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Old 06-25-2019, 04:34 PM
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ladies only ............. Several times lately, especially when I am in Aldi's, I have found men (old men) pushing too far into my personal space. This morning I had a really annoying encounter with a nasty looking old man who got behind me in the check out line. I was oblivious to him. I always unload my cart from the front onto the belt because my arms are not long enough to unload from the push area!!!! I positioned myself at the Cashier's station and proceeded to unload my cart onto the belt, those cashiers are great and my items were disappearing fast into her basket at her end. Suddenly this elderly man started to push his cart into mine, I looked up in surprise and he used his hands in a way to shoo me along. He had plenty of room to unload his cart onto the belt, but for some reason completely unknown to me he wanted me to move further down through the check out area.

This morning was not the morning ..... I looked him right in the eye and said in a very load voice "What". He buckled immediately and started to shush me. To which I said "What is your problem" and continued to finish my purchase. He could not get out of the store fast enough.

I have to add to this .......... I have NEVER been harassed or bothered by a woman while waiting in line to check out. I have, in fact, met the nicest and funniest ladies in the check out line. On the other hand, how many times have I had a man make it known by deep sighing and being a pain in the butt, that they are late for something or other and don't want to wait in a line. I guess it's a guy thing ....................



Ladies, why do some of these men think they can MOVE us out of their way, or SHOVE us out of their way? Is this how they treat their wives?

OK, that is my rant, it has been simmering all day and thank goodness for TOTV so that I can let it out. By the way, I have a great husband who would never treat a woman in such a way!
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Good for you, Madeleine. Take the bully down!
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Old 06-25-2019, 04:48 PM
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Sorry that happened to you. I wonder what he would have done if you looked him straight in the eyes and said: “Excuse me, I need more space. Please move back,” in your best teacher’s voice.
People tend to live up to your expectations I find. Some people need direct instructions. I have met pushy women too, by the way, it’s not just the guys.

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Pushy women get into my space from time to time. A few are welcome to do so but most are not.
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Pushy women get into my space from time to time. A few are welcome to do so but most are not.
Sorry .......... no men allowed on the Feminine Forum
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I've experienced this from men and women. And as a cashier, I've observed it happen TO both men and women, BY both men and women. What I have also observed, is that it's common for a woman to get "too close" to another woman, and the woman they got too close to, apologizes. I don't know why they do that.

But if someone bumps into you, don't apologize for being in their way. It's a very strange thing I've observed, and I have never seen a man apologize for someone else bumping into them. Only women.
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I've had both women and men do this to me. It's disconcerting to say the least. The other day I felt a cart hit me from behind...I couldn't unload just yet due to the person ahead of me. Then I sensed something and this woman pushed past me saying "I need to get some mints". Like, what? Couldn't she have waited til she had easier access? I was taken aback by this. Next time...I may have to say something like "excuse me...is there not enough room here?" Or something along those lines. NOT sure what's up with people.......
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[QUOTE=Madelaine Amee;1660195]ladies only ............. Several times lately, especially when I am in Aldi's, I have found men (old men) pushing too far into my personal space. This morning I had a really annoying encounter with a nasty looking old man who got behind me in the check out line. I was oblivious to him. I always unload my cart from the front onto the belt because my arms are not long enough to unload from the push area!!!! I positioned myself at the Cashier's station and proceeded to unload my cart onto the belt, those cashiers are great and my items were disappearing fast into her basket at her end. Suddenly this elderly man started to push his cart into mine, I looked up in surprise and he used his hands in a way to shoo me along. He had plenty of room to unload his cart onto the belt, but for some reason completely unknown to me he wanted me to move further down through the check out area.

This morning was not the morning ..... I looked him right in the eye and said in a very load voice "What". He buckled immediately and started to shush me. To which I said "What is your problem" and continued to finish my purchase. He could not get out of the store fast enough.

I have to add to this .......... I have NEVER been harassed or bothered by a woman while waiting in line to check out. I have, in fact, met the nicest and funniest ladies in the check out line. On the other hand, how many times have I had a man make it known by deep sighing and being a pain in the butt, that they are late for something or other and don't want to wait in a line. I guess it's a guy thing ....................



Ladies, why do some of these men think they can MOVE us out of their way, or SHOVE us out of their way? Is this how they treat their wives?

OK, that is my rant, it has been simmering all day and thank goodness for TOTV so that I can let it out. By the way, I have a great husband who would never treat a woman in such a way![

Glad you vented. I completely agree - men do this but women don't, or rarely do it. It has happened to me. The only conclusion I can come to is that they are completely unaware (idiots!). ]
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Something similar has happened to me, a guy pushed his grocery cart into my ankle... I yelped in pain and surprise as I heard my hubby roar: “That’s my wife!” The guy made a quick get away - wisely choosing not to confront. (Surprise sometimes catches one off guard.)
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Stupidity and rudeness are not owned by one gender, it’s an equal opportunity employer.
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I agree. Some of these old bags act like they own the store. “Get out of my way!l.
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