Lady Seeking Friendship
 

As a newbie single lady, I'm just getting my feet wet here in The Villages and have been looking for male companionship. I have tried the normal avenues but the men that I have met appear immature, ALL looking for one thing and some men are viewing me as a "meal card", (male version of a gold-digger).

I'm seeking an unmarried gentlemen in his 60's for companionship, friendship and happy times. BTW - The gentlemen MOST be unmarried. Do you guys have any suggestions? Thanks !

Can you cook and clean good?

Good Luck you are obviously a smart women.

IMHO, go network in the right places

You may be too young to remember Connie Francis song "Where the Boys Are"...but you really should consider putting yourself in situations where 'the boys are'

try getting involved in one of the local churches...amazing how many people have a friend that they'd love to connect with someone that they know that's nice

get involved in one of the many clubs that involves something that you're interested in and guys in their 60's would also be interested in / and attending....

get involved as a volunteer in a cause that you believe in, that would be attractive to guys (Habitat for Humanity might be one example)

I used to tell the daughters, if you want to be married to a 'bar fly', go keep going to the bars...if you want to be married to someone that you share interests with, meet them at the Ski Club, at the hiking club, etc.

It's funny...when you're looking hard for something it never seems to show up....but when you're not looking what you seek just seems to show up

good luck...it's not easy, but he's out there and keep your standards high

Oh, there's also single clubs in TV

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Well, I'm single. But I'm looking for a nurse with a purse.

You may want to try the "Single in the Villages" (SITV) group. I am a newbie to the group. You can find it on Facebook, and you'll need to register there to join. The group has grown to over 2,900 in the last 2 years. They do a lot of events and you can be as active as you like.

Pictures?

Don't look only for Male friendships but you want male and female friends that is how you enjoy your life. Get involved in an activity you like so you will have things in common. Friendships don't happen over night, they take time to develop. Go to singles dances , and single dance classes and just look to have fun and make all sorts of friends. Men as well as single women, "do look for a comfortable situation". Be selective and just don't try so hard to meet "a gentleman friend"... all will fall into place.. just mix with groups you like the best. Many to choose 3,000, all levels of activities and things to do. Don't forget your neighborhood group, mix there too.

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Although your statement is rather frivolous and silly, I have unfortunately met several gentlemen who she a relatively young educated and financially secure lady as an easy target and their primary intention is xxx and a meal card while all I'm looking for is companionship and conversation. All the good guys apparently have been taken.

I met a lovely and younger gentleman at the Bluefin restaurant and within 60 minutes of conversation several drinks and dinner, he was asking me about protection. I immediately picked-up the tab, paid and told him that my protection is leaving by myself.

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The OP is asking guys for advice on finding a man. So, to be perfectly honest, my only advice is that, for a woman to advertise upfront that she is not interested in physical intimacy, is a bad idea. That is my two cents, which, on this topic, is probably not even worth two cents.

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FAV saying of a few friends of mine that are now "single and participating" in the dating scene here ,,,"Yeah, thanks but no thanks. I'm not your nurse and I am not your purse."

LOL. Can you?

My teenage daughter used to say to me, “If he can’t cook, no date. I like to eat.”

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I’m sure you’re right, and of course it’s true with guys as well. But sometimes you meet the bus driver….

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This thread should be titled: "Looking for love in all the wrong places" Johnny Lee - "Looking For Love in All the Wrong Places" - YouTube

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You say the good ones seem to be taken. People in 60’s and onward usually have Been in forever relationship with their companion when they sudden lose them. Some aren’t looking for second love of their life. I myself couldn’t imagine trying to find another lady companion or try to date again at my age.

Now you got the other half that comes with lot baggage, divorced, separated, drinking problems, drug problems mental problems, lazy, and looking for free ride. Good luck in you’re search. Odds are stacked against you IMO.

I thank everyone for your suggestions and for clarity, I have found a lot of nice guys here in The Villages, but I am looking for that special one.

I was the ugly duckling who won the heart of, and married the swan.
Can't imagine life without her.

Enjoy every day and one of these days, that person will come along when you are least expecting it. You never know.

Lovely. :ohdear:

Yep, sorrrry but we are all taken.
:ho::welcome:

Wow.

Having read the lack of sincerity and maturity of most of the responses here, Im glad I am not in this lady's position. That is female, single, seeking a mature companion, who is not looking for a hook up or nurse with a purse.

Head to one of our many churches and get involved. Better chance to find a good person rather than on this site or a bar.

Ok this is bothering me a little bit. Are you saying absolutely no hanky panky, just hanging out? Obviously these men you have met are attracted to you. How about next time you go out with a “gentleman “ don’t shower or wear makeup and dress shabbily and see what he’s after then. And don’t show up in your new Mercedes either

I'm curious, you say the men you meet are viewing you as a "meal card" Let's say you meet a nice guy and go out for dinner. Do you expect him to pay or do you split the tab?

Why wouldn't you want to be friends with someone that worries about your safety?



j/k

Hello and I apologize for the confusion. As an avid runner all my life, I have maintained myself and my late husband and working all my life has permitted me to live my life comfortably. Some guys now see me as an "easy" target for supporting them and for a quickie. I'm looking for companionship with a nice, secure man.

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3 cheers lady for coming on here as another way of meeting people and 3 jeers for some of the childish answers especially the one about the bus and ridiculing the woman who wants to be friends first , is what I would expect from high school kids. Although it’s not a surprise , I have good social life her and many of the woman I have dated here seem to have many sad tales here of men who went from high school to marriage and then single and back to the same high school socials skills when it came to woman . Grow Up

I’m sure she had good reason….

LOL, you mean she should have pulled out her pearl handled hand gun from her purse and reply, “Why yes, I have protection.”? When he asked her if she brought protection.

" I immediately picked-up the tab, paid and told him that my protection is leaving by myself." Great idea Ill have to try that

might he have been asking if you have a concealed carry permit ?

Might have been asking what type of sealant she uses on her grout, but somehow I doubt it:1rotfl::1rotfl::1rotfl:

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