again...

I miss him , by about 8 feet actually, as I couldn't figure out where to exit either......
Right Turn Fumar.......:duck:

Oh yes! You win it, Fumar! You get the Swimdawg Post of the Day Award! :eclipsee_gold_cup:

Are we back? I missed the FUN of TOTV. :D. You were part of that FUN. :doggie::doggie::doggie:

Congrats on getting the coveted???award! :icon_wink:

[graciegirl]

After reading several posts I really think its a good idea to try it for a month and see how it goes because something has to be done about all the negativity I have read recently ......
I had a friend who used to read all the negative comments and was getting to the point of seriously wanting to jump off the old sales center in Spanish Springs , the only reason he didn't was because he was afraid of heights, so he then contemplated throwing himself in front of street legal golf cart but he tried it at a roundabout and they all missed him a mile because no one could figure out where or when to exit .....Finally he decided to move to Stone Crest and was never heard from again...

I miss him , by about 8 feet actually, as I couldn't figure out where to exit either......
Right Turn Fumar.......:duck:




You ain't right Fumar.

[KathieI]

Can I chime in here??? I think Red has an absolutely great idea. I don't think it should be hard to accomplish. Can you imagine, all this conversation just to ask for some reasonable respect on this forum? I'm in!!

Good idea Dee, Happy New Year to everyone and I'm following the new rules.
http://www.millan.net/anims/gifs/smileyhug.gif (http://www.millan.net)

[The Great Fumar]

Oh yes! You win it, Fumar! You get the Swimdawg Post of the Day Award! :eclipsee_gold_cup:

Are we back? I missed the FUN of TOTV. :D. You were part of that FUN. :doggie::doggie::doggie:

Congrats on getting the coveted???award! :icon_wink:

I thank you for the coveted SWIM**** award ....I have been trying to win this award for several years to no avail.....Now that the competition is down to Gracie and Redwitch its going to be much easier , Now that I realize all it takes is 37000 posts with no interesting commentary it'll be a chinch...

a proud fumar............chilout

[graciegirl]

I thank you for the coveted SWIM**** award ....I have been trying to win this award for several years to no avail.....Now that the competition is down to Gracie and Redwitch its going to be much easier , Now that I realize all it takes is 37000 posts with no interesting commentary it'll be a chinch...

a proud fumar............chilout




YOU are asking for it buddy.

[CFrance]

YOU are asking for it buddy.

How good is Fumar at ducking water pistols?

[graciegirl]

How good is Fumar at ducking water pistols?



hee hee hee.(evil laugh)


Just kidding Fume.

[kittygilchrist]

You know me by now, girls...I never bring a water pistol to a pressure washer fight.

RE the OP, if Redwitch can hold her tongue for a month, I can too. But I'm going to be dogging her every word.

[Barefoot]

.... no whiney complaints (so, not gonna complain about poor service in a restaurant but would definitely post if I saw bugs in one)

But, what if bugs are on the menu? :icon_hungry:


RE the OP, if Redwitch can hold her tongue for a month, I can too. But I'm going to be dogging her every word.

Everyone will be watching everyone else. I bet the most used phrase in January will be "I thought we were having a moratorium". ;)

[CFrance]

Only 8 hours 22 minutes till kickoff of BNOF (Be Nice On Forum) Get your licks in now!!!

[kittygilchrist]

I am having second thoughts here. What if people need to be smacked who aren't BNOF?
Could we just appoint a Designated Smacker?

[redwitch]

I am having second thoughts here. What if people need to be smacked who aren't BNOF?
Could we just appoint a Designated Smacker?

We can leave Gracie a nice, big water gun -- she's good at putting people in their place in a truly nice way.

[skyguy79]

Only 8 hours 22 minutes till kickoff of BNOF (Be Nice On Forum) Get your licks in now!!!HEY! I don't appreciate your taking blackmail pictures of us using your avatar! :rant-rave:

There ya go... feeling much better now that I got my licks in. Thanks for the invite! :highfive:

[graciegirl]

HEY! I don't appreciate your taking blackmail pictures of us using your avatar! :rant-rave:

There ya go... feeling much better now that I got my licks in. Thanks for the invite! :highfive:



Oh! Those naked pool pictures of you two? At least the cats had bathing suits on. ;)

[skyguy79]

Oh! Those naked pool pictures of you two? At least the cats had bathing suits on. ;)Say What? You wouldn't want to put TOTV at risk of being shut down permanently and us kicked out The Villages... forever banned... would you? Would you?

http://imalbum.aufeminin.com/album/D20060114/158803_QZXHVX7WAUGG51PJEYAY1JFFB6GJLO_animaux_050_ H002126_L.jpg

[graciegirl]

Say What? You wouldn't want to put TOTV at risk of being shut down permanently and us kicked out The Villages... forever banned... would you? Would you?

http://imalbum.aufeminin.com/album/D20060114/158803_QZXHVX7WAUGG51PJEYAY1JFFB6GJLO_animaux_050_ H002126_L.jpg


ONLY YOU, Joe, would come up with a picture like this. Happy New Year to you and Eileeny.

[redwitch]

As someone I know would say, Joe, you ain't right!

[skyguy79]

ONLY YOU, Joe, would come up with a picture like this. Happy New Year to you and Eileeny.Psssst... I think redwitch may be talking about you below! Happy New Year back to you, redwitch and everyone else. :D

As someone I know would say, Joe, you ain't right!Careful there redwitch... them's fighting words! And quite frankly... I don't wanna get hurt! http://fc08.deviantart.net/fs70/f/2010/170/b/0/Seeing_Stars___Smiley_by_Mirz123.gif

[CFrance]

HEY! I don't appreciate your taking blackmail pictures of us using your avatar! :rant-rave:

There ya go... feeling much better now that I got my licks in. Thanks for the invite! :highfive:

What about Cisco's eyeball? Who knows what that's recording!

