I’ve been here for a month and I’m really enjoying it.
 

I was told by many people that my experience of living here would be subpar due to my age (27). But to be honest I’ve been having a blast here.

What I love about the villages is just how approachable people are. Just in this month or so of living here I’ve had some really insightful conversations with others and plenty of unique experiences.

I can’t think of a better place to live in the world and I’m very happy to be here. I’m super grateful that my family asked me to come live down here. I don’t see Ohio being nearly as meaningful.

One thing I wanted to inquire about or see if anyone had any suggestions when it comes to dating. I was talking to my coworker who is my age and he has a wife in their late 40’s, same with another friend back in Ohio who is dating someone in their 50s.

I wanted to see what avenues exist for me to meet someone older, I don’t know if I went to singles groups whether that would be heavily frowned upon. I could try hanging out at bars, but I’m not sure if that would be the right demographic for potential romantic relationships.

If anyone has any suggestions I would be happy to hear them.

Just head on over to Facebook to one of The Villages Groups. Post that you're an under 40 single male. You'll need a machine to give out numbers, like at the Deli at Publix.

I'd recommend the "Speed Dating" methodology. 10 minute dates, 4/hour ... no more than 8 hours a day & 6 days a week (you'll need your rest). After a month or so of that, narrow it down to your Top 25 or so and then do an hour date, with each of them.

Once you narrow things down to 10-15, make a date for dinner and require them to bring a Bank Statement.

You'll be all set.

Hang around where people do things that give yourself joy like dog parks if you love pooches, bowling alleys if that is your passion, art displays if you an art lover and/or maker, etc. There are groups for almost any interest. Good luck. Check the Villages Daily Sun Thursday edition for a lengthy number of pages on activities here in the Villages in their various recreation centers.

Absolutely hilarious response, thank you for the suggestion!

Don't poo-poo speed dating! It is a great way to quickly weed out the dullards/television watchers...Try it at City Fire after 9:00 PM :) I have met a lot of gregarious and fascinating people at the squares.

That's what happened to Sun City in Phoenix -- youngsters "really enjoyed" moving to a place their grandparents saved 50 years to enjoy, because the "55+" rules were legally unenforceable. Now it's just a large suburb, overrun with children, and suffering the same petty crime problems as any neighborhood with growing teenagers.

I really hoped that The Villages was far enough from city employment to avoid that fate, but I see more and more 30-somethings walking their dogs in my neighborhood every year, as well as their tattooed teenagers slinking around in their hoodies with the hood up on an 80-degree day.

Oh well. Nothing lasts forever.

You'll find plenty of people your age in the Historic Section. They are living with their parents and/or grand parents. I think you will fit in well up there. Also there are a couple biker bars in Leesburg that you might want to check out.

Try church instead of bars or just get a job at a bar.

I suspect this setup post?

IMO at 27 you should be working on career. Mommy and daddy or who ever not going to be around for even. You need to set goals. IMO dating older women probably not good goal, but that’s me at 27 I had heavy responsibilities at work and on home front.

IMO going to bars to meet woman not good good goal, they may have lot of baggage which would maybe something you don’t need. But, I understand there few that never had to work or any responsibilities. If you’re in that boat good for you. Another but, sooner or later reality may hit you like ton of bricks. Good luck on your search for cougar.:beer3:

What was that song? Just a gigolo? Not judging, just wondering. 🫠

Just re-read post 1. Op didn't specify male, female or other. Only male co-worker with older wife.
Again, not judging, just curious.

First off - since this is a 55+ community, the availability of "single" people will mostly be widows and widowers. Not exclusively, but mostly. People who have already grown up, had jobs, and contributed to society in some way other than living with their parents in a retirement community at age 27.

Second - consider that children under 19 aren't allowed to live here. So if you DO meet "the one" and decide to start your family, you'll need to do it somewhere else. Might want to start working on preparing for that.

You asked - that's my suggestion to you.

I agree. I've never seen a 27 year old who is so proud of still living with mommy and daddy. I'm sure the older women will just love that. smh

We assume lot on forums:icon_bored:

Lot of truth in that!

They mention they have a job, never said they lived with parents or family, I’m assuming they are responsible.

that's the truth 10-15 at least.. Date the ones that have the least dust on them.. This must be a Clickbait, or you have Granny issues..

Agree. A 27 year old living here is not healthy. Not seeing any children, not interacting with people your own age, not out in the real world cuz this ain't the real world. Being with mainly old people all day I would find depressing at 27 years old. Not my business, but since you posted about it I'll give it.

Do what you love doing and be open to the possibilities.
The world is filled with opportunities, so don't force anything to happen.

So some may not realize, but there are more 25-35 living in TV than you realize. Med students, first year residents, and newly grad PAs and FAs. A new NP, just moved into a home in Richmond, so she could be between all 3 offices and two hospitals.

Since their clientele is All old people, she said home and work isn’t that much different.

Point is young people move here to take care of your needs, after all who wants a 75yo working practitioner.

I’m glad you like The Villages, but when it comes to dating because of the average age in The Villages, you might find it difficult. It doesn’t matter if it’s a church, bar, or a club, I believe you have to expand your area and look for places outside The Villages.
When I was your age, I lived in N.Y.C., I lived in an upscale area and there were countless places to meet people in the city, but they were not at my front door.
If you find a girl that is your age even if you might not be interested in her, pump her for information and see where she hangs out. When it comes to dating women are a hell of lot better at it than men and they always know where to go.

