What do do with Mom? 86 years old
 

Hubby and I want to move to TV but need info regarding care for senior citizens (those older than us LOL). Seriously, I need to have a place for independent living for her, that also has assisted and nursing home care as she grows older. She is still in good health. I know they are building Freedom Pointe, but have no idea when that will be done (Fall 2009?) and how much a month it will cost. I am sure I am not only person in this situation, would appreciate any advice.

The Village of Homewood is right next to where they are building Freedom Pointe. That is assisted living - I don't know if it filled and there is a waiting list or not. Their number is 352-750-3800.

Another place near The Villages is Summerfield Suites - I know someone whose mother was there. Their number is 352-307-0222.

Those would be the closest to us.

PM me if you need anymore numbers. Always willing to help.

If your mother is fairly self sufficient, why not find a villa near your home? It is sometimes cheaper to hire someone to come in at intervals to clean and the meals now that you can purchase at any grocery store and just heat are great.

Just a thought. 86 is relatively young here. JoJo's mom lives with her here part of the time and still maintains her home in another part of Florida. She just had her 97th birthday and checks her stocks daily on the internet, emails her friends, and maintains her container gardens.

Thanks for info, any more would help
 

Thanks for info. I will contact numbers you provided me. Mom needs Independent living, she cannot live in an apartment or villa alone, I want her socialized with others. If in her own villa or apartment, she would not put herself out there, she is shy. I want her to eat her meals with others, go to social events, etc. She would not do this on her own. We cannot even think about TV until I get this straightened out first.

freedom point will have group cafeteria for socializing at meals. etc.

Is this something new with your mother or has she always been shy? Sometimes withdrawing socially is a sign of depression. Not really my business..I ask in a kind way.

You might send a Personal Message to Cassie who posts here. She is a young woman who lives in the villages and that is her job to find housing for seniors. Correct me if I am wrong Cassie.

Shyness not new
 

My Mom has always been shy, she is not depressed. She does not make friends easily and has always been this way, this is not a new development. This is why I do not want her in an apartment alone. I want her to have her own apartment, but be forced to eat with others, which will provide social interaction. She is the kind of woman who only ever talked with my Dad and her family, now everyone is dead, she does not really know how to put herself out there. By having group meals, she has to put herself out there. It took her six months to attend her first bingo game at the place she is living now....now she goes to all the functions.

Cost is unreal
 

The only open site in TV is for assisted living and they want over $5K a month. My Mom pays $3300/mo now for independant and that price would double in her current facility if she goes to assisted. Apparently there is no option for her in TV at the moment. I suspect Freedom Pointe is going to be outrageous also. The nearest independent site is over 20 miles away...I visit Mom every single day, meaning I would have to drive 40 miles a day....looks like TV is not a viable option. I am so sad, we really want to live there.

Next idea
 

I am sure someone is going suggest that she live with my husband and I, this will not work for either one of us. Mom is a highly critical person and although I love her, we could not live together and it would ruin my marriage.

Check with KathieI. She brought her dad out from California. I know she couldn't find a satisfactory place right by TV but did find a really nice one in Tampa, which isn't that far of a drive. Her dad is very social and definitely needs a place that will give him lots of activities.

You were correct GG...although I no longer work for the company...however I have been in touch and we will get the Palmers the information they need to get started on a search for a new home mom.

mother
 

check out Heidis Haven in Lady Lake. Phone # 352.787.1203

drd

mother
 

While reading the Daily Sun tonight I saw an ad for heidis Haven and a different # than the one I posted before . New # is 352.787.3034

drd

Distance not an option
 

I visit my Mom every single day.....Tampa or Orlando or anything beyond a few miles is out of the question. The nearest facility is 20 miles from TV, and I do not want to drive 40 miles everyday.

Thanks DRD
 

I will check out you suggestion.