[skyguy79]

What about Cisco's eyeball? Who knows what that's recording!I think we're safe for tonight. He dropped his eyeball in his highball a little while ago and now he'll have to wait about 24 hours or so for it to pass before he can retrieve it. Besides, your lick was by invitation.
Maybe he'll invite you to lick him like you invited me... or... you just might get licked by him first! http://img.photobucket.com/albums/1003/liquiofire/Ess/lick.gif http://startrekguide.com/community/images/smilies/scared.gif

[CFrance]

Happy New Year, Skyguy! Only an hour and a half left.

[Bonanza]

A wonderful message and an even greater plan.
Alas!
Can we make it happen??!?

[kittygilchrist]

Good morning lalaland! I feel happy and I love everybody.

[CFrance]

Good morning lalaland! I feel happy and I love everybody.

You can always be counted upon to come up with something unique!:1rotfl::1rotfl::1rotfl:

[billethkid]

everything looks good.....so far.

Happy new year!

Tick-tock.

[Barefoot]

Good morning lalaland! I feel happy and I love everybody.

Not only is it a marvelous day today, but I'm really looking forward to the temperature dipping to 53 degrees on Friday! Like Kitty, I also feel happy and I love everybody.

Well, I'm not quite sure about Cisco's eyeball.

[Parker]

If we could eliminate sarcasm I would be a very happy camper.:MOJE_whot:
:clap2:
:thumbup:

That won't work, as we'd have to eliminate DougB. THAT could never be allowed to happen.

[graciegirl]

Doug Bee, he is witty, disarming and musically talented.


Wait. We aren't supposed to talk about people, right?

[DougB]

Please go on, Parker and Gracie!

[skyguy79]

Doug Bee, he is witty, disarming and musically talented.


Wait. We aren't supposed to talk about people, right?You wuzn't talkn' bout no people Gracie, you wuz talkn' bout a Bee, wuzn't you??? http://forums.voiceofthepublic.com/smf2/Smileys/default/bee.gif

p.s. I know... you don't need to tell me... I ain't right! :loco:

[DougB]

Not only is it a marvelous day today, but I'm really looking forward to the temperature dipping to 53 degrees on Friday! Like Kitty, I also feel happy and I love everybody.

Can we get a group hug?

[skyguy79]

Can we get a group hug?
AWE....!

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_h8gACqwheQk/TMtDz1tEQEI/AAAAAAAAARM/JujXvjfVlkM/s1600/group+hug.jpg

[billethkid]

I vote the group hug character above be the mascot for the month of January challenge.

[CFrance]

I believe the month of January challenge has already been broken in another thread.

[jebartle]

Say it isn't so!:D:D


I believe the month of January challenge has already been broken in another thread.

[CFrance]

Sad.

[DougB]

I believe the month of January challenge has already been broken in another thread.

Well, we always have February.

[CFrance]

Well, we always have February.

And that's a shorter month.

[DougB]

I believe the month of January challenge has already been broken in another thread.

At least it wasn't me. I'm still sleeping off last night.

[CFrance]

At least it wasn't me. I'm still sleeping off last night.

No, you have a pass. See posts 129 & 130.

[asianthree]

Other threads seem to be calm and everybody is being very nice day 1 almost done

[Golfingnut]

This is nice. Sometimes a moment of silence provides the best from all of us.

[Barefoot]

This is nice. Sometimes a moment of silence provides the best from all of us.

A spate of deleted posts on Jan. 2 :evil6:. Then all is quiet again.

Some threads have veered a little off track, but everyone on the Moratorium thread is watching their Ps and Qs. For now ..... :popcorn:

[billethkid]

I just got educated about what an orphan post is!

[DougB]

There have been many times in 2013, when I have annoyed you, distubed you, irritated you, and bugged the hell out of you....today I just wanna tell you I plan to continue in 2014!

[CFrance]

I just got educated about what an orphan post is!

You and me too! I was quoting someone you quoted, whose post had been removed, and got a polite message about orphan posts.

[CFrance]

There have been many times in 2013, when I have annoyed you, distubed you, irritated you, and bugged the hell out of you....today I just wanna tell you I plan to continue in 2014!

Not so, you have never distubed me.:a040::a040:

[redwitch]

There have been many times in 2013, when I have annoyed you, distubed you, irritated you, and bugged the hell out of you....today I just wanna tell you I plan to continue in 2014!

Just keep up the good work (but no snarkiness for another 27 days).

[CFrance]

Just keep up the good work (but no snarkiness for another 27 days).

Yes, ma'am.:bigbow:

[OurHappyHome]

I think that should be a good rule of thumb for life not only here on TOTV.

[dotti105]

BRILLIANT IDEA!!!

I used to love the forums with all the enthusiastic and friendly posts. Not so much more recently.

I don't know if it has to do with the build out of inventory homes and no more custom builds. But that seems to have been the timing.

We close Feb 12 and are so very excited!!! We hope to come to a community of inclusion and friendliness. We have felt that the majority of residents match that description. It only takes a few bad apples and the overall tone changes!

Lets get 2014 off on the right foot and restore the welcoming, inclusive nature of the forums!!!

Hurray!

[Baileysmom]

There have been many times in 2013, when I have annoyed you, distubed you, irritated you, and bugged the hell out of you....today I just wanna tell you I plan to continue in 2014!

Oh good Doug. I am counting on you to keep up the great work on the board. Never a dull moment with you and I so enjoy it. :):bigbow::bigbow: