Wedding gift?
 

Haven't attended a wedding in awhile. I know yrs ago it was $100 in a card. How much is it today for say a niece?
And I know this isn't revelant but is costing approximately $3,999 to attend

Probably triple that amount at least.

How close are you to her?

The past few years we have been giving$500 to family members.

Yup!

Same here. But it depends on one's financial situation...

$500 for some is like $1000 to others...

To be honest if it is a favorite I give more and generous engagement and shower gifts.

We have a very small family. Two sons, a niece and a nephew. For the nephew, we gave $1000 seven years ago along with helping them with a small part of the wedding costs. In 2010 and 2012 our sons were given $1000 by their aunt & uncle. If our niece ever marries her s/o, we'll do something similar.

Why?
 

would one come on TOTV and ask this question? We dont have kids and give to our nieces and nephews for all the holidays. We know what to give. You dont?

Not everyone may be able to do what you do so that shot wasn't necessary. Also, OP was asking about a wedding which is different then the holiday's.

I say that you give from the heart not from what others say.

No reason to be mean spirited. Live and Let Live is what I say.
In answer to the OP's question, really, it all depends on your financial situation. I recently saw children in our family, nieces and nephews, which I have not seen in a few years. We gave each one, and there were 7 of them, $100.00 in a card, just for doing well in school and sports. It's what I feel comfortable doing, and the OP needs to feel comfortable as well.

You give what you want to and can afford. If you cant afford to attend. Dont

What a snarky response. Did you get up on the wrong side of the bed?

I say you give what you can afford. $3999.00 to attend any wedding is a great deal of money. You are being very generous to spend that much money just to attend. I read where some people stated they gave hundreds and thousands of dollars as a wedding gift.
Each persons financial situation is different. What if you had 6 nieces, that could be very costly? Again give what you can afford and they should be grateful that you are attending, no matter how much money you give.

$500.

A card with $100 is a generous gift even today. You are paying to travel to be with family and that’s the most important thing-being there. We are going to Colorado for a family wedding in September. We will give a nice card and most likely $100 as a gift.

$500? $1000? For a wedding gift for a niece? I guess we do live in a land of the rich. Personally, I think $100 is a very generous gift that any niece would be grateful for.

It's a legitimate question
 

Why the hostility?

Kristoff congratulations to the couple I guess no one else has said yet. The answer that most newspaper column this will give, is that what you give what you feel is in your heart. Honestly if you think back to your wedding do you remember what everyone gave you 40 or 50 years later? However I guarantee that the parents and the in-laws will ask how much did so-and-so give and how much did so-and-so give and no one will think what it cost you to attend. However if you can afford $4,000 to go out there and be with them and celebrate yes I know it's a lot to go somewhere but my 40 year old child will spend $1,000 to visit a friend to celebrate a birthday please keep that in mind. You should also realize what what it cost to make a wedding easily 200 or $300 per person so with that in mind I would say in four hundred or $500 and don't think about the money so much as it's a one-time expense of life. If the $4,000 is too much money and figure out another way of going that would be cheaper or maybe a lesser Hotel you can get a timeshare or not stay at the wedding Hotel. Just to make you feel well we have going to Palm Springs for one daughter's wedding and we went to Germany for a nephew's wedding I know me too ouch

Note to self: walterray is all knowing, so always remember to ask the poster for all advice.

walterray, what should I give my niece and nephews for Christmas, since we should all follow your lead since you do and I don't.

Many thanks in advance

dumb guy

What you have to keep in mind if you are attending, the meal that they will be serving you and what ever entertainment will be over $100. Not that, this should determine your gift, but you should factor that in.

Approximately $3999 ?
I close loved one is one consideration, otherwise I fill in the check at the reception. Minimum, of course , is the cost of the plate.

I have to ask “why would one come on TOTV and reply with such a remark”? The question was simple, genuine and within the guidelines of TOTV.

Laughing out Loud for sure.

A person asks a simple harmless question, seemingly basically out of curiosity, to hopefully, share some current thinking on the subject; and some one just simply cannot leave it at that and avoid trying to turn it into another verbal villages s***show. Man, get happy.

Welcome to the Villages.

I left this ridiculous bastardized run on sentence for you all to fight over.

How Much Money Should I Give for a Wedding Gift | The Wedding Envelope

Here's a link to a website that calculates what you should give based on relationship, travel, etc.

At the very least try and pay for what it cost to have you at the wedding. $3999 is for what? Seems a bit odd.......$100 is cheap today btw.

We give $500

Give whatever you feel is right. There is nothing wrong with $100.00

Obviously not! Hence the question. I think it's a great one...so far so many different answers, very interesting.

wedding gift
 

You should check to see if the couple have an online "wedding gift registry" where they have listed gifts they would like to receive. If they do have a registry, you can order the gift directly on line through the company they have shown the gift is with.

My last relative to get married was my nephew in 2009 and I gave $500.

$3999 (approx., but not $4,000) ????
Is this a destination wedding? Is it a 2 week stay in Hawaii, because that sounds pretty high for just the cost to attend

We had 2 nephews get married in the last few years. Our gift was $500.

calculator
 

That was pretty cool

Ditto

So funny I have a wedding in CO in Sept as well

Thank you to those who were courteous enough to answer. In answer to your question, I hit a 999 instead of ooo should have been approximately 3,000 to attend. Flight to NY was almost $700, car rental in NY IS $500, (for a compact budget car) HOTEL IN NY IS $500 FOR only 3 nights, (discounted rate)transportation to Orlando airport $200 both ways, pet sitter $150, a round of golf with my sister $100 two days prior to wedding, food, gas, etc all add up. I only asked because it's been yrs since I've attended a wedding. I asked a couple friends and they haven't attended a wedding in yrs so we're not sure either. Now I have my answer. Thank u

I have $500 to my nieces and nephew but since they have all been married about 20 years now, the ante may have gone up. I usually give $300 for non-family weddings. But, then again, being from NY/NJ we’re used to everything being higher there…

There are a number of questions that you should be considering. Am I going to travel to attend the wedding? The answer should consider will all of the attendees have received the vaccinations. How much do I really like the individual getting married. How much do I really like some of the people that I will see. How much is it going to cost to get there.

After pondering all of these questions, then based upon your financial ability you put a check in an envelope and mail it and graciously decline attending or you put the check in the envelope travel and incur all the expenses and hand the check with a kiss on the cheek.

Remember only kiss on the cheek if they are fully vaccinated. I hope this helps you make a decision.

Found this;

How Much Do You Spend On A Wedding Gift?
The amount of money you spend on a wedding gift depends on your relationship with the bride and groom. You’ll want to consider how close you are to the happy couple before purchasing a gift so your selection is appropriate. When it comes to general gift etiquette though, try not to spend less than $50 on a wedding gift no matter your relationship with the couple. Follow our suggested spending categories below, organized by your relationship with the bride or groom:

Close Friend or Close Relative: $150+
Friend or Relative: $100-$125
Co-Worker, Distant Family-Friend, or Distant Relative: $50-$100

Wow! It’s amazing how much people give for weddings. I say each situation is different. Depends on what you can afford, are willing to give and the nature of the relationship. Can’t base it on what others say. Even if you can afford to give hundreds and thousands it’s not always a good choice.

Gift
 

We try to figure the cost Per/person for the event then double that. We then add a little for extra.