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Railcruiser 01-29-2016 09:30 PM

Feeling disgusted/
 
Arrived down town tonight for dinner later than we usually would so we were driving up & down the aisles looking for parking. I saw someone kneeling on the ground with a flashlight obviously looking for something and a man standing nearby that appeared to be holding his head as if he was hurt. I immediately stopped the car & put my flashers on. I wasn't blocking the way only a parked car or 2 with no one in them. Turns out the man had tripped going up the curb and smashed his head into the building (no he wasn't drunk) and there was a lot of blood on the ground. He was looking feverishly with his wife for his car keys so he could get to urgent care. As we were attempting to help this couple. a woman came up and said "though I'm sorry about your accident I want to get my car out" Needless to say my husband and I were speechless. I told her I just had to get the man in my car to get him to urgent care. She was already in her car and backing up car by the time we walked over to mine. This couple had been there for a while and commented more than once how many people had passed but didn't stop to help.
The good news 5 staples later and all is well.
The bad news for me. I feel like The Villages has become just like the rest of the world. I used to think we were different:::mad::sad:

jgm3279 01-29-2016 09:39 PM

Thankful for people like you!

Nursebarb1 01-29-2016 09:46 PM

As they say, "You can't fix stupid." In your heart, you know you did the right thing. Thank you for being there.

tomwed 01-29-2016 09:56 PM

Thank-you for being a Good Samaritan and not being afraid to get involved. I would have helped.

MikeV 01-29-2016 10:07 PM

The more people the chance this type of person will be here increases. My neighbors and I went to dinner tonight and one asked if I had driven down to the Pine Hills/Pine Ridge area. I had but they wanted to see it. It is incredible to see the amount of land that is there for new homes and new residents. Once the so called build out is done the chances of less than nice friendly people will diminish. Just my opinion so no derogatory comments please.

gerryann 01-29-2016 10:07 PM

Thanks for being a good person.

Shame on those that walked by or acted selfishly.

villagetinker 01-29-2016 10:36 PM

OP, I agree, thank you for helping. If something happened to me, I would be very happy if you happened to be coming by! Karma comes around, you will be rewarded.

Barefoot 01-29-2016 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Railcruiser (Post 1179308)
Arrived down town tonight for dinner later than we usually would so we were driving up & down the aisles looking for parking. I saw someone kneeling on the ground with a flashlight obviously looking for something and a man standing nearby that appeared to be holding his head as if he was hurt. I immediately stopped the car & put my flashers on. I wasn't blocking the way only a parked car or 2 with no one in them. Turns out the man had tripped going up the curb and smashed his head into the building (no he wasn't drunk) and there was a lot of blood on the ground. He was looking feverishly with his wife for his car keys so he could get to urgent care. As we were attempting to help this couple. a woman came up and said "though I'm sorry about your accident I want to get my car out" Needless to say my husband and I were speechless. I told her I just had to get the man in my car to get him to urgent care. She was already in her car and backing up car by the time we walked over to mine. This couple had been there for a while and commented more than once how many people had passed but didn't stop to help.
The good news 5 staples later and all is well.
The bad news for me. I feel like The Villages has become just like the rest of the world. I used to think we were different:::mad::sad:

Bless you for helping this couple in need. You're an angel.
There will always be rude and insensitive people among us.
However I'm convinced that the majority of residents are kind and caring people.

Railcruiser 01-29-2016 11:14 PM

Not my intention but thanks for the kind words. Though not my intention of posting. I did get what I was looking for however,relieved to know that there's a chance someone might stop if I needed help

goodtimesintv 01-29-2016 11:42 PM

Railcruiser:
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As we were attempting to help this couple. a woman came up and said "though I'm sorry about your accident I want to get my car out" Needless to say my husband and I were speechless. I told her I just had to get the man in my car to get him to urgent care. She was already in her car and backing up car by the time we walked over to mine.
That is not how we were raised. She and her kind are shameless!

One day she'll need help and behavior like that comes back to haunt.

Miles42 01-30-2016 01:16 AM

Self centered people are every where this is no different than any other location. The world needs more folks like you. Don't despair.

Polar Bear 01-30-2016 03:21 AM

Don't judge any area by the actions of one dunderhead.

