Signing off for a while
 

Apparently many of you do not get my humor. It was a joke about Gracie. I'm not trying to be anyone. In fact, I'm getting pretty ****ed that you all seem to be after me. I, like many on here, ask for advise on decor, eateries, directions, etc. After designing my home, touring models and looking on line at things, I've gotten a better hand on what I like, therefore I give my opinion on what I have found and like. I have been coming to TV for the past 10 years and while I don't know a lot about it, I can give my impressions from when I've been there and things I see. Sometimes suggestions from an "outsider" can be helpful as they see things a bit different than those who live there. I don't pretend to know everything or to know nothing, but I have an opinion like everyone else and I have experiences like everyone else. Isn't that what this forum is for, to let others know what you think or know??? To help others so they can make decisions? All in all I think I've helped a lot of people and they sure have helped me. I could not have built my home with the confidence I did if people on here did not give their experiences or suggestions. Can everyone please back off? Your comments are upsetting. Although I've made some very nice friends on this forum, I'm beginning to think it was a mistake signing on. I think I need to lay low so it's the last post for me.

Not so happinow.

I for one enjoyed all the info you gave regarding your new home and everything you went thru with all the decisions that needed to be made to have your dream home be a reality. As I always say, you either like me or you don't, I am not living in the TV for a popularity contest. I am living here because of the many nice people I meet and the activities I enjoy. Don't let other people mess with your mind, you do what is right in your heart...no one can take that away from you and who you are.


'"Saving one dog won't change the world...but the world will change for that one dog."

Happinow, you will be fine. There is more to life than this forum.

Happinow, I was just getting ready to post in the other thread about how rude and mean I thought people were being to you. I don’t blame you for being angry and hurt. I too got the impression that you were being ganged up on. There’s no excuse for that. I’ve never read anything in your posts that supported what was said about you. And even if there were, what difference would it make? People are free to read what they want and ignore what is not of interest to them. To worry about how many posts someone has or to somehow keep track of what they think are inconsistent statements is to me...more than a little weird. It’s childish and mean-spirited and it actually says a lot about their personality.

I don’t blame you for wanting to step away from the site for awhile.

Well said; I couldn't say it any better than Skybo has above.....
I echo his sentiments.....however, no need to quit posting.....
Our differences are often just the thing that make us unique.
If everyone had the same exact opinions....we'd all be a bunch of robots.

Another great post.....

I have enjoyed your posts too and your enthusiasm for learning about TV. Please don't let negative posts keep you away.

Happinow it does seems some of the folks on the forum are after you, although I do not understand why. I have read some of the rude, sarcastic replies to you and its uncalled for. There is no excuse for it.

Please don't take it personally and let this upset you. There are over 80,000 people in TV and I'm sure once you get there you will find a group of people that you will bond with.

This forum is a good way to remember to think and post carefully.
 

I have felt the same as you over time Happinow. We cannot, should not try to think that we will ever get everyone to agree with us here or anywhere.

We just have to be ourselves. We do have to be mindful that our posts can hurt others. Mine have, even if I didn't mean them too.

I have left this forum wounded, several times and returned. This forum isn't everyone who lives in TV. We have strong opinions here. We do have to wear our big girl drawers.

I say...don't go.

Jojo is right. Skybo is right. You are right. I am right. But I always listen to those who disagree just a little.

And I say, be yourself. Everyone else is taken.

Forums are kind of a funny thing....I have belonged (posted) in a few. One was for RV (recreational vehicle's) and a few health forums. They can be very informative at times. However some people feel the need to be nasty when they are basically incognito. (although I realize that on totv most are who they say they are). Anyway, Quite a few folks can and do say things that they never would. They feel real important and big sitting behind there keyboard.

Happynow, don't let anyone get to you. You have done nothing wrong. Take a breath and realize that the majority of folks on this forum are really good people.

My post....
 

This post is the post that you want to sign off on? Do you want me to pull the posts to reference my statement?

My post wasn't mean... just honest! You are all over the board and your personality does change from post to post. This is no exception, as... for now... you are the helpless damsel in distress.

I think you've gotten yourself in a bit over your head by revealing so much about yourself, initiating a number of threads that are pretty much all over the map, posting opinions on a ton of things - - - You are inviting controversy.......which I don't think you can manage very well.

Just sayin....

sad but true
 

Many have been hurt on this forum, I for one, think it has to do with the written word as opposed to face to face encounters....I think seeing how someone might say something with a smile or you can get the jist of their personality when you look them in the eye. Well if you need time off do it...but come back...I too have enjoyed your journey. BTW more than once some have indicated that us Wannabe's should not post....but it is my only connection to TV until we can move down....S.

The comment makers will leave, too
 

SSmith, I hope wannabees will not quit posting. I didn't discover this forum until after having bought here. I joined just in time to call Tim the Toolman, but there's a whole lot of good information here that I missed out on.

And happinow, there are many who've left because of the inappropriate comments of others. Eventually the ones making those kind of comments tend to get tired and drop out themselves. So I hope you'll keep posting.

This forum is like dinning out.
Every so often you have to add spice to enjoy the meal
I wouldn't take it to heart

:agree:

Kathy

Happinow...do not leave TOTV because of a few not so nice posts by a few not so nice posters (and you all know who you are)! Those not so nice posters sometimes take on a persona simply because they are anonymous. Maybe they think they are funny, they are not; maybe they like to intimidate others with their words or maybe they are just plain mean and get a kick out of it. I would just ignore these posters (and you know who you are). TV is my home and it will soon be yours! And I just love this place! I have learned a lot from TOTV and I have made quite a few friends! Do not let a few chase you out "of the kitchen" or anywhere else you feel comfy! Hope you keep posting!:smiley:

Remember with all the talk these these days about kids doing bullying, there really are a lot of adults who practice this as well.Would not let it bother me. Remember on sites like this,you are never face to face with a person, so some try a little to hard. From a former teacher."Once a bully always a bully"

Hope to see your posts again soon Happinow.

