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05-25-2021 08:41 AM |
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Originally Posted by graciegirl
(Post 1950343)
No one ever talks about animal instinct when it comes to these matters, but I believe it plays into them and often is the reason for the emotion and the rejection and even the feelings sometimes of abhorrence...which is really too strong a word and will cause criticism. Most of us are wired to feel sexual attraction on some level to the opposite sex. That is how our species is preserved and that is very, very, very, strong. The opposite is often true and we may feel repugnance when the same sex presents in a way that is not feeling or acting like our instincts feel or act or respond. Sometimes these things have a great deal less to do with our brains than they do with our hormones and our deeply wired instincts. I think this is truer with males and I don't know why. I have never thought, felt or reacted like a male. I think that if a woman approached me sexually I would have negative feelings toward her. That also would have something to do with other issues that have been taught as well in our lives and our experiences. It would not FEEL comfortable.
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Gracie, this has *nothing* to do with sexual attraction.
This isn't about being gay, lesbian, bisexual. Zilch.
It has to do with gender identity. Being comfortable in your own skin, in your own body. There are transgender women who are lesbians, and transgender women who are hetero. There are also transgender women who are asexual - meaning, they aren't interested in sex at all, with anyone. They are women, because their emotions, thought-processes, mentality, how they perceive themselves, is that of a female not a male. Their biology doesn't match EVERYTHING ELSE about them. And so rather than change WHO they are inside, to match WHAT they are outside, they change the WHAT so they can remain the WHO.
It's very strange to me, and it makes me uncomfortable to consider that anyone would be that way, or have surgery to change their biology. But I'm not their judge, it's not my place to tell them they're wrong. They know how they feel, and they're the ones who have to live in their skin. Just like some folks get botox and belly tucks and face-lifts and brazillian butt-lifts and cheek implants and dentures when they get older because they want to deny or defy aging and look as young as they feel.
Some people do the same thing with their sexual organs to match how they feel.
It's weird to me, but I accept it.
Sad that so many people are horrified by the concept that they can't accept that someone ELSE needs to present themselves in the way they feel, just because it doesn't fit with what THEY think that person should be. It's not up to anyone else to determine whether John needs to be Jane. It's up to John.
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