Anger, outrage, unruly passengers, oppression road rage, irritation and more
 

Today visiting a new dr. I got the clipboard and forms to complete and found I was becoming angry. Why are they collecting data on me, why do I have to sign agreement with long paragraphs of legalese. It occurred to me I have been feeling more aggravated more often. I believe more of us may be feeling oppressed and annoyed daily: bad drivers, media opinions, demands for personal information, 24 hr news, overcharges, cancelled flights, new regulations, higher prices, mask mandates robot calls, cable companies, shoddy service. Remember the film where a news anchor lifts his window and yells "I've had it and I won't take anymore! " How do we keep smiling agreeably through it all as senior gentlewomen and gentlemen are expected to do?

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That would be the movie Network.

Speak to the Dr. Or the staff about it.

And the actual quote is : "I'm mad as hell, and I'm not going to take it any more"---Spoken by Peter Finch

*yawn* Me? I realized that it's taken about 5/6 years for me to get over the bad baggage I brought me with here with me. Then I just accepted my age and whether the days news is good or bad I've done my bit and am able to let others perceived bad actions just pass me by. Sure I have a stupid meter that goes off scale on a rare occasion, but on the whole I just expect the stupid people to not change their stupid ways. That has helped me immensely. I still meet those can not adapt to getting older and lack any good manners....so now I just shrug and figure getting annoyed at them wastes some seriously great days I can have...we can not fix them or change their mind...ever!

If they are asking about your medical history and pills you take what is the harm?

They always ask for our SS number and that we leave blank.

The horse regarding worrying about too much personal info being out there on each of us, left the barn long ago.

I can only guess why you picked a new Physician

I no longer get upset about stuff out of my control and most of what you listed is out of my control. If you can't control it or change it, why let it get to you? There are just too many positive things here to worry about the negatives.

So modern medicine works really well with as much data as you can put into the engine. There are prediction engines in the EMR which will tell your dr where your risks are with the correct data. I have seen the prediction engine on my data, and I don't like the answer because i am expected to have a heart attack within 10 years.

But for your doctor to have a complete picture of you and who you are dealing with, he needs as much as you can give him, otherwise he won't treat you for something you have which you know about but don't tell him.

As far as the rest of your sensitivity to "negative" issues, the human mind is wired to emphasize the negative for survival, and in the transition from a long period of relative calm to the pandemic and other geo political issues, you should think about mental protection strategies, as the world is going down hill at the moment from cooperative games to competitive games, and to enjoy TV, you have to live more in the bubble than not. . .

good luck, and talk to a professional if these issues prevent you from enjoying your current life

counseling guy

Two fingers of Mccallum scotch over ice will make this all go away………….

They make a pill for that which will calm you down. Talk to the new doctor.

When I fill out those forms I give the minimum I can get away with.

I have perfected a doddery old man act when in situations that require it.
I exsasperate jobsworths with innane questions, in the end they say, "let me fill the forms/sort this for you!"
Shop assistants fetch and carry for me.
I get help crossing the road from lovely ladies, and Hells Angels.
Luggage is put up on the racks for me when on trains.
I allways get a seat on public transport.
I melted old "Steel Heart" who guards the doctor from patients with the simple statement, "You remind me of my mother. She was so kind just like you"
She can't do enough for me now.
It is amazing the things I get away with.
I often think I might as well become that old guy permanently.
Maybe I am already that guy!:icon_wink:

YES. Walk in the doctor’s office with the scotch and sip while filling out the forms. If they say anything tell em the bottle is in the car if they want one

Anger/Rage
 

When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me. I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.

That is funny.

Water off a ducks back !!!
 

Some Villagers who have lived here for 10-15 years are used to this kind of attitude. Was not like this in 2000+ Its getting worse with Covid agreed. If we all worked together it would help but the A & E crowd loom larger each year. (Attitude and Entitlement). We are all entitled to have a safe happy retirement, but wont get it now..... We all worked so hard for this and thanks to some it will be tough to remain safe.

