What would you do
 

I brought cookies to work to be shared among my fellow workers
I saw people before clocking in and offered them a cookie
I did tell them I was sharing
I then put cookies in my locker
A few minutes later a fellow worker thanked me for cookie
I did not offer her cookie, I did not tell her to help herself to my locker
She went in and helped herself
I feel like she stole from me and I feel violated
Would you tell management if it means she might be terminated

Seriously, over just a cookie. Wow, this is Florida's friendliest hometown, isn't it? Cookies must have been dipped in gold.

It's not the fact that it was just s cookie
Does anyone have the right to go into a locker uninvited and take something
It could have been $100 or a nickel., it's the principle

Why was your locker unlocked?

The cookies weren''t set out to shared as first stated?

No way would I report it to anyone. You'd just come off sounding petty and mean-spirited. I'm sure she assumed the cookies were offered to one and all, not just a select few and she did let you know she had been your locker. But I do think you should lock your locker, otherwise why bother having one?

I'm not sure why you didn't put them in the break room (assuming there is one) for people to help themselves. That's how I always shared stuff.

Right Pru, that's how you share cookies. You put them in the break room for everyone to take not just selected people. If you had wanted them just for select people, lay one on each person's desk. She should not have gone in your locker to get one however, but she did admit it so I think she was just clueless to what she had done. Not worth turning her in to management, just put a lock on your locker.

Maybe a co-worker who was on a diet took the cookie and then gave it to her. Told her she got it from you, so she thanked you. Did she say she went to your locker and got it or did you make that assumption?

Either way, do nothing and next time put the remainder in the break room.

You were generous to go and share the cookies you brought and left in the open I would expect people to then help themselves. You put them away though and that is fine, they are yours to share as you see fit. Going into your locker is like someone going into a lady's purse. She should have asked politely but not go into your locker IMHO. She trespassed. If it were me, I would say, "hey! If you want one, ask but don't touch my locker". Then I would drop it. After all it is a cookie...but I too would be a wee bit miffed.

If I brought cookies into work to share and I was thinking I would want some for myself, I would put them in a secure place. I personally would have asked if I could help myself to a cookie. Going into someone locker is not right but I wouldn't want to see anyone fired for what they thought was community property,

I would not report someone to management over a box of cookies.

You would actually get someone fired over a cookie? Nobody will ever accept a cookie from you in the future. Drop it and forget it. You'll be better off if you do.

Nope. No one should go into your locker, locked or not. But I wonder if the coworker saw someone with a cookie and was told you brought them in to share and they were in the locker. Personally, I would have asked you directly if I could have a cookie and got your approval to get one. But my spouse thinks I'm a little strange, so that may be the old way.

Next time share some real chocolate with others, then put some exlax chocolate in your locker.

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If you are that upset (and obviously you are), I think the proper thing to do would be to politely have a conversation with the person who took the cookie. The conversation should not be confrontational, but a kind one. Find out his/her side of the story and work it out between the two of you. There is no reason to get management involved. Don't triangulate management into the situation expecting them to take care of something for you. It is always best to go directly to the person to work things out.

It looks like there might be some text between the lines...let me see if I can read it. Hmmmm. Looks like you may be upset not so much about the cookie or the locker intrusion, but rather by who it was that done the deed.

Let it go, but do tell her that you'd appreciate it that she not go in your locker without asking. She might get offended, but you can't please everyone and she did go into a place that she did not belong without permission...she should have asked first...luck...

Honestly, I'd let it go. You were generous and kind. It didn't work out as you planned. I'd leave goodies in the break room next time. Within 10 minutes, everybody knows who brought in the treats. Please don't be discouraged. You did a kind thing! Do it again.

I've met this....
 

kind of individual and their relatives...if it doesn't bother them then it shouldn't bother you and how come they can't just do what they please...they trivialize everything unless it's something they care about...then look out!