Taltarzac725 01-30-2016 05:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Railcruiser (Post 1179308)
Arrived down town tonight for dinner later than we usually would so we were driving up & down the aisles looking for parking. I saw someone kneeling on the ground with a flashlight obviously looking for something and a man standing nearby that appeared to be holding his head as if he was hurt. I immediately stopped the car & put my flashers on. I wasn't blocking the way only a parked car or 2 with no one in them. Turns out the man had tripped going up the curb and smashed his head into the building (no he wasn't drunk) and there was a lot of blood on the ground. He was looking feverishly with his wife for his car keys so he could get to urgent care. As we were attempting to help this couple. a woman came up and said "though I'm sorry about your accident I want to get my car out" Needless to say my husband and I were speechless. I told her I just had to get the man in my car to get him to urgent care. She was already in her car and backing up car by the time we walked over to mine. This couple had been there for a while and commented more than once how many people had passed but didn't stop to help.
The good news 5 staples later and all is well.
The bad news for me. I feel like The Villages has become just like the rest of the world. I used to think we were different:::mad::sad:

Sorry that happened but as many have said there are selfish people everywhere including within the long time Villages' population. This woman could have been from any category of Villager.

fred53 01-30-2016 06:10 AM

You did a very kind thing...
 
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Originally Posted by Railcruiser (Post 1179308)
Arrived down town tonight for dinner later than we usually would so we were driving up & down the aisles looking for parking. I saw someone kneeling on the ground with a flashlight obviously looking for something and a man standing nearby that appeared to be holding his head as if he was hurt. I immediately stopped the car & put my flashers on. I wasn't blocking the way only a parked car or 2 with no one in them. Turns out the man had tripped going up the curb and smashed his head into the building (no he wasn't drunk) and there was a lot of blood on the ground. He was looking feverishly with his wife for his car keys so he could get to urgent care. As we were attempting to help this couple. a woman came up and said "though I'm sorry about your accident I want to get my car out" Needless to say my husband and I were speechless. I told her I just had to get the man in my car to get him to urgent care. She was already in her car and backing up car by the time we walked over to mine. This couple had been there for a while and commented more than once how many people had passed but didn't stop to help.
The good news 5 staples later and all is well.
The bad news for me. I feel like The Villages has become just like the rest of the world. I used to think we were different:::mad::sad:

but you really shouldn't have parked and blocked anyone. Would it have been a tragedy if you'd taken a second to park the car? Do you need an excuse to help one person and that gives you the right to cause someone else trouble.

You could just have easily avoided that problem by doing both things correctly...help the person(wonderful)and making sure your car wasn't blocking anyone.

It reminds me of people who stop to let a car out from a side street and while thinking they're doing the kind thing forget there are others behind her that equally deserve her attention by just obeying traffic laws and not holding them up so they can do their "good deed".

You could and should have done both things and not look for a reason to blame someone else. How do you know that they didn't have a DR's appt or a sick person back at their house???????

rubicon 01-30-2016 06:50 AM

We can post with congratulatory remarks because we have the full story but "what if".

golfing eagles 01-30-2016 08:14 AM

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Originally Posted by fred53 (Post 1179361)
but you really shouldn't have parked and blocked anyone. Would it have been a tragedy if you'd taken a second to park the car? Do you need an excuse to help one person and that gives you the right to cause someone else trouble.

You could just have easily avoided that problem by doing both things correctly...help the person(wonderful)and making sure your car wasn't blocking anyone.

It reminds me of people who stop to let a car out from a side street and while thinking they're doing the kind thing forget there are others behind her that equally deserve her attention by just obeying traffic laws and not holding them up so they can do their "good deed".

You could and should have done both things and not look for a reason to blame someone else. How do you know that they didn't have a DR's appt or a sick person back at their house???????

You didn't really mean that, did you?---it's a little unlike you. Besides, if they had called 911 (which might have been a good idea since I doubt any of them were experts in diagnosing head trauma), where do you think 2 fire engines, 1 ambulance, and 5 police cars would have been sitting? I don't think this lady would have told a sheriff's deputy to move. Then again......

dave from deland 01-30-2016 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by golfing eagles (Post 1179388)
You didn't really mean that, did you?---it's a little unlike you. Besides, if they had called 911 (which might have been a good idea since I doubt any of them were experts in diagnosing head trauma), where do you think 2 fire engines, 1 ambulance, and 5 police cars would have been sitting? I don't think this lady would have told a sheriff's deputy to move. Then again......

