Agree or Not
 

It's been said that, "A daughter's a daughter for the rest of her life. A son is a son until he takes a wife." Do you agree or not? From experience, I agree.

OK, old saying with a lot of truth. HOWEVER, if you want to keep a son (of which I have two), you stay out of his business and when he finds a mate, you bend over backward to enjoy her.

I only have sons so it has been extremely important that I leave them alone to run their own lives, marry who they love, and to never get into their business. They know I am here to help in any way I can when they may need it, but I do not interfere with their lives.

I LIVED MY LIFE, LET THEM LIVE THEIRS. Just be there to catch them if need be!:icon_wink:

I totally agree. While it can be tempting, I always remind myself that I'm sure there were times when my own parents wanted to make a comment about my actions as a parent, but they withheld their comments, unless it was as a positive observation. I also try to remember how I would have felt, had they made any negative comments as a young parent - and I use that as my guideline for my own adult children and my grandchildren.

False.

once a parent-always a parent, no matter age/sex

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Very true but you do have to mind your own business when appropriate

We have three daughters, and they are still very close.
We have moved several times and left no forwarding address, but they always manage to track us down!:icon_wink:

A daughter hopefully will take care of her parents when bad health becomes a factor, but even a son and his wife will do the same if there has been love and respect from all.

Three sons and one daughter, but we are blessed by the wonderful daughter-in-laws. Daughter in laws stay in touch usually more than sons! But I do 'try' to stay out of their business unless asked.
One blessed lady because they all want to come visit at same time so they can see each other since they live in four different states!

Agree

Absolutely!

I raised my daughter from age 6 and my son from age 3. We are and will always be close. Can't imagine life without them.

Don’t agree at al! It’s all about your relationship with each child.

Sooooo true.
 

I have only sons and this is very good advice.

Well said and good advice. And yes I agree girls are the family glue.

what keeps children sometimes together is if they want an inheritance they have to show interest whether it be a son or a daughter. I conservative person whom believes good behavior deserves reward otherwise such as calling, inviting me over, caring about me, being their when I need them, interest in my well being, keeping me out of nursing home. Have my grandchildren calling me .remembering holidays, birthdays, If they don't then you must what your action you will be towards them whether it be a son or daughter.

Absolutely, unfortunately. 😢

Sadly my only child/daughter has totally replaced me with her"new family"

Most definitely. A daughter-in-law will always choose her mother over her mother in law. The best you can hope for a nice, friendly relationship. Let her know you are there to help but don’t interfere.

My mother was the best MIL to have. She never interfered in my brother’s personal life, but he was her son until the day she died. As for daughters, there is no greater bond than that between a father and a daughter. The worst day of my life was when I lost my father when he passed away in 1980 at age 59. I don’t think I will ever get over it.

Yes! But an Italian son is forever the PRINCE!!!

We have a daughter and a son and we’re close with both and their families.

I forgot to add that my reply about the PRINCE is coming from the sister of that Italian PRINCE who KNOWS!

A Child is a child until the first national parents close

Somewhat... My oldest spends a lot of time with her family but we do see them and our grandson. Our youngest sons wife did not come from a great situation so we see them a lot. Our daughter is a daddy’s girl and she and our grandson live with us.

Depends on how children are raised

Depends on how children are raised

Adult married children
 

I’m 71. When I married my husband became closer to my family than his own because we lived closer. My brother became closer to his wife’s family also because of location. Also it is very important to accept your child’s choice of a partner whether you like them or not. So many in laws just don’t want to accept their child’s choice and it causes deep separations within families. Love your in-laws because they are family and they make your son or daughter complete

No I do
Not agree

I think it's very true. I have 4 daughters and 1 son. They confirm the stats. I have often asked other couples. Same outcome.

Agree

Daughter vs Son.
 

Definitely TRUE....

Really wish I could agree but our three sons are very caring and communicative. Our only daughter has been bonded to her husband’s family for over 25 years now. We have definitely taken a back seat to her other family......it’s unpleasant but we’ve learned to live with the situation and keep the peace.😞😞

I disagree. Treat all of your children with Love no matter their sex.

I am neutral as I just think it is different.

It all depends on who your son marries.

Madelaine Amee couldn't have said it better. We have three boys who are very different in many ways. They have all found the love of their lives and seem to be doing just fine.

I learned that unless they put something in the form of a question then mums the word on most major subjects.

Out of the three sets of kids, one set is dead against getting the Covid Vaccination. I approached the subject lightly and told them a true story about a friend I lost who belongs to a club that I belong to in N.J. After the story I asked what he thought and although he said he was sorry for my loss it didn't change his mind. So for me it is case closed. I would not approach the subject with his wife, not a chance.

Madelaine Amee said what I was thinking much better than I could have. Thank You.

don't believe in interfering, but some daughter-in-laws can be very selfish and jealous and want to break any ties with sons and mothers.

Be a Mom, not a meddler
 

I couldn't agree with you more! We have a daughter and two sons, all happily married. Our sons call us 1x or 2x a week, our daughter not as much. We do not meddle in their business or give advice, unless asked.Thankfully, most of the time. they make good decisions. Our sons are just as close to us as before they were married. Our daughter is just as aloof as she was before she was married lol We are blessed with three amazing, educated, loving,, professional, kids (and their spouses) who have given us two precious grandchildren (so far). The key to good relationships with your kids and their spouses is not to meddle.