How to Handle Unwanted House Guests?
 

We just moved to TV six weeks ago. Of course before we moved, many friends said they would come and visit and they are most welcome when that happens.

However, I have a single friend that I saw very infrequently. who has contacted me several times before we moved and a few after we have moved (mostly via email). She keeps saying she is coming down to visit this winter.

First of all, no one invited her and secondly we really do not want to entertain her. I am sure this has happened to at least one of you...how do you handle? I hate to say "Hey, I don't want you here."

RAID works on small pests, Massey does a good job too.

Though it might be awkward you could be the dysfunctional hosts and provide the weekend from the dark side she will never want to experience again or make sure it's a work party weekend
LandL

Just tell her that your winter really filled up fast. Just don't tell her with what.:)

You might suggest she come down on the lifestyle visit.:undecided:

Boy Howdy. That is awkward. :sad:

I would send her an e-mail and list the hotels that are in TV. Then I would talk about the TV Lifestyle Preview and tell her that it’s the best way to see and do everything in TV for a great rate (include a link to the website). Then I’d close by telling her how busy you and your spouse are with all the clubs you belong to but that you hope to be able to meet her for lunch one day when she’s down.

She should get the message.

I would give her the number of the Waterfront or suggest a lifestyle visit. Tell her you are just not ready to entertain guests in you house yet.

It's amazing how many friends you suddenly have when you buy a house in Florida. :22yikes:

I just tell unwanted visitors that we're already overbooked for the season. Short and simple.

I have already practiced this one in the mirror for when I am there.

My plan is what Ed says here. But I will leave out the part about being busy.

Just send her the suggestions on where to stay and the stuff about the Lifestyle Preview. Tell her you will be happy to meet for lunch -- or even dinner. But don't fill in any more blanks than necessary. Pushy people who like to freeload have really thick skin so you may have to repeat the procedure.

We all know what Ben Franklin said about fish and company stinking after 3 days. But there are some that you don't want to give even 3 hours. Give this type an inch and they will take a mile.

I absolutely love Erma Bombeck's writing. (She was from Ohio, too.) I remember somewhere in something she wrote where she talked about some people she met one time at a VFW dance showing up to stay with her. It can happen.

Now, go practice this in the mirror.

Boomer (who is actually quite polite and nice, but knows one when she sees one)

Someone said that she greets all guests at the door with an air mattress with a leak.

We have a sofa bed left over from the inquisition.

The air conditioning vent can be closed in some bedrooms.

I just wish someone would ask to come visit us.

I know. Be careful what you wish for.

Send her a copy of the blog about the scorpions and snakes. I'll bet she stays home.

Ohhhhhh can I sympathize with you!!

It has taken me years to get up the nerve to tell people that it just isnt a good time. I have a tendency to give 5 million reasons why its not a good time but I really dont think any of them are necessary.

I think its so rude of people to just assume that you want them to visit and you will be happy to entertain them. my inability to cook and my less then 0 desire to learn how kind of puts them off, thank goodness. LOL!:evil6:

I just say great! Let me know the dates, I got a truck load of cement blocks and a load of mulch that I can use some help moving. The blocks need to go from the driveway to the back and of course the mulch needs to be spread. Was planning to do it alone, but with your help I will order the new shrubs as well so we can dig the holes and plant them. Shouldn't take more then a week.

Ignore her E Mails and she will eventually go away.

America's friendliest Hometown? :shrug:

agree
 

I know this thread is unusual, I am a single person but I would never ask for an invite from a married friend but then I lived on Cape Cod and I know about unwanted "drop in" guests