Bingo!.

karostay 01-30-2016 08:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Railcruiser (Post 1179308)
Arrived down town tonight for dinner later than we usually would so we were driving up & down the aisles looking for parking. I saw someone kneeling on the ground with a flashlight obviously looking for something and a man standing nearby that appeared to be holding his head as if he was hurt. I immediately stopped the car & put my flashers on. I wasn't blocking the way only a parked car or 2 with no one in them. Turns out the man had tripped going up the curb and smashed his head into the building (no he wasn't drunk) and there was a lot of blood on the ground. He was looking feverishly with his wife for his car keys so he could get to urgent care. As we were attempting to help this couple. a woman came up and said "though I'm sorry about your accident I want to get my car out" Needless to say my husband and I were speechless. I told her I just had to get the man in my car to get him to urgent care. She was already in her car and backing up car by the time we walked over to mine. This couple had been there for a while and commented more than once how many people had passed but didn't stop to help.
The good news 5 staples later and all is well.
The bad news for me. I feel like The Villages has become just like the rest of the world. I used to think we were different:::mad::sad:

That inconsiderate moron more than likely had to get to the square to sit in the seat she had saved since 3 that afternoon or let her pet out to do it's business on the neighbors lawn

Bogie Shooter 01-30-2016 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Railcruiser (Post 1179308)
Arrived down town tonight for dinner later than we usually would so we were driving up & down the aisles looking for parking. I saw someone kneeling on the ground with a flashlight obviously looking for something and a man standing nearby that appeared to be holding his head as if he was hurt. I immediately stopped the car & put my flashers on. I wasn't blocking the way only a parked car or 2 with no one in them. Turns out the man had tripped going up the curb and smashed his head into the building (no he wasn't drunk) and there was a lot of blood on the ground. He was looking feverishly with his wife for his car keys so he could get to urgent care. As we were attempting to help this couple. a woman came up and said "though I'm sorry about your accident I want to get my car out" Needless to say my husband and I were speechless. I told her I just had to get the man in my car to get him to urgent care. She was already in her car and backing up car by the time we walked over to mine. This couple had been there for a while and commented more than once how many people had passed but didn't stop to help.
The good news 5 staples later and all is well.
The bad news for me. I feel like The Villages has become just like the rest of the world. I used to think we were different:::mad::sad:

You did the right thing and she was wrong.

I do take exception to your last sentence. The villages has always been like this with nitwits among us. We have not become something different.

outlaw 01-30-2016 08:43 AM

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Originally Posted by karostay (Post 1179392)
That inconsiderate moron more than likely had to get to the square to sit in the seat she had saved since 3 that afternoon or let her pet out to do it's business on the neighbors lawn

Or maybe she had irritable bowel syndrome. Or maybe she didn't see how seriously injured the person was. Or maybe you are harshly judging this woman you don't even know, based on a one-sided recollection of the incident. Judge not lest ye be judged. Why do so many seem to relish in piling on someone at the drop of a hat?

Taltarzac725 01-30-2016 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by outlaw (Post 1179402)
Or maybe she had irritable bowel syndrome. Or maybe she didn't see how seriously injured the person was. Or maybe you are harshly judging this woman you don't even know, based on a one-sided recollection of the incident. Judge not lest ye be judged. Why do so many seem to relish in piling on someone at the drop of a hat?

There are public restrooms in Spanish Springs as well as in all the Villages' town Squares. I highly doubt if this woman was getting to her own kind of emergency. And it sounds like the OP had communicated the need to get this man to Urgent Care right away.

BobnBev 01-30-2016 08:57 AM

Is there a reason you didn't call 911? ARE you qualified to care for head truma? In your excited state, you could have been in a collision while transporting this person. Hope you have good insurance.

BruMar 01-30-2016 09:02 AM

We are moving to the Villages in March. We have been so impressed on our visits by the friendliness and kindness of all those we have met. I think this lady was the rare exception and not the rule. Railcruiser, you represented the spirit of the Villages so well.

