Common Courtesy
 

A few days ago I went to the Sharon for the 5th and final presentation of Summer Orchestra, and had great seats. Ten minutes before the show began, a number of people came to their seats two rows in front of me. The perfume and/or cologne was overwhelming. I was coughing and the lady next to me said she was forced to leave at intermission at another show because of the same problem. I saw a man sitting near me fanning himself with the program guide. Same situation in the movie theatre. Don't these people get it? Does anyone else feel like I do?

How these people have lived long enough to retire baffles me. And I bet they really complain if someone lights a cigarette near them. The articles written on this subject number in the thousands..... do they not read?? One day, someone near one of them will suffer a major, possibly fatal, asthma attack.... suppose that would wake them up????

I don't like cologne or perfume on folks. It is hard to know why THEY like it.

Is it more courteous to tell them that they stink or just hold your nose and say peeee-ewww? Or perhaps avoid public gatherings?

Perhaps tell an usher so he can deliver the bad news? I think writing it here is the best way. They will read it and change their ways. It has only happened to me twice in my eight years here in The Villages, so for me it isn't a common or reocurring problem.

CFrance. Wearing too much perfume is what my grandmother called a French bath.

I'm lucky. I don't smell very good anymore. Having trouble with the hearing too. I'm saving up for hearing aids and smelling aids.

If you have severe allergies, should the world stop smelling according to you?
I feel for your pain. Can you expect the entire world to accommodate?
Sorry, as I know you suffer.
If I am offended by democrats expressing opinions, should they stop?
If I am allergic to dogs, should no one have them?
If You are my dear friend and I tell you that particular cologne you like gives me a headache? Yes, there is a reasonable request.
Please take steps to avoid public contact if you must, and know that if you demand that all people everywhere knowingly provoke your allergies, that this is...

perhaps a paranoid why-do-they-do-that-to-me perspective. No one wears a perfume in order to annoy you. They have no clue. Would your broadcast help you prevent future episodes? No.
The world is not going to adopt for its perspective as a never wear, whateverallergy is uniquely yours.

PS i have allergies, but I do not expect dogs, cats, grass, mold, dust, or people wearing perfume to stop being there.

I sympathize. I had that happen on a flight to Italy and I was trapped behind a lady who smelled like a .... Never mind.
Luckily I had allergy pills in my carry-on.

I had to read this twice, I couldn't figure out why as you felt lucky to smell bad. :1rotfl: Oops, I get it now.

When you snuggle into a hug with your best fella and he smells like Dove soap. Ahhhh
that is heavenly.

A woman I worked with had a perfume that was enticing. I asked her for the name I bought it for my wife. In that same vein some perfumes, etc are not inviting or they are applied inappropriately.

I remember as a kid noticing that priests and nuns had just a clean to them. Perhaps the cleaning agents used on their clothing?

I stopped using after shave, etc when the public outcry began in the late 1980's

The most alluring aroma I ever experienced occurred outdoors in wine country when they were harvesting grapes and began making wine. You just want to continue breathing deeply

I feel for you. I've had it happen in church on Easter Sunday. All of the perfume and flowers in the room. My throat closes up and I have trouble breathing when I am around strong perfumes. Those who it doesn't bother don't understand.

You can write it here all you want but if they are not members of TOTV they will not see it, and if they are members of TOTV and read it, they will say that's not me because I only use a little bit of perfume.

I have had people pass me on the street and in stores that cause me to gag because of the perfume overload.

Z

Ha ha! Thankfully, deodorant has become popular in Western Europe (phew!).

I don't expect the world to accommodate me but you don't have to bathe in the stuff

I sort of agree with you, but I don't have allergies, so I can't know to what extent perfume affects allergy sufferers. Therefore I don't wear it into public spaces where people are crowded together. (Church comes to mind, plus auditoriums, bus trips, and the like.) Wearing perfume is not so important to me to potentially subject others to suffering.

Otherwise, I decide how much to accommodate others based on "my rights." Maybe that's wrong, but that's where I agree with you, kitty. If it's really important to me, then all bets are off. For instance, I will not isolate my dog from public places because someone might be allergic. Nor will I isolate my pets if someone with allergies comes to the house.

And the peanut thing... On a recent flight, it was announced that nothing with peanuts would be served because there was one person on board with an allergy. One person in a plane of 250 passengers. Ridiculous. Restrict the people in his row.

Do they have to bathe in the stuff