Now please don't come down hard on me for asking but...
 

...has anyone found the peeps in TV to be self absorbed and rude? :shrug: My friend, who lives there, has found that many people feel entitled to live life for themselves since it is now "their time". They feel they have worked hard all of their lives and feel now it is all about "me" to the point of being inconsiderate and rude or overbearing.

I also wonder if this could be worsened as peoples health fails and they don't feel so good. I was surprised to hear these comments; especially since that has not been my experience at all when we have been there... and of course, from all you nice peeps on TOTV. I have found the people to be very friendly. Now I know there is always a few rotten apples; but are they spoiling the whole bushel?

All this being said.. my friend still loves it there and does not want to move !! :). So how about it.... is it just the occasional self-focused person ...as it is everywhere.... or is it a problem there in TV?

Honestly, I think it is more a problem with your friend -- sounds a bit defensive to me. I can't even imagine wanting to live in a community where I find the majority to behave as is implied by your friend. Something tells me your friend would have similar issues wherever s/he resided.

Yes, the people here do have the attitude that they've done their duty and it is now time to have fun. That doesn't seem to make them rude, inconsiderate or overbearing. It makes them relaxed, helpful and friendly. They want you to enjoy the things they enjoy. Once they get to know you, they want you to join their clubs. (It is a bit intimidating to walk into a meeting where everyone knows each other, tables are reserved and you're not necessarily welcomed with open arms, but that does change if you're seen as someone who really wants to belong rather than just a looky-loo.) Most here will go out of their way to help others. Volunteerism is very high. People really do wave and smile at total strangers.

I feel bad for your friend. I think the best of TV is the people. Sounds like your friend is missing something.

Agree with Redwitch. I have always found everyone nice, friendly, respectful, and usually interesting.

In life, you get back what you put out there. It's that simple.

I've not personally met anyone like your friend describes, but have heard of a few people who are a bit snobbish. Not sure where your friend hangs out, if she's around people who've just moved to the community or people who've lived here for a bit. Could be she's been observing "newbies" who are just so thrilled with not having to deal with work responsibilities that they are behaving a bit more selfishly than they will once they adjust to retired living. People all over the country have to adjust to life anew when they finally retire. Some are like kids let loose in a candy shop... ;) .

Many of us have friends who are not in picture perfect health, heck who is a textbook model of glowing health, and they are still generous, caring and loving towards their fellow Villagers.

Think your friend has just encountered a few who are not the norm around here.

:agree: with redwitch.

In my five-plus years here I haven't met a single grouch. Maybe one or two grumps, but even they cheer up after a drink!

I have met one individual who has become sour, being seemingly unable to cope with the loss of the spouse a couple of years ago. Sad, but this person's NOT even grumpy! :1rotfl:

SWR
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I am new to TV and the second time I went to the neighborhood pool I ran into a couple, the wife was in the pool and the husband was sitting at the table talking loud to the people next to him. He was telling them how terrible people were in the villages, how he hated it and how he would "deck" anyone who got in his way.

The wife was in the pool, apologizing to everyone about he husband, saying he has had a problem with alcohol for years.

While it did cause me to move far away from him, I didn't want to listen to it, I just chalked it up to this particular mans problems, and it did not reflect on TV as a hole. You are going to run into people who are unhappy drunks everywhere. :popcorn:

I have found that people don't change a lot in life. If they are basically selfish, very little can alter that, if they enjoy tearing people down, they will continue. Although I must add that age usually calms down negative behaviors. Many of us have lived long enough to enjoy the "little" things and have been through enough to be compassionate.

I have met a pill here and there. Maybe some people think I am a pill. Everyone has a down day now and then. But for the most part...I enjoy this place because almost always others greet you with a smile and you can have the most interesting conversations with people you don't know at the grocery..or sitting next to you at the squares.

The biggest reason that I love The Villages are the people I have met.:a040::coolsmiley:

I think rude, grouchy, ill mannered, people here tend to stand out as there are so few. However, as has been stated on this thread, those types have probably been that way for a long time.

If it is a case of appearing unfriendly I tend to give them some slack. We do have a lot of people here dealing with health issues and/or the loss of loved ones.

I've played almost 70 rounds of golf so far this year. I usually play as a single so I've been paired up with about 200 "strangers". So far, I remember only 2 that I would consider to be rude a-holes. That's only 1%. That percentage seems to hold true for me in the squares and throughout TV. That means 99% of Villagers are warm and friendly or, at worst, neutral. And if you take the time to engage even the neutral ones, you will probably find them pretty interesting and also find that you may have some shared experiences. Usually in any relationship, even a casual encounter, you get out what you put in.

Chances are with the large population of TV, somebody is going to have a bad day every once in awhile. People are going to have days when they miss their grandchildren or children. Or maybe there's an illness or something financial or personal you don't know about going on in somebody's life and they seem grumpy or distracted and don't smile when you pass them on the street. I try very hard, and I struggle with it sometimes, to not let anyone else dictate my mood. You are only as happy as you want to be. I'm happy when I'm home in TV or when I'm home in NC. We all have bad days.

My husband said, "Even kids get cranky on vacation."

Naaah!
 

I've been here three years and have met ONLY one "peeep" that was full of himself, this is a GREAT place and I wouldn't live anywhere else!...

Attitude
 

I suspect your "friend" would be miserable and complaining no matter where she lived. She sounds like she feels that she is entitled to something other people have. People need to be responsible for their own thoughts, attitudes and behaviors and not expect others' to be. Perhaps you need to find a new "friend" with a more positive attitude. :wave:

Ohhhhh, if only you could buy those types for what they are worth and then sell them for what they think they are worth.

Boomer the Investor

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Of course, if you tried to make a living doing that in TV, you'd starve!

Ssmith, are you sure your friend lives in The Villages?? The one in central Florida between Ocala and Leesburg? Where peep stop to give you directions if you even look lost? Where I have met new friends I love with all my heart?

No, your friend cannot be talking about that place. Is your friend ok?