Taltarzac725 01-30-2016 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by BruMar (Post 1179413)
We are moving to the Villages in March. We have been so impressed on our visits by the friendliness and kindness of all those we have met. I think this lady was the rare exception and not the rule. Railcruiser, you represented the spirit of the Villages so well.

She does to me too. The decision to call 911 should be made by the family unless they are too far out of it to make an informed choice. Who gets the bill for the 911 call?? Florida bill aims for fewer billing surprises after 911 calls | Orlando Sun Times

bluedivergirl 01-30-2016 10:16 AM

I also think she's the exception. We rented last January, to get the feel of The Villages.

My DH went for his morning run, and was watching golfers. He ran off the curb, spraining his ankle. He was immediately surrounded by folks checking on him, and had several offers for a ride home.

Plenty of good people around. I try to be one of them

RickeyD 01-30-2016 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by MikeV (Post 1179316)
The more people the chance this type of person will be here increases. My neighbors and I went to dinner tonight and one asked if I had driven down to the Pine Hills/Pine Ridge area. I had but they wanted to see it. It is incredible to see the amount of land that is there for new homes and new residents. Once the so called build out is done the chances of less than nice friendly people will diminish. Just my opinion so no derogatory comments please.


I don't agree with this. A lot of people living close together does not bring out the worst in us. I do a lot of work in the NYC area and I have observed the following. The poorer a neighborhood is, the friendlier the people are and the MORE willing they are to help out a person in need. The rich folk don't seem to care about anyone but themselves. It is not a density problem, it is a class income issue. The more people have in terms of stuff they less they have in terms of caring. This is not my opinion, it is what I've observed in the course of 40 years.

Debfrommaine 01-30-2016 10:26 AM

You're good people. It doesn't matter where you go, personalities stay the same, only thing that changes are the faces. The Villages is a great place, and even better with folks like you.

Jgg7933 01-30-2016 10:28 AM

I believe The Villages is "Different" but we are not "Perfect"! The general hospitality here seems to be better than most large cities!

bagboy 01-30-2016 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Taltarzac725 (Post 1179479)
She should toot her own horn. This was not an act of kindness but something that needed to be done there and then to help prevent this man from getting worse. He needed medical attention.

All the more reason to call 911

2BNTV 01-30-2016 12:59 PM

No matter where one lives, there will always be difficult people. I'm trying to be nice.

IMHO- I think TV has an overwhelming majority of nice people.

Don't let the small minority, affect the majority. You did a very good deed and it will come back to you.

as a friend of mine always says, "what goes around comes around".

Taltarzac725 01-30-2016 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by bagboy (Post 1179486)
All the more reason to call 911

The wife should have called 911 not a bystander unless the wife was too upset to make this decision. Or, if a doctor is around or a nurse.

I applaud the OP's getting involved with helping the injured man get to the Urgent Care.

I have been in the situation of a bleeding head wound of a family member and called 911 and just got out of their way when they came. There are issues of insurance, finances, liability and the like in these situations.

njbchbum 01-30-2016 07:46 PM

Railcruiser - Don't feel disgusted...the woman who had to move her car might not even have been a Villages resident! My experience...there are more Villages residents like you than there are like that woman.

goodtimesintv 01-31-2016 12:54 AM

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Originally Posted by RickeyD (Post 1179454)
I don't agree with this. A lot of people living close together does not bring out the worst in us. I do a lot of work in the NYC area and I have observed the following. The poorer a neighborhood is, the friendlier the people are and the MORE willing they are to help out a person in need. The rich folk don't seem to care about anyone but themselves. It is not a density problem, it is a class income issue. The more people have in terms of stuff they less they have in terms of caring. This is not my opinion, it is what I've observed in the course of 40 years.

Interesting choice of community to use, to explain that behavior here in TV.

RickeyD 01-31-2016 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by goodtimesintv (Post 1179690)
Interesting choice of community to use, to explain that behavior here in TV.

I see pretentiousness in TV that I don't see on Park Ave. Real wealth doesn't have to pretend, they are the real thing.

Polar Bear 01-31-2016 12:10 PM

Feeling disgusted/
 
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Originally Posted by RickeyD (Post 1179454)
...The more people have in terms of stuff they less they have in terms of caring. This is not my opinion...

You may not consider it your opinion, but it certainly is not a fact.


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