. If I were a young single person I would look into doing volunteer work. It is a great way to meet good loving people and be useful at the same time. Dating sites and speed dating would never work for me. I would feel awkward, and that isn’t a quality another person is looking for. ❤️

You also don't want that 25-35 year old living in the Villages who meets their true love and starts a family in The Villages, where children under 19 ARE NOT ALLOWED TO LIVE.

Many of these young adults will want to have kids. Those kids are not, and should not, be welcome to live in this community. There aren't accommodations for them here, there aren't a lot of sidewalks, there is ONE playground just outside Sumter Square, people aren't allowed to put swingsets in their yards, and none of the amenities are available to under 19 EXCEPT for the family pools.

This is by design. It was built this way because this is NOT a family community. It's a senior community.

The poster doesn't say they live with their parents, just that their parents wanted them to move down here. People are assuming a lot. You only have to be 19 years old to buy a home here and 20% can be under 55. There are lots of "real" jobs both here and in the surrounding area. This is an amazing place to live no matter what your age. I moved here, had a house built at 42, worked in a real profession outside the bubble and used the amenities evenings and weekends. As far as dating, it's no different here than anywhere. Stop disliking people you've never met and making assumptions on people just because of their age. It makes you sound like a crotchety old geaser.

You need to find and watch the old 1971 movie called “Harold and Maude.” Harold is in his 20s. Maude is 79. Harold falls in love with Maude. There are sex scenes. Music by Cat Stevens. Just so you know what you are getting into.

If you are 27 and female, there are hundreds or even thousands of single men here straight off the golf course hungry to meet you and take you out to nice meals and all that. If you are 27 and male, there are plenty of older women who would love a fling with you, but they tend to be harder to find and to have better sense than to imagine a long term relationship. In either case, go to City Fire around 9 and show yourself friendly and you will soon have lots of dating prospects. Welcome to The Villages. Just be polite and don’t be a criminal, heavy drinker, drug user, or con artist. If you are any of those, you won’t be welcome. In addition to dating, there are thousands of people who are just nice to talk with.

NO SWINGSETS? But I like swinging. It's good exercise.

Nobody is assuming anything. We were paying attention to his previous posts.

Thinking forward
 

How would you feel (???) if dating an older person and you were introduced to her son or daughter who is the same age or older than you?

And don't forget to mention... the sex won't be great.:pepper2:

I've reflected on your criticism, I'd rather not be thrusted into unnecessary struggle to fit into the generic "successful" label.

Everyone's life is infinitely different and everyone has their own path.

Just being here has dramatically shifted my relationship with my parents in a way that was not possible back home and I value that so much. Before I wasn't comfortable and willing to be apart of their life and now I am. I can't put a price on that.

They will die, my father is 60, he will die in the next ten years. With his current health issues, I don't see him getting past the national average of life span for men.

I'd rather not be sitting beside a hospital bed, feeling bad that I didn't spend the time or show the love to the people who mean the most to me.

I work 40 hours a week and put a majority of my money in savings. Working has never been an issue and never will.

The reasoning behind an older girlfriend is that they will be able to give me an experience unlike anything back at home, it might give me access to bigger social circles and more interesting experiences as well as connection and love.

I have zero plans on having children and my opinion on that over the last 7 years has not changed.

I'm not looking for a wife, I'm looking for someone I can enjoy spending time with.

I don't know what "setup" post means. I was just looking to gather generic ideas given to me.

I'd like to ask about the Fire City at 9. Is that every day or certain days of the week?

I want to avoid jumping into a pool of potential swingers. I've never been interested in non monogamy. I think it's untraditional and unappealing. As well as gross.

What do you think the ratio of people there who are looking for relationships vs only sexual?

I just don't want to be tricked and end up at some kind of devil party haha.

I regret to inform you that it isn't clickbait. I might have granny issues. Could be a possibility haha.

Beautiful way of putting it! Thank you!

That's just untrue. You have to be 18 years old, OR emancipated younger, to legally sign a contract. That is the age you're allowed to buy a home here. You can't LIVE in it until you turn 19, but you can BUY it before then.

Meanwhile, anyone 19 or older can live here. They can live in ANY home in The Villages. In fact, 100% of the homes here can have someone age 19 living in them. As long as 80% of those homes ALSO have someone age 55 or older living in them, it's allowed.

This is a SENIOR community. Children under 19 are NOT ALLOWED to live here. Someone who's 27 years old, who is not yet married/partnered, who doesn't yet have children, might some day choose to have children. Those children will not be ALLOWED to live here.

If the person in question is infertile and not interested in adopting, then hey go for it. But homeowners aren't vetted with those questions. The responsible thing is to inform prospective younger buyers that IF they decide to go the route of starting a family, they'll need to do so somewhere else.

I know, I was really disappointed that no one in my neighborhood had a tire swing hanging from one of the water oak branches.

I kinda doubt that anyone would bring a bank statement to a DATE. A date is more like just an introduction. If both parties would want to go from dating to living together or getting married, then THAT would be the time to POLITELY inquire about EACH OTHER'S wealth.

Agree with both.
Northing Healthy About This, but it's probably a quest too see how receptive older women are too the idea of Sugar mommies.

There's some serious nuts in the Villages and this Squirrel is booking on it.

For many people (not me) a good place to meet people would be at church. Personally, I would prefer to observe and meet them through playing sports or at the swimming pool. That allows you to observe their personality and other qualities. Meeting someone at a bar or dancing at a bar is a way for a quick ENCOUNTER rather than trying for a more lasting relationship.

I agree that dancing at the squares and meeting people is a good way to meet new people. The alcohol consumption tends to increase the friendliness. Also, there are a lot of YOUNGER local people that will be there. Music and young people, a lot to like.

To date anyone just for money is a sad existence.