They would eat your lunch right out of the common refrigerator...among a plethora of other trivial things(overly boisterous, loud music)aka: the ugly American...

Had this lady in question been there at clock-in time would you have offered her a cookie? If so, then I would let her know that you have no problem with her having a cookie except for the fact that she opened your locker and helped herself to a cookie without your knowledge. The question would be why did you think it was ok to do that?

Although I agree with your post BobandMary, I don't believe you should let that indescretion go unchallenged.

There are always clueless people around, having no manners.

I'd have a padlock on my locker, cookies or no cookies. Do y'all put your purses in these lockers??

I'm with Deseylou on this one. It doesn't matter that the locker was not locked, the person opened someone else's locker, took SOMETHING from it without the person's permission. In my book that's STEALING no matter what the item is. :police:

Is this here, or where you now live?

Not that it matters, but is this a general question? If it's here I will make some cookies take them to the place where you work, share them with EVERYONE, and then beat up the person that took the cookie. If it's there, you are on your own.

I agree with this. :D

Man, you sure did extrapolate a lot outta that one cookie!

This is not really about a cookie is it.
The cookie represents someting you do not like about this person.
Now take one of those cookie out, SMASH IT.
You will feel better.
Now tell us why you do not like her.

I'm listening.

I know someone whose cookie should be smashed.

This thread has made me lose my cookies.

I think I'm gonna toss mine.

(Perhaps I shouldn't ask. But I will anyway.) How far?

Perhaps we should step away from the cookies (I tell myself that all the time.) and maybe segue into a discussion of workplace dynamics.

I am a little curious.

Is there someone standing behind the OP who wants to hold her coat so she can go fight? -- Those types are often in a state of self-righteous indignation. Oh so aware of real and imagined grievances. That's a personality type. Steer clear of them.

Is there a drama queen in the mix? -- Your umbrage becomes their umbrage. That's because they love a scene. Varies slightly from the coat-holder. The coat-holder will be more hostile and self-righteous. The drama queen can appear to be sympathetic, giving you a shoulder to cry on, but hoping for that big finale. Steer clear.

But if it is you, self-motivated you, willing to cost someone their job over something so flimsy, willing to drag the boss into it, well, take a good look in the mirror. Take a deep breath. Do a little self-talk. And step away from the cookies. (And maybe look up that famous quote from Pogo.)

I can tell you right now that if you elevate this to a big deal, it will hurt you. There will be those in the workplace who will steer clear of you. Your boss, if a good boss, will not be impressed. Your boss, if a bad boss who wants a tattle-tale, will use you for that. Is that who you want to be?

And please, next time, put that nice plate of cookies on a table in the employee area for everyone. If you want everybody to know they are from you, just add a little "Happy Whatever" card or note. Don't dole them out to only those you choose.

(Aw, gee, I was not going to get into this thread, but it was starting to drive me crazy. Advice was asked for, after all.)

So anyway, enough about the cookies. Let's move on to the cheese. I really doubt you want to be like the cheese -- who stands alone.

Bossy Laurie

See... what you need to do is to tie a string around the cookies so that nobody can take them. Then, four hours later, you eat just a few of them and a bunch just sit there uneaten.

Oh... wait... I'm getting my threads mixed up...

Totally understand how you feel and I'd feel the same way. But quite honestly, I don't think its worth any more efforts. It would just stress you out and it just isn't worth it. She was an ass and if I were you, I'd just store this bit of information in the back of my mind and make sure it never happens again. Could be that the word got out about the cookies and someone told her they were in your locker - who knows?

Was your locker left open?
Did you actually see her eat the cookie?
Could she just be thanking you for a nice gesture and not for the cookie per se?
At the end of the day...Let It Go.

You could ask the person, "Why did you feel free to go into my locker and take something from it? Is everyone free to open and take things from yours?"

I throw like a girl.:cryin2:

Well said. I'm glad you got into the thread, Bossy Laurie!:BigApplause:

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