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Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

At 72 I am starting to forget things. And my kids always laughed at how I dress - LOL!

Depending on the magnitude of your forgetfulness it might pay to listen to them and have a chat with your doctor. As we age it gets harder and harder to form long term memories. But, like aging, it happens so slowly that it is hard for us to see, but others that don't see us every day notice more than we do.

I noticed me (and my wife noticed me) forgetting things last year. My PCP scheduled a meeting for me for a psych exam. The doctor gave me a series of tests over an hour or so, and said it is normal to begin having trouble forming long term memories as we age - everyone does. In my case the issue was greater than normal, and less than she could make a diagnosis from. So, I am scheduled to go back this year, to see how it is progressing.

Dementia is a generic term covering a lot of different types including Alzheimer's, lewd body dementia, etc etc. In my case one of the symptoms includes growing irritability. ( which is one reason I have to take vacations from here occasionally.)

I suggest being tested - in my case I want to know so I can make plans before I can't make plans.

Good luck.

PS: If your post was meant to be funny, or something, I apologize, it just struck a cord with me.

When you reach a certain mental age you start acting more like a child.

I myself have chemo brain so that can be tough at times. As for our parents my mom is 90 and my mil is 81. Both live on there own and our siblings try to control their lives by connecting to the ring doorbell or controlling their Comcast or trying to do home improvements that might be needed etc. My wife and I are constantly asking them what do you want to do. My sister wanted to replace the furnace and roof on my moms house and I said that at 90 years old is it something that really needs to be done since they were both fine.

So I understand what you are saying but if you can manage on your own then let them know and hope they don’t get made and stop talking to you…

It is a good thing to listen to those the love you. At some point you may NOT be able to live alone, but not realize it.

My kids started doing that as teenagers...

My oldest, (after being asked how to do something on iTunes for the 2nd time), once said, "I honestly don't know how you make it thru the day!"

I responded, "I taught you how to wipe your butt!"

That shut her up... For about a minute... :1rotfl::1rotfl::1rotfl:

Our grandkids who are 11 and younger know so much more than we do about so many things.

At least they are all polite about it.

Depends on how much cash got stashed?

I had to read your post 20 times before I could comment, all I can say is

Thank you ! Very well-stated! ������

I get patted on the head a lot. ������

No, it isn't just you. But I think that a lot of it (in my case anyway) is that they're not treating you as a child so much as they are showing concern. It may be an expression of love, not patronization.

Crazy Right
 

I mean seriously, who do they think they are! Ah what were we discussing now?

This is why I moved 1000 miles away! Now they have to visit, on my turf, to pick on me and insult me!
I think it is Karma. Or revenge!

Wife and I threatened to leave everything to the Cat Society.
We now enjoy living in squalor and our senility in peace!

Our daughter told us we need to chill out and stop being so hyper critical of other people. We responded by criticizing the hell out of her.

Good one!

I always say that my kids did a good job raising me!

I’m still shopping for clothes at 83 , I’m a Armani and Hugo Boss including my jeans and T shirts I only have one request of those who will inherit, please keep me well dressed even after I won’t notice anymore

Luv it!

It sure is fun to mess with their heads to work things to our advantage.

For instance, I hate to shop for shoes. My daughter Boomette is a bit of a fashionista.

We have a family wedding coming up soon. I have found my dress, but I showed her the shoes I “plan” to wear. I knew those shoes would look quite hideous…….

Well, away she went and found several good choices for me — saved me a lot of time and aggravation.

She did not even realize that I pulled the same routine before a wedding a few years ago. She just thinks she has to save me from looking frumpy……….

Mwaaaa-ha-ha-ha :)

Boomer

Didn't you do that to your parents? Think about it. The cycle of life continues!

There certainly are times when some of the kids call and they're asking more questions than they used to, but
we're now 1400 miles away from all of them.

I look at it as a special love from kids that actually care.

Yeah, I sometimes open the wrong cabinet, walk into a room and forget why I did it...but so what, it's just part of the natural aging process.

My wife has Alzheimer's ...THAT's a whole different level of cognitive loss

Our kids and grands have never criticized about our lifestyle, our thoughts, or actions. Never correct us on something we may have missed or can’t remember. It would be an insult to do so. We would not do so in their life, so would not expect anything different

If they do have thoughts or comments, it is never to us. We raised them not to criticized, on what was not in their control. We have family discussions about small things, and major issues.

But every once in awhile you will here a Bless your heart ♥️ In one of their conversations, so they are not perfect.

Not at all with my children but the staff at the offices of physicians and dentists seem to treat me at age 80 somewhat as if I am in my second childhood. I find it amusing.

What a great idea. Thank you will steal it.

Yes, MY children in their 30’s do it to me, and I have caught myself doing to my Mom. Working on it, having some healthy discussions with kids and warning them they won’t like it when their kids do it to them. Strange though it is so common! It is unintentional disrespect, would love to hear how others handle it.

I guess showing concern and love doesn't strike me as disrespect. Just the opposite.

Maybe unintended if you feel that way, so maybe a simple conversation that you don't like it would help?

Question I'm not familiar with "lewd body dementia?" Does that mean we forget how to have sexual relations. Sorry I couldn't resist it's actually "Lewy" body dementia.

LOL!! Yeah, my bad, typo. My fingers don't always do what my brain tells them to any more - LOL!

how to dress - are you kidding?
 

Nowadays - boys dress like girls and girls dress like boys. I'll stick to "the old way" to dress!

I thought it was a typo but figured you'd take it in good stride. :)

Love that southern joke "Bless your heart"....

C'mon... Take a walk ion the wild side!


- Lou Reed

There are some new and promising treatments for Alzheimers in development. I've seen ads for trials near The Villages for of one of the leading candidates (Simufilam, I think it's called). Just google "Rethink ALZ" to find information.

Thank you.

No, just you.

Sometimes I think that advances in medicine are really a two-edged sword. We keep our bodies alive long after our ability to use that body with anything resembling normalcy flees forever. It took my dad eight years to die, cooped up in a nursing home with Parkinson's which robbed him both his mind and his body. Yes, he was alive--barely--he couldn't move, feed himself or talk, but he definitely was NOT living, in any reasonable sense of that word. That was eighteen years ago now and it hurts whenever I think about it. Had it been his choice, he definitely would NOT have chosen such an exit.

We're lucky here in TV: our personal and retail spaces are designed to maximize the functionality of a geriatric population, and the availability of activities designed for us is huge. If we CAN function then this is the best place for us: Last year my wife and I played golf with a gentleman who was 96 years old, could still hit the ball well and was a lot of fun to be with. I remember on one tee he took off his jacket, stretched, and said "that warm sun makes me feel like I'm 85 again". If I live to be 96 that would be how I would elect to age, but how many of us really have that choice? All I know is that I'm going to live every day as if it were my last, and when it comes time to check out I'll have no regrets.

I understand, I always say that quality is more important than quantity. My PCP has my living will and in it I state, no extreme measures unless they feel confident that I will regain my quality of life.

Medicine, when it fixes the problem is great, but sometimes that comes at a steep cost in quality of life.

But when your children start treating you like a second rate citizen like all of a sudden they’re 5 times smarter than you, how’s that make you feel? I know things have changed but does that make your children right or smarter than you? I’m not going to get controlled by my children. I do forget sometimes but my children & grandchildren still ask me how to fix things when they screw something up!

Be nice to your children. They're the ones that will be picking out your nursing home...
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