Well said....Bullying is bullying, doesn't matter what age you are!!!!!!

People who are brutally honest get more satisfaction out of the brutality than out of the honesty.

~Richard J. Needham

So true! Just sayin!

Happinow, my best advice is to not let the grumps on here disuede you from continuing to post on this forum. It is way too easy to be a cyber-bully, hiding behind the anonymity of a keyboard.

Early on in my TOTV experience I encouraged my wife to join TOTV. I thought it would be a great opportunity to learn about her new community. In one of her first posts she gave an unfavorable review of one of the country club restaurants (which coincidently had numerous bad reviews in prior threads) and she was jumped on by a number of the grumpy crowd. She was accused of being a former employee of the restaurant with an axe to grind, of lying about her experience, and of not having enough posts to reliably comment on her experience. Unfortunately, she was so hurt by the experience that she rarely ever looks at TOTV anymore. Many great people on TOTV jumped to her defense, but the damage was done.

Take a break if you need to, but please come back.

PR1234, you are absolutely right on!

As the old saying goes, " If you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything." These forums are very informative and you can pick and choose what you would like to read. No one forced anyone to read what these folks had to say about their adventure. Be happy for them as people were once happy for you when you made your move to live in The Villages.

'"Saving one dog won't change the world...but the world will change for
that one dog."

Happinow,
I hope you won't let one or two people get you down. I think you are very much yourself on this forum. You don't try to adopt an image or persona. I like that. We all have our ups and downs, our hopes and fears, our moments of confidence and moments of doubt.

You have opened up and shared yours-- and have been criticized for the honesty by people who feel they are being brutally honest. Ironic, isn't it?

Hope you'll come back soon.

Hugs!
P

Stay,Stay!
 

This is a pretty polite forum compared to most. You learn very quickly who has useful information to share and who the trollers are. The village girl is a TROLL! Not a very interesting or creative one. I usually just skip her/his posts. Happinow, Don't let anyone discourage you from sharing anything or as much as you want. Be open, honest and authentic and you will attract the same kind of person. My advice is , DON'T FEED THE TROLLS, by leaving the forum or altering anything you want to say.

I agree!!!

happinow - i have learned on multiple occasions - that which doesn't kill ya makes ya stronger! you were wonderfully strong to start with and will be stronger for this experience.

take a vacation from posting - but don't stop reading. let your head clear and your heart heal.

you have many cyber-friends and followers here who will miss your enthusiasm, your wit, your openess, your frankness, yada, yada, yada. please consider staying in touch with them by private messaging at least.

this, too, will pass - just like the rain on the golf course. every tomorrow will seem brighter.

I do not post much but I do read TOTV every day just to keep up on activities going on and what people think. I have come to the conclusion to not take with a grain of salt what is being posted but find out myself what to do. But I do find it intresting to read everyones thoughts ,ideas and information that they provide but I still do a lot more research.We can all agree to disagree and life goes on.!!!!!!!:p

Please Happinow don't leave...
 

I think everything said on this forum should be carefully written as if their mother was in the room!!!!!....or better yet my mother! She would keep us all straight!!!!....giggle.....

I, too, signed off after political forum posters left blood and scars.

....Tooooo many wonderful people in this paradise! Hang in there, I enjoy your posts....

:bowdown:LoriAnn you have expressed my thoughts exactly. I especially liked the part where you said you skipped his/her posts, I do the same thing.

Happinow, take a break if you must but by leaving you will be FEEDING THE TROLLS.

Happinow, please don't go. Like TV, there's room here for everyone. I don't want to see anyone leave. Everybody that post here is a thread that makes up the fabric that is TOTV. When ever someone leaves, the fabric starts to become thread bare and loses some of it's vibrant color.

Jim

What a lovely way to express it! Very true!

:agree: with jojo. I have also enjoyed your posts and your plans about moving to TV. As a wannabee I enjoy reading about people who are buying in TV and planning for their new lives in TV -- it gives me hope for the future. I hope you come back soon! :wave:

I don't have a clue as to what upset Happinow and didn't bother to check into the history of the prior posts leading to the post that he was thinking of leaving.

But once again, somebody who posts makes an announcement they are contemplating leaving and then appears to wait for the never ending calls to stay and all the accolades as to what a great contributor they have been.

Just go silently into the night and come back whenever you want or perhaps don't want to. But it would be nice to not have the sympathy tour prior to leaving or deciding to stay because of it.

Reminds me of the Brett Farvre retirement crying jag of a few years ago.

That is a classy way to sum up this topic. Let me say in a not so classy way that an opinion is like a fart. Everyone has one and some are more offensive than others but in the end the air clears.

It may be as you say, a not so classy way, but it sure was IMHO the best post so far on this thread! :p

The number one rule to have a user account on this site is to treat other people with respect and NEVER direct ANY comments towards a user but keep them on the topic. Agree to disagree. If you direct your comments at a topic and NOT the user then these issues do not arise.

We try to review as many post as possible but we don't always get to read them fast enough. If you EVER have an issue with a post click the red triangle in the upper right corner of the post and it will come to the admin and moderators for review and appropriate actions.

And as my sainted Grandmother would say.

'Least said, soonest mended.'

Gracie
 

Smart Lady your Grandma!