If you let others make you angry they have control over you. Take your life back, be happy.

one of my all-time favorites-Dunaway rocks the house

But we can certainly try to change things and you think are out of our control. I live in a wonderful state where you have government workers that actually listen to your complaints. 2 years ago the road leading up from my Village have dozens of pot holes that I had written about. I'm fine really. The right person to talk to who told me how to complain and they spent half a million dollars to repave part of the road. Every few months I email the various government officials responsible for painting lines on the roads we're clearing the trash on the sides and most of the time I get good actions. Some things I don't but like you said you can't worry about everything or getting mad. In all honesty and some people get older they do need drugs but also he might just be an attitude Readjustment or need for a real vacation. PS I stop giving my SS number also as it happens to be a federal law saying you don't have to and I have not had one doctor refuse my money

Some light exercise, I change in diet, or some liquor will also help

Dare I mention more sex on this board? Meaning to have more creates endorphins which help your mood and hopefully your partner

Intrusion!
 

I answer NOTHING that isn't health related.

M0re
 

In all seriousness, the first thing the nurse practitioner asked as they check your blood pressure is have you had thoughts of suicide or depression, by the way most of our Medicare Part D plans now have unlimited psychological/ psychiatric visits with no co-pays. Really.

I've been a bunch of different doctors and medical people and had to fill out those papers. Half the time the doctor doesn't even look at him breed them or know him and they certainly are inputted into the computer.

No you completely wrong about this

I think you’ve mentioned something that is a lot of the problem: 24 hour news. If you want the lower your stress and anger level, start by completely cutting out television news. ALL of it. It is designed to keep you watching, and it does that by alarming you and angering you and making you hate. How do you watch ANY television news without concluding that our country is on the brink of destruction and that all cities are cesspools of iniquity and that most people in minority groups are criminals? Yet that isn’t true. This summer I drove in a triangle from here to the Canadian border, to Denver, and back to here. What a beautiful, well-ordered, peaceful country we live in.

Also, stop reading any “news reports” on Facebook or YouTube or other sites. Most of that stuff isn’t true. Again, it is teaching you to fear and hate and be angry.

If you need a weather report, use the very accurate online site WeatherUnderground. If you need news from the country, believe it or not, read The Villages Sun. It focuses on good news and gives you paragraphs of what is happening around the country. It doesn’t include everything, but you are in a dark place, and that may be enough news for you right now.

I'm mad as Hell and I'm not going to take this anymore - YouTube

Responsibility
 

These things don’t bother me. Why? Because I take responsibility for my own emotions. I make ME mad. I make ME angry. I make ME sad. No ONE else can make ME angry..or sad… or happy for that matter. MY perceptions of things control my internal thoughts and thereby my reaction to those things. If one doesn’t like the way they are reacting/feeling then you have the control to change your perception of the situation and your emotional reaction. It’s the whole glass half full, half empty thing.

How do you take responsibility for your emotional responses when you don’t like them? Mindfulness help. Step out of yourself and look at the situation from a fresh perspective. Is this circumstance going to impact me 10 years from now? Is it going to matter ? Etc? When you emotionally get into negativity you are hurting yourself the most because it actually impacts the cells in your body. Meditation daily is also helpful. There are plenty of books out there to help view even the worst situations and get through it without a overwhelming impact on yourself. It’s only up to you.

Good Morning, Happy Friday!!

Today is #ReinstatementDay Friday the 13th AND National Kool-Aid Day!! It's like a M*** loser trifecta

Blame the lawyers and their lobbyists and you’d have identified about 90% of the cause.

Here in Michigan, (University of Michigan) electronic medical records have eliminated those annoying forms. You go online check the boxes, record any changes and are done in 5 minutes. You can check in online, similar to airline flights, and let them know with your app when you’ve arrived. Florida is behind. Although I do recognize not everyone has a smart phone…but for those that do.

Jack's over rocks. Chill and be chill.

A wonderful contradiction to an earlier posting exclaiming that The sky is falling and Doctors are closing offices. Glad your Doctor is available, as most are!

Just deal with it...chill out!!!

Or perhaps, less liquor.

Private info
 

Yes. that’s wise to leave SS blank. What about that long list of your lifelong medical problems they want you to tick off? Not necessary, like if I’m at the dentist, to indicate I had measles as a child!

He was trying to make a point. Did you really feel the need to CORRECT EVERYTHING?

I know what you feel like with that request. Whenever I fill out forms, I ask for a copy and include it in my folder for that doctor for future meetings. Sometimes when I speak with the doctor's secretary, I ask are there any forms that I need to fill out. If there are would you send them to me so that I can have them before the appt.

Counseling guy - I am an NP I would love to refer ppl to you. I’ve read a lot on here and I love your wisdom
! How do I find you ?